Part 120: Would You Do it if God Was in the Room?

good morning please help yourself to some coffee want to thank our amuna sponsors for the series for the year Dr zavi and Bella Morgan who have sponsored Zas RAB Dr Brian git lived a life filled with to and was a model ofun we are still making our way through the title of the safer is in itself a sheer the name of the safer is in itself a great lesson which is telling us that if we you want to really be alive the way to be living is to be living with amuna self-centered self-focused lives all we care about is our own pleasure our own happiness our own Joy we're not really alive we're dead even while we are alive and the truth is we see that all around us there are people whose lives are defined by their own uh their own pursuit of their own pleasure and they're empty they're hollow inside because there's always something out there that they think happiness is outside themselves if only I had more money if only I had more more uh status if only I had more honor if only I had more power if only I had a different spouse if only I had different children if only I had there are people who think that not me I have the perfect spouse just ask her I'm just joking I have the perfect spouse there are people who think if only I had I'd be happy because really it's all about me and what I deserve and what I want and what I need and if the whole world would fall in line with the way that I drew it up if everyone would behave and act the way I want them to then I'd be happy and such people are dead even while they're alive you ever interact with somebody who sleepwalking through life who's depressed and despondent who's Hollow and who's empty who's numbing themselves we had an amazing program this past M shabas before SOS those of you who there know what I'm talking about those of you who are not shame on you for not coming it was a great Community conversation about recovery and we had people who were in the recovery program one person in particular shared his really in-depth story and the commment inator the common theme of people who turn to lives of addiction of substances but really any form of addiction often often is there something missing there's a gap there's a hole inside one's heart and they're trying to numb themselves to the feeling or the pain of that emptiness and the process the system of recovery is to fill that hole so that you don't feel empty and you don't need to be numb because there's nothing greater than being alive that's the words when you live with and it's not a coincidence that so instrumental to the recovery process and we talked about this too on M shabas is submitting to a higher power is it the third step it's one of the steps in the 12-step recovery is the willing to submit to a higher power to welcome God to realize I'm not in control I can't do it alone I don't dictate everything around me and I need help I need support I am dependent not independent it's not a coincidence that living with amuna submitting to a higher power that's how we recover in life that's how we fill the hole that's how we can find the Happ happiness without needing to numb ourselves to avoid the pain that we are confronting it's our par I want to get into our learning today so far we've mentioned the title but it's our para that tells us that we could choose life or death of choose life choose life choose life the P actually says choose life so that you live Feinstein was bother I didn't get to this yesterday in the para class what do you mean choose life so that you live if you've chosen life obviously you're alive so isn't it redundant what does the PK mean choose life so that you live it means that we have choices we confront choices every day we can be lazy or we can live life with alacrity we could be selfish or we can be selfless and care about the people around us we could live life and think the Here and Now is all there is we could realize we can submit to a higher power there's something so much bigger than ourselves there's something so much more going on if we make the right choices we're truly alive We're Not only living in this world but we are creating an immortality for ourselves we will live on forever so we last left off last week and we were talking about the fact that we're made up of four elements fire and uh water and Earth and wind and each of those four elements if they're in out of balance if they're out of whack each of the four elements if they're corrupt expresses itself in these different symptoms that we have so we've been talking about fire when the fire is misguided and directed when the fire is is burning unfettered and there's nothing controlling it it expresses itself as arrogance and it comes out as anger and rage don't extinguish the fire the fire in the belly is a good thing excuse me said R to be on fire is to be passionate to be enthusiastic to be excited that's a good thing that's what creates romance and relationships that's what creates commitment to an exercise program that's what creates Charisma and being alive that's the source of our drive to get ahead and succeed at work and in life fire in our Bell is good but it has to be channeled it has to be focused it has to be directed because when the fire is burning in every direction it comes out as arrogance and it comes out as rage it comes out as anger and what Raa was quoting from V is rather than work on the anger or the arrogance those are symptoms you got to take care of the fundamental problem which is the fire you got to address the fire and so he said how do we do that through daving through daving quoted from the ran that we DAV every day why three times a day We Gather in shul three times a day we go to the gym that's too much even for the greatest exercise Enthusiast even for the greatest exercise Enthusiast among us three times a day is too much you know you like see these people on the pelaton they're like this is my fifth ride today in the pelaton like hip replacement knee replacement back replacement the surgeries they might as well schedule them now but there's also such a thing as unhealthy addiction you could be addicted even to healthy things and it becomes unhealthy addiction even to healthy things can become unhealthy but anyway helli we should have that problem we'll get there to that addiction um so we come to sh three times a day because the sh is the gym of the soul and why do we come work out in the gym of the Soul we come to work out those muscles because if you don't work out muscles they atrophy and they die if you ever go a week without going on The Paton if you skip exercise class for a couple weeks you don't just have to pick up as if you weren't there for a day you're like starting all over again it's enor it's amazing how quickly how quickly our muscles atrophy and how quickly we set ourselves back it's unbelievable I was just talking to somebody who had a major surgery on their leg and they were telling me because they were in a cast and they weren't using their leg until they started rehab that one leg was so much thinner than the other I remember when I had Achilles surgery I had the same thing when the cast came off one leg is like a to pick compared to the other I cuz you spent a month not putting pressure on it a month in in many years I have been alive a few more years than one month and yet in one month your leg you don't use your leg for one month it looks like a toothpick it's thin you got to do you can't even lift yourself up on it on your toes you got to do rehab and rehab and Rehab the muscles die quickly the atrophy they disappear beyond what you'd ever believe in terms of how quick they come out so thean says the same is true with the muscles of the soul the muscle of amuna the muscle to have the faith to know that I can confront whatever comes my way today the muscles to have the faith to say as frustrated as I get I'm going to stay calm calm cool and collect it's all going to be good it's all going to be good there's a reason for everything if I don't work those muscles out they won't respond when I need them they won't be strong they won't be able to lift me and support me when I have to turn to them not only in moments of major crisis of which there are many but even minor insignificant things I was in New York on Sunday for the Torah New York at City Field beautiful beautiful celebration a beautiful event the U puts on 2,000 people come to study for a whole day amazing diversity of shum part of it was the this program that we've had here in our Sho we just concluded the first semester the first of it 45 men came every Sunday 35 of them took a test all 35 passed the test and we had a great party two nights ago we awarded the certificate it was a really beautiful event so I'm coming home from City Field and uh got stuck in traffic got stuck in traffic I'm sitting in the back of a car and and we went a certain way we decided for whatever reason because hasm wanted us to to ignore ways and to go the way that ways told us defly whatever you do no matter what don't go and we were in standstill absolute traffic with no anger or bitterness to the person who made that decision who I love from the bottom of my heart but that was the muscle it wasn't your it wasn't your it was not your maybe sure it's the same DNA but it was not your so so um I was sitting in the back seat and again you start it's been a long day the previous night with SOS went to bed 3:00 a.m. got up to get get to the FL like I just want to get back and then if you don't have that muscle to turn to that says you know what it was meant to be that you're in traffic right now not moving and the air conditioning is not pumping so well in the back seat that's meant to be that's what was meant to be right now so you could get frustrated at a person who you love so what are you going to do you get so little time with them you're going to ruin that time because you're frustrated because of a split second maybe bad decision which we're all guilty of all the time so you're confronted with this moment I barely get to spend time with someone I deeply love I can ruin it gu getting frustrated or I could say you know what it's more quality time together in the car big deal let's talk let's have conversation let's enjoy now we'll get there whenever we were meant to get there we'll get there we're meant to get there those are the insignificant really stupid moments but that you need your amuna muscle to kick in and to say it was meant to be to be sitting in this traffic it was meant to be to ignore the greatness and the beauty of a satellite system that can see much further and better than any of us and tell us what to avoid and where to go never doubt never ever doubt the Halo ways so that's a decision that you have in that moment so if you're muscles died if your spiritual muscle dead and you can't tap into it that moment you know what you're going to do you're going to say something you're going to regret you're going to alienate a relationship you're going to ruin this limited time that you have together you're going to be frustrated and just aggravate yourself I tell tell you what you know what does not happen when you get aggravated you know what does not happen if you say something stupid you know what does not happen if you ruin the limited time that you have you know what doesn't happen traffic doesn't clear up it doesn't make you get where you want to go any faster there's nothing you can do you could get off the exit that ways now tells you to get off but that's besides the point we don't need to go there but there's nothing you can do to make you get there faster so that's when so so the ran says we have spiritual muscles of amuna if we work them out they get bigger they get stronger they're more responsive they're more instinctive when we need them when we're stuck in traffic when the flight is late when our kid bless you is misbehaving or knocks on your door even though you locked it in the middle of the night because they insist on sleeping on your floor or your couch if the muscle if the amuna muscle memory kicks in nothing phases you the the fire inside you doesn't cause you to lose it because if you amuna muscle kicks in you won't get angry and you won't get arrogant you won't say this is not how I drew it up I was supposed to to arrive there by this time and get to sleep by this time and still do these five things by that time nothing phases you the Fire doesn't consume and Destroy others around you because the amuna muscle kicks in but if the amuna muscle atrophies and it dies and it's not there for you when you need it you know when I got the cast off after the Achilles surgery and I had to walk very gingerly I had to start to rehab if I try to put all the pressure all my weight on my foot that first step I would have fallen right on my face I would have fallen right on my face in fact on that knee scooter several times I did fall right on my face Matthew has a collection of videos from security camera that he entertains himself with whenever he's in a bad mood so you'll fall you'll fall right you'll fall right on your face and again the same is true with amuna muscle memory as well if your amuna muscle memory is not strong if your amuna muscles are not there and then when you need them you put all your weight on them they'll collapse you'll collapse you'll fall right on your face when life throws something hard our way insignificant like stuck in traffic or super significant like God forbid Health crisis financial crisis a relationship crisis if the muscle is not strong we fall flat on our face that's why we get together Wednesdays because this is our gym and we're working out on our moon muscle and we're hoping it'll be strong and be there for us when we need so the raan says that's why we DAV when we DAV we come together three times a day and it is the gym it's the place that we come this is the Ran's language on page a z the second paragraph page a z ran teaches the purpose of a Bas of this is a place for Jews gather and to admit and to acknowledge and to be grateful that God has created us to publicize this say God we work for you you don't work for us God I defer to your plan I'm not asking you to defer to my plan God I'll take all the initiative I can I'll be my best I'll do everything I can in my power but in the end of the day I trust you and I know that you are in charge and three times a day we do that and we only grow stronger and therefore more capable to confront and face whatever is going to be thrown at us bottom paragraph I'm sorry Turn the Page we're up to theum on page i t right yeah that was the ran but now we're up to the skip to turn the page I test we're up to the summary of this section we spoken here about how we have the power of am to improve the fire inside Us in other words the whole thing that Reva the whole message that RBA is communicating to us is whatever MOS problems we have in our lives whatever um Mid character trait problems we're struggling with we're impatient we're greedy we're jealous and we're envious we're angry whatever character flaw that we have the solution is not to break the character flaw then we just have two bad character flaws the solution is to not deal with the symptom to deal with the cause the cause of anger arrogance is fire the antidot to the fire is amuna amuna when we submit to a higher power it works for millions of people in recovery and every one of us should be in recovery from the poor habits poor decisions poor thoughts poor behaviors that we have formed and we need to enter that recovery program where we realize that we have to submit to a higher power if you live with every minute of the day are connected to you are tied with you you have a Wi-Fi connection everywhere you go your phone you're like 3G 4G 5G how's the Wi-Fi one bar two bar three bars what's my connection if you have no connection you panic I was at a chevas in Brooklyn two weeks ago three weeks ago it was in the basement of a was magnificent they had redone the whole place but nobody was concerned with anyone having connection so I was it was like leaving my kidneys upstairs and going down to the basement I was like leaving organs upstairs and having to go down to the basement mostly because I couldn't bear being disconnected from my wife but you know you have this foma what's going on in the world and what's happening around me and I don't really need you we have this need to to be connected we have a need to be connected and if we're not connected for a moment we're not connected for a moment we Panic we Panic so the almighty created a world where everything in the world is a metaphor for how we can connect with him everything in the world that was given to us is a metaphor for how to relate to him was was this past week said this when the telephone was invented he talked about it as a metaphor for how to connect with hmama all the more so you think about Wi-Fi or Broadband or 4G or 5G networks so that's what he's saying a person who has marish feels I have I have 5G I have a T1 can I have the highest level the fastest connection there can be if you don't have a Mauna you're walking around with no connection you're on your own you're on your own and if you have AA you are Uber connected hyper connected you have the highest and fastest level of connection and what is the benefit of being connected well when you're connected you could be in communication when you're connected you have the peace of mind to know that if there were an emergency you could reach somebody if you're connected you have access to apps which can enrich your life for the good if you're connected there's enormous benefits and if you're connected to hashm with amuna then you know that everything happening in your life is for a reason it's for a reason nothing is random and nothing is chance that it's all there for a reason so what am I going to get angry about because I'm stuck in traffic I'll get home 20 minutes 30 minutes later than I thought I would so I have 20 30 more minutes of quality time or I could sit in the back and open my laptop or open a safer or open or close my eyes and get some sleep if we in every moment that we're in say how can I transform this for the good what benefit could I get out of it each moment that we're alive is a test it's a test are we going to pass or are we going to fail is our muscle amuna memory going to kick in and we're going to realize it's all for a reason why get angry why lose myself am I going to submit to a higher power or am I going to have such bad judgment that I sabotage and I self-destruct and I hurt myself by ruining those moments we have to understand the depth of mid was the Great he was a student of the whole musim movement and he became a transmitter of the Muslim movement and what is the musim movement salant the great founder of the musim movement lived at a time where he said t everything blessed can be found in the Torah if you sit and you study Torah everything can be found in it but you know what happened looked at his generation and he said while everything can be found in it what are the laws of my Ox scores your Ox what are the laws of financial damages what are the laws of sh and cautious what are the law it all can be found in there but you know what it wasn't making people better people it was making us more knowledgeable people it gave us greater wisdom but it wasn't making us better andant said you know human character traits and qualities patience and greed and anger and envy and all the character traits they need to be studied and analyzed like a su of gamar they are as complicated they're as difficult you know and and that's R writes this in his introduction to I'm paraphrasing but he basically writes and I remember this from Yeshiva who were the really like righteous people who were like the good righteous kids who studied mus and worked on themselves they were the ones who weren't so smart they couldn't get ahead in learning if you're really smart you excel in learning learning learning learning and I bem this all the time in this current sh system which our community is not as need deep and are affected by but in some communities that sh system the only measure by which they determine the worth of a boy at least is what kind of learner he is he's such a good learner he's one of the he's such a phenomenal fantastic learner this has been said a boy is such a good learner his parents shouldn't have to split supporting them when they get married for him to learn he's such a good learner the girl's parents should have to cover 100% of the cost this has been said to people we know and to the parents that boy don't compromise your son is a mitsu and you will you are you are hurting him if you agree that you're willing to split the cost cuz you're suggesting he's not great so he said he's great and learning how do you know he's got a great husband because he's great and learning someone's got a brilliant mind a brilliant head that means he's going to be brilliant father or brilliant husband it's brilliant character traits it could be horrible verbally emotionally abusive neglectful absentee he could be horrible that's a that's that's the number one he's arrogant because he's hurt his whole life he's one of the mits and nobody he shouldn't have to compromise in Iota it's an enormous flaw in the sh system it's an enormous flaw that that is the one measure by which we are determining someone's value and worth and who they should be set up with and what are the terms and conditions of the of the marriage it's an enormous enormous flaw and people need to have the courage to speak out and stop it so salant said yeah learning this is the this is the everything in our lives learning Torah is the air that we breathe of course it's fundamental it's foundational it's everything but the learning is supposed to fashion and form us into the better people and so he said you know we need to study character traits like their gamar analyze them and take them apart and and appreciate them and learn from them so that's what is saying here right here we need to know what makes us tick we need to understand ourselves we need to be able to um learn how to change habits we need to learn how to become more disciplined and show self-restraint the more that is living and breathing within us the more that am is well within us the healthier we are then the healthier will act and the healthier that will be there's a direct correlation says RBA a direct correlation between living with faith submitting to a higher power realizing there's something greater than ourselves and being more humble and more calm and more patient and more kind and more happy and not jealous and so on and so forth okay v b next page starting the next chapter so the first thing we spoke about was fire fire is uh the source of arrogance and anger if we can learn to channel and control the fire a controlled fire is good then we can conquer the anger and the jealous and the uh arrogance okay next the second element of the four elements in everybody is after fire is wind and the notion the idea that there's wind within us is the idea of speech there the correlation between the wind the the function The Faculty the element of wind in us and our power of speech and the the um branches of this are the negative use of speech what's a negative use of speech lar gossip lying distortions untruths when we abuse that power of speech when we're not using it to build but to destroy when we're not using it for truth but we're using it to spread Lies when we're not using it to make people feel good but we're using it to knock people down then speech that's that notion of the element of wind in US tells us there are four categories of groups of people who God does not want to hang around them of course God is not a person we're anthropomorphizing God but it means that just like we have people there are people everybody loves to be around they're charismatic they're fun they're fun loving they make us feel good about ourselves everyone is drawn to be around them and then you have people who nobody wants to be around them they're negative and fabis and they complain and they're miserable they bring you down they make you feel bad about yourself they make you feel bad about the world so the almighty also says look I de God says I try to create I want to have a presence in the world I want to live among you so who does God like to hang out with who are the groups of people who are God's crew I never used that word when I was growing up but my kids use it they have a crew it's our crew it's my crew it's a crew and when I was a crew they were like guys with hor hats building buildings now kids have a crew everybody's got a crew who's God's crew who's hashem's crew so the gar says in in SAR says Hashem does not hang out with people who gossip he doesn't want to hang out with people who gossip because a person who gossips they're as if a heretic it's as if they're denial of God and I have to tell you you know why you don't want to hang out around gosip I had a friend and I very one of the rare few times in my life that I really withdrew from a relationship not overtly and not explicitly and I didn't break up with him I just consciously spent less time and I'll tell you why I realized in almost every interaction I had he was sharing his judgment his opinions his thoughts and everyone else that we knew and that we had in common and they weren't usually very positive and I realized if that's how they's talking to me about them then the great likelihood is that's how is talking to them about me and I'm not interested in that because to me the underlying most important principle in Friendship is loyalty it's loyalty be loyal you got a problem you got a beef you got a bone to pick with me tell me I'm not perfect I'm not perfect just tell me but family friendship it's the difference between an acquaint you don't have to be loyal you should be loyal to everyone but you don't have to be loyal to an acquaintance you don't have to be loyal to a stranger you should be you don't have to be but a friend or family you have to be loyal and if you're not loyal what kind of of friend what kind of family member are you so when you hang out with somebody who all they do is talk about others to you then you need to know that the likelihood is they talking about you to others and then I found out that that was the case it wasn't hard to to confirm that and so I just pulled back because that's just doesn't feel good if there's no loyalty you don't want to be there so Hashem says I don't want to hang out in a group that's gossiping if you're all talking about sitting in judgment this one's this and you got a name for everyone that guy's a bum that guy's cheap this one's this that one's lazy that one's you know then who wants to be around that who wants to be around that so the says that a person who gossips it's as if they are a heretic denial of God as the says explains this what does this mean why is the person who gossips as if they're in denial of God why what car what connection is there between the two can't I be righteous and religious and faithful can I be a Holy Roller and Shuckle and daving and my is forever and then when I'm done I have some good juicy gossip to share with somebody why is it if I share juicy good delicious lashara that I'm considered to be a heretic in denial of God what's the connection between the two anyone anyone have a suggestion why is that a form of heresy what does God have to do with it excuse me God could do you mind you're interrupting I'm sharing some good lashara here what does God have to do with the l that I speak I remember there was a guy when I was a kid there was a guy in my Sho growing up he used to say to me Ephraim I don't repeat lhara so listen carefully the first time that's what he used to say to me I don't repeat lanara so listen carefully the first time yes Pam beautiful I love that cuz would you talk like that if God were in the room and if you're talking like that what you're saying is God is not in your room that's beautiful thank you for coming today that's fantastic that's great that's great now live life always live life always the person's in the room I'll tell you we're running out of time but I'll tell you something amazing I learned from a lay leader many years ago who said to us as a Shu leadership once and you're making we've never done anything wrong don't worry everyone take a deep breath but sometimes you make decisions and you say you know is this the right decision the wrong decision and and this late leader taught us and said to to ask ourselves the following question the principle that was shared with us is if you wouldn't do it in front of your spouse it's cheating if you wouldn't do it in front of your spouse it's cheating we have a very high definition of cheating which means really cheating but the truth is anything you wouldn't do in front of your spouse is cheating so you're flirting with the waitress but you wouldn't do that if your wife were sitting there then don't do it if she's not there so I apply and that was the message to us was would you do it if the whole congregation were were're gathered and watching if you wouldn't then don't do it if you would then you can do it and that's what I tell my accountant I want you to push the envelope as far as possible save me as much money as you can but don't do anything you wouldn't do if the IRS agent were sitting next to you while you were preparing the tax return so it's a great principle for life if you would you do it if they were in the room if you wouldn't do it if they were there then don't do it then if and if you would do it if they were in the room then feel free to do it whether it's the IRS agent the sh membership or your spouse it's a great lesson for life and it's also true about god let's say God took on a a form that you could see him hear him feel him if you wouldn't watch that on Netflix with him sitting next to you if you wouldn't say that with him sitting next to you if you wouldn't go if you wouldn't do that then don't do it because he's sitting next to you so Pam it's a beautiful Insight that if you're doing it what you're saying is God's not sitting next to me so when you speak lashara when you gossip it's bless you because you're saying God is not in my room beautiful any other suggestions yes hasem is our father so just like a father and a mother he sees his children you know talking about one another or fighting it's not a fighting thing but talking about one another it hurts him I tell you I'm I want you know I hesitated about putting this out there as a question or should I just read what he said but I'm so happy I did because these are two beautiful beautiful insights so the second suggestion what's your name Shirley Shirley the second suggestion is uh Shirley suggests that if we understand that Hashem is our Collective father and we are all his children it makes us all siblings so for a parent I spoke about this I think yesterday in the par class there's nothing more painful for a parent than to see siblings not getting along when you see siblings not getting along siblings gossiping about each othering siblings fighting with each other attention among siblings it's very unbearably painful for a parent so when we gossip about our sibling our fellow man fellow human that's painful for God that's kaf beautiful two magnificent interpretations anyone else might as well keep going because we're getting some good stuff here yes surely number two IDE yes for all his creation so if we're talking about his creation then we're basically diminishing what he has beautiful in other words if I make a piece of art and you gossip about my art and I hear you gossiped about my art I'm not going to feel very good so we are all creations of hm we all have when we gossip about another person we're gossiping about hashem's artwork about hashem's handiwork he's no interest in that keep going these are great these are fantastic amazing I'm scared to keep reading because those are three amazing those with three phenomenal interpretations thank you Shirley and Pam so says the following he says he has a third interpret a fifth what are we up to a fourth interpretation his fourth interpretation is that you you think your mouth is yours to do as you want our mouth is the company car you can't drive the company car for private business you can't use the company car to hurt the company K gave you the power of speech there are people who have no power of speech K gave us the power of speech when you abuse that power of speech you are abusing the company car you're abusing your expense account you're abusing your computer or the phone that was given to you by the company not only are you abusing it you're abusing it in a way that's hurting the company that's going against what the company want this is also a pretty good one number four so therefore your denier of Hashem you're heretic in Hashem it's because it's un loan from God it's not yours it's not yours don't ever take for granted that we have it we're not entitled to it it's not it's not coming to us it's not coming to us I've been so grateful all week because we have a dear friend in our community who who's had back pains for the last two years come this way Mr Sanders who's had back pains for the last two years but this P shabas was walking home and got to the lake and stopped something tweaked in his back he literally couldn't move was in bed and out of commission come was in bed and out of commission I'm sorry no no it's no problem it's my pleasure it's always good to see you he was in bed and out of commission he literally could not walk couldn't raise his arm to schedule the MRI and yesterday I had to go into surgery and surgery was successful he should have a complete and a speedy amazing he's an amazing special dear friend why am I telling you that because I was just every time I like felt bad about something I'd remember you know what I can move I'm upright I was thinking about him he he he was another mutual friend describes he's never heard an adult cry in pain like he heard him cry in pain so he say you know I'm not crying in pain I'm I'm already ahead today I woke up my back I could stand up right I could walk to the Amun I could sit in a chair I could go on to wherever I'm going next whatever else I'm facing my back is working I don't need to have one of my vertebrae removed it's not crushing nerve I'm already I'm good I'm good so whether it's our spine and our back or whether it's our eyes and our ears or whether it's our lips and our mouth these things are un loan from God they're not part of our permanent collection and you know he took one step and he couldn't move and next thing you know he's in surgery so it takes one moment and whatever it is we're taking for granted that faculty it's gone so while we have it don't take it for granted and use it for the purpose for which it was given to us we are stewards over it we are just custodians or Trustees of it we're given a mouth to be a trustee to use the power of speech to do good in the world when we're cynical and sarcastic and when we lie and distort the truth and when we gossip and we slander hurt others then we're abusing the company car we're misusing the phone that the company gave us and pays for that's the fourth interpretation so what were the four interpretations why is that if you gossip you're That's The Power of wind in us the element of wind misused is comes out as gossip and why is that a heretic why are we so we had four reasons number one Pam said was there because hashem's in the room you wouldn't do it with hasem in the room if you're doing it Hashem is not in your in your room you're in denial of Hashem number two surely said because you don't speak negatively about your siblings nothing hurts a parently speaking negatively about your siblings number three if you love somebody you don't rank on their artwork you don't rank on their poem they wrote you don't rank on their book of the website they designed if you love Hashem then you're not going to gossip about his handiwork the things he created and number four revola is that these things are un loan to us we are stewards over them and if we abuse them and misuse them then we are violating the trust of the person who gave it to us we are we are Heretics of Hashem yes um as I watch people who got very ill and could no longer doav that really HS you power of doing the ability to D of talk about the power of speech even just the power to be able to doav is not something we should take for granted well also like in the morning I know some women are when you know thank you God for letting me go to the bathroom and take so really it comes he gives us everything every morning right nothing is too small it's not manusa why are we mentioning it each of these blessings is to pause and stop and think wow my back Works MH you know when you're out on your back and your nerves are being pressed on going to the bathroom is not simple everything that happens none of it should be taken for granted right the whole right that's one of the 15 morning blessings of God you help the bent over stand upright the fact that I'm standing upright that I have a spine and it holds me up and I'm standing upright and it's not pressing on the nerves right now that's that's an unbelievable blessing so our lives should be filled with great blessings I think we're on break till after sukus because I don't think there's another Wednesday between now and sukus so I want to wish everyone a sweet and a happy and a blessed year a year that's filled with amuna next Wednesday what's next Wednesday somala do we want to learn on Somalia okay see everyone next Wednesday