Rabbi Yaniv Meirov | How To Make A Difference | CHAZAQ

foreign [Music] the fact that I got my inspiration I could leave right now thank you very much have a great day but all kidding aside um just a few words that Hashem on the topic of making a difference every single one of us wants to make a difference we want to become great we want to do good things for cloud yourself for the Jewish people and I'm gonna just preface those words says in the beginning of Mr sharing what does he say over there but there's no hidushim there's no insights everything that he writes everybody already knows but what do we need we need reminders people need to be reminded that they need to take action to make a difference this is what we every single one of us in this community definitely need to do definitely need to do there's a fire raging in the community so much assimilation people into marry like never before in the past when there was intermarriage the babulia and the grandfather and the grandmother they'll put up a fight no we're not coming to the wedding we have nothing to do with this unacceptable today what's happening is that unfortunately if you see the pictures and you see the videos your mama's gonna turn colors it's scary three four five hundred people weddings dancing it's scary it's acceptable it's okay it's fine but as we all know obviously it's not and the only way to make sure that it doesn't continue it doesn't happen is by making a difference by doing something by saying that I want to get involved with Hashem Eli but many times we want to make a difference and there's no there's no one there's no interest you know I'm busy with my own life let me take care of myself you know I I to help somebody else I mean I need help myself so we have to remember what the hinook says and he says something very very powerful he says you know what that means after doing actions then the heart's gonna come many times people feel like oh you know I have to want to make a difference I have to want to be able to come and get those to become a technique to become great sometimes you might not want in the beginning but after doing actions making a difference reaching out to people learning with others giving some care of encouraging others to keep Shabbat around the next thing you know your heart is there as well after action comes to heart after the actions you have to remember that and I remember once hearing from the renowned video I have over here in Queens you give a share and he said as follows how does one influence others how do you make a difference how do you get others to build something follow let's say your ways let's just say you have a family member a friend a neighbor that's not keeping Torah Meets World and you want to influence him what's the property will influence others and he says as follows that there was the Divine market and we all know the Dublin will always give over Parables you always give over mashallim and who is Israeli it was the villagome now the villain was not uh so into Parables it was a little bit as we all know he's a genius Torah inside and out backwards and forwards and what happens is that how do I make a difference to people how do I make a change how do I make the world a better place and the villain of going believe it or not actually gives his student to Parable he gives him a shot he says take for example an individual and he has a big cup he has a big cup right and he wants to make a difference right how do you make a difference he said that you have a bunch of small cups around the big cup and let's just say there's a lot of water there's a lot of wine and you put it into the big cup how do you get the big up to give over to the small cops by having an overflow when you individuals have an overflow of Torah you learn so much Torah that there's so much in you that it comes over to the other individuals you have so much here at your mind so much fear of Heaven that people just see you or and see your actions that it's gonna overflow onto them you have so much so much happiness in life that is going to influence the people around you to always be happy as well that is how we have influence on others by having an abundance for ourselves and that's where the summer cold is so important because throughout the summer many people for lack of better words what do they do they bum around right what are they they do nothing because of boredom that's where the sin comes if you have a family a friend and neighbor that you know is not the learning you should try to pull them in bring them over to learn over here it's unbelievable but that time we influence others others by having an abundance in ourselves the more we have in us the more we can give over to others and many times people say that listen I don't know much what do I know already what can I give over I want to give a class what can I give over that you give over whatever you know you know I'll live you know the letter Olive that's it you teach some of the letter aleph there's always people that are lower than you you know I live in bed listening beautiful great with happiness give over the letter Olive and give over the letterbed whatever you know whatever you learn you give over but people are scared oh my gosh what if I give a Class A khaburra and someone's gonna ask me a question that I don't know how to answer that's the biggest fear that people have I'm gonna teach somebody else and he's gonna ask me oh why we in this world and you're gonna be like I don't know you people are worried about that so first and foremost with regard to secure with regards to influencing and bringing those that are far near you have to understand that you don't have to know everything you don't have to know everything that's what we've all ever been Mississippi you could simply tell the individual Habibi my friend what a beautiful question you asked I have to get back to you I myself I'm not a jerk with regard to the question he just asked I want to share with you the answer's Farm say it very simply why we're in this world what's chat what's the reason anybody want to just throw out a a reason I give a share ones and people said to eat some food I'm like oh my gosh we don't live to eat we eat in order to live right and uh many different answers are given but the main answer is because God almighty he's a giver he wants to give he wants to he wants to give good and in order to give good what good is it that you have no one to give to if you're a giver for example during coven people were in lockdown right we are stuck in your own room in your own house imagine a person has no family and he's all alone and he's a giver I like to give I like to do character I like to do kindness what good is it do you like to do kindness when you're all alone who is a giver and he created mankind us human beings in order to give to and once he has us then he's able to give some people are thinking right now okay so we're in this world because God wants to give and when usually someone gives you something what does he give you usually gives you something good right present so how do you explain suffering how do you explain the issues and problems and this one has health issues like this one that can't find his evil this match and it's okay it doesn't have somebody please don't this will need Partners livelihood how do you explain difficulties and hardships and the answer is very simple moravity will die God realized that when he created the world right there's a famous thing what's the saying it goes like this easy come easy go when you do something and you don't work hard for it you don't appreciate it same thing with myself many times we organize different things when I put my own my energy my cohort into it you feel that simple you feel that ah amazing feeling but when somebody else does it or it doesn't really put so much doing it it happens it's not the same feeling when a person works for someone something not for someone when you work for something you work hard for something you appreciate it much more there's an interesting scientific study what's the scientific study that most people that win the lottery you know what they do they used to work as shoemakers they used to sell hot dogs on the streets you know what happens after a few years they're back at their original jobs how does that make sense what job what's the reason for that and the reason is because Easy Come Easy Go they didn't work for the money they just earned the money they just won here here's a billion dollars they didn't have they didn't use the financial they didn't do smart moves and they investing they spent and they threw Here There and Everywhere and that's you know they're back to square one we have to earn you have to enjoy we have to work on ourselves and that's why because who created this world and he created the next World we're in this world to work on ourselves like a broad story like a hallway in the hallway what do you do you figure yourself up a little bit and then you go ahead and you enjoy at the actual party same thing over here in this world we have to work on ourselves we have to grow we have to learn we have to dive in we have to do handset we have to do as much as possible Google things and we do so much good things because then we're going to be able to go to hola I'm about to the next World and Proclaim they were told that we're good just like everything else was proclaimed off besides for human beings besides for mankind when there was briato I'm the creation of the world so too everything else was was good because they are what they are human beings we have to work on ourselves and then we're going to be proclaimed to the next world that we're good an interesting Commandments and it says his follows there are four individuals that never sinned never did any other perfect right who knows who these four people are yishai the father of David next foreign good job guys four individuals that never sinned now the simple question is I DaVinci this morning and whenever we don't mean I read as well we do we start off at okay around okay wouldn't it be better to start off they were perfect they never sinned an even better question I know it's not Sukkot I know I know but it's too cold we have the seven special guests right we have Abraham yourself and David none of these four make the list what shot what's the reason something so powerful and he says as follows that they were yes they died with no sin 100 yes but they're relatively they live their lives segregated they live their own lives they do whatever they had to do they weren't involved with the cloud they weren't involved with the community they weren't involved with others and when you're not involved with us you're not about the claw it's very simple to just be in the enclosed area not to have any other Road or any sins you know us you know or no Godzilla ain't no doing the wrong things but when you're involved with the cloud with the community you're gonna unfortunately that's just the way it is not be perfect because no one is really perfect but at the end of the day it's much better to still do car work it's better to go and Bob and be involved with the community be involved with others even though it might take away but it's interesting is thinking when I'll talk for my own personal experience as we all probably know because I started I was at 15. I was pretty young um we're going to send everyone over here is more or less around that age yet no one's uh there's 13 and up over here what's the ages over here all ages I see but more or less it was 15 years old and at first you know I was in Yeshiva and this rigorous Yeshiva a lot of studies and learning of course the Moody kodesh and of course General Studies as well but at the end of the day I had this drive this want to make a difference and at the end of the day today boxing many many years later I want you to know I had a very big effect on the positive many people say oh and they're just the opposite what do you mean when you time away from family and time away from Leisure and time away from having a good time what are you talking about being involved with Cloud takes a lot of your coffee energies it just happens it gives you such a simple such a love such an enthusiastic excitement many people come and see me they say how does it work I want to wake up with a um with an energy in the morning I wake up just another day or Ebay I have to go to sure I have to die oh my God that done what life is meant for life is meant to have a home to have a positivity so when you have involvement with the cloud you do things like we said in the beginning but after the actions your heart your desire is going to be there you have to jump into the pool my children have to Longo I remember my wife she took them to some swimming pool and uh at first oh my God for this guy we didn't want to go the water is cold is that the whole night s they're in to get them out totally big no come on let's go we have to go home no no they didn't want to go same thing with the Holy Torah and same thing with regards to getting involved once you start you can't stop in a sense there's such an enormous amount of work to do there's so many people to save there's fires going on and you can save the shamot we all know that the command tells us something interesting then what is more important to learn Torah or to go save lives in the essence moreover that is very very deep but Torah is forever but in this world you're only limited with a amount of time so in essence what we're saying is that if you have a person that's the public sins he does bad things right and you have another person that killed a person which one is worse think about it I can't hear you what desecrating right what do you mean you just killed a person so the hamim explained is very simple that when you kill a person you kill him from this world he would have lived 120 years and then that's it but in the other end when you make a person sin he does have erot you take away which is the next World how long is the next word is 120 years it's forever to understand what the forever is think about it this way you have a big massive Mountain okay and the mountain is made out of sand now every Thousand Years not 120 years again most of you guys are into your teens ages over here okay every Thousand Years A bird comes takes one piece of sand and puts it on the other side how long will it take him to finish the the bird to finish this whole mass of mountain take him forever right whatever how long it takes them millions of years right there's another Mountain after that and every thousand years he takes one piece and put it to the other side how long is that gonna take oh a million today right but whenever he's done with that one there's not another one but there's millions of more think about it that way Forever and Ever Ever every single word of Torah that we're saying right now is 613 meets above every single time we do has it and we have others we do kindness we do feel out whatever it is it's forever and the next time you have to judge oh my gosh I have to take care of something physical you have to take care of something spiritual what should come first should obviously be spiritual of course it's easier said than done at the end of the day we are we're human beings and we have bodies but it all depends on who on you if you want to make a difference you can make a difference I want to quote you or something I call him says and he said something really really powerful and inspires me a lot it says just like we have to believe God Almighty I mean bad small so do you have to believe in yourself we all believe in God Almighty we all believe in Hashem that's not even a question over here for this crowd but at the end of the day how much of us how many of us believe in ourselves how many of us do believe that we're actually coming out we have a condition we can make a difference we could change the world to make the world a better place and we can bring the ghoul up how many of us believe the whole world not just the old small children or a small community viewer or just queens or New York no the whole entire universe really you have to have that because that's me you have to have some time to have that self-esteem that belief in yourself to make a difference and yourself could change it okay stop stop you not the problem many people is they're satisfied with going with the flow we're going with the flow this one does it this way and let's continue going this way no just the opposite we have to break the flow sometimes and we have to try to do things a little bit different and I'll tell you why because up until now whatever we did whatever we did all the shoes and all the yeshivas and all their belief and all the speeches and all the programs and all the organizations all that good stuff that happened up until now he didn't do the job's not here yet that means whatever we did is not enough that means every single one of us need to increase and do a little bit more it's very simple math it didn't do the job what do you have to do to do the job you have to do more that's where you have to all take it upon ourselves today what else does all say you know what it's not gonna just go in one ear and out the other but we're gonna make a difference we're gonna do something and start small start small and climb the ladder a little by little it's going to become a domino effect one thing will lead to the next continue pushing nothing should stop you even when you have difficulties in hardships you have that mission you have that goal you're going to reach it reminds me of Noah Weinberg so what happens is that he had a mission his mission was to build a Yeshiva for care of students now back then when you started it wasn't popular there's so many amazing organizations in Yeshiva then it's happening thing it's cool but back then it wasn't it wasn't like what are you doing you must do you crazy what are the chances of anyone coming and you know what happened you open them Yeshiva and the next thing you know it failed it didn't work out and with what I understand you open up another one and another one and another one and then it failed and unveiled and unveiled there was money there wasn't students the building got kicked out whatever the story was but he had a mission he said I'm not gonna give up and the next thing you know he builds across the street from the beautiful hotel and so many thousands of people being inspired women through these she wanted to Performance of the organization when there's a will there's a way but but the way you want to go that's where who in the angels and Shaman's gonna guide you you have to just continue pushing and let's not go all the way so far Terry's he's strong over here locally in Queens there's a Yeshiva called yes I'm sure some of you guys heard of it some of you guys might be from there so the history is actually very interesting I heard this from none other than Robbie orlovsky who spoke at a kazak event and he said his over ones and I remember it's over in the league and he says like this that uh the Yeshiva started by David no the time sorry we'll be strong mayor I'll call him Kagan right Mr Brewer sent his nephew of David Leibowitz he sent his number of double cleavage to America in order to build Torah in America that was his vision saved Horror in America and rev David came in that tremendous amount of obstacles and difficulties to starting this YouTube I had a lot of difficulties remember that he had so much pressure on him listen very carefully that he died he passed through a young age now the Yeshiva was up and running in a sense and he had his son the past Russia's takeover you know romantically which was he was 17 years old 17 year old Russia Shiva and what happened is that his father gave his life for this and he wanted to fulfill the couple times dream of saving Torah in America and what happens is that there's a Fallout in the Yeshiva what happened was that there was a magic many of you may have heard of scheinberg and they had it split took many of the students and we've had that people who left with just a few and he was thinking to the point to close up shop and just become a prosec just because my body said what do you need to be gone bro should you have a whole issue but no that somebody did he continued and today bro Christianity is a thriving issue that opens up branches all over the country so Mr Eyes giving over why because there was a vision there was focus and there was a goal and not letting go and pushing and persevering and encouraging others it's a mindset and with this little Environ will die with the following story it was a story of an individual that wasn't feeling well yeah never know and everybody gave about leaving the doctors and the family they prepared the levia and they prepared his burial spotted and everything was ready for him but the doctors and the families that let's give one last surgery let's give it one last chance and what happened was that they gave this one last chance and he made it he made it it was a shocker it was unbelievable now after making it after all these months and years whatever time it was he decided and the proper thing to do is to do a sudatodaya today event Thanksgiving right or their appreciation that's what our root is as you deem as Jews Jews appreciation we have to always be appreciative Hashem always remember to be thankful every single time no matter what and what happens is they add this to that I invited all his family and friends and neighbors and everybody was there and he invited one doctor from the hospital and that doctor's name was Dr Sergey Dr Sergey came in you sit on the dates with all the rabbis and their guests he's like me he's like you yes and they were insistent and he sat over there and this individual who recovered got up to speak the family and the friends but I want to make a very special thank you to one individual who I give a lot of credit to me being alive today and that is Dr Sergey and all of a sudden everyone's clapping oh yeah and the guy's looking like me they're like yeah you he's like why he's like I want you to know there was that last surgery and people everybody gave up hope on me and the anesthesia was coming down and it was alert and I overheard all the doctors and the nurses speaking one after the other after the other after the other every single doctor nurse was saying no chance impossible finito finish done no chance but there was you Dr Sergey that I overheard you say that I believe that he could make it alive I believe if he takes care of himself and he takes the proper medications he has a proper mindset he's very sorry I'm gonna make it alive and what happens is that I heard your message and it gave me strength and I'm alive today and they see that Dr Sergey is turning interesting colors and he's a little bit shy they're like is everything okay he's like no no I need to speak and he gets up it's open for that so that's remember that day like yesterday and what happened was yes every single one of the doctors were saying that you have no chance but when you heard me say that there is a chance I wasn't referring to you my friend I was talking about the guy next to you in the other room I also thought that you had no chance where I rebutai what was the difference was his mindset his makshaba his thoughts he believed that he could come alive and that's what happened he's alive in the world if we believe that we can make a difference that we could change the world we could make the world a better place we could do it but it starts with us we have to work on ourselves first like the Imam is over here we all know yeah you put the effort you try I believe you're gonna be successful you have to just try it I know already every single one of you guys are thinking it sounds good it sounds great but practical topless what do you want me to do if I met you who really want to get involved with stuff we'll keep you busy for the rest of your life times a thousand we can keep you busy forever it's not an issue but if you really want if you don't want to if you don't want then nothing could help you people that whenever you do care if you want to help someone that's on drugs you ever want to help someone that's not doing well whatever the situation is they don't want you could try your whole life trying to help this individual nothing without because the person has to want himself same thing with you guys if you really want we could get you involved we can make a difference we have Sunday schools and after school programs in the individually share them Here There and Everywhere We could do more we can do a lot more and I wholeheartedly believe if we get all of you so many of you being out that are here that come there's not to assume we could see not only see the last time we should be able to breaches foreign anything was perfect shocking why I get such a good craft I usually have a cure of cows they're a little bit more uh what do you say any questions it's perfect so you're starting uh you're starting to give shearing now huh foreign what you're good you're great okay Mario did we start with ourselves and then we continue to others when's minha four four what time do I have how much longer they told me to to the 15th no I can continue I have one more story to share with you they told me it's 2 15. 217 I'm not gonna get in trouble okay one more store where we die very very very very important to start with yourself it starts with yourself okay and there's a famous story I'm sure you might have heard it before I actually heard it from a rabbi named Robbie zevla he is a rabbi and everything style he's a big Sadiq he gives shirim and he spoke once for kazak and Lori started in the Kazakh NYC and over there he told over a story was sitting over there and I remember like it was yesterday and it really had a very big effect on me because I'm always into a little child change your world make the world the brightest bring the Gula let's go you know always into that and uh good things that happened but I really think that if I had this story a little bit earlier like I'm going to tell you right now in your age it's gonna have a very big effect especially with the summer cold that you're in right now he basically had a thought there was a father and he was babysitting watching his seven-year-old son now the father wanted so badly some peace of mind Yeshua died leave me alone every few seconds the sun will be like Abba I need this Abba I need that app I want to eat up I want to drink get this get away from me right so what happens is that the father was reading a newspaper and he wanted to read it with a peace of mind then he sees ah I have a great idea he sees a picture of the world map it's like I'm gonna rip it off and I'm gonna rip it into pieces a lot of pieces I'm gonna give it to my child I'm gonna keep him busy it's a puzzle right just uh just an interesting joke that there was a child who came over to his father he said Abba you won't believe it now what happened Jonah what happened my child he said listen it says that uh that uh this puzzle it's a it's a I finished it in 10 hours honestly what's a big deal you finished the puzzle in 10 hours well it's a big deal he said it takes two to three years that's what the box says he says it's two to three years old of Ages for the child not uh it takes two to three years but all kidding aside uh so what happens is that he rips up the newspaper and a piece of paper the world map to pieces and it gives it to his child he said finish this I give you a candy I'll give you a lot about you take it to the store I'll give you something right so what happens is ah I have like at least a while now until you put it together it will take forever right after a few minutes I'll be here what do you mean here I'm done what do you mean you're done how did you finish over us the child laughs at the father he's like I don't know the world map I don't know where this I don't even know the country like I definitely know geography but I don't know whether this part in that part goes but the other side of the paper was a picture of a man was a picture of a person thing so I might not know the world map but I know where the nose is and the ears and the hands and the feet and the stomach and the eyes and whatever it is and I put it all together and my beloved said so beautifully he says like this many of us want to change the world you want to make the world a better place where did it start it starts with you it starts with me once you pick fix yourself up you put the pieces together you learn Dora you work in your character traits you work on your me duct then automatically what's gonna happen to the other side The Whole World's Gonna Come Together as well The Whole World's Gonna Be about such a better Muslim because it all starts with who it starts with you if we work on ourselves and that means learning that means growing and learn learning constantly learning every single moment every single opportunity we have to learn we have to learn we have to push we have to grow never stop never let anything hold yourself back you have to have mentors after everybody has to have a conversions you have to have people to challenge you for growth never be status quo never be satisfied never be like my life is good never ever be status quo always grow always be beneley always take more things upon yourselves presentation if you do so we should like I said before you see that you lost your mind not only come but we should be able to be so ready to bring it ourselves visitation I really enjoyed being here very impressive