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twins. [Applause] I told you this rabbi's energy Rabbi Kador and because now his two twins got married. Both of the twins after 12 years. So, okay, now you can sit down, Rabbi. Special. You all came this morning because you all love Israel and we wanted to flourish. The Torah tells us today be like mem and gold. What you two have built is a legacy forever. We all want in our lives. I'd like to acknowledge the presence of my teacher Rabbi Ha who I learned so much from I can't say Joey it's not respectful Rabbi thank you for being here Rabbi Leon Con very happy for you Rabbi who has the yeshiva now bless you and really thank you guys for all coming out this morning Mickey the great Rabbi Nakman taught that there's three things that take away blessing. God always wants to givea like the sun that's always shining. Sometimes the clouds are on top. Sometimes things block. Which three things take away the baraka? Number one, if you're too worried, someone who's too anxious, the brain, the mind starts to contract. Instead of expanding, it collapses. When the mind which holds the soul is contracting, there's no room for blessing. Hashem says, "Trust me. I created you. I take care of you. I love you. You're my child. And therefore, things that you can take care of, take care of. Things that are in your hands, take care of. But once it's out of your hands, out of your head. Let go and let Hashem take over. The first thing that opens is trust that Hashem is in charge and can and wants to give you everything. The second thing that takes away the blessing is when someone becomes too obsessive and needy yet the opposite of the creator of the world. The creator of the world is not needy and obsessed with anything but he's only full and complete and giving. Says when a person is lacking and feels and complains and is too needy. Imagine you're a businessman and you have a product and you show it to the buyer and the buyer says, "I'll get back to you next week. I'm gonna show it to Target and Costco. And you call him every day, five times a day, and send him 50 emails. You know what he does? He cuts because lack attracts lack. He says, "This guy's desperate. I don't want him." On the other hand, make one phone call, you try. But after that, I trust in Hashem. Whatever I have, I'm complete. When someone feels the opposite of lack and neediness is, I'm complete with my life. What Hashem gives me today, I'm so happy with happy with my wife, happy with my home, happy with my children, happy with everything around me and I feel complete and that opens up more. Hashem says, "Hey, you're like me." What's the third thing that takes the blessing? Even if you have no worries, you're now not obsessed, you're not needy, but you're withholding. You're now the opposite of Hashem. When Hashem gives you bounty, he gives you, what do you do with it? You become a senor means a pipeline. God says my rat, my will. The will of God is the same letters. Ratson is means be like me. And when you take and you give to others a giving hand, you don't withhold. Hashem says you're just like me. I'm going to give you more. So what are the three things that cut the bounty? We call it the negative wow. W worried, obsessive, and withholding. The opposite is what we call the TCL, the trusting, complete in Hashem's love. Hashem, I feel complete, I feel good. And when you live large, instead of withholding, you give out. TLC, trust, love, live, and complete. A woman was taking a class this year and she said, "I used to be very needy. I needed to be heard. I need my husband to apologize. I couldn't sleep. I needed to be seen. She said once I learned I don't need anything except Hashem, I'm feel complete. It was my 30th anniversary and my husband tell me so what do you want honey for the 30th? I said this year nothing. I have everything. I'm complete. He's like no no really tell me. He said no I have everything. Rabbi it works. He said I want to give you double. I want to give you triple. I said no no. He said wait till the office 10 times then take it. Until then hold back. I don't need anything. I'm complete. That's attractive because you're like the creator of the world. I was taking our children upstate to visit my son in camp and we stopped by a ery, a big place where the goim have all their food under one of their stop stations and you see shake and shack. All kinds of foods the goim eating. We're trying to get a drink and I hear a woman behind me say, "Why is my favorite food place closed?" I look up, I see Chick-fil-A. Chick-fil-A, a big place. And I'm looking at the sign. We are founded in the 1960s. We are believers in the creator of the world. Sunday is a day to spend with your family and worship and therefore we close. We'll see you all Monday. I told them like children, you see, they don't suffer from the wow. Are they worried about money? Not at all. If they were worried, they'd open Sunday. They created obsessive, needy, not at all. You need us come back Monday. And they're not withholding it all. They give their employees. This is a universal rule that Hashem created everywhere. They trust. They feel complete. Live large. You know the number one eery today is Chick-fil-A. Everywhere you go, there's lines all over. People in real estate will tell you that these are the ones, the triple A best tenants. Why? Simple rule. Hashem wants us to be like him. Connect. Become like me. Don't withhold and much blessing will come your way. Maya and Ga, what you've done the past years is phenomenal. Someone in my own family dear to my heart also was going through the same thing. But you weren't just there to help financially. You gave them encouragement and it became like a family. This is a family organization. They reach out. They feel the love. They feel the encouragement. And this is something that is a tremendous. And their attitude was always Hashem is good. Gamtova Gam is Ga and Maya. Mr. Hara, Julie Hara, where are you? Mr. Hara, Mrs. Mars, we want to thank you really for opening your heart and your home and every child that will come from here is to your merit. Without further ado, Maya, please come up. Thank you, Rabbi, for those beautiful words. Good morning, everyone. Thank you so much for all being here with us this morning. It's truly moving to see so many faces, some familiar, many new. Each one of you here today is part of something much bigger than a breakfast, bigger than even a cause. You are part of building futures. Whether you walked this journey with us from the beginning or are just now joining our mission, I want you to know how much your presence means to us. It means you're standing with us in the most personal, painful, and ultimately beautiful battles a couple can face. The journey to build a family. Before we go any further, I want to take a moment to recognize two extraordinary individuals who have opened not just their home, but their hearts to all of us. Morris and Julie Hara, [Applause] your generosity, your grace, and your genuine care for our mission are simply remarkable. Your kindness has set the table literally and figuratively for the miracles that will come from this morning. And for the ones still to come, we are deeply grateful. On behalf of the entire Giving Hand family, thank you for making this event possible in such a warm and welcoming space. Now, let me take a moment to share with you what brings us all here together. My name is Mayer Asher and I'm the founder of A Giving Hint. But before I was a founder, I was just a husband. A husband praying every single day, hoping and waiting for a miracle. For nearly seven years, my wife Gold and I have faced the painful, lonely struggle of infertility. Let's break that down for a minute. Not only is it nearly 7 years, but 2,422 days. It has been 342 Shabbats where we have not been able to bless our children or to light another Shabbat candle for our children. And I want to be very honest with you about how that really looks. It is hard and it takes every ounce of energy out of you. Infertility is not just a medical diagnosis. It's a silent ache that follows you everywhere. It's walking into a sima smiling through gritted teeth while inside you're breaking because you're the only couple without a stroller outside of the shul. It's well-meaning relatives asking so any news when there is news but it's another failed cycle another loss and another heartbreak. It's the crushing weight of decisions. Do we try again? Can we afford to? Can we emotionally afford to? You try to be strong. You tell yourself, "Hashem has a plan." But some nights, you find yourself in the parking lot of yet another doctor's office, gripping the steering wheeling, steering wheel, and crying. A man trying to be the rock, all while silently crumbling inside. This is what infertility looks like. This journey is painful, isolating, and for many, completely unaffordable. Treatments can run tens of thousands of dollars per cycle. Many couples are already drowning in debt before they even see a positive result. That's why Giving Hand exists. We started this organization with one goal. To make sure no Jewish couple ever has to choose between financial stabil stability and a chance to build a family. Our mission was never just to write checks. It was to hold hearts to whisper you're not alone. to say we believe in your dream dream and we're going to fight it with you. Last year I stood on this very stage and told you that because of your generosity 17 beautiful children had already been born with the help of a giving hand. Today I am overwhelmed overjoyed to share that hashem that number has grown to 46. That's 46 cribs filled. 46 lullabies sung and 46 families who now know the joy they once feared they never have. Can we even begin to imagine what that means to them, to their parents, to their family and friends? And it doesn't stop there. Another 24 couples are currently expecting 24 more miracles on the way. 20 of them due before the end of the year. [Applause] But behind those numbers, behind every single baby, is a story of heartbreak, sacrifice, and courage. A couple praying through sleepless nights. A woman injecting herself with medication while holding back tears. Each of those stories began with a yes. Each child exists because someone maybe one of you sitting here today right now said I want to be part of this and I want to give and we need your help today. I'm asking you to please give boldly. Give generously. Give from a place of love because that's what this is really about. Today we are aiming to raise several hundred thousands of dollars not just to meet a goal but to meet needs. I know it's ambitious, but I also know the people in this room and their hearts. Hundreds of families in our own community are struggling right now quietly, painfully, and they're looking to us, their brothers and sisters, to help them bring life into this world. Every dollar you give brings another couple one step closer to hearing the words mabuk. It's a boy or it's a girl. Your donation is not just a dollar amount. It's a heartbeat on a monitor. It's a baby's first cry. It's a dream come true for someone who thought it would never happen. And trust me, when you've waited that long, there are no sweeter words to hear. To those here who are learning about a giving hand for the first time, welcome. You may not have known about us before, but today you have the power to become part of someone's miracle. Let's leave here today knowing that the next child born through a giving hand will be because of your giving hand. Let's be their miracle. There's no greater act of charity, no deeper reward than helping to bring a Jewish child into this world. Every time that baby takes a breath, every mitzvah that child one day will do, you, the donor, are part of that forever. That is the power of your giving. That is the legacy of a giving hand. I thank you deeply for being here, for caring and listening. And I ask you, let's build the future together. May Hashem bless all of you and your families with health, joy, and abundant blessings. And may we all be Z to see many more homes filled with laughter, little footsteps and beyond words. Thank you. [Applause] You know in life we have many opportunities. Opportunities to give, to achieve, to become great by overcoming challenges. Each journey of infertility creates endless opportunities. As the couple has a decision to make how they will emerge at the end of their journey. When my wife and I refer to our giving hand family, we don't use words like client or patient. That would indicate a sickness, God forbid, and has a very cold feeling. That doesn't sit well with us. This morning, Golda, with your permission, I would like to introduce a new term, warrior. By definition, a warrior is someone who is brave and one who gears up for a battle with the firm belief that they will emerge victorious at the end. When a group of warriors stand together, there's no way that Hashem won't bless them with success. So, I ask everyone to please rise as we welcome a true warrior to the stage to tell her story for the first time, the mother of baby number 13, Norma Masserie. before. Before I begin, I want to thank Maya and Golda for this incredible opportunity to share my story. If you had asked me just two months ago to stand in front of a crowd and speak about my personal journey, the answer would have been a hard no. But something shifted for me. A few weeks ago, I heard someone speak at the concert on behalf of a giving hand, and it filled me with a wave of inspiration. At a leader date, I told her how guilty I felt for turning down similar opportunities in the past. Without hesitation, she said, "Perfect. August 8th, I'm locking you in." And just like that, there was no turning back. So, here I am, and I'm grateful for the push. Hopefully, through this, I can help those who can relate to my story to stop and get the help, the help they need. and I can inspire support to this amazing cause and help all those couples who are so longing to hold a little gun in their arms one day. My story is a little different than most and that's why I want to share it because some of you might be going through something similar and not even realize it because I didn't. I had my first three beautiful girls naturally without any intervention. After my third third daughter's birth, though things had changed, I started experiencing a range of difficult postpartum symptoms. Weakening heart palpitations, blood clotting issues, and overactive thyroid, and a severely irregular cycle that just never settled down. For a long time, I ignored it, but eventually it became much. I called my rabbi and I told him I hadn't gone to the mikvah in months and asked for a hat. He said no. you're going to get the proper help. He sent me the number and made me promise to call. Little did I know it was the number of bonam. At first, I was resistant. I thought, "No way. Why would I call a fertility organization, but my strong belief in the concept of trusting your rabbi overcame my hesitation. That phone call marked the beginning of my journey. I explained my situation. Multiple doctors had told me it wasn't safe for me to have another child and that I should be content with the three beautiful children I had. So, I got over the idea of having more kids a while ago. However, at this point, I just wanted to feel normal again. But to be seen by a fertility doctor, I had to actively be trying to conceive. So, I went along with it. After extensive testing, I was told I was going through premature menopause. I had only a quarter of the egg reserved. I should have at my age. The odds of conceiving naturally were so slim to none, and I didn't technically qualify for IVF. But Dr. Molinro at RMI fought hard for me. He finally got the clearance to move forward with treatment, but we had to act fast. Given my hormone levels, menopause could begin fully at any time, and with it, any chance of pregnancy would be gone. Then came the financial reality. IVF medications alone cost upward of 4,000. Treatment itself was over 25,000. And that's not including the $50 co-pays at every appointment, of which were many. Now, we hit a wall. Because I already had three children, no one wanted to help me fund the process. I felt invis invisible, misplaced, misunderstood, and honestly broken. Broken with the idea that my body was aging beyond its years. and with the fact that I wouldn't even be able to give my husband the chance to have a son, a son to learn Torah with, a son to sing at the Shabbat table with, a sports fan because he's the biggest sports fan, or even just a father-son companionship. I couldn't sleep. I couldn't eat. All I thought about was this. until one day my sister-in-law mentioned a friend she had connected with over Instagram who had started an organization. I told her not to bother. No one wanted to help me but she was relentless. She didn't want to give up on me cuz she never does. And she made the call. And that's when everything changed without hesitation. The answer was yes. I remember asking Goldar, "Are you sure? I already have three kids." And I'll never forget her response. She's like, "You want it, right?" I said, "Yeah." And that was that. Who says it has to end here? We'll be with you every step of the way. And they were. I felt seen, encouraged, and valued. A giving hand not only funds fertility treatments. They hold your hand through every single stage. From organizing your medication schedules to teaching you how to do your shots, which believe me are no easy task, to checking in on your emotional well-being. This is true. Helping others in their darkest hour while facing their own similar struggles. After many visits and daily 6 a.m. monitorings, we went through one retrieval which did not work out. And that cycle was transferred into an IUI which failed. But we couldn't and I would not give up. So we tried again with different meds and even more prayers and hope. This time we got seven eggs. This three survived the process. One of which was a boy. Just the idea that I retrieved one boy. Felt like it was a sign from Hashem that it was meant to be. Hashem. Today I have my beautiful thriving thriving one-year-old son. A living miracle from Hashem. A gift I look at every day with awe and gratitude. He would not have been possible without a giving hand. Without the dedication, heart and vision of Meer and Gold, you are more than just founders. You are angels. [Applause] Whether you're someone whether you're someone silently struggling or someone able to give this organization changes lives. It changed mine. So I urge you support this organization. Donate. Sponsor a couple. Make a difference. It's the chance for someone to hold their baby in their arms one day and say, "You are worth every moment of the fight." and make a couple's dream a reality. Shalom. Each child is an entire world, a dream in one heart. Thank you. [Applause] [Music] Every person they yearn for children, for a future, for a legacy. And some people go through this test of not being able to bring children right away. And the scary part is it's a test that seems like it's never ending. When will my Yeshua come? When will the children come? Is there light at the end of my tunnel? They don't know and they go to sleep every night praying for a miracle. >> The house is so quiet and it's lonely and there's no there's nobody to continue that legacy with. >> It took maybe 2 years, maybe more, with nothing. Finally, I'm like, you know what? Let me just check myself out. So, of course, I did. And they said nothing. They said it's just unexplained infertility. For some reason, that word unexplained didn't help me very much. It just made me feel like, so I understand that I'm going through, you know, infertility, but why? My husband and I were married for 5 years, uh, without any success of being of becoming pregnant on our own. After about 3 years, I would say, we went to a specialist and they ruled out that it's just um unexplained infertility. There was no reasoning. There was no way to describe or fix or go to somebody that could help. It was kind of like it's unexplained and there's nothing you could do about it. Like good luck. all the different medical procedures and medication other than IVF. Uh the the bills were adding up and um we're talking about 70 $80,000 before we even get to IVF, which on its own is a 30 $40,000 process >> from the blood tests to the monitoring to the pills. We did everything. It's hard to hold on to that hope without, you know, worrying, will any of this eventually work? Molly Haber uh suggested that we reach out to Mayer Asher and just have a conversation with him. And I remember reaching out to him and you know, I was scared because when you're first reaching out to somebody, you seem like you're you're in a dark tunnel. You seem like this is a you problem. And why should somebody else have to step in for you? And I remember uh calling him and he didn't make it sound like a you problem. He made it sound like an us problem. >> Literally anything you can imagine. They know what to say. They know exactly what to do. Hashem blessed them with the ability to be able to connect to other people that are going through this. >> So I reached out to Gold. Within 30 minutes I get a phone call back and she said, "You're good to go. You're starting a cycle tomorrow." Said, "No, there's no way. What are you talking about?" She said, "No, a giving hand is we got you. It's all good." I never felt such a relief in my life. I >> I think that was the first time I actually took a deep breath and said that that we're going to get through it. >> Just from listening to the calls, I remember people would call in and sometimes they start the calls by crying. They're very emotional. Um it's very hard to open up about things like this. Could sense that immediately when they heard Meer or Gold's voice, they were calm like right away. Their entire voice changed. >> They were there to drop off things, to take me, to pick me up, to see how I'm going throughout the whole cycle, to check in on me, to go out to dinner, just to lift off my mood. >> Every step of the way, we were we were be being taken care of. >> Now we have our beautiful Joyce SAL, who brings us so much joy, and we couldn't be happier. >> She's our blessing. She came from such a beautiful organization that I would not be able to bring this girl if it wasn't for them. >> There's nothing more that I could say but thank you. >> No matter how much challenges came along the way, everything was taken care of from A to Z, from a giving hand. >> As somebody who went through it, as somebody who's gotten the help, I urge that you allow them to continue to do the great things that they're doing. It's beautiful to help any cause, but to bring life into the world. There's nothing greater that we could ever do. And what Meer and Gold have done is nothing short of miraculous, of heroic, of taking pain and turning it outward, turning it into a source of blessing for other people, going through the same exact thing that they are going through. And they decided, let's help other people build. There should be a for everybody and as well for gold admire and we should see many many children and generations to come. Amen. [Music] Mrs. Mastery, where are you? That was truly spectacular. Hashem bless you to see Nahhat from all your beautiful children and your husband and your entire family and your sister-in-law too. A lot of blessing. I'd like to acknowledge the presence of Rabbi Faro came to be with us to support us. So happy you're here. Rabbi Kiote, Rabbi Zatuni, Rabbi Ariel, Magnificent. Thank you for being here, Rabbi Joey. Really, Hashem Gro Hashem speaks through you. You give so much to everyone everywhere I go. I have an Ashkan sister-in-law lives in Lakewood. Do you know a rabbi? His name is Joey. I said he's Joey. Yeah, we love him here. Everywhere you go. So really, please come up and give us some. Thank you. Thank you, Rabbi, for that warm introduction. You know, he said, "Rabbi Maka said before, I'm his rabbi. That is the most false thing in the world." And the proof to that is that his beard is way wider than mine. What the real story is is that 30 years ago, we were kabu taught together for a whole winter. And it was one of the best and most enjoyable learning we ever had. And I got married that time. And one day he says, "Joe, I'm going to teach you how to dance." And he brought me upstairs and he literally taught me how to dance for my wedding. So I love Rabbi Mala and I love his vibe and I love his lash shim. I love his attitude and his graciousness. If every rabbi could be like you, our community would be an incredible place. Wow. This is an inspiring morning and a powerful morning. I almost cried already six times today from Maya talking and then from Mrs. Massie talking and then seeing the little baby and watching those video of those three families discussing their story. You know, today's a beautiful day. Look outside like this is a picture. And every person's plan pretty much after this is you're going to go home. Maybe you have a pool or brother or a sister or a pool that you own to sit by or maybe you're going to go to the ocean and you're going to sit in your backyard. Your kids are going to run around. If you're old enough, you're going to have grandchildren coming in and out of the house. Maybe while you're cooking, maybe while some Maza is being delivered and some people are going to go swimming and other people are going to be playing ball and other people are coming and going getting ready for Shabbat and it's going to be hectic and you're going to tell one person, you know, be careful where you're walking and don't walk on the carpet or take your towel away from the pool and that's what's going to be happening in your house and you're going to love every minute of it. Imagine if none of that is there and it's just silent and you come home, talk to your spouse a little bit and you just sit there on the couch and there's nobody here and our friends are going to their mother's house with their two kids but we have nobody. The feeling, the pain, the loneliness is so intense. You know, Rifka was one of our imot our matriarchs. Do you know where she talks in the Torah that she passed away? Go look, look it up. Try to find it. You can look from here to tomorrow. There's no puk in the Torah that talks about her passing. man was a whole story the purchase of Christ nothing there's one puk that the Torah says alludes to the fact there was a girl named that was Rifka's maid and or nurse and she passed away and in that pasuk there's a hint to the fact that Rifka passed away so Rashi asked the obvious question why why are we hiding I think this has such a powerful and important message. She says the Torah purposely hid the day she passed so that people shouldn't curse her and say this is the woman who gave birth to. So because we don't want people to talk about her as the woman to give birth to is therefore her passing was kept secret says therefore the Torah also said we're going to keep it quiet. I don't understand that she had therefore we have to keep it silent. So she had a challenge said I man who had so many challenges so many she was in world wars she was taken from her husband twice she was in famine she was What? What? What do you mean? We're not scared to talk about Sah. Why are we scared to talk about? And the answer to this, I think, is very important and very apppropo for today. Sai man who had big public challenges. Big public challenges. When you overcome it, you are a hero. Sai man who passed away, a conquering hero because of all of what she accomplished in her life and all of what she endured. But if Gaim Manu had a private challenge, her son, it's a private challenge. And a private challenge, you don't feel like any hero. Instead, you feel alone. And having no children is the same. Having no children and not something people talk about and they say, "Wow, you're so impressive. I can't believe it. You're 5 years without any kids. Look how you're handling it." No, that's not what happens. People might tell you if your mother's not well and you're going to the hospital. Wow, you're such an impressive son or such an impressive daughter. But this kind of challenge, it's just a secret. Everybody knows and nobody says a word. The pain is alone. And most times when a couple doesn't have children for three, four years, the couple's brothers and sisters have never spoken to them about it once. The mastery story was unique. how much your sister-in-law cared. But most times no one says a word. Sometimes they talk to their own parents and sometimes not even that. And there's this private personal lonely pain that's so deep and so intense that literally the great that we talk about forever. The Torah says she's embarrassed for anybody know she left this earth. And there are so many people that are embarrassed to go outside. I used to think infertility was an individual. There's some people with infertility. The amount of people with infertility challenges in this community is I can't you can't imagine it. And you don't always know it because your circle is a hundred people that you know well. outside of those hundred people. You don't know if that couple that just came here today doesn't have a child. You don't know if that couple that showed up to the bris doesn't have a child. You don't know if at a wedding you were dancing with someone and that man himself, he doesn't have a kid. You don't know. Or you don't know the struggle they're going through. You don't know what it's like. And the pain is so intense which is what makes meer and gold so ridiculous because Mayer and gold eco club Mayer and gold take their own pain and not only comfortable to talk about their story but they said let's bring somebody else into our story and their openness their vulnerability their sense of sharing is so powerful ful. It's not a secret. It's not your fault. It's not your problem how Hashem constructed your body. It's not your fault why Hashem makes for some reason sometimes the man or sometimes the woman or sometimes both have it difficult for your system to create children. It's not your fault. Just like it's not your fault if you're tired. It's not your fault if you're hungry. It's not your fault if your body has can't do this so easily and so naturally and so simply. And so the pain is so deep and yet your ability to share your cycles and your stories and your hopes and then your dashed hopes and then your hopes again and then your dashed hopes again and then your ups again and then your downs again. The process is so impossible. Most people in your scenario would go home but say you know what just forget it let me put my pillow over my head and do my thing and survive the day like man or why does anyone have to see me and anybody have to know instead 140 couples are being helped by this wonderful couple Mayer and golden and half of those couples exactly half 70 either have a child or have child on the way. 46 that are born and 24 that are on their way. How unbelievable is that? How incredible is that? How inspiring is that? Because every single one of us have a challenge. Some of us are not as healthy as we'd like to be. Some of us are not as smart as we like to be. Some of us have a child that's not where they need to be. Some of us have a parent who doesn't feel as well as they need to. And some people think I need to hide and I need to shy away. No. Why do you have to shy away? If you did a colossal, terrible thing, if you hurt somebody, you should be shy. But if Hashem made a decision to give you a struggle, there's no embarrassment in that. There's only heroism in overcoming that and dealing with that and facing that and talking about that. Which is what makes this morning our responsibility. Our responsibility here this morning is to step up and look at this couple and say, you know what, you're not alone. You shared with us, we're going to share with you so that you could share with them. You shared with us, we're going to share with you so that you could share with them. All those people, all those couples out there that are still embarrassed. And I want to conclude with this. A lot of times an organization like a giving hand gives a lot of publicity and the whole talk is the beauty of having a baby. Oh, it's so much deeper than having a baby. It's having everything. The baby doesn't stay six months or six years. The baby turns into a teenager. The baby turn gets married. The baby has children of her own or of his own. The baby turns into a family. The baby turns into grandchildren. The baby turns into your legacy on this earth. It's not just a baby to play toys with, which is phenomenal, but it's so much more than that. You know, I once went to Israel and visited this famous rabbi. His name is I went to him a number of times. Some of you probably went to is known Rabb Gaml Rabanovich. If you ever go to visit Rav Gaml Rabanovich, he pulls out a picture and he's talking. I brought boys to him and he's excited. He gets very animated. He takes a picture, a little broken picture, broken frame. The glass is broken. And he says, "You see that little boy?" You say, "Yeah, it's a boy in the picture." Maybe the boy is six, seven years old. He says, "That boy is my father. My father was an orphan when he was basically that age." He says, "Well, my father passed away at 94 years old and he left a thousand descendants." 1,000. And he kept screaming, "One is a thousand. Elf, one is a thousand. One baby that you produce here today. Could be a whole Yeshiva one day. Could be a whole school could fill a whole shoe. Could fill a whole wedding, one baby. So you're not producing one child. You're holding the hands of Maya and Golden and allowing their pain to be able to be other people's salvation. And it's our hope Maya and Golden. We didn't come here today just to support you. We came here today to love you. We came here today to share with you. We came here today to feel what you feel. We came here today to hold your hand. We came here today to pray for you. Because as much as you're using your journey to help elevate somebody else's, it is our hope that one day Hashem brings this back to you. If it needs a miracle, Hashem do a miracle. A woman just stood here and said she basically her body was about to say never again. And then Hashem said yes again because of you. Please the amount of children that they're bringing into your world, the amount of worlds that they're bringing into your world, the amount of thousands that they're bringing into your world eventually. Please bring a baby into their world. Please bring two or four or maybe even six or maybe even more. Please, give them the give them the strength, give them the power, give them the courage, give them the miracle to be able to go home one Friday in a few years from now and see children playing in the pool and kids running in the house. We all want it. We all hope it for you. And this morning, every single one of us supports your ability to take your pain and share it with others and take that sharing and build a thousand families and build a thousand children because every child that is born because of today will be yours, will be ours. Thank you. No steps. Go straight up. >> Yeah. Thank you, Rabbi, once again for your beautiful, heartwarming, and inspiring words. I think that touched all of us today. Before we get down to the reason why we're all here today, I want to introduce a new initiative that we launched that we're launching this morning. It's called celebrate each child born. The way this idea, this initiative works is that we want to offer the community the opportunity to celebrate every child born with us. The way that that works is we're looking for individual pledges every time a child is born to commit to a certain amount, whatever you're comfortable with. This way every single time a child is born you celebrate the true sim with us. I think it's a beautiful beautiful initiative. Um I'm very excited to share it with all of you. I want to of course acknowledge the presence of all the that are here with us today. It's truly to have you with us. Thank you rabbis. And of course one last time again a big thank you to our generous hosts Mr. Morris and Julie Hara who it's not only about just opening your home but it's with love. Everything that we envision for this morning was not an there's truly coming from a heart from a place of love and from a beautiful place. So really Mars and Julie all of the that's given today should be in your zoot. Every child that is born because of today should be in your zood forever should bring you naka for your children grandchildren for all days. Thank you again. Without further ado, it's my humble honor. I am not worthy, but I'd like to call up community leader Mr. Harry Ame. >> Okay, I see we have a big big crowd. It's a great morning because we're alive and well. It's also a great morning because the sun is shining and Shabbat is on the doorstep. We're about to enter the Shabbat. I apologize to the rabbis, to Meer and his wife for being late, but um because I love to hear the speeches and get energized from everything that we listen to. But I was at another event for actually an organization that just launched, Ry's Care. Yes, she's unbelievable. Randy, she's incredible and she's doing so much for our seniors and the people that are left behind. We heard some great speeches. We raised some money and we um had Charles bring me here. It' be difficult otherwise finding a place to park every time. So, we thank him also for helping me. It kind of goes unnoticed probably by me too, but it shouldn't be because nothing that we do, not me, not Meyer, not our great rabbis, should ever be taken for granted, should ever go unnoticed because we're working hard and we're doing it for you. We're doing it for this community and for one reason and one reason only. We love you all. We want everybody to be well, to thrive. And most importantly, this morning standing here, we want every couple, every couple in this community that wants, and I think that means everybody to have a child and children should be able to have that. This giving hand organization, as you've heard, is making that possible. They're doing that. I'm on their WhatsApp website and every time I pop it open and it's becoming more and more and more often that we're seeing the incredible work that you all are doing and uh that too will never go unnoticed from the hard work that you're doing that you're going to continue to do. We want to shower you all the rabbis of this community, myself from my humble blessing to have the same joy for yourselves as everybody else that you're giving and bringing joy to in this community. You're not leaving anybody behind and that also will never go unnoticed. To the Hara family, you heard me. I too want to say thank you for opening up your beautiful home to this organization. They have a zoot but you also have a zahoot. Before I do the fundraiser this morning, two more things I want to say. There is nothing nothing better than looking out here at next year's host and hostess. I don't know who you are. I only know one thing. It's not easy. We get nervous. It's a great joy. It's a challenge. We all want to succeed for the organization that we're going to stand behind. In this case, it's a giving hand. But whoever and wherever you're going to open up your home, your backyard in this glorious New Jersey that we come here to spend our summers, some of us choose to live here. And that's a good thing, too. I will tell you that. It's becoming a very good thing to choose to live here. This tent is gorgeous. I believe Norma McCain was involved. No, >> it looks like her involvement, but it is beautiful. >> Who is it? >> Ogax. Okay. So, Ogafax, my friend Morty. should be well. But she's talented. This is beautiful and we want to thank her. Lastly, I said I had two things, right? The uh concert. You saw me in the I don't know where you put me. Third, fourth, fifth row. I didn't want to be in the first row. That's the worst seats in the house. You got to put your neck up the whole time. I learned that from a Broadway show years ago. You don't sit in the front row. But, uh, we had a good time. You guys, you pulled it off. Par excalance. Whoever I brought my whole family. Whoever wasn't there. Okay. Hopefully, if a giving hand decides to do it again and the speakers and the singers and the event and the way that the two of you spoke and it was your birthday that night and it was just a beautiful, beautiful night. So, um, how am I doing this? There's dollar amounts. I walked in that night even before the event that I gave you a donation because I wanted to make sure you didn't charge me. So, I wanted to make sure I paid my due. Let me let me um let me call off a couple of pledges. Then what I'm going to do is what I'm honored to be able to do. I will go around like I did last year and please look at me. I will come over to you. You'll give us your name, the amount of money you want to dedicate, donate. Just know one thing. Stretch yourselves. Whatever you're doing, you are putting it in the greatest bank, the greatest reward that you could ever get is putting money into the giving hands hands. No pun intended. There's nothing that I could think that is better than helping them to do what they do.