God Doesn't Judge Success the Way You Think — This Changes Everything! Rabbi Gavriel Friedman

I just want to first speak to God for a second and I would like to just point out I don't know what you guys are doing on a normal Thursday night. Some of you I recognize from Israel. I know what you did on Thursday nights but uh you came to my what were you thinking? But uh shalom if you could take a look that we should have over here on a Thursday night. I can't it's hard to see close to 10,000 people. Camera can't see so we're good. But this this is amazing. This is unbelievable. Usually I'm used to walking in and less people. This is a lot. And this is really amazing. Kakavode to every one of you that you um that you decided to come out tonight. And just uh again, I just want to give give you guys a shout out to Hashem. Hashem, look at this. Is amazing. So, I I would like to just start off with I went back to my car specifically to get this because I I forgot it. Hold on. You got to be kidding. Oh, touchdown. Okay. And the props are always better. I want to I want to show you the following. This is a What is this? >> A ticket to what? >> What kind of game? So anyway, this is a a game, a hockey game between the Ottawa Senators and the Boston Bruins. These are two hockey teams. If you don't know what hockey is, it's like basketball on ice without the basketball. And it's totally not like it at all. But uh this is a game that I went to for Amisurel of course because everything I do is for Kaiser and uh Robbie Stakes after for CLU and um this was on October 24th, 2009. Now I get to look at this every year because I have it in my for it's what I use as the as to keep the place what I'm up to. Now, why is this over there? Because on October 24th, 2009, that weekend, I went to a place called Ottawa. And I went there, there were two rabbis that were running this weekend of Shabaton. One is Rabbi G and the other is Rabbi Dave. If you know them, you know them. If you don't, you don't. This is Canadian version of Rabbi Dave. A lot of Rabbi Daves in the world. This is Canada version. So, Rabbi G and Rabbi Dave say, "We want you to come to uh to speak to, you know, what for the weekend, college students or whatever." I said, "Okay." He said, "And we want you to come on Moz Shabas to the to a to a hockey game in order to uh you know, go with the guys." And I was like, "Okay." Now, it may be like uh wow. Like, I know you're all thinking. I could I feel it. You're all thinking someone so colorless or taller like you would even think of going to a game. And uh I understand your thoughts. Um I actually never ever cared to go to sporting events. It wasn't my thing to go and to watch sporting events. Not my thing. But I like to play sports, but I don't really care to say come, let's go watch someone else. Like it's a little bit weird. But okay, I said I'll go. And they told me I have to wear an Ottawa Senator's jersey. Okay. Now fine. Now I was I was you know I don't know if you ever seen these videos of like where I left like sitting in the corn like during his game like learning your shami or something. I was like there's no videos of me but I'm in the maybe because it's an artish I don't know but the point is that that I was sitting it's great and I was sitting we were in the nosebleleed sections for those who unfamiliar with what that means. It's they're one of the best seats. They're like the the best they're very very very expensive and uh but really they're incredibly cheap and you can't see anything. It's all the way up all the way up. So we're sitting all the way up a whole group of guys and I'm wearing an Ottawa jersey. Now the issue for me of wearing an Ottawa jersey and again I really didn't care and I was really doing par. That's what it was. Pares no but okay I would look up every once in a while for me the issue was that my father is from Boston. It was the Ottawa Senators playing the Boston Bruins. So, as a kid, there were basically three rules in my house. And I just want to for please forgive me if you you care about this stuff. It was love the Celtics, hate the Yankees, don't eat pig. Those were the rules. Those that's that was like the general rules of the house. But once Boston is always floating around. So, the Boston Bruins, you know, you can't I'm not going to go to a senator's game and vote and cheer for the senator. like I have to yay Boston or whatever whatever you have to Hey, give me a B. You know, whatever however people do it. Anyway, so I'm like I'll wear the jersey, but you should just know I'm I'm if these are the teams I'm a Bruins fan, you know, they're like, "No, you can't do it." Everybody Dave, whoever he is, is a very big fan, or at least was at the time, of the Ottawa Senators. He's from Ottawa. Loves the Ottawa Senators, loves everything about them. And I'm sitting there doing my thing and every time I'm like, "Ah, okay. How's it playing? what happens. I don't remember because I really wasn't watching until towards the end of the game, but it was basically going into the end of the game, almost the end of the game, the Senators are winning three to one. Now, if you don't know how hockey works, if you're at the end of the game already and they're up 3 to one, it's not easy to score. The 3 to one is like a is like a game, you know? It's a big deal. So what happens is they're up three to one and uh I'm sitting there and and and people start to leave and this is very common at the end of a game if it's already a blowout. 3-1 is like it's done. People start to leave because they don't want to get they want to get to their cars to get out of there, right? So they don't have to be stuck. But what happens? We're we're staying to the end. Why? Because Dave said we're staying to the end, right? It's okay because it's a blasphemy to leave. I said, "Okay, we will stay to the end." There's a minute 28 seconds left in the game and I turned to Rabbi Dave and I said, "Wouldn't it be crazy if the Bruins tied it and then won? I if if if looks can kill." He looked at me and then he pulled out a knife. It was a whole thing. It was crazy. [laughter] I was like, "How did you get that in here?" He's like, "Never mind." Whatever. It was It was crazy. It was Canada, so there's no knives and no guns. He just said, "A fine." But point is, I was just I was like, "B whatever." And he's like, he looks at me. He's like, "No, no." You know, I felt like I'm in shul again as a kid. I'm like, "I'm sorry. I won't tell you I'm like I don't know what to say. [snorts] Terab, I'M NOT EVEN TER." I GO, "WOULDN'T it be crazy?" He goes, "No." They score. It's now 3-2. He's like, "What did you do? What do you do? I'm like Mashiach now. Like what do you mean? [laughter] You think I control the the weather? I do. What do you mean what I do? I just said it. And as he's yelling at me, THEY SCORE AGAIN. HE'S LIKE, "NO, I'LL like losing himself." It goes into shoot and the Bruins end up winning 4-3. >> And I was like, "Wouldn't it be crazy? They tied it and then they won in overtime." It's exactly what happened. I'm like, uh, I haven't spoken to him since 2009, by the [laughter] way. Sometimes I'm joking. I'm totally serious. I don't even know. Anyway, I haven't spoken to him. He sent me some letters with a lot of letters. Um, but anyway, this is this is the actual ticket. This is the ticket from that day. You could see like see October 24th, 2009. Now, I know you're thinking maybe you only got you're wondering where the other half is. It's here. This the other part like where they rip, you know, whatever. So I have both of them because if I did Rashi I put it beyond Rashi and for uncle fine. [snorts] There's no giving up. You don't give up. There's a minute 28 seconds to the game. You're not going to win. It's over. Give it up. Get off the ice. Move on. Don't hurt yourself. And say, "Oh, you ain't giving up. You ain't giving up. You got to keep plugging away. Gotta keep going." comes like this time period of year we go through like ll and and and rash yum kiper okay I know a lot of people get depressed from it okay I get it but it can also be like inspirational and then there's what's called inspirational depression I think a lot fall into the category of inspirational depression what's inspirational depression it's where you get inspired and then you do nothing with it so then you get depressed so you're like I wish I wouldn't have even gotten inspired I don't even want to get that in first place it just goes up and it goes down. And it's like and we take on there's some that do not everyone I don't want to judge anyone here that you actually grew it all but there's some people that grow from it and they take on cababas and I'm going to do x I'm going to do y and I'm going to do z or zed if you're from of another country right I'm going to do this and excited and then and then it kind of withers away and then it's over number one a you don't give up you don't give up you got to keep pushing got to keep pushing got to keep pushing you but I I'm trying and I'm not successful and it's not working out and what's going on over here. [snorts] Let's understand something. There is something to it that don't give up and push through and as Hashem you keep pushing through, you will succeed. And that's what happened with the Bruins. They pushed through and they succeeded and they won and fantastic. But the mush is a terrible mushel. It is horrible. It is so antithetical to Judaism. misses the whole point of everything because it gets caught up with something that we know that if you ever heard I've me speak before I've said this more than one time and it's not me quoting a Mishna the entire Judaism all of Yiddish is about not did you finish it did you win the game did you come back in overtime that's not what it is then what's called winning what's called winning is that you keep moving forward and you don't even though you're failing. Okay, sometimes you'll end up being succeed. You'll be successful. You'll succeed, but sometimes you won't succeed, but that's not true. Unless you actually aren't trying, then you didn't succeed. Then you lost. What does it mean to succeed when it comes to to Yiddish kite? If you take a look at what's called if if I were to ask you who is the one in in Yiddish, who's the one in Judaism, you say Kiru? Who's the one when you want to talk about Kir? Who is the one who's trying to be Miff people? >> You heard of Abrau? Abu is, you know, he's he's the first to he's the first Kazak, right? He's the first he's the first um get it today for only you're giving it out or they're paying. Check under your chairs. Everyone look under. So anyway, he's the first Kazak. He's the first. He's the first. I mean, obviously we say that because of his incredible success rate. Everyone knows Aravino's incredible success rate. How successful was he? >> How successful was he? [laughter] >> He's like, "Yeah, what do you got?" >> Not at all. >> Yeah. If he'd be working for like Oli, right? They would fire him a long long time because he also lived a long time ago. The point is that they would have fired him very quickly. Now he he's a great he's a good one in the block. He's got everyone going and [snorts] Miky people and and truly he was mire of people m but then what happened they all went off. It's like why do we look to Minu as the one that we say oh this is the one he is the most incredible failure when it comes to the idea of Kiraov. The answer is because it's irrelevant. It's irrelevant at the end whether or not he was so to speak successful in the terms of the Boston Bruins. In Boston Bruins success, he was a failure. But in Judaism, in Judaism success, he was the greatest success. Why? Because he saw something that had to be done and he went ahead and he did it. If you feel about yourself that there's something I should be growing in, working on, taking upon myself, and whatever it is, and then you try and you fail, who cares? Well, it depends what you mean by failure. If what you mean by fail didn't finish that which you set out to do, who cares? It's not about finishing. That's I I don't if there's one message like I could really try to drive home to understand, it's it's just the more. [laughter] You don't got to finish it. Okay, tell me. You're not a free person to nullify yourself from it, which means you got to try as much as you can. You got to do as much as you can. But that's really all you have to do. You have to do as much as you can. I want to share with you a really inspiration to bring out the uh not the depressing one the actual inspiration of when I was speaking with Rabbi about like so what are we going to talk about like what's the topic and um we're talking about this time of year and different things you know rashana and growth and things and then we fall and we don't do as well whatever and and I was just thinking about I saw such a powerful video from Vayimo that I I I was so moved by it I First want to tell you a different story that I heard first that connects to it and you'll see what I mean in a moment. I believe I just have to ask if I say this wrong. So, but I'm going to say it anyway, but this is the way that I remember it. I heard the story from Klatskco, but Klatskco had a relative. I don't know if I was a nephew or a cousin, but he had he had somebody who was was young in his family. And this young boy unfortunately got sick. he was diagnosed with it with an illness and as he was uh unfortunately it was getting worse and worse and worse he was I don't know who called them I don't know how they find this out there's an organization called Make a Wish and this organization Make a Wish which basically comes to children or I don't know what the cuto off date is for the age but they come and basically what what would you like how can we what can we do for you and usually at least in some circles it's they want to go >> to Disneyland, right? Let's go to Disneyland or Disney World. I I get confused. California fly. I don't know the difference, but it's But anyway, point is like I want, you know, we're going to go to Disney and or they want to meet uh some athlete or or musician or they want to go, I don't know, bungee jumping or they want to play chess. What? Everyone has their thing. I never heard about the chess thing, but um but you know, listen, there's some people that like chess. Okay. I happen to like chess actually. I like chess. Not so good. I'm okay. Yeah. Anyway, so this boy, they came and they asked him, "What do you want?" And this boy, I think he was 12. This boy, he said, he said, "I want a uh aarim shrunk." So the people from Make a Wish said, "Ah who a come again? You want a shrink?" What? I said, "No, I want a I want a bookshelf." They're like, "You want a bookshelf in Disney?" He's like, "No." Oh, like a bookshelf while skydiving. Yeah. Yeah, that's what I want. Yeah. Hook up a parachute to a bookshelf and I will jump with it. Like, no. He [snorts] says, "What do you mean?" He goes, "I I want a bookshelf." His father's like, "What's going on?" And he says to him, "I want I want a bookshelf." And I want on the bookshelf. I want on there Naviim. I want Mishnas. I want And I want I want I want to shar. I want I want the art school library. I want the whole thing. And his father's getting a little emotional like what do you what do you mean why do you he said because he said what I don't know if I'm going to doesn't seem like I'm going to make it and his father knew like it's you know we don't give up we don't give up but who know you know seemingly and things were going downhill and and unfortunately and he ended up being nifted from that illness He said, "When I die, I want to get upstairs and say to God the following. God, I want credit for learning cola everything." You know why? Because I started and you decided to kill me. That's not my fault. So, I want credit for learning everything. And as I'm saying it, I'm realizing it's it's pretty it really brings out the same message of the viney video that I was really moved by. There was a there's a RV name of Khan Jacobitz who who said over this I think a week ago or a week and a half ago. Such a powerful idea that there was a boy who was in Detroit and he was sick. to get leukemia 10 years old. Second grade, nine, whatever. This makes sense. Second grade and 10. Okay. Whatever. Whatever. Whatever. [laughter] I don't know. Usually people don't think these things through, but I I always do when I'm like second grade plus 5 plus six. That's in my head how it works, right? Because going to second grade, you're seven turning eight. Is that right? >> That's accurate, right? So that's second grade 14 turn going on 25. I got to there was a boy I [snorts] don't know the second grade part's wrong the 10 year olds wrong or he was he was very smart but any point is that uh that there was a boy in Detroit and this boy was sick and uh his classmates were starting to learn musayas and he very much wanted to learn mus but unfortunately had to go to the hospital to get chemo and when everybody would visit him he would say can we learn mishna can we learn can we learn can we and they would learn with him and he was going further and further. There's nine chapters in Brahos and he finished eight of them and he he passed away. He was nifer at the Leva his rebi got up that's craner is the name and he said that you know ki you wanted to to finish an unfortunate to finish but you should just know that Hashem is going to finish it with you. Hashem is going to do the the ninth perk with you and he's going to finish with you. And then after that the manel he got up and he said your rebi said that Hashem is going to be there. I think it's not only Hashem but all the sadikim of all of the previous generations are going to be there to study it and finish it with you. And then his father got up and he said, "Not only is it going to be that sadikim, it's going to be it's going to be all the sha everyone all the angels are going to be there going oh and they're going to brahos and doing their thing." I don't think he did that by the way but okay. And then afterwards Shashiva viewbak got up and he said as follows. He said you know ki speaking to the nif he said your rebi said he hashem's going to finish with you and the manal says that the raia is going to finish you and your father said I I want to tell you different you know who's going to finish it with you ki no one. No one's going to finish it with you. You know why no one's going to finish it with you? cuz it doesn't matter. It's not about what did you finish. And when you get upstairs, what's going to happen? There's going to be such a sim that's happening. Why? Because you did as much as you're able to do in this world that we're here, the alma the shikra, the world of lies. It's about finishing and completing. We actually spoke about I'm just having a flashback when I was here. Pum we spoke about the shikra whatever okay anyway so it's the world of lies upstairs is the emis and the emis they don't care how much you finished it's not a competition with how many things you could finish it's how much did you put in and how much did you try how much were you willing to go and attempt to do so therefore no one's finishing the mak with you cuz it doesn't even matter and I think it plays out nicely with the previous story also because at the end I'll give you full credit for it. Fine. No problem. Time served. You finished it. You did what you had to do. The point was are you coming to serve me and to learn my Torah and to grow? That's the question. Are you becoming a bigger person and becoming greater? Are you becoming better? Are you doing more? Or are you stuck where you are and staying where you are and that's it. We have in this world you have the Bruins who say don't give up. Just keep moving. And the success is that we win. In the Yiddisha world, what we say is a success is you kept trying and even if you fail and you fall and you you made a cabala and you said, you know what, this year [clears throat] let um I'm going to skip that. Uh [sighs] okay, I can't speak about my averas now, but I I I it's such a good muscle though. Okay, forget the muscle. Can can anyone relate to what I'm about to share with you? Do you have maybe a friend that this occurred to where [snorts] the friend decided that they want to do something and this is going to be the year? Okay, this is the year. And they say something like, I guess it depends on age and stage and size, but let's I'm not saying me. I'm just saying a friend of mine. My wife's husband says the following deal. Okay, it's like this. This year I'm going to lose five pounds. And then then next year, [clears throat] this year I'm going to lose five pounds. Eventually you start getting realistic like this year I'm only putting on five pounds. And even that's a lie. But what happens? Fill in the blank with whatever your thing is. cuz that's my friend's ne the guy. He needs to lose weight. Does the camera add or subtract any? So, what happens is you take on I'm going to lose 5 pounds or I'm going to exercise or I'm going to be nicer to people or I'm going to denos I'm going to say I'm whatever it is. >> [snorts] >> I'm going to, you know, I'm going to not speak. Okay. I'm going to Okay. I'm going to I'm going to from 3 to 4 in the morning. I'm going to whatever it is, right? We take on the different things. It's kind of like when you get brand new sneakers and like you're going to keep them clean. Anyone know people like this? You don't know what sneakers are? Okay. um or people. [gasps] Do you know what I'm talking about? You get brand new sneakers and and they get a little dirty like oh no. I don't know what that does. It's like you have glass sneakers. You wipe it off and whatever. Now the jacket's all dirty, but it's an old jacket. It doesn't matter. But after a week, then it gets dirty. Ah, forget it. Got dirty. I'm I'm I'm going to do the right thing. I'm going to be good with this. And then we fail. You're like, "I failed. It's over." In the world of the Bruins, you might be right. You lost. You put on the five pounds within a couple days. It's like, it's very impressive. It's sukus. You know, I mean, what are you going to do? There's a there's a very well-known story about, you know, this guy goes to the the doctor. The doctor says, "Oo, the problem. What the problem? I'll do it in English for you because I don't speak English. He goes and he says fat, you know, he said fat grace, you know, freshen, you know, fat. So he says, "You need to go on a diet ASAP." So he comes home and he tells his wife, "The doctor said I have to go to diet ASAP." She goes, "What does that mean?" He goes, "After sukus after pisap." So we go, we're going to take it upon our sense. We're going to do good. And in terms of eating, it's sukus. So like, oh, I have to make another lesh. I'm not sure, you know, was it a shear? You know, I don't know. Before you know it, you're benching every time you walk in there because you have like 12 cakes, you know. And then what happens? Maybe the simplic it's a little too simplistic and maybe in terms of our behavior and the people that we hang out with and the things that we do and we kind of fall off track. You lost the game. You didn't lose the game. What are you talking about? Get back up and keep moving forward. Get back up and keep moving. It's true that we're that we're going to fail. Okay. But the bottom line and the only thing that matters is are we trying? Are we are we are we in it? Are we in the game? Even if you lose, you didn't lose. That's the the problem is if you think it's the ruins, but it's not. It's Judaism. It's when you fall, get up again. That's that would be the difference. I I said this in a totally different she but but that would be the difference between what I would call we're coming up to on Sunday night. Am I right? It's Sunday night. Sunday. What is it? Which What is it? >> What is it? So nice. A nice ring. The bitter month of Marvan. Possibly we could shift things a little. And if we shift it, we can shift the letters. Why does it have to be Mar? Switch the letters around. What does it say for rum? Some of you are alcoholics but others ram means something which is uplifted, something which is exalted. The difference between and is whether or not we get back up even though maybe we took upon ourselves and already a week in we lost it already. Forget about it. And says no, no, don't forget about it because it's about you got to keep pushing. Just got to keep trucking, keep moving forward. That's it. As the line says, I don't know where I saw this. Probably on some me that says, you gotta do your best and let God do the rest. Yay. I'm not sure about the yaya. That's my own part, but you got to do your best and let God do the rest. Got to put in as much as you're able to do. That for sure is on us. What are you able to do? Maybe it's more than you think. But if you're looking from an outside resultor oriented concept where other people going to look and say, "Oh, wow. You're so good because of ABC or ABC said, you know, from Canada." So then then you understand that that's not then you're missing the point because Judaism is about how much are we putting in? That's it. How much are we putting in? You got to do your best. Let God do the rest. Yeah. Yeah. There's a um very powerful idea that has to be understood that everything comes down. It's not what are we doing here in the whole thing is funny. I don't there's too much to explain but Hashem gives us things to do because otherwise we'll be embarrassed of getting stuff without even doing things. And some people are like that's okay. I'll just give me stuff without doing things. I'm okay with that. Right? But others grow up and they're a little more mature and they're like no it doesn't feel good to not do. I want to be doing. So Hashem says okay so do but really are you really even doing what we got to do? You put in your stless list but your st is not doing anything anyway. You just got to do what you got to do. Hashem takes care of everything, right? Which means you got to do your best. Hashem going to do the rest. Hashem at least gives us a feeling like we're doing something by just doing our best. That's it. But if we get caught up in external outside world views then it's all about what did you finish what did you complete what your you know diploma how many buildings you build how many buildings you sell how many whatever it is how rich are you how richer are you how richest are yell I was somewhere I was somewhere in the last I was somewhere I said I can't give a it's like it's too many you figure out who it is maybe but anyway I was somewhere and someone told me oh you know this person like Oh yeah. Oh yeah. No, they're very connected. Like no, they're very rich. They're whatever. I said, listen, I don't want to brag, but [laughter] I'm not [gasps] not uh but actually I am, you know, I'm actually very connected. I don't If you guys need any help, you could put you can mention my name. It's probably better off not to, but you can. And uh that would be God. Yeah, God. I know God. Like there's a rich guy that Who cares? Is he giving me money? So, who cares? The bonus is going to take care of everything. But there's an external thing. It's all about like how much do I have and what's my portfolio and look how good I am because the weird noises come out of the type of the people, right? But the question is who cares at the end of the day? You just got to do your best. Let the law take care of rest. Here's where uh there's a story that I didn't think about until I did. I'd like to share with you the thought I had on it. There was the daughter of God. Is anybody familiar with the other religions talk about the son of God, but we we have actually on the way here. I just flew in today. I flew in today and I was on uh actually they asked me I I sat and could I just Okay, if everyone here could please just Okay, I'm miss I don't think it if you're going to fly, please shower and put on deodorant before you get on the plane as opposed to after you get on the plane if you're flying some Emirates or Please shower and put on deodorant. Oh, no. I'm a naturalist. The person next to you is not a naturalist. They're not. [snorts] They're not. And you might be over. It is pushet. I got on the plane. This is I'm hope no one knows who I'm talking about, but I got on the plane. I I I'm not going to tell you the seat number because if whatever [snorts] I was a nice guy because that's what I am. I'm a nice guy. And I'm sitting in a seat. I know exactly what seat it is. And this guy gets on his Hey. I'm like, "Hey." He's like, "Do you mind moving back one like, you know, so I could be next to my wife?" I was like, "I usually do the opposite, but okay." You know, say like there's a story about a guy gets on a plane and he says to someone like, "Listen, do you mind switching seats? Like I'm I'm with my family, whatever." And they said, "No, I'm sorry." Like, "Fine, I'll sit with my family." [laughter] But this this guy, he actually wanted to be with his family. So he said, "Do you mind switching? Just move one seat back." I said, [snorts] "I have I no problem because I'm at Sandic. I I will do that." And I move one seat back. All right. Then someone comes and sits next to me. Shalom. [snorts] There were pluses to Corona. There were pluses because A, it was a social distancing. B, even if they're close, you're wearing a mask. Like you can't really whatever. So, I I was just like and I and I'm on the phone with my wife cuz I'm a nice guy. I'm on the phone with my wife and I'm like I I uh the person's over here. So, I'm like I um I don't think I'm going to survive. I just don't think it's going to happen. Now, you don't say that to a wife when you're on a plane. You know what I [laughter] mean? It's like, especially what happened like a week ago. Like, [snorts] I don't think I'm gonna survive. Tell the kids I love them. And don't get too close to me after. [laughter] He's a naturalist, the guy next to me. And I'm like, "Okay, okay, grow up. Just grin and bear it." No. I stood up. I [snorts] went to uh I don't know how to say it in English. Flight attendant. That was not okay what you just said. I'm just saying. She said stewardist. You cannot say that word nowadays. It's a flight attendant. Anyway, so I went to a stewardist and uh and I said I said, "Can I can I just talk to you for a minute?" She said, "Yeah." She comes into the galley. I'm like, "Uh, please no mandam here. No whatever." But question. I'm really sorry. First of all, I just want to welcome I want to welcome you back to Israel cuz it was United. I flew United. Why not LL? Because that rich guy is not paying whoever that millionaire is. No, I I obviously don't know. My wife did the ticket. But anyway, the point is is that I'm flying. I said for someone to welcome him back to Israel because he just started flying to Israel again, you know, because the war ended like three years ago. So they have to come. So he goes in and she says, "Thank you. I've already been back three times." I'm like, "Well, welcome back three times." I said, "Listen, I I I I don't know how to say this and I'm a little bit uncomfortable, but there's someone and I'm I'm feeling judged even before I say anything." I'm like, "I don't mind sitting next to a woman." As a matter of fact, I prefer [laughter] said I said, "I don't mind sitting next to a woman." Like, I'm not going to I'm not starting this whole whatever it is. just there's a fellow that's in the row that I may or may not be in that seems to be releasing or just existing. It doesn't smell good. So, so, so she says to me, "Which seat are you?" Whatever I was. So, she she goes to check and she comes back. She's like, "Uh, okay." [clears throat] [snorts] I don't know what she did. I don't know. She's like, "Sir, could you lift up your arm, please?" Yep. All right. I don't know what she was checking. Like, what are you going to check? You look at his face. She's like, "Yep, that guy smells like what are you are you doing?" So, I say, "Okay." She comes back and she's like, "What is it like a like a body odor thing?" I'm like, "Yeah." She goes, I'm like, "Listen, if you can't if there's no other seats, I don't mind sitting in first. Like, I really I don't mind. I know it's Please, I'll do it for the Kaliso, you know?" So, so I said I said, "If the really if there's no other seats, then I'll just maybe I'll just gr I'll just grin and bear it." Like, I'll She goes, "No, no, no, no. my mother. I was like, "Wow, where is this?" Like, "Turns out she's Jewish." And I was like, "When my mother was escaping from and I was I was like, what?" She goes, "My mother told me a story 20 years ago. She came from France and a woman sitting next to her also didn't smell too good and she talks about it to this day. I'm going to make sure you're [laughter] okay." I thought the hashka brought this up. This is like this woman has trauma from her childhood from this France flight and I was like great. So she ended up getting me another seat just to tell you the following story which actually I'm not even sure where I am anymore in the story but I go oh I remember why. So I go and I'm I sit in row 48. I'm in 48. My gosh it's like 1940. Oh my what? Um J for Jews. And I'm sitting in and my two seatmates shout out if you watch this. Um, Sergey and give me another Russian name, not Boris. >> What? What's >> Vladimir? Vlad. I don't know what he said actually. I'm not sure. Or something. [snorts] Um, we're flying. They're sleeping. I can't sleep. It's like the It's a morning. It's the day the whole day. It's crazy. And Mr. Brew is sleeping through the day. whatever. So I was like, what am I? [sighs] Anyway, as we're landing, when I say as we're landing, I mean 5 hours before we landed, we get into a theological discussion and we speak for the next 5 hours about how Yoshka is not the son of God and how I am. And uh so they've joined my religion. It's a wonderful these two guys. I don't know their names yet. But any they were they were they were pushing things. They go, "Oh, what are you what are you going to talk about today?" I'm like, "Honestly, I I don't know." He's like, "Talk about us." I'm like, "I'm going to talk about you." So, here we go. I said, "I'd talk about him." So, that all of that those last seven minutes [laughter] was cuz I was I wanted to talk about the daughter of God. And they were talking about the son of God. And I said, "But can't come. It's the Jews. It's everyone." Fine. Who is the daughter of God? Say it. >> Batia. >> Daughter of God. >> Isn't that her name? Oh, it's Bissia. Really? If you want to get like technical, but yeah, Bithia. So anyway, but let's go with Batia to not confuse everyone here. And uh what happened with uh the daughter of God? She comes down to go bathe. This is Baspyro. No, it's Baspar, right? same person comes down to denial [laughter] because she was in denial. Anyway, she comes down and she's going now to bathe. And what happens when she goes there? She sees that there's a there's a there's a box that's floating, a box, a tea, a box. And baby Moses, baby Mosha's in there. So says that what does she do? to either she sent her maid servant or she sent forth her hand to go and take the baby out and Rashi says that what does she do? She stuck out her arm and it went amos harbe. What is an amma? An amma is a measurement of somewhere between 18 and 24 in. Just because it makes it better for me to make it more exciting, we're going to call it 24 in. So an amma, it goes from the elbow to the tip to the tip of the finger. That's about the size of an amma. And now we're talking about that it was how many amos? Amos. Amos means at least two. Harb means that it's more than two. So it's minimum three. That's six feet. Six feet, right? So if you understand what that means, two, this is six. Did I do it right? Was that six? Now, these shoes, you're welcome to check after these. I'll show you if you don't believe me. These shoes here, you'll check. Hang on. What you see over there, the the number at the end right there. These are 13 wide. 13 W. I have a hard time finding shoes. I mean, other people have much harder time, but but again, so this is almost exactly one, two, three, four. Now I feel like the schwanes people, you know, they're like they like leave the building say, [laughter] "Where are you going? The Bruins." Anyway, so they go back. So six feet. This is This is what we're talking about over here minimum at least. And maybe more. Maybe 8 feet, maybe 10 feet. Who knows? Oh no. Let me help you. How many people have thought about this? What exactly went on when she goes by the river and she sees that Mosha's in the box? She sees it. What have you I don't know what you guys learned. Not a box. What do you learned? It's like a >> a basket. Okay, whatever you want. So, it's in a basket. [snorts] Whatever words you want to use. So, it's in a basket. It's in a box, but let's call it a basket. And it goes ahead and I don't know if anyone did this in kindergarten where like you make an arm that like opens and then opens and then opens and whatever. And you're like, "Oh, so nice." Put in the fridge. And then it get ripped down by the other kid who comes home like I had 114 on my test. 114. How is that possible? That's not even possible. And that's in first grade. And then in second grade, you can get a minus 114. Like, well, how does that work? Well, if you get 114, we're going to go minus 114 also. Like once things don't make sense, they don't make sense anymore. And they rip it off and all thing. But I mean, actually think about what was really going on over there 6 feet away. And you're going to now go ahead and what are you going to do? It It's a joke. What? What? Like, oh no, there's there's a baby. I need to do something. Jump in the water. Throw a rope. Do something. What? What is this? What are you doing? It's it's impossible. You're not going to do it. It's not able to be done. So, what does Basparo say though? What does she say to herself her? It's not about if something makes sense or doesn't make sense. What it's about is I'm supposed to do this. I got to do my best and let God take care to rest. Yeah. Yeah. I got to try. I got to do something over here. So, what does she do? She does something. doesn't make any sense, but she tries because it's not about making sense cuz it's not about the Bruins. It doesn't have to be that you have to finish it and be the winner and the whatever it is. It's about I got to do what I can do. That's it. The question is what can I do? What can I not do? And at the end of the day, nothing else matters. It doesn't matter. What matters is how much effort do we put in? How much are we trying to be successful? What steps are we taking in order to succeed? And when we fail, do we get back up? and do we try again? That's called success. And that's what we say in this beautiful lecture that we're calling I forgot what it's called. What I say, Robbie, >> right? Yeah. I'm looking up like the the whatever this thing is called live from Brooklyn. a picture of me from 25 years ago that says like, "When are you gonna stop sending your bar mitzvah picture?" Said, "If I look like that at my bar mitzvah, I should get arrested again." Uh, what? No, I don't know. I didn't say anything. Edit that, please. Okay. I didn't finish. And God doesn't care because it's not about finishing. It's about putting in as much as we're able to do. And how many of us are doing such a thing? We're putting in as much as we're able to do. That's the bottom line. That's in terms of that's been that's been that's in terms of me to myself. Am I doing as much as I can for myself in the realm of physical in the realm of spiritual? Am I am I developing myself? How am I with my with with my friends, with other people? Am I developing? Am I doing more? And by more it doesn't have to mean more because if you reached what you're able to do then don't do more. The only reason why we say this is a line which I hear people say you could always do more. You can always do first of all speak for yourself. Don't tell me what I can do and can't do. Okay. What do you mean you could always do it? That's not true. There is a limit to what you're able to do at any specific given time. Certainly in the realm of physics we could understand that if someone can jump a certain height imagine I would ask one of you to do it. I don't know anyone who would feel comfortable doing it. Anyone want to do it? Not girls please. I don't want to. Anyone want to jump? No. Okay. Moving along. You ready? You want to jump? This guy wants to jump. Got a lot of people volunteer other people. He wants it. [sighs] I don't think there's a secret if he wants it, right? But guy, someone jumps and oh, you you're going to jump and the guy goes and they jump and then you say, "Do it again and go higher and the person goes higher." Then they say, "Do it again and go higher." Are they going to keep going higher? And then you keep saying higher and higher, higher and higher. Eventually, you don't hear them because they're in shamayim. There's a limit of what you're able to do. Okay, maybe the next day you could do more. Maybe if you develop more, you can do more. But wherever you are is what you're able to do. So stop thinking about oh no it doesn't look good from the outside whatever the question is what are you able to do and maximize what you're able to do. That's the bottom line. So let's do as follows my friends because it is getting cold. So let's do a quick recap of everything we did. I see either people are very anxious or just sweating. So quick recap. The guys are fine. Girls you're sweating like crazy. Okay, now a quick recap. We did end up off at one point and then we done. So we started off in the beginning in the beginning. October 23rd, 2009. What happened there? 24 Ottawa Canada. We're in the center journey learning part going Bruins go. AND WHAT HAPPENED 3-1? AL what happened to come back? They come back in one. You see I'll never give up. I don't never think you jump higher angel. But just keep moving. answer is that you got to keep moving. Keep moving. Keep moving. Don't give up. [gasps] Okay. But it's really a terrible mot because that's synonyms of physical because you finished and then you won and now it's a success because you actually won or whatever was the biggest failure when it came to have k but he's called the kan. Why? Because he did what he had to do. That's all that matters. Doesn't make a difference at the end of the day. You're successful, you're not successful, you did it. He didn't do it. Who cares? That's not the bottom line is are you giving it your all and you're trying as much you're able to be doing that. That's it. That's what happens. So you come rush I'm going to do better. So there's in there this is inspiration depression inspir inst inspression inspression inspression inspression there's a depressuration there'sation that happens a person's like yang and then it's over and like forget it next year I'll lose 45 pounds like just add it up [laughter] it's like I saw this guy he said to me he's like I have a thing that if I if I won't jog one day, then the next day if I don't jo the next day I have to do two miles and like I'm 3 months in so I have to do like a thousand like thousand million miles whatever [laughter] it's like unbelievable cumulative multiplying and whatever it is [snorts] we got to go and do as much as we're able to that's the bottom line we have the story in a son with his boy what happened over there he goes in he passed away of clasco I believe relative then goes in he says I want this fire truck I want to have all this fun with the end I want to start what's going on they want to get says guys I'm fall I didn't finish it your cuz you just have to kill me. You start killing me. I want all full credit. God like you got it block. YOU GET ALL that credit. What happened on the story? He told who was in first grade who's 45 and uh okay second grade in 10. I'm not sure exactly the ages were but the point what happened to go and we go and he said unfortunately goes to the hospital with everything go and find non unfortunately passes away and comes this rabbi and he says he says going to live with you his kids the father's going to come the box and he says you know who's going to finish with you no one because it's irrelevant it's not about finishing which means you got to do as much as you're able to do comes along not my two friends shower shower shower and deodorant. But I showered and deodorant. End deodorant. Yeah, but the chemicals. Yes, but this is it's okay. Whatever you and that woman in France and her mother it's very hard. Do the best and will do the rest. Two guys next to me talk about us. We talked about you. Fine. The sons of God. Let's talk about the daughter of God basic. What is she going to? What does she do? She goes on. What does she do? She goes and says, "Oh no." Like, "What do you There's no way to do anything." She says, "It doesn't matter if I'm able to or not able to. I got to try. I got to try. That's the bottom line. I got to put in my maximum. What am I able to do? If it's nothing, at least I have to try. Do your best. And Hashem will do the rest." And exactly what happened. And they ended up being a double success. It was a spiritual success in the realms of veskite. And it was a bruins when the hands stretched. And when it stretched, he was able to save Mosha from that. Understand where does Moshau come from? Mishu. That's why Moshe's name is Moshe. Moshe means drew out, took out of the water. Moshe is called Moshe because there was a young lady who said, "I have to do something that doesn't make any sense, but this is my opportunity and my job. This is my responsibility. I'm going to be successful. I'm not going to be successful. Who knows?" That's not my problem. My problem is that I maximize. I do. And when I fail, I get back up and I continue with and I don't stop. I want to end off with this one one story just uh no I don't know if it's relevant okay never stopped me before let me tell you a non-relevant story that maybe I'll make relevant through a gamatria there was uh it's just about understanding that really at the end of the day we're not in control of anything oh I forgot rich people uh okay unless you want to hire me talk okay and even then runs the world is the bottom line runs everything's everything she is everything. I want to show them look at your children here. It's unbelievable. Bruins, there's a story that happened many years ago. There was a a RV by the name of Rabbi Victor Miller. He was from a small town called Brooklyn. And if you heard of such a thing, at the time you were allowed to drive faster than 25 miles per hour and uh you didn't get tickets on every block. Enough about me. This place is nuts. What in the world are you still living here? This isn't even like make aliyah. This is just leave 25 miles per hour. That's all I'm saying. It's literally nuts. I don't know if I told you the story last time. [laughter] There's a guy. There's a guy here. I don't know if he's in the room. I don't think he is. But uh we were we were driving in Brooklyn. He goes right through a red light. Just right through it. And I was like, "Bro, red light." He goes, "Green light." And someone else goes, "1, two, three." Someone ran across. It was crazy. Anyway, so the guy goes, "The red rover." Fine. So he goes, "Uh, I'm like, red light?" I'm like, "Was a red light?" He's like, "No, no, no. It wasn't It wasn't a red light." I was like, "What do you mean it wasn't a red light?" Like, "What? It was a red light? Is there new laws? I don't know about it. I've been out of Israel. I've been in Israel for a while. So, I don't I don't know. Maybe red is green. Red identifies as green. I I don't know exactly what you say here, officer. How dare you? Discrimination against red. [snorts] Yeah, but okay. I said, "It's red." He goes, "It wasn't red." I said, "How?" Okay. You're obviously messing with me. So, just get to the point. He goes, "Listen, there's no traffic like camera there. It's not red. I thought he was kidding. He was totally serious. And then he goes through a red again and there's a traffic camera. I'M LIKE, "TRAFFIC CAMERA?" He said, "It's fine." I said, "Why is it fine?" He goes, "Every month I put aside $300. I'm going to pay for X amount. This is one of them. It's okay." I like, "This is crazy." Anyway, Serb Miller, he was uh he was he felt that there's a certain candidate that should be voted for should vote for a certain candidate. Someone was running for something. I don't know, governor or or I don't know what the things are stuff mayor David Yehuda whatever running of the things and uh he felt very strongly you should vote for A and not for B or C. Okay. And he pushed it and he spoke about it and really you should vote for A. Okay. He said, "Vote for A. Vote for A. Vote for A. Vote for A. Vote for A." At the time it was weird. People went by letters. So anyway, he says, "Yeah, you should vote for A." Comes the day of the election and somebody wins, A, B, or C. It's usually how it works. And the next day, our Miller's walking down the street and one of his congregants come says, "Oh, Rabbi, so what do you think about the new mayor?" Let's say, he goes, "What am I supposed to think?" "Well, you heard who won?" He goes, "No." Okay, but you want to know? Should I tell? He goes, "I don't care. You don't care. You just spent the last three months telling us to vote for A and now you're like, I don't care." Well, do you care? Do you not? He goes, "I don't care." "Well, then why'd you spend the last three months telling us to vote for whoever we vote?" He said, "Because that's called aus. We have to take a look and see what makes the most sense and do the best that we're able to do. At the end of the day, whoever wins the elections, that's Hashem decides. What do I care? I did my estabas and now I don't care who the mayor is. It makes no difference to me. It could be A, it could be B, it could be C. And it doesn't make a difference. I don't know if anyone can fathom and take this message and take it in. take this message of it's not about what happens. It's not about the end, what's going on after. It's about what did you do and what are you meant to be doing? And at the end of the day, you just got to do your best. And if you go and you do your best, then what happens? >> Yeah, that's very good. Whoever that is Kisha a little, but okay. Say there's a little note because I heard like a note like Yeah. Uh like it's a little bit like an A flat. So I'm saying yeah [laughter] got to do your best and let God take care of the rest but yeah but you got to put in you got to do at the end of the day it's going to be okay fine. Like me for example my my like my wife's husband. So he doesn't lose the weight every year. But you know what? It's okay. My wife says it's not okay. But it's about okay, we'll speak to we'll figure it out the epis whatever. I'll eat more and then I'll lose 5 pounds. You know, it's how much are you putting in? How much effort are you doing? So as we now are finishing the season, let's not keep it. Let's not get into this stuff. Let's call it we [clears throat] can exalt it. We could elevate it because whatever we took upon ourselves or we thought about during L and then we started to do it during our shashana and aerisa and then we tried to keep up with over sukus ASAP and then during sukus maybe we fell off a little and now it's already over over it's like over and I don't know it wasn't here but did it rain a lot over sukus is now like right so like there wasn't really even a sukus you know I mean like it rained so if it rains there's no sukus no okay and now maybe you're a little bit lower didn't get up. Get up and keep moving forward and do whatever you can do. Even if it makes no sense. Even if it makes absolutely no sense, you got to put in your effort. See what it can be. Hashem will take us somewhere. Do not let the blessing of a simple person be um [clears throat] be light in your eyes. So, I'd like to as a as a simpleton, I'd like to bless you all. The Lord should give you the strength. Hashem should give you the strength to recognize what you can be doing and the fortitude to push through even when you're not seeing what you necessarily want to see. Amen. >> Put in a thank you so much. I want to thank you all for coming. This is amazing. And uh as David mentioned, they're gonna do other shirm apparently every day in this heat and you're welcome to join us with it. Okay, thank you all very much and looking forward to the next time.