Living With Emunah (Part 319) - Take the Plunge

okay good morning Boer to Boer welcome back to 10 minutes not 10 minutes welcome back to living with amuna we teach so much such a fast pace I don't even know where I am or who I am our amuna series is generously sponsored by Dr zavi and Bella Morgan and memory by Dr Brian galin in in memory of Bella's mother Dr Ellen shanzer we remain incredibly grateful to the Morgans for their tremendous tremendous generosity and thank you very very much for that you could always sponsor an Amun here sponsor any of our sh and we're grateful and we welcome everybody's partnership and help as always we will begin with some amuna amuna emails and stories and then we'll dive back into our text and help us get ready in this month of el and as we are counting towards rashash Shana so I want to start with this story we've been traveling a lot for Simas we should always all travel only for Simas happy occasions so last week and I were flying back and something fascinating happened the plane landed an unremarkable Landing it wasn't like you know we almost crashed or landed on the Hudson River or anything like that it was unremarkable Landing we landed and all of a sudden we heard a woman screaming it turns out about five rows behind us there was a woman and we were listening a little attentively what was she calling out taking over the whole airplane and she's screaming dear Lord thank you so much for ending our pilot with the skills to land the plane and dear Lord thank you and we accept you and then she mentioned some other people characters that are not part of our and we accept and we B so and so to so and so and so and so she was sitting right next to a rabbi I happen to know sitting there with his black hat and his jacket on and I'm watching her and she no shame no hesitation is screaming talking directly to the Lord The Hope and I'm wondering like is someone going to yell at her like be quiet or you know let's get off the plane or mind your business or she finished her spontaneous beas a out loud and the whole plane yelled amen I thought to myself wow that was another one of those unbelievable moments where yeah I'm not encouraging you to try that at home or on your next flight I'm not saying it will be received as well if we do it um but I just I love people who are Unapologetic and unashamed and not hesitant to publicly show that they love God and God's in their life and they're grateful to God and I thought you know when we take off and again been flying a lot thank God for good things she continue to be for good things so you know when exactly do you say should you say it in the morning if you know you're leaving that day should you say it when you're going down the runway when the nose of the plane lifts off only when you're in the air big discussion in in Jewish law when do you say the travel this prayer when do you say that when do you know when is it that you should say big discussion but we say we print it on little cards and on keychains and everyone finds a way to give out a little a little but what about when you land when you land you're scrambling for your place in the aisle and let me get my thing how did I get off and the Uber and how far will I have to walk and what will be my this woman landed and she said I don't take for granted she let out a prayer like sull Burger whatever the guy's name like we just landed on the Hudson River she let out a prayer you would have thought that the wheels didn't come down and we just skidded across the runway and the emergency vehicles were there to greet us it was the most ordinary Landing you've ever had they didn't even have blue chips on the plane and she let out such a gol such a gratitude and it really it startled me and it made me think as as passionate and enthusiastic as our should be and usually it's directly proportional to your fear of flying people who have no fear of flying Mumble you know barely pause what they're watching to say it the people who took three tranquilizers and you know needed to prepare for weeks before they got on the plane that is like but we Mumble our do we also when we land just it's those M those micro moments hasem we thank you thank you no turbulence no bump no thank you thank you we don't take for Grant thank you for the unremarkable things in life thank you I don't know if you saw going around yesterday yesterday was another unprecedented day for the Jewish people a miraculous day a day that we should be eternally grateful unbelievably grateful unbelievably grateful to Hashem is a miracle we will come to learn we may never ever fully come to learn probably as great greater than the Six Day War that Israel somehow and I spoke to somebody in Israel this morning you told me how long this has been in the works much longer than you can even imagine the notion of pulling something like this off that you'd intercept the inventory the distribution before it's dispersed whatever was done to manipulate a device and then to simultaneously blow it all up without any failures without taking any civilian casual also revealing the network you can only imagine who blew up whose family was like what you're in Hezbollah you know didn't even know and revealed the entire neck it's a miracle a miracle the Divine Providence from Hashem that was necessary to pull it off the courage of the people the leaders who gave the green light I want to be clear we should be grateful and we should at least privately celebrate we should sing and dance and say and say t and say thank you Hashem I personally have some hesitation I'm not sure whether we should publicly celebrate I I don't know we go to town center and hand out candies and I don't know if we should go on social media and the the equivalent the online equivalent of town center and publicly celebrate privately certainly we should be grateful and celebratory and be have even greater conviction to eliminate enemies with no regret or hesitation the world is only better without them it's unbelievable so I saw somebody from Israel wrote it was in another unprecedented day boy how we long for some precedented days right it's lovely to have unprecedented it'd be nice to have some precedented right so it's nice to have ordinary not everything needs to be extraordinary so when the plane lands that's ordinary that's what the pilot supposed to do that's what the plane is supposed to do when you drove from point A to point B and again I'm not saying sponsor kidish every time carpool made it okay I'm not saying that you know you can't live that life that every time you got where you were driving you sponsor a kidish I'm not suggesting that I'm not suggesting we wouldn't accept that but I'm not suggesting I'm not suggesting you have to do that what I am saying is that momentary brief millisecond pause that says thank you pulled in the driveway the brakes work the Tire Works the thank you it's not a given came out for carpo last week one day to find her tire was flat flat flat flat flat no air as a tire could be thank God it was in our driveway wasn't while driving nobody was injured what's the big deal we have incredible in our community they come they're so excited in the keychain and the walkie-talkie and they plug the tire and they fill the tire they changed the tire the spare tire unbelievable it's un it's not it's no big deal but what about every time you came out in the morning and the tire wasn't flat do we notice what every not near Miss what about every time that you made the green light what about every time that the plant so I was inspired by this Anonymous lady five rows behind whoever you are probably listening to living with amuna unlikely that African-American incredible woman was listening to living with but if she is thank you because it inspired me those little moments just thank you thank you thank you the food went in and came out okay that we say thank you the plane landed thank you the car brakes worked and the tires stayed full thank you thank you for all of these things we shouldn't take for granted none of them are a given we're not entitled thank you it's mod an we wake up in the morning thank you turns out I tried to get out of bed and my legs work wow thank you thank it's not a given there are people who don't wake up in the morning there people who wake up and they feel a pain and their whole life and day is different there are people who had a test and they got back a result and it changed and it changed everything it's a big deal someone I know and love recently had a major surgery on her Niche should have ra Speedy complete and a painless recovery she's learning to walk again because had a major surgery and part of her knee was taken had to be replaced from a part of her stomach it's a big deal and learning the good leg the bad leg and she's now competing with her granddaughters about who's going to walk first who's going to walk quicker and shall be okay but every time you wake up and your legs work and you got out of bed and you didn't fall on your face thank you Hashem that's what I'm not saying anything new we actually have a whole platform for all these things we just forget them and we take them for granted and they're each amazing so thank you to woman on the plane five rows behind JetBlue we were in row 15 about so thank you whoever you are wherever you are you tght us to say thank you okay a few more go we're celebrating our daughters B MIT for this Sunday I've been reflecting in this milestone for a long time now 13 years ago I was pregnant with our first child and unexpectedly went into labor at 24 weeks and delivered a stillborn my husband and I were blessed to be able to get pregnant a few months later and I began having complications at the 23rd week Mark was kept in the hospital on bed rest for 7even weeks that was a quite quite a brief overview doesn't detail the pain and heartbreak but also the opportunity to turn to Hashem I know you and your wife had your own law I'm sure you can relate to the overwhelming gratitude and recognition of hem granting you a child after that loss I will never forget the humility I had holding our daughter when she was first born and every day since then I Marvel at how blessed we are to have her and our four other healthy children Kara which is also true after a it never gets old it never gets old walk into that room I I stopped several years ago but for the first many years of my son's life I would go in every night while he was sleeping and just look and take a picture I can't believe he wow and my daughters and my son and my everybody and got a little creepy but it's like wow I can't believe I can't believe you're here I can't believe you have healthy CH I can't believe you're here you are a miracle one I won't take for granted that's unbelievable unfortunately in life all too often only when we don't have something or we lost something or we feel close to losing something do we wake up to appreciate we shouldn't have to wait until that happens I've been trying the uh continues I've been trying to think of thear Tor to incorporate into my speech to so this daughter that was born after that still birth about mitzah this Sunday we really never marked our arrival with the so we wanted to take pause at her about mitah to do so I basically had the majority fleshed out discussing her namesake where she came from the journey the to bring her into this world as I tried to every week I turned on your partial perspective today and lo and behold your first 15 minutes tie everything into a beautiful bow for me I love the idea of beuran being not only reflective of the process and background how this fruit came to be but also finding ways to be grateful even in the moment of UNC I will say that when we lost our child 13 years ago things were very Bleak and I never had imagined what was around the corner for us but my husband and I tried to work on finding Silver Linings in that challenge when we lost our first and even during the subsequent pregnancy when there were things were still uncertain we learned that the beauty lies in the great unknown that's when you have to DAV and turn to hasem and thank him our loss was on yud and her arrival was yud giml Tish Hashem really wanted us close during that time frame and as you always say in theun the more you let God in the more you see him so clearly and we are able to be thankful VOR is the perfect kiss from Hashem and reinforces my feeling of gratitude and kiras hem thank you for being his so this email was just from yesterday because the par was yesterday she was looking for thear t to finish her speech for Sunday for this daughter and something that Hashem helped me think about to say was perfect for her and so she felt it was a wink from Hashem we have these winks and these nods and these hugs from Hashem all the time all the time and we're grateful for those moments that he's giving us and they are so special dear Rabbi Goldberg since October 7th I have patiently awaited the drop of a new living with the Moon episode each week a good friend from my former SCH in New York introduce you in your class I was in Israel learning over the last year and a half I was at a low Point looking for much inspiration and hints of Hashem following the start of the war I'm sorry I'm reading so quickly I get feedback I read too quickly if you're listening online you can slow it down go to half speed if you're in person you can't it just there's so much to say life is so short there's so much to say I'm sorry anyway I could have read slower if I didn't just interrupt myself to explain to you how I'm reading so fast okay you're living with the M Series has taught me so much y y y blah blah blah whenever I'm in a bind to know that as a Jew I'm never stuck I'm exactly where Hashem put me to ask my future children where they saw Hashem in their day Their Fear is normal I just need to channel it through Hashem and so so much more I can't thank you enough one thing that has always struck me is a hash prce moments from the pizza story you shared or from your family chat or in the emails of listeners we can see Hashem and every aspect of our daily lives we just need to open our eyes I used to just document my as moments on my notes page on my phone I took the stories and words of encouragement to share our own hasem moments as assigned to start my group chat with friends what started out a few weeks ago with around 15 friends has now spread to over 70 young women from Israel Mexico America Canada South Africa and more join in on sharing the moments when we see hashem's hands so clearly in our lives with messages filling the chat daily personally I'm waiting to hear back from several job applications having the chat has given me the that is the hiring manager and knows my address the chat should continue to grow in its by that joins thank you for the amuna and clell and Yad yada but a beautiful thing now I feel a little creepy because I didn't realize it was for women and I asked can you add me to the chat but so don't add me to the chat I didn't read carefully I didn't realize it was just for women don't add me to the chat we're good I didn't read it so carefully don't add me to the chat we're good but it's amazing and everyone has to have their own chat and everyone here should be added the women to the chat because it's a beautiful thing hello it's been nine months we'll do maybe one more and then we'll get back into our text it's been nine months since I was let go for my job super destabilizing for me my wife and my child I saw a job that I was perfect for and work to get an interview I've been trying to finish TM every month and for ell I up the anti and just finished for the second time this month today I started the day at Capital 90 and finished 150 three minutes before the call during the call I was told I was ineligible due to an internal rule about returning employees I built so much amuna Equity into role that's where you believe that Hashem is answering your fos and your Yeshua is here but hasem has different plans while I'm deflated tired and burnt out I know I just need to get some rest recharge have a coffee go for a walk and start as Capal Al Here We Go Again from the start so again these emails are very powerful to me because here's somebody not and it worked out and I said to H and I up the anti and now I do it twice a month and I got the job and it was perfect and so good I was fired because this job is so much better it's and I didn't get the job and I don't know what's next but I'm going back to tum starting from the beginning again and I know that Hashem has a plan for me and those are the most powerful those are the most powerful the ones that don't have the positive and happy ending at the end of the story and the people nevertheless nevertheless stay true oh there's so many good [Music] emails one more okay okay here's one more hi you don't know me and I'm actually not a major follower of you either love those those keep me humble those are good though I do look every now and then my daughter heard you speak when she was a camper at such camp and spoke nicely okay daughter I recently read your piece about the astronauts that got stranded so happens to caught my attention because my husband's an avid space exploration Enthusiast but the message itself hit home so much for me I'm going through a very hard time in a very private way I've read and reread and printed and read the article I keep reminding myself I'm exactly where I'm supposed to be maybe in the perfect world we can some have someone in our personal lives that gives us in just the way we need it but somehow in a perfect way you're giv me the we don't even know each other I'm appreciative May the Tor you share continue to again people in hard times leaning into amuna and finding the strength to navigate whatever they're going through because a Jews never stuck astronauts in space or the women of kabad in Detroit or wherever we are we're not stuck we are where we're meant to be and we are where we're meant to go and that is the way it is okay last one hope all well with you and your family as usually I turn on the yesterday as he read the first am email I felt hashem's wink a couple weeks ago or was it last week we read an email I think it was last week a heart transplant surgeon who's been harvesting Hearts from soldiers four more killed yesterday their family should have strength and comfort and the Heart Searcher described how they read about before they transplant the heart into a patient whose life will be saved they read about the soldier who gave their heart and his email was he has complete inem he just doesn't understand why Hashem seems to be taking the best the best and robbing us of what they could have done and who they could have be been and the difference they could have made that itself is its own I got an email about that and had a back and forth discussion are we robbed of who people could be or did Hashem never had plans for those people to be able to do more because that was always hashem's plan to only live to that point it's an interesting conversation a discussion not for now but back to this email so I read that email about the amazing cardiac surgeon who's a very very special person what my four-year-old granddaughter had a heart transplant last week it's been a difficult ongoing Journey but this email reminded me that Hashem is here holding my hand every step of the way bar she's improving every day we continue DAV she has a complete refa she's been in the hospital since sh she's had many bumps in the road and many hugs as well I needed a little pickme up yesterday and turning on the shear to hear the first email about a heart transplant was the the exact pickme up I needed it was a reminder that hm is the ultimate Ro he's holding our hand every step of the way we continue to DAV will grant to our pre complete appreciate if everyone could for as well thank you for the y y y life should be filled May our be answered by an early listener and contributor to our Global campaign whose family contributed many times in our first Global campaigns and you should get sushi delicious Sushi from them so should be have complete Raa we should hear only good things about that there are more emails we'll have to come back to them because you come for a she we have to learn Torah as well but incredibly powerful the people not whose life are Hony dor end well it's nice to say thank you when the plane landed and you didn't uh crash into the river it's even more incredible to have a Muna when you're going through a hard time and you don't know how your story ends health and work and children and much more okay we're learning by the holy RIT Morganstern mayor and he's been telling us that Chua is not about it is also about the particulars where did I go wrong what mistake did I make how do I own up how do I express remorse and regret for the past how do I accept to improve in the future but to only engage in the particulars and the details and to lose the forest for the trees for what it's supposed to be about is to miss out on what chuva is chuva repentance the root of the word chuva is Lash which is to return and what are we returning to we are returning to a life with Hashem we could live as physical material beings we could be bodies or we can be souls and it's hard to remember we're a soul why because we wake up in the morning and this aches and this hurts and this is hungry and this needs to be taken care of and we remember we're a body our body is screaming out from pamper the body indulge the body take care of the body nurture the body work out the body feed the body the body is reminding us every moment of the day and night the body is constantly reminding us you're a body the soul not so much somebody who's not sensitive and tuned in somebody who's not picking up the signal of the Soul sometimes it's easy to forget you are a soul so we think I'm a body and you say to somebody how is your day what do you have on to today oh today got to pack the lunches I gotta drive CP I got to go shopping I got to cook I've got to go to work got to return some phone calls I've got to work out I've got I've got I've got to okay all that was your body all those things revolved around got to shop I've got to cook I've got to plan I've got to prepare I've got to drive carpo I've got to work out I've got to go to work I've got to earn my money I've got to go to the bank I've got to stop at the drive cleaner I've got to stop I got to return the thing I gotta bu all of that was our body how often do we say to someone what do you have on tap today for your soul now it could be that working out is for your soul and eating is for your soul and sleep is for your soul and coffee with a friend is for your soul what's incredible about Judaism what we try to endorse and Empower and Inspire for ourselves and others all all along our whole theme and brand of life is that it's all integrated all those things the workout and the eating and the going to work and going to the dry cleaner can also be for your soul depending how you do it depending how you do it what do you imbue it what's your thoughtful what's your intent what's your mindfulness while we're doing it it all doesn't only have to be for the body each of those very same things eating can be for the body eating can be for the soul sleeping could be for the body sleeping could be for the soul going to the dry cleaner could be for the body for fashion and for clothing and for and going to the dry cleaner could be for the soul how could it be for the soul going to the dry cleaner it could be for the soul because the person who's dry cleaning you're picking up feels appreciated and grateful you remembered you thought they didn't have to be asked and you've improved your relationship could be for the soul because you picked up the shabas clothing which enhances shabus and you're so excited each time you come home from the dry cleaner with the plastic even have much it cost but I have shabus clothing pure pristine beautiful we're honoring the chabas I'm home with the dry cleaning for shabas clothing it could be anything that we do can be positive or negative can be holy or mundane profane it's all the intent the mindfulness we bring to it but it's so easy to slip it's so easy to slip back into that place of I'm a body Nancy I'm fine BR I'm fine don't worry it's so easy to fall back to the place of I'm a body I'm a body no I'm a soul I'm not a body that is a soul I'm a soul that is a body say you know what ell is about you know what all this is about and we're running out of time it's slipping away the clock is ticking we're halfway through L it's already Arab rashash as the person who has to speak on Raj trust me it's already AR Raj it's already we're running out of time but you know what El is all about I'm working on reminding myself I am a soul and I have a body I'm not a body that has a soul I'm a soul that has a body thank you so much I am a soul that has a body how can I go I want to live a life of Souls I want a soul existence I want a spiritual existence I want to measure an experience and a perspective and a personality that everything is spiritual and as a soul I'm filled with gratitude and I'm filled with love and I'm filled with energy and I'm filled with spirit and I'm filled with spirituality and it's not living down here I'm not living down here car and my house and my clothing and my food and my meal and my no I'm living up here I still have those things I can still enjoy those things but I'm living in another existence and that says r that says is what Chua is all about it's what El is absolutely all about it's about living in that place it's about living in that way it's recognizing eternity it's living in the here and now as Immortal Eternal beings as Immortal Eternal Eternal beings remembered one more I wanted to read to you which wasn't a letter to me it's the letter it's the letter that Rachel Goldberg Rachel PA and Goldberg wrote to the world after getting up from Shiva talk about a soul that lives in a spiritual Soulful place who's able to see and have that perspective to the world it's worth reading this whole letter and B NE I'll post it in our group join the WhatsApp group to stay on time when when our Shar and extra material but I'll just just just to just to take out a a um just to take out a paragraph or two she writes to the world and to Hashem she writes I feel tremendous relief he's not in that hell hole literally anymore I'm so relieved we gave his battered and abused body a proper Majestic and H burial I'm so relev that is beautiful Nama is finally free I will now have to learn to be in this world without him but having him all the years I did is worth the pain I will have worth every tear and sigh and lump in my throat and every Pang of pain until my until it's time to be B buried next to him when I'm 120 and have many grandchildren and great- grandchildren hopefully named hsh she writes thank you you unbelievably generous kind tender caring thoughtful benevolent brilliant and loving people thank you endlessly and always for holding us however you did during the dark chapter keep doing we all survive and thrive again somehow someway someday because we will may his light Inspire us may his memory be a blessing and she writes on and on thanks Hashem for the year she did have her and thanks all people and sees him as a n not a body and longs to the day she'll be reunited with him and understands that his Nisha is now flying free she's a rebi we're learning reicha Mayer you could learn Rabel Poland Goldberg she's there people there are hot spots of amuna they are extraordinary Role Models Heroes who you never heard of on October 6th in October 6th unless you liveed near her unless you came from where she was from Virginia unless you knew them you didn't know them but as of October 7th and eth and since is just a teacher to all of us an inspiration an inspiration to all of us wow what a letter the whole thing is worth reading so it says get back to that place grab on and latch on and use as a hot spot people like her and others and realize that you're a soul not a body and you could look and live in this place called bodies or you could look and live in this place called souls and El is I want to elevate I'm ready to kick it up a notch I'm ready to elevate I want to live in life and in a world of Souls and I want to see that we didn't just land thank you Hashem for letting the pilot help us land that's how you live in a place called Souls I'm going through a hard time but I'm leaning on you Hashem because I know I know that when you're in charge and you're in control and you're the shepherd and you have a plan and everything is for a reason I have to take my initiative can't make excuses I can't cop out I have to do my part but once I do I let go and I let you Hashem because you have a plan that's called living in a place called Souls when it comes to our priorities when it comes to what we get anxious over get angry over what we're upset said about I prioritize and I calibrate my life through that prism putting on those glasses that I'm a soul not a body I understand that so that's ch ch is I want to go back to a life and to a place called Souls thank you so we're on page L I think I think tell me if I'm wrong if you don't remember if I'm wrong then it's okay that we start here anyway what comes out is we mistakenly think that ell is the time that you walk around like this I'm so nervous lightning is gonna strike and hashem's gonna get pay me for all the things I did wrong and I'm in such trouble and I'm so nervous and I'm so anxious I'm so worried and I'm so miserable that's not el el is a huge smile and positive energy and I'm soem is amazing isn't Hashem amazing and life is amazing and I'm going back to living as a soul so I feel Awake and Alive and Hashem is amazing is there a greater joy and happiness than a son who was distanced alienated ostracized rejected and now comes home to his father's house and his father's there with open arms and says come come my child let me hold you let me hug you I'm so happy you're back I'm so happy you're home I've missed you I love you and they are on fire now this father son a couple who are estranged to have had a fight when they reunite when they feel close when they feel connected they are alive there's a skip in their step they have a renewed sense of of life and of love and all year long maybe we've become distanced and alienated maybe we forgot Hashem maybe we think mistakenly Hashem forgot us we feel far from him and ELO comes we're awake and we're alive and feels amazing so if a person is really if you're engaged in chuva in the process of chuva you're not walking around sad and miserable and forbis and anxious and worried you're walking around with a smile and alive and awake and happy and joyous and excited because Hashem is standing there with his open arms and he's saying my son you may have disappointed me you made choices and decisions that don't align with what I want or hoped for you but you're my son and come here and come home and I want to hug you and I want to hold you and I love you and we're going to figure this out and I want to restore and I want to rebuild and I want to reconnect and we're in this together and the sun says that is the greatest possible relief on the planet to know my father who's smarter and wealthier and more connected is here to help me and he welcomed me with open arms and no matter what mistakes I've made he wants to help navigate that next step there's no source of greater joy in the world so it's a Awakening and there's no it's amazing it's amazing so say somewhat boldly and I'm paraphrasing doesn't say this exactly if you see somebody walking around in Els anxious and nervous and Afraid and worried then it's not Chua that they're engaging in because real CH to return to be a life of Souls and Spirits is to actually bring happiness and joy and it's true the son is welcome back into the father's arms still has to say Dad I'm sorry I crashed the car I'm sorry I destroyed the Y I'm sorry I squandered your money at the casino I'm sorry I spoke negative and posted about you online I'm sorry I spoke to that way about you I embarrassed you I'm so they have things that I'm sorry has to be genuine has to be sincere has to be real I'm sorry the son still has to pay the piper the son father us to be held accountable there are consequences we're not suggesting it's kumay come home going to sing and hug and happy and let bygones be bygones no that's not real that doesn't last you have to make amends you have to come home and reconcile you have to come home and work but the Sim the underlying Sim of I'm home and I'm welcome and and there's a future and is there a pair I saw I may repeat this but I saw on Russ night we say s it's a very interesting discussion because generally speaking we reject Superstition silly Superstition we left that in Egypt God took us out of Egypt because he made us a people who believe only in him not silly superstitions not silly superstitions and yet we come to the rashash table and what do we do let's dip the apple on the honey why we'll have a sweet ear ah you murdered you raped you stole you pillaged you're a terrible person you're unethical you're immoral you speak gossip and slander but don't worry because you dip the Apple in the honey so it's going to be a sweet ear that's a religion that we believe in I thought we don't believe in that but you know what let's really hedge our best so we're not is going to dip the Apple in the honey we're also going to have fenp and gourds and dates and we're also going to have a sheep's head and a fish head and an eyeball and we're gonna our table is gonna be filled with props and we're gonna have a Russ seder and does a magnificent job in our home with this and cabbage we're gonna have it's a whole carrots pomegranates it's a whole spread it's a gansa spread it's harder than the pesak Seder set up maybe not set up the rashash Seder it's a whole spread who's going to have the courage to eat the fish eyeball who's going to eat the sheep's head it's a whole spread and why do we do all that because what do we say SSA says s signs and symbols Milsa they're meaningful they have weight how do they have weight so that's a whole discussion for another time we don't believe in silly superstitions none of those things actually work in a superstitious way they don't work because we did them what they do is they trigger in us they are reminders and and symbols and signs for us to be our best selves so we use them as props to remind us their symbols and signs and props to remind us to be our best selves with the hope that that that that prayer will come true with it we want to be the head not the tail we want to defeat by the way 80 90% of those have to do with defeating our enemies Crush our enemies destroy our enemies which tells you everything about Jewish history that we are so consumed by in every generation including ours never last year SSA no body last year looked at the cell phone that was plugged in and said may you make pagers explode that 4,000 pagers should explode and maim and injure and kill and make blind thousands of terrorists to the North of Israel nobody thought that's Simon see nobody has a pagro so nobody thought that's Simon but you didn't even look at your cell phone and think that's Simon Hashem is amazing and he works in amazing ways ways he'd never dream could never happen simsa so we believe simsa not all year WR the red Bendle around your wrist is silly and superstitious and in fact the to Calli it is a a idolatrous practice you know who it's a schoola for the old woman at the cotel who you gave money to because she convinced you it would help you in life that's who it's a schoola for her parasa not yours it does nothing for you untie it cut it off the red bendal has no basis is only referenced once through all of our Torah literature and that is to reject it and call it an idolatrous practice we don't believe in the red string around your wrist the red Bendle it's only a schoola for the person who's selling it to you not for you whatsoever we don't believe in it so all year long we don't believe in these silly superstitions but s rashash night oh the gourd and the cabbage and the and the fenu Greek we don't even know what that is and the and the carrot all these props why because they remind us and they are symbols for us about what matters so I saw a beautiful Source I forgot who it was maybe this F I forgot who it was who said don't forget at your Russ table the biggest Simmon if SSA if in fact these signs and these symbols are meaningful and they mean something and they make a difference don't forget the most important suon at your y table and you know what it is a smile on your face the biggest Simmon of Simon Milsa is to smile smile the rashash should not be miserable and anxious and unhappy and worried and fearful and fright the rashash should be joyous excitement about a new year and a new opportunity and we're ating the king and we are subjects and members of his kingdom what a privilege and what an honor and how wonderful SSA sandal and signs they matter they mean something and our face the the smile on our face counts even though it's true that one of the core one of the core ingredients of the formula of chuva is Regret remorse and a person has to be genuine and sincere in their remorse the a person has to be miserable and bitter and unhappy about the mistake they made and about how how short they've come up and that's what a person has to feel you can't be happy go lucky I'll make amends with a smile with laughter okay you wanted me to say I'm sorry I'm sorry no it has to be real I'm broken by how I hurt you but I'm also so joyous that you are welcoming with open arms to start again I'm broken that I hurt you I'm working through that I hurt you I want to make amends that I hurt you I'm bitter at myself for how I hurt you but I'm simultaneously smiling and happy and Overjoyed because because you're giving me a new opportunity these are the mechanism the mechanics of chuva but they're not what chuva is about at the core of chuva is wake up is to wake up is to wake up and to be happy so I can't give a she now without referencing my ice bath just because ask me to so I will tell you it's in I'm not prizing I don't get any money but it's incredible I started these these uh I they're amazing you put yourself into this place of fight or flight your body can't survive there and your body releases these endorphins these adrenaline and it's absolutely incredible when you come out of that ice bath the next couple of hours it's like you drank five cups of coffee you're awake and you have Clarity and you're alive and all the science and all the research you could explore it on your own shows the health benefits both physically and mentally emotionally it's but I'm telling you you you come out you're first of all I conquered an inclination depending when you do at the beginning of the day I I don't want to go in there it's 30 it's 49 degrees that's freezing I'm gonna go in there and he say I don't really care I own you You Don't Own Me I'm going in and I got it and you start the day with a win and for three minutes you're in there you're meditating because you're not watching or listening or doing anything else and when you come out and now you have this release this chemical release you're awake alert alive and happy this Brody your son did it yesterday he went to a place and did an ice bath and you might have noticed yesterday he had skipping a step energy he was on fire he was amazing it's incredible chuva chuva is a spiritual ice path a spiritual ice plunge cold plunge you go in and you come out and is it a hard process can it even be painful is there discomfort in it absolutely but when you come out you're so B you're alive you're awake you're truest self and you have Clarity and there's a there's a joy there's a joy there's a joy I want to build on a new campus we're gonna build a ice right outside on your way into sh you think it'll be over by then so little faith you know all that does is challenge me wow the SAA Whatever It Whatever the next thing okay challenge received and accepted game on okay so but that is the spiritual chuva is the spiritual ice plunge wake up Clarity alert it's discomfort it's uncomfortable it's uncomfortable but sometimes when you put yourself in an uncomfortable place that there's work to do but you're going back to who you are it makes you awake it makes you alive it makes you your truest sense like a father going home true that father has to make amends and there has to be a conversation and there has to be an apology there has to be a regret there has to be a plan for it not to repeat itself going forward because otherwise how do you know that a person really knows and appreciates and understands their mistake that he really wants to return that'll come in the right time first the parent says come here give me a hug come here I want to hold you come here tell me are you okay yeah later tonight tomorrow we'll talk you got to make amends you got to apologize we've got to work through but for now just be here with me just be here with me we just want to go back to hem and begin to live with him again to talk to him and to hear him talking to us to be open to those winks and those hugs from above which a lot of people aren't because a lot of people feel stop telling me Hashem loves me because it sure doesn't feel like it so I want to refer you to listen last week behind the Bea was R mosha Weger it's worth listening not because anything I or we said wiberg wiberg try to interview him he's an L and one of the things we spoke about was because he spoke all about ell is not about fear ell is not about trembling El is not about God who wants to get you L is all about love it's about a father who loves you so I asked what would you say to somebody who feels doesn't feel like he loves me I've got challenges and issues in my life that it sure doesn't he's got a strange way of showing love sure doesn't feel like he loves me and it's well worth listening to what he answered I refer you to listen to behind the be last week with r linberger how does one live with love for Hashem when it doesn't feel like he loves us that's what we're working that's what El is we're in marriage counseling with the almighty we're working through our differences he's welcoming us home marriage can family family counseling parent child whatever metaphor you want to employ or use but L is I'm at the table I'm ready to go do the work I'm ready to work it out I want to be close there things we got to make amends the things we got to work out when it doesn't feel like you love me but I'm back in it I want to work it out we're in it for the long hole I want to feel close and connected I want my life to be integrated with yours there's no greater sweetness There's No Greater Joy you see that too couples who come out of counseling there's a therapist I refer to a lot some people love some people doesn't work as well with one person described her as it's like going 10 Rounds with Mike Tyson she holds people very accountable it's hard work you come out exhausted emotionally but also on fire and excited to to discover your new relationship a good therapist can help you it's exhausting it's uncomfortable it's hard work but you come out alive and awake and excited and optimistic about the first day of the rest of your life that's real Chua welcome to the Palace of the king welcome into this vulnerable place it's just joy and light and richness for a person is there anything better than a hug from God happens to be that God happens to be our father is also the king is there anything better than a hug from the king who happens to be your father so that's what shua is there's work to be done and we'll have to be uncomfortable and it's going to be going 10 rounds of Mike Tyson with Muhammad Ali It Ain't Easy you're gonna get punched and bruised in its hard work you're going to come out alive and awake and true to ourselves and the first day of the rest of our lives and there is nothing better it should be a day of keep the emails coming thank you to those who sent them please God we should hear good things today and every day you can find R Weinberger behind the Bea on our YouTube page or any podcast player