It's Time to Rip Up Your Rule Book!! || Purim || Why Doing Crazy Things can be Healthy

[Music] ma'am and we are live welcome to another exciting episode of the kosher food podcast today I have with me a very special dude all the way from Lakewood New Jersey name is a didja Guan Steen crossbar on Kwok Bronstein you did you is an alumni of the water famous if dice whoo the journey that he's gone through how much he staked what a person thank you yeah very very special person thank you we'd also like to show you a picture for more of our coach of his fans and here it is [Music] okay so today's subject is gonna be how to take your rulebook and rip it up into shreds yep that's what perms old bat okay so here we go let's get started throughout the year okay here's the concept the major concert we're gonna be talking about throughout the year you create for yourself your very own rule book and you have rule over rule over rule and the name of your old book has a title you know what it's called this is me this is who I am okay I am the guy and maybe through the year you discover that I am the guy that likes bananas but I don't like avocados I'm not that type of person it's not me it's my identity like I'm this I'm not that and I'm the type of guy that talks to these type of guys and I realized this year that those tempo guys they're not my type and I realize also that I like to dance but I don't dance in public I do dance with like three people before people is ready too much I like public settings what go dancing the mayor yes I don't dance in the mirror I like public settings but not like too public I'll do like cos I'll do like permits who's been on like asanas nah that's not me I my type right and you start getting smaller and smaller and smaller so many rules over I was like oh I am the type of guy that gets tired at exactly three so from three to four I don't do it I can't I I am not the type that can actually function at those times I need to go to sleep and when I wake up don't talk to me because that's not me right yeah and all the type of guy that III like you know I like sports but I don't like learning it's not me it's not who I am I try just just not who I am and we get rule after rule after when becomes so confined and so small along comes perm and guess what the message of perm is you know what the message of perm is the message of perm is you are exactly who you are no that's right that's who you are you are not your old person and I'll bring you proof if you stay you're born in your own world and you create your own world okay and you already got it you got the point you know your own world is I have my own rules I I go to bed at this time I wake up this time if I go past a certain time then I'm gonna be tired the next day I like these foods I like these ports I don't like those sports I don't like those food you're you got it you got the picture and you're mad bored of your world and the proof is just lock yourself up in a closet after a while you go nuts why because you want to see new worlds you want to see other people's world you want experience other rules that you never saw before right that's why you're on this earth you're not here to be you being you is exactly who you are not you're exactly the other person that's who you are and you're exactly what you are not you are not I like bananas you are I don't like avocado and that's the next step in your life who you are not that's who you are you have to try that on as a self-identity I am the person who expands to Who I am not when you come from that vision of your life you were going to start living so much more powerfully and start stepping into worlds that you never experienced before you're gonna feel an expansion like you've never felt before and that's what perms all about perms all about taking your rule book ripping it up all those things this is who I am No You Know Who I am I am one not before Peru I only like lit fish I don't like a sea dish I don't like all like sphardic lock up sperm now I like smaranam yeah I like classy dish I don't dance in milk circle drink some wine yeah actually I do dad - no circle I don't sing in public yeah actually I do sing in public I don't like learning nap come with pervy I'll start learning Miller Sudha you know is that why we dress up on perm so that you can't say who is hostages and who is lid fish and who is this and who is that because it doesn't matter I think perfect you did just see that's why we dress up on perm I think if you're seeing it you're not asking you're seeing it that's why we dress up in perm uh I'm this type of guy I'm like a very wealthy I dressed like this no yeah actually not I'm actually not I'm the poor guy you know I'm uh I'm uh I'm a businessman actually today I'm Superman you could be whoever you want you just got to expand you got to step into new world and see what it's like I could be I could be a lion I could be a pie I could be a you know what I mean you could be anything you want to be it could be a turtle you could be turtle and there's something to learn from the world of turtles and the world of lions in the world of Tigers well there's something to learn there step into that world see what it's like I think the lesson to learn from turtles is that like take everything with you because like if you lose your house because it's like in like on your street mmm and then like gets burnt down but like if you carry your house and move the half-light unless you got burnt down which you're not gonna need your house anymore got your house wherever you go yeah like backpacking yeah minimalist look for the Turtle Bay minimalist yeah yeah you didn't need all the big stuff you got your house everywhere you go you're happy no matter what right yeah there's oh there's there's what to learn from every single person you know for a while I used to say like is that this thing honestly personally that I don't like rich people like it's not my world like this like there's a lot of babyish like into my car and there's and I used to like so so I used to have this thing against rich people and I just hated that world and like you know sometimes I'd be associated with certain very wealthy people um you look it was a sight look at my car you know what I've bought yesterday and then having phonecall conversations about like 50 million dollars like in public like it's nothing and I'm like yeah that's so like haughty and so guy the dick and so I guess what you know what I got to learn so good they're there in there I learned how to step into the world and see you know uh I live in my world they live in there well it's a different world and they're so good in their world and it's such nice people like for them it's just different that's all it's not it's not bad it's different for me I like talk about hiking you know what I mean because that's what I'm into or whatever or the outdoors I have a conversation with about going on a crazy hike whatever they their world is about money so they like talking about the latest business deal that they I was just happens to be sixty Melda you just have to experience it from their world we're stuck in our world and when we see different world like no that's not me I'm this not that and we disassociate ourselves from other people and push them away and then we make ourselves super super small I'm not I don't do that that's who I am yeah super super small people when you start to just say hey it's just different and actually that is me that's my next step I want to see what the life of a super rich person is like and why they're like that and I want to see what the life of the super poor person and what there is to learn from that in which humbleness you learn in that world and how satisfied there are with the small things there's such a world that I missed step into it don't think oh no that's not me I don't hang out for people that is exactly who I am I am Who I am not I'm the next step I can become home now try that off her self identity that's what perm is all about okay growing up I like to call myself anti conformist like it was one of the things I did was if you gave me a set of rules whether be at school or at home or in a friendship and I would do everything I could possibly do I was age I was just dorm counselors I would do everything I possibly could to make sure that you were the most uncomfortable you've ever been in your life because I didn't respect any of your rules I didn't follow them I did what I wanted to do and I wouldn't listen to society and then I realized like that is one of my rules like one of my rules is I don't follow rules so wow now I've been trying to follow the reason that you said that good thank you yeah so now what do I got to do I got to try to follow the rules but then because that is possible that's your that's who you're not so that's who you are right you're right now everything well I'm that person who follows rules then I'm no longer than I have to go back I think it's really about stepping outside your comfort zone meaning for example all my life I didn't it wasn't even a rule like I never thought about this I took warm showers like I always take hot showers that's I think what most people do and then I had a friend tell me hey I started this challenge of 30 days cold showers anyway yeah and I was like hey that sounds very interesting and very uncomfortable I'm not gonna do that I was like enjoy whatever and he did 30 days and like secretly I admired him but would never tell him because like if he knew I respected him then it was like the end of our friendship obviously so I never said anything to him but then one day I was like you know what I have to try that too and I started taking cold showers and like once I started doing it every person I told about it was like why would you do it is there health benefits you know you could probably get very sick that is not a good idea or I wouldn't do this and like so many people told me so many different things about not why not to do it I was just thinking like what's everyone so afraid of like it's it was uncomfortable I'm saying now I could take a cold shower for 20 minutes and be very comfortable inside there like it's a regular warm shower but like why is that one so afraid of it and I would tell people like no there's literally nothing to it except that it's not my usual life and I like to change things up and I like to get out of my comfort zone Wow and I've gotten so many - such a fan of that like you're literally doing it to train yourself you're making a muscle for yourself I mean your ultimate goal is not just for showers it's to train yourself that I'm the type of guy that takes the next step where there's discomfort yeah that like that like exactly what I want to expand into I'm not the guy that it was yesterday I'm the guy that I am NOT and I'm willing to take what it takes to be vulnerable to take the risks and whatever is needed to take that step because that's what life's about expanding into Who I am not that's why I am 100% you have to walk into that shower the amount of time I found myself procrastinating in the new and like in the beginning of of I cannot do this and then I'd have to go to my shower I take a three to one because never back out of a three to one it's a lesson for life I just count down now 3 2 1 hey I would just hop it and like you know now I can I can do that if I if for example killer blossom asked me to like I didn't even ask me to do this bye he's supposed to do it somebody else and long historic Andheri long story short I heard him doing this podcast and I counted three to one and I was like hey I'm being part of your podcast and and I didn't get like and it was like hey he's just like okay sure yeah you want to come to a podcast with me come and I was like wow you know like I could have been afraid to ask what happens if he did say no then I would be like all these guys wanted me talking to the camera because he doesn't think I look good or it doesn't think what I have to say is smart but like and there's so many things you can like you know you're not you said like you noticed amazing tests of my life where I came a huge favor Fitness like I called junkie I had I don't know like whatever I like gym shark whatever I would just sit in the gym like I go to the gym all the time then I got injured and the doctor told me sit on your bed and do nothing and I will I like I came home and I cried I literally cried I called up a friend that was bawling I was like I'm supposed to sit here and do nothing like all my life I've been pushing myself get out of bed go conquer life do stuff and then like they tell me that the best thing you could do is just sit then do nothing all day and it was like a huge challenge to like realize that this is what I'm supposed to be doing a life it's not always about in life doing what like he's like what the world tells you to do the world tells you to be active but for me the most like healthy thing was to not be active and that was like a moment where I realized like my rule book is so it's so stupid like I have like go be active but I should I always be active know who says and then like it makes it like I had a lot of time to think and it just I think it makes you question and I think like the mozilla search arm says you know intelligent people always question what they do you know question things like that are the norm you know step out of your box walk outside without shoes like your mom said to not do you know alright can I you will not let glass on your foot don't worry just go and do it like that you'll be fine did you I want to share with you something the exactly what you're saying about doing some crazy stuff one of the most powerful things I've ever done in my life that has been platonically transformational in my life has been going to have guilt of Glaser's possible use seminar if you didn't go yet you should definitely go you're gonna see a different world that you never saw in relationships and who you are and it is a lot tied into like the landmark world anew if you know what that is and and and these other seminars but but regulative Glaser was my first experience into that world of a transformational and how you build your world from your own goggles everything's in your brain and it was unbelievable course and one of the things the homeworks that you had to do was you have to do something that's absolutely crazy yeah you know I remember doing that um with your seminar everything yeah I got me so so you have to do something absolutely crazy and it was so empowering it's like you had to do something crazy and then you have to go and get rejected five times like homework you have to get rid it was so cool the shifts that that made in my life in the amount of times that I used that I do his homework all the time like not even when I'm in a seminar you know it was so empowering because I realize I'm so locked into what other people think of me and the perception of me and I can't go out of the norm and stuff that I'm so small like that and when I got to do that I got to see a whole nother world of oh my gosh I'm so much bigger than just other people perception you know what most of the time they're not even looking and they don't even care and they're just worrying about their own little world you know so so that's that was something really really powerful that I learned from that and those type of exercises by the way it's not is that it's not like we're not saying like Oh have a life of doing nuts things be nods it has nothing to it be nuts it's doing exercise every once in a while to get you out of your comfort zone to have to reflect as a muscle for yourself that your life should be a life of growth and stepping into who you are not that's who I am that's the type of life that you're practicing in do a practice but even more than that those practices will come by themselves those situations will show up by themselves we ever in a room where someone passed gas and and the immature kids are like oh my god it stinks who did that take responsibility be nuts what would it be like to lie that's not a lie that's truth the real tire definition of why it would be a lie not to say if you lied that actually be the tired MS would be probably to lie cuz you're gonna save somebody else's face that's Emmis to save somebody else's faces Emma's so Terry's much more than just like oh it's a lie it's true lie go ahead do you have the guts to do that what about if somebody passed out cause for Sean and there's Anna medical emergency do you have the guts to see her take charge or do you know how many times people die because there's a medical emergency and everybody's like oh my gosh what are people gonna think if I take charge like what if I mess up and then people would be like he was just joking the guy wasn't serious he's not really sick and like you made yourself look like a fool like people are scared that you know people are scared that they'll yell out in public like wait one second people are gonna look at me if I yell at a both medic or call-outs all are you know and start doing stuff like what am I going to look like and there are people that die like that because people live in their own little bubble they're so constricted and they're so like oh my gosh I am who people think I am and I can't be anything more and I can't try new things yeah I think like there's this person called wim HOF I mean Akiva both know very well who he is he's a celebrity and with our world I like to believe he has like the world record for the longest time sitting in ice and like I was listening to him talk and he's like people always try to say I'm a freak of nature I'm like a crazy athlete whatever and he said like I'm a missing a story and you're saying how he was a regular person and his wife died of like his wife committed suicide because she was super depressed and he decided to like make it his mission to go out and do life like whatever his life was and he like made this breathing thing where you breathe and you're able to do that and I have like a bunch of friends we will go into freezers like close the door and just sit there and breathe and like in our underwear and it's a little like a walk-in freezer and like it was in the beginning it was like so like oh my gosh I can't do this and like when you do the breathing you realize like hey I can sit in a freezer that's freezing cold I go into like ice rivers like you know you crank the ice you go inside there like so many people just like like say I can't do that like oh I'm not the crazy type who does these kind of things and like you don't have to be the crazy type to do these things we've seen kids you have not the crazy type do these things and they have like you want to know wild singing theme do you know what his whole this is amazing you know what his whole theory behind his whole thing about his whole thing is cold exposure so it's he holds it's the healthiest thing to be out in the freezing cold start thinning down your jackets which I started doing actually my jackets are getting thinner they're over the winter or no jacket at all it's the healthiest thing like that what you've been taught hey wear a jacket outside or else you're gonna get a cold actually if you don't want if you don't want a cold you should not wear a jacket like you should solely start acclimating yourself to the cold and cold exposures so healthy you want to hear the lumbus of what he holds why cold exposure is so healthy for you I started I by weight I think did you do winter dip with us I did we did with you Shiva we started every year we do winter dips we go down to the lake and we go this year when like 29 degree weather we break open the ice cooler and we're there for like 25 minutes in a bathing suit we jump in out Japan how we chill it's the funniest things like we're at a beach just say in the middle of the winter we have a bad good time I remember it took us like 20 minutes to crack the ice opening so thick yeah I made a vlog of it but um yeah we actually have a video of it on kosher food somewhere on the channel and anyways so he's schita this is so interesting so like what we're saying but you know what if sheet is why all this cold exposure is so healthy for your immune system and for your skin and your whole body and your whole workings of your system is because you your body is literally created to have stress it needs stress to be healthy it's a machine that's cut out to face stress so your body is cut out to face the elements and today in today's age were too comfortable we have too many heating and too much everything is perfect it's actually not healthy for our immune system our immune system work cut out where machines that are created to face stress work to work hard you know it's like coolest thing the MOT the body is made to work its mating your your mind enjoys jumping out of the comfort zone a lot of people love skydiving so much the view is amazing but something tells me people are not paying $100 to see that view because like I'd like to find an airplane all the time people fly an airplane if you see the view so why do you feel the need to go jump out of an airplane it's because it's so scary in the mind that like the it's it's so scary to go and do something that's so I jump out that's where you jump out and you're like you're all psyched up like whoo let's do this you get so rushed and so and it like when you do stuff that are so uncomfortable like you get the most like that is when you're you are the most happy when you when you play sports when you're when you're doing stuff that you're not like comfortable doing it's the most relieving yeah okay so I want to give another example of stepping into who you're not you know I run a summer camp and this is of course not an advertisement it just happens to be that I'm giving a large example from the experience in lost camp where you can find your registration at loss camp org I think on the right time so let's kappa dark loss camp best camp in the in the woods wait did you say it was lost camp that argh yeah Oh lost kinda yeah lost count org do you see lost content yeah I think yeah I think we may have like lost camp just great crazy good camp so anyways lost camp toric you sign up over there he's not an advertisement of course not and this is not also and this is not also on this is niala son this is even more advertising because now it's like getty ha okay whatever anyways so in lost can't this is the thing that we discovered when at first I was very nervous Barca Shem I think we've had close to probably 150 maybe 200 people altogether involved in it over the last six years and it's very intense travelling experience it's a transformational experience it's it changes lives and in this experience what we have discovered is that it doesn't really matter if you come in liking nature or not I used to be so nervous accepting kids that were not into nature if you had to ask me the percentage of kids that are joining lost camp because they like nature because they like hiking in the outdoors and sleeping in tents and all they say I probably say it's about 50% 50% I'll give it to you of the kids that join ok fine they're into nature they want to go hiking they want the experience isn't it about 50% have zero interest no zero but very little interest and the reason why they're joining is because they have a good friend that's going there whatever is going or their mother said this is what you got to do because there's nothing else to do in the summer so we're very nervous at first oh my gosh these kids are not coming for the you know for outdoors we're gonna be left with a bunch of complaining kids that are high interested and they're not gonna experience it guess what over the years we've discovered this and we have a very very good effective feedback system Berkeley Shem we call kids after the experience and we ask them how it was and what they gained and you know what's going on in their lives you know that they gain from this experience we have barbarossa Shem class session if you introduce nature to them the right way we have a 100% success rate now I'm talking about kids that has told me before they come I've heard the meaning way before they came they've said I'm not a hiker that's not who I am I'm not the type of guy I don't like nature I don't do hikes I don't like going camp I'll never sleep in a tent I don't sleep on the ground That's not me and the only game because their friends were going okay oh man what am I supposed to do right so they slept along they come if introduced to them the right way 100 percent success rate they're in love love nature it's amazing they're there they're pushing themselves beyond a limit the they tell me after oh my gosh I could sleep anywhere I'm starting to go on hikes I'm starting to organize hikes I'm starting to go backpacking I organize the backpacking trip and in Israel and doing different trips and they tell me I get the feedback and it's so inspiring to watch but the fire that the real fire that comes from that is that the realization that they say oh that's not me and then they realize oh my gosh actually I'm so much bigger than what I say him I am exactly what I say I'm not I could sleep on floors I could go out of my comfort zone III could eat in the woods and make my own meals and set up my own home no tent to sleep on the floor I could be squished in a car with 11 people and I could learn how to get along with anybody squished in a little four person tent with three people who you might not be best friends with and in the vans with eleven other people that you might not be best friends with I could learn to make that work I could learn how to make days and hiking and make it fun and learn how to be nature my home and it's amazing process to see people going way outside of themselves and becoming who they are not yeah I think it's I think we're just not advertising at all it's just a sample that's all I talked to people who say that gotta learn casitas and then like a year later you talk to them and they're like oh I've been learning to cook tomorrow it's amazing I think it's my safer I love rubbery document and you're say like what happened and they're like you know I just I was I had some free time and I picked it up once with like a little something and trying it and yeah and they loved it like you found it you know I think you just have to try you gotta break the rule book now if you don't like it like you're still you you know nothing have you like tuna fish did you like tuna fish growing up I don't know I hated tuna fish did you like welcome only yeah okay now do you like welcome away yeah that's the craziest thing you could this is like it you could ask like do statistics on this like when I was a kid I probably could have sworn to you that I it's Who I am like I'm not the type of guy that likes guacamole and if I would have stayed like that I would have been losing out on something that's so pressure I would have been losing out of the world of guacamole imagine that right imagine if I would have stayed with that identity that's not it's not me like that's not me I don't want chameleon chips at some point in my life I said no that's me I do like bug boy and Wow welcome away chips the best and and that meals kala walk away so healthy is I could have been missing out from that world you know what I mean yeah and it's with so many things that are like that it's not just cuacamole there's so many things in our life when we're kids we said oh I don't like that I don't like tuna fish hey Charlie how many people do I think if we all came with the same expectations we had growing up to the rest of our life I don't think spinach would be grown any more I don't know any kid that liked spinach but you meet adults all the time we love spinach I love spinach you know I think you shouldn't give this a try go out take your rule book and you know break a rule yeah I'm personally currently what I'm working on this is something I'm working on in the present is I've been saying for years I've been saying this and everybody who knows me knows that there's one I'm a very low maintenance guy in general but there's one glitch my system and I've been saying this as like a given like it's this there's nothing to do bad like Who I am like I cannot stand the heat like I'm a cold guy I don't like the heat people that know it that when I come to the house the first thing I use they're going to they're all the way down like give me the coldest room in the house and you know I'm so to speak I was like so to speak I'm a phonic like this is who I am and I tell people like there's nothing I can do about it like all right I don't finality it's Who I am like I I don't do heat I can't like I just there's nothing to do about it whatever I'm working it's a bunch of garbage it's just a bunch of garbage I cannot start saying I have to change my language I'm using my language to define who I am I'm never gonna be able to change I could like I could like it I could learn how to like I can learn how to sleep in 75 degree weather come on you know it's a bunch of bog wash I just have to learn how to start seeing that world and how to start learning to enjoy it I've been seeing B you know and and I have to change my language so instead now what I'm working on is instead of seeing oh I don't like heat or that's who I am right I am a type of guy that can't stand he'd give me a cool room instead of that what I'm working on is saying hey right now I would prefer a room like in the present it's not who I am I I'm working on stop saying I am a guy who hates he I hate he that's who I am no no no I use I'm trying to use words in the present day right now I'd prefer room let's go cuz right now I'm kind of hot you know what I mean or for tonight like I'd rather not see just for now you know this is not me I'm gonna learn how to expand things like stop defining yourself yeah Muse language to box ourselves in and then we get stuck because we said that like I could be stuck with the person doesn't like heat I probably am just because I've been saying that for so many years even at this point I could probably learn how to like eat you know what I mean I'll give you the perfect is this is the craziest example I used to be so such a manic about noise when I sleep if you walked into me and you even open the door and I wake up I get so upset could even fall asleep actually because I was so upset that you woke me up and and I knew if you woke me up that's it I'm done and then my day I had an exact amount to sleep and if I didn't then my next day would be a total wreck because I needed exactly seven or eight hours whatever it was and you Shiva and people knew that like you can't come into my room because I was like salting and if anybody woke me up my whole next day was ruined then I was upset and doesn't that whatever the whole thing was a bunch of bog wash one year I literally literally and this there's actually changed by a replicators when I slept over I big galas and robbing killers just old house and Shabbos afternoons it was a party and my first I think was my first time ever sleepy ever I make you lose his house I knew I want to experience being around his house for Shabbos but I knew that Shabbos afternoons there and went one of my rules was that Shabbos afternoons I need my nap arose almost so upset matzo shop isn't like I need that afternoon nap but I knew coming in to Rebbe kailash's house for Shabbos that he has a lot of kids especially when in the olden days when his kids were much younger and there's a lot of stuff happening kids chasing each other fighting and and in a good way like you know I'm playing and stuff and running in and out of different rooms and playing hide-and-go-seek in your room sometimes you know they're coming so sorry and I knew I knew that that it was going to be a party and I consciously said you know what I had enough of this that I can't sleep if there's no or stuff and I consciously said to myself I'm going to have the killer's just house and I want there to be noise not only that I'm gonna change my perception of noise it's not noise it's alive and kicking I'm changed I'm stepping into different world I'm gonna learn to appreciate sleeping while there's noise I'm gonna learn to appreciate and and whenever the kids are making noise and they're fighting I'm like wow I love that cuz you know what I love the sound of kids playing at parks don't you it's it's a soothing it's like reminds me of my childhood you know so I'm like do the same thing she ah this afternoon I'm not even gonna go to sleep I'm just lying down enjoying sounds of kids sounding alive and kicking and that's what I did and I fell asleep and like the biggest trickiest trance ever and I woke up I had one of the best sleeps I'm I couldn't believe I did it guess what I did after that my what hydrants not yet not that extreme my next step after that the next year you know the next step it was that year I think I think it was that same exact year what I did was I was a dorm counselors I purposely said I want to sleep in the noisiest rooms in the dorms and this was on the on the bay floor the bottom floor with the ninth graders there they're up to like two two in the morning like blasting music people would walk into much join me here like 3:00 in the morning sometimes you know the younger Avril you know they're more exciting guys it was like the noise you think eyes in the front room you know in the old building the front rooms and I need the door I leave the door open so people could come in and out purposely because you know I I said to myself you know what you could sleep with noise when you register that the noise is okay you'll fall asleep as long as your brain subconsciously knows that that the noise is okay and that it's safe you'll fall asleep it's when you say that that noise is not okay I don't agree with that noise that noise is bad and it's not okay your brain is trained to wake you up whenever he hears that noise so as soon as I learned to accept all that noise and all that stuff has kids alive and kicking and having a good time and I like I like honestly parent vibes of pumping music as like that Wow alive and kicking I was I was I trained myself literally I went from extreme from point like 0-5 the terriblest worst easiest person to wake up to like I could sleep anywhere any it changed my whole sleep patterns and I I could fall asleep anywhere I could fall asleep in the basement of that so good I trained myself to literally learn how to just accept it so all these are I'm saying no I'm not the type of guy that could fall asleep when there's noise and all the sudden actually I am yeah I am that type of guy such a good feeling and an extent and wow like I got life like I could do this you know what I mean yeah Nicole so go out there you know yeah I just want to do it yeah I just want to end off with out there yeah I want to tie it all in Todd there and that is like we said before we dress up it's that this is me there's not me this is what I drink I I'm the other guy I'm a looped fish now I'm Safari I'll dress up as a sir I'm classy that's what perms all about you drink a little bit and this is my suggestion for you is that when before you drink on perm and you get a little tipsy and just everything starts getting blurry sit down and meditate a little bit and think what is it going to look like when I get drunk what is it going to look like why am I getting drunk and my suggestion to you is that what you should have in mind try to imagine this is that once you get drugged you try to visualize this before you get drunk that this is how it will look when you get drunk this is your goal I'm gonna go in with the goal I'm not just gonna have her and you know crazy and punch people in the face I'm going with a goal my goal is that when I get drunk and everything starts getting blurry and all the borders go down and all the boundaries go down and I see someone talking to me I start realizing that he is me thank you that guy hug wow that's that's my goal that's my goal like when everything starts getting blurry and the boundaries go down you start realizing I am not me that's exactly who I am NOT I if I was just me I'd be so happy just remaining me why am I always looking to share with other people create and build and go to the next step and and tell the world because I'm not me that's exactly what I'm searching for my other pieces I'm just a piece in the puzzle and I'm so much bigger than me I'm him and as you're blurry and as you see him talking and you see this guy seeing me like my oh my gosh I'm singing um I'm talking what a trip hey we talked about truth this is the best trip ever try to do that try to stop oh my gosh and go over the guy give compliment say wow you're doing so good like you I saw you grow so much and like see yourself and the other guy see you as him that's that's me that's my next step my expansion is the other people and that's Octus that's what perms all about alright with that thank you so much for joining us here at the kosher of its podcast do not forget to subscribe as that supports our channel it'll be very very good for us if you can do is that favor that would be great thank you so much and have the best perm ever if you like clicking buttons button below I'll take you on you