The Purim Davening - Rabbi Yakov Zev Smith

Thank you. Please tell us [clears throat] welcome everyone to today's from Smith and Date Feel the puring capital is sponsoring call 7188518651 or email is at.com and there are 14 that try to find the essence the message of purish this and that it's amazing 14 different messages or essence of purim. So you wonder which is the all. So there's something that has to be mentioned. I think it's a mitzvah there's a dam or a mitzvah and then then after this he has a minion mitzvah and in between the minitz and when he starts the he has a few mitzvah and if you want to see in the frank in the it's in it's page alf but it's again it's very hard to find but it's there and he says the following that what's the concept why the is asking like one of the 14 that's what's the essence of pur the compon In other words, of all the 14 options, the Rambam felt the most important message of Purim is that the was close to them. So I was thinking it's appropriate that we should talk about especially we know the special the so we're going to try to go in order of the night and day and I should mention it's I guess it's a both timely and timeless that the each of these is that whole year as well they're all suggestal in a whole year. So it's guess it's timely and timeless this [clears throat] was an interesting sh someone was a and he couldn't wait till to land the migill don't forget this year it's early usually pur is a sheni and he have to change the clock so he could first start laying the mill at 8:15 but he had to make early pur he wanted to know he da early with and laying the migilla early so it sound like a great idea make an early pur you know Like maybe but [clears throat] is there an early pur in we have early can you make an early so [clears throat] you should know early is not pushed at all I should mention the the onabas we do it but during the week early is very much not had They dare early every night. Fine. That's their m but us. We try to avoid the early only on make early shabas. But a person has to. So this should not be any different regarding this should be okay. Yeah. What's interesting is is that they say alanim in his ding. I'll explain why. We know every yum has an has an addition and like shabas also and other this one although it's there is no that's the of the in calls says that in fact says it's to go and wears his hat because it's but and this [clears throat] even though there is no so should come out if someone dabs early ones he should not say it's not And this is very neg in a few months of very often comes out on shabas and let's say that that's the case. So you make early shabas and it's 8:00 you're about to start and you start wondering do I say because it's it's a half hour before it's maybe you can make shabas but you can't make and therefore the will be a little of an interesting combination regular shabas but no y of it and this is the opinion of the im was the opinion of quoted of he said if there's no how could you say however the himself he says I don't understand there's no how do you make 8:00 into must be that if we hold that this man is so why can you see then he says this as far that you say it now for later. But then he says something very interesting. He says if you're allowed to da early, you're allowed to say and then he has a proof. He says had it been true that you can't say when you make early shabas. So how could you make early shabas? when you have to but when you can't put into then you can't make au if you can't do it right don't do it how could you make early whether it's week night or shabas you can you can't say must be like I told you he says that if it's considered even though there's Now the I should add that the im himself seemed to have because in in the he writes that if you d early you could say okay wonderful now this is all regarding how about let's say tomorrow night someone's not well he wants to make early can he say alim in the mv So this the doesn't discuss but does. Now listen to this in the says that when you dy you put in alanimi that even if you dive in early before you still say oh how do I know? So listen to this. He says since we don't find that you should make early on cuz you can't say Alanim must be you could say Alanim. So he was just and he's now I would add they're both in the he says that was the early of but don't also from the ina it's it's it's alfs also says early and sayim so we are very comfortable to say that you do say alenim early now this is as far as the that's the what about So that should be a serious problem because the migill you have to really the do it at night also late but it has to be it has to be night and that's why both the and the moish although they sanctioning early however there's a different that even allows that and that's the from the earliest now this is probably the most important truth for today that the true sadashian says that you could tackle listen to migilla from plague of presumably and as far as since according to you could even dare with Krishna after after plag so how could miguela be worse is at most at night is less than day. So how could it be you can't and this is quoted in believe it or not could hear the migill from however this incurred the wrath of the very he says to the don't listen to him it has to be at night if you lane before night. Why the has to be however who saw both he said what should I tell you I found him did you all join if you look at the he's more by now is a sophic don't forget the says but in tough pay test he bays you could even without a spher like so if you could if you could say who so here we have an interesting is if you lain migill early for sure with migilla I could only say if asked me could he l if the says you could say you could you can't say different you want to say That's up to you. But if need be you could even but certainly it would be better to [clears throat] you start the dening itself. There's a beautiful he says one expression he says is that we say in there's so much about that is the so put into saying in the the whole feel of it he basically advised is put more into the that's really the [clears throat] next question is the alanim. So unfortunately alanim is a bit underrated because people think big deal. So the emmes says it is a big deal and I'll I'll prove it. It's the is right after both and I as once in a who he was before they started of shak he clapped on the beimma and announced yak and the next thing happened which should have happened everybody started laughing so that was they were laughing at the gab but it was sacrif funny because he was inexperienced or clueless because even though as we'll see the minist that's only but not now where's it coming from so says he said the is to to announce before he says we see but he said you're allowed to announce The is even though but you still announce it. So but since so is not worse is not better whatever. So you're allowed to announce it. And then he says that's the and don't worry and this is quoted invades is even though so we could assume even though is a notch less than why because but it's good enough. Okay. I don't quoted by the I don't understand the I don't understand the we hold today it's and if you do it do it right. So why you announcing? So he quotes the bang the sham should bang on the on the table and like we do with and that should be enough of a reminder. Now the of course the point is because the banging will do enough but I must mention two points some have a different meaning and that is that the gabi when he gets to the word ya he says it out loud. Now that meaning is not so even though the the mash does mention that and the problem is because the is inappropriate talking all of them talking loud. Okay, if you do it once, but I've seen a shul that many people do it. It becomes like a like a joke. Once I was in a shul the person said he must have speed read and it was so funny how we got there so fast. So that's distracting. So it has to be done with another thing which was one and I kid you not. And it's someone asked me I said I said why'd you do that? I'll tell you it's funny. I I don't know why but the gab banged and I knew his was last week but if he banged why is he banging I said y knew why why why the gab bang it was December 4th or 5th and they were starting the same so the gab should have done is announce it because people some people are not connected to the gaisha date and they don't know you're starting at le so banging just confuses people another at risk time that maybe you should announce something is if you notice the the of the first days has four additions into the first of all we don't say the same for the first time I forgot to mention and so banging you know people are not again so attuned to the saying in in we haven't said it till now but then again what do you do only announce so people think you don't say some told me the is the bang four times maybe but something it should be done that you cover all bases because they had four different okay that's as far as announcing but the mere fact rabb that the rajba allows us to announce yo and The say shows that even if is not it's still important of people are very focused. So if the gab just bangs it's probably enough but the minute is today probably more often not to bang the writes the meaning of was not to announce it just to bang. So whatever you do make sure it works as far as the actual alanim. So this in about mentioning on but the says it regarding and regarding we sayim night and day the best thing would be the way the said not to forget he says if you from a you probably won't forget I would suggest it's a good idea it works put something in the page of alanim or whatever it is put a tissue a card something and when you get to there you'll say oh what is this so it's a good reminder and some people like to add that you take it out and you put in your pocket I while you're putting your tish in your pocket you leave it in because after you start say hey did I say I'm not sure what if the tiss in your pocket noven so you put something in your pock In the sid if you have two ascaras twice pes you can put four tissues if you want or some things it always works if you did that you won't have any next question is when someone once asked me happened I think two years ago he forgot Alanim he started ding over thinking it's makab and it wasn't so what should he do so he ask me after he stopped ding and I was right that My B says even though you started but there's no purpose in finishing. So stop right then and there and say if you want and hope you know Allah better for the next time you make a mistake. The next question is someone forgot and he's holding right by the end of the of what should he do? So this is Clark. If you just said without shame, you go back and you start off. You're going to have to repeat. You're going to say the kale again. In fact, I'm sorry. If you left that alanim and benching and you before the end of the coy you go back even though you already said you said too she but once you have to go back you go back and repeat again the big question is oh I didn't say so it comes to mind is the famous of now is a says that if someone made a oh I made a shak already so instead of just stopping say which is a how did that help because you you converted into a there's no if he said it's too late Now the in itself is not so simple. It's not a perfect because you start how do you convert it to a and I'll prove it to you says the following. If the looks around there's no in the just then the comes in. So let the isel stand to the side call up the and get let's say the that the isel started theem and or in that area tell the too bad the reasoning you come late you lost that's it question why and give the cen So even though he can say what does it mean to say very positive if you say tom as a you can't convert it into a it was if there's no other choice that's the that's the lesser of two evils but that's why the say is not an but that's says, "Let's say you left out. They're both and you toe, you have no choice and go back." Why do you do that? Because if you don't go, if you don't and you finish the you have to repeat and that's not not good. How could you say you're telling me? So argues better finish better finish and then what put put it in between the right right there and write this even though it's not so perfect. So it's which is the lesser of two evils. But here's the here's the double push. According to this it comes out that if he said to and you didn't say don't say on the holidays because it's not when is it when do you do the going to be when it's and he said that himself he said the is fine but don't do it when it comes holiday. Yeah. whenever it's not that means that means benching or so the same advises on he says only when it's in the [clears throat] so that's why the is fine finish and we'll soon put I should also mention that the says that if you did say don't put right there because we'll soon have a better put it. Now why ta interesting why ta could you say um in between it doesn't belong there so it should be a halfik explain what says this is the biggest of if you're not going to stick it in you have to repeat the so therefore Again when it's you put it it's not a when it's not go this is clearly regarding the I should mention quotes that even you could put because it's it is to the previous but what can I tell you we go to Mr. And we'll soon see the next Develim put it into where that coming from. But the question is much deeper because you really don't need to say that. Look at the words. It's how could you put it into that's bakosa you can't put it doesn't fit and the kasha is a wonderful kasha so where do we get this this idea from so the iss quoting a kboy that says if you left at alanim in benching he's talking about benching when you get to harakamon He he has a special that the has wonderful the is talking about oh getting places he left that put it into benching but the question is what do you say so you ask people say what do you mean you say alan and be made right wrong. What does the say? Why did he say to say the ter is because you cannot say in benching is it doesn't fit. So the and that's the way the is you should you should say it when you you convert the the convert it into a and then it fits into the so we're not just putting alan elsewhere we're changing its its texture it's a fit ra And that's the is based on the and the you see a special it's interesting the use that you do it as a oh so now it's if you left that you cannot it doesn't fit in what do you say the same now it's mode and you finish be may whatever it is and the embassy is the word is is the and the biggest I think there's a famous in how could you say not ask for an S can't down for an S it's aim But what do you see from this is a not ah once you turned it into a you could put it in the says into the the aos not not avash is quoted in theish perme that if you left that alanim on chabis You can't say in why because you don't say on that's how much he considered it a now grand I found his someone asked this how could you say you can't always said it's not your pride private problem. This is so the is good but has to be done right. You have to have a sit in front of you. You see benching most benches have their but if it happens so turn to benching and go back to where do you put it in? So this is interesting. The says you put in is more specific in put it in. So to make a long story short, the pim seem to agree you put it at the end of before the second. If you say two rats, the guy always sell only one at the end. But you you say the kind that's very important. Don't forget says in fact I saw this some have the meaning that they don't say on your B or so the simple reason is because that's the days the says another reason because the three days before are like Because the says no, there has to be a whatever the case should be with the and but at the end of stick in and you continue with the beautiful sh [clears throat] someone who's dabing slowly. He's taking pray seriously and they're about soon they're going to be saying kaduca shakus or he makes a calculation he's going to miss kadusha but if he improvises and he skips alanim he'll make kadusha what should be his priorities should one skip alanim so that he'll finish earlier he could say kadusha with the so it comes to mind in inb It makes sense says at most so you have sense of priorities but then again we have what are you jumping over mitzvah you're holding finish what first things first but the pillar is there's a extraordinary biggest gimmel. Someone asked him he was in jail and they gave him off one day a year to leave. Which day should should from a year take off. So they start thinking maybe purima maybe kipa and they had a shil what to do. So says these pkim they they were busy and they ended up with nothing. They made a silly mistake. go out right that day. Why? And don't look at what's more or less important. That's your mitzvah. In fact, I should mention Rashi inita. We don't have a right to juggle mitzvah which are more important. So that's go out the first day and joy like for a whole year. Now I do know the he has a different that what overrides says in a bigger mitzvah I'm sorry a bigger mitzvah overrides I mean it's a she say tonight wait till tomorrow a big boy say someone once told me that the sh to do with Alanim is telling the and the should you take the first right away and and say or better get the kaduca but it's not true because is the is today you didn't start anything then maybe said no wait till but the milit you're to jump over what you have in your hands les we don't do that he says and he says by the way don't trust the prisoners the prison gods they'll tell you time they'll change their mind by then he says don't trust the guy just go that's his second also says the mitzvah is now you do the mitzvah now question. True story. Someone saidim, but that was half the story. He concluded on I guess that was an early ado. What's the sh and the truth of he said? So it's a serious problem and there's another another around the in the end of the speaks about someone said the wrong or unnecessary he mentioned or or or he said it during the week says basically he made a mistake not so quoting they said it can't be if you said it's a that's brings not any better than saying words of heaps. So Dr. Mr. When you said something that is objectively wrong, it's a again this is that he says the now the question is how about our so let's dissect our he said I'm I'm poor I'm so good what was the only problem he's talking about a time of m what's wrong? So that's why the agree that is okay. Now I should mention if he realizes the mistake afterwards so put in you but it's not a says just that. Now, we could add I guess a little more Gishmak. The Taz himself says that some say you could you you could say but we don't say only you doubt it. So says one says what's wrong with saying it and if you don't have to say it and you said it what's wrong what's wrong if you don't say it it's a he because it's not pur anymore see but even then I could understand because it was the wrong it's no longer pur but if you said be al on on pur but you said mato there's no she >> what >> say I am sick I I praise Hashem for giving giving me an S ones. It's not wrong. It's see if you say that's wrong. Now I should mention all the if someone said on after the because it's enough fact say it still no >> okay wonderful so this is again another another suggestion also a year round and that is the kadesh when should it be said on by so the the basic cl is a very powerful kadesh we ask except typically it's always said after simple The one time that we don't say it after is shak every morning. When do we say it? After why because the sidra is a very powerful thing we live on where it says. So that's why we wait till after the [clears throat] in fact don't step back three steps after they rely on the count fine now the question is one other time that we do say is after is like a mini question is what do you do on pur pur we >> [clears throat] >> When do you say so? And that's the meaning of we treat night like a regular shabas. What do we do in a regular shabas? We say actually we don't say and because it's not we don't say and that's the meaning of some said twice but the and that's the we don't do that what we do is we say after then we lay in the Then after and like a like a like a without it's like same idea. This one time in the year to my knowledge we do something like that for a different reason and that is that we say then and no more but that's a different reason because as the explains the grace after in the mill saw some so And there's no [clears throat] so pur and and tish have something in common even though it's different reasons but no doubt about it the question asked is why taka don't we do like a shabas why don't we make katikades then migill and then why do you have to make it porum original I had such a says listen to this since the minig was they ded early like we said earlier but they couldn't start the migill till much later so you see how the affects the I today maybe we should change that's so basically this interesting question that has to be understood because it's very neg typically pur is one of the longest pan era that is testa till you usually it's much later in this year this year it's earliest ever usually it's like around 8:15 till you finish the migill till you get home and the question is why don't we have a 5minut coffee break between and the migill now you see can't eat for migill right okay but we eat before many people before once you have a snack and you have a what's the And especially again it's a pretty long time. So here the is a true that I mentioned earlier and he discussed the following. Someone's an honest kas that he can't come to shul to lay in the mill. He's he's sick in bed. He's homebound. So what should he do to wait till the balur lanes in shul comes to his house? He can't fast so long. He's ice me. But then again, maybe you should eat have a sha and lay in the migilla [clears throat] the first one lay mill 10 o'clock he's no rush said no you can't eat before the migilla what should he do better dar lane early like I told you and then you're finished then he goes out and then he goes to lane in the what's the chat why can't you have a snack and wait till later we do it even So [clears throat] the says two reasons. First of all, if you if you're going to go into the migilla and you going to eat after a tinus, you're going to eat. He won't stop. You might forget the lane. But don't forget, we don't have a mitzvah. We go from tinus into a mitzvah. So if you're going if you get coming and fasting, you might forget the lane. is especially this mitzvah like that is every other mitzvah devotes a whole that that there's no mitzvah that's you can't eat before this mitzvah. [clears throat] So it's a big of a bit of aish at night you can't eat right and people drink by day before the before why is that which is day is a much bigger mitzvah so says in the end of days it seemed that it's a special in of the migill we don't eat at night before we lay the migilla >> [clears throat] >> the as a famous he explains before you do a mitzvah you have to fast and that's why how he explains the meaning of of and so I could understand why night is more than day because by night it's the first time you're doing it so that's the first time day is the second time so even though the second the day is a bigger ka But it's still not the first time. So inhaled writes there was there was no woman in that would even drink water before benching even on the rest of y that was the of the we don't eat before mitzvah. So again, if someone feels he cannot lane the migill, he's he's sick, the says it, the says it, if he can't lane the migillah, let him eat first a snack with you snack, but you have to make sure you don't forget. But the rest of us, we go into the migill fasting. And I always felt it does more for the migill. You're coming in fasting instead of a full stomach. You feel like you know it just does a little more to give that effect. He used to say he felt that the the of this then they came to you have to go from the tinus into the EA that's the migill whatever the case is that says in if it's a and he can't listen to me let him eat a snack and that's All right now why we eat by day tak some taka don't even drink coffee before l love or mill but the minute gets to be because once you had it by night by day already it's no longer a fast it's m regarding drinking before says even if you have not to eat but drinking is never so people drink before mill and before the minimum Someone asked me is there a hiddaning to also stand by the migill? It's a very good question. Why do we stand by laning? Because the Torah was given but so it's not wrong to sit. So if the reason of of because of doesn't apply to migillah it's a [clears throat] increase and that's why those that do stand by laning will typically not stand don't have to stand by migill I did see it's something to totally different context he talk about the mitzvah of go he says go you have to stand he calls Why? Because is a form of halal and halal you say standing you know you say hal standing as so throws in to come out you have to stand by by migill also the says why don't we say it's one of the reasons so he doesn't say much about that but the says from it seemed he didn't stand either by Chris of McGill it was just a he said but not so if you do stand there's but even those that do stand by there doesn't seem to be have to stand by mikra migill someone asked me about ding ma typically min with a costume he's collecting and it works out. So one thing we have to know and this is important as I told you this day it's not a time for doing wrongdoings if someone that drinks will miss even one he won't make a he wasn't p has perm has to be perfect you know 100% is leisa we see how how much feel is one of the he says the meaning of of listen to this they would say and that's how much they were on today if someone says he finished 2 o'clock in the afternoon and he didn't stop 12 o'clock trust It's a day of great. So if everything has to be perfect certainly but is a day that people dress up. He says if it's appropriate in other words he's wearing a show or he's wearing a tie instead of it's some it's it's a malbush just not his. So it's cute it's interesting it's poic but if it's not outlandish he says it's fine. Yasha felt you shouldn't den in a costume that's quoted I saw in the vakish but basically if the davening is good and the the costume is not you know outlandish distracting probably the minus to be taken into a ma but certainly last but not least the most challenging is the min and n after someone drank which sometimes inevitable he drank a sudam and how do you work that out? So this is another big in fact it's a whole sim in in in simic and to make a long story short the begins and put things in perspective alas is between three and four ounces. Now forget about pur. Typically a person makes kdish before and has a little bit cake and musf. I drink people after the shabasive we all divide the suda run tok come back they run right from toka. I mean there's so many times that we go from to so again it's a big but to make a long story short which they gave for the in gimmel does add same gimmel influence of wine depends on the person some people that drink a lot they can drink two it doesn't make a dent so it's not a problem then he says also it depends on the wine could be the of that mercy you shouldn't davenin you can't paskin you can't so you have to be their wines are much stronger than ours and don't forget their wines you didn't make a buff unless you diluted it so is like saying first of all he says our wines are not so also if you know you can handle it and probably we can handle it because we have weaker wines maybe that's another then he throws in because the whole problem is you're going to get confused. you're going to get say the wrong word. you have a sa guiding you what's the problem does not say it's so simple like he does it in I would say maybe a sa helps but it's only so it's a but does help keep you on target the throws another after drinking which is sort of a concession Today our is as it is. So you can't lose much by dabbing when you're drinking very beautiful in per bay's simash. How could you go from from so he says that going from re of wine to min when it's not audit. So you have to have priorities. You want to ding drink afterwards. Don't don't drink before ding. But if you're coming into the ding with shab and he has an incredible thing which is a heish says this look at the Ay gets and what does he do from driving fatalities terrible He gets drunk. What does he do? He drinks. He comes to heavens and poor c. But poor is crying. And so he says that regarding that you're coming from a mitzvah it enhances and I was thinking after you know you go to all the packed with people coming from the suda a lot drank a little bit are high not high but the ding is such a the tire but it has to have a you see the says a reas you can't the keep say okay you could have today is different but as the says when someone drank and that's if you believe so we Ding. I was once in a rather and there was a ding and there was no suff when he finally finished. He was totally out of control. If you can't be listening, you can't d what should he do? Wait hopefully before you'll be able to dive in like a mench. If you can't wait till after okayishna is a problem but you can't d as a and that is the only that we said till now was when he drank more than but it's in other words there really three categories and but when someone knows what he's doing and he says I could do it and he's having a and it's close says if people ask me am I probably they are if you have enough foresight to ask that question you probably are but the point is that has to be ading again a little allowance that is the suda a little that is an incredible is like a But if it's better don't now Mr. Bur says if someone drank knowing he's going to miss Ding. So there's no but that's someone asked me on a week before Purum what's making from my I missed I says not yet you're not a there has to be. So the only that we're saying is between until but more than that I heard said that his meaning was to bench every benching even during the week. That was his mic and he drank raas and he always went to sleep right afterwards because you can't pos and I should mention that because people ask you shouldn't do that some whole it's a vine so choose the right person that that that knows that didn't drink and let me Just leave leave one final thought. The you look at my realism and hug him. You see the whole suda was revolved around being able to dive properly. Look in fact it was written. He writes that their min was that they had a suda they benched and then they drank. Ah people what about today? But more than that he says the the goes on that night. Do you know the says is going on two nights and one day said that if someone's mic on it goes on. So if someone thinks he can't do it that's a better benchm than without and then drink. But the is we should realize we need to feel us. We should be pour I don't know. Hallelujah. [clears throat] Amen. Amen. >> [clears throat] >> Whoever was sleeping during the sharing and having a seeking, you know who you are. Okay. A special That's the essence of who cannot and need be even the certainly in as we said the early does say this somehow and is connected to the we should say with more especially this year we see the sak that's Even though is not it's a very important part of our but you try to squeeze it in either before you finished. You could say it and go back go back and say it right place or you could say it in the end of the or in the in benching a special you're allowed to announce any the mini for some reason you don't announce most things but whatever is necessary or when necessary you're allowed to actually announce not just bang but announce person go back toem do not tell you should not put That's the at the end of says and then he says whatever is necessary. If benching you make a special and then you could say whatever is necessary. We don't skip to be able to say kadusha each in its own place. Someone said instead of or vice versa but try to squeeze it in the right thing. We don't put the the in between. Like I said, if you said on it's still the day after and without the after a eating before the mill should only be done when absolutely necessary by by day. The minute gets to drink before the migill we don't have to stand by a migill even though you stand by ding with a costume if it's appropriate is fine urges that every mitz should be done properly it has to be of so drink and make sure and bench will be done properly try to and don't ask if he's not appropriate and we should hope to see especially in our times