L'Covid Shabbos Part 1: The Peaceful Shabbos Table

[Music] coronavirus 2020 some of us are just going crazy sitting at home on each other's head nothing going on and when is this connect well for some people's Shabbos could feel the worst because the rest of the week we could try to distract ourselves and try to be busy with this and that but Shabbos comes and there's nothing it's bliss and then we could get on each other's nerves even worse and that's people that are together with a family and some people are all alone and the whole week I'm alone and now on Shabbos I'm still alone it could be it can be very very difficult I'd like to share just a couple of ideas that maybe help the beneficiary to help us survive and thrive through the situation many of us have been by some shoppers who dove some rabbi or Rebbetzin and are so beautiful to calm the peace you just felt like you're on a different planet they can underwater bubble then she lifts lighting the candles the children sitting around the table sings mirrors now we've always dreamed wow I can't wait to make a shot of Ceuta like that and then we sit down with our families and what happened what did we do wrong their Shabbos soothe is so beautiful ours is we need to realize this is not a new problem the fuchsia pink is in the seifish Shabbos moccasin says this is problem for everybody not just a corona related problem Shabbos the explains comes from the word sha vos Shabbos mean stops everything stops on everything stops we should certainly get connected to what's real to ourselves to our children and to Russia shove us everything stops now when everything stops all the tunnel then all the noise and just show us we should get back to reality but the problem is sure she says it's not always easy to find the reality and sometimes Chaves could be the hardest day we didn't know a couple of things about that rabbi in rabbits the first thing we need to know is that they are not you their children are not your children every family is gonna have to find their own tips and their own techniques how to make Shabbos the most special thing so I'm going to share techniques with you that it worked for some people but they won't work for others but when you sit and think about someone else's techniques your mind will be processing the right techniques for you another thing you need to know about that rabbi in rabbits and their Shabbos table once they put in work they planned it out it doesn't just happen there's a plan and that plan needs changing the ideas that they used five years ago don't work anymore family dynamic changed especially if you're home alone everything changed you got to change with it and plan every savvy investor knows that you got to look ahead that we're the trends are going to invest you don't invest when things are up it's too late to invest at that time many times the more you put into shops and any of them the more you take out we also need to have the ingredient of to feel if the dominant chef do you want me to have Shabbos I want to have shoppers guide me it's just not working and one of the most important things to know is panic causes more panic when you look at your Shabbos table the kids are not sitting with a Shabbos table and you get very very uh behind strong why they're not sitting why than that sudden see these mirrors the fact that you're getting on strong about that creates it almost situation I want to tell you an amazing story my brother was out in Dallas Texas and he met a family that were recent ballet jeweler they just became from and yes you know it came up in the conversation what made them from they said used to live in Toronto Canada and they used to buy a certain family we said the name of the family and the Shabbos students over there that's what made them become bothered you now my brother says what second I know that family I'm good friends with one of the children of that family do you quickly calls up his friend and he says Elio what went on by your shop is day when you were a kid that was so amazing the Shabbos table that a family became from just from watching his shadows table he said we were cheek it's my father made kiddush would grab some column we disappeared no no it came back to this earth I mean we stopped by once in a while that was the shaba suit that was the shaba suit his family did not sit by the table I neither forced them I'm sure you trying ideas to make the Shabbos table engaging but don't panic it's known that is a major major thing to know a fascinating study they did they showed a group of dysfunctional families so-called dysfunctional families a video of some a kitchen table a family by supper and they showed the exact same video to functional normal families healthy families or what's considered healthy families and the scene was you know a brother and sister fighting a little kid spills out the cereal you know all that stuff and someone's getting upset and the teenagers of course our soul kicking that I want to sit down I want to be there and mom and dad have frazzled them and they asked the dysfunctional family you see and they said we see a dysfunctional family and they asked the functional families again the so-called function of that was what do you see and they said I don't see normal family but yourself yeah just knowing that fact we're known children do not like sitting by you most children normal do do not like sitting by the table they don't like it felt to finish that much they don't like chicken on the bone or whatever you serving and they don't like sitting for so long that's normal and once you have that mindset it's normal I'm just gonna try to get one step at a time to get a little closer to where I want to go that will make all the difference another thing you'd have to know about making shadows to happy time is when you have goals and you're taking small steps to get few goals you are happening before you get to the goal as long as you have a plan I'm planning out my shots and I'm working on it and getting to the goals as I'm working on it every Shabbos I know I'm not there and I know it's going to take time but I have goals and I have plans that itself brings a happiness and a feeling of fulfillment that can make all the difference so in summary we need to realize that that goal of that family is not necessarily for us every family will be different just the journey will make us feel good to feel nothing works without fear panic causes panicking as long as you know it's normal and you're a healthy family that itself economy and to know that this is not a corona issue Shabbos can be hard at all times because show us everything stops and when everything stops a lot of people get very nervous they like heaving moving but Shabbos stop and connect and you just have to find that how can i connect how can my spouse connect how can my children connect how can connect to each other now once we figure it out we will require the gift of shots so we'd like to talk about it first of all had a plan during the week Friday night Shabbos Suda Shabbos morning the prayers Shabbos sudha again ciamis afternoon Sean shudders and after shots if we have a little bit of a plan a little bit one extra thing we add into every single piece we're changing our lives and we're making a revolution we are making real change one step at a time not only is that [Music]