Your Identity is Fluid-Podcast

[Music] hello there people and welcome to an amazing amazing kosher vids podcast that's about to happen today we got something special for you this is a podcast the way it works is it's just me today no guess i'm just going to spew just give you parts of my brain that i was thinking about um some real deep stuff some real cool stuff let me just give you an intro um i have been giving self um development courses for the last about 10 years thank god hashem in the water babysitter and this year i'm starting to branch out more and i feel like i've gotten it pretty solid and i'm going to start giving um the plan is to start giving the classes outside uh to communities and things like that and so to develop hopefully a webinar of the different courses that have been under development and i think they're really really powerful i mean they've been a smashing success in the mississippi waterbury and really really a life changer for many the way it really all got started was i had a friend who his name was are you leaving for lucar if he's listening to this it's because of you he introduced to me me to a guy named rob yomtov glazer who i absolutely love he's a powerhouse he's a magnet he's unbelievable and he gives a course called the possible you it is a life-changing course it's a seven-day life-changing course um and it goes through the development from childhood to adulthood of how you develop fears and how those fears develop your personality your identity and how you base your perception of life through those fears and through those identities and it's a very very powerful course through that course you know i really got introduced to the work of self work and self development and um you know i've been i've taken many courses i'm a big big landmark guy he has to call the chauffeur guy when they're around it could be they're still around in israel i took many other a few other you know seminars and um and also just myself a lot of research a lot of reading tons of reading and webinars courses online and um that has really really brought me to place where thank god it's just opened up a whole new way of looking at the world where we're so trapped in our reality of how we think everything should be when we don't realize it's just because we were born into a certain set of circumstances but when you see somebody else's world your brain expands and you become a lot more understanding and a lot more forgiving of other people and yourself it's really really really powerful stuff really powerful it's just you be you become so much more okay with any type of personality out there it's amazing it's just you could be friends with anybody so that's what's been going on in my life in the last few years and the mirza shem the plan this year uh you kind of uh you know was thinking on yom kippur what my next move is my big move is going to be this year and that is to get started with getting this these courses out there so uh mirt hashem that's where we're headed this year and it's going to be under development um if you know of anybody that wants you know this corp discourse brought to their community or maybe ishiva or even a group of adults i'm there i'm there it's a powerful powerful course we have tons of testimonials we have hundreds of kids that took it so it's a and life-changing literally life-changing so um that's that's basically you know what um what this i'm just gonna give you an overall um explanation of what this podcast is gonna be based on it's gonna be a random podcast it's not gonna be so structured i don't know maybe it will maybe you won't i'm just going to be rambling um basically you need to have a self i have identity in this world how does identity work identity is who you are now everybody's like i don't know if i have an identity i don't know if i know whatever i just do stuff whatever i think what i want to you know put what i want and i do that thing i don't have identity this is who i am or whatever you're not i don't think i have one you know i'll tell you the truth like i never was told that i have one i nobody told me who i am i don't think i see this as who i am i'm just you know i walk around unsure everybody has an identity and through different stages of your life you identify as different things that you see in the world and everybody everybody's dying to have an identity why why is everybody dying to have an identity what is this and humanity has this craving and you watch it there's a book from dr seuss's called are you my mother i think it's from dr seuss i hope i'm getting that right and it's about this little chickling who goes around and is born into the world and has no idea who it is like he has no idea who's his mother and then the first thing it sees is a tractor i think and he goes over and says are you my mother the thing is just not talking it's just like he's like oh my gosh you are my mother and it's like identifying as the tractor or something for a while until that doesn't work and hops no that's not my mother and then you get to this mean animal or whatever and it's chasing after he's like that's not my mother are you my mother oh you're my mother no you're not my mother i'm probably saying the story not 100 and i forgot what the exact ending is the point is we're the same exact thing with our identity born into world without an instruction booklet we're literally a blank slate we're born into the world having no idea who we are what we're supposed to be doing and at certain point of when we start becoming more and more conscious of it we're like wait what is flying in this world i have no idea who i like what am i supposed to be doing and who am i nobody tells you teenagers when they hit that stage when they start really thinking about life and their brain is full if really developing and they that's the big question that really hits them deep who in the world am i and what am i supposed to be doing and that's where things go wild because they're like hey i'm a hippie i'm and the parents like oh my gosh why did you cut your hair for three weeks and um let's go through the stages we're born to the world our identity is totally fluid for good reason you're supposed to develop who you are it's up to you it's not this is a hero so it's not hashem's not going to give it to you you have to go search and create something beautiful when you're important to the world you're blank slate and you identify who so the first thing you identify is actually your mother this is in science this is what they say the children it defies the mother they're one with their mother when they're feeding from the mother and the mother's giving them milk they are one with their mother and their mother is them it takes them time to separate to be able to thought oh my gosh there's me and then there's another they don't even know that like they totally are identified as their mother and you know after that stage it probably goes to their bottle but then it goes to toys um and this a child identifies as toys a very deep thing it's not just that a toy is something that the kid likes when you take away a toy from a child and a child's having a tantrum he's going wild and screaming like his life is over it is because his life is over because you took away something that's not just his thing it's him you took away him and his world just died a kid deeply identifies as his toys because that's his world that's all he knows of he sees things that he's interested in as becoming him and and that's who i am i am an airplane it represents things to him i flying freedom the ability to go wherever you want and experience whatever you know and be light and not be heavy uh these are very very deep causes child loves and it makes them feel good and that's what i that's who i am that's my essence that's me that airplanes me and when he's playing with it he's this is his world and when you take it away from me he has nothing else there's nothing out there for him he doesn't know of anything else that is him and the kid's throwing a tantrum candy take away the lollipop kid's gum it's just a ten cent log about buy another one no you just killed him so to speak um and we laugh but the truth is we know better as you go through life you just start identifying as um you know things on on just a higher level of physicality which is really funny because again born into a world and you start identifying as physical objects because well see you know you don't know much better um you know teenagers just identify as their bison you know as they get older it's their bicycle and they which represents the freedom and the you know ability i remember when i was like my bicycle just the ability to just like that was my go-to whenever things went wrong um i actually remember i identified as an airplane when i was like four or five i i was the guy i was a little kid going around the yard like yeah come here for ladies it wasn't it wasn't like i was playing airplane i was an airplane it's very deep it's true i i had in my brain like one day i'm going to figure out how to put wings on my arms and i'm going to do it um and um we all do it we all do it we all did it we all do it we do it now and it just goes through the stages i remember after that i think i was a lion for a while i watched a show about lions at a very young age and i was very very inspired and i was lying i was i was literally well i literally would come to shabba state when i was i think four years old five years old oh no force and roaring and like for like practice like see i would look in the mirror and make sure my teeth were sharp because i was i was a killer i was gonna be able to kill people whoever i wanted and jump on people and and and be all powerful that nobody can touch me and very very fast like the lions i was aligned at that stage you couldn't get me out of it it was pretty difficult for my parents probably i don't know but don't worry i got out of that stage pretty quick and then identify it as the next stage you know like i said my bicycle or um and whatever toys and things and i remember playmobil was big for me and and we all do that everybody everybody's got it lego whatever toys games chess uh board games uh i am a mathematician it just gets it gets more sophisticated as you get older you know or i'm a scientist adults is the same exact thing adults are the same exact thing teens is the same exact thing teens they get older they're like i identify i am a celebrity um when teenagers are getting you know into social media and um and to celebrities and these type of things it's much deeper than this is just like an interesting subject for them when you take away a kid's phone you're not taking away a kid's phone you're taking away his identity that's why they freak out well a kid will be their kid you know unfortunately that attach their smartphones and these type of devices and social media stuff when you take away their phone you are taking away their world and when you make fun of their their that their phones or their social media you're making fun of their world because that's who they're identifying that stage of life that's all they have it's a very very deep subject um a celebrity is not someone that people are just into sometimes it could just oh you could just be like cute cool like they're cool people but and not much more that but a lot a lot of times people will actually start living through the celebrity there's this concept of vlogs on youtube and things like this where people live through this celebrity and it's that identity you identify when that person something happens to that person it hurts it's like you're connected it's the same thing they'll watch i found when i found this out my mind was blown but they'll watch every single day there are people that will post their life for 45 minutes and people will sit there watching them making decisions by the refrigerator should i have pizza with mac with macaroni and cheese or should i have pizza with salad today comment down below what you think and people take it they're seriously like no please choose them what is going on what is going on you have time for like you're wasting your life it's not like wasting that is their life they're identifying they're living through somebody else that's their world that's what's all that they see is important to them in the world and that's who i am um it's a very very deep concept and don't think that we're any better i mean as as we got older it just gets more complicated the toys but they're still toys adults get bigger toys they just get a big car fancy maserati or something who are they the maserati the status the big house i am a doctor really you that's who you that's what your identity is you sure because what happens when the doctor passes away so then you know then you're left with nothing and the scariest part of it is really in essence that everything leaves us and that's the scariest thing where all of us is headed to which is really really scary is that all this stuff whenever you identify yourself with something that's physical something like good looks something like a talent something that uh uh uh an object that's outside it in the world a car a house a doctor uh uh you know your job your status all of these things are going to pass and they do pass it's just a matter of time they even pass away before you die they pass away as life goes on even you start understanding how little they're really really worth and how short they're they last and when that happens it's very very depressing because people are not only losing their item their car or their house or their being a doctor because now it's time to retire um they're losing their identity and now they're like now what in the blazes am i what am i what am i who am i i am nothing it's very very scary stage of life for people um you know we all know you know bernie madoff's uh son you know very very sad unfortunately but uh you know he committed suicide and like i heard this i'm like what what does that have to do with anything his they found that his father with the money was all being you know uh it's all cheated money and the son commits suicide but what does money have to do with committee so what if you lose a lot of money and stuff and people hopped at your that your big status who you are your status goes away this you weren't so big but what does it have to do with you no because that's who he was that was his status and when that was ripped away from him there was a huge void that he couldn't fill and that just meant that there's nothingness for me i have nothing to fill my voice i am no one and someone that is no one will do things like that and that's how that stuff happens it's um scary concept it's a very scary concept because if you don't get this concept straight you're eventually going to run right into brick wall at the end of your life classic sean because all of it all of it all the identities that we have that are available for us out there in the world all will leave and all will die and nothing comes with it's very very funny when you think about it and i mean the the the visual the visualization of uh coming up to shamayim when you come to chemin very very clearly if you look up the kabbalistic swarm and you know rabbi kiva tats is very into this uh when you come to shemin you are exactly whatever you identified as that's exactly what whatever you built in this world is exactly what you'll be in that world so if you are still stuck at the stage where you're a lioness you're going to get up to shamayim and you're going to see a bunch of lions that never graduate so you can say all lions line up over here and then you're gonna have a bunch of people that are still identifying as their cars you know look at me i have a rolls-royce and i wear sunglasses you know oh roll royce says please pull up here and you will be a rolls-roy that's who you will be and those rolls-royces please they'll pull up you know you know like wave it if you look at me you know i'm special and uh and um you know so you have the line you have the rolls-royce and then they're gonna say airplanes please pull up over here and then pull up old doctors please pull up here hmm you know they pull up with their stethoscopes whatever you call those things you know yes you know you know very intelligent and stuff like that and uh and the list goes on all lawyers that are millionaires and uh millionaires and people that have big houses all big houses you you're you're a big house that's what you are you walk around over here old celebrities like i'm a celebrity right and uh it's gonna be very funny actually because you're gonna have a bunch of lions tigers airplanes celebrities doctors right all of these fake identities coming up there and they're gonna say uh guys like oh we're very sorry all of you guys go back go back where nowhere like there's nowhere for you to go like we don't accept lions in thailand and we don't know like there's there's nowhere to latch on you you have the wrong identity like you're the wrong thing for what we what we feed up here like we don't feed lions we just don't have the physical food up here for lions and we don't have the status that makes the doctors or the lawyers and the millionaires and stuff uh make you feel good it's this is not for you you got the wrong world uh you got to go back down there and um it's a scary thought because if again if you're identifying with something that's transient and just is going to go with time then who are you when that thing leaves this is rabbi ramatorsky said this on a speech it's so powerful it's like if you identify as a maserati or a big house so who are you when you lose that big house or when you lose that maserati you are no one and it's a very big void so who are you what identity should you be um and the answer to that is obviously obviously has to be something that is beyond this world hakoya hevel we read in samkhastara hakohevo everything is nothingness and what's interesting is that we read this at the happiest time of the year the what seems to be the most depressing megillah we read it at the most happiest time they went to sukkas which is the mitzvah de raisa to be happy for seven seven days what do we do let's be happy so let's read kayla's and we sit down and we open up kahalas and we're like ha coyle have al everything is nothingness a person works call him also have all you go to parties and you go this and it's all fun you're getting a good status that's also gonna die and it's gonna be nothing and there's like getting really depressing like this is not making me happy this is making me sad but the real answer to this and i heard this from my bientot glazer is that as you go through the whole uh in migos you'll see that everything every time he says hashem is nothingness under the sun which means that everything that is in this world which is physical things anything that's based on the physicality that's based on good looks that's based on status that's based on money that's based on cars houses physicality physical things don't last by definition they can't that's what a physical thing is they don't last forever those things if you have an identity with those things they will end up bringing you the biggest depression is heavily and will give you the biggest depression the access to simcha on sukkah is realizing that to the deepest of your depth that nothing will end up truly giving you it will end up depressing you for sure the only access to true simcha is getting in touch with the true identity getting in touch with fulfillment of life of who i am and that's lamalam in hashemish that's not anything in this world physical is going to fade and will depress you if you depend on it and identify with it because it will leave you with a void that i am nothing the only thing truly that you have to start identifying with self is what's above the shemitah which is hashem you need to start living something that's beyond you beyond this world that something that doesn't come and go but some things that are steadiness okay things like true deep love connection becoming part of another world person thing hashem um expanding your spiritual world if you you could identify with anything you want your identity could be a car it could be a thought it could be whatever you want if you could switch your identity to start being that i am another okay i'm part of another that's who i am i am part of a much bigger picture i'm like him and him and him and him and him and i want to see his world and his world and his world and i want to see hashem's world that is an identity that doesn't end it keeps going and going and going and going and bouncing forth because you're part of his world and he says whoa i want to be part of your world and then things get exploded and bigger and then there's a year old you're only bigger and bigger and you know he shows you something you never saw he shows you something you never saw before and you're seeing bigger more and more and more or more worlds and you're constantly there's no end to the amount of expansion that's possible when you're living an identity of something that is forever and that is infinity so the identity ultimately that a person has to try identifying is is something that's way beyond this world it has to be something that will not just pass with time now here we go this is a major major major decide in what an identity is what exactly is an identity i'm going to give you the definition of identity this is like insane here we go what an identity is and because you're probably saying at this point very nice that's a cool tool but like i don't really need it like i'll just do aveda hashem or whatever i don't need an identity this is who i am i'll just do stuff like nice things and good stuff i don't need to find out or identify with it like i am whatever hashem or i am a a a person that is for another uh you know an vistro i am and i know i know i know i stay i'm sorry i'm getting off subject i see you next time i'm like dancing i know i know i know i am i am i i am a car i am a car so there's people that yeah there are people that are going around singing songs in circles i'm sure in the guyish world you know all the people i am i am i am oh mazerati i am i am i am oh doctor i am i am i am a millionaire yeah but all those things die and leave hakoel hevel mesh what's the true access to simcha is that's an identity identity that's who i am that's my world something way beyond tachasa something that will always be there when i show up there they're gonna say oh you yes we feed that type of food to this type of person we have what you like perfect i went off subject for a second i'm just rambling but let's go back i was about to tell you what the aside of an identity is what's an identity this is huge huge an identity is a hack it's a shortcut it is the biggest hack that you have in your system an identity allows you to do things effortless it allows you it's a top to bottom pyramid where you start when all of the actions that you do in your life are really connected to your identity when they connect to your identity as long as you identify with that thing they just will they're automatic reactions that come from that identity and will happen effortless keyword effortless and i'm going to give you an example for example like this this is how it works this is uh this is awesome this is this crazy stuff this is big big big stuff guys if you identify as a human being okay i am a human being the one the definition of an identity is that this is who i am that is a simplistic term which is a command where many chain reactions automatic keyword automatic and effortless come out of that one command okay this is who i am and then automatically your body will carry out all the messages that are attached to that one command i'm going to give an example i am a human being human beings walk around like this and are nice that is automatic effortless if i would come over to you and say here's a deer bite into its neck watch the blood pour out and keep biting on the raw meat and swallowing it until you finish the entire deer i'll give you a million dollars if you can do it you're going to be struggling so hard because you're working against your identity you're literally going to be like oh this is disgusting this is inhumane i can't do this i have mercy i this and that whatever dude if you could just identify as a lion lions have no issues biting into why because it's it's things are commit are all attached to the main command which says i am a lion and this is what lions do effortlessly it's not a big deal for a lion he's not like sitting here like oh no i feel so bad for this deer i don't know if i can do this no it's a lion this is what i do and it bites the whole thing okay let's give another example okay so let's say i give you a gun and i say here kill somebody are you going to kill somebody it's going to be really tough for you you're going to be sitting there like i don't know if i can do this i mean i'm i i i i don't think it's i think it's inhumane but what if you could get yourself to identify as an extremist terrorist here here's a gun thank you very much effortlessly it's a hack you hack the system there's no more effort there's no more thought it's this is who i am and this is what terrorists do they go lions kill right humans are nice be like hi nice to meet you those are identities when that is the main command that's feeding the entire system all these things that branch out come out of that main command and it's a fast road to the main command and it's effortless all the side reactions that come out of the main command that's what an identity is it's an algorithm that you create that it's a main command that will have a number of chain reactions that will come effortless from that main command that is what an identity is and i'll tell you um you know when you work on yourself uh and this is what we're gonna be getting into not this podcast we're running a time but a different one is that like this when you work on something you can work out two things you could work on your specific accomplishments or you could work on your identity the identity is the fast road really it's the fast road if you work on specific accomplishments it's going to take you a lot a lot of effort and a lot a lot of time when you work on your identity it's the fast road to multiple areas of accomplishments and i'll explain that um you know somebody came over to me was asking me um he recently is asking me um how do you work on shamer hybris you know a person in schmierstein different typists and thoughts that people have and to keep away from from bad you know thoughts and inappropriate actions and um and i told him you know i'll tell you the truth my rugby rabbi kalish is is really against um working directly on that indian for specific reasons i think i'm pretty sure the reason you know the more uh not with all things but specifically with this area the more you say oh i'm i'm gonna work on you know shyamer habris i'm going to work on schmears i'm going to work on shimmers you'll be like oh wait one second oh yeah i forgot about that oh let me go do it and it reminds you and it brings it back these flashes pictures or whatever in back into your brain the more you focus on not doing it it's in relation to it and it can bring it back up to you which is very hard to get out and it can keep your mind so it's it's a very tricky subject to work on directly it doesn't like work on directly so what other path do you take the fast road what's the fast road to getting to shimmer brisk to the taiva's identity identity and i'll explain it to you like this um if if i have to work on like my typist and visit it's really really tough but if who i am if i am if i could identify i am a ben tyra the entires don't do that and it's simple it's automatic i don't do that because i'm a bad yeshiva i'm a shiva booker i don't do that or i'm ben tara i'm an ever hashem hashems don't do that it's a very very simple reaction to the thing and i'm going to bring this to you a little bit more clearer for you um thank god when i when i grew up hashem i have the tadic of a brother his name is gabriel grillball some real sonic and one of the things he really taught me and i got this through osmosis through my brother directly from my brother is um you know we grew up in a lane there's a lot of posters and interesting stuff that go on in l.a and sometimes you're driving down the street and i remember as a little kid he would be driving through the street and all of a sudden i see my brother once in a while he'd be and he'd have a face of disgust the amount of time from when he saw the poster to this look of disgust that would come automatically was so fast it's impossible that it was a decision it wasn't a decision it's an automatic reaction because and now it doesn't make sense because what do you mean any normal teenager or kid that age would have a taiva to look at that so who are you trying to fool no he didn't have a taivo he never typed because that wasn't his identity he wasn't identified with a regular teenager who is interest who is like a movie man or a celebrity or whatever he was a yeshiva baker don't look at that it wasn't a decision was it that it wasn't like he didn't have the deep down you know like the capacity for it he was like like a kid like anybody else whatever but he identified as a yeshiva bucker i'm in shiva baker and a very serious shiva bakar in a very serious giveaway like shivam don't do that disgusting like it's not my world i don't live in that it's not my la that's not my identity i'm a ben yeshiva benicious don't do that oh and i got that from him i read like i i saw a number of times i was so affected by him i i would do the same thing not because i was such a i just got it through him osmosis i was just like ew and if somebody would say something at a table or something that was that was disgusting or or a bad word or it was he was ever you know somebody was taught me an appropriate subject he same exact things like he didn't have to think he doesn't have to fight about it like gabriel come on it is kind of juicy [Music] like because it wasn't that is this juicy isn't it i am yeshiva don't do that yeshiva brought from hold that's disgusting it's a shortcut to getting all those areas accomplished in your life yeshiva does this this this this this this this this a benishiva that's how he lives he lives with hashem or whatever you want to call bentaira uh ev hashem whatever you whatever words you want to use but the identity is a shortcut to get where you want you won't work on the shinra bris you want to work on tivas kind of hard to work on directly because it can bring up the subject oh but if you could identify i am a ben tara that's way oh then it gets done quick you want to finish a massage a very specific action that you want to get done it could be murder you have so many other things happening in your day and sometimes you're not in the mood and it seems boring and you're some days you are and sometimes you're not and you know i have to still push myself to do it and the microphone the push and then i get am i feeling well it's cold this and then i don't want to go to show and learn or whatever it is it's a it's a it's a long path to getting the message done but if you could identify who i am i could be in the workforce but who i am i am not a doctor i'm a bad terror that's what banters do they finish in this after year boom it's done that's it's the same thing as you see automatic i'm a benthair i don't i don't wanna hear that disgusting that's disgusting i'm a ben tara that's who i am i'm i'm a bed tire i finish myself saft is done i'm i'm finishing myself i i go to i go to sleep every single every single year is happening happening this year why i'm a bed tire what do you mean i don't know i don't see any other option that's what ben tires do you set the algorithm with a command that includes in it a number of automatic chain reactions it's an algorithm which attaches to this identity to this one word or one concept thing a ton of other actions that automatically get done having access to your identity is one is the real road to true power to be true power truly powerful in this world and getting a lot a lot of stuff done because most of the time a lot of people are working from the top down you gotta work from the bottom up you gotta work from where all stems for it all comes from when you do that things automatically get done it's and you know what the truth is you really you really have to hit it from both you have to also do chinese mirrors mirrors it's in the room maybe a different time but um but you need to you could hit it for multi of course you have to work on your actions but ultimately the real powerhouse where you where you really get to real teshuva and real getting things real access to your true power is getting is getting to your identity is to getting to that oneness of who am i of my one identity of what i identify as being because when you're being something you don't have it doesn't hap there's no effort to it i am it and that's powerful because we we all get too tired after a while of doing things doing doing and you lose energy doing costs energy but when you're being something it doesn't cost energy it's endless amounts of available energy because it doesn't cost energy it's effortless it's just a state of being i am a bed tire and i that's i i just i i am it it's just in my brain i don't have to do right when you are being a ben tara the things that the automatic reactions don't cost effort from you it's all state of being i'm just that's me that's me that's me and it comes effortless um big subject i was just rambling i hope you did good summarize hit the identity hit identity go deep be powerful as two ways to work on yourself you could work on the specific actions or you could get to where those specific actions stem from the algorithm when you get down to the algorithm and you and you hop you understand that that algorithm is totally fluid and it could be totally changed by you you were the one that made up the first algorithm of your identities when you were a child you can rewrite them uh when you realize that you have the power to write your algorithms for your identity you could start creating for yourself identities that will get you to places where you truly want to get effortlessly without effort thank you so much for listening we didn't get to the magnetic minds yet but emergency we will get to that future podcast if you like this episode give us some feedback please please work very hard on these and um we got to 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