Parashat Vayechi - Do Kindness And Truth With Me

foreign making a deal with yourself he's saying swear to me that you're going to bury me said please uh if you have I found favor in your eyes please place your hand under my thigh and do kindness and Truth with me so this one particular sentence has a lot of a lot of things that we need to learn first of all why is yaakov saying kindness and Truth a favor okay bury me somewhere else wow he understands because the best type and the only type of true kindness that you can do for someone is what you expect nothing in return if you're doing someone kindness because you're expecting oh you know what maybe if I do this guy a favor maybe one day this company is going to give me a contract or maybe one day I might need him he's going to give me a loan or maybe one day he's going to give me a job that's not true kindness that's business that's a loan maybe if I donate some money to the uh but can I say it they're going to put a uh you know a little Banner with my name on it on the on the building that's business it's not true kindness so if you want to do true kindness then then you have to look at the kindness you do for the dead why kindness do you do for the dead because the dead can't give you anything in return the second thing is that we have to look into is that it says he is not really in my side it doesn't it's not really a good translation means your Brit remember the the the the male organ if you notice this is not the first time this is mentioned also when he made a deal to send is a his number one person to go find a wife for his son he made a deal with him and the same way they made the deal he put his hand under his lip to us this seems ridiculous to us this seems even uh you know something Uh something's wrong with these people and what we have to realize there's something wrong with us not that why because that said he came especially our vote they knew the value of the breed they knew the value the True Value the true significance of a man's bleed the breed of the man the circumcision of the man is a deal it's a covenant between us and Hashem to know that we are chosen people to know that it's an eternal Covenant to know that we have to constantly think about him at all times and most importantly that's to protect this Covenant now if somebody made a deal with you you sign a deal with somebody listen I'm going to give you a 100 million dollar contract for your company you have a construction company a moving company a computer company doesn't matter you have a 100 million dollar contract and he's and the guy gives you a contract he signs the deal now that contract are you just going to throw it in the car maybe in a glove compartment or you're going to throw it maybe next to the newspapers or maybe in the bathroom what are you gonna do with that contract homo a little folder and what else after that put it in the briefcase and after that I think the briefcase put it on me and after that after what after with the briefcase you can keep the briefcase on you at all times where you gonna put the briefcase and then eventually that Manila fall come out of the briefcase and go on some say foreign [Music] it's the most important thing why because if that contract goes bad if it's uh something gets wet the signature gets erased the guy calls you one day he goes you know what I don't really feel like doing business with you anymore you already spent all the money on the material you already spent 60 million dollars on material you didn't get the problem you didn't get all the money yet they get the money yet so the guy says I don't feel like doing business with you already already spent the money you can't go to Home Depot and say hey by the way 60 million dollars worth of goods back and okay there's no return policy for 60 million worth of goods just make 20 copies so what do you do you protect this we say listen by the way I have a contract I have a contract you you signed that if you don't give me this money I could sue you and I'm gonna win even more than this contract because you have to pay my legal fees and my anguish and all these other things that you can add to the 100 million dollars nonetheless the contract is the most valuable thing if you don't have a contract you don't have anything I know from my own personal experience I had a uh without going into too much details because it's not necessarily relevant uh but the I had a deal with somebody in my business days he wanted me to lend him a half a million dollars so me and in those days I had a lot of money so it was no promise that I uh I had my uh I even gave him the money before I drafted with the contract but because I trusted the guy but nonetheless I had lawyers that drafted out the contract I spent eighteen thousand dollars on the contract on the contract the reason why we did it was supposed to be a bigger deal nonetheless I lent I got a half a million dollars why they got 500 000 we have the contract was there was a problem with the contract once there was a problem with the guy didn't have the money to pay me back the market blew up he lost everything and so on he couldn't pay me back the only thing that's worth anything is that contract if I go to the guy listen I know you're not making as much money but you still owe me 500 000 it was supposed to be a 90-day loan it's turned into a three-year loan I could exercise this contract you have to sell other assets you have to give me real estate you have to give me something else now it's not 18 000 spent on that contract was worthless to have a problem if the lawyers were and they made a mistake where the collateral they made was not the collateral that it was supposed to make that contract is worthless that 18 000 is worthless and the five hundred thousand dollars worth exactly no security for my for my my business deal same contract here 100 million dollars you have a contract if you have no contract the guy wants to screw you could screw you same concept here they know that Hashem made a contract with Amazon he said you have to circumcise yourself but when you circumcise yourself you have to treat this bleed with respect you can't just go around and use the split with anybody you want you can't just stay uh use this bleed and do whatever you want with it you have to treat with respect knew how valuable this Fleet is and he treated it with so much respect that until the age of 84. until he got married with Leia not even one seed left his body not even one seed nothing left his body the first time his bleat was ever used was to cohabit with his wife Leia and have a little then every single time his wheat was used was for a purpose because he knew that wasting seed one of the biggest sins in Judaism murdering 300 million people each time according to scientists there's 300 million seeds average and every ejaculation of a male so someone that's wasting their seat in essence they're killing 300 million potential lives that's a problem to go up to Shaman and say oh by the way on Monday kill 300 million on Tuesday killed 600 million because it was an extra busy day on Wednesday no it was only 300 million on Saturday you know in the weekend we went to the clubs with the bars with the drinks it was so much fun 1.5 uh you know a billion it's a problem to go up to Shaman you have all this wasted seed Yakov knew this Yakov knew this and he treated with so much respect that is Brit was just like his finger same thing just like you treat your finger with respect you when you cut something you're not going to cut your finger with it with a piece of wood right you treated us with respect because it's valuable to you same thing with the bleaks he says my blade is the same thing as my hand it's just like we shake hands today why do we shake hands today because we're showing a sign of confidence I'm telling you I'm honest you're telling me you're honest I'm telling you I'm gonna deliver on my dude you're telling me you're gonna deliver on your deal same thing right that's why we shake hands but if we really realize it that also showed us how far we are from abuteno that shows how far we are from from from from the real sages from the real forefathers of of the world because for them you don't need to shake hands the breed was pure today whose tree was pure [Music] thank you [Music]