Emet Inspire - Rabbi Reuven Kigel - Elul

okay hello everyone EMT is back at buw college for our I believe this is my 17th year I got here in 2008 and we are doing an EMT Inspire recording so this shab shabas the Shabbat is RO is shabas M for Roes El is coming get ready so what's the essence of ell it says when ell comes at hasem walks into the field is much closer to us so it makes it easier for us to do tsha to repent SL return back to Hashem so what is the essence of tsha so there's basically four things the first thing for tshua this is when it comes to apologizing to Hashem for things that we may have done wrong is to admit what we did wrong and say that we're sorry so my example I always use is if someone God forbid had a cheeseburger sayem I'm so sorry I had a cheeseburger I'm sorry and then you have to say please forgive me so that's the first part and just like with human beings like if you don't apologize and say what you did wrong and ask for forgiveness it's not the shat it's not a real apology the second thing is here's a variable is to feel bad you have to feel bad about what you did wrong but people ask what if I don't feel bad Rabbi so the answer is okay you don't feel bad but just feel bad for not feeling bad and if you don't feel bad for not feeling bad just at least feel bad for not feeling bad for not feeling bad and if any K it's called any regret any feeling bad goes a long way then the third thing and this is really what I want everyone to concentrate on this L the Third thing is to make a plan of how not to do it again and that's really just to make goals in L for rashash to have the best year you've ever had if you don't have goals it's very hard to do if you write down your goals they have like a 10 times more chance of making it happen so write down two or three goals you really want to accomplish and and also ways that you can make sure you don't make the same mistakes again goes a long way and the fourth thing is if Hashem puts you in the exact same situation Hashem puts you back in exact same situation at this time you do not eat the cheeseburger you not commit the sin you not do the transgression you not make the mistake then you know your T was complete so now that's with hasem when it comes to other people so then you have to find them make sure you apologize to them apologize to hm for upsetting them and apologize to other people too now who do we have to apologize to the people you're closest to your parents your spouse your siblings your friends not people you barely know then you don't have an upset them really so that's the TBA process that's the essence of make your goals for Rashana and with Hashem up we're going to have our best year yet