Grace After Meals - Part 5 - Rabbi Reuven Lauffer

the end of the third blessing in the end in Bukit amazon is over now you shall I mean our code of behavior may know and then we say a main at the end of it it's interesting it's see the normally you don't answer i'm going to your own blessing right this is a one one time that we do is over here why are we doing that I don't have you ever wondered what ever wonder to yourself why we answering our main to our own blessing over here because what we're doing is the first three blessings I mentioned the other day come from the Torah that everything comes afterwards it's coming from the rabbi's of fourth blessing has been introduced by the rabbi's as well right and therefore we just we're show we're making a break between the Torah blessings and the rabbinical blessings just that we should know that this is where these end and this is where this begins there is the correct thing to do is when you are reciting the Bravo of an English primerica dish right that you should stop at the end of the blessing and wait momentarily it's a little pause and then say the word I mean some people will say I'm been quietly some people say I mean out loud whatever you whatever you do it's fine but that's the best way to do it to make a little break over there after you finish the fourth blessing of the of benching we then had that whole series of hurrah commands I know and these are all requests that are being recited after you after you finish the blessing of a leak a strainer right of which is at the bottom of page 190 then you start all the other month so how many vaca labeled along bed right that we we're asking God that the Quran is a compassionate one right so we're asking God he should reign over us forever he may be blessed in heaven and on earth he prays straddle the generations honored through us forever sustain us in honor break the yoke of oppression a whole series of requests now on Shabbos we don't normally make requests now for the majority of people when they come to recite Baquet amazon they recite there are commands the ceremony shabbos as well some people follow the the custom of the Vilna gone and that is when you get to the end of a lease a strangle you stop that's it then Qing is now finished on Shabbat there's no more you don't say anything else afterwards because these things are personal requests like I said really what it whatever you're going to do it's going to be fine most people like I said they do recite their acha months and I would imagine that you know I would imagine all of us here are probably most people like that so you know that the accepted thing to do what you may find is when people recite there are commands out loud is that very often people say I main after each one I tell have you seen that maybe when people are benching everyone together everyone singing so if somebody says them all out one after the other very often you hear people say I'm vain to each one and that's okay that's fine right that's that's miss barrace says that it's actually it's recommended that if you hear somebody saying there are four months that you do say I'm into them whatever again whatever you do it's going to be fine there's a lovely little halacha over here about benching that when you come to bench you should leave some food on the table I told doesn't have to be doesn't matter we like like a piece of bread right a part of a part of the hollow that hasn't been finished right and the idea over them is because we want to have it we want to make the blockers over something right if there's nothing on the table then it's as if it's as if that the brothels that we're going to bring down are going to rest on what they get the can't rest on anything cuz there's nothing there for them to rest upon piece of bread no you don't have to eat it afterwards you could you can put it away you can store it away you know it doesn't have to be eaten necessarily but it's the idea of having something that the the the broth is that the blessings can rest upon there is an interesting some people are umm so so down after you it listen if the bread throwing out bread is a little bit of a problem right so the only the real way to throw out bread is to wrap it up in a piece of plastic and then and then it can be thrown it shouldn't just be thrown into the garbage can why I don't know I don't know we go because bread is considered to be it's got it's got its got a tremendous significance inside of inside of you know out of food it's considered most important food therefore we treat it with a greater a greater respect that we would treat other things so you know you finish a meal and you've got bits of potato and chicken left on your plate you can just scrape them straight into the bin but pieces of bread shouldn't be they should not be treated like that they should be put into a bag and then the bag should be put into the into the garbage can rather than just doing it straight because because it's considered to be a lack of respect you know because of this idea of not having empty like that the bracha has to sit on somethin right right so some people actually have the custom to remove empty things from the table so you've got like empty bottles on the table so some people have accustomed to take them off as you should know that that's why it's happening doctor you know I'm not saying that that's what you have to do but if you go out of somebody's house and you see before they begin benching that they're very careful to start taking off empty plates and empty empty bottles and everything you'll note should know that that's where it's coming from empty serving bowls that kind of stuff tomorrow he says like this I rajamani shrapnel brahim who Baba biters there that should give a broker to this house but I'll shook hands isha handle 11 on this table that we ate from so some people write some people have the think I'll show summers there Johanna love and they give it a give out you know they're bang on the table should you do it if you want to do it you should do it the idea of there being bracha there's got to be something on the table that the brothel can sit upon is so great that the Czar actually says that if there's no bread left if you finished everything that's on the table you should bring another loaf of bread and put it on the table before you bench I know at least take take crumbs and and and spill them onto the table in order that there should be something that the brother should rest upon again we're talking in spiritual terms we're talking in symbolic terms over here you may have noticed again I write these are things that people don't normally pay attention to unless they're aware of them but there if there's a knife on the table so the knife should be covered up during Biff's a Muslim some people have the custom to take the knives off altogether from the table they shouldn't be left on the table this is only during the week not on shabbos in a minute I'll explain neither there's nothing wrong with knives per se in fact there are actually pretty handy things to have because you know how you're going to cut your meat without you know the what was that was the problem with it the problem is that when a person comes to bench during the week so some of benching is very poignant this idea of wanting the temple to be rebuild and we're upset about the destruction of the temple we say our Narrows Bravo before we begin the before we begin benching it's a it's like a it's again it could put pot that cuts up if somebody could become overwhelmed with you know feelings of despair for the destruction of the temple and they might do something with the knife that lead to themselves that they shouldn't do so that locker comes along and says the best thing lewis just cover it just cover the knife now it's interesting here you're you're you're laughing but what what is the problem the problem it's very difficult for us to relate to any of this because the temple was destroyed almost 2,000 years ago and the idea of it you know fine what are we what are we crying over it's difficult enough on Tisha both imagine having to do this every time that you bench you know to have to have these overwhelming feelings but you know times gone by when the destruction of the temple for sure was something which was much fresher then you know going back many generations it was something that people took it to heart it was something which it was the most terrible terrible thing the problem over here is us not them right that we can't relate to the destruction of the temple is our problem and something which again I don't know I don't know how we're supposed to you know has opposed has a person supposed to work on on yearning for something we has not been around for 2,000 years and there are no there are no generations that you can turn to and say to them what was it like you know it's hard it's truly very hard on shabbos it's okay to leave the knives on the table because we're on Chavez we are filled with a sense of joy I hope you've noticed that and you know it's not you know we're not we're not we're not going to run into that problem just one last thing of events are sharing then we'll finish up with a lot of ifs a muslin you may find that you'll go to somebody's house and they have accustomed to cover up the bread when they come to bench any bread that's left on the table they'll cover it up and put a napkin on top of it whatever it is so that maybe they'll cover it with it with these shutters with the challah cover whatever it is again it's a minute it's a custom should you do that it's up to you most people that the Mishnah brewer mentions that the most people they they don't cover any bread that's left over there the origin of the custom is because many people have the custom to recite a broker of a very pfn over the wine after they've benched and we're running into the same problem as at the beginning of the seuda which is what that because why normally takes precedence but bread normally takes precedence over wine so if we're making the bracha over the wine and we're not making brothel over bread because we just bench me finish benching then it's considered to be a slight to the to the bread and therefore what some people have the customs cover it up again should you do it it's up to you if you think it's the right thing to do then you can do that if you don't think it's the right thing to do you don't have to do it it's absolutely fine whatever you do it's going to be okay why do you break a broker over the wine why do you make a block over wine there is a there is a well it depends it again the custom the accepted custom is to do it when you've got a minyan that's for sure however some people some people say that even if you've got a Ximena three people there are children and one of the classic halacha thorities from the pre Holocaust era he actually ruled that every person needs to even even in every person needs to make a broth the wine even if it's just one person benching by himself the origins of the brothel comes from the idea that when you make kiddush right on Friday night Michelle this morning there really is a halacha question about what a broker or owner and after broker for the wine that you've drunk now we don't make one right and when we come to bench the bench Inge is going to include the obligation to recite the after brothel for the wine however in order to get around the problem some people are of the opinion that if you make a bracha over the wine afterwards and you make the broth a freighter you make that after blessing after you finish the wine and you'll keep in mind the wine that you drank at the beginning for kiddush then that's going to take care of the problem altogether you