Daf Yomi Bechoros Daf 49 by R' Eli Stefansky

Good morning Reb BOYS AND I DO YOU KNOW WHO THIS MAN IS? HE IS ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT GUYS HERE. WELCOME TO ALL the guests. I see some special guests over there. All the phones are out. Even Elvis is a new guy here. Shalom aleichem. Reb boys and I, check this out. We have here a workout place where they sell special big day workout before the workout. Check this out. I love it. I love it with our very good friend Nathan Freund in the background. Hold on. That's that that guy is stop. Oh here we go. I love it with the tzitzit with the white shirts. >> There we go. >> Oh I am working out and learning Torah all at the same time. Now What are you doing? You want sports on? What are you complaining about Skylar? What are you complaining about? Okay, here we go. And This is not how you learn Torah, but this is how you drive a Ferrari. It's the famous Yoni Dykman, the guy that comes all the way to Israel to play the music for us. Oh I'm in America. Yeah, he is still awesome. He was there at the the But look, he he's He's in Paris. He's in Paris. He's wearing like Parisian clothes. This is this is a word. He's wearing They're looking at him all the all the way down with the cap, the whole thing. That's the the hum of the engine. Oh oh oh >> This is that's my son. You're sitting or if you're in your Ferrari. >> Yeah? >> And then it's all in Arabic. >> Oh. >> And it's all in Arabic. >> [music] >> We not see you. 47 LA locations and I just drew all of them real quick, maybe That was a one-time thing we did. >> [music] >> Who? >> [music] >> No, I think it's still hurt your ears literally. >> [music] >> It's a swap of pictures. I got to tell you now, [music] instead of three people they went they took it from the day that was fun. >> [music] [music] >> Very hard. Do we want to go there? >> If you did that, then everyone would have to come every night. Maybe we'll come to your place. >> It's too hard to set up. It's it ruins the Every time we go somewhere offsite the uh Not sure if I'm joking. I have to give it to you but I don't want to but this is a push for women to push their husbands and tell their friends about it. This maise was unbelievable. Those who know the the real story behind it, they know. I'm not going to show it again. >> His mother is Ari Davis's sister. >> What? >> His mother. >> Yeah. >> He's Ari Davis's sister. >> Unbelievable. Okay. But it's interesting cuz like one of his relatives reached out to us perhaps you could take off the the his name. Like like you can't say anything this year. Every word you say the guy said his name. Of Can you please It is. Okay. Literally, literally. Reb Eli, good morning, Reb Eli. You saved my son's life. Just messing. My kids My kids loved the video with the letter that she wrote. I walked into my 10-year-old Yaakov Weiss's room this morning to wake him up. He's actually named after my grandfather's your in-laws' old neighbor, Jack Schnell, from 6448 St. Louis. That's the house that literally right across the street from my house in Lakewood. Was very upset when I saw him on his MP3 player at 8:25 in the morning when he should have been all dressed up since he's getting ready for Yeshiva. But when he showed me that he was listening to the day's Shiur for the last 40 minutes, my whole reaction turned from anger to nachas. Reb Eli, not only have you changed my son's life, but you've changed the lives of thousands of kids across the world. I have no doubt that there are other young boys out there who go to sleep and wake up with a daf. So from all of us proud parents out there, we just want to say thank you for making Torah attainable and enjoyable not only for us baalei batim, but for even young boys because we all know if it's not the daf, then it's probably YouTube videos, movies, and the internet rachmana litzlan. Reb Eli, you've saved our lives. Your beloved husband, Simcha Yuma Pehay, Avigdor Weiss, and my son Yaakov Weiss, Clifton, New Jersey. Hashtag shoutout to Clifton. New satellite location coming soon. Stay tuned. Last night a loud from JFK to Tel Aviv, the best way to use the time waiting for boarding to be complete. Your destruction of Gershy Gross yesterday. Dear Reb Eli, I want to begin by expressing my hakaras hatov for your Shiurim which have changed my life. I lost my love of learning for 20 years after Yeshiva, and your Shiurim have helped me rediscover it together with the daily commitment to Torah. It's precisely because your Shiurim mean so much to me that I wanted to write about the way you responded to Gershy's email at the beginning of this year. I believe Gershy was raising a real issue in Chareidi society. Elitism. There's so much emphasis on top boys, top girls, top boys does, top shidduchim, often measured by some combination of wealth, looks, intellect, and yichus. Those that not fit that mold, this can be deeply damaging. Is that how you spell mold? In England? >> Maybe. >> Qualities such as middos, yiras Shamayim, ameilus baTorah, and chesed can too easily be overlooked. Gershy's objective Thomas Malcolm and asking him partly responsible for getting me into the consistent way. I'm another Hararis started I know Hararis they call it Hararis they like to call it Hararis. You may disagree with this argument or the way you expressed it but I felt your response reinforced the very concern he was raising. What troubled me most was that you chose to read his email out and then respond in a way that I felt probably belittled him. I hope he doesn't care that I'm reading his email now. Disagreement with someone's point is one thing. How we treat that person in front of an audience is another. I would have hoped this is concerned could have been addressed without making personal. Warm regards, Avi Barr London. So I did apologize to him. And my my point was not I wasn't even getting to the top top and that wasn't The point is that every almost every word I say somebody has a aura. That wasn't I was hoping that my good friends like I'm very close to Gershy and that's why I actually spoke to him about it. But I yeah. Is that they wouldn't bother me and and and pick and and then take every word I say cuz you know I don't have the greatest filter and the Cut me some slack that's what I'm saying. The guy like I'm getting all the the mails from it Take the guy's name out. Why? No no no you have to take his name out and then and then do don't say this word don't say that word okay so okay. MDY Las Vegas Join us every Thursday night Sholom the more. Um Alava Malko the famous Alava Malko in Monsey church. And in Staten Island Staten Island needs a little chizuk here from the picture. Also this Toronto needs some chizuk. Toms River does not need chizuk. I mean it could use some. This is every night. They do every night. >> Did you figure out why that location is doing better than other locations? >> Toms River? >> Yeah yeah. >> It usually has to do with with the guy running it the guy that pushing Staten Island Staten Island the the guy is there but I don't know the >> If they could do the satellite without being at the same time as as [snorts] this year. >> Right. >> doing Toms River. If it's if it just takes the person that's easier. >> It's not food. It's not those TV. It's the person that runs it the person that has the you have a David Solomon in Miami goes and pushes and it's not the food. >> Who's the guy in [clears throat] the conference room? >> I mean, I don't know. I don't remember his name. I know him. I don't remember his name. Then he came to ask yellow Pete. Two guys, I think. It's more than It's one and a half guys. Rafael Schwartz is his name. >> Iron [clears throat] L official in honor of Reb Baruch Dovid his Dovid. >> I said Nathan Kaminsky yellow Pete. Daf Yomi test Yitzie Naomi Hollander Yitzie Hollander as a source for all our fields to be answered amen. David Solomon dedicated memory of Reb Meir and I'm not putting down the other people. Just we have It's about the attitude. It's when you come with a certain attitude and you push. It's about getting having a WhatsApp and pushing people and reminding people. You have to live it. The guys here in Israel This is what we saw from experience in Israel. The guys that live it, there's a lot of satellite locations in Israel that they closed down or only have two, three people. And they want it. They do. They get on our Zoom meetings and they say, "But you see a difference." You see a guy I speak to Sherman's parents. This is the guy He lives it. He's not even going to be alive. You're going to be alive, you're going to be successful. David Solomon dedicated memory of Reb Meir Shmuel Baruch Berel Chaim Tzvi Dovid. Maseches dedicated by Dr. Nissan Sharf in Dental Services. 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What do we have I have very very good riddles today. This one I have a feeling that not even a single person will know the answer even though it's super super common and uh we do this on a daily basis. Here's the question. When do we do a pidyon haben on day 30 or day 31? Anybody? Anybody could could could jump in. Don't even wait. You say 30. How do you have a bachur? You don't have a bachur. Maybe that's why you're saying it. What? You say 31. You don't have a bachur? Then maybe that's why you said it. >> [laughter] >> Huh? What do you say? 30. 31. On every table we have a 30 and a 31er. There's only one person that knows the answer in this room so far. Elimelech Goldberg, what's the answer? I heard you saying it. Elimelech, what do you say? Oh. It's not day 30 or 31. It's 1 month from the time the child was born. So mamela it's 29 days and 12 hours and tafshin peyzan chalakim. Meaning you could do a pidyon haben on day 30 uh you know, 4 hours before shkiah because that's if the boy was born at night, so you start counting 12 29 days, 12 hours. You like that? But the real I mean, just to be sure, so the answer would be 31. 30 is not an option. 30 is not an option. It's either you know, close to 31 or 30 Okay, that's that's question number one. Yeah. Yeah. The Torah. >> [laughter] >> It says in the Torah choidesh. It says a month. What? It says choidesh. It says a and a month is 29 12 hours 20 days I don't know. So what's your name Sadiq? From where? So from where where London? Stamford Hill ah I just sent a message to about Beltsky. It's unbelievable that uh he saw one of my interviews he's he's a had a business and he saw me for people where I said you know take off you don't have to work 14 hours a day 15 hours he said oh and he took off an hour and he started doing uh a riser and then he took off another hour and he started giving the sheer then he saw you know mom is a story that happened to me that you see that it's not even enough so 3 hours for just then he gave the business to his brother basically he's doing the sheer I wish I have I have pictures I didn't put it in he has a packed piece of mattress he uses art he draws things he just finished yesterday did a CM on Yovamus. I sent him a message over there because it was like unbelievable. No no it's he didn't I don't think he came to the show. In London I went to London I went to Stanford Hill I went to his I went to his house over there. It was unbelievable crazy a crazy miser I think he's the most popular Yiddish uh Magid sheer in the riser he has hundreds maybe thousands of Talmudim now. He's he's my child he's not an enochol. >> He he was there when you were there. >> Oh you were in his house that was his house right? Wow so you yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah you you draw you you told me to go yeah yes yes I I remember I I remember that there's clearly you get credit for that. Yeah. So why did I say I have no idea what was I talking about? Here's another riddle our boys this is super important for the just to to know. If if let's say somebody has a boy >> [snorts] >> and the boy is struggling to live to breathe and you're not in the mood to do a boy in a bed they do 1 2 3 3 3 the the the kid is never nifter loy loy no does the father do a boy in a bed? Is that dead? Sounds like yeah. Why? Because I'm asking the question. What? Once he lived two? He lived to 31 to 32. But he's dead. So listen to this. You're right. You're right. There's a There's a sad entire entire There's a There's a sad that at the levaya even you say shehechiyanu kimanu. You have to do the All right. You have to say shehechiyanu. Anyway, Mishna Shnayim Ochazim Well, you rolled your eyes, but you know, you say you say you you give a you give a brocha on hatov umayitiv after the death. Momish there are for for the for the yerusha. I didn't have to make that brocha. Don't worry about it. >> [laughter] >> All right. So let me just show you this real quickly so we get into the sugia here. Mishna Shnayim Ochazim we're holding two lines from the bottom of the Menachos Mem Beis. Here we go. Check this video out just to explain what's going on here. We're talking about two husbands that have two separate wives. And they had two babies, two z'chorim. One with a a light blanket, light blue, and the other one with a dark blue or black, whatever. I can't see the color. Let's call it black. So the Litvishe guy is holding the light blue blanket. And there was a mix-up in the babies. That's part of the Mishna. >> [music] >> Then they go and they give the five sela'im to two separate dayyanim before the baby's 30 days old. And then there's a levaya. And they don't know Nobody knows whose son it is. There's a mix-up. So they come and they ask for their money back. >> My five silver coins, please. One of our boys passed away within 30 days. >> There is both saying at the same time or they are not at the same time. The point is they are both demanding it. So each coin that received the five slimes says I I got the five slimes for a live baby is alive today. Each coin will say the same thing. So you push them off you push them both out and nothing. Ask the Gamorah my schnitzel on him. Does the Gamorah say does the Gamorah say Why is this different? When each coin can push them off. What's the difference? Let's say there was one coin in the business. Same story only one coin and each one gave five slimes and each one comes to demand his five slimes back. The coin tells Reuben your baby is alive then he tells Shimon your baby is alive. How much do I have to give you? Why should I give you back the money? He has 10 slimes. Five of them he doesn't deserve but he doesn't know who to give it back to. So he says listen it's not you it's him. Then when that guy comes he says not him it's you. What's Omer Shmuel so what Shmuel say? The Baba Bar Shawa. >> [clears throat] >> The Baba Bar Shawa. What does that mean? What what does what does a Shawa mean? Oh what does a Shawa mean do you remember? Power of attorney. You put your car. So you just do the video real quickly we have it on fast speed. >> It's after you got divorced and seven months later I had this sweet boy. >> Two months plus seven nine. SO HE'S MY SON. >> This is Dudi my second son born right after him. And these are my other kids. >> [music] >> Don't spoil the you have to write the emails. Look at that. >> Maybe he is Abbas fine then give me the share of the >> A few days earlier, Nathan Tell me honestly. >> Now you can claim his share in his name. >> It's not that he was going fast speed. >> Or he's the behore and he gave me his power of attorney. >> Okay. >> Either way, >> give it to me. >> When you come as a team, if you come as an individual, so then the coin could push you obviously. It's not you. It's not you. But if you come as a team, you say I gave the other guy a power of attorney and now we're coming together. But money of shock, you have to give us back the five slime. They could get the five slime back. I'm a schmuck the bobba arishaw. They're coming with a document. They're not coming individual. They're coming as a team. When you come, when you go as a team in everything in life, you come as a team, it's a lot stronger. But I mean I don't But wait a minute. You can't say they come as a team. Huh? OH. OH, SHALOM ALEICHEM Las Vegas. Give all the Wow. Wow. It's Baruch Hashem. So, wait a minute. Who's the guy in charge over there because challah and they got challah the whole thing. I saw I saw the >> [laughter] >> Is it my challah? Look look at that knob over there. Look at that. But the point is when you have a guy, maybe it's not a guy, the rav, Remes Rubik, or you have I don't know the other individual. You have somebody schmuck that's pushing it and it means a lot to him. He'll be in bezer Hashem. He's a what up? Look at that chump pot in the back over there. You notice that? The crack pots? Huh? No. No. You're paying for it? Yes. Yes. He's paying for the Gemaras in Las Vegas. Baruch Hashem. We got a donor. You don't write our show on money. If the coin would deny the claim, so you don't do that. You don't write an arishaw. You put ko'ach uh a power of attorney. Because we know But when nobody He's not denying the fact that he got 10. He's just saying I don't know who to give it back to. Maybe you're the Maybe your your son is still alive. Maybe your son is not. So, at that in this case, we could write a tractor. I had a meeting last night till 12:30 in the morning. Vinny was there. One of the guys in the meeting said that he does the shear every day with nothing but the daf. It was the first time ever that he came to live shear. In the beginning, he said he saw this movie this video this video. And then he said, "Now I realize why the videos are good." He says, "It's stuck in my head. Now I remember the Sugya. I remember her Shas." He starts saying, "The videos actually they play Yeah. I hear it there, but the video the this is Sugya never forget." Shalom aleichem. What's your name in the back of it? From where? >> Far Rockaway. >> Shalom aleichem. Thank you for coming. Okay. Says the Gemara, "Zachar u'nekeiva ein kan l'koyen klum." So, I I did a little Tshuvas today this morning. I just made it a little easier to understand the Sugyas. A very easy Sugya. I'll just make it even easier. There's one case in the Mishnah that says if a woman a person had two wives uh not a person. Two people had two wives. Shnei nashim two anashim. And then the Mishnah goes on to describe four different cases. We're not going to go through these cases. Two males, two females, two females with a male, two two females and two two z'charim. Okay, in that case, we don't know this It could be that the females are born first. Four case four different cases. Then we go to another case in the Mishnah. All the way to the end. Two men are married to two women, but one one's wife already had children before and one didn't. And then the Mishnah gives us two cases. Shnei z'charim and zachar u'nekeiva. Great. So, now the Gemara says, "Tani Ravuna, shnei z'charim u'nekeiva." So, Ravuna adds another case. So, the question is Well, how come it's not in our Mishnah? In case number in the the the prior case in the Mishnah, we had four different hekeshim tenses. Ravuna says we have another hekesh. It's a great hekesh. It's two males and a and a female. Also, what's the what's the halacha in this case? Everybody say. Two males and a female. You have to do a opinion about it or not? No. Why? Because it's two men. So, each man is going to say mine is in the cave. I gave my wife give birth in the cave. So, this is zero. Okay, so it's a nice case. Why don't you say it? No, no, no. Yeah, the one that had the that that his wife never gave birth will say my wife is in cave. So, this is the Gamara. How come our mission looks like this and not like this? How come the third case is not mentioned? This case obviously does not apply when there's one husband. Why? Because if there's one husband and there's only and two wives and one in cave, you would have to pay you would have to you have you would have to pay Is that the mission? So, this is just we're talking about a case that two women never had children. They had two husbands. There's only in cave and then we're going to say we're going to say They're not a third case another case how come it's not in the mission because it only applies when there's two husbands. But, if there's one husband and the two women never gave birth, he's for sure at least in one opinion of Ben even though there's a girl involved there. So, there's a mission may be social media. What if the son died before 30 days after a period of time even though he prepaid the period of Ben obviously the guy has to give back the money. Why? Because he never got to the time the the point of view. But, what if the the the son died after 30 days after a period of time? So, this is the that we said before that if the kid died after the period of period of Ben so, even though he's dead now the father had a period of time to be part of him. He's part of the he's not he doesn't exist anymore. He's dead. But, yeah he has to do period of Ben. May stay on social media. What if he dies on day 30? He knows is like 29. It's wasn't alive for a full month yet, so he's You don't have to pay. No, no, no. There's a topic here. And since this is a topic, so depends. If you prepaid already, then you can't take it back from the coin. Why am I having a topic? It maybe it belongs to the coin. If you didn't pay, then the coin shouldn't take from you because I have a It depends what happened there. But it's a topic. And the more I'm going to explain why it's a topic. It's not really a question. Another kind of a riddle. A person gives a woman money. And it happens a lot. You get engaged, and you know that the engagement is going to last, if you're litvish, at least 2 months. Khosidish, maybe a year. Let's Let's call 2 months. He gives the kallah he says, "Listen, I want to give you the ring the the the ring instead of me giving it to you by the chuppah. Let me give it to you now." Give it to you now. And you'll be engaged. You'll will be chul when when we get married then. And then she goes ahead and she she sells the ring. She uses the money. She goes bungee jumping, whatever. Good Good Good Good kiddushin or not a good kiddushin? At the time of the chuppah there's nothing left. Zero zero. But a month earlier, 2 months earlier by the engagement party, you gave her the the ring. What's the halakha? You say it's good? Good good. So the halakha is it's good. It's good. So let's see. Why do my rabbonon Why do rabbonon say you need 31 days? Garmey choidesh choidesh midbar. There's a opinion of Ben. There's opinion of Ben in the midbar. And over there in the midbar my husband will mala, it says the words choidesh vumala. Here we go. Deymay vuchoidesh. And it says that the bottom one of choidesh vumala is in the midbar. It says the word vumala. Vumala means a little bit more The highest 31 days. V'ma'alah is 31. A facha nami v'ma'alah. So, in the other pinyan of ben, meaning the pinyan of ben on the top, for doros, for the rest of history, it's 31 days. Reb Gimmel is stuck with it. Reb Gimmel says, "Wait a minute. I I agree with you that it's 31 days in the midbar, but who says it's for the rest of of generations? Why? >> [clears throat] >> We have a concept in all of Shas that if the Torah says something once, that's enough to teach us for the entire Torah. If the Torah says the same thing twice, that means don't teach it to the rest of the Torah. Why did the Torah bother saying it twice? If the Torah said it twice, it's only these two places. Well, guess what? It says the word v'ma'alah again by Erechin. What's Erechin? This is Erechin when a person uses the loshon erech alav and he points to a little kid, so you look, "Oh, he's under 5 years old, so he's only worth five sela'im." If he's between 5 and 20, he's worth 20. Etc. He looks at a girl, he says, "Erech alav." So, if she's between 5 and 20, it's 10. The Torah says, but when it comes to 60, the Torah uses the loshon of miben shishim shanah v'ma'alah. It's on 60 and a little bit. Also, shnei ketuvim avam ke'ilu. This twice that the Torah says the word v'ma'alah, so perhaps it's only these two places, by Erechin and by pinyan of ben in the midbar, but not in pinyan of ben that we do today. Derech agav, we also use the v'ma'alah in our life. We do a birthday, where the kid turns 1 year old, we do a birthday, meaning he lived a full year, he's into the second year, he's v'ma'alah. We don't do the one the birthday in the beginning of the year, we don't do the We do it after it's a complete plus a little bit, v'ma'alah. Midrash Rabbah v'ma'alah agav Erechin, since we say that the word v'ma'alah twice like av av midbar, why did Why did the Torah say it again? Learn from the midbar that when I give you a number, it's a little bit more. Therefore, avodah zarah shnei ketuvim avam ke'ilu. That That's already two soon to say the word of a male. The whole thing is I am a lamb can't learn from that to put in a bend regular. You're right. Don't take the word of a male for the rest of the time for Sukkot and Pesach and whatever. But for the opinion of a male, and let's learn from the midbar to put in a bend that we do today. Just like in the midbar they 31 till 12 year. Why not? That maybe you could do. Tomorrow comes up to that's why he says I have a topic don't take it out from anybody. If the money is by the Israel you don't take it out of him. If the money is by a coin, take it out of him. Everybody agrees when it comes to a male that if the kid was If the kid died on on 30 day 30, so we're not going to do a topic here. We're not going to do We're going to go with the male. What does male mean? You can go You don't have to do a male you don't have to You can do a male by a male. So >> [snorts] >> I heard this a number of times the bottom always complain that people come to them for a day room in the 9 days. Can I take a shower? Can I do this? Can I shave? I'm going on a business deal. I ain't going to have But how come nobody ever comes to them for a head there during Shiva? Can I take a shower? Can I shave my head earlier? You always see a male and they go People tell them, you know, you look you look disgusting. Take a haircut. You're not saying it seriously. Let me let me wait a few more days and you know, they keep on going and yet the hair is going Why? Because it's a tooth they You know, it hurts. It hurts. A male is something that you feel. So maybe you're marking it on it. When it comes to the males, sometimes we put our own against into the male. We say, "Look, I feel it. I I have a I have a connection to to beautiful Esther. It talks to me. She comes to show with the this." Some super male I spend a lot of money. Comes to another male. The male of the taco which is might be more important than than than Esther cuz it's it's mentioned you know the Torah talks about it more times than Ashri, more Sukhim, more four times versus one, whatever it is. Not so much but we don't So the the the point over here is when it comes to Avelos, even though you have your own gears, your own You you want to be more Machbit. You want to but this is not Halacha. We go by Halacha and not what you not your feelings but by Halacha. Kidivrei Meikel Kidivrei Meikel of Omar Shmuel Halacha Kidivrei Meikel Ba'avol, yeah? Here's another another riddle. What is Pidyon Haben here? I I brought my the coins, the $50,000 coins. We have a lot of millionaires in the room. A lot of people have these coins. We're not going Somebody else I have the coins. I said okay, so they're worth $50,000 then. >> Only for Syrians worth $50,000. >> No, if you're Ashkenazi and sell to a Syrian. >> If you're a Syrian at a Pidyon Haben and you know how to work the crowd, then it's worth $50,000. >> Okay. I hear. This is not No, I'm I'm not there. I'm not in I'm not in I'm not But I'm not in I'm not in I'm not in Flatbush right now so I Okay. I hear. Reb Moishe saying Pidyon Haben is is you give the coin these pipes lying. They're still This is still worth like $500 or something. It's still a very nice >> No, it's a good gift. >> Right. Okay. Is a Pidyon [clears throat] Haben in the category of Mamonos or in the category of Issur? Hm? Question? Anybody that didn't learn the daf yet? Huh? What do you say? Stan, what's your what's The guest, Sholom, what's your name? >> Sholom Zalman. >> From where? >> Uh New York. >> Sholom Aleichem. You in Yeshiva here? >> Yeah. >> Where? >> Chaim Berlin. >> Sholom Aleichem. You? Also? Sholom Where are you from? >> Lakewood. >> Lakewood. Sholom Aleichem. Okay. So, is this Mamonos or Issur? >> Mamonos. >> What's your name? From where? >> Flatbush. >> Flatbush. What's your last name? >> Pepper. >> Pepper. Oh. Uh that's what it is. Okay. Yeah, you look familiar. Huh? What do you say? It's Mamonos? Okay. So, we're going to have see it's not so partial. It's uh the Gamora says it's sister. It says sir that has uh a momentous component to it, but it says sir. Okay? If a father dies before the peanut band so he most likely Uh-huh? >> It's time before the peanut band. >> Before he's tied to give them. >> Yeah, yeah. Before the peanut band. Don't be mad at me. Why are you everybody so mad at me every word? Everybody understood what I said. Before the peanut band, meaning before the 31 days, before the time cuz it could be that his peanut band was on day 97. That's not what I meant. On day 30, okay, he's nifter 20 days after he was born. Most likely, what do you say? Did the person pay early? No, most likely they didn't pay. In fact, we have a famous Gamora that says that if a person dies before he has a star, he owes a million dollars to to the Gamora. He owes a million dollars to the Gamora. And he has to pay back on poor him and he dies 5 days before poor him. We have a Gamora that he didn't pay back. There's no he didn't pay back. It says in the star he has until poor him. He has poor him. So you could go and claim from the assignment. There's a famous line that the Gamora can like to say. If a person pays back his loan on time, on the day he's a great guy. If he pays a week late, he's a sad excuse of a sad guy. Why? Because he knows he'll never get another loan from the Gamora and he still paid back. But if he pays a week early, he's a Russia Gamora. Why? Cuz he's playing a game with the Gamora. He's pretending he's a good guy and he's paying early. He wants to get them for a hundred times the amount. He takes a thousand dollars, he comes back, he pays early. He takes another thousand, he pays early. Then he comes back for a hundred thousand dollars and then he runs away. So you guys are looking at me and that's their line. It's from It's from experience, okay? So if you don't understand that it's from experience. No, there are people There are people I know people that they just pay back They They They can't have even a mortgage or whatever and yesterday I said and cheered that mortgage is a good thing. I hold that a A mortgage on a house is a good thing. So this is the Alex Katz not an energy stroll so much cuz fluctuating rates. I'm more used to the Okay, same economy. If you have a fixed rate, it's cheap money. You're paying 3 4% used to be. Today's rate is I don't know 6 7. But it's the cheapest money you can get. It's the cheapest money you can get. So you Let's say you can get I remember we we locked in a deal just I don't know 5 years ago 2.25%. 2.25% Now I say oh So anyway, so but are we going to get money like that? So you can take that money and put it into the S If you know what you're doing. If you blow If you start you put into Bitcoin or whatever, okay. And then you put in a solid investment. It's That's what I tell people, but don't listen to me. And certainly don't come back to me when you lose your money. >> [laughter] >> Oh, the person doesn't pay early. For the opinion of Ben. No Most people I know do the opinion of Ben on the day. Now this guy died, so maybe he's a little sick, but this is okay. Paid on time. Who lived sorry. It's okay that he did pay. Most people don't pay right away. Okay. Now, great stuff. Why? Who lived lived those? You have a situation where we have a father and a son. What's the situation? What's the case? Case is you know or something. A father and a son. They find out there's no opinion of Ben. Here we have a uh uh >> [music] >> How old is your son? >> [music] >> 29 days. I made a pidyon ben today. They told me it's a segulah for him. >> So, >> [music] >> I have good news and bad news. Let's start with the good. The kohen will give you back the money. And yours? [music] >> 31 day. We didn't make the pidyon yet. We're waiting for him to come out. >> And for you, double bad news. He passed away. And you still have to pay five [music] slaim to the kohen. >> Are you sure? >> Of course I'm sure. You don't believe Eliyahu Hanavi? But don't worry. >> [music] >> I'm already on my way to do triat hametim. >> Oh, not again, Eliyahu. >> Eliyahu Hanavi? >> Yes, yes, yes, Eliyahu Hanavi. Come, take your pills. >> I mean the halacha is there [music] whatever. Fine. That's the halacha. Eliyahu Hanavi knows the halacha. I called on him. >> [laughter] >> I have good news and bad news. Oh, live those who know live those who got them right. If you die may be like my his son is first. She meets firstly a love him or misses benai a love. If you die may be like my she meets firstly a love him. Look at the Torah. The Torah says kol bechor benecha tifdeh. So, positive after remember. Who has the chiyuv to be parted? The the person himself or the father? First the father. Now, if there is no father, then goes the son himself has to be parted himself. But make a din, the Torah is telling you the father should be parted with his son. So, a maila when a father is faced with a with a dilemma, he only has five slaim in his bank account and his son didn't do pidyon ben and he didn't do pidyon ben. He just discovered the Torah. So, who comes first? He is chiyuv to be parted with his son. Him himself? That was his father's field. If he has more money, he'll be parted. Yeah, of course. What? The who? Yeah. I hear what you're saying, but the Torah says you be parted your son. The Torah doesn't say be parted yourself. Get marked. If somebody >> [cough] >> What happens if somebody does do pidyon haben before 30 days? So, we're going to see that this is not that that's partial, it's not good. If you want to do the pidyon haben in day 15, 100% not good according to everybody. If you give the money in day 15, but you say it's going to be chal after 30 after 30 days. Is readily available. Valid in a pardon. Over here, there's no question at all. I give the money in day 15. I tell the coin, "Hold on to it, but I don't want it to be chal until day 30." No, he's holding on to it. He's he's saving the money for you. He's a bank. Keep playing. So, where does the where does the small say it doesn't work? Laugh as when he when he says specifically, "I'm giving them here. Take these five coins today on day 15, but it's only going to be chal. It's only going to work on day 30." And he went the coin went and used up the money. Used up the money. Rabbi Rabbi pardon. We did have a condition issue. Rabbi says it's great cuz it works by condition the same way. A person gives a ring to a color and he says, "Let's We're going to get married in 30 days." It's going to work then. And she goes ahead and she uses up the the ring. It works. So, too, when it comes to pidyon haben. Look, he gave he did a he did a mice. He gave the other thing. And there's a certain afterwards. That's it. Oh, which one that's exactly what you say is very good. How is it over there had he wanted to be get him get married, he could have got married right away? So she's all after the money? Over here there's nothing to do the the maaser with. It's gone. She There's no kid. You're waiting for a kid to develop to be 30 days old, but there's no kids today. So at the time that he gave it there's nothing. At the time that it he was already available, there was no money. So it doesn't work. Perhaps. Turning the daf Anker Healthcare and our global going global to bring more people to the daf. and Shuster, thank you for your belly. Steve Schwartz and the initial of my parents, William J. Schwartz. We have got the kind of the colleague of the pligya Rav Shmuel be sure and we have a concept in shas. Rav Shmuel is always like Rav when it comes to shmuel and always like shmuel when it comes to money matters to Dina. Hacha hilchos like I was saying the shmuel over here the halacha is like shmuel. Even though it seems like from the gemara that it's issurei, we pasken like shmuel. What's the issurei? Shmuel doesn't mean issur like it's assur. We're talking about a halacha that you have to do x y z. So that's the issurei. How do you do that that halacha with money? There there was a question. I don't know if I mentioned it I don't think I mentioned it in English here. One of the questions was how do you how does a guy The gemara says if you only have five slime and you could be parted yourself and be parted yourself, which one do you do first? So you part the yourself first. Whatever you like it. So Yeah. But the question is if you only have five slime, you only have to to to to spend 20 20% chimesh of 25% of your of your whatever you have left. So why do you have to give all five slime? And one of the answers I saw is that the Torah tells you only spend 20% on a little bit of an aspect. Go purchase, but here you have to hear the mitzvah is to spend that money. That is the mitzvah. You're not buying anything with the money. The Torah says take five selaim and give. So there's no chiyuv on that mitzvah. Now, we're going to bring you a raya, two rayas from our Mishnah and the same answer. Now, Maseches Shavuos, if the baby dies before 30 days of pidyon haben and the kohen yetzliach kohen selaim, even [clears throat] if he gave the money to the kohen, he should give it back. Time of the meis, it's because the kid died. Halacha meis ben oden. Ah, you gave the money before 30 days and it works. And we're talking about what has to be. He didn't He didn't say it should have worked right now cuz then it for sure wouldn't work. So he said I want it to work later on and you see that it works. Not like Shmuel. How come I skin in this demise? You have to say because the the money's still readily available. And now we said there's no argument between Rav and Shmuel if the money's still available even though he gave it to him on day 15. Toshma. The chazaka should be the old saying in the Mishnah. That if the father dies within 30 days, there's a chazaka that he didn't he didn't redeem his son. Chazaka should be the actual raya should be until he brings a raya. Now, you see from here, but if he did bring a raya, it works in 30 days. Ah, but it's before 30 days. Not like Shmuel. Funny. I got to tell you this because I just It happened this morning so I'll tell you this sheer. It gave me a tremendous amount of nachas. Shloime Klein, a Lubavitcher from Crown Heights, tells me this morning that his name is Hershy Spitzer, a Satmar chossid, calls him up and says, "Mazel tov on being a zaida." He says, "Oh, I became a zaida a few months ago. Why are you calling me now?" He says, "No, I brought a Square chossid to the sheer." Shloime Klein brought him and he brought a Square He was going to announce a Lubavitcher brings a Satmar who brings a Square chossid. That's MDY right there. They called him up to wish him a mazel tov. Mazel tov on being a zaida. Hershy Spitzer. Oh my Tony Tonikamez such a he's a big heavy man this Tony Tonikamez has that sense of humor. Ma? >> [laughter] >> I was going to say listen, Shkoyach today you've been very chatty. To the point where you just said something before and I was like He's like oh it's Dovid okay number six for you. But this one is not bad not bad. Tony Tonikamez he said that some of these grandchildren they die before 30 days. It's a terrible thing to say. You're going to make sure with a lot of tfila and you're going to follow up. You can make him live that's what he's saying. It's bi'ur sometimes when it comes to human beings it's not bi'ur dinu but it is bi'ur dinu sort of. We can give other things. Shkoyach sharp there sharp. But that's it enough enough with the arrows. You shkoyach. Wow. Tony Tonikamez of Yehuda We have something against Shmuel. If you perform pin a ben on day 15 again what's the case? Let's talk about it. He obviously didn't do day 15. Nobody holds you doing day 15. He gave them money said hold on till the day 30 and you be them. And it says before it's okay. Over there Shmuel over there Shmuel what are you telling me? And I'm going to tell you the law is like Shmuel Shmuel how is he going to say to Shmuel? What are you doing? What are you saying? Next story. >> Hello Mr. Mendy. Mazel tov. Your wife just gave birth. It's a baby boy. >> Mazel tov. >> May I help? >> [laughter] >> Mazel tov. >> Switzerland. >> Huh. Yom. Not this Yom. Not Yom. Yom. The money's still there. I'm showing you the money's still there. >> On day 31 So then, according to Schmo, it's good. >> It's a boy! >> He gives the money to the coin. >> Mazel tov. >> Wait. >> The kids did that to Schmo always. Who lived Who lived there? >> [cough] >> Oh, I didn't sell the Russians. Oh, I forgot to sell the Russians. I I wanted I pushed it off. >> Where is the Russians? >> He said >> [music] >> What do I do? It's only in English. From this >> [music] >> You want to live with me? >> You have five or 10? I love it. You're first. Father's first. >> [music] >> So the kids are Who lived as when I lived as who called them living I? Here, Mom, is this the video fits right in. Talking about who lived as when I lived as who called them living I? He comes first. Yes, your teeth come first to him. What? >> [laughter] >> Yes, your teeth come first to him. But he says, "No, the son is first. Why?" Because the father, the grandfather shouldn't be paid to him. Who means the I love but him, the Russian father, his misses the paid to his son. So we paid to his son, not yourself. Omar Jeremy says Jeremy I love. If there's only five slime available, you you paid to your you paid to yourself. Why? My Odif. First, take care of yourself. Make sure yourself in this in this meeting I had last night, I think I got to this guy. That was I saw. I said, "Why?" He tells me he did 12 major projects in the industry with hundreds of a thousands of apartments, the whole thing. I'm like, "Well, think about it for a second. Why are you working so hard? Why? Another project and another project. Just pause and think. Why are you doing it for? Would it be okay if you only worked, you know, 10 hours a day, not the 14 that you're telling me you're working, and barely sleeping. You're in your 50s. You have millions and millions. So, what what what would happen if you slow down and devote one more hour to Torah? That's it. One more hour. He pulled I I saw that he something something was clicking in his head. I said, "What are you doing for? For your children? They have enough." And this What do you Why? Give to yourself. Give to yourself first before you give to other people. Meaning in in Torah also. The midst of the day all the your mitzvah learning Torah doing has to comes first. People are so they're so worked What's the word I'm looking for? Yeah. No, they're so into it. They're in this thing. And he said Obsessed. And he You know what he he told he told me and Benny. Benny was there. He said, "When I was younger, I wanted X amount of thing. So, when I got when I got there already, I'm I'm just in the thing. I'm already there. I'm I just it's a habit." I said, "Exactly. You're in a habit. You need to stop for a second and think. That you we just mitzvah of another deal another deal. You don't know why. Don't realize You didn't make the husband Oh, I have a here of parnassah. I have to be my finest my family. So, I'm allowed to take off from my day and work and work to bring bread to the table. You're not at that point anymore. He him in particular He's not at that point. He's he's he's he's he could he could get through the month without it. So, maybe you have to stop for a second and say, "Do I have the right even to work so many hours and not give myself >> First secure your mask before you >> Exactly. I thought about that, too. Momish when I was learning. You first secure your own mask. Make sure that you have a place in your Gan Eden. Your Gan Eden is not this small just cuz you're working and working so your kids have millions. And what are they going to do? And then And this kid is there also at the meeting. And this kid is also working work. Like, okay. He's already he's good. This guy is good. Don't worry about him. Worry about yourself. Oh, this is gishmak. It's just It's a chart. >> [music] >> Oh, this video. It's a good video. It's not It's not a It's not one of those videos. >> [music] >> That's really good. Oh. Whatever it was, he sold the [music] field. >> [music] >> Okay. Beautiful case. The guy has in his bank account exactly five of these. Five slime. That's it. That's all he has in his bank account. But, he just sold the property. He just sold the property. So, the property, he didn't have the right to sell the property cuz five slime out of the property belonged to the cohen. He has to pay two times five slime. One for himself, one for his son. He has five slime now in the bank account. What should he do? The answer is there's a trick. There could be a trick to do both. First, he pays the five slime to the cohen for his son. And then he tells the cohen, "Listen, I sold the property yesterday. This five slime in the property, go take the five slime." You can't tell the cohen go to the property and take the five slime before your bank account is zero. Cuz then he'll say, "The guy that bought the field will say, 'Well, now you have money in the account. Pay him from your account.'" So, that's that's what the Gemara is saying. There's a machlokes here. Could you do this? Five slime are in a private age of sold, but five are in the bank. The fact that you owe the cohen five, it's in the Torah. If it's in the Torah, it's as if there's a there's a document. And if there's a document, that means that whoever you sold the field to has to pay back. You should have known about this document. You shouldn't have bought your There's a lien on the property before you even bought it. Pay off the lien. When did they Sorry. The guy The cohen will go and take the money out of the field. But first, as he explains, first, obviously, he has to get rid of the five slime that he has in the bank account by giving it to the client for his son. First, first redeem your son. You have zero in your bank account. Then, you have a field. Let the client take from the field. The one says that's true. There's no real shiva on the field. He cannot go to the field. Hilco, and what do you have left? You only have five slime left that you can pay either for you or your son. Hilco put on your mask first, then put on your kids mask. First, you pay your for yourself, and then you pay for your son. Raboisai, have a wonderful day. Motzei Shabbos at 8:00 sharp. >> [music] >> Merit the scores of spreading Torah throughout the world. Sponsor a shear today. mdy.sponsor.com or [email protected].