Bitachon 11 - Gratitude and Bitachon

you listening to the eleventh to be talking podcast and I'd like to share with you a thought based on something that I read they'll be talking weekly which I highly recommend if you send an email to Beto home weekly at gmail.com not related to me but they have an amazing weekly partial sheet which is all about beat Oakland and varnak and just beautiful inspiring concepts one of the things that I read recently and I'll be talking weekly he talked about gratitude he spoke about the fact that he met this is reviewing Mandel from Lakewood he met a certain young man who was a in a certain kollel and the guy said to him that he has known as Yanis there's no troubles he has no problems and when trying to understand why that was what's the reason what's a secret he said that his relationship with Hashem it's all about gratitude his connection with Akhilesh bar who is just about thinking saying Thank You Hashem that's what he does all day long he doesn't ask for things he doesn't tell us what it sounds like doesn't ask for things he doesn't complain it's all just thank you and I was very struck by this statement I was very struck by the idea that it's possible to be focused on one's relationship with a Shem and think only about the fact that I have everything that I need I've mentioned previously that somehow even though it seems to be a steerer sin to be a contradiction somehow be talking is connected to his stop course trusting that shun will give me everything that I want someone is connected to me for having a feeling that I have everything that I want and I just had a conversation with my sister who is the leader of the women's group of the beautiful group and and one of the things that we talked about connected to be talking how does it work actively how does it work how can i what practically what can I do someone just emailed me asking what are the practical steps and I think that this is an incredibly powerful practical way to work on it and I want to relate it to the discussion of Josi I'm excited because we've been speaking about and I think that there's really a beautiful explanation in the story of yo safe based on this idea based on this concept and it's like this when as I explained previously and I wanted to talk about it in terms of gratitude now I spoke about it when it comes to hey stop cause when I'm in a place of you stop goes on a place where I feel like I have everything that I need that's the same really the same location so to speak same feeling as gratitude so when I feel like I have everything that I need so that's really the same place I'd be talking the way that the outer spoke about me talking is that I feel like I already have the thing that I want the thing that I'm having be talking about in fact it's possible to feel like it's it's so real the the thing that I'm having be talking about is more real and the money that's in my pocket amazing it's possible the money my pack will be stolen but the fat the thing that I'd be talking about that Hashem is going to give me so that I'm going to get I'm going to get for sure that's that's how powerful be talking this I already have it in my mind so it's very much connected to the gratitude when a person feels gratitude they feel like they already have it it's like wow I have everything that I need Shem has given me everything that I need it's the same feeling around be talking I already has the thing that I want that's the or the thing that I have be talking around I think I trust that somebody is going to give me it's the same feeling it's being in the same place I already have it and I'm grateful for it I'm already grateful for the thing that I got haven't yet gotten but I feel like I already have so the the kind of exactly what they call it meditation or the exercise that I had my sister do and that I would like to work on and I encourage you all to work on is speaking about what am i grateful for right Hashem I'm grateful that I have a beautiful family I'm grateful that I have a beautiful home I'm grateful that I have a car I'm grateful that I can then I woke up this morning I'm healthy I'm grateful that I can breathe I'm grateful that my heart is beating I'm grateful that I can walk Thank You Hashem that I live in there in Cicero thank you a charm that I can learn your Torah thank you I shown that you made me a Jew Thank You Hashem and thank you a Shem in the same voice in the same tone the same feeling Thank You Hashem for the thing that I don't have yet it's almost like I need to say let's say I want I want a thousand dollars thank you a sham that you've given me that thousand dollars that I need thank you for some that you've paid my mask on so you paid my mortgage thinking I shouldn't you've given me the money that I need to pay for groceries whatever it is that a person is having be talking about if being in that same space as gratitude of gratitude for something that I already have to move the over and be grateful for the thing that I know that I am is going to give me that I trust a sham that I'm going to I'm going to receive that perhaps is a way of approaching because it's being in that same place being that same feeling I already have I already have the parking spot Thank You Hashem for for giving me the parking spot Thank You Hashem for taking away this allergy thank you I shan't forget taking away my cold whatever it is they were having that we're having me talking for and I was thinking that if we look at the story of Joseph this could be a beautiful shot in what was going on in story UNICEF and I accosted him listening as you know to my racial sure around there pair his Vaadin on beautiful and one of the things that you recently spoke about does this section of darken be talking they were reading now and he said that Yossi Vardi spoke about the fact that you see what said he recognized he saw that his ticket out of jail there's only one way he's gonna get out of there and that's if the guy who's the highest in the heart in the entire hierarchy of myths rang which is pyro pulls him out and he's and he's like wow how am I gonna get the power you say like how you know it's imagine if I said I'm gonna just tell him you know I'm gonna get a message to to the president of United States it's not something that just anybody can do you have to have the right person and there's the person right in front of him and it's the saramakan and he says he's that's why he says to him tell power about me take me out of here he recognized immediately that this was his ticket out Hashem had sent him the person who in theory would be able to connect to the only one who could take him out of jail now the thing is like this here's the voice it's amazing it's beautiful in light of what we've been saying because when I have troubie tahun i know Morty there I'm already at the end I'm already in that place where I'm going to that I have what I need Josi was already in the place of Google like new from the dreams from from so many years ago from at this point it was it was 13 years before he knew from the dreams that he's actually I'm sorry 10 years before that he knew from the dreams that he's going to have what he needs he knew that he's going to become the leader of Egypt Nina's gonna be leader of his brothers right so he already had it planted inside of him he saw the end already and here again he sees the end he sees the siren ah she came as his ticket out he sees that he's out but he left to stay in that place if a person was on his level does an action and says you helped me out of here then he's that he's not at the end anymore he's not in the space of gratitude for being released and because of that because he felt out of the place of already feeling like he's already released from jail because he felt out of that place he had to remain in jail for another two years until he got took that long for him to get back into that place back into that headspace of feeling like I already have what it might be talking is I already have what Asham wants to give me I already have what I what I need I already have what I trust and I shown that he's going to give me so that's perhaps a beautiful I think beautiful shot in the story of yo save him well and and how he lost it you know he got punished it's not just the punishment but it's it's a it's a litmus test it shows where you can see we can see from the story that he's no longer in the place where he is already redeemed he's already free the reason I he always moved up the ladder no matter where he was was because he was always in a place of redemption he was always in a place where I shamans with him where I shine is helping him hell I sure wish I might slap the other everything that he did he saw a sham was being much like he said when he gets the power he says bill I die it's not me he knows it's just a sham he knows that any power that he has anything that he can accomplish is only because of the fact that I was helping him so he's as long as he's in that space he knows that he's going to be helped as long as he's in the space knows he's going to have the answer for power he says it's not me he recognizes that he knows he needs to remain in that place the moment I start opening my mouth and saying yeah it's me I'm out of the place of a sham I'm out of the place of of goodwill I matter the place in Redemption I had the place to be talking but if I'm if I remain in the space of gratitude in the place where I have it already and I can even then I can even extend it to I have already the thing that I don't have yet and if I can get into the place where I already have what I want that vision and of course it's always about in beat Oakland it's never about me having what I want it's always it's never an expectation it's always I know Hashem and my relationship with Hashem will guarantee and I will have what I need what I need and I'd like to continue I have a few more minutes to continue in dark a beautiful and he's speaking about the idea of has it work that a person can can work and understand and try to figure out where are the boundaries right because we're trying to figure out try to understand what are the boundaries of peacocking but he says this also in regards to figuring out where a person's constraints are where person slacks are coming in Yarra libation my Rakesh Kadam has tonight so when a person is trying to find where are the outer boundaries for the things that the mistakes that he makes the things they pull him in the eights are the finish room might say I go there I'm a deal cannot only to confess erroneous is an amazing thing if we spoke about last week now before a person finds the precise location of where he needs to be in order to not fall into Z Sahara his evil inclination god or she yeah like possible yasser to find a precise location that's not too far and not too not too close over Avila Missoula that it's an exact right location cousinship Korean soccer enough before he has chosen the correct boundary for himself you caution please watch the beauty of a catch by now an amazing thing will happen person will make a mistake you'll fall in he will do the Avera he will trip over he'll fall over the cliff but now he knows where that line is his eyes were closed he couldn't see where the cliff was but now he's learned his lesson about mr. Lim kala leannecromie chocolate but this type of stumbling block this type of mistake is not considered a full mistake Joe Mitchell oscillated Erica Lily because by falling in and tripping over the edge so that is something that if the person is a Thomas Holcomb person is trying to learn doesn't think that whatever he does is already correct even if he falls down so that will provide him with a new information as to where the edge is she's got off a copic off muscle Sharat Kumar side Erica methi it's not gonna cause him to become prideful and say I'm the only one that's found the true path which is not so when it comes to a hakama now this is an important thing that he's teaching us it's not so much about be topham but it is it's a general spiritual principle but I need to be willing to learn a person already thinks that he has all the answers or that whatever he does is already correct they're in trouble a Mitchell show you creates a lot huh I'm a masochist machinist Hamid but that which that which a person stumbles over he thinks that he's of Tama to shard I insert lavaca sure laughter I'm sorry I'm sorry this is the person who is a table the person who Thomas who is looking for the right way so he knows that he needs to keep going further needs to get a deeper depth he needs to figure out where the lines are it's lilius I'm actually initial Aslam loose so he will use the mistake that he made as a lesson for himself sure early Asami mana which will help them rise up we get higher from it cam Mitchell or Boyer because the stumbling block itself is a shining light pizzeria meets a Cheney I make sure you call a have your lobster flare their home et but it's also possible that the stumbling block can blind him because they're not to see the correct path Yankee between Agudelo although you call it clean i Jeremy T bolado since that's sometimes necessary per person to trip and fall in order to learn where the where the where the lines are as my father always told me sometimes you gotta learn it the hard way and sometimes a person who has learned it the hard way doesn't make that mistake or often if a person learns that the hard way doesn't make that mistake person experiences the mistake himself Baraka all the other you call lifts our coffee I saw diminish on my desk I talked only through this powerful type of experience of having fallen can a person then have a very clear line for himself where the can go and can't go he is Berlin a 30 rock - there's ice because then it will be extremely clear only in this way together is there with this boundary you Kalama the mats of a brook initially can a person maintain his true spiritual his spiritual desires the others could have Simon a direct if the person will move even a hair's breadth away from the way that he knows now that he needs to be you ever come out selling about melissa sham so then the person will lose his entire service of God he thought they asked me Pistoleros mata Mata you open up for himself an opening to fall further and further okay so even in some let's see we can finish this off or at least started Shama Shama Shama vacuum I haven't seen there that the stumbling block itself is truly a light it's a candle in the darkness show your leg inside Erica noting that the mavs Akash the person who's truly seeking to do what's right will be able to use to find the correct path which are another my bowdabra LM connection with our house I'll say it's a good morning Sean is the person doesn't figure things out until they have fallen and tripped over them over this over this issue whom if nation is a actually bearish in the national interest mixes banana Superman Madrigal said because he sees that if he turns a little bit away from the truth he will lose his exalted level of caning your dad welcome another fuel as ice Commissioner my cousin Chevy Volts addict become that the person has learned he knows how to get up from this this fall and this is what the verse means when it says that Sally righteous person fall seven times but he gets up Yankee Kim and I feel a goof I in any way sir like there is a pure because when he falls he doesn't say now oh I felt this is the right way to go and now I'm going to have a new way of living I'm gonna continue in this way no that's not does a lot around you were lumen on a feeler Eliezer Hodari he uses it to teach himself he recognizes that the fall is not the correct way maybe later maybe Rosie this type of clarification is the best that there is looking Chevy possibly could come and therefore excuse me the Sally falls seven times and gets up cuz that the enemy Kotzebue couche may play on the Fila he doesn't stop searching for the right way because he fell where's my back your snow he goes back to searching is this the right way have I fallen the end if you listen I'd see you a girl alive because sugar then the fall itself helps him in his continued search for what's right I shall use barley my clothes oh come on rougher because it helps in clarify where is he strong words him weak my mouth named Tucker le Olam who yes Madame either where where are the measures where's the correct place so I thank you for listening I remind you if you like to be part of the be talking group men's meeting on Sundays and we have a women's meeting on Wednesdays and send me an email BB top on group at gmail.com or her ego leg at gmail.com