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Father’s Day in Durham 2026

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Rabbi Daniel Kalish Shiurim

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Good morning, everybody. I appreciate I love this day a lot. The day the the day many fathers, many of us have our fathers here today and I appreciate this day a lot. There's there's a lot of different thoughts going through my I want to welcome people and express already from from shul, from Yizkor, my father has been on my mind a lot. And and I there's a year here who's very very close. My father had a group of friends that were together in the summer. And in their friendship, the amount of people that gained I've said this many times that a warm Yeshiva just means to me anything else is pretend. The only true warm Yeshiva's a Rosh Yeshiva's close to his wife. Anything else is a fake. Kids today are much too present and emotionally present. Nothing would work. A warm Yeshiva means a rebbe's close to his wife. And in that warmth, you can bring in a third. That's what a hachnasas orchim is. That's the chesed of Avraham. Avraham and Sarah were close. And in that closeness, many other people were pulled in. I have seen in Yeshiva there groups of friends. I have seen this unreal friendships. In a Yeshiva of 200 guys, not everybody's equal friends. There's no such thing. You You want clicks. A person has one, two, three friends. I want that. A guy has three guys. They're good friends. That's normal. Anything else wouldn't be true. You don't have equal. You have a couple of guys as friends. But in true friendships, three people are close, the whole Yeshiva gets closer. There's an energy, there's kiruv, there's closeness. I could say from most friendship, that room was close. The whole Yeshiva got closer. My son Maishy has a group of friends, they're close. They're mamish close. They talk honestly and comfortably. The whole Yeshiva got closer from their friendship. I saw this in my father in the summers. There was a group of friends, they mamish liked each other, mamish. The end of camp, the staff would stay late. They didn't want to leave. It was It was the best part of camp. I could say that as a youngster growing up, our family stayed after camp was over. I had an embarrassing story because we had nine people to play basketball. And my father did not play basketball, he loved tennis. I said, "Abe, we need a 10th man." He said, "Daniel, I don't play basketball." I said, "Abe, I beg you, we need a 10th man." We tried. We We were just the staff staff and the kids, and we needed a 10th man. So, my father, ever nice, said, "Okay, I'll join the basketball." And he was on crutches 6 weeks. He hurt his leg. I felt I felt so bad. He hurt his leg, he was on crutches 6 weeks. He was out. But one of the friends is here. Reb Avi Rose's wife was a very close yedid of my father. Those summers, thousands of people were impacted by their friendship. It was a warm, loving place because the staff loved each other. Like the emes, emes, my father loved Reb Avi Rose's wife, right? Being in town, Reb Avi Kramer. They were best friends. That's cool to me. Menachem Zehv, Kramer's here, Reb Menachem Zehv. Our fathers, yeah. >> [applause] >> It's It's It's It's the first thing It's the first thing that's hitting me today. Reb Menachem Zehv here, Reb Avi here, are My father was best friends with Menachem Zehv, but the friendship was like crazy. It was a deep love, respect, the way they looked up to each other. everybody in that group. We grew up, me and I and Zeidy grew up as the kids of this, the way they looked up and respected each other. Crazy. He told me that people for decades with each other, decades. The respect, my father would say Rebbi Kramer, the middos, the right, he would say the bein, they loved each other, the Rosen's wives, it was a group of people that had like the older I get, I value friendship more than anything in the world. I think the deepest space in the world is friends is friends being together. This this Father's Day, the main thing is everybody's going to shul with him. I like I like watching as real world with his tata. Mommy and Shmuel [applause] fathers, so just being together. The main to me in the world that Hashem made, the world Hashem made, the highest thing in the world is friendship, is two neshamos being close. I I spend my career, I speak I'm a big mouth and I talk a lot. And I come into rooms, people are shmoozing. They say, "Shh! Shah!" It was better people were shmoozing. Make shah? Two people shmoozing, it's not a joke, it's not said as cute. People shmoozing, friendship's the biggest thing. Reb Volva, who understood Torah, Reb Volva who knew a Torah, knew Torah profoundly, was a massive talmud chacham, when he summed up Torah, the world of Torah, he said, "Olam hayedidus." A world of friendship, a world of closeness. Hillel did the same thing. Hillel did the same thing. When he summed up Torah, he summed it up in such a way. Also, Rebbi Akiva called the klal gadol baTorah, [music] the world of Torah is a world of yedidus, of friendship, of people connecting. My father who was a busy man, my father, his day was crazy, driven, driven. What he did in a day at 78 was crazy. His day was wildly busy from early in the morning daf yomi to late at night a day that was crazy. He came went to every single simcha pashut. Ver l'chaim but never like oh ver ver there's a ver tonight. My parents went to every I asked Max Ross went to Lakewood left the Yeshiva went to I had a nephew's bar mitzvah last night in Lakewood. Zayde Max Ross Menachem Ross I said you're you came all the way to Lakewood for your cousin's bar mitzvah. And Max Ross said to me Zayde said Zayde some said Zayde it's like pashut. Zayde you're not going to go to a simcha? Crazy? Family simcha? Crazy? My son went to his friend's ver in in Baltimore. Obviously you could be mesameach here. It's a chiddush. Travel five you have a better thing to do than two yidden enjoy each other? You you have a different idea? Something holier you could do? My father who was a busy person who knew Torah who was his every second his default setting was learning. If he was in the house and there was um 30 seconds he was sitting with the Gemara. A minute anywhere he learned default setting was to learn. To to to go to another yid simcha in a second? Friendship bring a smile to yidden coming together that that trumped everything. And I want to express I want to appreciate that Rav Avi Zayde came to be with his grandson. You're somebody Menachem Menachem Zev flew in from Orlando to be with your son to to spend some time with Mordy. I appreciate it tremendously and I'm thinking of my own father and the friendships that they had how many yidden thousands of yidden are benefited. It was a beautiful space that space because the because the people who ran it liked each other. And anything else is not called warm. Don't say you're a warm school, a warm Yeshiva if the people the people loved each other and respect and everybody else warmed up to that. Everybody else fit into that and joined that and became part of that. So, I very much appreciate you're here. I appreciate the friendship that you had with my dad was something special. I happen to like I see today Simcha is very very close to my son Moishe. It's a friendship of generations. So, thank you for coming today. Thank you have a nachas for flying in. APPRECIATE A LOT. THAT'S >> [applause] >> THAT'S THE FIRST THING. >> [applause] >> THE SECOND THOUGHT that that's hitting me today that I want to express is the Yeshiva Baruch Hashem is a place that's been around for 26 years. It's gematria Yud Kay Vav Kay Shem Hashem. It's an auspicious year. It's the 26th year of the Yeshiva Baruch Hashem. And it's been a space where many Yidden have grown a lot, have gotten closer to Hashem, have grown. It's been a beautiful space for 26 years. And I'm looking at Reb Harry Spar, whose son's here. Reb Harry was in the Yeshiva for sure over 5 years ago. He won't give exact He was there at the early starts of the Yeshiva and he came in from Baltimore to be with his son Mendy. I love your son. I appreciate that you sent Mendy here. I'm thankful that Mendy's here. He's going to come back another year Hashem and continue to steig. But I I want to appreciate Reb Harry Spar is from the early Bnei Torah who built this Yeshiva, who really the a Yeshiva's not walls. No, Yeshiva's not a place. It's not physical things. Though there are physical things and those count, but it's a place of people. It's a place of people. That's what the Yeshiva That's what this has always been. A place where there's really space for people. And each one puts in their idealism, their search. The person's journey matters a lot. It is just your journey. That's Torah Shebaal Peh, the journey of each person. We study Torah, we study the journey. If anybody reads Torah, it's a safer about the journey of the Avos, the journey of the Banim, and it continues to Torah Shebaal Peh, the journey of Hashem's people, our journey. And the Yeshiva is a space, as I believe Yeshivas are supposed to be, where people's journeys are welcome. There's room for somebody's story. And I the story the sincerity, the growth that you put in this place of Harry, it still lives. You should have long, long years. I want to dance together by Mendy's husband, Mendy's children, Mendy's grandchildren, long, long years of nachas from your precious family with Harry's part. So, welcome to the Yeshiva. Yeah. It's greatly appreciated. People came from all different distances. It's appreciated. All the way from Atlanta, in essence, Tata. All the people have flown in from from Orlando, from Atlanta, from long places. Tremendously appreciated. Each father is here. The next thing that's hitting me that I want to express is we were zocheh this week, a bachur in the Yeshiva absorbed things from the Yeshiva and wrote a safer. It's it's it's very humbling. It's it's like it's it's it's wild that a safer is put out by somebody who heard shiurim, who listened to shiurim here, and worked hours and hours. I think it's not an exaggeration to say hundreds of hours. It's not an exaggeration. Hundreds of hours to listen to Torah and to put in a beautiful safer. My wife sat down on Shavuos to read it. She planned for a few minutes and sat there a long time. She was I'm telling she was shaking. Somebody worked hard and wrote Torah and said Torah from from things they absorbed in the Yeshiva. This is a beautiful mark in Torah. I feel funny, extremely funny, that my face is on the cover. He said what I I it's called what I learned in water berry. I'm a student here, too. I'm try to report the things I'm and I want to learn with everybody here. I try to report the things that I've learned from the guys. What the guys from the guys with my children. This is my son. This Shabbos is my son's last single Shabbos so my son learned in this Yeshiva. My son is part of this Yeshiva. This is last Shabbos. This is last Shabbos single home. Is this Shabbos Kodesh B'ezras Hashem my she's last Shabbos home. I have learned tons with my son from my son. We've journeyed together and I'm journeying together. And I just try to give over to the world the thing I hear from the guys. What I'm hearing I'm trying to give over. So there's an ironic it's like dizzying. Mo Muller wrote a safer what I'm saying but I'm saying what I see in Mo Muller. At young ages Mo Muller used to tell me, "I see you love when I cry." I'm embarrassed he said this. Here he's crying and you have like a person who instead of crying with I wasn't capable. When he was younger in the Yeshiva I wasn't able to cry. I could say that B'siyatta Dishmaya thanks to people like Mo kindness of Hashem today when a bachur cries to me I often can cry along. Often not always. I can cry along. The guys have woken up parts of me that I had buried long ago. It's a very feeling generation. Very pnimiyusdike dor. Incredibly pnimiyusdike dor that's feeling. And Mo Muller wrote a safer it's ironic it's his safer from what I said observing him and his friends. There's a car blocking the fire department's coming. There's alarm went off. And there's a Camry with Jersey plates. Where is it? I don't know. Do you know where it is? Oh, okay. Just cuz they're coming we need to make room. They also the fire department so beautiful day they want to come too. I want to express, I want to express that the fact that a guy wrote a safer is already amazing, but what's the coolest thing is that somebody wrote a safer with his father. Mo Muller, Mo and Ari are learning Yeshiva and Mo Muller wrote the safer together with his father who is here. And the fact that a father and son wrote a safer of the Torah of the Yeshiva, that is the Torah of the Yeshiva. This is a place of connection. The pride of the Yeshiva is that a bachur walks away closer to his father, that's the pride. I was talking to Akiva Guggenheim whose birthday it is today. Happy birthday to Akiva. >> [applause] >> Where is Akiva? Where is Akiva? Is Akiva here now? I don't see him. But what however it is, but I want to express that he's somebody who absorbed the Yeshiva and he told me recently I'm closer to my father than ever. Real closeness, honest, open connection. My mother has a has a physical therapist. She has a knee issue and has a physical therapist whose son is in the Yeshiva. And her physical therapist told her that me and my son, my son came to Waterbury, he's more honest, more open and we're closer than ever. And expressed appreciation that we have an open and honest and close relationship. The possibility of kids of today is honesty, is closeness. Somebody who is superficial could say we would never speak to our parents this way. It is true, we never opened up and cried, we never expressed our insecurity. There's a new opportunity that two people can speak. It's not easy to hear your son look you in the face and say honesty is hard. For a kid to take me on a walk and say I I was hoping you'd like me and you don't like me. I don't feel the like. And I thought about it and I expressed my own stuff. It's me. Kids are honest today. It's not easy to hear somebody. You get called out. You get called out, but it's it's a place where people can really be close and meet each other and know each other and understand each other. It's a It's a beautiful generation. And I just want to appreciate Reb Levi who wrote a safer today with his son. They didn't just write the Torah of the Yeshiva. That is the Torah of the Yeshiva. That a father and son worked. Reb Levi worked with his son Mo on a safer for hours and hours and hours. It's not just an ironic twist. It's crazy that a safer published from the Yeshiva is a father and son worked on Torah together. Father and son met and spent hours. So, I thank you Reb Levi for being here and I just a mazel tov on THE BEAUTIFUL SAFER. >> [applause] >> IS HERE? WHAT? OH, HE went to the other Okay. So, we'll get in a in a couple of minutes. We'll get I want to appreciate that their father's here and their zaide is here. I want to appreciate that Reb Deutsch Reb I say Rabbi Deutsch. How do To me he's Rabbi Deutsch. Somebody who is a lesson of been Torah. Torah like a person who learns Torah, who lives Torah, who's kind to his grandchildren is remarkable. I appreciate that you're here with Morty a lot and I welcome back to Yeshiva and thank you for coming. I want TO YEAH. >> [applause] >> I WANT TO SHARE I WANT TO SHARE something before I'm going to ask Shlomo's dad. I want him to play a song that's hit me a lot. this this this prayer has hit me a lot. We're just coming where where my mission coming from the heart. We're coming from the mountain. And cloud Israel says na'aseh v'nishma. Now, na'aseh says a remarkable thing cloud Israel said. Na'aseh is we're committed. We're in. Ribbono shel Olam, we trust you. We have an emunah. Our people the deepest place of a Yid is emunah. We're faithful to Hashem. And because we're faithful, the na'aseh says our z'chus to have Torah. Ba'avur avoseinu shebatu v'cha, because our avos trusted you Hashem. V'atalamdeim chukei chayim. Hashem taught us Torah. We trust Hashem. We trust Hashem. We have emunah. That's the deepest space of a Yid where ma'aminim. Anachnu ma'aminim b'nei ma'aminim. We're ma'aminim b'Hashem. By the way, our trust goes so far. Our trust goes so far that I want to express this. After a young to Shavuos leaves, after Pesach, I always was like searching. I want to hold on. I want to hold on. So, I would say a shmuze for years. I would speak after Pesach, how do we hold on to Pesach? What can I do? I was very rooted in the Mussar movement. And the Mussar movement taught that there's a lot human beings could do, and it's true. It's true. So, Pesach I want to do. So, what do I do? What should I do? I want to hold on. Shavuos I want to hold on. It was crazy in this room Shavuos night. It was electric Shavuos night. This room there was love. There was connection. There was limud ha'Torah mamash. What the kinyanei ha'Torah? So, who wouldn't want to hold on? So, I would say shmuzem. Today I don't say such a shmuze after Pesach. I'm chazer. After Pesach, how am I going to hold on to Pesach? Are you kidding? I ate matzah. What are you talking? Everybody just ate lunch. Did you put your nutrients in the right places? Did you get the nutrients? Did you work your body? You know, your body has a lot of needs. Your eyeballs, your arms, your toes. Did you make sure the food went to the right places? Did every Should we talk how to do Hashem made us we work. You eat She works and I work. And in this it's not that way. We have a I ate matzah. I don't need to say any moves, no work. I ate matzah. You think any things the same after eating matzah? But not so you say Hashem I trust. You say I trust. I I kept kept I did Hashem you said to me I was with friends. I was with friends. We had joyous times. So we did my only the right it was wonderful was. How do you hold on to it? You know, you're a different human being. We trust in we trust in this. And not says that expression God we trust you. Not so. There's a in Daniel who came back for Daniel works. My grandmother and his grandmother were best best best friends. Mrs. had a number she survived Auschwitz. Mrs. was a the said she was a by Hashem. My grandmother was a these two friends with my meaning. Rooted not saying the you said we trust you. We trust. Do we know? Do we always understand not so? You tell us we believe you. If you told us to do this we sense your love. And the place we came we have to remember we came to from we experienced Hashem's love. Like we have tasted, we were Hashem's care for us. From that space we received Hashem I know you love me. That's the space where people who absorb Hashem's into us. He told me it's good for me. It's good for me. I understand NASA. But then we added and NASA you could talk about NASA for years. And NASA is the space of battle to Hashem. Every single we have to Hashem. Not to offer the culture. Offers that is spotless. That is spotless gives to the Hashem about the matter I like the matter it's only I was to study with my tata from cover to cover. And in the matter it says it's me me base my mid gets tired of the matter. The mid is this battle this faith this sense Hashem you tell me to spotless of one faith. I don't know I don't understand NASA. You tell me Hashem I trust you faith in you Hashem. We should make some matters my mid it's nice and like the matter gets the gift of Torah. So that's this powerful NASA that's always been the mark of a year. But we went on and we said to Hashem nishma. Nishma's fascinating. Nishma is Hashem I know it's amazing we figured out nishma. Nishma says to the Hashem. God I understand what you tell me I'm going to do and that's it and I don't need to understand but nishma. I am going to crave. I want to feel you. I want every piece of my I know my soul just does. You made the human experience neshama. I want to relate to this. I want to understand it. I want it to be magical by me. I want to emotionally I want this to to pulsate entirety of my being neshama. I'm going to work my brains out till this like resonates by me. I'll do it if it means nothing if it's dry and boring and crazy and I just feel like I'm wasting my time. I'll do it. But neshama, you told it to me so I want my whole being to like to feel this to experience it. I want chassidus was built on neshama. I want to experience this. I want to relate. I want feeling. I'll study it. I'll work on it. I'll think about it till it feeling is like wow. I can relate. My pinky feels feeling. My toes, the entirety of my experience. Today's generation is rooted in neshama. It's bound with neshama. The youngsters who are confused don't understand that you're born from nassa. Your baba, your father is nassa. And today's dar is craving. I want to I want I want to relate to this. I can't be robotic. Nassa is true and I'm born to nassa but neshama. I want to I want to I want to pray but I want it to be magical. I'll do it just cuz you say it's true but neshama. If I summed up today's dar is rooted has its roots in neshama. But it comes from nassa. It's a nassa but neshama so you nassa faith in you Hashem. You told me when I don't understand I'll do it also but neshama. What I'm craving we sing in yeshiva achsanaim shabbos I was so into the sweetness of shabbos. It's very mashiach titan. It It feels to me my son and I had a conversation Pesach, do we see Mashiach closer or further? And we were struggling, where do we see? People say Mashiach is coming. It's It's cute to say that. How do you feel it? Where do you see that? Just to say words is just checkers. Stop being a liar. What do you The area most that I see an energy of Mashiach is people kids, youngsters. What are they craving? Like be a robot like me. When I see guys in Yeshiva, I was a robot 45 years of my life. I ignored my my inners. I don't know you did. I don't know. I don't know. I see a craving to experience. What are they talking? I see Mashiach. I see something there's a das umalah it's deya. Deya is this emotional experience, this something Mashiach that there's a craving across the board. I see this s'chidus litzlich. It looks to some people struggling that just screaming. The prayer of today is neshama. Na'aseh v'nishma. Nishma we're begging for neshama. Guri, I'm going to ask him to sing. I appreciate what brings to the Yeshiva. He's a He's [applause] an amazing person. He's from We This Yeshiva is a place where there's space for people. Guri is one of the people who make sure there's space for people. He's a listener like I amazing listener. He's an amazing ben Torah. There's a song I want him to sing because I think this is the prayer of today. Everything's in Tehillim words of David Hamelech David Hamelech's yahrtzeit with Shavuos. We think about David Hamelech always klal Yisrael say for Tehillim, but David Hamelech said to Hashem tov tam v'daas lamdeni. I beg you Hashem, give me a time and mitzvahs. I want to feel it. I want to appreciate. I want it to be magical. Vadas, I want to emotionally connect to mitzvahs. You know why? Kivi mitzvahs sakhel amanti, cuz I have emunah in mitzvahs. Even when I feel nothing, I'll be robotic. You said, Hashem, that's good enough for me. But I beg you, Hashem, tov tam vadas lamdeini, give me a cheishek in mitzvahs. I'm rooted My roots are kivi mitzvahs sakhel amanti. I think it's the prayer of today. I think this is the prayer of our generation. we sang this together before Shavuos, then together on Shavuos. Shloime, if you can come forward, Shloime. >> [applause] >> Who do you want to be singing it with? I can sing it with Aaron, Aaron finds out about Obviously, he's going to play a little with >> [applause] >> He's coming. Let's do tov tam. Everybody can join in. Let's do it. >> [music] [music] >> Tov tam vadas lamdeini, >> [music] [singing] >> kivi mitzvahs sakhel >> [singing] >> amanti. [music] Tov tam vadas >> [music] >> lamdeini, kivi >> [music] >> mitzvahs twice >> [singing] >> a month. >> [music] >> I dive in. >> [music and singing] >> Some even >> [singing] [music] >> twice. >> [singing] >> I dive in. Some even >> [music] [singing] >> Some even >> [music] [singing] >> twice >> [music] >> a month. >> [singing] [music] >> Some even >> [singing] >> twice >> [music] >> a month. [singing] I dive in. Some even >> [music] [singing] >> twice. >> [music] >> I dive in. >> [music] >> Some even >> [singing] >> twice. >> [music] >> I dive in. >> [music] >> Some even >> [music] [singing] >> twice. I dive >> [music] >> in. Some even >> [singing] >> Return of the mack. >> [music] [applause] >> WHISKEY WHAT? IT'S NATURAL. THAT'S GOOD. >> [applause] >> THAT WAS I WANT TO ASK GABE BELLMAN. He just composed together with you the Zeldman. They composed a song that was about 2 and 1/2 weeks old, Gabe? 2 weeks old. 2 weeks old, maybe. It's a song that we all live. I want I remember when we all live came to Yeshiva. I remember that I'm thanking today the first time we came with Aviad to Yeshiva. I immediately fell in love with Rabbi Yaniv. The parents were were were in Yeshiva together. He's a close friend. I thank Rabbi Yaniv for being here. Thank you for sending Aviad to Yeshiva. Thank you for being in Yeshiva. Thank you. >> [applause] >> I want Maydad Maydad check out this song. I want [applause] to hear this song, Maydad. If the the case the came Ezra is already has married brothers two brothers who live in Zichron Yaakov in the Yeshiva all married with children. Baruch Hashem, it's appreciated. Very very appreciated. You're here. I want If I can ask it's a little bit much to ask to sing this song. It's like it's you're crazy, Kalish. The song's a piece of him. The same way divrei Torah in the Yeshiva even Mo my kids when Mo wanted to publish the safer my kids were uneasy at first. I'm going to be honest. We don't We're not into vords. We're not like saying vords, but then my kids said Mo Muller can write the safer. There's not vords in Yeshiva. We're trying to study Torah. That's our Torah. A vord If I ask my son to say a vord at the Shabbos table, my son will say I wasn't ready. Like you put me on the spot. Moishe's Torah Moishe shares Torah at night. It's not vords. It's your Torah. It's same halacha. A vord means this is what This resonated by me. In school, my daughter was asked She She She's a good student. She was asked though to write an essay something you're passionate about. She refused. She said I don't want to share that. She said either I'm going to lie and write something I'm not passionate. I don't want to lie and what I'm passionate I don't want to share. So I want to express to ask A to ask A to share this song. He's like sharing. The only dude is this safe space to share. Here you can share. The rule is it does a steerum sukim. One possuk says you will halacha don't share your Torah. You will halacha don't share your Torah. God says a possuk a part says you will share your Torah. Share your Torah. It's a contradiction two sukim. One possuk says don't share your Torah Yael. A possuk next to it says share your Torah. It's a steerum. Thank you for being here. Thank you for bringing that deal. Thank you for [applause] being here. THERE'S TWO SUKIM BACK TO BACK. One possuk says share your Torah and one says you will halacha azar shouldn't be shouldn't be with you. It's a steerum sukim. Chazal say it depends a talmud chacham or not. The way I understand it, don't if you share Torah is something precious to you and it won't be precious to somebody else, don't share. It's going to take away. You ever say something I once shared something and a lady was in the sheer. She said, "Very nice, Rabbi." I was like broke. I wasn't trying to be nice. I wasn't trying to be cute. I was like sharing my I was giving you a The response, "Very nice." was like a turn-off. Very nice. Cute. My father didn't like a word you were saying. He said, "Cute." It meant like you're saying schwach. Here you're sharing something deep. So, but the Talmud hug and somebody will appreciate you could share. I yes gave here. And I would be careful. Just to ask, "Could you share?" That's vulnerable. He shared it after Shavuos. I have a family member who's here was crying mamesh. It's something personal and precious. I'm yes gave a The fathers are like the sons. The sons come from the fathers. Thank you, Gabe. >> [music] >> I had your happy when you moved out to college away from town. It's kind of crazy the way it all works out. We didn't grow up in the [music] same house, but we're brothers. So, I want to tell you about the thing crazy that I found [music and singing] It might be useless. I might sound stupid cuz I can't prove [singing] it. But I need it said. you that there's a God and knows your name and he knows your heart and feels your pain. Oh, I wish that it [music and singing] was something I could explain. I can't, but I need to say [music and singing] there's a God and knows your name and he knows your heart and feels your pain. Oh, you might [music and singing] not believe me, but either way I promise heaven [music] knows your name. Oh, do you ever feel that spark that's [music] burning [singing] in your heart? Does it guide you when you're in the dark? Oh, do you wonder if this mortal life, if [music] there's an [singing] answer to the great big why? I believe [music] that there [singing] is truth to find. It might [music] be [singing] useless. I might sound [music] stupid cuz I [singing] can't prove it. But I needed to tell [singing] you that >> [music] >> there's a God and knows your name and he knows your heart and feels your pain. Oh, I wish that [music and singing] it was something I could explain. I [singing] can't, but I need to say, "There's a God in me knows [music and singing] your name, and he knows your heart and feels your pain." Oh, you might >> [music and singing] >> not believe me, but either way, >> [music] >> I promise heaven knows your name. I hope >> [singing] >> that you hear this song and one day you sing [singing] along. And together we'll say, "There's a God in me knows my name, and he knows my heart and feels my pain, and it's not [music] something [singing] I need to explain. Oh, I just want to say, "There's a God in me knows my name, and he knows my heart and >> [music] >> feels my pain, and I've [singing] waited all my life to say >> [music and singing] >> that heaven knows my name. Heaven [music] knows my [singing] name. Heaven knows my name. >> [music] >> I've waited all my life to say that heaven [music] knows my name. >> [applause] >> There's a God in knows your name, and he >> [music and singing] >> knows your heart and feels your pain. Oh, I wish that it was something I could explain. [music and singing] I can't, but I need to say, "There's a God in me knows your name, and he [singing] knows your heart, and he feels your pain. No, you might [music] not believe me, but either way, I promise heaven knows YOUR NAME. >> [applause] [applause] >> MAYBE THERE'S SOMEBODY YOU COULD PUT words to after that. I'm not one. So, I'm going to ask if I could ask Mayor to please come up. >> [applause] >> I'm a man. I'm a man. >> [music] [music and singing] >> I'm [singing] a man. >> [music] [music and singing] >> I'm a man. >> [music] [music] [singing] [music] [singing] [music] [singing] [music] [singing] [music] [singing] [music] [singing] [music] [singing] [music] >> Ooh. >> [singing] [music] [singing] [music] [applause] >> I want to I want to share another piece of Torah in a minute, but I first want to ask some of the chevre to come up. Let's do a zoom. The this very this very season we're seeing in Yeshiva Azarym b'Dema arena yetzira. The work that was work that was [music] done and put in we're seeing a tremendous cam of arena yetzira. And with joy we're seeing [music] a lot of k'tira. I want to express a tremendous appreciation all the parents that came out from all my Jeremiahs. My Jeremiahs, I appreciate you a lot. You and your sons MEAN SO MUCH. >> [applause] >> I WANT TO THANK THE REBBEIM. I WANT TO thank the Mendy Katz who gives labor and effort to the Yeshiva. [applause] Rabbi Zohn brings it [applause] every single day. I'm going to I'm going to ask but let's call up come up. Come up. Come up. >> [applause] >> This is underrated, but Daniel Silver, COME UP. DANIEL. >> [applause] >> MENACHEM LISKER, MENACHEM. ARI BUTLER. Ari Butler, everyone. One second. Michael Singer, obviously. Michael, let's go. I want to express music's a big part. Music matters a lot. I don't want to say the Yeshiva heart people. David Amelak composed music to Livian in the base hamikdash. Us Livians sang music. Music always shiru lashem. I want to express about Michael Singer that on Friday nights, Shabbos Kodesh, we have a group. We sing smiras together. He's always a big PART OF SMIRAS. >> [applause] >> BEAUTIFUL PERSON. YOU'RE SO PART OF THE singing always. Shlomo's picky who plays with him. He always allows Michael and once Michael's heart tremendously open, your warmth, your love, your care for other people. I'm just thankful you're here. Thank you having a Yeshiva. Thank you singing with us. >> [applause] >> THANK YOU. THANK YOU. GOOD NIGHT. >> [music] >> DI DA DA DA. DI da da da. >> [singing] [music] >> Di da da da. Di da da da. >> [music] >> Shuva Hashem. Ashrei ha'ish. >> [music] >> Yevarechecha >> [singing] >> Shuva Hashem. Ashrei ha'ish. >> [singing] >> Yevarechecha >> [music] >> Ki yad. >> [singing] >> Yemincha. [music] >> [singing] [music] [singing] >> Ki yad. Yemincha. >> [music and singing] >> Ashrei >> [music] >> Yemincha. Ki yad. Yemincha. Ashrei [music] Yemincha. Shuva Hashem. >> [music and singing] >> Ashrei ha'ish. Yevarechecha >> [music] >> Shuva Hashem. Ashrei ha'ish. [singing] >> [music] >> Yevarechecha Ki yad. >> [music and singing] [music and singing] [music] [singing] [music and singing] [music] [singing] [music] [singing] [music] [singing] [music] [singing] [music] [singing] [music] [applause] >> Yair, Yair, please Come on, Yair. Let's go. Yair. >> [applause] >> Josh you flatter. Josh you >> [applause] >> Yair I saw your sister. Josh you please >> [music] >> I don't want to my lady. >> [music] >> See all the my lady. >> [singing] [music] >> See all the my lady. See all the my lady. >> [music] [singing] [music] >> See all the my lady. See all the my lady. >> [music] [singing] [music] >> See all the my lady. See all the my lady. >> [music] [singing] [music] [singing] [music] >> See all the my lady. See all the my lady. >> [music] [singing] >> See all the my lady. >> [music] >> See all the my lady. >> If only you would know how good it is. If only you would know [singing] how good it is. If only you would know how good it is. If only you would know >> [music] [music] [singing] [music] [singing] [music and singing] >> If only you would know how good it is. If only you would know how good it is. >> [music] >> If only you would know how good it is. If only you would know how good it is. [singing] If only you would know how good it is. If only you would know how good it is. If only you would know how good it is. >> [music] >> If only you >> [music] >> If only If only >> [music] [singing] >> If only >> [music] >> If only >> [singing] >> If only If only >> [music] >> If only >> [singing] [music] >> If only If only >> [singing] >> If only >> [music] >> If only >> [music and singing] >> If only >> [music] [singing] >> If only >> [singing] [music] [singing] [music] [singing] [music] [singing] [music] [singing] [chanting] [music] [applause] >> I wanted to share one more piece of Torah. It's 10:00 to 3:00. Ari, thanks for staying so long. What you taught me. Thank you, Ari. I want to express I'm going to share one more piece of Torah. [applause] Very brief, but it's something important to me. Very brief, but I do want to express that we have many off Shabbos days. The nature of the Yeshiva is that I call us only a quasi out-of-town Yeshiva. I want guys going home. I want guys to be plugged into their families. So, and in the the bottom line is we have many out-of-towners and we need homes. We need places. I want to express that tremendous appreciation to Ari and Esty that your home is such an open home. Thank you. [applause] Thank you. Many guys have gone through. Every guy knows that on an off Shabbos, it's not easy to bring friends. You want a certain space year-round people the whole time here to bring people home, especially souls. I thank you, Ari. I want to express to the Silver Mishpacha, Daniel and Esty, the appreciation. I hope hopefully [applause and cheering] your home is I want to express to the Mullers. The Mullers are constantly having people. Thank you, Reb Leiby. Thank you to Mo [applause] and Ari. Yes. It's It's greatly appreciated. All the families that are constantly hosting and having, it's really tremendously tremendously appreciated. So, we thank all those families. I want to share something will take under 10 minutes. I think even the world's 10 minutes. It'll be very very brief, but I want to talk about one possuk in Mishlei. An early love of my life is the safer Mishlei. And there's a possuk in Mishlei I was zocheh to be yesterday, to be in Lakewood yesterday with and I was with one of the talmidei chachamim in America who's a bochur in Groz. And he We were We were handling a possuk in Mishlei together and I want to share the groh with everybody here. It's meant To me, it's very meaningful. The possuk in Mishlei says the following the following statement is "Has halach b'yashra y'rei Elokim." Somebody who goes b'yashra in his own yashar has yeras shamayim. Who knows draco by say you somebody who makes crooked his path is a mivaza Hashem. Now right away it's the possuk like perks my interest. Whenever you say your own yashar like a personalized yashar. People who are very not yashar stick who are very not straight not honest seem to have their own systems of honesty. So Melech the smartest man ever he says be yashar when you go in your yashar you have yeras shamayim. What per say what pray tell is your yashar? Yashar straight should say be yashar. By my rebbe the biggest value we taught is honesty. My rebbe I was zocheh to hear shiurim my whole life by my rebbe. What he spoke about more than any topic under the sun was being honest being honest. I feel like my rebbe gave my rebbe created this makom. This is like honesty squared. The honesty of the guys is wild. Sometimes I think we didn't mean this honest. There's an honesty here that's extreme. And my rebbe spoke about honesty but what's your own honesty? Isn't honesty a fact? Should say be yashar. Somebody who goes ehrlichkeit and ehrlich was the highest compliment my rebbe knew. My kids tell me that if they know I like a guy I give a lot of information about shidduchim. If the word sincere is in there then you hold of the guy. The word sincere is not there we know you don't hold of the guy. Honest straight. So be yashar you really can. What's be what's a person's own what is that? Says says the when you go and do what you need not imitating anybody. If you make crooked your ways you copy others. He learns so I have to do that. He learns this I have to copy him. If you make crooked your ways in imitation by saying you that's a mistake. You go in your what you need your own journey. I look at the world of learning as a journey to the self. I can't stand the word flip out. It's a silly word. If I I tell guys when they come here that they better stay cool when they learn. So a guy like laughs he thinks he's being funny. I'm not such a funny guy. It's a sin and if a person's not true to himself don't tell me you stay. You lost. You who the wise is going to stay another year he's staying. I'm not >> [applause] >> I promise as he stays as he stays he will remain the coolest guy. Will not change. Cool. A person has to go in his not to lose himself the coming out and bringing out oneself. I'm learning in with finish cool every 30 days. He would stand the doorway and he would say let my soul rejoice my soul rejoice for you my essence of my learning Mishnah. For you, my essence, I'm my learning Mikra. That's what he would say. He would say, "Shteiging is the enhancement of self, to journey to bring out the self." Somebody grows this mamish, wow, that's you. It fits the person, the person fits it. Karve elacha davar me'od, it's mamish demensch alein. And holech beyosher means a person doesn't imitate and doesn't try to be somebody else. But why does it call it yichud deyiras shamayim? Why yirei Hashem? Holech beyosher is matzliach. Why is it called yiras shamayim? So, I always learned that it's called yiras shamayim, and this is how I understood pshat, but I want to share the groh this afternoon. I always learned pshat with Yankev that that it's called yiras shamayim because you respect Hashem made you. If you imitate somebody else, he doesn't want you to be somebody else. That's a mevaza Hashem, you're trying to be somebody else. You're disrespecting the soul and the gifts Hashem gave you. And I always understood, I don't know why yiras shamayim, but there was a You're accepting yourself as an acceptance of Hashem. He made me. This is how he made me. There's a yiras shamayim to being true to self. That's always I took the yiras shamayim. The groh says fascinating. The groh says different, and one of the manhigey hador showed me this groh last night, and I want to share it with the chevra. The groh says, "Why is being true to self yiras shamayim? Because many people will knock you. Many people will mock you. Many people will say, 'I have a maiseh, I'll tell you a maiseh. I'm going to be honest, I'll tell you a maiseh. We had a bochur came to yeshiva, and he applied for a prestigious Yeshiva in Eretz Yisrael and they said to him that people like Waterbury this this Yeshiva said you came from there you can't get in. They said no. So I called up the Rosh Yeshiva. I said Reb Yehuda I needed to talk to you honestly. I said I don't usually push into Yeshivas not my way. The guy should go but I want to express something. This bachur was in a Yeshiva he was a matzliach. And if he applied to you from there to Waterbury you would have taken him. He was the from the maybe the best guy in a shiur. He had things that he felt he needed to work out. He opened up here. Honest stuff crazy stuff. I said for being honest he didn't get into your Yeshiva. He said for being honest he came the bachur himself told me to tell my friends I'm in Waterbury. You went there you're struggling. No I'm just being honest. I'm just working honestly. I told the Rosh Yeshiva it's dangerous what you're doing. I want to say this Rosh Yeshiva is a yid. I'll do anything for him. He took the bachur in a second. He He said I want to think about what you're saying. You're saying emes? He called me back the next day the bachur's in. The bachur learned there for two years learned in the Yeshiva. Said you're saying emes? He took him. He had no achrayus. Literally there was no money to pay nothing. He took the bachur he said you're saying emes. He took the bachur in the Yeshiva. And Chayil b'Yashar says the Gra's yiras Mayim because whenever you go and you are yashar there's always people saying that's what you're doing really? Really? Really now come on. How does it look? How does it look? That's but it's yiras Mayim because it has to It can't It can't take polls. To go when you are yashrus you do what's true. We can't take polls. This is what you know. This is your truth. My parents were very not fighting people, zero. They're no like this. They were like zero. Like I don't remember there was no such thing. My parents were not fighters if Harry knew them. During COVID, my parents, my mom and my tata held the after minyanim. It wasn't they're not fighters. They don't fight on anything, zero. They're not fighters. During COVID, my parents felt they have to have minyanim. My father made minyanim. He was by me for 2 weeks. We had a minyan. There's a guy who still doesn't talk to me. He won't I say good Shabbos, he won't say good Shabbos back. For 2 years when I spoke, he left the room. He made a minyan by COVID. I hear my father made a minyan. I'm with my tata. And my parents made a minyan. They didn't want to fight any My father was more people threatened his life. People threatened him. He held you need a minyan. The same way grocery stores He kept every social distance. He was He was He held minyanim are essentials as much as grocery stores. And my father each They weren't fighters. They were just You really came. See you You go in your My father's a not to miss minyanim, not to be late by minyanim. You really came. You can't take polls by the truth by grabbing onto the truth. You can't take polls. And be It's not in a most of there's a group talking. I promise you I can get it sound in the room right now. I promise. And you're in a that's talking. People some guy got up, talks way too long. They're allowed to think of talking a bit. It's a unique place. It looks like a crazy place. Who runs this place? In the middle of a speech, people If a different rabbi was talking, I'd get quiet. I'm always talking, guys could talk when I talk. A guy asked me in my house, I was giving a speech, my kids were running around. The guys used to live in my house when the yeshiva was in Waterbury. So, a guy said, "Why do you let your kids talk when you speak?" I said, "I'm speaking my whole life, they shouldn't talk?" Yeah, guys is always I'm always darshaning, so guys can talk. But, I want to express the yashrus. When you don't take polls, you go in the what you believe is the truth, that takes the main. Because you'll be told, "That's That's not how we do it. That's not how it's done." That's the the grass says of yashrus. And the for person makes his ways crooked to fit in. He says, "Other people, what's the neighbors going to say?" By saying you is a Hashem. It's a Hashem, you didn't trust you have a neshama, you know the truth, you know what's true. There's one thing I want a bochur to learn here. You'll ne- I don't think you'll ever hear a rebbe say, "Trust me." I don't want guys trusting It's not about trust, trust yourself, your own neshama. Dig deep, trust yourself. What is What's the We have a neshama, what does your soul tell you? You really can find your Dig deep. Don't Don't be superficial. Dig deep, what's your truth? What's the truth? And do the The whole world's going to stay another year in Sugar. To stay another year is Go to Eretz Yisrael after 12th grade, you don't go back to your high school, that's You're out of your mind. I ask a guy, but I don't say, "Believe me." If he doesn't listen to me and goes there, it's I'll be thrilled because he should go be What's the truth? Just grab the truth, don't take polls. What's the truth? You are yesher. What's neshama? What's the MS? That's yiras shamayim. The wise draw somebody makes his way crooked copy and following by saying you lose the mitzvah of Hashem. This is a rallying cry of this yeshiva of all places of truth. Yeshivas are places of truth and a rallying cry is by yesharim yirei shamayim. Follow your yesher. So that's a rallying cry of the yeshiva. I want to express appreciation that Judah banquets sticks in many it's not a normal thing. How many years you have I by was sticking? That's not normal. You're in high school next year. You go back do you know it in your high school you stayed two years by your 11th grade year move on. No. I like this rebbe. I learned from this rebbe. I respect that tremendously Judah. My son went back. >> [applause] >> My son is by him. I respect that. Judah is a talmud. He found the truth. I look by yesharim. I'll tell a bachur how many guys in yeshiva day one right Brownstein I work hours on the dorms. Then the shiurim I used to work hard at it. So I would put a bachur in the shiur. Guy said I'm by R' Eisen. You you bring a bulldozer you'd have to carry me away. I'm not leaving. I found my rebbe. I'm not leaving. I respect that tremendously. I look by yesharim this is my shiur. I'm not leaving. Ask R' Eisen what it takes. A bachur wants to you should go to a different I found this year. My son was by R' Silverman three years. I found the shiur. I'm not moving. He learned chavrusas sedarim but he'd always go back to shiur. I respect that tremendously Judah. Go tell him no. No. I think nice for you think I look by yesharim. Somebody who goes by yesharim shall I say yiras shamayim. Somebody could laugh you're still what grade are you in Judah? I'm in 11th grade. Aren't you a 12th grader? This is the shiur. This is my rebbe. This is my yesher. Yirei came Yira Shamayim. Somebody else could laugh. The girl says that's the Yira Shamayim. Somebody could laugh. Somebody could mock. Somebody could say, "Really? This is This is what I deem as the truth? This is what I deem my son will gain?" Then that's how you look for Yishrei. As Yael is here is somebody I've watched him stay. I've watched him stay specifically with his father. I've watched him at Sears. If I captured the journey that's how you look for Yishrei. What's my Emes? What's my Emes? This one could do it this way. He's gone to his to this paradigm to his shylers. I don't get it. Everybody I have an Emes. So you look for Yishrei. Each person has their story, their journey, their path of Kodesh Shamayim. Somebody who nails it. My story of Kodesh Shamayim is Yael's Kodesh Shamayim. I watch Yael. Yael this is your second year by Rabbi Wisnicki, you know? >> [applause] >> Aren't you What? No, this this is your first year by Rabbi Wisnicki. I'm proud of you. I feel I'm thankful that Yael's in Yeshiva. One of the beautiful The word sincere I'd say on you you deserve the title. And I thank Yael FOR BEING HERE. >> [applause] >> WHAT HE'S BROUGHT, THE WARMTH, the You bring such a warmth and an an honest a want to grow, a willingness to grow. So you look for Yishrei. Rabbi Wisnicki is somebody who had big plans. Your Rabbi Yael. He had plans. His plan was to be an accountant. He's going to be an actuary and taking tests. I felt I met him. I felt like so many people would get I'm not like a guy My father pushed us to go to work. I'm not a guy Nobody has to go to chinuch. A person serve Hashem, build the world. Each person find My brother is much bigger than me. He builds. But I felt Rabbi Wisnicki would do so much in Hinukh. Like I couldn't handle seeing him count and just and and Ruby was sneaky as a Matias in a second he changed his life and said, "Okay, I'll go into Hinukh." He thought about it, went into Hinukh. He's a yosher. He's a yosher, he's a person if it's true and emes that's what he does, Ruby sneaky. If it's emes that's what he does. And he's a person open open to grow, to change, to develop. He's open-minded. And the talmidim that saw the mark of the sheer on the skies, I've watched Ruby the yol and the whole chevra. That's like a space of honesty, right? Ruby sneaky's room is like a beautiful space of honesty. Each year has its own flavor, its own time. I thank all the parents for being here. I thank Menachem Blisko that he's here. It's tremendously appreciated. Your wife should have a TREMENDOUS >> [applause] >> TREMENDOUSLY APPRECIATED. I WANT TO I WANT TO CLOSE. I want to close thanking, really appreciating the parents here. I want to say the main A yeshiva's a place of kearva, yedidus, of friendship, of honesty, of openness. I ask the guys and the fathers, the guys whose fathers are here, the guys it's a Our journey with our children, our journey with our children is a journey, is a story. And I could say my own children have changed my life. I did not know my inner world. I did not know the world. I ignored. I My religion was to be positive. If my kids so much of Hinukh and I ask parents to think about this, so much will call Hinukh our kids insult us. We don't have so much Hinukh on this cuz this world we did not go these places. There were reasons. It's It's a new dar. Reb Tzaddik Hakain said even though this you read this the lave is going to grow. Anybody with eyes sees it that has awareness. There's a lot of anxiety but what's this anxiety is a hundred years of not feeling. I see in my kids anxiety all the things I ignored. No but people were emotional. They cried. Don't mix this up. But when I was insulted I was just stark. No, it's fine. I'm What do you mean? But I showed up to my kids with peace of me shut down. Today I love being insulted. I love it. I'm very sensitive like a child because I ignored it and I don't mind being a little baby and insulted like a three-year-old. And I don't mind it at all and I show up more to my kids. What a lot of people call you're insulted. It's something after all I do for them kids are confused. I do so much. So you're insulted. That's not a bad thing. Go on a walk with that. Hug yourself. Talk to your wife. It makes me closer to my It makes me closer to myself and closer to my children. I like showing up as a human. I like that space. If I'm insulted I go on a walk. My kids don't have to They don't have to heal me at all and I'm going to show up. I'm here. I'm here. I love you. I'm your father. I'm here. I love you. You're my child. If I'm insulted that's a walk. That's a conversation with my wife. That's That's an inner work. And we could show up for our children. I want to beg all the fathers here, all the sons here. There's nothing that will Nobody replaces dad. Nobody replaces mom. Nobody. And the world of friendship. Where there's honesty there's a possibility of closer relationship. Father and son, son and father, mamesh, with tremendous yedidus, tremendous closeness. My son, my speaks his mind. When we talk and joke, we look at each other eye to eye. We know each other. A bakur here is an honest conversation even when you're not talking honestly, when you're just talking about the next run, quite a run it is, you look at each other and you like know each other. There's a care of him. There's a closeness. There's a possibility today's dar to mamesh be close to our children. There's an honesty and a deep space people are going to, but we mamesh, it's hard to get in there. Especially the older dar where melumad are not feeling, we're good at it. The tricks we have not I see on my friends, we have we have tricks, genius tricks not to feel. I could write swarum. The main safer I could write is on I'm a and not feeling. I have chaps and tricks and ways and it's hard to say, "Okay, I want to feel." It's a sugia. I don't don't work too hard. Just when you do feel, I like it when I'm insulted, when I'm when something hits, when something gets me angry, when something I like it. I don't chase it away anymore. I want to walk with it, be there, be present. It's a beautiful world to open up. It's a very pnimiyusdik dar. Wildly, there's a layv that's being put to us. Open up to it. Open up. The possibility of daram is one of the most honest spaces I've I've seen on planet Earth. It's a very hard space. It's very hard because it's hard to be honest. It's not an easy thing to do. It's much easy just to hide behind things, but to show up, to show up. I want to ask, this is a space with fathers and sons can mamesh be close, mamesh. They could be careful. Two friends are holding hands, we're close. We mamesh could be close, mamesh. Mamesh close. We all have dreams. Our kids look a certain way. It's a pride. Kidavans a certain way. It's a pride. The guy at the Shabbos table with all his kids neatly around that's beautiful picture. Maybe the journey to Hashem will look a little different sometimes. Maybe the journey is be present to what is, connect, relate, talk, become close. The the possibility of honesty is tremendous care of him. The possibility of feelings open up. Sometimes for anybody to feel it's difficult. Sometimes in learning to feel and crying myself, I yearn for the days of robotic. I say feeling's not so easy. There's it There's days we have where things are heavy to feel. I say, "Well, maybe I should go back to that robotic way." But I would never exchange it for the connections. The connections, the honest connection. This world's a place you really can connect to somebody, but real. You could be close to our spouses, but real and share. We could be close to our children, but real mamesh. I see some I see I I've watched him in Yeshiva. I've watched Reb Levi with his sons. I've watched Azriel with his son. I've watched I love seeing this is here with his tat. That's beautiful. It's beautiful. Nissin's a beautiful person. He's here with his tat. The fathers and sons, sons of can mamesh be close. Mamesh mamesh close with a kirva. To me me besarcha al tesalem. This world's an oilam chesed yibaneh. The main chesed is mishpacha. Husband to wife, wife to husband, children to parents, parents to children. That's the main space in the world. I invite us all, let's be mechazek that relation, not towards, not as any manipulation. Mamesh a father and a son. You're my son. You're my son. You're my son. That's it. There's an ahava, you're my son. There's an ahava. The light of that chesed goes from one end of the world to other. It's not a manipulation. He might not be from. It's just not I'm not thinking about that. That is from itself. You mamesh father, that's my son. You're handing our children God. That's my son. That's my son. Say a been to my Amish my son. The burn shams are tattletales. The deepest prayer in the world cuz Hashem, you're our tat. We're your children. We're your children Hashem. Zehu. Doesn't need I One of the saddest moments of my life is a father said I'm doing a fancy ski trip. He said what should I ask my son in exchange? Tisha B'Av I think about that conversation. That's my Amish Tisha B'Av. That's carbon base I'm a big dish shoot a Amish. What should I ask for? Should ask for he's your son. He's your son. ASK FOR HE'S YOUR SON. HE'S YOUR SON AMISH. He's your son. Try ask is there a business transaction going on here? He's your son. You'll hand him God if you're just with him. He's your son. What should I ask for I have a good trip? Like it's like a schmuck opportunity to get something. What should we What are you talking? He's your son. He's your son. He's your Ben. You'll hand him the world. He's your son. Love him. He's your son. Look at him and now but the terrorists is but I'm insulted. What do you mean? You know how much Agnes never That's normal. Every parent should be insulted. We're humans. It's hard. It's hard. It's difficult. People are people. So that's a space we can learn our own sugar then be an ab. You know that opportunity to be an ab? An ab shows up. You know how many parents describe one way or another? I don't get it. Sometimes my kids wants me. Some That's what it means an ab. An ab means I'm here. I love you and ab means when the Ben that's the peerish of an ab. When the son is even struggling but I'm here. That's an ab. The Rebbe shalom's on zero tattletales. My Amish here for us. He's my Amish here. But now you're such a bad boy. Now he's not a baloney. Baloney. There's no such thing. This checker of a chazzer. Checker of a tat is there for his son. Somebody was telling me I understand the halachos class of baloney. Baloney. a father is there for his son. I know it if I'm a father. A father is there for his son. There's no other son. We misbehave, there's no shyness. I promise. I'm a father more than my son misbehaves. He's my son. The more he misbehaves, the more it brings out I'm his father. That's my kid. Don't touch him. Don't mess. That's my son. That's my child. He's my child. That's what it means. Hashem's our tata. That's the possible that we could be fathers is nuts. How do you expect the human to be a father? A human who gets insulted is crazy. So that means Hashem thinks we manage that we could be a father is sugar. So the Torah says we have so much godless when a shamash we have a piece of God manage. Halacha Lakame Mal manage so you could be a tata. It's filled. How do you expect a human to be a tata? I when guys are upset at their father, any human being thinks, "Let's see you be a father." Tata? The Torah says that we're nishamas. We're big nishamas and we could be tatas. A tata manage can show up ever. I want to give us all a bracha to end this learning with a bracha. The Ribono Shel Olam should mazel us with tremendous tremendous korva tormishpachas to bring out godliness into the world. A father's overflowing love to his son. That that tremendous the swaram bring that Yitzchak Avinu loved Esau as sayid befev was the deepest prayer to Hashem. He Kavyakho was trapping Hashem. A father loves his son Hashem. Esau was no nachas machine. A father loves his son. That's my son. That was the deepest sayid befev Kavyakho was ensnaring Hashem. It was a deep prayer. The deepest prayer of our life. A tata loves his children. Ribono Shel Olam, we're your children. We're your children. We're your children. So each time we should be zoche that people traveled big distances to be here. It's appreciated. We should see tremendous tremendous tremendous nachos from our children. We should see the nation of the son of the son of the son of tremendous core of of parents to children and children to parents. And the core of it should have the coming of Messiah in our days. Amen. Whoever Whoever would join This is my own This is a personal Whoever already was here, sat at Shiurim, and enjoyed our children. I happen to enjoy We like sports in Yeshiva. We would do outdoor volleyball, but it's wet outside, so we'll be in the gym. But every every Everybody's invited. We'll start at 3:30. We'll try to be prompt. We'll try to be done by by 5:00 the latest. But every If you can only even come one game, anybody's invited to the gym for some volleyball. At least something is good. So, this son didn't go to the game. I've been here before. Thank you for being here. Thank you.