Lloyd and Edana Desatnick at The 9th Annual Project Inspire Convention

[Music] Long Island I did know much about anything from to Judaism standpoint but we did go to Temple for the High Holidays and that's the way I was brought up but from a conservative and a conservative environment and I grew up in Philadelphia and was always very proud to be Jewish but very uneducated from a Jewish perspective Edina and I met when we were freshmen in college quite a long time ago in 1979 and we finally got married in 1988 you got married at the Four Seasons in Philadelphia by a female rabbi so a wonderful beautiful wedding and I think we did many of the traditional things as far as walking around and doing it breaking the glass but had no idea what it meant we belonged as a family to a conservative temple and then one day just if a friend at the temple said to me there's just Tripp this free trip to Israel for moms a kind of a birth rate for moms and you should really go on this so I went on the JWR pee trip every day I learned something new and had amazing conversations with the observant women who were on it they were such a gift it was a complete game-changer for me when I came back I had the incredible privilege of being adopted by this woman's appear eyford from Borough Park and she almost immediately invited me to her home for Shabbos myself and my husband and when my daughter's got in the car and drove from New Jersey to Borough Park for our very first Shabbos I never spent a Shabbos period in any park anywhere anywhere but what we learned was there's family values there is values of religion God Hashem this was a new experience for me was just a beautiful way to spend a couple of days and it was a quick learning process and we enjoyed it and that's probably go back I subsequently met with Simcoe Barnett rabbi Barnett turns to me and says we're gonna have a men's trip the JW RP project inspire or J inspire men's trip so he says you want to go I said I'm there now I'm able to bring that experience home and all of a sudden our home changed completely when you think about what really has propelled us along this journey and what has really meant the most to us it has just been regular amazing observant people who their willingness to share that insight to bring us into their world to allow us to ask questions has been I would say by far the most valuable thing it has touched our lives in such a way they have become such models for us and we should only hope to one day live up to what they've shown us these wonderful people have just taken on us and there are so many opportunities for so many others like the folks that just mentioned that can do the same and make that impact find just regular folks like us we were at a wedding with Lori Pilat Nick and they asked about our original wedding and we of course told them we were married by a female rabbi at the four seasons and they were like okay and I'm doing a real Orthodox wedding and became an idea and rabbi Barnett who is a major incredible influence in our life came up with this idea of doing the wedding on the couples mission in Israel and we went into stopping at the wall and we just it was just beautiful it just felt like we were in the middle of a moment that Hashem was really there with us life now is is better there's more of a goal of growing giving back I don't think there's any piece of what we do today that is not in some ways been impacted by this journey and the fact that I now have Hashem kind of running the world for me and with me everything's different in a way that I would say is much more positive and much more grounded much more gratitude based then we might have been six years ago you [Music]