Rabbi Gavriel Friedman - The Secret to Simcha

thank you everyone for joining us full house over here because the most amount of people that have come in the last few years but since we've been doing this event these events together um is this um just to give a background about about the event um together with Dave baturo a Torah life organization I've been doing events the last number of years right here in this in the in this sushiva and this base base Madras and and then men and women have come Round of Applause I guess thank you so I think it's very very fitting that the most amount of people came and really packed the house to bring uh RAV gov obviously over against Great simcha on the the Torah and the great wisdom these guys share is giving us tremendous and um just uh we want to thank which has been partnered in with the with these tremendous sheriff in in Brooklyn I want to thank um of course um Victoria time which which is uh streams the uh has videoed this this year um so many thousands of people have watched them online and and tell any time to actually put out a book recently was the first the first 50 people they would um as you can see they uh they got this Camillus um book uh their Augustine book which has a tremendous um as you know brother Augustine in this community he he gave the serum in this community but not only in this community but around the world and Hashem it's um his legacy is continuing through all the share them online and this farm so this is somebody who gave his life for Christ throughout and and it's uh something that we shall um continue all the amazing lessons that he taught us and should continue his legacy further we want to um want to thank of course organization which is partnered in all the events and um and the quick worry about about organized I'm saying to partner together with amazing people in an organizations like they but tour organized events and share them in different communities and very virtual events like we had ravkov and the child and then tremendous speakers during halftime of Super Bowl level and just as a positive alternative and rock Hashem has a tremendous influence the public school Outreach has 15 Sundays different different Sunday school programs for public school students and a special division called Public School Yeshiva division which is in the last last five six years along has transferred over 1300 children from public school to Yeshiva so someone knows anyone who has children in public school and to give them a Jewish Education and of course last but definitely probably first we should we mentioned first is of course David baturo and they told about two of our family giving their heart and solids perfect for the community and inspiring people and uh thank you so much for having me okay not that tall welcome everyone thank you all so much for coming it really means so much and I'm going to explain a little bit if I could briefly white this event is so special to me because um I actually wrote out a speech for the first time I can't believe I actually did that but it came to it um so I noticed there's a lack of chairs in the room so first of all I apologize for that I did not foresee this event and I don't do RSVP so I don't know what to expect so we're going to Hashem the room filled up and it may continue filling up and next time I'll bring more chairs that's for sure uh lesson learned aside from that for my introduction I apologize my name is David whitturo I founded tour life in 2016 I was just in high school many of you probably sitting here are in high school today um and the organization really started off as a WhatsApp group in response to a series of losses that took place in my family starting from 2015 all the way up to 2020 I lost all my grandparents and to use loss as a method of motivation and change is a little bit of a cliche but unfortunately it's the most effective method so the drive to make an organization only um launch there was tons of interest in joining and participating in online events and in-person events and starting with that first event in 2016 leading up to this day was really quite a journey if I can just tap into just a few things that we were able to accomplish first of all um my brother who's sitting here today Yeshua he's my oldest brother a big influence in my life he got around to okay a little early let me get it out what he did first so I met among many other things he managed to write a book which was powered by Toro life and it's in the back over there it's for sale for ten dollars that's just one of the things we're able to do we also partnered up with rabiose palachi to put out an entire perky upload series there are a few in the back also um there's really so much opportunity out there and there are many many have sat stood right here and addressed the crowds many throughout the years and uh they keep coming and they want to keep coming because they see an audience who's thirsty and hungry for Torah so um I didn't I didn't read anything else there's notepad that I made really uh just basing a little bit but um um can I say I've been through a really long journey with this organization I I didn't fundraise at all I never made one campaign I don't have any payroll I don't pay for advertise this is all something that I wanted to do as like almost as a Meister project as a personal Meister project and um I wasn't always this way before I started the organization I wasn't that interested in Judaism in fact I had kind of had enough of it that's why I'm being honest um but only when I got that little spark of inspiration is when I started to search deeper and seek out the truth and when I say the truth I mean about hashem's existence and the validity of the Torah and the purpose of life the secrets to happiness and um and that's what led us over here is just step by step I didn't know where I'd be standing six years later when I started I had no clue it started literally as a WhatsApp group with three people that's how it all started and uh today we're sitting in a room that's fully packed out so look what one idea can do thank you um Robbie already saved me the time to give all the thank yous but if I could reiterate a quick thank you uh to the three most I think inspirational organizations that really took part um and really partnered up with us that would be first of all Oregon Scott who opens their doors every time I ask literally never said no um and uh hazak for always being there with us and helping promote tour anytime who's giving me the opportunity to go to so many children it's uh unbelievable the work they do and for me to take part in just a fraction or a fraction of it is in itself uh gigantic um I have a lot more to say but I think you guys had enough of me without further Ado Rap God [Applause] [Music] okay am I supposed to put this on all right good evening all good evening thank you okay the guy's way out did the girls there let's make that clear okay how's that does it look good where are you going you gotta move the camera when I move all right fine fine I believe that they will stay yeah stay stationary okay tell my parents all right what do you call this thing again would you call it Torah it's our life I should know that but life life life that's amazing David my good buddy yeah I remember that you told me a second ago okay big shout out to David a big shout out Don't Clap all right to the doctor okay we'll do it because we gotta save time because it gets awkward uh or you thought anytime anytime and of course David and all of you thanks for coming this is great let's get Let's Just Jump Right In if we can um I'm just looking for does anyone know what does the what is the acronym b-te what is that go who said that nope get out okay yeah thank you for participating yeah what else could happen Best Time Ever sounds familiar I think she just said that but uh give me another one come on no okay what do you say yes come on what's uh pte you got you got two of the words right no there's only one Tower man best thing ever is correct what's the T set it where is thou dancer's thing best thing ever this is the most important thing to know it is the absolute best thing ever this is the uh you know I don't know if anybody saw the the title to the to the class I saw it on the way in and I'm going to tell you that it is the absolute best thing ever there is nothing better than what's happening in your life right now unless you did something really not good what I mean by that is by the way even if you did something that good after that it's the best thing ever under the circumstance is the best thing ever I can only say this to a crowd I can't say this to an individual I just had a conversation I gave a share somewhere in the world and there I was and after this year someone came to ask me a question and I said what I'm saying to you right now this is what I said I said I can't answer your question I can only say this in front of a crowd as soon as the individual it's probably doesn't look good for the camera right is that better thank you so much can we start over just like absolutely so the person asked me the question I said I can't I can't help you as an individual now why couldn't I help them as an individual because I was talking about a particular idea and a part of the sheer that came up was about dealing with circumstances that people go through in life and they came afterwards I'm just just saving you some time don't afterwards come to me and and you you could you can come to me you could say whatever you want but I'm just gonna say I'm going to say the same thing to you that I said to this person when they came and they said well how do I how do I deal with the fact that they had lost a loved one a very close close loved one they're asking how do I deal with that as I can into I can't I can't I can't talk to a person that's going through something a person we know that that the mission says don't try to Mission of us don't try to be managing someone don't try to I said English Comfort appease Comfort I'm looking for are pieces that also in the mishna that's awesome right but but this is here don't try to comfort someone when their dead is lying before them it's called Nico mavelam you know you don't call me someone when their dead is lying before them it's actually interesting idea when it comes to Allah that although although Mary Abbey told me that it's not it shouldn't be taken as literal because then people start to misunderstand the whole idea but uh the pictures all right this is an ideal of when to go visit someone who lost a loved one if someone lost a loved one then you know they said Shiva someone's sending Shiva who's uh you know they when they're in the state of mourning then when are you supposed to visit them it's brought them from the third day you can go in the first day and you should go on the first day because what ends up happening is the I asked this actually has a child asked about this if everybody followed that then no one would show up in the first and second day and then it ends up being just an awkward circumstance so you can go on the first date you can go the second date but what's the psychology of the third day is that a person who just lost their loved one it's very hard to process what's going on and to be able to handle anything is very hard don't try to be back from someone when they're dead lying before them someone who's going through something very heavy at this very moment I can't I can't answer you there's nothing for me to say which is why we all know that is in Jewish law that if somebody goes to a house of mourning what do you say to the morning so whoever didn't talk is correct you say nothing you don't say a word to the mourner when you're leaving so then you want to go and you say Society so you say certain things but but when you come and you sit down it's always like it it's astounding to watch people at shanazas people walk in nobody knows what to do so this you're all like the other walk in with like that little like and then they do like the Shiva look [Music] heavy breathing [Music] and it's raining outside start talking about the weather over and over and over again you know you're supposed to say to the person nothing you sit down and you don't say a word shut your mouth until they speak to you why why don't you say something because there's nothing to say a person who's going through the pain you don't say anything what do you do you just do you be there you're there for them so a warning what I'm speaking about right now is not to that individual I can't talk to you because nothing for me to say to you not because I don't want to say something because there's nothing for me to say other than say like I care about you you're important to me so I'm going to come I'm going to sit there I'm going to be with you so that's the idea of of availas to a crowd though I could say the following idea it's the best thing ever there is nothing better than this particular moment in your life there's nothing better and that's gazelle tell us everything that Hashem does is for the best and that's why by the way I say if Hashem did it not if you did it a lot of times we do things to ourselves and we blame Mission we can't do that it has to be you have to understand the fact that if we make a bad choice and a bad thing happens if I if someone ties a shoe too tight and their leg hurts that's because Italian today but let me try to find maybe I'm a guild-goal maybe my foot hurts because I'm a guild that's the reason because I I sometimes feel like I'm Spanish I feel like I'm from the Inquisition and they must have done something to my leg or you tied your shoe too tight this is the absolute best thing ever b t e best thing ever we have to recognize that and realize that but unfortunately we get lost because we don't think because we don't think we just we just immediately respond without stopping to think for a moment and process something which we know well you're joining us you want to speak right we know well the following idea and that is that we're talking about now as we just had or Adar or or you can sleep if you're not sure a month right but we just we just said and once in Scottish either we talk about the concept of simcha over and over and over talk about the idea we have to be Sim Khan instead of the Sim Club is which we know the letters of Bissell are the same letters as the word thinking thinking thinking we have to be if through a through a state of thought you gotta think if we're not thinking we just automatically go with the with what we call animal nature it's a problem what do I mean by animal nature not to be confused with Human Nature the animal is responsive the animal just goes with instinct the human process is a circumstance and comes up with the proper response it's not an immediate Kickback it's a thought process what's going on over here and many of us when we do something we get really angry we get angry oh my God it's like yeah listen but it's Human Nature It's Not Human Nature to get angry it's animal nature to get angry the goal is to become a human having become that by thinking processing working it through BTE best thing ever ain't nothing better than this and if a person would realize that their life would be a very very different life what is the key to happiness we have to be thinking if a person is thinking through just for a moment process what's going on foreign remember it was like 20 minutes ago but coming here I was on the phone with someone I said what's the key to happiness and he said why asking I was like I'm giving a talk and the key to happiness like 10 minutes or something I said I'll tell you one thing it makes me happy funding parking in Brooklyn and when I came you saw I parked don't tell anyone about my Lambo right but I'm saying I I parked where I did and there was an open spot right there I was like yeah yeah I'm talking about right away that my friends is simra that's Joy key to happiness is look around and find a place to park the truth is eventually if you don't find a place to park just keep driving if you find a place and just find a house and walk in stay here if no one's there all right you give a shoe to someone else what is the key what is the key to happiness thought we have to be thinking this is the best thing ever there is a well-known story which will become more well known right now or maybe we'll just review it story is about a fellow who's complaining about the world and his complaining to his Rabbi saying rabbi we got a problem with the world the world has a problem I feel like I'm on some sort of station here where are you Robbie how do I take this off what is this we're here with Springfield in weather okay so the story you don't really have to think I'll probably say that you're good the story is that there was a uh this guy's complaining he's like Rabbi the world is so messed up and bad and problematic and issues and stuff and things and that and the other so the Rabbi says to him really really you think there's such problems yeah I don't even know like I don't want to sound like too much of a denier over here but it sounds a little bit it seems a little bit strange like like why is it that uh why why would God do that I feel I don't want to say it but I just want to say I'll say about I don't know if I would have done it like this because what I mean if you would have done like this like if I was God I don't think I would have done it like this so the Rabbi says really you're telling me if you were God you would have designed so tell me how would you have done it how would you have done it then um if I was if I was in charge if I would have made the world I wouldn't make it that people don't have money everyone's struggling for money it's such a hard thing to get money money money I want to go ahead and meet your people have money so there's always that one guy walking by where there's a conversation happening and he says well I'll tell you what I would do he's like no one asked you like who are you it doesn't matter let me tell you what I'll do because if I would be God I'll you wouldn't be able to tell me you didn't ask me let me tell you what I would do what I would do is I think we all sickness all illness people go through pain and suffering you know I take away all the pain and suffering what does God thinking going and making suffering and everybody's telling their input what they would do until finally finally one of them turned to the Rev and said [Music] and they look over and they see the rabbits cry they say why are you crying he said because it's a consideration story but it's really not I just wanted to say that line let's rewind so they go and they say Rob I have a question they say right yeah what is it what would you do if you were God he goes oh if I was God I would do exactly what God did because God's God and if I were God then I would be God and God did this so I would do what God did you see because God is perfection God knows what the best thing is under every particular circumstance even if it's what we called but that becomes the circumstance this is what it is which means this is what God thinks is the ultimate best thing ever Beta And if we realize it's the best thing ever total different shift in our Outlook and our mindset and our in the way that we're feeling at that moment is that it's an amazing concept when a person's focused they're focused someone who's focused it changes everything so um I don't know if you're here but somebody a couple of nights ago I gave a share and somebody came and asked me a question I said that's a good question I'm going to speak about it tonight so I'm going to speak about it tonight again I'm just going to spell it out a little more clearly for those who are not familiar with the story the story is that whether there's someone by the name of avra mavino is married to Sarah for many years they don't have any children so what happens sir goes and gives huggar too thank you forgot the name gives haggar over to avram saying hopefully I shall be built up through her what's up children okay so he was Hunger how you doing thank you so hogar back to hugger so so what happens goes ahead and uh he thinks hunger is a wife and something happens which is crazy she's expecting a child and the posix says suddenly Hagar starts looking at Sarah like oh you're not you know so you're not so great after all you're married to him for many years over 10 years 10 years because I had to sell it but you're over over 10 years of mad you don't have any children I ran away I read away get pregnant there's a whole discussion back and forth between avram and Sarah well actually with Sarah and Avro and finally the posix says that sorry meaning goes in oppresses causes pain it's a hugger hugger can't handle this she runs away there's a whole story that occurs the question one of the questions is how could it be that Sarah he may know we know like when you speak at the office of the most about average we speak about them it's like the most amazing time they're incredible and amazing unbelievable and they were the forefathers the four mothers they were they were the ones how could we Behavior like this and there's a there's a lot to talk about there but I'm going to focus on one idea I want to answer that I heard once I thought was a fascinating answer I heard this answer from my brother he claims he never told this to me so Kobe I didn't hear from my brother but I'm going to give him credit and he said the following if he said it I heard this somewhere and the idea is true even if it's even if it's not true the India is true and that is they wanted to claim and suggest the following really Sarah didn't treat hugger any differently before this and after this she treated her exactly the same oh but the plus success [Music] so let's think about what it means to be a maidservant what does it mean to be a meat servant what does it mean to run a home in the year 2000. from creation of the world I'm not talking about now Brian avram avinu was born in 1948. you knew that 1948 I haven't finished it was born in 1948. it's like Israel right so I mean not Israel it's Israel this is avram right so Ava was born in 1948 . what does it mean to run a household you know when people complain like oh it's so hard like oh my goodness doing laundry is so difficult um beep uh I'll be back in like an hour when it does all the washing for me oh drying things beep can you think what it was back in the day what does it mean it means taking the clothing down to the river sometimes there's a guy living there in a van got to be careful and then you have to you have to go ahead and you need a washboard I just use my abs whatever never works I don't know why did you go out there and you're like watching like each CL each thing is like you know I think yeah it gets the core it's a real workout and then after you go you do that if they hang everything you gotta carry it back and what it's incredible laundry is is something was like when we complain about laundry just know what it what it was yes I'm not by the way I hate when people do this oh so you're saying I shouldn't complain because it was harder it's still horrible you know I mean like I'm not that's true but it was horrible lure this is just appreciated it's less horrible what was so difficult to be a meat servant to go and get bread I have to go shopping I have to walk down to the store which is like down the block and give some money and give me the stuff cut and ready and made go plant wheat how long are you playing wheat go plant this seed which of them become weed I don't know what happens if you plant wheat but perhaps the seeds will then point is then you have to go through the 39 malagos which we all know very well especially if you went to Yeshiva Seminary bow rare borer separating and bow rare and then you have wheat or others would say you have to have baby zoria and Chloe's first and zarya what's going on there that's the gemara horizorea next code sir oh sorry it's a plant thing right could say Dash zorya bow rare maracade token Lush am I the only one that lives it's like awfully quiet in here just like saying imagine going to go Lush and oh fair you're just a beef to make your bread I know like during coronav it's like I did sourdough like I was like oh my gosh I mean it's sourdough it was amazing it's actually disgusting but I did it you know it was like the project of like the Jewish people sourdough now we have like we left Egypt we had matzah we had Corona we had sourdough just thought about that now anyway people ask me like so what do you like do you write your jokes is no if it goes well I say it again but like I don't know because BT is the best thing ever being a maid servant is hard work it's labor it's physically draining and difficult what happens if you have the opportunity to be the maidservant of Sarah you may know if you get to work for Sarah everybody gets that you speak to people who worked for the queen they loved to work for the queen it was an honor to work for the queen you speak to Alfred who worked for Batman I don't think you can as a fictional character but I imagine what is it I imagine Mr Wayne he's speaking you know I don't even imagine you know he loved that he could work for master Wayne I could be working for Batman somebody said I could be working for sorry Manu that's amazing so although it was difficult hard physical labor the bottom line is our mentality was I'm working for so I mean that's amazing what happens though fatiguez now she sees that she gets pregnant then the other one and sorry didn't get pregnant so how does she look at her now all of a sudden she's off that pedestal and she goes you think you're something something you've been years you've been waiting for years and and me right away and she looks at her in a way when she's not so great after all according to this understanding nothing changed in the way that Sarah dealt with her but now the work started to be painful everybody get it it's all up in here up in here suddenly all of that work which was fine and doable manageable became difficult challenging and hard when you look at something that is valuable and it's worth it then the challenge of the hardness is that we could look away from it we could we could put it aside it's like we spoke about right camera you remember when we spoke by the Super Bowl for kazak it's like we spoke about if you saw it then why were you watching the Super Bowl and uh if you or thank you for watching but to reiterate those words over there how is it that these people can go ahead and put so much energy into what they're doing running back and forth in a field or playing ice hockey you know going back and forth or swimming you look at these swimmers it's unbelievable how much energy they go they put their whole body into it literally exhausting why because they have it they're focusing on something it's worth it what happens if they realize that it's worthless everything they're doing is worthless then they would stop swimming because it's really hard to do it it's something it's worthless and what am I doing this for so how can a person go ahead and deal with life we talk about the idea of like it's the best thing ever what about all the challenges what have you realized that those challenges are the best thing ever they're the best thing ever for you foreign the greatest thing ever for you there was nothing better for you a bunch of years ago I was uh oh I'm an American now I came to visit America and it was around this time of year where are we're in February still right I think it was early February maybe late January early February I can't remember why this happened oh I remember it was so cold it was so cold it was it was Winter I mean now with global warming I have no idea what that means I don't know what the word Global is I know what warming is I don't know if they work together but I'm so sorry for the environmentalists you're doing great work it wasn't making Progressive now but at any event it was freezing this I can't remember how long ago this was maybe my head it must have been seven eight nine ten years ago 11 12 or 13 14 years ago it was in the last it was in the it was in the last 40 or 50 years and I arrived in an airport I can't remember which one and I went to go get the car I went to go rent the car when I went into the car it was so cold I got into the car and it said like minus so like minus six degrees or something like that is minus six degrees have you anybody see that number before where would you see that normally and kill who said that yeah in Canada that makes sense why because they go by Celsius some of you are confused have no idea who Celsius is he's a cousin with Kelvin and it was like minus three or four or five degrees I realized that afterwards it was in Celsius so it's not really that cold okay first of all zero is 32 degrees minus means it's less than that 32 is freezing point below that is colder than freezing point so even though maybe it was in the minus and Fahrenheit it was still freezing quite literally factually freezing to the point that when I got to my location I had a water bottle that was sitting on the floor when I got there it was frozen frozen salad when I got back to Israel I was selling the cab jack into a cabin it dice in the mirror anyway I this guy says to me uh where am I going I said your homes to Bel Air and then he says to me but we're in Israel I said oh uh in that case you're lying and he's like oh where were you you know Big Talk and I said I was I was there I was freezing so I find sometimes maybe maybe everyone does this I just find like Israelis like to make things intense so he's like I said can I am an old world car it's very cold it goes a cow you don't know what gold is I said well I thought I think I do I think I know a cold is it's like I thought you were done as a girl I'm like I think it is it was just in my head I don't even know what I was thinking sir as a girl it has to be in that deep voice sounds like everything has to be like intense usually that's Israeli soldier voice like when you're an Israeli soldier like you're kind of like an eagle and then when you go to become a citizen you know there's citizen voice so you got to return the gun you're like shut up so go hands of the gun and goes and walks away but Israeli soldier cab driver voice the guy says I said okay what is called Frio tell me what it is so he says so tell me you don't need the introduction just just tell me you know I'm listening the guy who's I don't know how many years ago it's like 30 years ago or 40 or 100 years ago I don't know every every character I've ever had was a elite specialist unit in the Army every one of them like 140 years ago that all of them so this guy tells me he's like when he was going to the Army he had a goal his goal was he wanted to uh he wanted to join a particular unit I can't remember which one of the two he wanted to join either something called or or these two two elite units that they wanted to join in order to get there it's like it's intense training and he tells me that one of the things that they had to do that was part of the training I think there's 600 applicants and only two end up making it most drop out on their own because they just can't handle it animals fail the tests they push through but they failed you know so again majority of them give up it's just like intense he said one of them and this is why the reason the story one of them is that he uh had to go and they they had to like they tied their arms and legs and they were thrown into ice water and they have to get out so that's why most don't make it by the way it's a nice little way of getting rid of some people but yet to get out of there and he did that he did this thing they threw him in he said that was cold it's like the Polar Bear Club style right but Polar Bear Club as far as I know if you don't know what I'm talking I don't know but if you do know you know and against how most things work but this particular way of working is it's not usually like the political clubs like you go into the ocean and like in the winter but not always like you cut a hole in ice and jump in you know I mean like this like like freezing freezing cold he said it's so cold your body starts to shake and then you don't feel anything it's like it's it's intense I recently told the story on another on another thing so you could be saying someone was like some sort of procrastination that uh that I that I did this I did this thing when I was in I was in Panama and somebody asked me if I wanted to do the yellow I said I'll do the yellow I didn't know what it meant but yellow Spanish rice and it's like you want to do the yellow I said SI senor vamanos yellow so he says okay you come let's do it and and he got like 32 bags of ice and he put into a kiddie pool and then he filled with water and then he lied down and it was like a normal thing for him shout out to my friend Bobby Panama that guy did it no I'm pointing to the camera he's not back there it was like where's Bobby who is this puppy you speak of but the Bobby's in Panama he's probably never going to see this but now he'll see it because I was going to say who's Bobby and Batman they're gonna send it though and then he's going to call me hey you want to do the yellow again tell him after they'll talk to you so so what happens is I go and I lie down this thing I'm like this guy I wish I had water I'm gonna shamaya thank you so much thank you appreciate that oh yes okay let's watch the sitter okay so remind me this is here please hey everyone so so so we go into this thing I'm watching Bobby go in the water I'm like okay he just like literally is like he's like he's like this is what we have to do he starts telling me instructions how to do you have to hyperventilate very fast and you go in and you stay under but under the water with your face I'm saying but you go on to keep your body out there I'm like okay and I watch him do it I'm like okay this guy just did it I'm in hombre I'm a man I could do this too so I'm like he's like what are you doing I'm like I'm breathing like you said he's like no man you gotta like breathe fast like fast fast there's a guy whatever I went in and I see this guy lying there for like two minutes I go in the water and I eat water and I came right out so cold literally so cold eventually I got up I did it again I stayed up like two minutes again I did it for like seven minutes because I couldn't feel anything anyway and uh it was it was it was a fascinating thing but it's so cold and this is the guy tells you about I tell you them as a cow this was freezing cold I was like okay and then he says let me tell you what happened I was doing great I was passing test after test after test I was doing wonderful until finally it came to the very end and suddenly I got such a stomach pain I couldn't bear the pain and I lied on the floor and my general came over and he said what's the problem it was like uh because of the bum no he's like okay and he's like you know he's like jumped in again and like but he has such pain he feels like he he's dying is what's going on so they called medical and they start checking they're like we gotta take them to a guy taking the hospital so they take him he's like he's like no no I don't have to go I'm not he's like he's like I'm totally fine I'm you know like I'm really okay you know oh that's a normal way of standing constantly he's like you know no really I'm fine I just I I like to I like to get to the fetal position sometimes it's just it reminds me of my youth you know I just like to do it so he's like he's like nothing doing he's like this is an order get in the in the ambulance and they take him they Rush him to the hospital they do every test Under the Sun that's not true it's like an expression people say it's not really everything there's a lot of tests you can don't say but a lot of tests they come out with nothing no kidney stones no no no liver Stones little stomach Stones there's no stones the rocks nothing and the guy stands up and he feels 100 better and they're like what you feel it's like I'm fine like why are you still in the fetal position like and then he stood up he's like I'm telling you totally fine like okay so they bring him back when he gets back he goes back in and the soldier the general says well I'm so sorry but like uh you can't join why not because you left the test he said you told me to leave the test he said details I'm sorry but you laughed you ordered me to leave other details and I I understand if you're frustrated we do have a suggestion box it's circular and has a flapper opens and closes it's by the door just put it in and we'll throw it out in the morning but I want to be part of so badly aha cries a little gets back in the fetal position see no it's just it's the thing I do to cover myself and then he says to him nothing doing you're not in and he was devastated he was devastated he's thinking like I worked so hard to get to get to this level it's not like you joined the army you go through that you have to go through years of training already and then after that decide to continue on and his whole dream was to get there and now the guy ordered him out and there's no problem there was no problem nothing happened and and he had to leave because of him and yet come on that's not fair you know it's funny because a lot of times when we complain about things it's like we go to our teacher because like we got a 97 and we really think we deserve a 98. you know because I did guys don't understand this example but ladies you know exactly what I'm talking about you know it's like I really should have got a 98. so you go and complain and they go nah you whatever you're like it's not fair because the only one who told me to do that in like details and we get frustrated but I want to get a little more intense what about we get a ticket you did nothing wrong why don't we get ripped off what happened and fill in the blank with all the stories so this guy said I went on to what's called Golani I still joined a unit which I felt was worth you know honoring and fighting for the country but I never got to go there years later there was a unfortunate discovery that became public this unit that he wanted to join that he wasn't Socha to join he wasn't able to join and he really wanted he wasn't able to used to do their training in a place called kishan I don't know if anybody anybody familiar with nahal kishan and what happened I don't mean to that style that's very hey okay lady stopped showing off right but it's a place called in Israel and his unit used to dream there he was the only one in that unit that was still alive today because every single person they would train anakukishon ended up dying not immediately some that took years five years 10 years 20 years but most of them died of cancer why because there were some plants around it that were illegally dumping chemicals into the water and every time they went in the water they were bathing in chemicals and they ended up dying this guy though when he got kicked out of the unit that he trained years to go to was so upset and so frustrated and how could you and it's not fair sometimes we never get to see the end of the story this is the unfortunate time he was able to see the end of the story and he said thank God I didn't get into that unit not getting in was b t e the best thing ever the circumstances that occurred to our life the things that we go through those are the absolute best things that we could ever ever ask for everything Hashem does for us is the absolute best I can't answer the individual going through right now the worst I can't and when that person came to me afterwards and asked me the question I said I can't answer the question only you can I can't be the one to tell you something about and I'll tell you something I had a different class also not some another place I was teaching and someone came up to me also a young lady who lost her father and she asked me to say a similar question and I said I can't answer that question only you can answer it only you can answer the question for yourself when you're going through such a thing you can learn ideas and read up about it and learn you have to come to that on your own you have to be able to go through whatever process you need to go through through it to accept that and understand that but as a crowd I can't speak it's the best thing ever Michelle and here's the wild idea the famous gumbar which says just like when AV comes in we decrease our SIM card so to when other comes in we increase our simcha when AV comes in we decrease their joy and when other comes in we increase our joy in my experience when I ask people give me the month of the year that you're supposed to be sad which months of the year is supposed to be Saturn it is there is no month of the year that you're supposed to be sad does it say that you're supposed to be sad enough it says it's supposed to decrease your level of SIM card you know you're supposed to be in I've a little less state of thank you and another a higher level of simcha but you got to be with simcha all the time every day of our life no matter what we go through just so we can make a Brach on good things we make it on bad things which means you do it with sim card with joy the month of the year supposed to be sad is there is no month of the year to be sad pain is there is it is there a time you're supposed to feel pain sure there's pain but we decrease our levels of Joy because we want to show that like Hey we're lacking a little bit over here right we don't have the base I make Dash we don't have the beta mikdash we're lacking but we're meant to be with simcha even if we're in pain so what's the key to happiness the key is knowing that this is BTE this is the best bang ever there's nothing better than this moment so we don't generally have to use that when we're in times which are clearly good or seemingly good it's only when you have something which just Rises what's like a negative type of feeling that we have to remind ourselves BTE stop for a moment we have no idea what's going on you got a question hit it saying the key of the happiness is that to recognize the fact if that's what you you I mean then yeah that's a nice idea I like that again it's not what I was saying but I like it if that's what I'm saying that I'm saying it in other words if that's how you heard it then yes what do I mean by that we all hear different things like you walk out of here you ask everyone so what do you speak about hopefully you'll say BTE then someone say what does that mean you're like I forgot what I'm saying all right Best Time Ever the best time it was the best thing bacon lettuce tomato like I don't know exactly what it is but everyone is different way of expressing it if that's how you understand it what I mean to say is a thought process if that means live in the moment then yes you get it because a lot of times catchphrases like live in the moment yeah yeah yeah uh thought process thinking being aware focusing a person with a focus and be aware of what's going on it would change everything and that's what it comes down to that's the the famous of gifter or of palm things of gifting maybe it's your palm maybe both of them let's say most people in life are searching for this country called Happiness a little do they realize that it's a state of mind it's a state of mind it's up in the air it's how we think it's our Focus are we thinking are we not thinking if we're thinking then we got to take it a little bit further recognize the fact that I'm not gonna this is not a sharing how do you know there's a God and how I know everything it does as good or whatever it is that's a different share look it up and turn anytime but when I am pointing out over here is that once we know that there's a shadow we know whatever does this for the best now that we know that now we can understand this is the best thing ever and to live in the moment and to focus on that makshava we get the state of when we hear a story like the nachle kishan story how many of us think for a moment about ourselves how many of you think of themselves when they thinking of that story it's too often that we hear the story as like that happened to that person without thinking that happened to me when this bad thing happened this terrible terrible thing like I got stopped at a red light why God why would you make me sober yeah I'm saying that's what I said tonight but we got is like such intensity like what are you talking about it's the greatest thing ever sometimes we're so good to see it sometimes we Merit to see it sometimes we don't Merit to see it but it's something which has to be said over and over and over again we forget things we forget things we forget things we forget things we forget things we forget about them we know that we forget them we know they'll forget them last night I was having a conversation with a student of mine he says to me about David he says prayer is davening is hard it's hard for me like what God is such like an insecurities I have to say like a cow a goddal a giver you feel better now okay honora what what else do you think everyone really what's going on over here why does he every day three times a day to say it again and again and again said to him my friend in times like these let's go again it's hard to see past the insanity it could be that that was uh someone else said that um but I said to him it's not for God that you dive in it's not for God that you go out and you pray hashem's okay he's all right like if you're like that's it I'm still angry at God I'm not doubting and guys like Angels know you heard what she said what am I gonna do Hashem is going to be okay Hashem is okay so why are we diving then we're diving for us because we forget things we forget about the fact that this ain't no Lovato we forget about the fact that Hashem runs the world we forget about the fact that like we just gotta do our part and and live in this world called Teva for some reason craziness that's going on but really Hashem runs everything so when we wake up in the morning right in the morning don't forget hashems like Nora I start to praise Hashem it's for us to know oh I forgot a chevron's the world so we're on the way to davening and we get stopped by Red Lion in the center ah okay you've been diving here fine you forgot what would that be just finished it just finished you walk at the door and then we get stopped by traffic ah wait a minute I can't I got a giveaway Oh you mean oh you wanted this okay who gives everything let me get some of that so we ask for things motive thank you thanks Hashem the day goes on hour passes two hours three hours four hours imagine it like you know those you ever see I know if you've heard of like sometimes people do campaigns where they're raising money have you ever heard of such a thing before right so if you are alive in the year and you have any sort of connection to anything so sometimes you have like that thermometer which is like going up as you give more imagine a thermometer is like at the top it's in full power that's right after you dive in but then as the day goes on we start to forget we forget we forget we forget five hours six hours oh yeah silly meat that's the center my life did you pray my baby okay I love it it's not okay so so if it's not a kid don't do it make sure you do not do it you should be caught doing something else a little side point like if you have time to be instantly with your grandmother you get to have a knife see a lot of confused people here apparently you did not know that that was the real Instagram to be instantly with your grandmother I remember the first time I heard Instagram I thought this was like a new pop-up Grandma I think I was like we invent grandmothers quickly Instagram sign up today if you have time for YouTube if you have time for whatever it is that's not connected to any sort of growth in any way shape or form you have a key of 2000. a reminder we forget we forget we forget forget Hashem Hashem runs the world ain't no blue father is nothing but a chef BTE is the best thing ever called Everything Hashem does is for the good is for the best that's what others about us to remind us of these ideas and lift it up and lift it up my Urban let's increase that let's get it more and more remind us we need that we need to fill it up to be able to make it through the year and to remind yourself to remind yourself and remind yourself Simon friends we say is he quote unquote it was a secret but it's not anymore Secrets out of the back that is my shovel we gotta be thinking we got to be adding we've got to be pushing and like we said so how do I deal with all the pain that I'm going through and the different circumstances that I'm involved with I can't tell you he's an individual but as a crowd I can tell you how can I deal with these kind of circumstances do you realize that there's a chef of course I do do you realize everyone's world of course I do but how do I deal with the pain you didn't answer the question do you realize that everything Hashem does for the good of course I realize but how do I deal with it huh do you realize that this is the best thing of the Avenue I know it's the best thing but what am I supposed to do how do I be happy if you stopped and you thought about it for one second it changed the entire way we saw our life so my friends what I want to do right now is as usual quick recap everything we did end up at one point then we got it started off in the beginning in the beginning BTE best time BTE best thing ever thank you the best thing ever circumstance is happening right now in your life this is the very best thing for you there's nothing better you could add this is it do that this is it this is what we're talking about you hit the top of the top well they were God what I would have done is I would have created this that what about you Rabbi I want to do exactly the same thing because God was God God what's going on with perfection that's the best thing to understand what's going on how could it be sorry maybe this is perhaps it's a perception because we start to look down at something all of a sudden it becomes a little more difficult for each other we start to see like wow sorry man it's the most incredible thing washboard yeah right so clean everything get involved in no problem I know everything yeah they almost said oh she ain't so great out there all um then what happens over there all of a sudden he goes off like she's depressing it's not impressing her it's hard to be a maid servant it's hard to be doing these things but when a person goes to understand the fact that this is really what's worth it so hey it ain't so hard anymore but when the person that says hey this is this is something which is not worth it all of a sudden becomes very difficult for him realize the fact that I couldn't it's the greatest of the great and if I can go work for master Wayne that how pleasurable that would be oh credible being is it a hard deal that's fine but like we spoke about the Super Bowl why are you watching but we saw but the Superman's idea of what if it's very hard and difficult while swim and I'll go and I'll run the field and I'll do what I'm doing because it's worth it because there's value over here but a person is not value all of a sudden becomes very difficult I can't tell that the individual but I can tell to the group that's understand the fact only you could tell you if you're that individual and you have to be telling yourself that best thing ever not hockey shot worst thing could happen I want to so badly fit in a position run to the hospital come back I'm fine sorry you left what details the suggestion box are you guys over here the same thing is the worst that could happen again and says how do I get out well I don't think the case but he said no and he says ow I said what was that okay all of them dead the only ones still alive because of his feedables realizing my friends over here that the things that we go through in life they could be challenging and hard but if you understand the fact that was doing it maybe perhaps it would change the way in which we felt about it foreign which month is the sad month the answer is none of them every month is a happy mother just some is a little more and some is a little bit less but every month is a happy month especially when a person is focused and thinking of the fact that we're in the hands of Hashem someone who stopped and thought about that you shouldn't show me yourself we're chilling with a chef we're chilling yes [Music] here do you have time darling Maya I'm asking him just saying that you have to if you don't have time because you're busy the funny thing is is that a lot of women are married and they have children you may be actually partner from diving because you're very busy when you're not busy anymore so speak that talk to Hashem remind yourself fill yourself up Hashem is okay even if not but we're not okay and then we wonder like God's so hard and all the pain and the suffering if we stop and we would think about it it would change everything so as we go through my my challenge for you my challenge for you is that every day pick a time I don't care when it is every day of the month of either we have to add to it add to it add to it add to it every day hashtag BTA just wake up you gotta turn your one finger like that it's one finger like that and it's like a like that again it's not BTS best bang ever t-h-a-n-g this is the best thing ever if a person understood that's the best if you're from the south then do it like a New Yorker BTE or something like that yeah but the best thing ever what happens is you grab your mind and when you grab your mind with that thought then we start being in a state of Simcoe we started hitting the episode for all those right now who are going through some really troubling times I have no words I'm sorry that you're going through a hard time there's nothing I can say that's actually going to be able to help until you yourself are ready to hear something for all those who are above that level meaning that so long going through so much pain but just like we're making a lot of pain it's not being such a pain yeah stop being such a pain BTE best thing ever should bless every one of us that this month should be a month which is filled with the Simka we should be at a level where we're living specifically constantly by thinking through and being connected with Hashem having everything and anything we need we should have lots of money it's always a big one on that everyone loves that one this is talking to a society before I came in from Los Angeles and I said you know you should be blessed mouthful that a baby we said mouth stopping should have a lot of money it's like amen foreign [Music]