The Three Weeks In Halacha - Rabbi Yakov Zev Smith

[clears throat] I'd like to welcome everyone to today's 3 weeks sponsoring call 718851-8651 or email.com Smith since we started I don't remember a year like this that we have Sunday Tamas and next week is already in the middle of Tamuz we never had an opportunity to talk about the very important minion of the three weeks the nine days. I was thinking that hopefully this week we'll talk about the and next week a little bit about the nine days to use the opportunity that we have. Now of course we have said even though he believed in Msiah but he still wrote a mish 26 years of his life because you have to be ready for any eventuality. [clears throat] So the is that this is a very challenging suga because if you look at the three weeks in there they're really three different periods and I have to be very clear because it's today's we call it based on a but there's really three parts of it with different beginning which is so form many thought to be we don't listen to music and other things like that we don't We'll soon see then you have the the and then you have what is the of the and that is what's called the and you look until you realize it you might make some mistakes because really that have the of the is the Ashkenazm we have many beginning which is some of them of course begin with with the of laundering the of showering meat and and and wine is the nine days. So we today we're focusing on the first part of and just for practical purpose I might refer to them as the 12 days. I know there's no about 12 days but again even the nine days and 3 weeks is also a sort of an American thing. It's not there's no but the 12 days I mean from is until of which as we'll soon see doesn't exist and for us is the beginning of the three weeks which is the for today the first part of the three weeks. So as we said the says in sorry in you notice right away it doesn't say stop has to always be brings nothing but the is you lower it down a little bit is you raise the intensity of you lower it diminish it but it has to be aim The has to be a steady in a person's life. This is the period of the actual the continues. Now of course the word shabas in this context it does not mean it means a weak like means weak. So this the of the and that's this Mishna there's a concept of we refer to as I guess to avoid confusion there the week that that that that falls on has a this year is Thursday so the sum total of a vers is Sunday Monday Tuesday and Wednesday Of course, tish has its own. Now, sometimes can give an toy for this one. Unfortunately, there's no but I found an I think is appropriate. The beginning of the first gimmel. Imagine the says what always was a person constantly lived with the pain of Mr. Bur describes in detail the concept of what we know as which was done. Okay, we don't do it. We're different or everything we're different. We don't have this. But one thing we do have and we have to have some type of feeling for the you move on. There's a whole sim which the refers to as and you learn five long none of them even sound familiar. [clears throat] When you make a leave an empty setting portion table even at your own home leave an a setting that you don't use and different is what to wear what not to wear a whole sim we don't do the only one thing we do from that simmon is that the breaks the glass by the but even that has misunders misunderstood people think that the breaking of the glass is to signal for the band to stop playing but it's really and ready to be we don't do we just ignore. So again, we're different. We don't have that feelings. But one thing we have, we have the the I don't want to touch them. But point out even if he's going to live till the end of time, he'll live to the g, but he won't be to the if you didn't miss it, you can't enjoy it. So there has to be I think that's the real to the something we have to have again we don't do we don't but at least is that we have and that's the point of this week and next week to get some of of an understanding of the noteworthy inf the refers to And again we'll see this there is very little three weeks 12 days and even but the the bulk of is the the [clears throat] now this is interesting is quick to point out there are as we'll see regarding the 12 days the beginning of the as well. But what's interesting is two of 18 makes a point different but there are other as we'll see that even keeps three weeks and I think to understand that we'll have the whole and says the following from until you have another that we don't really keep and says less business more ais less business unless what you need but we tone down in these days and then add something with a you don't get married during the during the nine days and the explains that getting that the getting married is a full which means engagement but a little within is really in fact as we'll see the says getting engaged what we call it is even on besides that the say if you don't make a suda it's just engagement that's okay but a sudas what we call a sudas or in the sin without a suda is awesome in the week in the in the of and beyond. Why getting married is also even without a suda because since says the no what does mean getting married. So the den of getting mar no marriages during the nine days is really based on the mishna of so obviously we have two one is as far as getting married just in itself and also and many other things are also now this is really a think about it referred to getting married as a mitzvah you sell to get married to to start a family and here They delayed getting married for 9 days but the the big is there are more ads ourim that's we don't get married beginning with so for 3 weeks 21 days kazal said no marriages how could you push off such a great mitzvah like that so the ter is ais is more important we have to realize what what what what mavish is all about, but there's probably more to it. He says from from in these days from he's don't forget he was in Ashkanazi from from the terrible calamities that befelro and fills it in. there are five calamities that took place on and he you know he says the was and there's no I don't know why he doesn't mention is also but what he's saying is it's it's such a heavy a beginning that even have to stop [clears throat] but there's more to it and this is a big in our we know we do many things for we do for we say it's not just a song there this called there's a concept in [clears throat] if let's say you do something the first time and it's a good sign now generally we do not believe in superstition but sim a good sim we do focus on regarding a child regarding ing a bias and is means marriage and we'll soon see how this impacts. So the explained in quotes that getting married we try to do it in a we do not make which day to get married is a day getting married under the sky [clears throat] but getting married in days that is soaked with a is just not a so again the says it already that leism the reason not to get married besides the ais is it's just not the right it's not a good idea it's not going to be successful and I saw this very clear in the chak and al who had not yet founded a family he was not didn't have children and he wanted to get married because he was so he asked what to do and his argument was even a real a person's father dies and he's but if he never got married he's allowed to get married during the so how could it be that time isn't on it's when a is so he says he quotes the gmorra that I mentioned that and he says don't do it I know a story someone got married during the spir which is a lower level of availance than than than the 3 weeks and it didn't turn out a very good bench to the marriage. So what he's saying is for two reasons we push off marriages for three weeks. Number one we have to realize what a ve is all about and number two and this explains interestingly enough the as I told you doesn't recognize three weeks as as an entity. It's either two places the himself quotes very extreme. Listen to this in test the says that there are some theim they [clears throat] don't eat meat or drink wine during now we start from but then he adds some did not eat meat or drink wine beginning with for three weeks now the who doesn't even recognize three weeks by this but I think was more startling in tz the writes There were some that fasted from Shivas until tisha. Now of course not straight you can't do that but a a just like we stop in morning until night. They fasted three weeks full days until night. So again it's a pelab who doesn't recognize the the concept of three weeks but he wanted to tell you what yen he didn't fasted for 3 weeks didn't eat meat or drink wine for three for three weeks. So when we have a problem what to serve milik you know for 9 days did more for more than we're doing so it's not a bad idea to try to make it better [clears throat] but the this is interesting that the makaba in these two places does mention the concept of three weeks now the next in of the says that laundering and hair cutting is basically in the the But the Ashkenazim and here he makes a spout and he says we don't do laundering in the nine days [clears throat] but hair cutting we stop from shabbas the obvious question is manana ashkenazm that keep in 3 weeks so why we find is different so the guy says it and Mr. We're quoted briefly because kazal didn't ask us to do what's too difficult to tell a person don't get a haircut for 3 weeks is very doable you get a haircut before it lasts you you can wait four weeks even six weeks not but tell a person not to laundry clothing for for for for the for the 3 weeks is impossible so therefore it starts by the nine days so it's a that we have to realize that if asks to do something it's doable >> [clears throat] >> The third in this simmon is about and here we see the again writeshanu is not said for the entire 3 weeks how did that fit I thought the begins with the nine days we'll get to that soon and the last of inf is also surprising where the quotes two both based which is also rare. And the first one is not to walk alone from the hours of 4 and 7. We'll soon see what that means. And again, the who doesn't recognize 3 weeks this not to walk with four but three hours. And the last the last part of the isim during the three weeks also based on a medish and I'd like to try to explain as we go along to apply the what is by all of this and why sometimes it's three weeks sometimes nine days and sometimes it's so let's apply this will go in order see b as I told you is based on a mishna that laa we don't get married during the period of a what did that mean exactly? So again for the begins until the tinus there's no marriages [clears throat] the ra recognize the meaning of of that getting married is beginning with the himself says that getting engaged announcing your engagement or even writing is even on now there are more like I told adds that for 3 weeks we don't get married and the ver is because it's a and is also for the three weeks the next which is another important difference between Ashkanaz and basically for for Ashkenazim we don't take haircuts 3 weeks for laundering is the nine days and I told you the because didn't expect you to go 3 weeks without laundrying but hair cutting we can manage now by different some most would say take he stopped cutting hair that's why in yeshiva you could have theoretically you could have a buck coming in uh the shabas after and he's clean shaven what happened to you what's wrong so it's it's we try not to allow that we should have one it should be you know it shouldn't be a question it's not a question is going to do mish but it shouldn't be different now what is noteworthy some the meaning of the quote and others called that he was he asked from but again to my knowledge not it's the three it's the nine days it's not the three weeks now when again if a person sees a is going good he could finalize it at any time even on tish but certainly during the nine days but No sis and no dancing. The next which is important to mention is the concept of of the of the first part of the which again as we will see as we proceed but I think the to that is didn't expect us to do what's impossible. Now one that people ask most and I don't blame them because you don't find it in gam or and that is about cutting nails during the three weeks. So the emphasis is there's no gum and there's no everything else is mapping getting haircuts and laundering and then and getting married. This is not a gar. So lisa how do you understand that? So lameisa we could say based on we learned till now that cutting nails is more more as important or more important than the concept of laundrying can tell a person don't cut your nails for 3 weeks. So maybe that's why it would be mut more than anything else because normal people cut their nails let's say once a week. The only problem is that we do find in the says is also to cut his nails for 30 days. So now we're in sort of a quandry for 3 weeks. But then again doesn't but then again we could say that there is still a that a a calls it an old ais which is the of the three weeks in sometimes is more is more of a than a regular ais. But be that as it may he says there are some things that we start from the three weeks and one of them is cutting nails the also quotes not to cut nails for 3 weeks the taz in is a little more and he says no the is begins but what's most important I think that's is the words of That's rabbis pish also there on on the and he says what we'll appreciate he said it's at most but he says cutting nails we don't find so why should and he says it's definitely less than a regular a and that's why it comes out that there is a ml in cutting nails and says we cut nails for a different reason because typically nails have to be cut as far as and this is why the puts it very bluntly in [clears throat] height because it's not any place to be found which makes sense but he says In other words, if you walk into a new hair, a freshly haircut, fresh haircut, it's startling. But when you cut your nails, no one looks, no one knows. So is not a problem. The three weeks and therefore you could be. Now he doesn't say clearly but listen how he concludes. So we see pretty clearly that the is seems to be make of cutting nails but cutting nails are covered shabas is definitely in fact the say when shabas is also of that could be don't forget shabish so that's a pretty you know serious time but even that is mut because the same you come into shabas and no one sees and therefore to to the to the to the avail of the time. The only question is during the week days. So as I told you some quotes he says he says but he says but for a mitzvah for for question we once had >> no it doesn't make that that's that's like regular haircut. Yeah that's that's something that you know you're doing it's not done. Now an interesting question we had this once of isra shabas which happens occasionally so someone wanted to know he's very he can't cut shabas because it's can he cut his nails Thursday I told him for two reasons I think it's mut number one Thursday also cover chabas and number two the whole is of cutting nails as I just told you is not clear at all I mean it brings day is so if it's really then here is I think I didn't find the fair but I think it's part that it's next question is so if you learn the you'll find question after question listen of I'm sorry [clears throat] good idea right away it doesn't a very mild Then you could of all people but a but but a let's say you get a very a real fruit today is rare to find but a real fruit but if you keep after the 3 weeks this gets spoiled. So if you can't keep it till after you allow to eat it now make a so to me it's a first of all why is it awesome if it is awesome why is it for for pigeon and the is the ra is always more he says not only you could eaten you can even do it for a fruit make up your mind so like every when you look at the source it becomes crystal clear thean was not a it's based on aid tough soft and he writes this is of three weeks. Why we have to say in these said when it's a day filled with such and as weed besides the is also and this is what's quoted by the z and other other that the reason for is Not because of the you have when you see the fruit the is it's inappropriate to say a day filled with such oh I could understand why the holds its holds begins with either oresh but this concept of saying that you can't do even the three weeks Now, but we can understand why the use a very mild lion because had it been an is like getting a haircut also. But this is only inappropriate to therefore if you have no choice either pigeon aben or I must mention if you initi make a bris the minist make a by the bris or some grow in America but let's say you have a bris or a pigeon you could make the because it's not an isa like everything else so the holds it's three weeks it's very So everything really fits in beautifully. Now you can understand if you have a new fruit you could eat it if you can't wait till after because it's not awesome. So basically it's it's it's it's a in the being in the wrong words in the wrong time for those that have the meaning that when a girl is born the parents make that can be condone even on the three weeks it's the same now what I should mention is that when you have a baby girl or any sim the you're not increasing the sim with saying you have a baby girl you're very happy the is basically giving credit where credit is due so why shouldn't you say it you think about is not increasing it's expressing to that's why I think it's not the end of the world why when any need comes up the genre like I told you earlier says you could say the next which is also So and that is even though we try to refrain from saying during the week like I just told you but on shabas they say if you have a pre put it away for shabasan can be said on shabas and the hb when shabas comes there's no whatsoever so it's not something wrong with the day the day is a day says Again I must mention the was not to make not weekdays and not shabas. I guess the reason had more of a feeling for as we saw but this is one of the things he did not allow even on chabases says when you have a situation when which we have occasionally so we push till Sunday he says don't make a on that day and I I think I know why because that day is there are certain of we keep a and more from there says not to learn regular things. So obviously the shabas is not is not immune from the aus maybe that's where but the next sha introduces us to a very interesting which could be in different ways as sim that he needs a a car now probably he's either car was stolen or got banged up he needs a car for business for a family so says yeah I'm sure you know that's time to buy a new item especially expensive item even certainly is also during these days but you tell me that you need it but you can't make a so you know the is if you're buying a car and you have a wife and or children what's the proper to make when you buy something or get something good for not just you for someone else that you could say during the three weeks now it's unbelievable because We know is au plus. So if was also during the three weeks so why says saying a beautifully I think because the is not the it's the words the words don't imply that at all. So it's not the it's the words. So says and I found the says all say that the only problem could be when it's applicable by is never included in the so when someone buys an item and the the question we has no choice he has to buy it like a car the said and that avoids all problems. Many people ask about buying about shopping during the three weeks. And again, I want to be very clear. We're talking about this week the 12 days from Shbasam is Thursday until of we'll talk about next week buying things during the nine days. But the question is during the first 12 days and happens all the time because the boy's going to camp. She forgot the mother forgot to buy bathing suits, shirts, suits, socks. I'm talking obviously about inexpensive items. So if there's a sadu let's say you're buying a suit so then there's a big buying a suit you're making I'm talking about inexpensive items so the says and adds but this is talking about the nine days and the nine days we stop all shopping even inexpensive items shopping has a certain amount of buying something new and the mission says of so the nine days has much more of a of a control on so even shopping inexpensive items now rather people say I forgot to buy shoes buy it today this week you can buy it during the the three weeks but the nine days you can't buy you shouldn't buy these things but but as far as the three weeks are concerned this is clear inexpensive expensive items says you'll that you're allowed to buy them during the first 12 days. I heard a someone asked me a sticky shiva he's getting married right at the tish he's in now he's coming home the end of this month to pay for his gift can he go shopping during the nine days for a suit and h he's talking about you know expensive stuff but he has no other choice because he's coming home first he's landing I think a day after so is it any part any if he's not going to make see something that you don't make auby but not the nine days so therefore what's the but here the seems to hold you see it's that we don't buy things that you need ahanu but if you don't make au it's just the buying is that also so the is until the three until after Now and this I told him during the nine days is a problem you could land in America even a few days before is I think it's mut cuz there says that the that buying something during the 3 weeks the only problem is saying so let's say you buy something and you don't say why should it be because it's a big buying a suit right but don't forget is of not and not before that. So the real problem of buying new things on the 3 weeks is because you have to make a which you don't do but is that to buy something in the 12 days from if you don't you don't wear it should be now there is an and he says that even buying things is awesome if they're valuable expensive items because of I don't understand his premise is you can't buy expensive things because buying is but the says that the begins is of not before. So that's why we try to tell people to buy expensive items during the 12 days definitely should be avoided even though but was but this situation this bak had they had no other choice so it's so if he could work it out that he could land a day or two beforeh that would definitely be an during the nine days is a problem we don't even buy inexpensive items says that so here we see a very big regard regarding shopping beforeh what we call the 12 days and after is also make regarding buying expensive things before the nine days and the 12 days that's something that's something that's very convenient a repairs uh wallpapering carpeting the floor painting so we'll talk about next week about the nine days but the problem is push logistically all yeshivas the yeshiva empties and they have to try to get the building ready for the next month. All the repairs and the painting and everything it can only be done in these days. This year you're talking about they're leaving the over close. So the says and we avoid SE which some learn is painting and wallpap you know putting cement when necessary and plastering. So no doubt about it the nine days should see a cease in activities but until then the three in the 12 days again from it seems it's only if it's a luxury the you want to make an annex the house you want to add to the house some more comfort or you want to paint or you want to do something just uh just to add a little more you know elegance to the house if it could wait it should Now let's say you have a camp the first opening again this is extremely common today many camps are open of for the month of and they didn't finish the work before. So anything that's ba basically maintenance or making things livable that's mut even in the nine days if there's no other choice but again the the problem is the enemy is the word in a is a you have to have a sense of and not it's not a time for he writes that wallpapering a house and painting is no So he says you should be but no doubt about it when when the campus will be opening in a few days and the the walls look like you know it looks like a lived there for too many years. So if painting is necessary you allow to do it even during the nine days. The says don't paint wallpapering certainly not don't plaster the entire three weeks. Now this I believe is he's the one that says he's more m by by shopping anything and because he he holds that that even though is only but it goes under three weeks. So he's more mach but again if a person has no other choice this is understood that it's mut it's not as long as it's not something of which is that's the thing that's really awesome and I saw and other say that you could do it before the 3 weeks try to do it but during the three weeks and even during the nine days what's necessary um maintenance maintaining the you know the survival of the building that of mm in these days the throws another another point any type of construction don't worry you have to worry about see that's something that many people are worried about it's not the right time to so anything like that can be avoided renovating can be avoided until afterwards it should be avoided until afterwards another big suga is moving during the 3 weeks in other words someone bought a house or renting a new apartment moving in during the 3 weeks. So the MS is if you're moving into a new house, it's a great sim that warrants a so you can't do it right. We don't make during 3 weeks, but you'll be alarmed. I'll make it to but and that's why but moving into a house has an extraordinary sim. It's a different feeling and that's why the do not suggest it. The question only is how about in the 12 days in the from so if you're not if you're gonna make it right so no problem and also it's only during the 12 days not per se but here we find where many say but moving into a house has to have has to go with people do certain things before they move in certain days which is good days are not good and that's part of the bias you know it's not it's not superstitious it's so how do you move into a house during the three weeks which is a time of a time and said that it's not a good s now and add this and it's definitely something to to to think about if you can move in before the 3 weeks or even moving some of the things before the 3 weeks. That's a a better idea. But if there's a someone doesn't have way to live, whatever the happen is, maybe his house is on was burned in a fire or it happened sometimes a person's renting and supposed to be out by the 1st of August and August comes out during the 3 weeks. So to pay an extra month of rent and someone else wants to move in in his place. So we can't say it's awesome. We could say if someone is told by your circumstances are you can move in don't worry you do the right thing you have nothing to worry about the is you know ask of course moving into a rented apartment doesn't have that same sim and certainly moving into a bungalow which happens the second half always coincides with either second half of the sum I mean is either 3 weeks or nine days so moving into a bungalow doesn't have that full sim and that shouldn't be a problem people who need a house or need an apartment. Can you go house hunting or apartment hunting during these days? So, one thing I can tell you that that we all know, I mean, we experienced that a long time ago, but I still remember it when we're looking for our house. It's not a sim frustrating and sometimes very depressing. So, there's no problem of so what should be the problem? The only thing is that the stipler in quotes who did advise looking for apartment or house during the three weeks and I think the really is we find that we'll see next week more that you're not supposed to see from the aers as it gets closer. So looking for a house I guess I could put it in in my way look at the bisham's house doesn't exist but it makes you destroyed. You're worrying about your house when the br doesn't have a house. So maybe it's more of an Ashkafa issue but if someone needs a house desperately or an apartment that's mut and to make the closing on a house if it's not a is also mut and also what we do know is by apartments and homes there is a very real as you know it's a very you know very competitive market if there's a need you could rely on that just don't make the actual kenyan during these days and the interesting part of our suga is was based on a med. So we know it means in between the walls you know they cornered us in and they destroyed us but but the has another iss 4 to 7. Now this is out of my range but there's a certain that's very very powerful in these in these in these hours of the day. So the medish is assuming that for 3 weeks don't go out during that period of the day. Now here again we wonder I thought the is the nine days and and correct is in but this is a saka issue this is days that are are full of was was the beginning of the so the message is saying don't do dangerous things during during the three weeks and the hours of 4 to7 is enough danger not to do it. And that this quote as I told you in the end of no good and again the who basically ignored three weeks when it came to it's a real problem. So this is why is understood it shouldn't be done now but there's more to it that would tell the and he makes a point the ones that teach the ones teach is every level don't hit the children during these days now today don't hit but in those days they did say even if the child learns good you have to hit him I'm old teach more and they hit him. Boy, they hit him back that hit his until he killed him. So it was you know a pretty level that hitting him. So the mag but in these days don't hit children. Now to me the big was the in fact was even more concerned and he told let's make early dismissal in these days because you might not be able to contain yourself. Now you look at the med it's even hitting with a ratsa a strap and not beating but they were so worried about it that they rather have early dismissal and take a learning of not to come to the so this is the medish this one medish but the mahaba quotes it both of them so again the kasha is I thought the maba doesn't recognize in 3 weeks the terror has to be like I told told you that it comes to s it's a very real problem. It's nothing to do with it's the nine days or but is in the three weeks and this is also quoted and by the way I saw a number of poets came add say even a parent should not hit a child. So if you're still hitting your children during the during the rest of the year, not in these days. Now here the point is why don't we hear anything about this the hours of 4 to7 there something that so the bacha in our c and it's quoted by and others that the only is going where no one else is there and also he says in buildings not a problem and maybe if there's a is not a problem but kit he seems to be saying that it's no longer applicable today but there's no real to that says only and some say the so it has to be only when you're going alone what we can understand perhaps a little better there is a that we have I saw in also in the he writes this ash going back to the that when they wanted to execute the geredic and graatski and they killed him and there was an a went out from and this was a a tremendous tremendous keshm that he died and I think I don't know why no one quotes it but I heard once I think it's it's it's yda that the go sent a message to him that that he could save him was she get him out of this being killed. He could help him escape and he refused and go said that there was such a at that moment that was the of and certain rely on that. So they all saw since the hours 4 to 7 is not a not a physical problem like like being beaten. It's a you don't have to worry about it. So this I saw taka says this. So obviously that's why we don't hear too much about the hours of 4 to 7 beside that's only when going alone but what is about hitting a child that still remains you'll say but uh but but is bottle but hitting nothing do so we don't hit we don't hit the children but it's the same because it's and the hold even three weeks is awesome It's the one concept that makes a deviation from his approach. It's 3 weeks not 9 days or the the question now is how do we apply that to other potentially dangerous things about flying during the nine days about a surgery about mountain climbing etc. So the MS is next week we'll talk about 9 days but regarding the three weeks you have to really it's the same problem because the medish made of the entire 3 weeks so the only thing is how do you define the word so people say can I fly air travel during the three weeks so will say statistically and this is the truth it's more dangerous to drive than to fly that's It's the mism but then again after you fly you benge. So it's very hard to pinpoint you know are we considering flying sak say no it's not sak but we're going over the yam so we're over yam okay nice l but it seems that the say that our time flying is no longer dangerous and it shouldn't be a problem would say that after after it could if it should if it could be avoided it should be but alman said two distinctions number one which is a problem for all you want to stay till the end of which is and you have to flat travel on during the nine days so you should leave early you know sometimes if you stay till the end of this man I guarantee you the travel will be safe you'll travel bas gimmel so in other words it's not really awesome traveling is not dangerous if you could schedule your trip before the nine nine days fine but to leave yeshiva is not is more dangerous maybe also he said if you're flying even is okay cuz that's what he wants to say. So really he's telling us both things if you could reschedule it till after tish better but if there's a reason to be there you could go and of course or any mitzvah is mut even until the next question is about scheduling a surgery so the felt that that's considered dangerous enough don't forget any with a full anesthesia there's a small element of danger people a small percent but people don't wake up. So if surgery could be could be delayed postponed after tishb that's better if it's necessary now. So you do what's right and don't worry. The another point which is really the last question but it needs a little of a of a clarification is the isa of music during the three weeks. So you have to realize one thing that today music has a whole different meaning. It's music. It's ac capella which is a very big industry. And this is challenging for a very practical reason for for us it's you know you in a car at home you you put on the used tape recorder now we're in a CD and now it's MP MP3. It's just you know it's it's very easy. You just press a button. In the olden days they didn't have the sham. Now a had music but they didn't have a symphony orchestra. He played his fetal and that was music. So there was no singers putting on music just for entertainment. Now there was for they had they had a they had a a musician but this concept of music doesn't exist. But now we have a new anum is called ac capella which is very professional singing that there's no music. So the says you look in you're not going to find anything about music and that's because it wasn't but what what all the can point to is the ink of our he's from that we mentioned earlier that there's an is of making sudas why a sudas suda is more of a nearly >> [clears throat] >> Even though you could get engaged during the three weeks and during the 12 days you could even have a sudas because it's only and is not totally during these 12 days but is now in other words 12 days also though you can't dance. [clears throat] Now where's that coming from? What should be the what's the reason for that? So obviously the understood that something that's we hold is during the three weeks aud but dancing and are different types of dancing but both of them are also during the three weeks. So this is a very [clears throat] a very important mar there's an is of dancing during the three weeks which of course gives question about if you have a mitz we'll get to that soon but no doubt about it all the quote that dancing during the three weeks is awesome the does mention in a different context olive that you're allowed to have a suda obviously but he says but not to have cliche until the next day after so if you want to see where it says about music per se it's regarding now now obviously if music is awesome it's awesome during the three weeks as well because Mr. The can say that although is still but it's not as so now we have an interesting thing that music and even dancing during the 12 days also was well with music both say should refrain from music the entire three weeks. Now everything else they make but obviously music is more of a more of a steer to the to the availance of the day. So that's why dancing a would be awesome. The question that we have sometimes a person gets married a few days before. So then he has during the during the three weeks during the 12 days. So that the can say dancing is mut because it's a real and if someone would want to be making with music you can't say he's wrong because once there was a to make the but it's not done to my knowledge it's not done I mean could get married until but I don't think it's done but if it happens to be that there is music you could savor that music because again the was before the aus kicked In now for mitzvah and other other sudis there's no music but dancing until would be misha says taking a step further and out of he says that listening to a radio which then had music and or a recording is awesome because at zimra the puma singing is mut during the and during the three weeks. But once you have a m a machine that's awesome. So here we have music being awesome and you say yeah but maybe the was talking about live music who said recorded music is awesome. So let me tell you if you listen to recorded music the quality is so superb it can it's definitely better than any other music I had those days. So it's not a sus in live music it's but here is the last question which is the most challenging and that is ac capella. ac capella is getting better by the day. The fact that it's a booming business show that it's very very but that's part of the problem because it does bring a great element of but has a letter of he calls it he says but another problem that music that's that's called zimra with a but so they say if you have a recorded singing. What's the status? When I sang it originally, that's Zimra the Puma, but I put it onto a onto a a a USB or of a CD that's treated like a Zimra decay. That's awesome. So that some question, but one thing is the sim of it is as great as a music. Some say he like it better because you don't have the hacking and the banging in the background. But this is why certainly should follow this if a person he needs it for his emotional health. But one thing I would say even the three weeks have different should be understood differently. I couldn't talk to you all. Shame for today's call 7188518651 email. [clears throat] Hey, only in the important of a has to be highlighted but so much so that did what they didn't do anybody's else they asked getting married for 3 weeks so that's certainly a good introduction as we saw that speaks about and a whole sim that we don't do but at least what we should what we are doing let's do it properly but I think the we have to know is that the isn there's certain beginning and the meaning of many of and some in certain cases is beginning because the beginning of the was the was the but we also find Another factor of the mil even if it's the fact that it's not a great time to do it which is why are not done or moving into a home is not done and then we found the concept of but to put that very specifically that the fact the quotes not to eat meat or drink wine or fasting three weeks when it comes to a more the better you do it the better the of ais is is really there for the person haircuting the min for 3 weeks. Laundering is nine days because you can't tell a person not to launder for 3 weeks. cutting nails is the even during the week the if there's even during the week of Shabas to cut your nails on Thursday because you don't want to violate is the is not so much the but it's the words so that's why when it's can be replaced for a that would avoid the problem is not a it's just a question of priorities. If you can wait till after 3 weeks is better. If not, it can be said by a birth of a girl, a bristener or a pigeon ab inexpensive items can be bought during the 12 days. expensive items or any items during the nine days. We'll see it's a different but buying expensive items without it could be repairs or maintenance is okay should be delayed until after moving into a house is a problem of it's not maybe the also is a problem but looking for a house or rental is okay the The hours of 4 to 7 is no longer a sakam. Hitting a talmud or a child is a sakuma. Sakam during the 3 weeks should be avoided 3 weeks because it's not limited to 9 days. They the have to mag what's considered sacum but music, dancing and ac capella should be avoided taka during the three weeks. Yes.