CHAZARAH - Bechoros Daf 46 | "Nothing but the Daf" with R' Eli Stefansky

[screaming] >> Some of these I promise you you'll never forget for the rest of your life. For instance, the with the bridge. With had to go on the bridge. And today we also have a The impossible to forget today's So it says the we're holding like uh I don't know, 15 lines from the top. [clears throat] And be dextrous. If a person is ambidextrous like this So he's He's ambidextrous. In in today's society No. If he Oh, I'm sorry. Yeah, yeah, sorry. Uh lefty. A lefty is no good. A lefty we know in the no good. That's the If he's ambidextrous and he controls both of his hands Rabbi says even ambidextrous Why? It actually shows a weakness in his right hand. In other words, like sharing his strength with his left, it's a weakness. He has a Not that he has a weak right hand, but he has a strong left hand. Says the now we're talking about color pigmentation. Very dark person. We're going to have to see in the what is. White or red It's a little person. [clears throat] Dwarfism. What do you mean? >> Vertically challenged. [clears throat] So this is interesting because usually means a deaf mute. Over here there's is whether it means a mute because it's possible that just being deaf, even though it's not a nothing If you're deaf mute, you're in a So is really bad because it's not a real at all. It's zero So they're saying that it could be it's only the hearing part and what's the problem? So what if he doesn't hear? That we could all relate to. Someone who's drunk. And someone who has but it's a It's a it's blotches on the skin. These are all no good by a But they're okay in an animal. I looked it up. I never really encountered an animal that's like you know, that like mentally disabled. And there is such a thing. There's like all the things that we have basically >> Mad cows. >> Mad cow. Yeah, mad cow disease. >> The dog that with rabies that they have like foam coming out of their mouth. They're like crazy. >> I don't think Yeah, I guess. But now I'm talking about a real mental disorder. They're slow. They they can't calculate, you know. So if you use such an animal for a carbon, it's not great. Not great. If you remember this one, I'm just showing you a piece of the video. You have it? >> My neck. Just a little flap. It'll be fine. Anything else? >> These are by a person, a little flap of skin. Says the what's Dark. is the opposite. Very pale. Red. Who wants which is like a of means white, not red. So let's start over. That we're going to stay with. is means red. [clears throat] And the word means white, pale. Like that guy that was screaming at me. Who wants a animal? And they realized he was selling very pale white animals. What does mean? Super super tall. Here, something like this. This Putin with some out of control tall. We see all over the we saw yesterday that Moshe Rabbeinu was tall. By it says he was taller than everybody. takes pride in in in the tall people. Says I see says I I destroyed that they were tall like like the cedars. In other words, he he's impressed by or he takes pride in the in the tallness. >> Not a moment. >> Right? He's bent over. That's the problem. He's like this sort of. And therefore is is is spine is sticking out. That that's already not a nice thing. So this is a lesson in A tall person should not marry a tall person. I was very on this one. Because it it could, you know, it just gets even taller. You get like a ship mast, like you know, the A small person should marry another small person. Why? Come a kid like a little finger come out. Too white, too pale, don't marry another pale. You'll have too much too too much of the same thing is not good. Too much brains is also not good. You got to like average. Average it out a little bit. This is the How do we get this boy for my daughter? A golden boy. You You could die. A will die if he drinks wine and performs So it will ruin the So it should be a different list. It should be in the list of that destroy We're talking about it says in the Look, it says If it's not wine and beer, it's something else that that causes a person to be tipsy. That's uh it's not doesn't You You eat this fig that that's fermenting. This is interesting. Milk also has the ability, I guess, to to make you a little tipsy. They explain with water, whatever it is, it has some honey that causes this you know in whatever knows about jail. Yeah, I know a lot about jail. I read up on They make They make alcohol from anything over there. They'll They'll make They have all these different ways they take, I don't know, fruit, they take apples, whatever they Anything can turn into alcohol at the end of the day. So if you if you drink that kind of alcohol, it's it doesn't Interesting. There are things that in a person the same thing is kosher for that but There's a Uh, mother and her son in the same day. But here a father and a son can perform the is going to say but isn't that different a mother and a son, a father and son? Over here it says like everybody here was in the Hebrew share they struggled with this one, but in the English share it seems like everybody got it. I would have thought probably it's a problem. I don't know if you would have asked me. It's not a problem in a human being. So, what if he has a hole in the heart, hole in his lungs, all the the the movement that we learned. It doesn't A caesarian ruins it for an animal, doesn't ruin it for a They take out this line So, in order for him to perform he has to make a which is very strong. He says I will not have any benefit from this woman. She cannot benefit from [clears throat] me. A guy who works in the constantly dealing with dead bodies and he's a Even if he's today, he's completely He cannot perform He's a guy that always becomes [snorts] So, he has to accept it upon himself in front of a that he's not going to do this again. But it's different than making a What does it mean So, let's do this easy stuff. We're talking about a a father and a son so then we have to say that the animals are also a father and son animal. But there's no by a father and a son. It's a mother and her son animal cannot be in the same day, not a father and son. Oh, oh, oh, that's the answer. So we must be saying that it's a female and her son. So but it has a fit. It must be a female and her son. She doesn't perform an So we're talking about a father and son We have to talk about a father and son animal. Therefore it goes like Okay, [snorts] does apply to as well. A father and a son, you cannot check the father and son. We said that's more like the mother has and her son and the father couldn't care less. This bull running around, who cares about it? Fourth steps. In other words, a person who's married to to a a One of the things that he's not allowed to be married to, all he has to do is make a I will divorce her and he right away goes ahead and performs You don't have to divorce her that minute. You come back home and then divorce her. Says what's cool about the right here in three lines, take two minutes. We're going to go through the All like a bunch of these that we spend many, many days learning all wrapped up in the three lines. [clears throat] There's a concept in a person makes a he goes to the rabbi and the rabbi says, listen, if had you known this and this and that, would you make the you would say no. No, they have to explain exactly what the So he's going to go to the rabbi. Rabbi, I'm a I'm married to and I want to perform and I made a I'll never have anything to do with my wife. So the rabbi says very good, keep on doing that. Great, go home. What do you want from me? The rabbi is not going to be in such a situation. >> You know If you hold that you don't have to specify what your nether was. So how's the rabbi going to know why he made the nether and he might just say oh you want If you make a nether in public that has a lot more power and it stays and the rabbi can annul it. That's great if you hold it that's the If you hold that you couldn't annul a nether that was done in public what are you going to do about it? There's in front of the public and then there's with the public's knowledge and [clears throat] When the We are taking your nether and we're we're we're doing the nether for you so to speak. We're accepting your nether that is unbreakable. But there is a situation where you can break it. [clears throat] Remember this This is going to be one of those you'll never forget for the rest of your life and here it comes. Even if you say that a nether that was done in public has an annulment but if it's with the with the public's How do you say in English? Not consent. Their awareness and their their their their will. Their understanding their understanding is okay no Approval maybe approval. You cannot break it. That's only for I'm not going to I'm going to be be on a diet. I'm making a nether I'll be on a diet But if it's for then you have whole rabbin that are going to break it for you. You have everybody together, they could break it for the Says an an incredible story, a shocking story. There was a And said, make a to me that you'll never teach again in school. Why? Because Rashi says in that he used to hit the children very strongly. But this is the you want to remember for the rest of your life. Rashi says he killed children in the school. So instead of putting him in jail, they made him make a that he's not going to teach anymore. But that's not the end of the story. said, you know what? We got to put him back into his position. There were people yesterday in they didn't I saw there was a guy sitting next to me. He was like this. I was like what's going on? The guy beat up kids, killed them, and they reinstated him because they couldn't find a a that was as good as this It's fascinating. The explained that he did that he is not going to do it again. But the fact that they'll bring him back First of all, this is what? [clears throat] but I go with the extreme. I got to push that. I have one button. I don't have four. That's the button to push other people's buttons. THIS IS WHAT OH, MEANS THE TRAUMA THAT HE CAUSED THEM. THAT'S the That's the They NEVER CAME TO HAD THEY COME TO THEY WOULD BE ALIVE and well. the famous Oh, we have >> [music] >> Where are we holding? >> A bagel? >> We see in the mission two things. A person accepts upon himself not to work in the or a person has to make a not not not to benefit from his wife and his wife shouldn't benefit from him if he's married to When we're talking about the you have to make extra special precautions in the you have to make So we know that a There's two things about a gets two times A also when he's born usually if it's from it's not a you have to do So there's a for and a and they're not dependent on each other. In other words, sometimes you have a who's a first born who doesn't get Doesn't get a He gets but not a and sometimes and the same kid he does have to do a Yeah? So sometimes the is for sometimes it's for vice versa. Those are the two things. It says by a It must be the one that was born first. Came out of the womb first. So what if a mother [clears throat] had a miscarriage? Unfortunately it happens a lot. She had a miscarriage and then she had her first born. So depends at what stage and everything but it's possible that it's not The was for Give me a little wake him up. >> The second one is not a first born. But in terms of you get double. Why? Because goes with something else. Is this a kid that the father will cry about? The first one, since it's a it's a the father doesn't really he's not as distressed. What's the word? Distraught. Distraught is the word I was looking for. Distraught. Yeah. You don't even you don't go to you don't You try to it's hurtful and it's this, but it's not it's not like a first born that you got to know and you lost that one. So in terms of goes by the second one. So we're going to see the the the whole is one long And once you know this, you know the entire This is a that it gets two times but he does not have And there's a there's a boy who has to have opinion of but he does not get two For instance, if his father has a a boy from another marriage, the boy from the first marriage gets the double not the but he happens to be his mother's first born. So for him There are those who don't get anything. Oh, did I skip anything? is a normal son that gets Now the the Which one gets double portion but doesn't have to have opinion of If he was born after a miscarriage and the miscarriage, Rashi explains, happens to be his twin. were both together. Even though the miscarried one, the first one had was delivered alive, but since he was born in the eighth month, it's nothing in terms of a birth. And the same case the same case. Hold on. What? >> In that case, here you explained it that your head comes out and it goes back. >> Yeah, it goes back in. Goes back in. Has to go back in. And then there's another one. Yeah, otherwise there was a full birth. Yeah. I'm saying there was only a head birth, went back in. The same idea if but nine months he can't have a live head. This head came out dead. And then went back in and then the second one came out. If a woman do we need to show this thing? We showed it If a woman gives birth to something that resembles a bird. So over here, what's the what's the case? >> Congratulations, dear father. >> It's considered because the her womb opened with this but it's not something that the father is defrauded over and therefore the the second one gets the Here we'll just pause here for a second to see how this works. If a woman gives birth to a hippopotamus, then it's nothing, zero. So the next one the next one born is going to be a for and also for because the first one, the hippopotamus is not considered a It's not it's not a human being that came out of the The second one is everything. So is means there are twins, and one of the twins got squashed by its brother. So it's a human being. It's not a hippopotamus. It's a human being that just got crushed, looks like a shoe. It's flat. So it's more of a more of a birth. You have the afterbirth, you have the the the amniotic sac sac, whatever it's called. Or it's a regular baby came out in pieces. Once again, she had a birth beforehand. Yes, it was cut up. Yes, it's it was squashed, but it's a birth. But the father is not distraught over it. It's not So the second one gets now more there's there's other cases. He never had children. He married a woman who already has a son, a daughter. In other words, she already had a So this woman, next child, but for the father it's his first child. First child gets Let's say she gave birth when she was a slave and then she was freed. She gave birth while she was a non-Jew and she became a Is that considered that she already had a child? She already had a Then she gave birth to another child, child number two when she was Jewish. There's no Because it's not her But there is a because whatever she had beforehand is garnished. It's not in the It's not garnished, but it's not It's not true. This this guy gets also what? This guy this kid gets He does get The the opening of the womb must be done when the mother is Jewish. Says the mission now we're going on to the next category. The next category is that a kid is born, he must do a but he does not get What's the case? He already had a child beforehand, so his next child from his new wife is not his first born, so that this child born is not going to get double. But he has a because his mother never had a child before. In other words, the there's a two two non-Jews were married and she got pregnant when she was not Jewish, so the pregnancy happened when they were not Jewish. in terms of What? >> The father must be Jewish. >> What? >> If he's not Jewish, then there's no >> Correct. That's why there's no Hold on. That's what I'm saying. There's no You're saying there there shouldn't be even a And then she was freed when she was pregnant, so the the has nothing to do with her. to the father. The father has no connection to this Now what if two women are in a hospital room? Yeah, yeah, a new one. Two people. Ah. No, I have a I have a I have a different. Let's see what the says. Yeah. Yeah, it says in the side puts it together. She gave birth and a and a two women. In other words, one they're both they're both first born, but if the the the first born is not She's her son is same story. Or a woman already gave birth, so her and so too a woman who didn't wait the three months. So a woman who gets divorced or loses her husband cannot get married right away. She has to wait three months because if she gets pregnant and gives birth, we don't know if she gave birth from the first husband or from the second husband. Maybe it's from the second husband and and she gave birth in the seventh month, or maybe it's from the first husband in the ninth month. So you have to wait. Now she didn't do that, so we don't know what. But this baby is definitely a first born. We just don't know who the father is. We don't know who the father is. The son can't go to any one of the fathers and say, "Hey, give me your house," because he'll say, "I'm not your father. Prove it." But he has to redeem himself with because he's for sure a first born. Says the I'm going to skip a video. There's a video here, but I'm I'm just going to skip it now. It's not a bad video, but we're we're in a rush. Says the when eight in the eighth month of pregnancy, this this this baby sticks his head out. Sticks his head out, puts it back in. And then his second the second brother came out. So the the the the second one is the The second one is a and not the first one. The head alone is not enough to to give him a If this then the head is is considered a birth. If he can't he can't he can't live like that just just with the head. It died, then there's no there's no Not so does how does that fit in with our Says in our Mishna that if the first one, his head came out alive and went back in, you see that it's all dependent in the head. No. means not just the head. Our mission is referring to the like in the his head and most of his body. But it says the Gemara, wait a minute, but that's not what it says in the words. It says the word If you meant most of the body, it should have said that. You're right. It should have said it. It's the wrong word. We we chose the wrong word. But it's not the wrong word. Why? The next words in the Mishna are referring just to the head. So may the first part of the sentence is also just the head. over there it's the head. Because the head is dead. If the if it's in the ninth month and the first guy that came out his head was alive, then the second one would not be a That's why it uses that to mimic to to be um What's the word I'm looking for? Symmetrical or whatever. The should be symmetrical. So what [clears throat] are you trying to tell me? That just because his head came out that's considered a birth. We already learned this. We're talking about an animal we had a whole and that is an animal who you the mother and after you she's dead, you open up the stomach and you find an animal inside, a baby, you don't have to and if the baby's alive and well and walks around, five years later you come [clears throat] you could kill the animal, you could eat from the animal while it's alive, it's considered That's only if the animal never the baby never stuck its head out. But if it stuck its head out, that's considered a birth. So you see that the head is the birth. Even though it put it back in, it's considered a birth. Maybe over there I I it's yeah? Talking about a And over here we're talking about a human being. Why? Because you can't learn humans from animals and you can't learn animals from humans. Why? You can't learn a human from a person. Very interesting What's a birth? Birth means to come out into the world. By an animal, when the head emerges, it's out in the world. Any angle you look at the animal, you will see the head. Human beings, no. Even though their head pops out, you look at from different angles, you can't see it because part of the woman's body is covering it, the thighs. So maybe it's not a birth. Animal from a person you can't learn. Why? Humans, everybody's face looks different. And each the the the face is special. So when the head comes out, oh, that's the birth. But by an animal, their face is not special. But even though even so We also learned this. That what? We're talking about a woman who who who has to count days of If the head came out first, normal, most of his head came out. So we also learned this. That what? That the main thing of the birth is the forehead. over here there's a problem. Why? Because says what's the first line on The head doesn't count. Now over here you see that [clears throat] the forehead does count. Should we do a little bit more or Okay. The forehead is what counts in a birth everywhere. Besides when it comes to You have to you have to recognize. And you cannot recognize a human being just by looking at his forehead. Rabbi Yochonon says no. You could recognize a human being from his forehead. People have different foreheads. Everywhere. So here, a guy doesn't have a non-Jew doesn't have If she gives birth while she's a She doesn't have those 14 days of the whole thing. No So what happens if she's while she's a non-Jew she gave birth but only the forehead came out. And then afterwards she after she she was she gave birth to the rest. Let's say she was You know a lot of women they even today they want to give birth in water because they're more natural for the childbirth. So she's in a in a It's a great place to give birth in a She gives birth in the and as she's being I'm serious. The baby comes out. But the baby came out the the forehead came out while she was out of the water. And the rest of the body came out while she was in the water. So the goes by the forehead over here you see it goes by the forehead. She's not as a as a as a as a She doesn't even have to bring a carbon because when the forehead came out that was in the carbon and that was when she was a non-Jew. You have to recognize the face It says not the forehead. The forehead with the nose. So you have to say doesn't mean with the nose it means up to the nose. This is where the nose starts so it's the forehead. This this this is this is what you need for a You're coming to say that this woman who's They don't know what happened to the husband. Comes a guy and says listen he said what did he say? What did he see? He has to testify I didn't see the forehead. I saw I know that it's him. How? I saw a forehead with nose. So you see it's the nose. No, all that's to testify is the forehead part. Again, he comes to testify I saw the forehead but I didn't see the face. Or I saw the face without a forehead. You have to say see it with the nose. Everybody has to jump up right now and ask the question. We have to be super careful. But we all know that when it comes to You could hear a hearsay testimony is also good. A woman can testify for Is the one time in the that we allow a woman to to to give real testimony. Even a slave Says Gemara unbelievable. You're right. We're When? The testimony could be from anybody from a slave. But what did you see? What are you testifying about? They saw a forehead. Come on. How do I know that you saw the right thing? That you need a full face. You need to see for real. So over there I was what you saw. But how to testify? Where to testify? In one last thing. But by a woman it says All you need is to see the forehead. By a woman it The face that includes also the nose. Have a wonderful day. >> Merit the of spreading Torah throughout the world. Sponsor a today. mdy sponsor.com or sponsor at mdy dot dot com.