Rav Gav Leadership Class Feb 17 2019

okay so here we go so first and foremost I want to welcome everyone welcome everyone to the uh to uh I don't know what this is to zoom to the zoom meeting this is very exciting and I see that we have a few participants here as uh those who are maybe unfamiliar you do have an option on the bottom of the pager to do chat so I'm going to set up with just a little bit of a question so we can get things crack and lacking I want to welcome Robert Barnett there welcome to the show and uh and here and here we go so I'm going to start off with the question and it's not a rhetorical one it's an answer I really want but I don't want you to answer that loud because then you won't let people can't think so I want you to answer in a way in the chat and in the bottom it says you can go to everyone you could write just to me if you end up making a mistake that's also okay here we go so the question is as follows I guess we'll start off with an oldie but a goodie try to imagine the following scenario that you have a you have a father and a son and I'm spicing up an old one so if you know it don't be that guy a father and a son they decide to take a little trip to Italy and they go to the you know the the they're driving around in the beautiful scenery and they come across a bar and this bar is located on the edge of a cliff they call it the edge of the cliff bar and the answer at this bar the father you know is smart enough to have his son to be the designated driver and he gets a little tipsy the father and he says all right it's time to go home and he says to his son all right son it's time for you to go ahead and uh and you're gonna have to drive because I'm a little bit too Tipsy his son goes but Dad I am only eight years old he says uh don't worry about it kid just grab the wheel ten and two uh nine and one three and twelve just do what you got to do and we're gonna get us out of here he's like what do I do is it just step on the gas just hold it still is it okay fine so he starts holding it still and stepping on the gas he's like what do I do now he's like just just hold still now if you've ever been to Italy or seen any pictures along the coastline or where the road goes nice little curve so when he says to him just go straight that doesn't end too well they drive straight up the cliff and they plunge down 300 feet until the car explodes implodes explodes implodes the father is killed on impact he's gonna come soon enough well you're talking to me yes you gotta mute yourself on his throne uh 300 feet but he survives so what ends up happening men of that come they take him to the hospital and they're going to try to save him they start working on them and finally the head surgeon walks in and that surgeon looks at the kid puts on the gloves looks at the kid and says I can't operate on this boy he's my son how is it possible father killed an impact as soon as walks in gloves I kidnapper and this boy he's my son how is it possible if you know the answer write it write it to me now in the zoom group chat let's see if anyone figured this out yet how to use this chat for those just joining us father and a son bad car accident uh oh you Dina you're with everyone okay that's that's fine don't worry about it uh for those who have not yet figured out what it is this is a very old one I'm hoping you get it and that no problem and that is that who is the doctor the doctor is the mother this is an oldie bit of goodie for those who didn't get it shame on you for those who did get it yeah probably heard it a long time ago I could say the different answers that I get though I want to ask this question in a class setting and I'm going to ask people so uh how did it happen what happened they say well uh maybe there were two dads or maybe it was a father like a priest or maybe it was someone else how many feelings of saying well it was it was the mother the the doctor wisdom of it okay so fine number one number one let's go to number two number two is another one this one is a little less well-known and they get it when you write it in the zoom chat right not to everyone but just right to me for this one that son survives he grows up and when he grows up he becomes you know pretty wealthy and he decides he's going to spend his money on some pretty crazy stuff and he lives Life in the Fast Lane he decides to buy himself a brand new car what kind of car he gets himself a Mercedes Maybach for those unfamiliar with the car this is not a my pay grade but the Mercedes Maybach is about 350 000 quite an expensive car and you can Custom Tailor it and it's a pretty pretty awesome car suppose that and he's you know again living life in the fast lane decides to take it out for a spin a bit of a daredevil he got ripped off though you see that is because his his headlights were actually broken so he decided to go ahead and take it out even though they were broken and he's driving a hundred miles an hour down the road with all of his headlights broken and not only his headlights Broken But as he's driving there are no street lights no street lights on one of these country roads and it was a time of the month it was the beginning or the end of the month there was no moon there was no moon so we have headlights broken no street lights no moon a kid jumps in front of his car and he Slams on his brakes and he just missed him how did he see him and it was not one of these like fancy Technologies of the car write your answers put them in now if nobody answers I'm assuming Nobody Knows the answer and okay good thank you for the private answer we had one answer in so far anybody else whenever you're ready no pressure oh we got one we got one we got two answers and it could be one of you got it come on people 100 miles an hour down the road headlights broken no street lights no moon boy jumps in front of the car Slams on his brakes and just misses him how did he see him oh good good good good good for those who have not yet answered I should tell you and that is I'm going to give a little shout out to Miriam and Stacy it was the middle of the day remember that you're in as well it was the middle of the daytime now what happened for those who didn't get the answer who answered other things which I won't you know respond to so I don't embarrass anyone but that is well when I start by saying that the headlights are broken what comes to mind automatically automatic headlines are broken people start to think well it was dark and then I say and there were no street lights out oh my it was darker and then I go further and I said hey you know what it was uh no moon it was the darkest now what happens is our minds start getting pushed into this direction now listen all y'all out there in cyberspace if we'd be in person this would be a bit easier to be able to work face to face but we got to work with what we got over here understand that many of us live our lives in the way of these riddles and what I mean by that is is that we basically have certain Concepts certain ideas that we hear that put us in a direction in life they put us in a direction and we start getting closed off into a box we get closed off in a certain way of thinking and many times what happens is then we just live our lives based off the parameters that we were given right so I say uh the father was killed an impact and all of a sudden we seem to think oh father killed an impact oh I don't know who could be the doctor I say that it was uh the guy jumped in front of his car when there's no headlights or whatever it was dark it was darker it was the darkest and then we start to live our lives based off certain rules that are created now who creates those rules the unfortunate reality is sometimes people create them for us but many times we create the rules for ourselves we create certain rules those who are participating I'm going to try to keep you bring you back into the game participate if you even want to unmute it and try to answer the next question put yourself on video put your your volume up also okay with that for this next question over here it is a bit of a trick question but how many people are there in the world question mark hit it how many people are there in the world today anyone how many people in the world doesn't have to be a private answer this could be out to everyone or you can do it private if you'd like does nobody know how many people are in the world okay we got one who said seven billion any other answers I'll give you a hint that is a trick question how many people are in the world five four three two one all of them that's correct Dina very good Miriam says always changing that is accurate but I'm gonna say anywhere between seven to ten uh people I think seven to ten people not billion not million not hundreds of I mean people now what do I mean when I say between seven and ten people I mean between seven and ten types of people categories groups try to think about it for a second how many different types of things are there and think about all the people that you met have you ever met someone and when you meet them right away you say oh this guy he reminds me of or this girl she reminds me of or whatever it may be and what happens is we're reminded and then we start looking at them a certain way in other words there are seven to ten different categories or groups of people it's not a real number make up the number you want but you understand maybe you can say different for a different country or culture but there are not that many people we fit into and we fall into what we call a box oh very good around the excellent excellent but what I mean by the concept of how many people it means unfortunately once you have a person is a certain way then it becomes negligible you're right though you are accurate there are more people but need to say categories we have seven to ten different types of people out there I went to visit one of my yeshivas not long ago and this is Yeshiva that I studied in where there's like a hundred kids there and I walked in and one of my rabbis is still working there and I went to ask him I said so where am I he goes what do you mean where are you I said where am I you've been here long enough I mean yeah it's true that there are a lot of kids here but you know it's pretty much all the same you know there's the funny one there's one that thinks they're funny there's the good looking one the one that thinks they're good linking there's the rich one the one that thinks they're rich so where am I which one of my points to some kid I'm like that guy she's such a loser he goes I don't want to say anything about you but you know we fit into categories the 50 categories and unfortunately we end up then very much living Our Lives according to those categories I I would venture to say the following statement and if you disagree at any time again either write it publicly if you'd like or even shut off your volume turn on your volume I don't know what you're allowed to do and I don't know who's running this thing turn on the volume and actually say it comes straight out against it I would venture to say 50 of the decisions that we've ever made in our lives we never made it all and let me say that differently at least 50 of the decisions that we've ever made in our lives we never made it all anybody disagree with that comment at least 50 percent of the decisions you've ever made everybody ever made at all and what do I mean when I say this concept right right okay so good so so Dina put in privately that that that's probably more and and I agree I agree that it's totally more and like Rhonda says I I would mention to say it's a lot more than 50. I'm just trying to be nice here I would say it's 90 of the decisions that we ever made in our lives we never made it all someone would ask me what's the other 10 and there's two answers to that that depends if there's husbands or not if there's men in the room the other 10 is your wife made the decisions and if there if there's no bedroom then you're right I would say 100 of the decisions now what do I mean by that of course we make decisions we make decisions all the time but there are relevant decisions and there are decisions that that we've broken out of and we've actually made it completely and totally and then there are I don't want to call them irrelevant but decisions that we really didn't have full I guess I would call a choice in the matter I'm not getting into free choice no the discussion entirely but meaning to say that that 50 of the decisions The Way We Walk the way we talk the way we act the way we behave very simple if you've ever met anyone and then you meet their parents and then you go oh so now you understand what I mean we go ahead and we we go to we follow we follow our upbringing it's a reality something which is very hard to get around it's very hard to get around that which is scary to think about how many decisions have we actually made and what do we actually know did we really make decisions so I believe in doing a series I hope on on the idea of seven traits the first of anything before you can go ahead and and I want to tell you something putting aside Judaism what I'm going to share with you right now are the ideas we're talking about right now are not just relevant to an idea of someone wants to pursue their Judaism and and gets you know deeper into it understand it this is everything in life this is in business this is in relationships this is between relationship between your spouses or your children or your work or yourself and that is that before we make any decisions we have to know how to think outside the box don't get caught up in this box and then we go ahead and we parameters and we're stuck within that box but to start breaking out and really making decisions if I want to share with you that there are four different categories that we have when we want to relate to information okay I'm gonna I'll even write them out to you so you don't get confused as you can see them number one is called Society but I think I just wrote that privately so I'm going to write that to everyone now uh number one is what we call how do we do this other just Adina okay now to everyone number one is called Society can I make sure I spell it right now Society uh you know what I'll say them all and then we'll break them down this is what I like to call Sif Bic what do I mean by CF dick so let's break down each one of them number one is society Society is for example an example would be if uh someone and just forgive me but again if anyone wants to pipe in at any time please feel free to ask questions or interject at any time but but just for the for time's sake I'm just going to speak straight because I don't know how quickly you're getting what I'm saying here society would mean like this is it uncommon to find that somebody is from a certain city state or country and they are a big fan of that city-state or country sports team you know someone's from New York and they like the Knicks or the Giants or the Jets or the Islanders or the Rangers or the you know I don't know fill in the blank what I missed and the next baseball basketball oh yeah the Yankees and the Nets right that's called Society so Society I would say is what just for as an example would be something like a sports team this is an example and you go you ask someone so why do you like your sports team and what are they going to say there could be various different answers and there's always exceptions so if you're one of them my friends chill I got it but we go ahead and we say that where there's exceptions to the little bit the general rule is that most people are from a place they like a team is that a choice that they made the answer is probably not in other words they grew up in a place they grew up in a society they grew up in a country in a place a location where everybody likes this team so they like them also that's called Society after Society we have something which is called faith now what what does it mean when we say faith faith is something and if you don't like the definitions I'm giving so we just need a working model here just don't think it's so intensely I'm just working to change the the words it's just semantics but listen to the understanding of it like this faith is when you want something to be true but you actually have no evidence that actually is true so I'll give you an example and I'm talking about faith would be something like the lottery okay the lottery a person goes and they play the lottery why do they play the lottery they play the lottery because they want to win they want it to be true is it actually true is it something that they go ahead and and the the statistically makes sense matter of fact statistically you're not going to win yes there is oh there are people that win at times I got it but it's not going to be you and if it is then we should speak I mean I'd love to be your friend but but come to realize the fact that we go ahead um and we're playing the latter it's because we want to win we would like to win I have faith I'm going to win which is why most of you if any of you play scratch-offs or something like that you you buy a one dollar ticket a five dollar ticket maybe a ten dollar ticket you're not buying a hundred dollar tickets at least not regularly unless it's for some charity why not because you know you're gonna lose and and then the one dollar game maybe I'll win and if I don't think I had fun trying but that's called faith we then move on to the next level which is called belief now what's what would be belief belief is essentially when you know you have evidence that something is true you have evidence that something is true but the evidence is what we would call in conclusive evidence inconclusive so let's say for example I would tell you that uh that I go that you walk into a room and uh or better yet you're standing outside of a room and you see you see me walk out of the room and I walk out of the room and I'm holding a bag it's gonna get a little gory apologies you see it be walking out with the bat you go into the room and you see no one else there but someone on the floor and they're no longer in the land of the living now anyone who's involved in police work would know that I would be called a prime suspect but you couldn't say that I'm the person that actually did it that is inconclusive you have evidence but it's inconclusive it's not clear that that is the case so basically what we have is is that you have a picture you're drawing a picture that maybe this is true but I don't know that it's true last but not least and this is uh probably the most intense one is what we would call Knowledge now this over here is a Big E listen very carefully about to share with you because I'm going to share with you something which is a life altering life-altering if we understand what does it mean knowledge what is the definition of knowledge listen carefully to this idea knowledge is when you have enough evidence I'm going to explain what that means in a second coming to write it out enough evidence I hope I spell this right evidence that puts something into a something into a category where it is now reasonable to say that it's true enough evidence that puts something into a category that it is now reasonable it is now reasonable to say that it's true this is that's that's a big statement right there because many people make a mistake when they're trying to figure something out in life they want to know how do I know something how do I really understand if something is true or something is not true what's called knowledge and you have people left and right saying well knowledge is a hundred percent and you can't have 100 and something so therefore you can have knowledge a classic one that comes up with this Judaism like how do I know Judaism is true if I don't know 100 that it's true then I don't know but the reality is that's not accurate we use word knowledge all the time but do we actually know something and I'm gonna I'm gonna give you an example now this is a classic of Noah Weinberg right now if you haven't heard the name of Noah Weinberg by now I'm surprised so I'm not even gonna explain it to you I know somebody who have no Weinberg and used to very often speak up the following and I'm going to ask all y'all out there today and we're going to take a look and see what you say about this so the classic example is your parents is there anyone that is on this chat right now that could say that their parents are their biological parents so as you were not adopted anyway unless I hope this isn't too personal but if you're not answering I'm not taking it as an idea that uh that it's an answer you don't have to answer but is anyone here that uh that could write and say my hair Sony somebody wrote something very funny privately to me that they have there I won't say who it is but they have their mother's toes okay good so that's uh that's uh certainly is a 100 Proof is anyone here that the parents of their biological parents so we have someone says most definitely okay good that's out in the open uh so only one of you I guess okay interesting I've never had a group with uh so many people adopted that's fascinating okay that's okay but uh let's try to take a look at those whose parents are their parents uh if you don't mind me asking Miriam Leia Schwartz straight out going at you how do you know your parents are your parents how do you know your parents or your parents how do you know how do you know take it away how do you know can we get this on audio can anyone put this on audio like you can actually hear you speak how do you know your parents or your parents I just know that was very conclusive and thank you so much ladies and gentlemen of the jury do you agree that to be wow for sure we are now no certainly does anyone know how we know that your parents are your parents jeans genetics genetics and genes okay that is who's speaking who said that Lauren okay Lauren genetics what do you mean by genetics if you don't mind me asking like DNA you've taken a DNA test I mean I haven't personally but if I want it right but you didn't how do you know your parents are your parents so some Miriam writes she has pictures I also have pictures of babies that don't belong to me please negate that comment that sounds creepy what I meant by that is just because you have a picture does it mean that we know it's you how do we know your parents or your parents I guess nobody actually knows that's a little scary here now I don't invest with you too much I'm not even going to go you know back okay because they love us that's nice but my question was biological biological now if rather what you meant by that is is that oh wow it's so bad and listen to my biological parents ain't no way they might be my parents I don't know you see that would necessarily be a proof you could say their parents because they raised us but I mean biological how do we know there are biological parents now Lauren I'll even throw out the concept if you want to throw in genetics over there if anyone's ever done a little research then you know that even genetics aren't 100 okay good Miriam you're getting on to a good idea I don't know I don't have any reason to believe otherwise states he says we believe them that's very good good but you see you believe then then we've moved below the level of knowledge and we don't know so some of those are those your parents you say well I uh believe so well that's a little bit disturbing for your parents maybe they'd be like so they might be able to know that you're their kid but that you could know that they're your parents a little bit challenging I don't want this to be the next time your parents call you know you'd be like hi mop you'd be like hi Mom like if that's your real name like I don't wanna I can mess up then she's gonna turn to your father and go that's it she knows it's time to reveal who I really am no okay so we understand the fact that how do you know let's take a look so we got cystic Society faith belief knowledge what's knowledge knowledge is when you have enough evidence that put something into a realm where it's now reasonable to say that it's true so let's put this all on the table everything you guys said we have pictures we have DNA we have no one said otherwise right otherwise I put no one together that I don't think that's a word no one said otherwise we have we look like them we have uh the fact that we have a birth certificate uh and and and and and so on and so forth in other words we have a lot of evidence that's drawing a picture over here when we start drawing that picture now we say ah you know what it's reasonable to say that this is actually true but how many things do we actually know how many stuff do we actually get and how many things do we just accept it's scary like I said fifty percent of the decisions whoever made it we never made it all 90 maybe even 100 and I'll show it to you it's scary but I'll show it to you now I'll show it to you in modern day okay this is a modern day that we live in now we know that in life we got tons of choices right we can make tons and tons of choices let's take a look and see what I'm saying is true though for those who have children or want children or think about children sometimes tell me what is the best way to control your child let's say you want to control them I'm not saying I'm saying if you want to have a control over your child in a way that uh that that control how do you control them without abuse God forbid what's the best way to control your child anybody have any advice over there best way to control your child I guess you're waiting for me to tell you the answer because nobody has it because maybe we weren't able to control our children what's the best way to control your child throw it out there you got your chat on the bottom best way to control your child okay frame it in a way that aligns with what they already want okay good good okay nice nice everyone sees that one Miriam lay Schwartz's 9 year old daughters and say just love them love them so Mrs Schwartz forgive me for giving up trade secrets in front of your daughter this is your this is up to you you wanted to see this any other answers explain consequence and reward good good come on give me some more give me some more no more all right get ready for it I'm going to tell you the best way to control your kid the best way to control your kid behind this door are probably my kids listening so I'm giving up some Trade Secrets here but the best way to control your kids is to give them a false sense of control now what do I mean by that allow them to feel similar to like Dina mentioned about the concept of framing in a way with aligning what they want but even what they don't want but to make it think that way an example okay so I remember when my oldest daughter whom she's about three years old at the time that I came over to her and I said to her Nava because that's her name I said Nava put on this outfit yeah I hold up an outfit whatever it is I could even do a uh a real live demonstration okay I don't even know whose this is I don't even know maybe this isn't even my kids but I go out and hold this up and I say Nava put this on put on this outfit right and she says like any good three-year-old Israeli girl you have to have that shoulder in there there you go I'm not putting it on I say Nava come on put on that outfit low okay it's not working not working so what happens I said that's it put it on put it on as you get into a fight and obviously nothing goes well until I realized one day I want me to show you what I did what I did as follows I took two outfits whoa this is stuck I took two outfits held up in front of her and I say Nava which one do you want now what did I do I took two pre-parently approved oh yeah okay I know that the shrug is international that was just Israeli I took two pre-preadly approved outfits and I say Nava it's yes you need your thing I say Nava which outfits you want I remember the first time I did that what happened the very first time I did that she went like this hmm and then I said hold on one second what are you saying I don't know what she was saying because I'm saying eenie meeny miny mo in Hebrew so I said excuse me I'm an immigrant we speak English in this home right but what happened how did she feel she says oh I get to choose which one I want how does that make the kid feel makes them feel empowered it makes them feel like a day made a choice like they made a decision but hold on one second did she actually make a decision the answer is yes but did she really have Choice the answer is no she thinks she did but she only had the choices that I presented before excuse me before her now what would happen if I put these two in front of her and then I said okay now but which of these two do you want right I go which one do you want here's your two options you want this guy you want this guy which one do you want which one and then she says you know what I want the third one the one on the Shelf I say excuse me I said you get to choose anyone that you want of these two but if I was really intelligent what would I do I would sit at my house in a way which the entire thing is reparently approved in a way that the only choice she had was something that I think is okay so when I say which one do you want this one or this one this one or this one do you want this one or this one you know come on make a choice and then she says you know what I want the third one I said come on no really which ones I want the third one I say you know what okay fine you could have the third one at least you feel at that moment I'm in charge I'm in a decision look at me look how gradient in reality did she make a decision now what's up and think for a second that's an example which has to do with our own particular home in our lives let me ask you guys a question about you okay let me ask all y'all a question let's take an example of something we have tons of choices with right so maybe we have one of these guys something you can recognize this believe it or not this is a real live phone as you can see on it it says 738 because here in Israel it's 7 38. so what happens you go and you start to see this this uh this phone over here you guys had tons of choices as for which phone you can have if you don't mind writing in okay we have we have your 17 participants I want to see at least 10 answers type in for me right now which type of phone do you own which phone put it on the everyone that you can send it out and which type of phone do you have okay we got one we got one up there Galaxy iPhone we need more people iPhone keep going iPhone keep going Nokia spicy it up keep going one two three four five we got we got five answers come on we need five more three more three more answers let's get three more up on the board iPhone Galaxy iPhone Galaxy another iPhone on the board two more two more people what do you got iPhone iPhone iPhone iPhone Galaxy iPhone and last but not least survey says for 200 points nobody says anything okay so we're gonna let it slide you see so how many options do we actually have out there do you see there's probably like a thousand phones that you could choose from but isn't it fascinating there really over one majority of you now and forever said this right million in the beginning so the Galaxy that's a Samsung I don't know if you're familiar with the fact that Samsung and iPhone are like deadlocked in court for the last 15 years fighting over who created the technology it is so similar one to the next that it's scary so basically we have up there iPhone iPhone iPhone iPhone and sprinkle in with a little Nokia but here's a scary thing you see you have tons of choices of which of which phones you could have but I don't have to even go on a limb right now because of the fact that you're even having this conversation there's a good chance that you're on your phone right now that is that you have tons of choices of which phone but every single one of you owns a phone in other words what has the world done to us the world has held up and said okay you have to have a phone now which one do you want why is our only choice that we must have a phone maybe we don't want a phone now if there's anyone in this chat here that's over 35 then you actually did have a choice at some point in your life because you didn't have one growing up when I was a kid we didn't have cell phones nobody had cell phones so you probably you know most people didn't have them which means at one point you made a choice but then it became a given now I'm having an hour going now don't misunderstand me because there's always someone who says oh you're saying is bad listen like you see I have a phone I'm not telling you not to have a phone I am saying don't misunderstand what's happening in our lives that there are certain Givens that were going on with those Givens as opposed to maybe challenging those Givens and that brings us to a very next point which is huge who in Judaism would you say was known to be the first Jew who was known to be the first Jew you could type it you could say it you could chat it tweet it pop it Boop it whatever you got who's going to be the first Jew hit it okay we got an Abraham up on the board and that's correct for 200. Daily Double okay now Abraham is going to be the first Jew although technically speaking he wasn't even Jewish right but all right that's I don't want to confuse you too much but before signing Abraham is called to be the first Jew and what is it that made Abraham special you see it wasn't the fact that he was the only one to believe in one God there are plenty of people who believed in one God before Abraham right we had Adam and Eve uh we had um you go through Tanakh through the toy you start to see plenty of people before Abram that believes in one God then what made Abraham special what made Abraham different what made him different is the fact that he didn't just accept or people told him but actually he did something very unique now this is a very well-known story and I'm sure I'm sure you've heard it but just quickly reviewed the story Abraham had a father by the name of Tara I typed it out for those who want to see a Terra okay that was his father's name we came to the whole thing so Tara and Tara owned a a monopoly he had a monopoly of stories that were called Idols are us right he rocked it I don't know how to put the r backwards on the keyboard okay but I know zaros he was he was the one who who basically is very into idolatry multiple gods very much believe in that okay so one day one day tells us to avram this is the father of avram he says Abe I want you to watch the story I'm going out for a smoke he says all right you got it pops I'll see you soon and he goes out he leaves the store what does avron do anyone know what does he do type it in what does he do three seconds on the clock three two one boom good job he smashes all the idols destroys it good whoever wrote that one he destroys it except for one it leaves one Idol unsmashed and he puts the hammer in the hand of that Idol his father comes back after this whole you know going this whole smoke and he looks around and he's like oh what happened over here and he says that everything is smashed so he goes and his son is like oh Dad you wouldn't believe it it was World War III even the World War One hadn't happened yet right it was World War previous it was prerequisite World War and they were fighting and he said what happened because one of them goes oh it's tough being God the other one goes oh you're God what you're talking about I'm God damn it because no I'm God and it was your mama and then he goes you better believe it son and then it was a brawl and they started going crazy and they started smashing everything until finally it came out from the end of the day and what happens that must be God because he's the only one that's left paying turns to him he's like Abe Abe what are you talking about I'm the one who went for the smoke not you these things can't do anything the Sticks and Stones okay so then he says really so why do you worship them oh no he didn't but he busted him up right in his face now there's a lot more to that story and a lot we could talk about and learn about that story but I'm not getting into anything other than the following what made avraham special not the fact that he knew that there was one God because multiple people knew about this but the fact that he smashed his idols he smashed his eyes see he challenged his upbringing he challenged the surroundings I'm not saying I want you to go to the parents and be as we say in Hebrew as we say in New York I'm not saying that I am saying though that why do we just accept certain things and move forward with them and it's it's scary we go ahead and we just accept things and and then when we do that we live our lives based off them now uh okay it's a good question somebody asked how is Abram the first to ask this question how come no one else thought about it and I can't answer the question maybe there's something I'm not familiar with but in Jewish history we know it to be Jewish literature we know Abraham to be the one that does such a thing to break free I think you have to ask the question differently not how was it that no one else asked it right because again for those who didn't see it written someone wrote how is Abram the first to ask his question how did anyone else think about it I don't think the question is how is it that Abram that no one else thought about I think is how did Abraham think about it do you know that look this up most people around the world live within a 10-mile radius of where they were born most people live within a 10-mile radius and if it's not used I get it I'm also an I mean I live 6 000 miles away from where I was born I get it and I also moved to different states a few states of the Maryland I lived in New York I lived in New Jersey and then but I live here in Israel but most people in the world don't leave 10 mile radius their entire lives which is scary what does that mean that means that most people are living their life in a way most people living their life in a way where they don't challenge anything they just accept things that's how we live a life I know now we have the whole fake news thing that's going on and no one's accepting anything but it still accepting we say fake news about what we don't want to be news but other than that we say yeah yeah we accept it so the the uniqueness is is not it's that's how unique it is that's how unbelievable it is the fact that he did challenge that he broke out and someone say he broke on through to the other side and didn't just accept but rather he challenged and he asked before anyone could even begin any sort of understanding of anything in life we have to be able to take a step back and say okay what are the Givens as we say in communic terminology what's the hanaka and who says that they are true I'm not saying to be a contrarian nothing to fight all the time I'm not saying okay Rhonda I got it and some people say their their family lives in Israel You're right Jews are very unique we actually are unique and I think maybe it comes from DNA from Abraham that whether we want to or not we get moved all over the world whether it's because we're sending to Exile by people or because of the fact that we decide to move certain places we have a Homeland and people do that but again most people don't most people accept life for what it is and they just continue living a certain way our goal in life is not just to accept what everybody is telling us not to be a contrarian but to try to be honest and to break down to the bottom line the bottom line is okay where are we starting from the only way to go ahead and really move forward in life is to be independent in a way that we can go ahead and start making choices yeah okay so um it's a very good point someone just saw if you could see on or that was written out over there uh it says iPhone n that they heard uh a measures a measures as part of the oral tradition that says that it was hidden the cave for his formative years and it came out and he saw the sun in the sky and age where his mind could question things as opposed to most children accepting what they got used used in this world and that there there is a measures that says that there is such a teaching that says such a statement that uh that that would be the case and if that is the case then that means that that's a reason why he did that why he challenged because he was away from his surroundings that allowed him to ask the question the point being that we at some point in our life have to break free from this box we have to break free from the fact that every one of us right now I don't care who you are I don't care what city or state you're in every one of you lives in a box okay fine some of you live in an oval or in a triangle but you're in some geometric shape and every one of us is living in a particular box in a particular shape and the question is did you choose to live in that or did someone choose it for you that's scary did you choose or did someone choose it for you at the end of the day you may be in the right box but can you appreciate the difference between choosing to be in a particular field or area or life and someone choosing it for you when you choose it yourself then you have an understanding of what you're doing and unfortunately so many people might even be living the right life but they don't know it and since they don't know it they don't maximize it that's really what it comes down to is by challenging and asking the questions that are going on thinking out of the box not just accepting not going with us with your Society not just going with your faith or your belief but working it out with knowledge what's the evidence what do we have here let me break it down and get clarity on that which I'm talking about once I have Clarity the way of knowledge would call this five finger Clarity just like I know I have five fingers so do I know that the way that I'm living my life is correct not just because I accepted it because actually I know that it's true okay now listen this is a lot to take in what I want to do right now because we're coming close to time is I would like to I would like to uh mention at least one more idea and then I want to do a quick recap of everything we did and then end off with one last point now you ask yourself so what does that mean do I have to figure out everything in life that I have to have knowledge 100 the answer is no there's not 100 but we have to have what's called knowledge which is enough evidence yeah but who cares let's say I'm wrong in a certain thing does it really make a difference the answer is for some things it doesn't matter at all for example how many planets are there so when I was a kid there were nine planets that I remember the day the dark day when they made Pluto into a dwarf planet I think they called it right they they degraded they they lowered him his position from being a planet to no longer being a planet it downgraded that's what I was looking for they downgrade them from being a planet it was a very traumatic day Pluto out of all the characters why not Mickey or Donald Pluto why okay anyway point is at the end of the day when they take Pluto down does it really matter in other words does it change my life does it impact me am I now going to live my life a different way because of that yes I might it might be that now I'm going to get only eight scoops of ice cream instead of nine scoopers of ice cream no way I'm gonna live my life a certain way that's the bottom line it's not going to change anything but what about this is there a god is there Torah is there Judaism is this real or in any other area in your life are there things that actually make a difference see it's just absolutely you know the things that actually make a difference that's we want to get down to having knowledge and understanding and knowing what we're talking about and not just accepting what other people are telling us but breaking it down and having knowledge about the matter Thinking Out of the Box getting Clarity in the matter working it through by challenging our surroundings not just accepting what people are telling us and by the way I want to make this clear I don't care who you I don't care if you're religious I don't care if you're secular I'm talking to every person if a person is a religious person I'm saying someone who grew up religious their whole life but they never worked it out they never thought it through it's the same vote of a person who lived as a secular person never thought it through or a Christian or a Muslim or or pick a new job Buddhist it doesn't matter you're born a certain way a Mets fan a Yankees fan it doesn't matter I don't care you're from Springfield New Jersey make no difference for me we got to go ahead and every single person that's a challenge and really figure out for themselves become independent thinkers by breaking through by being like Abraham smashing the idols not just accepting but moving forward with an idea of actual Clarity okay so we have right now my friends in about six minutes on the clock so I'm gonna do right now as a quick recap and we did end off with one point to bring it home and then maybe open it up for for a few minutes or questions if there will be any here we go so we started off in the beginning of the whole story what happened that we know after this a little slower than I do in person because I don't think the computer can handle the speed that I'm going to go at right now but here we go and that is number one is understanding the fact what happened to the father and son they go after the drinking thing when the gold gets rushed to the hospital you say what is that it was the mother let me get a little further we started to realize the fact of what happens when when the the person goes ahead and he drives his car and his lights were off and and then there was no street lights whatever it was the middle of the daytime and how many people in the world seen seven and ten I get it I can say types but types of people that are in the world and then we got a little bit further and stuff together remember that seven ten different categories or types of people because what happens is that we go ahead and we start to fall into these different categories we start living life a certain way we got four different ways in which we connect with information we've got Society faith belief and knowledge Sith Vic Society would be like your sports team a group in a certain Society therefore I believe a certain Sports thing or I believe a group of students Society I have a certain religion a group of certain Society I believe in God a certain Society I don't believe in God which is being taken 50 of the decisions in their life we never made it all 90 100 Faith I'll be the lottery belief inconclusive evidence and then knowledge knowledge when you have enough evidence to put something into a realm into a category that is now reasonable to say that this is true how do you know your mother is your mother I don't know your parents are your parents answers you don't or do you do you have enough evidence you need 100 but I have pictures I got DNA no one said otherwise we look like the Midwest certificates you talk and put this all together we start to see something how do you control your kid if you want to control your kid the best way to control them is to set them up in a way to make them feel like they have control and then they'll always be with you because they'll feel empowered as if they made the decisions when in reality you already set up beforehand what is the decisions are going to be this one or this one or the one with the Shelf I've already set up your world in such a way how many of us live our lives like that what kind of phone you have iPhone iPhone iPhone iPhone Nokia and we got perak and offer what does that whatever you do he goes and he smashes his idols how come no one else did that answers I think it's a pellet it's a wonder even he did it and one answers the measures that he grew up in a place that it was empty it was outside of that thing but that's my friends but we're trying to do that some things don't make a difference at all but something's very much make a difference and before we're going to go to make decisions Our Lives we have to realize the fact that we have to be independent thinkers not just accepting what people are telling us not disregarding it but actually breaking down in a way that we could be like Abraham we can live our lives in a way or we don't just accept I'm not just fighting for the sake of fighting I'm fighting for the sake of getting truth and understanding how I'm gonna live my life not just being a sheep of this being led to the flock after the cattle to their shirt whatever the phrase is but living a life in a way when we go we make our decisions that are real to us and you may be at the end of the day you find out that the way you're living is exactly how you should be living but if you don't go ahead and actually make that decision then it's going to be totally different life than if you don't do such a thing okay friends I want to end off at this one point and that is to be a real leader and to be a person who's a real thinker we need to be independent not just accept it challenges are surroundings in a respectful manner in a way that we can figure out which box we should be in and then have conviction and know what we're doing have five finger Clarity and understand and solid before there and there's the fifth five and cloud in a way that we know what we're doing okay I'm gonna open up now I have a few minutes to any questions comments stories jokes attacks hit it this is that awkward moment at the end with just silence and I'm in a room all by myself and staring in a little black hole that seems to be a camera we're here at listening to you I think a lot of people are on their phones not on um laptops so they can put on their audio Yeah so people feel free to do that okay so first we have something to say something very important it can be overwhelming to start questioning everything can you suggest some questions some beginning questions we should be asking ourselves that is fantastic point and thank you so much for bringing that to my attention the answer is good first of all understand I'm not saying to challenge everything is just question everything they you'll go nuts you'll literally go nuts but let's start with the following what is our ultimate goal of what we're trying to accomplish in this world what are we trying to do here how's about that just the very beginning beginning the beginning step is to figure out I'm not saying this is a small thing let's think it's a small feat but I am saying that some people get so caught up with living their lives that they don't understand why they're doing it in the first place to have a clear and concrete goal of what we're trying to accomplish over here what we're doing here did we ever stop and think about the Myriad I mean thousands of hundreds of millions trillions of things that have happened that made you be here today and what is the purpose and the goal what are we trying to accomplish so many people the way that the Western world has raised many of us and I come from as you say hi come in peace how from Western world and the goal is pretty much make money and they say yeah be a good person to give to society in some way if it works out with the money on the side I'm not saying it's everyone forgive me if you didn't grow up like that but I did a little bit right it's not just such a question of it what am I doing here what's my goal because everything that we do in our life is based off our end game the way we raise our children the way we deal with our spouses the way that we deal with our work the way that we make our decisions is based off our end game whether we realize it consciously or its subconsciousness and the unconscious mind in which case I would start with just asking ourselves what are we doing what is the ultimate goal I would say that would be a beginning I'd say that would be a beginning question we should ask ourselves and then start to take a look from there start thinking look from there as I understand being the fact that we're on this group chat and that means that we are not the only ones that are involved either of their people that that you guys are working as a team together I think it's not a bad idea to maybe have these type of discussions in a group setting okay that's one anything else that we got last question and actually believe it or not I got another one of these Zoom thingamajigs so what do we got anybody out there okay very good someone who just wrote that out there I phoned in thank you so much I thought it was going to be a nice relaxing day well what is it there I think it's Sunday there I want to make you feel like I feel there's no such thing as Sunday in Israel all right so feel my life okay it's hard but uh listen if there's no other questions after that so I appreciate all you all coming out and listening today and maybe someday okay good good that's a good answer all right then maybe make sure that we're doing it in such a way okay very good very good if that's the goal where you're heading for I want to appreciate you show appreciation to all of you doing this or behind Samson and I have a simple Barnett and yasi Friedman and Lauren and I don't know what else is involved and forgive me if I didn't get everyone but thank you all for coming out today really really appreciate it because again it could have been awkward if it was just me if I could just give a shout out to those people that I see Debbie and Dina and we said Lauren and Miriam Leia and Stacy and Xenia and Sarah and then there's a couple of phones and another Dina and a couple of phone numbers I can't really give you a shout out but uh for all of you that that came out here today really really appreciate it and hopefully 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