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I heard from my rebbe many times Reb Moshe Weiss shlita the following, which I think is extremely important for all of us to establish a good house with the right perspective of things. We have to compare the avodah in Beis Hamikdash to our house. Because our homes are considered like a mini Beis Hamikdash, especially based on the gemara we just quoted in Soita Yud Aleph. Ish ve'isha zachu min HaShem and his wife merit the Shechinah is right there. It's a dwelling place for the divine, just like Beis Hamikdash was a dwelling place for the divine, so it's a mini Beis Hamikdash. So, in the avodah Beis Hamikdash, the Kohanim's avodah revolves three three central kelim of Beis Hamikdash. Everything else is like accessories. And they are the menorah, the shulchan, and the mizbeach. And the menorah, shulchan, and mizbeach correspond to Torah, avodah, and chesed. The menorah is always a symbol of Torah. It's always a symbol of chochma. The gemara says in Shabbos Kaf Gimel, have you on bonim? Talmidei chachamim. Rashi says, if you light the candles on Shabbos Shabbos and Chanukah, that you will have talmidei chachamim as sons. The Netziv in Ha'amek Davar in the beginning of parshas Tetzaveh says that menorah imbues Torah. It's not just a symbol Torah, it actually imbues Torah. The passuk says ki ner mitzvah vetorah ohr. So, the light of the menorah goes always with Torah. But in Bava Basra Kaf Hey Amud Beis, Chazal say, harotzei sheyachkim, if you want to become wise, yadrim, go to the south. Why south? Because the menorah stands in the south. The menorah goes along with chochma, chochma is a Torah. The mizbeach obviously is corresponding to the amud of tefillah. Even though tefillah is avodah shebalev, Ta'anis Lamed Beis Amud Aleph, in Brachos Kaf Vav Amud Beis, we learn that tefillos keneged korbanos tiknum. The tefillot that we have today were instituted as if to replace the korbanot. Al shlosha dvarim ha'olam omed, al haTorah, ve'al ha'avodah. And the avodah, that means today is the service of the heart is tefillah because unishlama farim sifateinu, the tefillah comes instead of avodat hakorbanot. And the shulchan, that's a remez for chesed. Because in Brachot 55:1, in Chagigah 27:1, and in Menachot 97:1, Chazal are saying, bizman she'Beit Hamikdash kayam, the mizbeach atones for a person. But now that we don't Beit Hamikdash, shulchano shel adam, one's table, atones for him. Rashi explains over there, you bring your guests, you bring the aniyim in, you do chesed, and that atones for you. Mimila, those are the central ingredients for a good Jewish house. Torah, avodah, tefillah, and chesed. But when we when we compare our home our home to the Beit Hamikdash, we always look at the avodah of the Kohanim. But there's somebody else that serves in Beit Hamikdash. And they are the Levi'im. And the Levi'im have two jobs. They are the sho'arim, the gatekeepers, and they are the meshoreirim, the shirim, they are the singers. So what does it mean that they are the sho'arim? The Mishnah in Masechet Middot perek alef Mishnah alef, it says, they guard in 21 different places, which means to us, we have to guard our homes to make sure who comes in and who doesn't, just like the Levi'im allow and don't allow certain individuals to come into Beit Hamikdash. But even more important than who we allow to come into our house, I think in today's world is what we allow to come into our house and what we don't allow. But the greatest fence that you may put around your house is not necessarily going to help. I think we all witnessed that in Sderot last year 2014 like 3 years ago. Big gigantic fences, the most sophisticated fences. You can dig a tunnel under. You can go right over it. Or you can blow up the whole fence. So, I think the most ingredient most important ingredient for success in Jewish house is the last job that we're discussing, the second job of the Levites, and that is the Shira. Singers. What does that mean to sing? Who sings? A person who's happy. The Maharal in Parshas Beshalach on the words Az Yashir explains Rashi and he says when a tzaddik is happy he starts singing. The song bursts out. It's a an expression of simcha when you start singing. And what does that mean? When our kids see us do whatever we do, but we do it with simcha, the same type of mitzvahs that we any anyways we're doing. Same brachas, learning Torah, whatever it is that we're involved in, but we're doing it with simcha, they're going to want to emulate emulate us. The most important thing to people today is to find simcha. And the world is extremely alluring. And they tempt you that if you go that place, that vacation, and if you buy this item, then then you will have true simcha. And we know it's artificial. And as we age, we see how how much nonsense is involved with that. You get that item, how much simcha? How much simcha do you have and how long does it last? The only true simcha comes from serving Ribono shel Olam. So, when the kids see that their parents are really, really besimcha and they're singing. Singing means you are happy. People are looking for simcha. They're going to say whatever provides simcha for my parents, I want to do the same. And im yirtzeh Hashem, they will be able to follow our footsteps. And the source of the simcha and the song that has to be on the lips of every husband and wife is Ashreinu ma tov chelkeinu u'manim goralenu. Kodesh Baruch Hu selected us for whatever reason to be part of his elite team. There's 9 billion people who are walking on this planet, 9 billion. And we are selected to be lucky, the lucky ones of those 50 million or so who serve him and actually are aware of him and know what we need to do. And that should provide the utmost of simcha and that simcha is the best guarantee for success in the Jewish house.