Rabbi Mordechai Perlman - Weekly Torah Portion: Toldot - You've Got Twins

[Music] the terrorist stresses the third starts out by saying that these are the generations of the son of abraham says rashi the torah stresses that to indicate that who formed the facial fixtures of yitzhak to be identical to ahmavinu so just by looking at them you could tell that was just his father why because there were jokesters of that generation that uh you know the bill cosbys of that generation were saying that as it wasn't sorry didn't become pregnant from from avraham she became remembered who she had been taking time in mello's house prior to uh her becoming pregnant so she became avi medak so therefore to prove that that is not the case he looked exactly like itself looked exactly like avraham so much so the major says in fact to do some things because the people were constantly confusing them and so caused abram being older to become gray it was up until mavino people didn't turn gray they got old and died but they didn't look old so looking old started without mavino because he wanted to look different than yet talk to people know who's the father who's the son what the point that i would make in that rashi is there's that there's an idea that's brought it's a pussuk and that's in the tanakh it says you have to be clean both in your relationship with god and with your fellow man in other words we know that there's an idea that a person should behave in a way that puts himself above suspicion there's a concept in halacha that's called mari's iron you have to prevent misunderstanding even though you're doing something which you know is really mature but if it looks off color and looks bad you gotta avoid it so people shouldn't think that you're doing an alvero that's called the hebrew mary's iron appearance of the eye you have to avoid that so here there's nothing that arami issa could have done to prevent the late sunny hador saying but we see that coach broca went out of his way to help out ahmadines that even these jokesters which lucha we would have said how many people take a jokester seriously big deal sort of jokesters it wasn't normal people that said this that it that sorry became pregnant it was jokesters now hashem wanted that yitzhak and avrom should be mama's totally above impossible to even to believe in a jokester he wanted to protect them from even a joke so atari tells us that um yitzhak was 40 years old when he took rivkah as a wife according to rashi that means that that was three years after the aqueduct going to russia yitzhak was 37 years old at the time of the al-qaeda how do we know because yitzhak was born when uh mavino was a hundred and sorry was 90. and according to rashid in last week's parsha sora died when she heard about the al-qaeda so sora died at decayed a time so she died at 127. the tarot tesla so then 127 and she was 90 when he was born so he was 37. so three years after the al-qaeda he married with grifka rashi learns that rivka was at the time they got married three years old ptosis disagrees joseph says she was 14. now one thing that you have to know is that three-year-olds in those days were nothing like three-year-olds today i just learned recently a gemara in sanhedrin that points out that in those generations of abinu boys and i assume that by girls there was a similar accelerated um development boys were capable of having children at the age of eight years old lamar brings a couple of proofs that um that um hur grandson was batsalon he built the mishkan but from the time that that got married until until batala was was 13 years old that with how they how do you have grandchildren the answer is that horror gay birth when he was eight years old and whose son uri gave bourbon he was eight years old and so masala was born with his boy so they it was it was a different world it was a different world than what we know today and another thing about the intelligence of people i always bring as an example um i can i would imagine to say that this we have had in our previous generations not so long ago great sages that were blessed by god with outstanding talents to the nagong yeager the so on now rabbi cutler who founded the yeshiva in lakewood in his biography i read that he knew tanakh by heart at the age of three rab aaron kotler he's the one who founded the big yeshiva that's now in lakewood new jersey so i would imagine that rivka was not less precocious than rabarne cutler or for that for that matter avra mitsukun yaakov they were very bright very very bright as children and so we're not talking about a a little girl that you know plays into plays with doll houses talking about a very intelligent woman who we see in last week's parsha is able to run and then and duchess said for felizzer and run back and forth so well no not it's not what it's not what our picture of a three-year-old is okay when they were born the children she was the torah says he was 60. so in other words he got married with his 40. he gets talked to rivka but she didn't have children for 20 years the children were born when yeshua was 60 which would make rifko according to rashi 23. for 20 years they didn't have children so the puzzle says that yitzhak beseeched to god rabbi i should have talked about it yesterday what's the succession of besieging rashi says it was he increased and he beseeched with his prayers it's not just a one-time prayer an easy-going prayer it's like a fervent prayer over and over again opposite his wife because she was barren and hashem listen to him and rivka his wife became pregnant so rashi he learns from the fact that it doesn't say that yitzchak prayed on behalf of his wife it doesn't say about yet it says opposite which is a physical form so rashi says what does the torah want to tell us with that word opposite his wife she says it wants to tell us that they were both in the same room and yes was one corner dividing and rivka was another korean they are both praying for children so if they're both playing the children why the puzzle says that hashem listen to yitzhak hashem didn't listen to rifka why didn't hashem listen to rifko so rashi says hashem listen to him and not to her you can't compare the prayer of a sadique who is the son of a tadic a righteous person the son of a righteous person so the prayer battalion who's the son of a wicked person that's why i should listen to him yitzhak who's a tariq pentathic and not to her whose father was the suede was a russia a brother was lover a father right so now clara it depends how you understand this if you understand if we would understand that what enables a person's prayers to be more readily answered is his righteousness so then it's much harder to be attacked ben russia than it is to be attacked ben sadik it's easy to be exotic if you grew up in a righteous home you so didn't have to work hard to be exciting we would seem riff got to work very hard to be different than her whole environment her father her brother and everybody so and the mish and the gemara says in the end of this first chapter of conduction buffum taraka a person's reward is based on his effort so the rift had to put in a much greater effort to be righteous than yeshua had to had to so why should her prayer be less valuable if we understand that what causes a person's prayers to be answered is his merits now the truth is that i have a gemara that teaches us that it's not necessarily merit which is the factor which causes a person's prayers to be answered there are there can be many factors which are maybe we're not able to be aware of even that god is aware of that makes the prayers different for example the gemara says there was a drought in the time of revelation he was called that way the belize of the great his full name was abele azerbaijanis and he was there be akiva's rebbe maybe akiva the famous armenia was the student of elizabeth hookers so there was a drought and they needed somebody to leave the prayers to pray for rain surveillezer went before the podium went before the stender the darwin it wasn't answered no rain maybe kiva says the gemara who's the student he went he goes before the podium after rebel ezra went away and he he offered the prayer that we incorporate on fast days and the nintendo's repentance of inaudible he initiated this prayer introducing the phrases of his spirit of eno our father my father bouquet of our king bring us rain and it started raining right away so revelator felt awful my i'm the rebbe he's the student and his prayers are more readily answered than mine how could that be so a voice came out of the heavens and told him no it's not because he's more righteous than you but you are so great you're like a minister before the king like one of the king's uh high officials and rebecca who's on lower level he's like a slave before the king he's his might he's much more subservient and submissive to god and it's his it's his submissiveness that makes his prayer more quickly received it's not because he's more righteous so here we see that there's a factor that can cause prayer to be entered has nothing to do with righteousness that the bible is such a great person he was such a high spiritual level he was like a minister in god's in god's house and the kiva was a slave so the slave is beseeching he's more humble so his humility causes prayers to be answered so we see that there's other factors that are not connected with righteousness so maybe here also we don't know that's on the simple level how i answered the question to myself i don't know but the rashi says rabbi destler destler in his book of strive for truth wants to give the following answer there's two kinds of righteous person who's the son of a righteous person most people most children if they're impressed by their parents just try to be a copy of their parents they try to imitate their parents and be like their parents so there's no question that a child that is righteous only because he's imitating his father that's easy that's not a struggle and a woman who's righteous even though her father was wicked is a much greater merit but yet was not a carbon copy of his father yesterday was a totally different personality ahma venus primary attribute was kindness very outgoing very involved with with his community reaching out to people to be my car of them having social interaction with whoever he comes in contact with yesterday was very withdrawn yitzhak's media was hero was the fear of god and self-effacement self-avoiding himself i'm a nobody before god and therefore his person he was righteous in his own right but totally different than his father so says of destler to be righteous in your own right to acquire a whole new way of developing a relationship with god independent of your father's righteousness that's harder than to be attacked ben russia and therefore that's what it means at sadiq in his own right who's unique and not like his father who's a tadic that's harder to be than attacked by russia and that's why yitzchak's prayers he was he deserves more reward for his developing a whole new relationship to god of fear as opposed to his father that was kindness and that's why his prayers were more answered the katsuka rebbe the khaskarev gave a different answer a practical answer we know after the fact that hashem intended that rivka should become pregnant with twins one was very righteous it's yakov aveeno and the other was very wicked asap so it says the katsuka rebecca when up when asadek van sadik is praying for children what is he praying for was just prayer to god i want a child like my father i want a child like my father when ethan russia is praying for children what is his prayer god don't give me a child like my father i don't want a child like my father i don't want such a russia i don't necessarily care he doesn't have to be a big big gigantic righteous person like armavino he should be it's okay if he's average but not a russia i don't want somebody like my father now god knew that rifka is going to have on the one hand ayakov which was like yitzhak's father abraham venue very righteous but she was also going to have an asa who was maybe even worse than than basuil in his wickedness so then hashem ignored rivka's prayer that's what that's what you can't compare the prayer of atari bethanik to the prayer battalion russia and that's why hashem only listened to yitzhak didn't listen because yes i was praying give me a son like my father and he got answered he got a yaakov aminu but rivka was praying don't give me a son like my father and hashem ignored her he gave her asov that's why her prayer was ignored because hashem now why hashem wanted yaakov and asaph to be born as twins ahmavinu also had a son who was righteous and his son was wicked ishmael but there were two different wives and two different times i had yes was 13 years older than the other excuse me yeshua was 13 years older than than the attack why did akash bronco once or not that jakob and asia should be born as twins i mean there could be many reasons there could be a reason that because yitzhak we find for example later on in the parsha that hashem did not yitzhak when there was a famine wanted to leave israel like his father did when there was a famine abraham went on to egypt was on the way to egypt god stopped him god said no no don't go to egypt rashi says why the same reason why al mavino actually in last week's parsha wouldn't let um yitzhak go back to kharan as we ask him what happens the girl doesn't want to come here should i take your son there no no don't take it why because yitzuk was so holy having gone through the al-qaeda and having been willing to let his father sacrifice him he hasn't been yitzhak is like a holy sacrifice that was offered to god and as such that level of holiness he's not allowed to go out of here to stroke it could be that he himself was humble and didn't think that way so when there was a family wants to go down but god stopped him god appeared to him and said listen don't go out of here as well stay here i'll take care of you there's a famine you'll have what to eat and he blessed him that he had about to eat even though there was a famine so because of that holiness of yitzhak it could be that god didn't want him to marry a maidservant like avro married avrom's wicked son came from a maid servant but yitzhak being on a holy like a carbon hashem only wanted to marry a righteous woman like rivka so then rifk had to have both children why did he want afgha twins at the same time so it could be because we don't know all the the the incidentals but hashem wanted that there should be uh on the one hand a potential of similarity between akov and asev which is twins are oftentimes similar and yet the possibility of them being very different and that could only be if they were born as twins all right not sure so then the turret tells us that the children were running around inside her and she said if that's the case so why is why literally she said why is this that i am it's like a sentence that's left in the middle i am what doesn't she doesn't finish the thought the children were running within her and she said if so why is this that i am so rashi finishes the thought rashi says she means why was i desiring and praying for children if i have such a strange pregnancy now let's understand in this simple shot not like rashi's drusha in simple shot this is how i understand i didn't see this in the comments that's how i understand it ordinarily when you have a child when you're pregnant the child's not always moving there's no constant movement the child sleeps sometimes there's quiet times and there's times that the baby's moving and kicking you feel you feel the you can feel the movement of the baby of the fetus but she had twins and the male is sometimes one was sleeping and the other was moving and sometimes the other was sleeping and the first one was moving so the movement was constant so she asked women when you're pregnant you have constant movement no this baby's quiet sometimes so that means that she understood that something strange about her pregnancy is not pregnant with a normal child so she wondered so she went to ask what's happening so they had so the simple answer is they told her you got twins it's two different babies therefore one is moving the other's quiet that's why you feel constantly moving because it's not the same child that's always moving but somebody's always moving that's the simple shot in the plastic oh she was calm down later i got twins so then it's not abnormal for prick for twins it's not abnormal rashi says alpina medrish that what happened is that the children were running that when she would pass a doorways of a place of torah the base meadows of shame and aver yaakov would run and jerk to get out when she passed would buy a doorway of a buddha sorrow asa would jerk to get out so again i i understand in chad she didn't know it's twins it's two different children one that has a pull to torah and the other that's a pull to idol worship she thought it's the same child so what she thinks the child schizophrenic crazy doesn't know what he wants out of life sometimes he's pulled the torah sometimes he's pulled over zoro i don't want that so so that's why she went to this what's going on here i got a child that's that's confused he's got a split personality so they told no no you don't have a child with two different children one one's torah the other one's a vodazar now the kasha that i have on this is the following the term that rashi uses for yaakov's moving to the base medish as it were and asa is moving to the base of meris is piercus now in halakhah that term is used piercus is used as a term that refers to the jerking of an animal after shrita you know the the the expression of you is running around like a chicken without a head it's true if you shake the chicken you cut off the chicken's head you put the chicken down the chicken will continue to run around a little bit until it kills over and eventually dies that's involuntary movement obviously because it has no head brain is not covering the movement so so that's but it's true that chicken can run around without a head that's but that kind of movement is called pickers the same thing is true injecting an ox they they the uh you can check it the acts would likely be called dead but it's still jerks it can still move so a melee piercus is a term which is used for involuntary movement i had a kasha if that's the case why does yaakov deserve great credit for being righteous and why is asav to be just downgraded because he's wicked it's pierkus yaakov's attraction to torah was involuntary asa's attraction of roswell was involuntary so why it's as fault god created him with the nature to be pulled to avodah zorro it's peer cause it's not it's not a voluntary action that was my question on this rashi it's involuntary we don't even know which one was uh moving towards which well we don't know whether the navi told her we know we know we can after the fact we know that it was the one that's righteous that was pulled to torah the one that was the other one was pulled up out of zorro but if it's peerless it's involuntary so why should he why should jacob deserve to be rewarded for automatically being atomized that's what's his natural tendency the answer is like this the rambam says in his introduction to picture of us that no one is created no one's born with on the active level good character traits or bad character traits but people are born with tendencies people have tendencies that they're born with which are not which are god defined god decides what tendencies every newborn child is going to have but they don't they don't guarantee what you're going to do with them i give as a marshall a physical thing my mother had very soft teeth by the age of 21 she had a full set of false teeth uppers and lowers my father passed away with all of his teeth in his mouth strong teeth i had my father's teeth my sister has my mother's teeth so my sister has as cavities and fillings in every tooth in her mouth and i don't i wouldn't say i don't have any cavities at all and i have fillings but not a quarter of what my sister has why i have strong teeth but now the fact that i have strong seeds doesn't guarantee that i'm not gonna have cavities and it doesn't guarantee that i'm not gonna have to lose teeth if i ignore taking care of my teeth and i never brush them and i ate a lot of sweets i'm going to wrap my teeth even if they are strong and similarly the fact that my sister might have soft teeth doesn't guarantee she has to have cavities if she's aware of it and she'll be careful not to eat sweets she'll be careful to brush her teeth after every time she eats three times a day she won't have cavities so yes a person can be created with a tendency but you also have free will you can choose to ignore the tendency and let your teeth rot and you can choose to fight against it and you take one route you're gonna choose to go actively against your tendency to have strong teeth and rot your teeth and you can but but but to keep your teeth healthy you need less care than you need the other person with softly but you still need to choose to do it if you don't choose to watch your teeth your it'll also rot so similarly the ram says a person in me those in character traits has tendencies but what he's going to become is up to his free will so it's true that yaakov had a natural tendency to torah and asap had a natural tendency to avoid zoro but that didn't guarantee that yaakov was going to be a big tomato he could have ignored it and just become an amarette an ignoramus and yaesev could have overcome it and fought it and become a talking so the tendencies is not guaranteed doesn't guarantee that it's going to be this way the fact that he had a tendency out of the torah doesn't guarantee he's going to be a righteous and the fact that he's have a tendency to it doesn't guarantee he's going to be wicked you have free will you can you can ignore your good tendencies and you can overcome your bad tendencies that's how i understand rashi says another thing i should go so so the the the she went to shame she says to ask what's going on so shane tells her there's two nations in your stomach there's two nationalities are going to separate from your womb they're going to struggle with each other and eventually the older one is going to serve the younger one meaning the one that's born first who turned out to be aeso is going to serve yaakov her day is finished to give birth in other words it was a full-term pregnancy and she has twins the first one came out red all covered like a mantle of hair and they called his name asov asov literally comes with the word the hebrew word la sauce to do and in the noun form of soy means finished because asa looked like he had hair like an adult so he's like a finished product his brother came out his hand was holding onto the heel of asav and it says he called his name yaku it doesn't say who by yes of anybody that looked at him it says they called his name everybody anybody who looked at him called him asap because he's because he was had hair like an adult afterwards his brother came out and he called his name yaakov says rashi there banishlem called his name yaakov not not yitzhak how does rashi know that it was god that called his name yitzhak so there's a rule in in hebrew grammar in in biblical structure when there's a series of verbs with a pronoun he he he we always assume that the antecedent the noun that the pronoun is referring to is the same and if it's not the torah is going to change it the torah is going to tell you so therefore since the torah says here that he called his name yakov and then it says yitzhak was six years old when they gave birth that's uriah that the one that called his name yako was not yitzhak because if it was yitzhak that called his name yaakov it wouldn't have bothered putting the word yitzok and then an apostle would have continued with the pronoun it would have said he called his name yaakov when he was 60 years old at a birth and since the torah doesn't rely on the pronoun the torah has to add that yitzhak was six years old that's a riot that the antecedent of the pronoun and the word he called is not yitzhak that's shot that's how kazan knew that it wasn't yet to call this name who was it was god that's what rasheed says the children grew up as a man who knew how to hunt a man in the field and yaakov is a simple person said dwelling in tents so refersh says that the literal meaning of the word yaakov means he who will come in the end whereas he hasn't yet achieved greatness but eventually he'll get there on the other hand aesop means finished a sui a finished product we are put in this world to grow when a person god forbid will reach this point in his life that he feels uh i've done enough i can now rest on my laurels i have nothing more to do in this world then he's in for trouble he's going to start looking for leisure and looking for a get bored and he's going to get himself to trouble and that was the difference hersh wants to learn between the personalities of asov and yakov that aso looked at himself not only that he was physically looked like a finished product he had hair like an adult that's a i have nothing to i'm i don't have to grow i am i am the vil so so what did he do he looked for something to fill up his time and as a he was a man of leisure and he looked for hunting to fill up his time yaakov he's going to come in the end he knows that he's he has something he has to strive for he has not yet achieved and he has got to work for it so he's sitting and learning so the puzzle says that yitzhak loved aesop and rivka loves yaakov now the marbin points out that by yitzchak it uses the past tense verb he loved yitzhak loved in the past tense asaph because he was hunting in his mouth he put hunter in his mouth and rivka it doesn't say love with past tense it says present tense now rashi doesn't say this but many of the portions point out when the torah uses the present tense it's it certainly doesn't mean that rivka loves the it's only temporarily right now she loved him the whole his whole lifetime so the torah will use the present tense when it means that something which is hap which is ongoing it's constant it's always happening but by yitzhak it doesn't say it's a love's present tense as if he loved why because eventually when he found out that aso that asap sold the birthright to yaakov that he gave the broccoliakos but he was happy about it he took an end he said he he wanted yaakov to take keep the bracha and he realized that asa was a russia he stopped loving him so since yaakov's yitzhak's love for asap was not forever so it doesn't use the present tense but yitzhak loves asap he loved him but rivkah's love for yaakov was forever so therefore it uses the present tense rivka loves yaakov the rashiva by moshi with the mere shiva of consciousness used to ask azar comes in he's exhausted he sees yakov cooking soup and he wants some of the soup give me some i'm i'm i'm exhausted so yaakov throws a question at him that seems to be out of the blue sell like today your birthright to me tom all of a sudden this is what his distance is in mind he's got it now some want to say that he had him over a barrel he'd realize he's starving hungry he will refuse to give him the soup until he sells his birthright so he'll force him to sell it you can't learn like that yaakov did not force aesop to sell the birthright to him the torah tells us that even after ace of eight and he drank and he left he despised the birthright he was not sorry that he sold it even after he ate he didn't right away say okay and i'll sell it to you then eat and then say okay now i changed my mind you you twisted my arm i didn't really want to sell it to you forced me no even after he ate and he drank the torah tells us he got up and he went and he despised the birthright he was glad he got rid of it he shouldn't think that that it was only because he was coerced because he was starving hungry he agreed to sell but if he wouldn't have been starving hungry he would have not never done such a thing the turret tells us clearly that even after he ate and after he drank he got up and he left and he buys the birthright he didn't say right away an outcry you forced me because i was starving hungry because you wouldn't get me to eat until i sold you so i said it but i don't really mean it he didn't answer it back he let it go so he didn't afford yaakov didn't force asap to sell him the birthright yes so why later on did uh say that to stop he said oh he also stole my birthright from me now he stole my brother he he's a he's a he's a liar so you wanted to be honest he's a liar he considered he he he first of all doesn't say he didn't use the word steel he didn't use the word steel he says he took he took my birthday and now he took my bracha he didn't say steal he knows he sold it to him there's a very interesting sephora here i'm going to skip a little bit sephora asked an interesting question when when as i said before there was a famine and yaakov and yitzhak's first intention was to go down to egypt to repeat his father's behavior the same way that avraham went to egypt when there was a famine he was all on the way to egypt and god stopped him god appeared to him chapter 26 sent to census 2. god appeared to me he said to him don't go down to egypt stay in the land that i'll show you right now stay in this land i'll be with you i'll bless you you don't have to go to whose large to get food bye because to you and your offspring i will give all of these lands and i will establish the oath that i swore to your father avraham he continues in sentence four i will increase your seed like the stars of the heavens and i will give to your seed all of these lands and through your offspring all the nations will be blessed why not in your own merit says god in plastic five because your abraham listened to my voice and he kept my guarding my commandments my statutes and my teachings so the zephorno points out that hashem does not promise blessing to yitzhak in yitzchak's own merit only in the merit of abraham later on hashem appears to him and gives him another bracha and there also hashem says it's in the merit of avraham in census 24 of chapter 26 god appeared to him in that night after he dug the third well that was called rakhov he went from there to beersheva god appeared to him in that night and he said i am the god of your father don't be afraid i'm with you i will bless you and create your seed for the sake of my servant avraham again not for your sake for the sake of avraham so the sephora says like this the sephora was a rishon he was also a doctor like the ramban and the rambam but he was one of the rishonim that means from the eleven hundreds and twelve hundreds so it says the suphornu because amaravinu listen to my voice to yitzhak hashem at this point is promising him a blessing only in his father's merits and later on also when he appeared to him after he dug the third will he appeared to him he said i will increase your seat for the sake of my servant abraham not in your own sake not so do we find by yaakov aveeno we never find that question gives blessing ciaco in his parents and his gran his father is the grandfather's marriage and his own merit all the more so mavinu got his blessings in his own merits why why was yet so different why was yisok only offered blessings in the merit of his father so says this affordable interesting answer he says this was before yitzhak was aroused to call out in the name of god yitzhak was introverted i mentioned before his meeting was year of fear he was very introverted he was not very socially active with his surroundings amarvinu was involved in teaching torah to as many people as he could and yaakovino was also involved in teaching turrets as many people as he could so since both avraham and and yaakov did and especially spiritual kindness with other people to try to teach them to believe in god so when a person does kindness that he deserves the blessings of god for his own merit in this world we're not talking about the world war in the world to come we're talking about in this world one of the things that our godolm have told us that if one of the things that we can do to protect ourselves from terrorist attacks is learning torah and doing cassette now i'll tell you a story there's a story that i heard about was a very big tariff and thomas beckham who lived when i was first came to trial and i was at his funeral and he was a very learned person but he's also a very warm and kind person so one time a woman came to him who'd been married over 10 years and didn't have children and and she tried all kinds of doctors and she'd gone to all kinds of rabbis for blessings and so she's now coming to urban she wants a blessing or advice something that she should be able to have children so she comes in and she sits down in front of her from and hears a story he says to her my dear woman you know god does not owe you anything god does not owe you children you have no right to demand the children from god god doesn't owe you children now the truth is that i met rashford i spoke to i spoke numbers of times since and when i read that story originally it was amazing to me because when i went to speak to zalman as soon as i walked in his room he smiled at me with such a warm smile i felt like he hugged me his love for his fellow jew was so great i couldn't imagine that he would ever talk to a jewish woman like that so harshly god doesn't know you anything i couldn't believe it but listen to the continuation of the story now the woman was as shocked as i was the one didn't know what to do she expected to have to talk on trust in hashem i'll bless you god willing you'll have a child children no god doesn't know you anything so she's quiet just sitting there and he doesn't say anything else so she gets up to leave very disappointed she gets to leave so islam and said no no don't get up and leave yet she said but god doesn't owe you children but if you will do for god what you do not owe him he will do for you what he does not owe you if you'll find opportunities to be kind to people beyond what you're obligated god will be kind to you you'll have children that's what he told her so what did she decide to do she originally she decided she's going to go visit people in the hospital piko holy big mitzvah and not her relatives strangers so first she chose to go to the maternity ward and she used to she made packages of cookies and chocolates to give to the women but she realized they don't need her there all the women you know their brothers and sisters and mothers and cousins and grandparents are coming and then and showering them with all kinds of gifts these women in the maternity world don't need her so she realized she's got to go to the oncology word she got to go to the cancer patients there it's not so happy like in the maternity ward so she made it her business to go every week i remember once a week or twice a week she went to the oncology awards with packages books and candies and things and gave it out and sat with people and talked to them and tried to give them encouragement which is something available that she's not behaved to do ten months later she had a baby a year after that she had a second baby if you do things for a college you which are not what is not broadca to do said now rewarding the world to come the gemara says in the end of this in the first pair of conduction there's no reward for mitzvahs in this world but that you do that benefit others in this world you do get rewarded also in this role not only but also that's why kindness to others is so important to get blessing in this world those these blessings that god was blessing yitzhak here was blessings in this world he wasn't blessing him they would have haba he didn't need he didn't need to acquire oldham in the merit of his father avraham but to be blessed in this world he needed abraham of being america why because he himself was not yet doing cat said he wasn't doing kindness with others he wasn't making a soap box like a moving getting up and preaching to everybody to believe in god and give up their eye to worship so he was introverted he wasn't doing tested so that he doesn't deserve to be blessed in this world on his own merit but avraham yaakov they were blessed on their own merit but when yitzhak started to do kassad i'll point you where the sephora sees it then he stopped having saurus then his he got he had he had problems with abimelech avi mello's servant stuffed up the wells that he dug and they fought with him took his wells away and and he had nothing but stars from abimelech but when is he started to do it everything changed all of a sudden comes to him makes a pact wants to be wants peace he sees him with someone blessed by god what happens so this is this idea i'm sharing with you i heard i read from from from rabbi destler in strive for truth in the second volume in uh well in stratfor church it's in the fourth volume in the hebrew which is mr meleo it's in the second volume so so it says like this what did hashem say to yitzhak after the third well that he dug which is called so it says he went from there to bear shabbat god appeared to me he said i am the god of your father abram don't be afraid because i am with you so if that's learns it means much more than the simple level don't be afraid about me yet me middle is to be afraid and he's afraid of doing things that he's not worthy of doing he's he's very humble because of it he's afraid of god and he says to himself says odessa i'm going to start preaching to others about believing in god who am i am i nobody i'm afraid to do that it's not it's it's beyond my my level so god is telling him yet you're going too far i'm the god of your father avraham avraham is kindness your father don't be afraid don't be so afraid to be afraid to teach people toro be like your father do in spirituality i'll be with you and i'll bless you immediately he hears that the next passage of 25. he built an altar he called out in the name of god just like his father abram did he started preaching to the surrounding about god he stopped being introverted and the moment that that happens all of a sudden the next passage he started calling out in the name of god he started doing abimelech comes to him from grower with his a group of friends and his general vehicle what are you coming to me for is this yesterday to them you hated me you sent me away no we saw that guys with you we want there to be the curse that existed between my father and your father should exist between us let's make a covenant re-establish the covenant that my father made with your father avraham that's impossible that i'm made of practice and he did he agreed sader so the moment that he started calling out in the name of god preaching to people to believe in god that's it ami melaka made peace with him his source his sufferings from the environment stopped so that's the importance of you want to be blessed in this world you got to do things for in this world that help other people the more questions we do the more kind god will be to us especially if we go out of our way to do kindness that we logically don't have to do [Music] you