Parshas Naso with Rabbi Simcha Bunim Berger

Good evening. Good evening to everyone here in Araim. Good evening to Tyra. Anytime. Thank you so much for allowing us to teach zerosimshin moral kadusha shabas. Tonight's Zerim Shenshir is sponsored for Nathan Koig for the good from Nathan for the good health and safety of anonymous sponsor for all those who need my father's my Others Karen Mayor Beneros fried bas Shab and to the new and a special maz to me who made a last night who married off his daughter for this couple tonight is in honor of two young couples. the Hajis who married off their daughter Ra to the also in the Brightstone this week last night to to Medzer daughter also >> okay this week's par this week discusses the of Shimsh in this week's para the mitzvah of Nazerus is one of the main mitzvah of the this week's par and reflects the par tonight is in this letter page we read the angel Angel came a second time to this isha and manak wasn't there. I want to give a little bit of the background and read a little bit of the story to appreciate the first kash and some of the and the whole piece a fascinating piece. Amen. wife did not have any children. The second P in the haftra says the angel appeared to her. I know you're in a I know you haven't had children. This malik says to her, "You shall have a child." Well, now you're going to get pregnant. Don't drink any wine. Don't have any beer. Don't get don't eat anything. You're going to get pregnant. You'll have a child. There's a special nazerus normal nazerus in the you accept it upon yourself. It's 30 days like says you accept it upon yourself. You're not allowed to be mama. This nazer is he's born into nazerus and it's forever to is not a problem. He'll kill a lot of pelishim. That's not a problem for no shims. It's not a 30-day nazerus for who? She he will save. He will help them from the soay came to her husband and she said, bought a lie. She didn't realize that he was that it was a malik. She doesn't describe him as a malik. Rather, she describes him as it says in the novi as isim a godly person as we'll soon see in the zerimshin. She thought he was a novi. She thought he was a She didn't recognize that he was a Malik. He looked fearful like a he was a person. I didn't ask him where he's from and he didn't offer his name and she tells her husband everything that this is said. You're going to have a Ben. Don't drink wine. don't eat anything. It's not a 30-day thing. It's all of his life. And then something interesting happens. Soak wants to get direct verification. His wife is telling him Please [clears throat] send back this send them back to us. I want to hear exactly what we should do. Came back to the woman. She ran and told he's back. He came back to see me. Are you the fellow who spoke to my wife? Yeah, it's me. Tell me what you have to say. Tell me what I need to do about this child. And the comes and repeats to him everything I told. We want to invite you to we want to make for you. goats. Don't hold me back. I'm not eating your bread. If you make with that, I'll go up. With that, I'll be happy. Who? Did not know that he was a Malik. What's your name? So I can honor you. Don't ask him my name. My name is Aella. And they made the they made the carbon. We'll get back to that in a moment. says the zerosimshin that's our little introduction says the zerosim if you paid attention the malik is/im came to as he gave her the information and then she told it to her husband and ded to the did the abisha listen to's prayer absolutely the malik came back but who did he go back to to the isha Why you were already by the isha wanted to hear what to do. So v epis asks what's going on over here like it's if you're already answering the prayer of man and he asked please come back and tell me what you told my wife vis why is it that the mahal is going back to the is >> he wouldn't have known it was So he had a wife no one say wouldn't have known would have known. No, he says am I wouldn't know. He would ask him, I'm the person the same way he asked him, are you the same person? Do you think you're kind of terrified >> that? So maybe let's see if this maybe let's see if [snorts] now let's see it inside. Why did he go to the then? She already heard what she needed to know. There's a two-part kasha. Number one, he needs it. Number two, he asked for it. Tibet and it was his you're his please come and tell me. So if you're answering his prayer and you're coming back what are you going to her for? Why are you going back there? says she thought that he was a novi when he was really a malik. Why did she think he was a novi? I decided to pull out the yalachami and look inside and see firsthand what the yalachamini says. Listen to this. And in this Malakashem story earlier in it was Pinas. Why is he called Malakashem? When hadesim his face was inflamed like a lapid his >> lapid is a fire flam >> torch. >> A torch. >> He was there's a some like some mysterious fellow that's called like the flash or something like the torch. I know. Right. Right. So you should know that when [laughter] had he was like a torch. His face lit up. That's the way the Nvi was. >> And Pinas was in their tufa. So it's not so it's not such a anymore that you could make a difference between is it a malik or is it a person if someone said when he had an avoa looked like the way such a scary person imamish was inflamed his came out. So is the you could easily make a mistake and think that this was a it's very it's very understandable that she didn't think she was seeing a where does she have the to see a but she knew that pinas when he gets a nua inflames mameish like a lapid so therefore or she really thought it was like this is very important says the zeros continues the wanted specifically to make this mistake and to think that they were dealing with a person. Why? so that they should invite him in to eat bread as we'll soon see in a minute. If he would have gone to if he would have gone to the husband, you know what the problem is? Says, you know what the problem is? their as we're about to see that since she made a mistake, give me a minute. Since she made a mistake thinking that he was a person, the aish specifically wanted this and didn't want who would have been able to figure out that maybe it's really a malik to know that. She will convince him because she's so sure that it's a person. We're using Yiddish tonight. He can let himself be uh convinced. That's right. That it's really a person. the over there says you're not allowed to follow your wife. What does it mean? He followed his wife her words and her what did she say already the terret says whatever she knew the she said don't eat this keep yourself to her all those things the malik said so what was her what was her deb she was just repeating what the malik said My understanding is says she wanted one thing. Let's invite him over. Why was that so important? If it would have been a Malik, never would have done it. It's a Malik. You can't invite a Malik. The terror says by the he writes like this [clears throat] top of the page. Some mitzvah have a but there are side benefits from mitzvah. There's a mitzvah where is children. Which one is that? says when had the three angels that looked like [clears throat] that's where there was the bur the mitzvah brought the bura they'll have a bench >> children there was a boy had the ish who came she also invited him also had a boy soak said she was this is a holy man let's invite him over we'll give him to eat so we can have that mitzvah of and already brings kinder In addition to the fact that the Malik said you're going to have but she wanted which make a kay for this bisura not just the fact that I have a bisurva let's concretize it let's have aus of having A and that will be for us a big mask because this is why the person says this is why the Malik did not go to himself even though he ded for it because he wanted to after her understanding. Why didn't he want them to know till the end? At the end, he wanted them to know. If he would have realized that it was a mal, he never would have brought a carbon. And as you're about to see, he wanted him to bring a carbon. How so? is we just learned in not so long ago the says in that if you're a carbon to the wrong thing of course it's considered even if you're a carbon to a you can't be a you can't go ahead and chef into the ocean, let the blood go in because it looks like you're serving the the s of the y. The says if you're on a ship, you don't want the ship to get dirty, then you're allowed to go ahead and do it. But if you're parked at the side and you're not on the ship, you're at the side, you cannot she and let the blood go into the water directly in because it looks like you're serving the water. This problem says would have been if he would have known that it's a even though he said let's make a so you should be able to go up what he really wants to do is writes he wanted to just bring a carbon so that the Nvi to the Aish so that the Nvi would be able to prophesize even better. So he wanted to bring something if again if he would have known it's an angel he wouldn't have been able to be Mak of the carbon. So the aish there's two reasons now. number one to invite him and when he says I'm not going to eat so you go and bring a carbon and why they wouldn't have been able to bring a carbon and now I want to tell you a secret says the zerosion do you know why it was so important that he should be that they should offer him food thinking that he's a human being him saying no and then bringing a carbon Like we said, if he would have known really an angel, not only he wouldn't have offered him food, he wouldn't have brought the carbon either. But the carbon had to happen. Why did the carbon have to happen? Because this carbon was the reason that Shimsh was born and shin. Why? So that the fire should come out of the stone like he did like the red do brings down. And you want to know why it's important? The riesh writes that this moment was a tikun for the nama of nv and au died because they were m a zorme hashem the shimshilo shall not have been harod where it says in referring to and is done is they didn't have the patience to bring a fire down wait for the fire to come down in heaven. So the of needed to have. [snorts] So now history was going to info unfold in a way that there would be a tikun if the a will come down from shayim in a way that this will be will be a catalyst for this a to come down from shamayim. So the mistake that he had made which was to bring his own fire preempting the fire from shamim would be mukin. Watch what happens. The medish brings down. She was she had been with her husband. It's just that that of the moment of inception had not happened. You know when it happened right now who was coming down from [clears throat] so was the catalyst for this carbon should be and this would be a tick for me the zer makes a point of saying that the and in this time at this that's when there was a tik had to be that he thought that he was a person so he offered him food and he rejected the malik rejected the food so since he doesn't know that he's a malik he can bring a carbon if he can bring a carbon so now the malik can bring aim says is the shim and now you'll have a tikun. All of this is answers his original question why the malik did not go to not to blow his cover. If you hold me I will not eat your bread. If you make anem what do you think you want to bring him and not to the bute says the terret is when you invite into your house it's like you bring a carbon and when you invite a I'll quote it for you the Gmorian. You give him to eat. You give him to drink. The Tyra over there, the Nvi says it's like a So when he was saying, I want to give you food. You're a Ni is like him. I want to have a bringing a carbon. So you know what the said to him? Don't bring a carbon to me. Bring it. Phil's bringing a carbon. Don't give me to eat. You're bringing a carbon. Bring some go ahead. You want to bring something? Bring a carbon to the So that's what he said to him. I'm not going to eat it. You want to go ahead. The only question is this is the last point. It says didn't know it should what it doesn't. He didn't know he was a Malik. How you tell this to me should have said earlier when he first started the whole story says the wanted the Malik to deceive him. He said I won't eat. What do you mean I won't eat? Say I won't eat. It's not a lie because I won't eat your bread. But he could have said I won't eat any bread. He wanted them to think your bread I won't eat but my bread I will eat. So he could still think that he is a human being. [snorts] This is says the zerosimshin this is the of the whole story of how they were to bring aimon shimshin was a gilgal of the n of and it had to have a tikun of aay. This could only happen if all of the mistake that and would make share this whole thing. Sometimes the shows us things and you think you know what you're seeing and you have no idea. I want to finish off by telling a story. A story that happened over 30 years ago when I was a rebi in yeshiva. It's my first job. It's a misa of 34 years ago. Rabbi Weinfeld Ziz the Rashiva asked me to meet a ber it's an English bak they had an apartment or they had an apartment there atro which was in Katamon I went to go meet the bakar mother opened the door answered the door she introduced it to her son Rabbi Winefeld's yeshiva leav was a a that catered to a serious Brooklyn a good good to good learn the boy who came to who opened the door and the mother were a but a different flavor of Jews [snorts] he opened the door nice pair of shorts right it wasn't exactly It wasn't exactly the sura of the type of families that Rabbi Weinfeld was accepting, but he asked me to interview them anyway, which I did. I quickly saw the yeshiva was not for this young man. And I told him, "Listen, the yeshiva is such and such a place number 14. That's where it is. And you can you can come and check it out." The bakr came to check out the yeshiva one day before this man started >> shorts. >> Yeah. Came with his leather yamaka and with his t-shirt without his tits with he came to wherever he came. He wore a yama. The fellow he bumped into I still remember his last name was Weiss. fellow he bumped into was coming out of the shower and he says to him, "Tell me what's this yeshiva like? This guy is such a man." He says, "This yeshiva we go to Ben Yehuda every night. [laughter] >> We have the He says they have girlfriends. Of course we have girlfriends. What are you talking about? Everything that [laughter] he told him >> he told everything he wanted to hear. He told him everything he wanted to hear and he was the only boy he interviewed. Pikitzer Pikitzer the boy ended up not coming to Levra. He went to Rit. Back then Rit was in the old city before they bought the campus in Beamesh. He went after four weeks raid threw him out because he was even for that he wasn't good. So he told his mom said what are you going to do? He said, "No worries. I went to check out a different yeshiva just like Rashid. It's fine." He called Rabbi Wininfeld said, "Can I come?" Rabbi says, "Come in." Could you imagine this? When he came to Yeshiva, all the boys are wearing white shirts and black pants. It was a It was a normal Yeshiva. He walked in, he was floored. He was speechless. He checked out the yeshiva and what did he see? Something totally different. But he had nowhere to go. I told Rabbi W there's no way you could take him. My wife says we're taking him. We're taking him. I was a second seder. Rebi. I told him you don't have to come second seder. If you come first s for two hours it's good enough. We just became friends. He spent time in the yeshiva. He dropped his girlfriend, started learning. By the end of year two, he had already deferred going to university already twice. He had to make a decision about whether or not he should go to the mirror and devote a life of learning. I still remember going for a walk with him and I told him the following what we just saw over here in the zerosion on his story. I said to him, listen, can't tell you what his name is. Said, listen, that wife was the other boy. >> That was the I said, listen, >> he's making I said to him, listen, listen. You came to check out Yeshiva slave. You if somebody would have asked you, do you know what leav is like? You say, I know exactly. I know exactly. I know what they do. I know it's just for me. If you would have come and have met any other boy in Yeshiva, you wouldn't they would have told you the truth. If you would have come the next day, the first day of this man, you would have sent a base medish of people learning you. No, it's not for you. The aisher didn't want you to see that picture. The aister wanted you to meet this kid and sell you the Brooklyn Bridge. He wanted you to think that the yeshiva was what it was not. Do you know why? Because there was no way you could get here. and you got here and you've been learning for a year and a half. If I would have told you two years ago that you're on the Madre to go learn in the Mir Yeshiva, you would have said you're crazy. I don't know what you're talking about. But look where you are today. The aster fooled you or actually more. He made you think you know what you're talking about. So you should be able to have the nan today of should I go to yeshiva and should I ta pursue learning or should I go back to university? You now have a chance to do something you could have never done in your life. He was masculine. He went to the mirror. He sat and learned for a few years a maneua. Why? Because he checked it out and he saw everything that wanted him to see. That's the story of and his wife of didn't want them to know it's a malik think that he's an so this way he should be able to bring that fire and this way they should be able to be a for of that's why went and did such a thing and to conclude it happens to us too sometimes we are shown a picture of something and we do the due diligence and we do all the work and then afterwards we find It's not like what I thought. It's exactly the way the wanted you to see it. You saw it the way he wanted you to see it. So for whatever whether it's to go into this as to get involved with this be the shows you be what he wants us to see. This gives us an opportunity to sometimes get involved in things which we never would get involved with. Wants it to happen. Today I work about large French fries and the sushi man saw large sushi platter. He printed to his printer for some reason. >> Yeah. >> Sushi platter. I told I'll bring it tonight. That's it. >> That's right. Does he still keep in touch with the wife? [laughter] We face your name.