Tomchei Shabbat Event - Full Coverage

Welcome. Good morning. >> The great rabbis, Rabbi Schwber, Rabbi Schwarz, please make your way up front. Kerry, please come up. Rabbi K Bokeettov, good morning. Mars Beda, good morning. What a beautiful home. Thank you for hosting us. Mars, please come up for a second. just tell the people who you are. Our neighbor Mars became part of Lawrence Avenue and he brings a special or Fran. Where's Fran? It's your wife. >> Good morning. Thank you for hosting us friend today. Opening your heart and your home. A lot of and happiness to your misha and a lot of blessing. Mars would officially like I'm putting him on the spot just to say good morning and welcome to his home. >> Good morning everyone. Thank you. Thank you for coming. Thank you rabbis. Uh, just want to say one thing that when AB told me about this event, >> where's AB? >> Where's AB? >> Tell AB tell. I had no idea what was going to happen. I didn't know anything about the charity or anything about the organization. I just knew one thing and I knew that someone so young that wants to do something with his life and help others. I thought it was beautiful and we said absolutely everyone's welcome. So, AB, thank you. >> Thank you. Keep it up. >> We're all gathered here today for the honor of Shabbat. We know Shabbat is synonymous with Shabbat. Shalom. We want to have peace in our homes, peace in our lives. All the money in the world is nothing if there's and anger and resentment. When you're part of your friend's Shabbat, part of the neighbor, part of the person who doesn't have, this brings blessing to your home. The great teach that there are three things that cut a person's bounty. Don't we all want? Why you all here today? Because you want to be part of something big. Which three things take away a person's? The number one is when a person has too much worries and anxieties in their life. So their mind which is the seat of the soul instead of expansion is called contraction. Contraction means that nothing else is able to come in because of worry. How are we going to pay? How am I going my business? How's it going to run? You run your business. You don't do Michael Safi says you can't close the door. You're going to close a deal. Who do you think we are? We think we control. The eight type personalities suffer the worst from anxiety because they feel they control their business. So since they control everything and now it's out of control, the anxiety and the worry comes in cutting off the bounty to come. The great rea for the worry and is high level. I'm certain that Hashem took care of me till now. The same way you're certain you're going to be here August 28th. Didn't you write on your calendar you have a wedding September? Wait, how are you so certain you're going to be here October, November. You know, because Hashem in his grace will recreate you every day and put you there. He can't give you a few dollars. So once your mind is expanding brings the shea the second thing that cuts off blessing is when a person becomes obsessive too much chasing too much I need too much neediness creates a cut in your own businesses if you have a product and you call the buyer he comes sees it he likes it he looks he says call me next week I'm going to show it now to Walmart and Target if you call the guy 20 times a day you know what he's going to do this guy's desperate cut too Much neediness cuts the shea. Hashem sees addiction. How can I give the guy and therefore the second thing is let go. Instead of being needy, be large. Be living properly and in your mind feel complete. Complete means says you're not addicted. I'm going to give you even more. The third thing that cuts a person's bounty is withholding the blessing. Now that you're not needy anymore, you feel complete. Now that you're not worried anymore, you feel accomplished, you feel trusting. The last thing is when you have baka, God says, "Are you going to share it? Are you going to give it or you going to withhold?" A can of Coca-Cola that's withheld too much explodes. And so the three things that cut the bounty are what we call the negative wow. Wow stands for W zero O W worried obsessive and withholding. The opposite is TLC. TLC is when you trust. You trust. You live large, loving and feel see complete. I was taking my children upstate New York last week. We stopped off at the rest area and we wanted to get a bite. As we stopped off, we see these beautiful stores, all kinds of foods and eeries. The are coming to eat. We're getting a little drink. Suddenly, I see a woman right behind me. She says, "My favorite store is closed. Why is it closed on Sunday?" I look up. I see Chick-fil-A. Chick go store that sells all kinds of food. Why is it closed on Sunday? I see the sign. The proprietors 1946, the ones who started this company are observant people. And Sunday is a day to thank and worship the creator of the world and to count your blessings and to let your employees enjoy enjoy a day off. And therefore, we close on Sunday, which is the number one food eery today in the United States. Chick-fil-A. Anyone in real estate knows they are AAA best tenants. You know why? They don't suffer from the negative wow that the world does. They're not worried about it. If they were worried, they would they would stay open. They're not obsessive and needy. Therefore, their minds are complete and therefore they're large and they don't withhold from their employees and they this is a rule in the world. And that's why we're here today. Because when Hashem gives us blessing, we don't withhold. We don't worry about tomorrow. Like the man, we continue to give and bless the people around us. And we think it's just the poor people who need. We, as rabbis know, behind the scenes, there's a BMW and a Mercedes in the driveway in a beautiful home and the woman in tears. This is not a madeup story. This is last Friday. Last Friday. Rabbi, I'm embarrassed. I don't know what to do. My husband, everything is cut down. The credit's gone. There's nothing left. I can't even ask him. He's under such pressure and I don't have $10 to buy anything for Shabbat. What am I supposed to do? I I'm not calling to I'm embarrassed. She What do What does she do in that position? She knows someone who could help. And if we have access, Rabbi Sha, Rabbi Schwartz, where's Rab Schwarz? Who gives their hearts and souls millions and millions a year? And our community, no less. We have a nice facade that we put on, but there are those that are hurting. And that's why today, Hashem's going to bless you all. Forget the negative worry, obsessiveness, and withholding. Trust, live large, feel complete, and with that, the blessing will come. A please come up and tell us how'd you get involved in this beautiful organization. Rabbi Mosha Mala, you did phenomenal and I appreciate you for coming and I want to say to everybody, thank you all for joining us. This is a amazing amazing organization we're having here. And I want to first say thank you to the host, Mr. Morris, my uncle Morris and Franny Veta. Thank you so much for being generous and opening up your home. And you know it started when I got a call. I was with I was in my my uh study and I was with I was with my wife in the house and I got a call from Rabbi K. AB we have this tremendous problem here in the Jersey Shore. I said Rabbi what's going on. He said just come to my office. I said okay Rabbi I'm there. I went over to the to the rabbi's office. He started to explain to me AB there's over 100 families in deal that are receiving food every single month every single week from Tomat in Lakewood they give us food for our people they drive here Rabbi K picks up boxes he gives to the people on Pes over 50 50 families are receiving boxes from from Rabbi K every single Pesak they go these families over 100 families they're driving to Lakewood to pick up these boxes and it is I said, "Rabbi, what is going on? What where did this come from?" He said, "Abe, this has been around for over 25 years." I said, "Okay, and and what what are we doing about it?" He said, "We don't have the money for this and we and therefore I got we have to step up. Us as a community, we have to step up today." And he's and and over these and and throughout the the few months that I started this organization together with the rabbis through these few months I said we have to create this or this we have to create this as a community because we are the Jersey Shore people here and there are over a hundred families that we're that we're talking about here. So, so I said, "Rabbi, we we have the source. We have the the the solution for this. We have the distribution. We have the the the mechanics. We have everything set up for us. And the people that are that are needy for this, we have to continue this for them so that our community can have a source for the future for today and for for the future for our families here in Deal neighboring areas. This is going to be for our people and we are going to save the ones that are calling the rabbis from what I from the rabbis the board of rabbis calling they're saying rabbis we cannot we can't stop this we live on this stuff how many calls Rabbi K told told me he got dozen of calls that when they heard this was going to to come to a some sort of stop because or not stop lo but some sort of you know it was getting too high the the the numbers were growing and the numbers were people were calling and so he said to me he said you know we have to this is this has to continue for our people especially that that we're getting more calls more people want to join and I said this is for our people this is for the Jersey Shore this is the solution that we have this unbelievable system that everything that they're getting is is you know the the wholesale and and the quantity that we're getting it for our money is going towards this to the to the to the beauty of of having it at such all the money at such a low pricing and such a low cost. And it's so special. I want to say I want to say that it's so special that we have our community here together stepping up to support for our people that are that are really in need of such things. There's families that are calling and I know firsthand because I got a call. I I they they heard that I was involved and I and I got a call from one of these people and they said, "What is what is going on? I need food for Shabbat and I don't I need some sort of system." I said, "You're you're well. You're doing good. What you need you need food?" I said, "AB," they said, "Abe, you don't understand. I I have I need this help and and and I said happens to be, you know, we're working on this organization and this is going to continue for us and you're going to soon very soon we're going to get you on that list and we're going to make sure that our list is being being handled and and and and maintained and and the people that need to be on, we're going to to to look into them and see and say, "Hey, yes, you really you really these people need to be on that and they need to get on their feet. They need a few months and they're struggling. And that's the Jersey Shore that we're going to build and we're going to say, "Hey, we need to continue for our people to help those needy." Because when you get that call, when I got that call, I said, "Oh my gosh, we need to help him. We need to be there for him. We need to to help these people." And and that's that's the the the phenomenal organization that we're having over here. And I appreciate and I and I commend everybody for being here. And thank you so much again, my uncle Mars and my my my wife. Thank you for all that you're doing. She made beautiful desserts for the way out and I appreciate everything and everybody. And I want to call up one of our main donors from and he was this was a back from for 20 years. We had a parlor meeting back 25 years ago for this event for this tokabat 25 years by by Ker's house and this and Schmul Kerry I want to say he's been behind this he knew about this organization from from that dozens of you know 25 years ago and he was behind this one of our bigger donors and and we appreciate you for everything that you're doing for us and we want to call you up for to say a few words for everybody. Thank you. [Applause] Ay, thank you so much for those kind words. Morrison and Franny, thank you so much for hosting. It's a beautiful spread. Thank you for your hospitality. Harry, also to you. We salute you for all that you do for the community. You're always chairing every event, three or four a day. Hashem should give you to everybody here. You know, A was talking about how sometimes people are in need and they're embarrassed to Shabbat. There's they don't overvet you. When people need help, they're embarrassed to come out and write down the issues that they have. They're there and they open up their doors and they send you what you need. The rabbi was just telling me every holiday 26 pounds of meat. I was in the butcher last week and I see prices $30 a pound, $40 a pound, $50 a pound. 26 pounds at $30 is $780 twice every every year on the holidays. I'm going to I'm going to say a story that um goes back I think to 1990 1994 when I first got married. just so people understand what what need is and people can be on the balls of their feet just at a moment. I was working as a mortgage broker in 1994. I got married in October of '94. This is December of and I missed my wife's birthday. We just got married. It was two months in and I didn't realize my wife was very upset I missed her birthday. I said, "Next year, December of 95, I'm going to make you such a party. I'm going to buy you a beautiful gift. Well, December of 95 came around and I'm working as a mortgage broker and I didn't have a dollar. I didn't have a dollar to buy her a birthday card. So, I went in on 13th Avenue. There was a pharmacy called Lane's Pharmacy and I took out a card that I saw that I might be appropriate and I had a pad and I copied the whole card and I gave it to my wife as a birthday present. and she looked at it and she said, "You didn't write this." I said, "I did. It's my handwriting." She goes, "You may have wrote it, but it's not your words." And I told her, "I didn't have enough money to buy you a birthday card." So, I copied it. And I remember going to the window that night and I said, "Hashem, I'm so embarrassed. I'm having such a difficult time. Please help me. It's too embarrassing. I can't go on like this. I need your help. Hashem came and from that day on after that prayer things turned around for me. But we all find ourselves in precarious situations. About four months ago, a rabbi came to me and I was sitting with one of my children and he said, "This child needs yud." I said, "What is yud?" He said, "It's encouragement. This child needs encouragement." And I remember that word the next morning when I was praying right after ash I see these words the widow and the orphan Hashem encourages. I said this is what God does. He encourages the widow and the orphan. And in the same paragraph it says Hashem gives bread to the hungry. And then right after that says hallelujah. We only say those words in we never say that word. We only say those words that when we sanctify God's name. And then in other in the other psalms, it just ends with halleluah. Why does this one end with the words that we glorify God's name forever and ever? It's when you when we emulate the attributes of God. And that's our obligation in this world. Whatever God does, we are here on this word to emulate his attributes. Hashem gives bread to the hungry. We need to give bread to the hungry. Hashem is mater. He helps release the prison. We're supposed to do that. Hashem encourages the orphan and the widow. That's our job to encourage the orphan and the widow. And when we do that, we are Mik Hashem. We make Hashem's name great in this world. And that's our job. So, Rabbi Joey Habra is not here, but I'm I'm sort of a copycat. I David Waba took me to hear Rabbi Habra speak and I was sitting next to you Harry in the dome I think it was seven eight years ago and he said this fantastic story that I'm going to repeat and share with you today there was a man that was a wood chopper in the time of the Balshto now a wood chopper is not a high waged earning individual a wood chopper is usually with a lot of lowerend people that don't have the prestige that we're accustomed to. And day in and day out, this man that works with the wood choppers, whether they don't speak properly or they don't act properly or their conversation is inappropriate, this man is exposed to that daily. So he comes to the BMT and he says, "Rabbi, I really need encouragement. I work with people that are unrefined, the lowest type of society. I have this epiphany in my mind. I would like to meet Ela Hanavi. If I were to meet him, I would have such inspiration would change my life. Rabbi, tell me the secret how to meet Ela Hanavi. He sees the sincerity of the man. He says, "I'm going to tell you the secret. I'll tell you how to do it. But follow every detail I say and carry it out and execute because I want you on Thursday to go buy food of Shabbat. Buy whatever you like for Shabbat. Fish, meat, bread, wine, and some delicacies. I want you to go to a certain town. I want you to pray there Friday night. Wait to be invited to a house. If you're invited, take that meal with you and go and share it with those people. And if nobody invites you, then go find a home where you could share your Shabbat meal with. So he prepares everything and he goes to the shul. He's waiting to be invited. Doesn't get invited. So he said the rabbi said I should find a home to eat my meal. So he goes into the town square. He's looking around and he sees a disheveled peasant style home. He knocks on the door and he says, "Excuse me, Shabbat shalom. would it be okay if I eat my meal with you? And they said yes. And this home was the home of an orphan and a widow. And he comes in, he sings shalom and he makes kush and he shares his meal with them and they're singing and they're eating and they're enjoying. And at the end they make mazon and as he's leaving he feels very good about himself, feels inspired. He's looking to the right and he's looking to the left to find Ela Navi. With disappointment, he doesn't see him. Sunday morning, he runs back to the BMT. He says, "Rabbi, I was so sincere. I told you that I really wanted to meet Ela and I did everything that you said detail by detail and it didn't come to fruition. What did I do wrong?" He said, "You did nothing wrong. Do it again and let's see what happens. And Thursday again comes and he buys the food, goes to the town, prays Friday night, nobody invites him again. He said, you know, I'm going to go back to that home where the orphan and widow is. And he goes there and he knocks on the door. He says, "Can I have my meal with you?" And they said, "Yes, please come in." And he says kush sings, they eat, they enjoy Shabbat together. He makes mazon and now he feels really good about himself. He goes, "I know this is going to be it. I'm going to see Ela and he comes out and again he's disappointed. No." Immediately runs back to the balmtov a third time says, "Rabbi, I did it all. Didn't happen." He says, "Do it again. If you have conviction in meeting Elon Navi, you got to keep going at it." says, "Rabbi, I'll do it." And the third week comes and he buys the food and he goes to the shul. He knows nobody's inviting him already. And he approaches the home of the widow and the orphan. And as he's approaching the home, the window was open and he's standing outside. And the orphan, Moshe, he's laying in bed sick, food deprived. And he says, "Mama, mama, I'm so sick. I'm so weak. My head is busting. I'm starving. I'm going to die. I need to eat. And the mother says, "Moshe, just a few more minutes. You'll see. Hashem is going to send Eli Navi. He sent him the last two weeks. He's going to send him this week. You'll see." And with that, the man walked into the house and he made kush and he sang shalom. And he enjoyed the meal with them. And he made bat mazun. But this time he didn't look for Elon Navi because he got the message of the Balmto. If you want that inspiration of Elon Navi, you need to be like him. You need to take care of the widow. You need to take care of the orphan. You need to take care of the needy. My good friend Moshanka once told me, "A lot of people want to live a life of inspiration. They live a life of 100% inspiration." And he looked at me, he said, Life is 10% inspiration and 90% perspiration. That's how you achieve and succeed in life. You persspire. And this man understood it's not about the meeting. It's about emulating those attributes. And that's what he did. We're here today to encourage the orphan, to encourage the widow, to encourage the hungry. And by doing that, we are emulating Hashem. We are emulating Elan Avi and Hashem blessed us with that ability and my to everybody here is that we have that ability and we continue on. Shabbat shalom. [Applause] >> Where's Joe? Joe Manel, where are you? Joe, you're a magician. How you put this all together. Hashem bless you and continued success. Without further ado, Rabbi, >> thank you. Right, Mala. That was a beautiful video and uh I don't think there's really much to add. I think it's obvious what we're here for. I would like to express my feelings of gratitude to Morris Beda, his wife and family. It's such a honor to be in his home for this inaugural. It's an inaugural event, right? is the first one. Being the first is special and you found the special person to have it in his home and it will be the first of many many beautiful things in this home and for this organization as well. Shall bless you Maris and your wife and your family. You have such a beautiful family and this is goes right along and for your hard work. you really worked hard. This is all a testimony of your efforts and all the people that are involved. I don't know exactly who's involved, but it's again the cause is obvious. We have to step up as we always do. Harry knows that best. He's here at least four, three, four, five times a week. People stepping up. You know, it says in the puk says, "When Hashem says to our people, why did I choose you? What makes you different than every other person in the world?" 8 billion people in the world. So, what did I choose you for? So he says it's not because of the quantity of Jews in the world because you're usually we've always been till today from the smallest of nations. The puk seems to be saying something very obvious. Obviously for if we're from the smallest of the nations. So it's obvious Hashem didn't choose us for our quantity. What does the Torah have to say? I didn't choose you for your quantity. You only tell someone that if they actually have quantity. But if someone who's very small, you don't tell them I didn't choose you because of your quantity. Well, it's obvious. We all know that. That's why come and tell us not understanding the puk. The puk is telling you something very very special about our people. Why we are who we are. And we can never forget that. And Hashem has to remind us doesn't mean the quantity. Hashem says, "I didn't choose you because of your ability to do big things. You're big people. Everywhere you go, you do big things. You're big in You're big in Torah. You're big in in the financial world. You're big in in in every area. You could look at Israel is big. We're a big people. Hashem says, "I know you're going to think, I chose you because you're so great." I didn't choose you because you're so great. I didn't choose you because you make a lot of money. I didn't choose you because you know have you have a lot of Torah in your head. It's not why I chose you. I chose you because even When you're so big, as you get bigger, you ask more of yourself. You think less of yourself. Cuz you say to yourself, "I'm so blessed. I have so much. I'm not doing enough." The regular in the street, okay, he's doing enough. Okay, whatever he has, he's not so blessed. But me, you know how much God gave me? You know how much blessings I have in my life? I'm for sure not doing enough. Like Jacobu says, I feel like a nobody because of all the good that God gave me. Yakovu felt like a nobody because God gave him so much and he says, I'm not paying back enough. Abraham Aavinu gets a very personal call from the creator. He didn't call anybody in the entire world. He's about to destroy Sadom. He said, "I want to share that with Abraham. I want to see what he has to say." Abraham became God's advisor. Nobody got that call. Not then and not till today. Nobody got the the call. Hashem says, "I need your advice, Abraham. What do you have to say?" Abraham is saying, "Well, God, maybe if there's 50 righteous people, maybe we'll save them. What do you think? Maybe, maybe, maybe." He's advisor. You know what he said in that moment? Abraham said, "I feel like a piece of dirt." You feel like a piece of dirt. You're the only human in the history of this planet that got a personal visit from the creator asking your advice. That means you're the greatest person that ever lived. You feel like a piece of dirt. Don't you feel great? No. Hashem gave me so much that I realize I'm not doing enough. I'm even I'm even greater than I thought and therefore I'm not doing as much as I should be doing. That's what we're all about. That's what we're here for. We're here to share our home because it's great. But wait, but we need to do more because of that. We built a new home. What are we gonna do? Mars is waiting for things. You ask him, "What could you open your home to? I'm in because I have more. I got to do more." And that applies to every person on every level. He spoke beautifully about being about being the person that brings the kadusha into our lives. We're very good at it. And we have the responsibility to carry forward with more strength, with more and more. And the more we do, the more Hashem blesses us. Our goal is to continue to become big and to feel small and to do more for our people. Thank you, Rainc. You called me from your heart like you do everything from your left. He called me and you know how Ben is he speaks with everything Ham gave him and when he talks like that and he calls you just want to be a part of it and I'm sure everybody here just wants to be a part of this beautiful beautiful cause to be able that they're the Shalia for us to help people in need. Thank you for having me. I appreciate it and we'll be able to do a lot for ourselves and for our community. >> You sure? >> We don't want to insult anybody. Make double sure. Good morning everybody. Uh we'll take the next phase of our breakfast fundraiser to be as quick as we can. Shabbat is coming and uh we all have things to do and places to go this morning. Uh first I want to give a welcome a proud great giant welcome to Rabbi Laauo the chief rabbi of Israel who just finished his tenure six months ago. Um I was there when I saw the rabbi at the dis giving the new chief rabbi, Rabbi Bear, the Ashkanaz chief rabbi that we'll have the next 10 years in the ravenet. And uh it's a pleasure and a great honor for our community to meet you and greet you for the first time. This is not my first meeting. Somebody gave me my phone number. We met in my office. It was supposed to be a short visit. We ended up talking at length about the Lao Center, a project that is very close and near and dear to your heart. So long life for your father, the great great great Rabbi Laauo and to you and your wife and all the work that you're doing now to continue in they need you Rabbi Laauo and welcome uh Rabbi K. We have a special relationship. But I will leave that for privacy because Rabbi Maya said it all about you and the feelings that you have for every I don't think there's a Jew in the world whether he knows them or doesn't know them that Rabbi Benion K does not feel and have empathy for them. Whether they are wealthy, especially if they're not, Rabbi Kay is there for them. And I don't know that Rabbi Diamond can do what he does without his son-in-law, Rabbi K, to run the Cole. It has expanded. It exploded. They're actually building another building. This is not the time for that. But they wouldn't be building an extension if the KL wasn't thriving with hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of young men besides everything else that Rabbi Kay does and Rabbi Diamond does at the Cole. So, um, I have a couple of pre-pledges. I'm going to announce them. Then what we're going to do is uh we're going to go around for a couple of minutes. You you couldn't have heard more. Every rabbi in our community, whether we're on Joe Mansaw's video or whether they came here this morning to show support for Shabbat, um I'm surprised. I'm just a little bit surprised because uh we don't know you, but you know us. >> I coined it. >> Thanks for your help. So for 20 years without asking to drive the 25 minutes, Charles makes it in 20 from Lakewood to deal. You never opened your mouth, whoever came, whoever pulled up. It didn't matter who they were. Ashkanazim, the hundred families that we talked about. But I want to go a step further than you not ever coming to us until this year when some young men brought you here. You know, I think every one of my rabbis would agree. I don't think Schmool or Harry or anybody cares if a Jewish family is Sephardic, Ashkanaz, or otherwise. Yeah, we put a little emphasis because you came here and Syrians and they're going to get it, but you didn't need to get it because you were just doing it and doing it and doing it. I hope there's a day that you never have to do it again for anybody, whether it's the Mashiach that comes. We're waiting or everybody eventually gets so wealthy that you close down and they don't need this service to come as everybody said. And if we brought in 10 more speakers, who what mom, what dad would want to have to come to take meat and chicken and food and the essentials? Who? I don't know. And I know a lot of people. I don't know anybody in my life that would ever want that. But there are needy people. That's the way the world works. I can't figure it out. None of us can. and you're there to do your job to continue with your multi-million dollar budget serving the communities of Lakewood and Deal and I'm sure anyone else that comes, you got blindfolders on. So, Hashem should give you the strength to be able to continue to raise the money, to be able to build the system that you've built, and to just keep doing this this this holy work. This is the holiest work that anybody could ever