Guilty Pleasure

[Music] all their life is full of regret wicked people their entire life is full of regret not their death their death isn't obvious you don't need to come out to come tell you that the wicked regrets how they lived obviously they ain't gay no you don't need to come out and tell you that god doesn't waste its time telling you about things that you you can figure out for yourself specifically saying wicked people their life their life in this world is all full of regret the more wicked the more regrets now easy way to understand it is that number one each one of us no matter how righteous or how wicked have a conscience and we know deep inside even if we don't want to admit it whether we're doing right or wrong the inner nature of a person knows that there are certain things that they do that are wrong even without knowing torah for example the debate about how come hashem hashem punished er veonan and the entire generation of noah because of immorality mainly wasting seed and homosexuality how come we didn't have a toy yet we didn't have a rental at time of noah we had an oil torah but we didn't have a rental so there wasn't like a formal event publicizing to the world you have to be moral people you can't waste seed your father is a king your grandfather is gordo he's jacob great grandfather guitar great great grandfather is abraham yeah you guys are called the skull of shrimp you can't waste seed all right well you said i'm gonna kill you this doesn't make any sense why did he kill them two kids they're eight years old from there we learned that wasting seed isn't sin for anybody no matter what the age but there was no book telling elvio none hey it's a sint away seed needless to say the generation before them several generations before 10 generations before them 12 actually generation of the entire generation got destroyed for the same sin but there's no book tell them hey listen don't waste seed so i didn't come out yet as far as the rain to light saying it you're outright not allowed to do it so hashem punished everybody such a severe sin of death there's no recovery from that for that sin says because this is a sin that does not require the torah to tell you that it's a sin it's in you to know that it's wrong and every single guy that has ever made this sin none of you every single guy ever made the sin knows the difference between being with his wife and wasting seed the second the second the seed leaves their body there's an immediate reaction that your body has and your your your not just your physical body but your mind has that is extremely different between the two has nothing to do with judaism this is in every single human being now the only way you're going to know it is if you experience both now if you're not married you've never been married or you never had you know a uh uh a permissible intimacy with with your wife obviously you're not gonna know what i'm talking about only a person that has experienced both of them knows this for sure why there is a huge difference between the two now even without knowing this part which is generally just for married men even without knowing the good part how the kosher intimacy is everyone knows that the non-kosher one everyone knows is bad it's wrong everyone knows any time a man weighs seed immediately after they feel terrible they don't know why but they feel like they just did something bad like i just wasted time i can't believe i did this again why does everybody want to stop if it's nothing's wrong with it like the psychiatrists say why does everybody try to take all types of classes and all types of special activities to stop if it's so good for you because everyone knows it's bad but inherently you don't even need the doctors to tell you that it's bad because you feel it better yet for people that are promiscuous that are even worse than doing it by themselves there's a major difference between a man being with his wife being kosher and holy when she's pure and being with some woman he met what's the difference the second he's with his wife he feels good he loves her everything is good they're finished they had their fun they had their joy there's nothing maybe kid's going to come out of it but even if there isn't it's still mitsuba because there's only 12 b12 feels good when he's with a woman he's not allowed to be in even if it's his own wife but generally speaking it's hopefully it's not his wife it's say uh before he did chuba every single time the second he completes the act he hates her he doesn't want to be there how do we know it's in a torah now no guy is going to admit this unless he's a very chauvinistic horrific type of person but generally every guy feels it the second he completes the act he wants to leave he doesn't want to be next to this person anymore yeah but you were just together you said you love you love you love you yeah yeah that was before right now i want to get out of here every single guy right it's in you your nashamah is telling you you just did something wrong and you hate her for it how do we know it's in a tour where isn't book of samuel 2 says chapter 13 verse 15. raped his daughter because he was infatuated with her his name was amnon was infatuated with obsessed with her and eventually one day he fooled her into thinking that he's sick and he ended up raping her that's how much of a sick person he was now after he raped her this is what happens afterwards amnon despised her right after the act i'm not despised her with great hatred his hatred was even greater than his love that he had felt for her so none said to her get up and go away but she said to him do not do this greater evil that which you have already done to me it says you already did something bad to me now you embarrass me on top of it you're kicking me out why is this because this too like everything else in the world is in the door when a person does something immoral inherently they feel bad about it they just don't know how to rectify those feelings same thing with homosexuals same thing with anything you know it's wrong and therefore you don't feel as good about it as you did before the act why because the act the second before the act all you were thinking is imagination oh yes once we're together and we're gonna love and this and that and all this junk that's filth in your mind and you only think about the good and this and the pleasure and not nothing real all fake imaginary yeah i'm going to look at this i'm going to think of this and we're going to go here i'm going to go there now after that desire is relieved what happens second comes back your mind your intellect comes back now you have time to think and immediately the moment your your mind is free to think and realize what an idiot you were i realized what wrong you did and realize what just what did i just do but you don't know how could this be five minutes ago ten minutes ago an hour ago i was all about this i i was dreaming about this for three years to finally get to today how come i feel like this like all my hopes and dreams were to get to this and now it's like so what what a drew what a killer this is some people get depressed over it you know how many stories like this have to deal with poor young girls get taken advantage of by these filthy men who pretend to be religious the second they allow them second they allow them i don't want to be with you anymore what do you mean you don't be with memory so you love me yeah i know i really don't i really don't love you women you don't realize you don't love me you're still in the same bed you're like they don't have the decency right then the shama of both of them has no idea what just happened it's not good it's not good so now the not good is already in us and therefore rav sternbach says hashem punished the generation of the flood and he punished her none for doing those things because you do not need the torah to tell you that it's wrong for you to know that it's wrong you were expected to know because i created you that way in the image of hashem he created us what does it mean image of hashem knowing right and wrong knowing right and wrong and the only reason why you allowed wrong to overcome is because you didn't allow yourself to think you just used your imagination and you let your imagination take the lead now robert frame says the difference between a sadiq and rasha is that a rasha uses his imagination to think about the sins his imagination her imagination is thinking the details of the sin that they're about to do oh this girl i'm going to get her number and then she's going to call me and then i'm going to call her and then we're going to go there and then we're going to go there and then we're going to be here and then we're going to be there and i'm going to wear the glasses and i'm going to list and they have all these things and now she's looking at him back he's like oh he has glasses on oh yeah and where he must be taking me over here and he must be taking me he must buy flowers too if he has glasses and they think about the sins sins sins sitting over here sitting over there sin sins and that's what the shine do even if they're generally good people they don't want to kill anybody but the rasha meaning the one that goes against the torah what do they think about they use the imagination that hashem gave them to give a visual to their sins i want to make money why so i can buy stuff what do you want to buy i want to buy a house why because i want to get a car and to put in a house okay why because i want to put a nice kitchen why because i saw it on tv why because i don't have a lot of girls go in that house with the kitchen and the tv ah that's nothing to do with the house so if i just told you to take the girls without the house you'd be fine too sing we just visualized the whole house in the kitchen the cars was how you imagined sin you don't need the cars you don't need the house you just want the sin but you think that you need to paint it that way uses their imagination to give a visual for their sin which is the reason why they're full of regrets the sin never lives up to their imagination he imagined that they're going to be going to these places and they're going to do this and do that then generally speaking your imagination your reality are not the real i'm not not the same their life is full of regrets aside from the fact that they're making mistakes their inner conscious knows they're making mistakes their neshama is constantly suffering the reason number two why they're constantly suffering while they're constantly uh saying regrets is because their imagination and their reality never meet so there's constant disappointment yeah you just made a million dollars yeah can't believe it what do you mean you made a million dollars yeah i thought it's gonna be at least five so it's gonna be at least five can't believe it can't believe it i know somebody like that to me i mean 1.6 million dollars in one day somebody came to my office like how come you're not like celebrating yeah just another day did you just make a million and a half dollars it's a million six aren't you happy no not really why not it's against another day whatever what i didn't tell the details why i expected to make 16 million that day not 1.6 million in my reality in my imagination i just lost 90 of what i was supposed to make for him it was a lot for me it was peanuts why because my imagination took me somewhere else i was sure i was gonna make 16 million when i made 1.6 million for me it was a disappointment not a celebration in him for his mind wow amazing why because he never had my imagination point being is you're constantly in disappointment because your imagination your reality never the same now what about the tsutikim what about the people who are trying to become what about the righteous what do they do the flying says while that is so busy using their imagination to give picture to give clarity to their sins that sadikim use their imaginations to visualize the punishment they're gonna get if they follow their desires they use their imagination to give clarity what genome looks like give clarity of what punishment feels like that's what they use their imagination for why because i know that this desire feels good at first no denying that says don't ever say that pig is disgusting to eat but that shatnez is not fun to wear it's not true pig may be delicious and chatenez may look good say i'm not eating pig and i'm not wearing chatenez not because it's not good but because my father in heaven said no so i need to know that yes i'm a realistic person i know that the sin tastes good i know that the sin feels good but i also know that the punishment for that sin feels much worse than this feels good how do i know i visualize what's the difference between the first chamber and the second chamber what's the difference between the green fire and the other fire red fire what's the difference between that chamber that we're not even sure if anyone comes out of and versus the chamber that for sure no one comes out of what's the difference between this punishment and not punishment what's the difference between this knife and that knife what's the difference if they feed you the sand or they feed you the glass ready what's the difference between the snow gear norm and the fire again them when a person starts visualizing all of these fun places guess what the taste of pleasure that he had when he wanted to sin suddenly dissipates all of a sudden he doesn't want to go there anymore all of a sudden he's going to just take the numbers are stored in the garbage not in service disconnect not interested i'm married what do you mean you tell you're single you know i got married married dateless nothing why the second i imagined the pain and agony that this pleasure will get suddenly it's not worth it that's the difference between sadiq and russia they both have an imagination they both have an imagination and they both know that the sin does taste good can't deny that you're not living in la la land but the difference is while the sadiq imagines the punishment that's going to happen as a result of that a little bit of good taste the rasha stays with the imagination the superficial thought that just thinks about good all the time everything is great all the time everything is la la land even though reality isn't no one wants to talk about addiction yeah but everybody has somebody they know is an addict no one wants to talk about secularism but everybody knows somebody or somebody's that is addicted to that no one wants to talk about intermarriage but everybody knows somebody or somebody that it's intermarried no one wants to talk about you know immorality no one wants to talk about stealing no one wants to talk about all the negative things but in reality we're all suffering from it we're all suffering from it one way or the other someone stole from us or we stole from somebody someone beat us or we're beating them someone hurt us and we're hurting them this that constantly but no one wants to talk about it why everybody wants to live in the imagination land where nothing bad can happen and that's the difference between shah and sadiq if we stay in an imagination line doomed to be the shine [Music] you