How to know if you're ready to marry. #marriage #relationships

What makes someone ready for marriage? I don't know what makes a person ready for marriage cuz that means what has to happen to you in order for you to be ready, but I can answer how do you know that you are ready for marriage? And the answer is when you don't need to get married. I'll explain. If you're getting married because there's something in your life that you're missing and you think marriage will take care of that for you, then really what you're doing is you're reducing marriage to a utility. And indeed, that's often what happens when people get married and the spouse feels used. They feel like, "You don't care about me. You're just extracting resources from me." In other words, don't get married because you need a housekeeper. Don't get married because you need a babysitter. Or or maybe a personal assistant or a therapist or someone to provide you with physical intimacy. All of these things are terribly reductive and it doesn't feel intimate the spouse in such a marriage. You know when you're ready for marriage? When you say, "I don't need marriage. I have a good life. I'm fulfilled. Marriage has nothing to offer me. I am ready to offer something to marriage. I'm ready to take myself, the best version of myself that exists today, and bring that to a holy partnership where I can create something together with someone else greater than either of us are able to do on our own."