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Is your guilt actually healthy? #jewishwisdom #selfreflection

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SoulWords—Rabbi Shais Taub

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Guilt is not entirely a bad thing. Guilt can be corrective. It can let us know that there's a better way of doing something. But guilt can also be weaponized by unscrupulous people who want to manipulate you. So, how do you know the difference? Weaponized guilt says, "People are unhappy with me." Healthy guilt, adult guilt, responsible guilt is, "I did something I would like to do differently next time." In other words, it has nothing to do with other people's reactions to me. It has to do with my own value system that I myself would like to do better. Maybe I was alerted to it by how it affected others and that drew my attention to it, but ultimately, I'm not changing it because it will make other people happier. I'm changing it because I'm not comfortable with it. It doesn't align with my own principles, morals, values, ethics, beliefs.