Look For The Good In Every Yid - [Blue Ridge Mishmar]

Today's lashon. So you just talking about it you doesn't it's it's an affair and you you can feel it in the person's self and others. Come on. You didn't don't knock other people and it's a tremendous pride. You spoke about it don't be going don't have lashon hara. What is that one of the words we have is lashon hara. And we know the the word that there's something called tzaraas that comes first to a person's bias, their clothing and ultimately their body telling the person to be zahir and not not to not to say bad about other people, not to knock other people. For years I have thought about this as I have learned with others. Many wonder typically negas tzaraas meant one thing typically. And negas tzaraas in learning erchin it does say other affairs but the simple the most famous at least and learning erchin describes it that negas tzaraas is a warning for lashon hara. But there's an example of another nega that was a good tzaraas that was a good thing. And the nega that was a good thing was in parshas metzora. Says show moshe aharon leimor ki solo eretz kenaan when we come to eretz kenaan asher ani nosein lachem that I'm that I'm giving you l'achuzah then a sad nega tzaraas appears on the clothing negas tzaraas. And rashi says bisuri ohav It was known hashem told them lose that negoyim they're going to get negoyim. Now this nega had nothing to do with lashon hara. With fee rashi says since she had to mean we shall serve the curious but they am the the sheva amim we were coming and we were capturing Harris and Israel and the seven nations they hid their wealth, their money in the walls of their houses. All the while we were in the desert, the guy knew where we were coming. We were coming home. The guy knew that we were coming home to Harris and Israel and they knew we capture Harris and Israel. So they hid their treasures because he was a pagan in the walls of their houses. Are you there yes we got here all the treasures were hidden. The Swarm speak about it. It's amazing we destroy what does it help to hide it? We forgot to destroy them and keep them out. So what does it help to hide it? This Hashish Swarm give all the reason. Why they hiding it? So you couldn't say he would run away and later come back. They knew we going to capture it. So what does it help to hide your money is deep me that stone that if we can't have it at least the hidden won't get it either. And because he was a pagan there are other there are other thoughts that's today thoughts to think what they were doing. What is worth that they're hiding money because he was a pagan in the walls of their houses. What they hid in the walls of their houses they hid their treasures. Interesting 40 years I'm sorry. 40 years they were anticipating us coming. Call that Shana they're like we're going to be coming. They're hiding their money in the walls of their houses. Are you there yeah yeah. We saw we came to Harris and Israel and right away some of the houses had been gone. We we had a ladder in the house shocks and there's a ladder in the house you have to take it apart. We took the house apart we found tremendous tremendous treasures. We found great wealth but we took down the bathroom. Now at what what makes anybody thinks is typically typically a nega tzaraas is lashon hara. And here's just another story of a nega. There was a good There was a It's not always bad. And Hashem used the very same nega that was a message to us by lashon hara. The very same nega was used to take apart the houses and to find the matzoh money I saw down from the that Zion armor. And through that we became very very wealthy through through that. Now, what does that have to connect to lashon hara in parshas tzav? It's unconnected to lashon hara, but it definitely gives pause that Hashem uses the same nega that tells us, "Hey, stop speaking lashon hara." And that nega that became tzaraas tzaraas was used in this way. Is there a message? Is it possible that there's some message that relates to lashon hara as well? In the fact that here the nega caused us to take apart our take apart the house and rebuild it and get tremendous wealth. What looked like negative for us turned into tremendous wealth. So, I just want to I want to I want I want to share with the chevre. I'm not looking to this for I don't know the answer. I don't know. Inter- I don't know the answer. Interesting. It make It brings different thoughts to mind. I really want to talk to the chevre about something. That's the truth. I don't need the floor to hang up. I'll say the word in a few minutes. I want to talk to the chevre. That lashon hara is such a side because people are so flawed. We do have flaws. We're human. There's so much human is around. Every person has so much human is There's human frailty everywhere. And And it has to be in our command not to speak lashon hara. It has to be something that deep understanding. One could say your whole life you attempted for it and bite your tongue your whole life. It's very unlikely that to me that Hashem was in Shabbos those people lashon hara. I don't know if if you were always just noticing all the bad. So, first of all we're going to have a lot of blood on our biting our tongues our whole life biting our lips. It's not very painful. There has to be an instruction here. There has to be an instruction. There has to be something that it's saying to us. All this is is surah of lashon hara instructive to us? It's It's interesting to me that we had a surah of Mahalachos surahs. And typically what happens is so we not enjoy don't spend our whole life not in person can't. But, we people don't spend our whole life like crazy chazzan. Thus it's saying that lashon hara we see negatives. It's even the Emes that it wants to say. So, firstly on this firstly on this firstly on this the I said we learned together in the past. We learned together in the past the Shmuel Burnbaum the Mir Yeshiva who said that the metzora the one who has tzaraas brings two birds because he chirps like a bird. He chirps like a bird and and Shmuel Burnbaum the Mir Yeshiva that's all he asked. He does a lot worse than chirping like a bird. He's saying negatives about how the bird is chirping like a bird. A bird chirps is a nothingness. He said the person who spoke lashon hara doesn't chirp like a bird. He He said shlechas tzaraas. So, Shmuel Burnbaum said something years ago with palm and Tishba, the famous the tzaddik and the teacher who who inspired clients of Schmaltz and Lashon Hara videos years ago when I was a youngster with Palms on one of the videos. I believe it was with Palm and Matt Barr and he said that it can't be avoided in return. He said we have to work on seeing good on people. And the Schmoel Burndeau said the same thing. He said that the problem is not saying bad on people. The problem is you're supposed to say good on people. And the the the chirping means he's not using his deeper right. The it's a smoke screen that the problem is the bad things he's saying. The bad things he's saying is not the problem. The problem is he's supposed to say good on people. We're precious people. Why aren't you walking around saying and saying good on people? Why aren't you doing that? So Schmoel Burndeau said he said that's the burden he brings that your deeper is like Kyle. He really did shiva. He brings the burden after the end of his machlokes with the other Lashon Hara. He's actually ready to come back to society. Now you tell him to say that he regrets speaking bad. You shouldn't even doubt the bad. Why aren't you saying good on people? Why aren't you saying good? Rav Palm said this on a video. Rav Palm said we have to practice seeing good and saying good on people. Rav Palm said it. It has to be It has to be that way though. It has to be. Hashem has to be that way though. Starts by ourselves. Who are we to place over my place over? We knock others because of our own lack of accept. We have to accept ourselves. So one of the silly Lashon Hara has to accept ourselves, see good in ourselves, and see good in others. We have to see good, say good, not just say good but it's true. People are wonderful. It's got to be the love There's no other attempt to keep the issue of Lashon Hara. It can't It's It's not It's It's not that Hashem is dying with us for something. So, it's not a person sitting there their whole life wanting to say bear by a coin. If that's the TV, that's the TV. The palm said start and we have to train ourselves. He said to see good in others. Of course, it starts if we see good in ourselves, we'll see good in others. But I want to I want to say something. What What we see We see shvat. We see weakness in ourselves and others. We see the full world full of weakness. There are challenges and there are It's a world full of challenges. There are a lot of challenges. And what I want to say, and perhaps this is the nega here, this nega, which looked like such a negative thing, and first of all, when the person took apart his house, he found tremendous riches. But you gain It It was our introduction when we came to Eretz Yisrael or the winds of autumn. We're going to move together. You know, much more in the midbar we were reliant on Hashem. All of a sudden the people are going to do commerce together, be in after communities, and all the things that that could bring up. They have to buy and sell and deal with each other and each other's deficiencies are going to hit each other. We're all human and we make human mistakes. And Hashem sends a message that in the space where something looks like destruction, there could be tremendous destruction there. It's one of the things that they hit the Matmanis. And we got the Matmanis in Eretz Yisrael in the Soviet Union and the things were kosher. That things can have tremendous turmoil. Matmanis and the meaning of the guy eventually come to us and are used for tremendous beautiful things. So, both the nega on the body is that looked like a negative and he became rich. It looked like he was in trouble. His is coming down and he ends up becoming rich. Both of us 20 years that used to belong to the marine, that was Molly Thomas and they're in that path to come to the end and our mind of Kusha is both the serving of things that look negative. And what the catch is a very holy space and holy things in them. And I think I think just knowing all around into into the goodness that we think like weakness that human often in the space where there's weakness tremendous holiness. Often by a soul in the space where we're weak, in the space where we have the silliness, people display tremendous tremendous Kusha. Often in the area we put ourselves down, there's tremendous struggle, there there's the chance for the human to bring tremendous Kusha and to others. To see others as vehicles for Kusha. Instead of looking around as negative things, you know, there's negative here, there's spaces for Kusha. There's spaces, beautiful spaces for the Kusha. Instead of seeing those challenges in ourselves as as negative, as down, there's space, the beautiful world is created. It's a world full of opportunity for Kusha. The 20 years of the marine that become our 20 years that become the whole of our creation. The negative which typically looks like it destroys it becomes a vehicle of great Kusha. To see to train ourselves to see in the world, in our own circumstances, instead of seeing negativity and Kusha, to see in the world as a space for Kusha. Stop seeing Kusha and see opportunity. Yeah, there is silliness, there's challenges, there's weakness, there's all different Well, that that's the space, that's the 10 so that allows the whole world words to grow, that allows for tremendous condition there. I said over I've said this here before we said that Kabbalah that every morning we describe the angels Sh'ma Yisrael Adonai Eloheinu Adonai Echad. And then we describe and then the Yid says Sh'ma Yisrael. And it always struck it struck me younger as funny that the angels have this perfect one. Do chulo Echad the safa brura the eima that's so beautifully and then the Yid says Sh'ma Yisrael. Like what hope do we have? Can we even compare to the angelic of all of us shalem? But the Sefer Kabbalah says fakir. They say Kadosh Kadosh Kadosh but they say Malchut Adonai Eloheinu. The angels are only like the they bring Kadosh Hashem but they say wait for the Yid to say Sh'ma Yisrael. With all his frailty, with all his chaser, with all his challenges, in those spaces he brings tremendous Kadosh Hashem. If we can see the world and our own our own chaser and our own challenges, our own flaws and falls and even mistakes yesterday as places that we can bring Kadosh Hashem. In those spaces Malchut Adonai it's a beautiful world that in every nook and cranny there can be Kadosh Hashem there. Instead [snorts] of seeing people this people can go around like like marking everybody and what is so silly in this? People have a space for Kadosh Hashem. That they what are their silliness, what are the difficulties that they have? That's exactly a space of Kadosh Hashem. The machmadim and the mar'im are hidden and the nega instructs the Yid to get those machmadim to go from chul to kodesh. The nega which looks like it's destroying the bayis ends up giving him a shiyur. The space that you see chaser there all could be tremendous mile and games tremendous kodesh and tahara here. I think that's the outlook of the world, a beautiful outlook, an amazing world, a world of shamayim. You see it? Yeah, difficulty, frailty, challenges, space is a kodesh shamayim. Let me see it working through. A person could see, I think, instead of seeing a world of tzarah a person can see a world there's opportunities kodesh shamayim. That's That's the beautiful world we live in. Chazal describe it yafeh sha'ah b'yomo zeh. This world is not kosher, it's wild what Hashem did. We whisper baruch Hashem, it's an amazing world. Somebody could become I don't feel badly for the person that has a negative view of this whole world. Everything That's just flawed. Everybody messes up. Yeah, this one's this, this one's that, I'm this, we're all like tremendous mistakes, it's a hell of a k'fel. It's a gorgeous world of kodesh shamayim, the space for human beings to rise up and to decide and to have a moment, to have a sincere thing. It's a beautiful world of space for humans. I think there's a I might be the biggest kodesh shift of 120 to me is we're going to join the angels and say "Mal'ei ha'aretz k'vodo." The angels look at this world and say "Wow, kodesh shamayim." That's their view of this world, "Mal'ei ha'aretz k'vodo." Just space is a kodesh shamayim. I just see kodesh, they see guf and they tell themselves "This is a world of frailty." I don't know how that's not There's not frailty out there, people are not going to be so weak and full of weaknesses and mistakes and people's shortcomings and people's mistakes, all different giant mistakes, big mistakes, small ones. Yes, there is mistakes that overwhelm the human being. All these things one can see that stations of a backdrop that a human being can rise, can have a sincere thought, can have a hero children, can can can serve amidst so much going on and so many challenges. There's a beauty, a tremendous beauty to the world. I think if we gain the eyes of angels to flash in heart that really allows the person to see a beautiful world, not to knock, not to rip, not to see the sorry. You're busy with human frailty, with mistakes. A human being has shown me a human being that has challenges, that makes mistakes, and that's all the opportunity because of those mistakes and challenges and frailty is all the opportunity for the to create the life of the world of shame will say that shame is a beautiful world. A lot of people that give the shame to my life sunny world. I read these my read these yards that was was a week ago and I don't know the story a little bit the last few days. I had a very interesting view of the world. He viewed the world like he like celebrated human frailty. It wasn't a negative thing. It was a beauty to it and towards that people respected all types of people. But it was like the something in the frailty of a person was the space that in that space the human being can be so full of faith. So full of choices of saying the human being who says throw out his station, with his station, with her difficulties, with whatever is going on by the human being. He saw a very beautiful world. It was a very beautiful world of of frail people serving a shame expressing he saw this in going even and certainly certainly have them tremendous have them in the Israel army so I get you in the simple year he saw tremendous opportunities of we watch our different friends and neighbors amidst challenges you see people are really big people to sit here and dining up and pointing out human frailty and miss the civility of this world. You miss like under your eyes if you you human frailty and that's the world that's not that's the it's not it's not it's not going to this is not going to be even people people say negative and they call this down on the shackle. There's a certain like despise in the world of shackle. There's a what we're saying is there's that Hashem gives space for human beings that's what we're saying it's not human manners. And it means there's a space for the human being that the human being for the human being to say Israel Hashem for the human being to be for the human being to learn a line of human being to say Israel Hashem Hashem. I think if we can see the world as a space for for human being amidst frailty we'll stop being so busy highlighting the frailty that's that's not that's not the subject the subject is the beautiful human you have to in the world you're explaining that in the world there's room to the world there's room to now notice now notice the that's the world be like the angels the world see the tremendous condition that's all around. One way or another with sadness and again each person had a gift I don't know that that we see a world. It has to be in the hope of Russia and Ireland that that is not just to bite our tongue and not say but it's to see to eat. To see to eat and say to eat which of course the person has to start with themselves their own opportunity of to eat their own innate goodness and then to see in others come up with some little more to eat. And then my discipline when you should be more than somebody when you should be. So if a guy talks in shul and you see a wonderful person wonderful person is his shul and so well dressed might even have his kid with him to push to took the kid from his wife you will shine him from him but then you feel you know maybe he's one year old treating him in shul he's disturbing others but you will shine him from him then you can give him more to eat. Instead if you're not amazed by him then call a person a woman first don't give him more to eat. I don't see you giving more to eat. Until the man advises people if you if you're poison if you're a gentle person then it's no room. And after here's something second the point is seen as a good as a shining good as precious good that's going to give to her you see him as bad as no good. I think to remember also under in the space often that we call something bad neighbors the shul is a very good. That 20 years where there's a neighbor deeper under the house there's a big richness so they got shul even things we label and put in the bad column the person shul is good the shul people is very good. I think I I this this physical it's all there's a pride that with the people with the nations with silver and helpless Russian Ireland to to think that we always can use a person there's so much talk about it we're reading I'm going to tell you this one share with my friends and make it pleasant in any way. We're talking a specific point, but in any way that we can make it talking that say bad on others. The cases of the persons with the talk is not have a pride with our children. I have an amnesty of pride and another year. This precious. We speak all the time about the preciousness of our people. I told the I'm reading a lot of messages this year. I've seen I love we say all different ways so many times. Besides it's the most common expression in I believe. I'm many many times it's repeated our chance people. I'm I'm Israel. To learn to say good and say good and people. Speak good about say good in the home that they should be a year should be praised. I'm thankful I I'm certain that my father and his mother was somebody who impacted the whole family. She said good on you. She was a hidden. Only count the blessings of you. My friends would like to come around and hang with me. My grandmother would say good on everybody. Say good balance me. I'm going to say good on people. Don't go around laughing people like your children, not our wives, not ourselves to sit to see and say good on people. We could we could say many great things. Let's stop and take a tremendous pride with the quality of Israel. There's been a tremendous awakening of Israel since last year ago. Let's take it to the center of my people. Not my people. Interesting even two brothers that have a fight. They have somebody tries to catch one of the brothers. That all of a sudden they rally to the brother's attention. One of the things that's happened to us in in having in that captivity is we're more sensitive to eating. You know tell I was in eating with my brother hostage. People thought it was eating. It turned out it wasn't eating. I swear to God I was crying. I was like cheering when he walked in the office for a year. You could feel the word that one of ours was eating. Eating. There's a There's a sense and a pride in eating. Let's bring it to our Shabbos table. Let's bring it to our houses. Not to say anything about eating. Let's bring it to our houses. All of us. It's It's It's something the Habit Shaim was saying. I've always I've always had such an affinity. I named my son Israel Meir. Always had tremendous appreciation of the idealism of our faith. Tremendous idealism. And he brought in awareness specifically and I speak much more. I'm not saying there I am. I only give a bracha to us all that we should deserve to have good in our night and really good eyes to see good in ourselves and to see good in eating. And in night times you see good in eating. Let's bring the chazzan. Let's practically all of this is something that always needs chazzan. Let's speak chazzan to see good in eating, to say good about eating, to speak good. Speak good about eating. All All segments of Klal Yisrael, all the different parts of Klal Yisrael. There's so much to see. There's so much beauty in every part and every segment of Klal Yisrael. The human is the space that that's interesting. You notice in this world this world has a space. Forget the shamayim. The sense of Klal Yisrael is not wireless. There's a space. You beings is the space for people. And in that weakness, in that in that history, bring tremendous so much faith, so much goodness. That's in the hazard. It's interesting from far from when you look at people from far, you judge. You get to know all of us though. You get to know some of you close. You see my From far you can see but you get to know people From that space of closeness, you tell me a brocha and a tfila for us all of leading and all of us that she should give us all of Am Yisrael. And then the Rebono Shel Olam say good on each other. Then the Rebono Shel Olam sees good. Achim Yisrael, one of the causes of galus Mitzrayim was lashon hara. Was Yidden saying bad to each other. Why should Yidden say Achim Yisrael? We have to know why this why why Klal Yisrael goes through what they go through. The Ramchal says that one of the questions he asked after 120, one of the first questions we're challenged in our life is to love thy friend and you treat your friend like a relative. Are you machabeid your friend? Are you machabeid people The emes to be machabeid, it means in Shamayim they're not wasting, they're not being trivial. It means a friend is worthy of being treated with royalty. That's what it means. A person is worthy when you treat like royalty. My wife when she married the family, my father would talk about him so much. My father would show him his daf yomi. He would talk about his parsha of the week. My wife would ask, "Who are these people?" And she met them. She talked to some of my father's students. Spoke good about people. He was like excited. The emes emes of Yidden. He's excited about people. Each one there was so much to learn from, so much to see. And if we could be machazeik with people chassidish and loving so that tremendous so many times in the to repeat the amount of laughing and saying in our room from the most important things of the shows repeated over and over. When a guy is a talent that I like I like hearing about good people. Somebody is a talent of a Russia shape of a brother. I was asked what does he speak about a lot? So what does he speak about a lot? It's a big theme in the Torah. Can you say it's the biggest? It's a big theme in the Torah. It's repeated over and over and over. This is the hero's lot to say what to not to not over the years. The brother should give us the in line to see good in others and not to show them to not over the years.