Rabbi Mordechai Kraft - Prayer

they're onto Fela I'm leaving electric tonight on prayer and there are many ways to approach this topic this topic is a vast topic and such an important topic and I'm gonna give you my take a little bit it's not the only take and there's so much we can talk about when it comes to prayer but I'd like to talk a little bit about it tonight and even if we just touch the surface I think that it will be beneficial first of all just a few question I remember once I was giving a class and I had a student and this is gentleman he's about 70 now he comes to my classes someone I've been close with for years and he asked me a question he was he's actually an artist he said he's a modern artist he asked me a question he said rabbi because I've always wanted to ask this I solely see you you know people know what they're doing Orthodox Jews baby right we you always stand there diving like this you know because let me ask you a question goes what are you doing what's happening like what can you define it for me and I said to him you know finally somebody had the guts to ask and I said the class was anybody else wondering what we're doing we're like this you know and day and then I was like yeah what's that was happening like what are we supposed to be doing like what are you what's going on in prayer is there something that's supposed to be happening the rapper's do the same thing there's good point I remember once I was a person told me he said to me came up to me we had a neighbor not Jewish he kills to be said to me rabbi I now know why Jews when they dive in to go like this and I said why and he's told me said I was watching channel 13 last night and he said that because the Jews were always moving from place to place you know where the you know where the wanderin Jews and when we would travel we would travel on camels and so there we have to pray while the camels so we look like this you know we'd have to go up and down up down and so we got in the habit to go up and down I said that's what they said on channel 13 it was really said so it gave me an awesome realization that there's a this information out there in the world so there's a lot of clarity that that needs to happen let's see we could get some clarity and what's happening during prayer so first of all you know sometimes you are up there and you have your seat or open you know and you and you're praying right and what are you doing what are we doing what are we supposed to be doing now sometimes if you stop yourself you kind of ask yourself that question like am I talking to somebody you know am i talking to God like what what am i what am i doing what's supposed to be going through my mind what wants us to be feeling or experiencing so let's see if we can grip it a little bit you know first of all there's a problem that many people suffer from you know some people the world have kind all sorts of diseases all sorts of chemical imbalances or psychological disability whatever it might be there's a type of syndrome that some people might have in the world something we might call 2d s 2 DS means two-dimensional syndrome 2-dimensional simple two-dimensional syndrome means you look at the world in two dimensions what I see is all that there is well I can see what my physical eye is what reality is that's called 2d s two-dimensional syndrome and it's a sickness because there's a reality going behind the scenes which we can't see and that reality is what we call God and of course that we have so many metaphors for this in the world you know there's so many radio waves that are shooting around all over us right now and I'm sure scientists and guys who study science or girls studies I could tell us all about it but we can't see it but it's there but of course it's another dimension the world of god is the realization and there's a third dimension going on there's a world that we have to train ourselves to plug into you know I'll tell you the most beautiful story that I heard that totally changed my life in some ways I've been recommending this book all year to many of my girl students there's a book called the holy woman by Sarah wriggler have you seen that from the store I recommend this book so highly it's about a woman her name is Sarah Caius our Kramer and she grew up in Eastern Europe she went to the war and she was in Auschwitz concentration camp 16 in fact she was experimented on by Mengele Amaka Shamu was iffy Mengele was a doctor nauseous she was able to survive Auschwitz a whole family was killed she comes to Eric Sorel remarries - a wonderful person who actually was a became known in Israel as a great psychic a person people would go through for blessings in the life and I went to him for a blessing of my own life going back about 24 years ago and he gave me a certain blessing and did it it came true a very very holy person at the time I didn't even know who he was they lived in a dirt floor house way up in the northern part of Israel but I didn't appreciate who I went to until his book came out and I realized that was the person so I met them I didn't know how I was meeting at the time I thought there were two simple farmers so that they were to the holiest people in Israel and a certain woman who wrote the book came very close to this woman later in her life she moved from there to Jerusalem at the end of her life and she got to know her and this woman actually who wrote the book she defines he tells about herself that before she became a traditional Jew an Orthodox Jew she spent over 12 years in an ashram - promise and ashram is in a Hindu house of worship she studied Eastern religion and spent 12 years studying in an ashram and I should imagine that's a Jewish girl to nastran for 12 years she met a rabbi I'm not sure was in India or someplace else but the travelin card should have come to Jerusalem she came to Jerusalem she ended up meeting certain people started studying and learning in different seminaries for girls now broker Shem she's a very very Orthodox religious woman listen Jerusalem writes beautiful beautiful books so she was having a discussion with this woman hi sir Cramer and she was tire Caius our crane bird listen you know I've always wanted to ask this question tell me please what was it like in Auschwitz concentration camp right we know what ash wood says what was it like in Auschwitz we've all had that question right what was it like so I saw Kramer answers her and says to her have to tell you something you were an Indian ashram for 12 years that was a bad place a schvitz it wasn't so bad she looks at what do you mean how it wasn't so bad so bad it was a place of starvation a place of death it was a death camp of crematoria gas chambers what do mean the ashes wasn't so bad I yeah she said listen know when you were in this ashram in India for 12 years you were meditating you're focused totally on yourself when you're existing only for yourself that's a bad place to be we were in Auschwitz but I went with a group of girls that I knew from Czechoslovakia we were on the train together we stayed together we did kindness for each other whenever we could we helped each other we gave each other our bread if they needed the other one needed more we shared whatever we could share if we had time to dive and we'd homage we could do a mitts that we did a mitzvah those we've said she said when I was on the train going to out Raziel we knew this was the end she said I never lie the Russia Shana Dominic in case someone would need to know it I would have it in my head said another girl memorized the Gillett Esther so she could read the nuclear Vesta for they aren't permanent we lived for God and for others when you're living for God it for others it doesn't matter where you are it's a good place where you are in India that was a bad place I'll tell you I read those words I have to stop and think about it for a half an hour unbelievable words good means when you're connected with God that is good when you're just connected with yourself that's two-dimensional you're missing the third dimension you could be in Auschwitz but you understand that the person next to me has created the image of God that would do kindness for her or him I'm in Auschwitz but I only have an opportunity connect to my Creator that's a good place you're where we're at an ashram is only about you and you and you and you and you that's a bad place not two dimensional if you're close to God in a three-dimensional way you have a relationship with God that is a good place she said compared to the ashram our church was a good place those words totally changed my life because it totally redefined for me what life is about life is about gaining that three-dimensional relationship looking behind the surface and discovering our relationships with God now this day one one other story that that blew me away there was this a certain girl came to Jerusalem and she ended up at you she were there called the VAE Nevada Bush line you know today the day we shall I'm is the seminary for girls at Jerusalem she came in she wasn't married but she happened to be pregnant so she went to speak to one of the rabbi's there and she said to the rabbi he said listen you know I've decided that I'm going to have an abortion and the rabbi said an abortion he said you know in Jewish law it's not allowed she said doesn't matter to me I'm not having this child and having an abortion so he said listen I can't stop you from doing what you want to do but it is an operation it is a procedure it's a medical procedure and before we do anything medically we try to get at least the blessing from a great person why don't you come with me and we got a blessing from a very big rabbi so she agreed and they went to speak to Roma's Allah in Arabic at that time this going back about that done 15 years ago 12 years ago maybe we're Chavez already died about 10 that that's what visitor well show bazan Auerbach was at that time maybe the biggest person in Israel because you can think about what big means I mean a great great rabbi a giant of a human being when he died you know how many people came to this funeral have you been to big funerals before he may be the big funeral big civil America might be I don't know a hundred people 200 people thousand people at the radish low Islam and our Buck's funeral 300,000 people and in the population in Israel of 4 million there's been eight percent of the Israel is at his funeral okay this type of person he was a huge giant of a human being he would see people at his home and shower heads which is a neighbor in Jerusalem between 12:00 and 2:00 in the morning he had to get there anything online at midnight and he would give blessings and speak to you between 12:00 and 2:00 she had to be there at midnight so they went got their midnight got a line we wanted to speak to her - the turn sits down with this girl he says toward the what you know what can I do for you and she says that you know I want to have an abortion she looks at I said you know what do you do she said just starting to be a doctor said why he's starting to be a doctor she said because I want to save life and so he said so new yeah see that's not life who says it's life life is when it comes out who sows life on the inside of me hold it is like who says it's life on the inside not like so he didn't argue he only said two worth of fine words he said to listen the way I see it is you have two choices says you can have the baby and I'll take the baby and I'll raise the baby as my child and he looked at her and and he you know she didn't know him she said look you know and he was old man he started very successful very nice children I raised them very nicely people don't be in the neighborhood my name is our about ask anybody they know me you know you know 300,000 people come to his funeral believe people know him you know he said he the people know me things are about ask anybody godly know me you could trust me he said I'll take the child I'll raise the child as my child so she looks at them and she said what's my second choice second choice is you have the child and you raise the child and that's what she did and now did she do that she ended up becoming a religious woman what changed in her heart in her mind the baby on the inside is only a baby there's no soul when she saw that somebody lived in three dimensions he sees a human being and he said the human being has something so deep that you can't kill that I don't think the child availed you want to destroy this child if you no other convenience inconvenience I'll take the child because I want it I know there's something that you can't see it totally turned her head around there's a part - if you would think that I'm missing that it's worth this person taking my child what am I not seeing there's another dimension to human being that's the soul life is all about getting in touch with that third dimension getting in touch with our souls and getting in touch with God and that's what trying to do so step number one in prayer is we have to realize that there is another dimension called God and we have to start relating to it and we can to know him so this is how it begins it really begins like this prayer begins like this I stand before God I have to start focusing a little bit I have to start thinking you know and if you really start thinking sometimes you feel a little bit uncomfortable even you know you should take you know first of all the halacha says you're supposed to start physically preparing yourself for this encounter with God you know now how do we do that physically just like you would do it with another person you know if you're going in for a business meeting or an interview at a job company rights like that interview for graduate program what do you do well first you do you check to make sure you've highest rate right you want to make sure that nothing is dangling from your pockets all right everything is nice looking and neat looking you know your cups are sticking out a little bit right you know you get ready physically prepare yourself to be aware of the reality that I'm now standing before God and then what do you do we know we take three steps back with our left foot three steps forward with our right foot why the right because the right is always the side of strength and we want to show an eagerness a desire to go forward and we stand with our feet together our hands in front of us like somebody's gonna ask something when you ask to request you do it in a very humble way before God we want to get our body positioned correctly in order to visualize the experience and then you know what happens at this point you're kind of in your head all of a sudden you start thinking what am i doing you're like no what am I supposed to be like what about just be visualizing you know it's just be for us just be thinking about you know I almost feel a little uncomfortable you know first you like you know you know like you look around or else is doing it but if you're really focusing in your thinking like you know I know you're there God but like I can't see you exactly now it's interesting our sages tell us it's for this reason that God created imagination you've probably noticed that you have very very good imaginations have you found that in life that you can imagine all sorts of bizarre crazy things or you can imagine all sorts of things that you might even want to imagine we have something very very powerful in the human mind called imagination why do you think God gave us imagination he gave us this abstract ability so we should get to know him we have imagination in order that we should be able to picture something which is abstract but it's there so what we thought to do we're supposed to start in our minds actually conjuring that on before God but what does God look like I can't tell you we're not allowed to tell you we're not allowed to give him an image but we can use our powerful brains and our imaginations to actually visualize that we are before God in some way now what that looks like I can't define it for you in my own mind I can't define it for you all I know is that now before you go I can't there's no picture but it's a reality that I feel an experience in my mind that's called imagination and that's the power of the brain the brain is very very powerful very able to create this abstract reality and that what do you do supposed to talk to God like you talk to a friend so what does that mean it means that if you're really diving well if you're really praying well you know I know I've never seen any two friends talk to each other like this you know no I mean like they don't like each other very much but when you really like somebody what do you do you know I mean the hands start talking you know I talk with my hands right you probably notice that someone said to me Robert Kraft is someone cut your hands off you'd be mute but if you really are into an idea the hands start talking with you when you really talk to god your hands talk the talk it's a dialogue speak like you speak to a friend do you probably noticed in prayer that we whisper what's that all about it was very interesting the Muslims when we pray what do they do they scream the Christians when they pray what do they do well the totally silent quiet holy son what we Jews pray what do we do we whisper what's the whispering all about what's whispered oh God well whispering is all about when do we whisper in life what you want to communicate with somebody that you're really close with you whisper right you whisper if you're very close to somebody talk softly and you whisper that's the reality if you're not a nice date with a person you hope will be your wife or your husband you're not gonna be sitting across the table each other don't you'll be sitting across the table talking very softly paycheck right because you're building an intimacy when you want to create intimacy what do you do well creating an intimacy with God what a queen of course with God I see what else he wants the closest we have to whisper Kent's queen he can't remain silent intimacy means whispering talk to God that was interesting by the way that's why we talk you know people ask me this question all the time you know God knows what's inside my heart right what are you talk about it for you know why we talk because when do we talk you know you'll notice in life that there's what's called male speech and female speech what's male speech male speech is did you take the car to the mechanic today you know did you you know you know I I went you know the tomatoes cost $2.99 a pound that's male speech it's very to the point concrete gets things done another's female speech the men kind of feels people look at the male speech it's just that this is the prototype female speech is you talk because you want because you want to establish closeness women talk why because they want to create well that's why sometimes you'll see this whole time you'll be walking it's kind of funny sometimes right you'll see walking down the street you know man and woman the man's like you know is that true and one time I remember I was sitting I was walking past a restaurant and I noticed that you know couple were sitting there like at a restaurant or like something outdoors in the city and he was and she was sitting there I felt like I felt like I had to intercede I felt like I had to do an intervention over here you know I just wanted to go over them and say it's not enough already let her talk but it's hard you're killing the night you're killing lights you have to talk listen but you know but I felt it wasn't in my business and there I felt it wasn't anybody business but it's interesting you know such you'll even see two women two women will walk down the street right and they'll both be talking at the same time yeah and there's nothing wrong with it it's because it's creating closeness talking creates intimacy that's why with God the reason we talk is because of course God knows what's going on but the purpose of speech is to create connection closeness when you talk with somebody you get close you get close and xem god wants us to get close with him he's got a whisper you have to talk now what should be going on in ourselves is create this vision before us I can't describe the feel but it's there and you feel it and get a sense of it and the more you do it the more you get a sense of it like yeah guys you're in front of me start talking whispering thank you focus on the way now it's interesting that into Fela when I meet the feel right now I'm speaking about the part of the Fela prayer where we actually come before God and we make requests you know we know that to feel it is a ladder to get this intimacy with God doesn't happen in one moment just like creating intimacy with a friend or with a spouse doesn't happen in one moment it's a process with God it's a process also it's like a ladder that we're climbing it begins with the section which we call be accomplished up huh bo khosh afar they call the morning blessings if you look at those morning blessings what are they all about things for all about gratitude all about recognizing how incomplete we would be in life if not for the gift that God gives us now it's interesting God created us in a way in which we have so many lacks there were the only animal in creation by the way that's bothered by its own smell I never thought about that it was worth coming tonight just for that if you go to CVS Rite pharmacy guys right if you go to CVS what aisle is the largest aisle take a look cosmetics and children's deodorants the logic you'll find aisles and aisles and aisles of rightguard and sure and Old Spice and yeah it's a huge billion-dollar market why does it billion one multi-billion dollar market why could we bother brother way we snow dogs aren't bothered by the way they smell huh horses for sure right goats you don't see it but we are we're bothered by it so I so watching the whole little bubble great rather they were about a thousand years ago he says Hashem made us that way why so we should realize how much we lack how incomplete we are we're bothered by even the way we snow is so imperfect even her own smells upset us gonna shower now take a shower for a day how do you feel oh I'll take a shower there right you know can we feel so incomplete my kids are little kids are you sure let them in the bath no they ate it yeah nobody liked it right you like it you know but we're so we feel so much it's such like now if you look in the warning what we're doing in the morning will be getting the latter of intimacy with God the first way to create that ladder the first rung on the ladder is the wrong that says a Shem I am so incomplete if it's not if not but for you and therefore we start thanking God for all the things in life that without which our lives would be totally different now think about it in the morning no first thing we do we get up in the morning and what do we thank a Shem for we thank you chef wistful for the mind into that's the first blessing you make in the morning you know the olden days you're supposed to make that blessing actually from the bed it's a blessing you supposed to wash your hands they go basket on your bed sometimes the people do that some people do today right you can walk to the sink if you want to but if not some people have their water right under the bed they take it one two three four five six right and they start making a blessing a Shem bola Qatar shell and okay Nobel kosher and the Sun the surf we Deena how that came in arrival oh sure thank you for giving me intellect the mind works blessing number one what would life be if my mother work the way it work right we start thanking God things that without which our lives would be totally totally different an appreciated what how much we lack and how much God takes care of us then we start as we sit up on the bed we start making blessings over our spinal cord it amazing we make a blessing every morning Oh our spinal cord but as we get up we make a blessing over the building to stretch right then we make a blessing over the ability to walk amazing blessings blessings which we thank God for the basics of life and we was how much he gives us and we try to experience what would life be if I didn't have these things how I would be lacking I'm something complete and then we go here we make a very fascinating blessing we make a blessing over the digestive tract right I'll show you outside the blessing we say every time we use the bathroom and that blessing is supposed to focus us and realize how miraculous the body is number one at the same time to realize what would life be if it wasn't working this way and there's a word that we send a blessing that says EF sure the Hozuki aim but alone live on therefore it would be impossible to stand up and had a friend who had kidney stones it's such a severe case of kidney stones he actually crawled on the floor and could not stand up he said to me I understand those words very well now when that just attract is not working the urinary system not working properly it's impossible to stand can't stand now this is the process first thing in the morning it's the beginning of the realization of the fact that we need to God so much for our basics and how goodness I'm on the rug now now we want to begin climbing this is you I want to start talking to you I want to have a relationship with you and how we start climbing a little deeper ohayo we go what we call the pursuit Gators in there now these are usually Psalms a bunch of Psalms over there both you study them you know truth the matter if you don't have time you don't want you're obligated to share the butter Shammar I strain you're stubborn okay three do more time you see them all but if you look at them all they're all talking about God Wow you are so wonderful in nature what you've done for the Jewish people throughout history we start seeing the depth of guard guard not only in my life but look how wonderful you are nature I wonder if here throughout history then we start moving the next section is down in the next ladder in which we start focusing on God as a designer of creation you're the creator of the Sun creator the moon then we make a very beautiful blessing over God's love for us I have Arabah how much you love us we'll see God's love for me and then we put our hands over our eyes and we declare here o Israel the Lord our God the Lord is a God it's all yours everything of you nothing in this world is not you and then we stop and we finish it and we say ash ml okay Graham and let it's true it's true and then what do we do we start praising God being the God it's all ended fear covers everything he redeemed us from Egypt now we step three steps back three steps forward oh we're ready to go and now what are the first three words we say six first six words we send out in the first six words death now we're before God we say six words what do we say i do' sure mr. Forsyte Tita Oh fie yagi - he'll attack oh I shall open my lips so that my mouth shall declare your praise God without you I can't even open my mouth you give me the strength to even have speech to have a mouth that can formulate words and communicate with you is a gift from you I don't shove separate item to open my mouth allow me to speak thank you it's closed and you'd help I'm so dependent it's all you and I want to talk to you and speech by the way there's a function of the soul because speech is the most abstract thing we have in the human being did you think about when that speech come become part of mankind by the way so the Torah tells us when God breathed the soul into autumn but they became a speaking being nefesh mamola rubber mullet says a speaking creature because wkn a witness he became a speaking creature speech is a function of the soul because what is speech speech is amazing if you think about if the vibration of the air against the vocal cords and through that vibration I'm able to express ideas which are very abstract it's amazing concept speech it's a gift of the soul the God without you I wouldn't have that a chef opened my mouth now give me the strength all I know that's all you don't you I have nothing and then we begin now here's a problem the problem is like this let's say a person is sick Kishan so they come before God now in our prayers and by the way our prayers are written by the men of the great assembly they gave us the formula these are the great prophets all the texts they gave us the game of the perfect text to say but there's time in our text also when you could say what you want to say even the Shema : o or at the end when you say at the end you could see you could add your own wood let's see your praying now you finished the text and now I want to speak to straight from my heart you're about to do that you should do and now you want to pray for let's say you're sick god forbid you're sick you have a sickness dev illness so god I want to speak to you now how about my illness god forbid I handle this I need your help I believe in you I'm here I'm talking to you God now I have to I want to I want to get better so some people might go before God and have the following dialogue and say you know a Shem you know I you probably haven't realized but I'm sick you might not know it but I'd like to bring it to your attention that I'm in a lot of pain and I have it show them a disease and you're the source of all cures please heal me what's wrong with that dialogue what's wrong with that dialogue no it's wrong to dialogue not only God is God not only does God know believe me God knows he knows about the sickness not only is God aware of the pain that the person is in but you know what God's the cause of the sickness he's the cause he gave the sickness it's from him so might be forgotten said God you know by the way I'd like to make you aware of the fact that I'm sick and I need your help to cure me and you know God would turn back and say you know look I know you're sick yeah I'm the cause of it I made you sick who do you think did it it's me right you know when we say these words every day and this together I'm saying when we say SH Maya Ellis Schemmel okay Noah Shem Akkad hear o Israel the Lord our God the Lord is one when we say God is one we don't think that God is one as opposed to to sound like there's one God but not two guys that's not we're saying that we're saying god you're one there's that what molecule in creation that isn't constantly being controlled and directed by you everything is you when you reach into your pocket and you want three coins before - that was Jim when you stub your toe at night it was the cream from above what a person got something get sick who gave a sickness God God's oneness means he he's directing everything that third dimension we're talking about it's all in we don't experience it that way all the time but it's all him so what am I supposed to be doing when I pray you know about it God number one right you could stop it if you want it to you're the source of it and then there's another problem now wait a minute you're the source of it and by definition god you're all good and anything you give me my definition is for my my benefit so maybe I shouldn't ask you to change it it's like going into surgery you know a person sees that the surgeon taking the scalpel you know and he's about to remove a cancer and you said oh please stop sir Julius I can't stop I gotta remove the cancer nope but you're close to campaign can I do there's a cancer my telling God to take away the sickness aren't we that's insane god I know it's good I know it's for my benefit how could I pull him to stop he has to do it I need a sickness or something whatever reason it is but today I might have done in the past whatever whatever might be whatever is something I need to learn whatever it might be sorry I forgot to stop do here the problem what's the answer tonight what's the answer interesting sorry important what's going on yeah number one hundred percent god knows about it he's the source of it we don't have to inform him he's well aware of the illness he brought it for example so what's happening I'd like to feel what you're really going out of my prayer what's really going on when I come before God there's a different dialogue this is the dialogue dialogue sounds like this Hashem I know this illness is from you I know you gave it to me because you want me to feel that my life is totally in your hands that without you I cannot exist without you I cannot be healthy as a result of this sickness I have realized how fragile I am and how much I need you I take in the sickness now and I have elevated myself with it because of my realization that I'm so dependent on uhm I become a different person I closer to you I realized that I need you even more oh you know what happens now God can respond you know what because God gave the sickness to the bee who wasn't totally totally aware of him but now if through the sickness I realized that I have to get even closer and closer to him I've used the sickness to create deeper intimacy God can say all that was the purpose I gave you the sickness cuz I want these people into the sea I want you to be even closer with me it's add to create another lap in your life and through that lack oh you used it right you use that black come to me and ask me get to know me deeper there was no purpose of the sickness get better here's the cure oh go to the doctor next week look at that miraculously the whole caps cans different it's gone where'd it go I don't know maybe it was a mistake on the cat scan machine I don't know I saw didn't use it it's gone what happened to them you hear the stores little timeline I hear the whole time yes yes that's good question that's good question you know is a very very interesting question you're asking yeah but again you know even in of course in mental illness there are many degrees of mental illness you know many degrees is it's not a you know it's not you help the mental illness is another illness there are many areas of awareness but you might be talking about a situation where a person's mind is gone completely so they're like you know not even aware and can't even go through this process of even asking God to undo it perhaps right you know this art is a something very important I always thought about this you know I'm in digital what I do a lot of different things is a rabbi my main thing of course is you haven't caused outrage I don't worry it's my main focus right over here all of you but I've also been for a number of years a chaplain in a nursing home so I did started my calling years I stayed with it because I feels meaningful I always asked myself a fine question this is I think with search questions I ask myself the question you know sometimes you go into these nursing homes and you see people who are literally like vegetables I'm sorry use the word I don't mean to in any way put anyway those issues are the words we understand right you see people who had such productive lives and sometimes you'll even see pictures on the wall of what they look like when they were young and you almost can't believe it right see a guy standing there on a new piece suit from the 20 the thirties before you know and they look at him now and he's he's not there he's a shell of a person and not only that you know what a person gets to that stage you know a person can't even eat by themselves right you have to feed them I'll pay something when you feed a little baby and little baby spits up what do you do what do you say I you say wasn't that cute so cute you know look you spit up clean up you're so cool when a 90 year old man spits up his apple salsa over you what do you say yep that nobody says look how cute it boys you don't say you're a little bit disgusted and you might be a wonderful son or grandson there or whatever it might be granddaughter it doesn't mean that's some whelp you disgusting that's it just always ask myself the question how can little babies God created them so cute you know and then they spit up all over you it's so beautiful you know it's cute it's funny it's it's sweet an old person also has the same functions of a little baby on some level but they spit up all over you and if you discussed it so I'm sure - I think which is very fascinating point the greatest gift the God can give us in life is to allow us to have intimacy with them as we're pointing out but intimate closeness with them old age is the point where a person is going to leave this world now the greatest gift that God can give a person towards the end of life is the realization that it's only about me and you that's your children who you thought you can rely on to discuss this by your body what you thought with you it's not you your money doesn't mean anything you're almost trapped inside of your mind and the mind is still there on the inside they might better express in the outside there's a lot going on the inside what's the person doing on the inside creating that connection with God create an intimacy and the greatest gift you can give someone before they leave this world is to give me God to tell them look don't think any mistakes anymore the third dimension that you might have ignored during your life I never really spent time to to to to nourish the connection with me now I'm giving you the opportunity because everything else is gone it's just you and me that's what's happening I dare say a person lets you so much feel they can't speak to God what's going on inside their minds but we can't see yeah there's an intimacy being create with God a realization that God it's all about you and me that's all you know what the most profound moment of life is what's the most important moment of life the moment just before you die you know why because that moment just before you died you had the total realization that God it is about me and you and nothing else everything else was a lie was an illusion not alive illusion you know I thought my money was imported I thought my career was important I thought my clothing was important I thought it was so important to drive a fancy car am i right this is the Jewish concert this is this is a human concept that moment before that means you gotta give it back to God it's not me and you got I just won intimacy with you because that's reality that's all there is it's that third dimension I can't see and now here it is and that's why by the way in Judaism we have a death penalty now we very hard to enforce nobody panic in fact it hasn't been enforced in thousands of years and very few cases throughout Jewish history but there is such a cancer and the reason is that there's such a concept is because sometimes the only way to achieve atonement is the death process because that point just before death what does the person do Shuba God it's you nothing else I just want to be with you and I'm sorry see you hard work and that's why I rabbis tell us when God really loves you what does he do of course that punishes it causes pain in your life when he loves you because you certainly Ahava I quote Eucerin pain to create connection hello when you feel everything's going well in life you know my stomach is full my gas tank is full my bank account is fall right you know everything I want is going well well when you got for know God says I desire intimacy with you so much and you desire them to see with least so much and the only way we could create it sometimes in life is to cause a lack and through that last through that pain through the financial loss through that emotional pain whatever it might be I have to come through a shaman session I know this is from you but now I'm using it as a means to get closer to you please change it chef can say oh that's exactly what I was looking for I was using it as an opportunity for you to gain that intimacy with me and you used it correctly now I could remove the pain the financial loss the emotional pain that's how it works that's why it says God loves those two flicks sometimes a guy causes pain in life it could be for many reasons it could be for the reason that it could be for something we did in a past life even you know it could be something I did in my life and the only way to undo it is through a degree of pain to help me realize the mistake that I made repent on it or sometimes it might have nothing to do anything to do with past life or anything I did in this life it merely because God loves me so much he wants me to get even closer to him he flicks those he loves so lady said to me the other night she said God don't love me so much no for the love already yeah but you know it's not true because that connection that intimacy and we create with God through the lack that we experience is what we cherish and take with for eternity because it's that connection that we create with God in this world will be the connection that we're going to actually have forever to cops doing up the greatest gift by allowing it to create intimacy in this world there's nothing greater with that it you know anything to see what kind of closeness to God in our lives in this world is so much different and you could be a high surah Kramer you know you could be an Auschwitz passion and say compared to an ashram it wasn't at that place because we used it to gain an intimacy with a guy we've lived in that third dimension that intimacy because this did not intimacy it's a good place you could find goodness and everything in life and that's what the feel is doing the Fila is taking us on that ladder gratitude praise God's love God's oneness his truth and now an opportunity to come before him and it's a bit discussion and dialogue that's the beauty of it and it's so essential and so important and so powerful now when you do it right it's just so good you feel so good and we have to remember that every time we ask God for something even if we don't see the direct result from it by the way all prayers are heard and all prayers are answered and our sages teach us you know how they're answered sometimes sometimes they're answered even for the next generation so you know the fact that all of us that are sitting here today listen to this lecture and we're trying to come closer to the Almighty to our Creator and we know that we're Jews and we're proud to be Jews and we realize the beauty of Torah the beauty of mitzvoth and we want to get on this path and live our lives with this dedication you know what my and what whereas there are 14 12 you know 12 14 million Jews in the world you know I would say about 11 of million of them have never even heard of this type of discussion and here you're part of this elite group that merits to even and be in the game you know why that could be it could be because the prayer of your grandparents prayers of your grandparents that maybe didn't get responses of in their lives but get saved up for the grandchildren we have the merit of our craft and their parents or our rabbis tell us when things go well in life when things go smoothly in life well if they show what a good day today you know the car just missed me you know right you know I got you know the facts came on time what a noise everything went well I arrived in my point without traffic you know things go well my kids endure well Broca sham you know oh honey it everything's going well when things go well in life you know what it is that's God taking those prayers that he might not have news for the situation we asked him for because maybe he felt that we needed that pain still for whatever reason I said but believe I heard it I would have used those prayers over here when things go well do our prayers are being answered they don't have to go well when they go well in life it's because God is using the prayer always answer always heart that's why prayer - fela it's a mitzvah like no other nits it's not that we pray like we have 613 mitzvahs and Prayer happens to be water them it is one of them but it happens to be the crown jewel of the wall because if the purpose of Terror the purpose of MIT's phone is to gain connection to God that intimacy with God in fact the word myths of on Hebrews from the he would salve which means connection we have 613 points of connection in fact the goal mitzvah to connect us with 613 points prayer Tefila it's the way in which that intimacy is actually included is the highest point intimacy it's a dialogue it's a discussion it's a speech that's my personal about so my friends I tell you you know don't tell God how big your problems are tell your problems how big God is speak to God talk to God develop an intimacy it's the greatest pleasure if we can have a life thank you so much you listen everybody we have some delicious kugel waiting for us over here yes Oh