The Secret to Real Love - Rabbi Zamir Cohen

When you invest, you'll fall in love more. Rabbi Dessler, blessed memory, the Mashgiach of the Ponevezh Yeshiva, explains this in his book Michtav me-Eliyahu. Why is it that when we invest in a person, we love them more? He asks about art. Any artist who creates a work, a sculpture, a painting, the artist is usually in love with their creation. There are more beautiful works out there. Why does he love this one? The usual answer is because he invested in it. Rabbi Dessler asks, "So what?" And he explains it like this. When you invest in something, the investor feels that a part of themselves has entered into that thing. If there is a sculpture here that I invested in, a painting I invested in, a part of me is inside this creation. And since every person loves themselves, they love the creation because a part of me is here. It's the same with your wife. You invest in her, you invest in your friend, and a wife invests in her husband. This investment creates love. It creates a connection. Therefore, a person who says, "I'm getting married and she needs to take care of me," you will never love your wife. If you don't take care of her and think about how you can make her smile, make her happy, make her joy