Mishmar Parshas Emor with Rabbi Avi Neuberger

Okay, very good. So, uh, so I have an interesting job that I'm involved in Mishbaka magazine. So I'm starting from a funny angle over here and that is that they have in Mishbaka has uh podcasts um and uh one of the podcast is a K podcast where is a guy you know the guy who did um the night state USA I think that's what was called during the co there was a night USA for all the kids his name was Shfeld a guy from Payic and he had like thousands of kids uh coming on to his uh night his program in co remember this Anyways, and so he does a podcast together with a guy Garfield Gar Fel something like that. He's a manal. He's a manal in Houston or Texas or somewhere in Texas. >> He has a brother here. >> Could be. I don't know. Anyways, so anyway, so the so they shut they sent me the podcast because they they weren't sure if they could put it up because what was the question? He was asking different monolim about the following phenomena that was a little bit controversial. And the question I was asking was that it would seem to him that the further right you go on this on the spectrum from modern orthodox to okay from left to right uh the worse in middle school the is like almost like correspondence if you the more the more I thought it's going to be controversial a little like if if you're more I don't know if like the kids seem to be better behaved and then as you move more to the right there seems to be a correspondingly uh worse behavior as you go to the right. So the west shot in this in this uh in this phenomena. So one guy said the guy there was the one from Lakewood so was said like it's not true but that was a politically correct answer I think but I think most people say that yes and again then another guy said yeah and then another guy said like this another banal said that well if you're if you're talking about secular studies is because people are mak that's which is society. So if you're in a society where the secular studies is more so then people going to behave better. If you're in a if you're in a in a society where people where where uh the secular studies is considered to be in garnish then people going to people going to behave worse. That was that was his uh take on it. But Shel pushed back. He said that doesn't make sense. He said because Bariah let's say you would have a magic show and the magic show would be attended by and and the m and the magician not so cool okay where you think that the that the kids are more likely to give him a hard time by the more modern orthodox or by the he gets it so he said he slugged it up he gets and that's that's what was left so I went on to present a shittita not a sheita a theory that is And it's not my own idea. I'll tell you in a second. And uh it's the guy for departure somehow. Okay, we'll see how we'll see in a second. This is this is the theory. This is not something that I invented. I have a relative who grew up I can't say it's about chuva mamish because he grew up in a very so modern orthodox thing that he come out with that queens in the 1960s and they used to go to shy on Israel and then they would come home and have a shabas and then watch the game. You know, it was like this type of it was that type of, you know, there was a lot of that in the 50s. Yeah. But it was it wasn't any attitude. It was just that they were Amirata. That's what it was. I I think that's how my father was brought up. >> Yeah, that's what that's what it was. It was like that that's you know and and cars. >> I don't think he drove a car. No, I think I drove a car. But that the only thing you know anyway. So So this relative of mine gradually almost organically became for him. They send him to uh hang one of those yeshivas in five towns and then with the were regular rebay and they sent eventually to became automatically fluent. So so because of his perspective and he then he became a rabbi and then he saw the the then he experienced being a rabbi in the different background. So he said he so because of his background he was able to develop the following idea. He said that when he grew up there was nothing in society that was negated that was spoken against. Want you know watch television watch television. You want to listen to rock and roll. Want to go what? You want to go to movies? Watch movies. You want to read books read whatever you want. You want to have a girlfriend? Go ahead. You know there was nothing there. He never heard any negativity. Everybody's wonderful. Everybody is great and this and that. Everything was galdic. Right. Uh but and this this is where the theory comes in. He says at the more right you go the more of society by definition you have to reject right because if you're more an orthodox thing you reject one thing if you're more from you reject more lit one thing horrible you know I mean so the more the more right you go the more of society you're going to reject good that's that's the that's fine the problem is that the more you reject then the more you teach negativity and the more you teach more you teach cynicism so therefore it teach well if Ruben is not good and Shiva is not good then the teacher is not good then the clown's not good then the magician is not good it's it's and it's the mathem it's the mathematics of because it looks like because the more the more you go and the more the more you're teaching automatically inherently >> it shouldn't be coming in a place of negativity >> hold so but but unless you're careful right unless you're careful that's what's going to happen what's going to happen is that as you go to the right? You're going to become more and more negative and more and more cynical and and if if you teach cynicism then it's it it breeds that it breeds negativity and and that's what happens. A kid's naturally wholesome and innocent. But when when this is not good and that's not good, everybody's not good. And and you develop that there's a on negativity, you know. And all cynics cynics aren't wrong. Any any negative just this is good. They're not wrong. They're just focusing on on that which is negative instead of focusing that which is positive. But right analog is not wrong. But just what come what comes across is that there's all this negativity. It it it it develops a very a very unhealthy child, a very a very unhealthy product. So the shil is how do you how do you escape this problem? If if you're going to be rejected society that's fine. So but how do you do it in a way that you shouldn't get this collateral damage? That's the problem. >> Oh so good. So so so there's two ways of doing it. Instead of one way is that you like what you're saying is instead of instead of knocking that which is bad, you celebrate that you celebrate that which is good. That's so so yeah but you have to be careful about that. That means you have to make you have to make a concerted effort not to do that not to do it the other way you know and that apparently you know you have to think about it to do it that way. Um that's not always so easy because sometimes you have to speak negatively if about what you but yeah but that's that's uh you have to focus on the positive um or and or maybe not or and together with and that is when you do speak negatively but you have to if if that you're going to be negative you have to correspondingly be that means you're going to say that this is not good and that's not good but you understand we come from different places And you have then different foods have different mileers and so on. You have to if you're going to be negative, you better make it your business to be very positive because otherwise the negativity will stick a heck a heck of a lot quicker than the next where the koi is coming from. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. >> Because understood why he didn't. >> Yeah. Okay. Because it's a it's a it's a it's a dangerous game to play. But yet, you know, if if that's your if that's your society, that's your values, you have to do it. But you have to counteract it with positivity. Um, right. So that's the that's the I think I think I think that that's a sure part of it. This it's not I don't think it's the only factor but it's a very uh it's a very conveyor factor. Um now what does it have to do with this week's para? So it's like this. We have we have this week's para vet is and a doesn't say what it is anonymous is he's a son of so his mother was Jewish and his dad was not right and then he cursed the shame got all angry and he cursed the shame is His mother name was and she was the she was she was she was not theistri she talked too much like that rash brings and she uh >> the same sham that Mosha used to kill >> his father yeah yeah interesting >> it was like me it was like >> that's interesting okay and um and uh then what happens was that that that he he's put to death right he because he's a shame he's put to death Yeah. Um so so Rashi says as follow first of all it's interesting that the we don't we don't we don't we don't know anything about him. Oh one second just just that um just that he was doesn't say where went out from Israelis and it's anonymous he's say from Shon right um >> he claimed no his mother was right good so where did he go out from? So says he he left he left the world. Okay. Um he left the previous para. What's the previous para? Because the previous par was it says it's talking about him and it says is placed on the right is placing the onabas and taken off the next shabas and a week later is going to be quite not fresh. So he made fun of that that from the ble he said um he said bit me because he made fun of what type of bread this is this was in the base in the mishk stale bread from a week old that's what he made fun of okay um and then another said because what happened was he tried to put his tent in the oil and they said over here what do you mean it goes by paternal descent not by maternal descent and your your father's a so get out of here so he kicked him out of it so means he left he left the belt he he left the belt whatever that means he left but the second shot is he left meaning he had tinus on the previous para he had on the para upon him that is stale bread. And the third thing is that he left Mosha in because he was kicked out of the he was kicked out of his m. Okay. >> He he went to Mosha. >> Yeah. He right he can he stay there and and it was totally what >> was this? >> This is Rashi. >> No. No. Who who is the person? I I was just >> It doesn't say his name. >> Right. Right. It says that's part of it. >> It does not say his name. It says say it doesn't say his name. That's part of that's also interesting. It doesn't say his name. >> It's like instead of blurring his face, they blur. >> Right. They they blur everything. Right. Right. >> So the sense that you get over here from the whole from the whole thing maybe like this. That's Kufa was here. Why was the guy so miserable about why he's so angry? Why was he so cynical? Why is he questioning Hashem for? Because it was a man without a place. He was a man without a shyish without any place to belong to. He was father wasn't Jewish. His mother was slamist bast and he tried to >> descendant of also who >> who >> he was the descendant of k okay know okay so he he was also he was also godish he was also a man without a place the kind was somebody whose English was to go to go anyways but he saying that's what he's saying >> yeah yeah he was he was he was u so he was a man without without a country he was anonymous did give him a name he was he had no identity he had identity crisis He had no place she cuz she she was Jewish. But what what >> he had no shave it cuz the >> Right. Right. That's what she said. Right. Right. Right. Right. So when you have when it was so like this what what keeps somebody so so I'll get back to other topic. I once heard a share from and he said something which I thought was aish but afterwards I thought it made sense. He said that he was doing class and he said that if you want to be successful in what you do you have to do is you have to give your children a sense of pride that they belong to your family that he should be proud of being in this family and it's not a question of ga it's just a question of identity I'm proud because every every family every their nuances of what they're mak this guy could be Hungarian he's makim and and and there certain and and and other kind of business and other place could have a different thing we're this so they singing this that doesn't make it doesn't make what what it is but everybody automatically has their own and what you what you want to do is you want to infuse your children with the sense of a shyish that he's founded he's in He wants to be a yak and wears the talis. He's not embarrassed. it. That's a sense of pride. No, I'm saying I once said in the ground they the question that my my kid doesn't want to yaki and my kid doesn't want to wear a talis. I forced him to wear a talis. You know he's come by m they wear that big thing. I don't know they don't want to. So he don't want to put it on. He's embarrassed. I said I said the whole the law of wearing it >> should be proud. >> You should right is that you're proud of it. I I bet. And if he and and if if he doesn't want to wear it, then you didn't do the job well. But there's no point to force him to do it. The point is to infuse the child with a sense of Gavaldic. You know, this should I'm proud of who I am. And that's a healthy thing. If you're proud of who you are, then you're getting to be proud of who he is. There's nothing. It's not it's not a little of somebody else. It's a healthy pride of who you are. If you don't have any, if you're somebody who is Mr. anonymous and he's not part of dung and he's not and and and he gets thrown out. So then he feels like nobody. He feels like he he becomes cynical even to the degree. So he's he's maybe some maybe some and he's migling on the on the upon him. Why? Why is upon him not something that got stale week old? Why didn't it get stale? because it never left the it was on the table in the it stayed warm right and in fact that's what they used to do by when they were they used to say they would take out the the the the show they would show the to everybody yeah why because they're about to go back home right and they're going to they're going to be leaving their They're going to say listen that connected to your like these breads that are on the table. It could be a week later. So if you feel and you stay you don't have to go home have to go home but if you still feel connected to mdash you'll have you'll be able to feel good about yourself. You're able to feel fresh. You'll be able to stay connected. That's what that was the message. We have to keep that alive and this Mr. anonymous banish Israeli I'm not saying what but that's what happened if you if you're not part of a community then you become then you become fashion then and then bread fresh bread you know he's not part of no there was no there was no for for him to hold on to then you become cynical and angry and bitter and that's what happened you started cursing got the whole the whole velt just turned around yeah >> he just said in the in the before he said >> that that's and the >> is and it's very interesting. Yeah. Yeah. Very connect. Yeah. Very good. There's a that you know maybe talk about pes um what's what's the of last week's para is is very and points this out and the points it is very reminiscent of pes they take the birds and they take blood and they put in the s right it's a very it's a very reminiscent the harmed is very reminiscent of the pesim when you do mim you take Um, and you put it on the you put it on the wood of the of the thing. You take a you take a you take use a you take a a thing. Hop hop. So to and of the you take a bird a and you take and you have blood also because you have two birds. You shuck one bird. You put the blood into the into the soft and then you into into the thing and you take the the and you put it you put it on the Well, you're very similar, right? You don't put it on the under. You put it on the under water. Yeah. and Egypt do then you send another one out the butanza points it out the says that there's a he doesn't explain he says that there's a demian between the processing of mitra and the processing of a a so what's the what's interesting is that in both cases they find the word nega the only place that you find nega besides by is oidga Alp and that's talking about >> right and the end of that is also with with this thing >> not what I'm saying now is from David for this part from so he said that's they're very interesting and over here also but the same is went free and the other ones got killed over here one one bird got free and one bird got far away it's like very very very clipping and there points out there seem to What's what's the shak is this that the birth of KL Israel as a sour the sber of Israel was born when they left Mits they're waiting there to leave Mits in fact they say that that's why the dam was put around the doorway is because like that's what happened when the when when a baby's born there's a beia through dam that's what happens they break through dam so there was a birth of that and they're wait and right you're waiting for that moment that they say say you can't is very against that making it earlier or later when the when the wants the baby to be born is that when the baby should be born it has to be moment and the baby's pushing they got out and there and it's pushing and it's pushing and now what what it has to be it has to be it has to be and then and that moment then it came out then then was born as a nation is somebody who broke away from the nation he's agi to the to the If he wants to get back into the he has to redo he's somebody that broke away from from from from the ta that was born at that moment if he wants to get back into that he has to re he has to revamp it he has to do it again he has at the same time with the dam coming around and he has to because until that point go he has he has to realize what it means to be himself and he wants to go back into it he has to he has the same type of thing but if you're part of the and you're part of getting back to another thing then you Otherwise to do it by yourself, you have to be part of the Okay, good. >> Yeah. >> What? >> Take it off the court. Yeah.