Rav Gav- Thought that Counts at Project Inspire Convention 2019

it's closed for the neshama thank you very much for your sponsorship this is Hornick at this point I'd like to call upon an individual who doesn't need an introduction an individual who okay say he's just known by Hrothgar thank you very much like introduced Hrothgar Friedman to come up and please say a few words thank you okay for those who know me already even the mic guy knows me he gave me this I'm not standing one place let's get that very clear I wanted to start off a beer juice all the cost of a participants in Somerset New Jersey 2013 I had a privilege of being invited to come speak on a body and soul retreat which may have been the first I don't remember if it was or not but when one of the first retreats for those familiar your familiar for those unfamiliar it's when you bring from and and not yet from come together in order to experience the shops together and it's really an amazing experience there's only one problem and that is I live in Berkeley shop my living area to Cheryl and I had told the beautiful staff just do me a favor do not put me on before Shabbos it's just not a good idea so they put me on before Shabbos and I got to the hotel I am wrecked you know the truth is if you flying first-class you get a good rest but I've never done it so I don't know if that's really true so I am wrecked I am tired I'm exhausted and as they say in England it was a write-off right that was just a written off and I I had to sleep as I went to sleep I even awoken from knocking on the door from that man who the sleeping giant via Kafka Nagar he says where are you I said well we're talking to each other I'm here he says you're supposed to be teaching I'm like one he's like 15 minutes ago like I'm coming you know like when you wake up you're like totally out of it at least I am and your eyes haven't adjusted yet at least mine I walked in I literally started teaching I couldn't see yet I was just like ladies and gentlemen and then I got turned like ladies and gentlemen thank you all for coming today I was totally wrecked about Hashem they learned from their ways and and but I was invited again and a few years ago we had this event in Kalahari and it was beautiful it was beautiful I got that I said please don't put me on Friday so they put me on Friday I get to the hotels I am wrecked now I'm told that if you're in business you could sleep well but once again I have never been in business so I'm sitting in the back I get there I go to sleep as you could maybe imagine I get a phone call and it's ringing in my room I wake up and it's a familiar voice from 2013 and he says where are you I said I'm in you called my room I'm in my room he goes you're late where am I and I came down and okay last year Hashem I was invited to come to speak up project inspire I said do me a favor don't put me on Friday so ya see Friedman promise you if we are not putting you on Friday I get here I'm like I'll take a little nap before Shabbos and I go ahead and I take a little nap but I by the time I get to sleep it's only 4:00 p.m. sharp is starting on 5:15 I said an alarm is set to alarms I call the front desk and like can you please give me a wake-up call they said what time said 5:15 is that a.m. i said no p.m. they said in an hour i said yes i said n could you do 5:20 they said am i said p.m. and then okay as at 5:25 they like sir isn't that Shabbos already I said who is this he said it's Yaakov kindergarten I know it wasn't y'all gonna go so it was a stupid Shalonda she waits at the front desk and they say okay you know we'll give you a hiccup call I go to sleep I wake up to ringing the phone's ringing I opened my eyes I don't know where I am let alone what time it is I look around that I see outside it's pitch black the first thought that hits me is not again I look at the clock it's 12:15 a.m. I went to sleep at four o'clock I slept the whole night now push em they didn't put me on but I was on at 12 o'clock for the late-night session I was only 15 minutes late for Hashem I come downstairs it was like where were you I'm like I'm here that late but we're worried I'm like my flight got in late first and business are here but I was in coach this year don't put me on Friday I don't want to say who but I was told they actually put me on a Friday Afghan ago said are you nuts like you put the guy on Friday and then took over the schedule I got here I said I got to go to sleep but this time I give a key to somebody I'm like come in wake me up throw me off the bed do whatever you can I go to sleep at 3 o'clock 2:30 yesterday afternoon what everything it was Erev Shabbos now there's been many many jokes over the Shabbos and at the fire alarm but if you want to know the real reason for the fireline Yossi Friedman said there is no way Friedman is sleeping over this Shabbos on ok who has to suffer anyway so I just woke up and unfortunately like we know some people are still sleeping and originally this whole project this whole idea was called the sleeping giant the sleeping giant everybody in the world wants meaning everybody wants purpose everybody's looking for something everybody does matter who you are doesn't matter your background is whether your age your gender everybody is looking for meaning and purpose in life the unfortunate reality is that many people don't know what that means they don't know what it means to have meaning to have purpose to have value and we start looking for other things because what is it what what's meaning what's purpose and the world is very much given the concept of value and worth to money that's essentially where you find that concept that comes up I read an article in H comm actually make sure I brought it that I could read it and I read this thing about there's someone I don't have you've heard of him it's a guy named Jeff Bezos he's a small company it's not in New York so it's MIT can't be that big anyway the article said that he topped 115 150 billion dollars this is an old article site and basically do the math that means that he made over this certain period of time two hundred and seventy five million dollars a day which equals eleven point five million per hour which is one hundred nineteen ninety one thousand dollars per minute or three thousand one hundred and eighty two dollars per second I read this article on and I said to my wife I said it's amazing like just the his net worth well with it be a hundred and fifty billion dollars that's like what kind of that's insane one hundred and fifty and I said to my daughter I said did you hear that so she said one of my oldest daughter I said there this guy Jeff he he's worth billion dollars and my daughter looked very puzzled and she says to me I don't understand what what now my kids are Israeli and I'm the immigrant in the house I said he is well 150 billion dollars right is that French I don't know it sounds like she said to me como right and she goes no I understand English I just what do you mean he's worth 150 billion dollars what does it mean I said what do you mean what does it mean he's worth 150 knowledge because I don't understand he is worth 150 billion dollars his worth and she wasn't even getting like Lum dish you know she just she was really trying to sin his value is a hundred and fifty billion dollars and then it hit me I'd never thought about in that perspective that we say it all the time net worth valued that's the net worth of a person how much money they have that's their value and the unfortunate reality is that many of you didn't immediately challenge me you should have right away challenged me right away said to me net worth hundred fifty billion who said is worth hundred fifty billion so the answer is that you're right he's not worth 150 billion dollars what's the value of a person how much money they have so he may have a certain amount of money but is that what he's worth so how much are we worth how much is a person worth so we have a very famous Mishnah very famous anyway it's famous but for those who are involved in the h world know that roof nog would often quote this Mishnah and he would say the following the minister says in Pirkei avos i believe it's here somewhere if not only enough to make it up it's found in Perak tsiyon mission are you dollars this one to see who got that one that means I'm making it up okay but now I'm gonna say the Mishnah I know it's you're thinking there's only six broken but now you're really thinking is only five Bruck in the six ones prices they add it on I get it don't get confused says the Mishnah though part of the first five perk come whoo hi y'all mare okay good excellent you could have finished any of it with that but club Adams shanira B'Tselem beloved is a person that they're created but selim they're created in the image of a God in the image of God of a Shem people you say oh no Donna slow she never but sell him but he loved us even more that he let us know that we were created in the image of a Shem to recognize who are we what's our value 150 billion pales in comparison to be created in the image of God were godly do we recognize that were godly let alone a secular yet do we recognize that were godly do we behave in a godly manner and I'll tell you something I'm embarrassed because my voice always tells me be very careful what you say be careful you speak because you're being make a trade yourself because here I am speaking to other people and telling do we realize that's why I added the word we do we realize because a lot of times I gonna speaker gets up and he says you know I'm really speaking to myself and if you want to listen then you can listen I like to tell the speakers to get a therapist you should stop speaking to yourself well let me tell you I'm talking to you but hopefully I'll listen also do we recognize who we are that we ever tell them a little Kim what does that mean but keeping a Cyrano that's the very famous muscle at least famous for the Aged world about a wealthy man is walking down the street somewhere in let's say Manhattan is usually the example small little island and as he's walking down this island he sees this homeless person on the side of the road he feels bad for the person he goes 86 how this checkbook used to be he wrote a check for a million dollars which is not so much now he writes a check for a trillion dollars he makes it out to homeless man on street puts an envelope pic suppose and his card puts on the bottom of the cart and he walks away the guy who wakes up the next day and he continues his push cart putting his bottles picking up bottles putting his bottle speaking of bottles never getting to the bottom of the cart never realizing how much he actually had that's just a muscle don't get confused cuz some of us are like oh yeah because money is value no it's not that's not value it's a muscle comforts climate over 300 Michele and they say I bet whoever the day I say today I say cough it's common over 300 Michele my business to understand something because we get so caught up in all the mosaic to miss to understand what it's about but he goes through life and never knowing the guy had a trillion dollars we have much more than a trillion dollars do we recognize that that we realized that what does it mean to go ahead we talked about the idea of Kiros how are you a Meharry of a person how does one makar of a person so if we were to stop for a second and think what the word means it's a [ __ ] answer what does that mean how are you Meharry of a person how do you bring someone close is that what you're asking because people miss in the word think Kirov is like a thing it's a word lick i rave to bring somebody close how do you bring somebody close I don't understand do you not have relationships with people at all ever how do you bring anybody close the way to bring somebody close is to love them is to respect them is to build them up is to make them feel cost shift like they're important I heard from a cover of mine every so majeski who lives in California who quoted from daniel Kalish that it says the first mission in Pirkei avos happy to tell me the muharram a which many of you just gloss over it just readers have lots of students it's very strange lusher know what's behind me do tell me the mehar bay ha me to tell me the mario from ocean ha model ammo to stand up behind me do means and you should stand up your tongue medium high bay build them up again and again and again and again how you make care of someone how would you feel towards summative every time you saw them they said you're amazing you are you just I so appreciate you you're valuable would you be like oh I don't want to have a relationship with you or would you say thank you so much at least feel great and want to connect with that person how you micariff someone Bemis I made them build them up make them feel like they're conscious you see sometimes even if you do it unintentionally just like speaking a certain way about somebody to them that could change their whole perspective on themselves tell you a little story you know I'm gonna tell you a big story it's just short I'm gonna tell you a long big story now you'll feel like it's long but it's actually short so there was a father from tel-aviv secular man as they say baloney it was a yellow knee and the second man and a son and even though he was not religious he wasn't observant he wasn't into it that wasn't his thing still the terminology that you used when you're speaking Hebrew it's just a funny thing that you find I for those who've been on jwp you maybe heard me tell the story I remember when I when I first came to Israel I mean that's I don't remember the first time I was six months but the about 12 times leader when I when I was 17 years old about four years ago I came there to Sarah and I was very taken aback I got into a cab okay it's like that one's careful which can't be get into etcetera but I got into an Arab cab I didn't whatever in the first thing I noticed was a little unusual so I got in the cab and the cab driver got out of the cab now I know I'm in coach and it could be I don't smell that great but I'm trying to wonder what's going on here goes to the back of the car he opens up the trunk he takes out a rug a body falls out a wrong story I'm sorry wrong story he takes out a rug and he puts it down in the floor and he just gets on the floor and starts you know it's going to sleep over and over just over and over going to sleep I was like what is going on and I realized he was the happening he was praying he was an Arab and then he like comes back in the car I said to him money Sh'ma he says but oh push him and I was like what no he said no question I said are you Jewish he goes no I was like oh he says Manish my I said hamdulillah but the terminology that's used is just II speak Hebrew it doesn't mean more than the words that they're saying necessarily and this secular man you would call his son Sadiq you'd call son Saavik all the time he'd see a sign a bit sad he comes Santa comes Santa call my little Salva Kiir such at sanic he said satanic you know he said Sadiq so Dick said thinks that the exciting said he one day there in Tel Aviv they're walking down the road together and the boy says Patti because even though he's not religious he didn't say daddy never he says ABBA or Frank whatever he called him he says dodo listen I have to have to use the bathroom he says oh ok you know what uh oh yeah there's a there's a little story here let's go inside here and it was it was a bar here's a comments going to the bar let's go so he goes into the bar opens the door he walks in and he walks towards the bathroom and then he turns around and he sees his son is not with him and he's like oh my goodness he looks around like where's my kid he goes running outside and this kid's standing at the doorway he says no why aren't you coming inside he goes ah blah I can't go in there I'm not Sadiq that's that they can't go in there and that little boy was me I'm always a little boy in the story anyway he just called him a certain name and all of a sudden what happens he starts to feel a certain way do we build people up do we make them feel like their clothes shift to B go ahead and give them not just like there are project there are little you know whatever and like if I have to make them feel so when I will under said what are you talking about selamat look in this person's creative it's helmet look him do we recognize who we are do we appreciate ourselves do we treat someone else like their I tell them I look in who I really realize who they are but really do they deserve to that are they worthy of our respect that our honor I mean you know there's secular not genre Shabbos not summer conscious they're doing the wrong thing let's first understand something I've met a bunch of people in my day and I can't say I have that knowing I would say comes close but I would say this certainly very few of any that come close to becoming what's called a moment a hotness what they're coming to fight they're really they're against the Torah they're fighting against it first of all most don't even know altogether and then at best it's a moment let alone and I don't know what's going on he's just like you know enjoying myself I'm just doing I'm doing other they worry that I respect let's understand that if I can I want to say quote here so I don't get in trouble but I can get rid of Rybak's minute shuttle what's a difference between refrain Kenny F ski and you what's the difference between you and her fine can have ski there could be many answers I'm just gonna tell you what I heard from her than fine Waxman the difference is to you and of crime can you ski is let me tell you I've come to Kiev ski is it neshama and you're in a summer in essence my house there is no difference between you a secular Jew can Kaminski okay look at the commie mouth Anna Shama is there a difference practically the answer is yes one has worked on themselves overcome and pushed years and years and day and in second in a second out but ultimately the ma who is the essence we're talking meant over your person who's creative its elemental Kim beam accompany them to go ahead and to build them up he imagined how would we go ahead and treat someone if we actually looked up and respected them it's amazing I'm gonna borrow something that I actually was probably in this very room people ask me what I'm living Erica so they say where you going I say what do you mean where am I going I'm going to America to some sort of conference where else what are we going Connecticut right it's essentially where all the conference's end up and about to be this very thing and asked the following question I'm not gonna give you the whole background but if I ask you the following question we find when it comes to money the misunderstood concept of what we think is value if people are Mesabi people with money some of those money women sabe then we asked them to come up and give talks and ask them to go and do this and do the other we were Mesaba them a crazy they come in we stand up we open the door for them and I'm not saying that you shouldn't be Maccabi something with money but I am saying we should have my habit everybody and why is it that we must obey those people I'm just gonna tell you what somebody said in the crowd when I once asked asked a crowd similar to what's in today it looks to be learned four or five thousand people the video doesn't know huh I'd look at a crowd like today and I said so why is it that we respect rich people and some guy in the back yells out because we want their money I said I was gonna say because they're honorable because they've done so much and because we want their money if you knew someone's not giving you the money I'm not think with someone who's involved in a big project and helping out I mean someone who's just happens to have a lot of money but they're not involved in giving yet necessarily and your mishap in my car but you know 100 percent then I give you anything this is thought our mind someone walks in let me open the door for him and you can open the door for him he's gonna walk in he's gonna look at you're going you know what that was really nice here's $10,000 what if you knew you were in beginning what we respect them the same way it's a martial people it's just a muscle for a neshama okay local economy mouth to recognize it every year there's a new Shama and to understand that every year disconnected in some way as far as he maybe is connected that got this barnacle until we go ahead and do we look for that and then do we respect them and do we honor them do we stand up for them do we open the door for them how are you Meharry of someone the answer is simple how do you bring people close right we have all these discussions but they usually like in a Hawaiian mentality of a word as if it's in nuuma house this is the concert the way that we go into it is we respect them we honor them we build them everybody needs that idea and if someone goes that in respects and honors and build someone it changes the entire way so how do you do it you smile at them you give them the time of day you pay attention him somebody asked me somebody asked me and I hope I don't make this too much of an opening because oh it should be an opening someone asked me I see you talking to a lot of people over the weekend how do you have the patience to talk to them everyone's coming over to say [ __ ] it is talking that together how do you have the patience to talk to them I said because they're rich but what I really said is what I really said I thought that but what I really said is how do I have the patience to talk to them because I've been on the other side I know what it feels like they're people that I'd like to talk to they're people that I like to go over to and I and I either want to share something with them I have a question for them and I know what it's like to be blown off I know what it's like to make like I'm not a crush of a person like I'm not valuable enough now that doesn't mean I have the time of day for every single person doesn't have time today for myself sometimes but we try to do what we can do so we must not beat people or do we have an agenda of who we're mohabbat and when we're Muhammad then anybody who feels honored anybody who feels that way Lessig the Mishna says Aisyah mokuba the Maccabiah sub Rios sometimes they look like just creatures brios but at the end of the day it's a telomere looking someone who doesn't start to see crazy things I think think think it's not just about being Muhammad someone as if you're speaking with them when you speak to someone you build them up you can go out and get changed amazing things I want to share with you an idea that I heard an amazing idea just a thought process even if we never speak to the person and we're not Muhammad am I speaking to them just thinking about them in a positive way does have an impact on them say an amazing idea and tell the story that the Roberto song came from on shabbiha and he says I want you to tell the Jewish people I'm coming I'm coming I'm coming to take them out and what is well sure being to respond then I can't believe me what do I tell then I couldn't believe me it's like think that they're gonna believe it's gonna be fine they're not gonna believe me if they don't believe you so I'll give you a sign just you can't then you sure take it out take your staff throw it down take the blood put it on the water water till the blood fine you did the signs if you understand what I said great if not look it up in the parsha so he goes dad did you read the Perisher anyway Sega's ahead and he puts his hand then he takes out it's white like shelling put it back in take it out perhaps some speak about the idea first discuss speaking loshon talk about clowny so it's not a small thing put your hand to take outs like sir ass put it back in come in a snake what's a snake symbolically your toughest kind speaks about this about how we speak how we talk he says if they don't believe you then show them the sign if they don't believe that sign show them the next signer then it'll be good and what ends up happening he goes to cloudy still and the puss success he shows them the signs why'd he show them the signs well what was the discussion if they don't believe you show them the signs which seemingly would indicate the cry so maybe didn't believe until they showed the signs which would show that most abandon was tacky right then I gotta believe me so why would I cut his vocal not be happy with long shot Boehner that he's gonna go and say such a thing one you could say why he's still shouldn't speak how nice or maybe since Moshe Ben was the leader of Kali Israel Moshe Rabbeinu goes ahead he thinks a certain way about Claudius well then what ends up happening cloudy so starts to think about that way themselves perhaps if Moshe Abena when Hashem says to him go to them and tell them and he would have been immediately they would have believed it immediately but because we think a certain way about certain people the way we think about some of the changes the way they think about themselves pathetic idea Ravana Yoda brings down and pair K all of us also biiian harder to understand that the way in which we think can actually impact other people the RAM mom goes this as well the way in which we think about someone can affect somebody even without talking tyndall say we're just thinking then have a coma to say something to them say something believe in them I spoke to my Rebbe right before I came right now the hour ago I called them up and I said here's the idea what's my uh you have a story for me I actually didn't tell Matt actually cuz I know him or it's like give me a my raha song and they told me a story because looks like how it works the same way in fundraising if you go ask for money you get advice if you ask for advice you get money so here I asked for a tour he gave me a story and here's the story he said very recently one of his tell me them another I didn't say who and I'm not asking you one of his tell me them he convinced him to learn a milla course learn Mila how'd it be on mohel so we did you're gonna be mom and just recently he had a baby boy and he was the moil for his own son so I would say now our Rebbe came over to her and said you know it's amazing how you did it koulikov oh you went through the course you did it analogy you did it but you also did your own son the beautiful thing the midst of his even yours you don't have to do Ashley oh you did that's amazing and he said rabbi I want to tell you something when I was growing up as a kid I was a bit of a troublemaker to a very very big degree my parents bought me to all these therapists psychiatrists one therapist said if you do not get your act together you're going to end up in prison the way you're behaving you're gonna end up in prison it's a tougher push it there's nothing to talk about but my parents always said one thing to me over and over again you're not a bad kid you're just doing things that aren't good you're a good kid you could succeed you could overcome you could do this I believe in you that you have the cost we hope to do such a thing and he said only because my parents pushed and Thomas lately believed in me and much they loved me was I able to get through those times and today stand as raising a yiddishe of family and being the mohel of my own son where I never would have taken this course do we believe in our children do we believe in our students do we believe in qawalli Israel do we believe in ourselves that changes realities it literally changes realities now when I say to you before just think think think think it's not just the way that we go and we talk but how powerful our thoughts I'm gonna tell you something which is one of the most powerful ideas that I heard I heard this idea first is a famous chimera in soccer tough confute game oh my base I think because I can write down later brockless is supposed to say any of them so any of their if it's on Kofi came over base I'm sorry and the come over that discusses you lie to hate someone who are you letter hate when your letter hate if you let hate and there is a more you ticket Toys Toys Toys was in the top right corner it says an amazing thing please do come up and see it maybe Intifada base amazing idea the question is do you lie to hate someone the governor says yeah there's a time maybe you're allowed to hate someone maybe certain circumstances maybe the for errors or something like you lie to hate somebody and toast so says the following even though you're a Latta 8 someone am i could go through the whole thing but it's kid I to see and pursue the moment SIA Psch service all times of helping somebody with any say cousin he says it's kid die not to hate them even if you're allowed I hate them even though it's motor for you to hate someone in certain circumstances as can die not date then how come he says I'll tell you why because if you hate somebody how are they gonna feel about you if you hate them can my impugn ml pun and Kane Leyva them law them you ate somebody just like water when you look at the reflection of water you'll if it's still pond then you look at and you see can my him pond him L pond him you see yourself so to are the hearts of one person to the next so if I go ahead and I see someone and I hate them now they're gonna hate me because I hate them and then if they hate you you're gonna hate them because they hate you that's not much there you can't just hate someone even if there's a happier to do it at the time you're gonna hate them for the right reasons then they're gonna hate you for the wrong reasons and then you're gonna hate them for the wrong reasons and then you're over a missing you now to do it come on poem about him so that's a ptosis I heard from one of my bosses one of my many bosses are made of a draftsman I'm sure it's in his book that's a plug 10% he said I heard I heard from Rossi he said the following at the end I believe I hope I got this right I need I need some backing up over here it's a love illusions that make sense okay so there was a person I hope it's the right thing now he says the following idea when we go and we say can my implantable punim can't leave all gumlog I mean you think what it means is like if I come to you in the morning by the coffee I say good morning we will offer respond with good morning but if I go what are up you've got whatever you having a hole you go home we respond in the way which people talk with us but that's only if I'm talking to you if I'm right in front of you and if I'm with you what if I'm not with you what if I'm in a different country what if I never met you what if I never spoke to you and halfway across the world the lotion is Kim my amp animal punim Kayne Leyva the mud then which means so to the hearts in the lathe it doesn't have to be next to a person I just have to love somebody and care for somebody and respect someone even if I'm not in front of them even if they never meet me even if they never see me there's a colleague of mine I can't say who it is cuz I didn't ask her just many of you might know him and he would say this perhaps himself but I can't say his name whenever he gets pulled over by the cops and when I said whenever because it happens whenever he gets pulled over by the cops the first thing does he shuts everything in his mind down and he goes I love him I love him I love him I love him I love him the cop comes over and I could just tell you what he told me he said every time he's got let off so now you know it's motor to speed as long as you love the police officer he goes ahead and he loves him to get out of the ticket kim myung point of opponent can't leave autumn law dumb where's our heart like was mentioned right before do we care does it hurt us at the very least does it hurt us when we see another year that's not living you this your lifestyle that's not connecting with a cut this barnacle does it hurt I could tell you it's so painful I love to fly allow I'm not making any jokes I'm not making jokes people here make a lot of things I have heard things and people that whatever but I allow I personally I love flying allow 10% off fellow first-class plane it's only three seats I love flying a lot and the reason I love flying allow us because I don't have to have a guilty conscience allow all the food is kosher to some degree all of it is kosher to some level at least so if I sit down on the plane the person next to me order something which isn't kosher I could sleep fine but I flied United recently and I said that next to a Jew and it's so so painful that I'm this genuine this is so painful family what do I say to this person I'm like yeah man it's you know in my head I'm like what's my line you know what am I gonna do it I remembered her the Rebbe Yaakov Samson once said old story I was sat at writing for like the New York Times if it knows the story what was it Salomon what would I say well I can't stop thinking about you sir rabbi Samson as a friend of Yaakov Solomon he wrote a book Samson says no Solomon says in his buggy I'm sure it's in his book Javert he sits down in the Playtex the secular press is that a talk she just opens up his computer and you might see big letters New York Times and starts to type in the woman next door management says oh you work for their times oh yes I do are you Jewish and all conversation I did the same thing person looks over and put some a movie right back on they don't like the New York Times so I changed it literally Jerusalem Post continuing I'm like mishpokhe on Magazine she's like you get missbach huh all right you wouldn't look at me nothing was happening what am I going to say now when she put on the ear plugs to watch the movie I was so relieved cuz I could finally watch a movie without having to put mine on but the reason I was so relieved is because that on if the same thing I'm off the hook she's you know I said what do you want for me she's Annika disturb her watching a movie that's the Shalom it's interrupting it's just every word Cephas I can't you know then she takes that there plugs on the Kawai gosh what am I gonna say and then they come with the kosher meal they come to me they go Sarah kosher me I said yeah kosher and they go to the woman kosher meal she says no no thank you I'm like in my mind did you have to say no like it's one thing they would have given you doing but I never saying no not the kosher meal I'll have to traif one with Pig please like made on a pig well then I don't eat because I only eat pig you know I was like oh come on something finally towards the end of the conversation long story but I ended up saying something I just I asked the can I ask a personal question she said yeah I said it's not relevant but I thought fair enough to tell you guys I started the story but basically now a member she's gonna watch this and know what I'm on - but if she's watching this were okay but basically basic I asked her question about life and thinking and she's from Israel from America I could play the stupid American card why are you not clear a date you know like whatever oh my god the conversation and exchanged information so they says this is a week ago this is brand-new a week ago but sitting next this person it pains me it hurts me I can't so I'd rather just be an owl so I don't have to think about it I would say that maybe okay I'm on so much Rago you know at least I care but how offer my that I have to run away from it and how offer my that even the person next to me if they're eating the kosher meal and I'll ow they could still use some critic so I care about them - I love them to the extent I'm gonna go ahead I'm gonna build this relationship to be able to go ahead and change them in that way do I think about that at least do I love them - I believe in them is it something which I'm thinking about I care about and I'm pushing so as always time is short so I'm gonna wrap this up right now end up with one point I tell him I'll call him later very simply foot to wrap it up from the beginning here we go so we started off in the beginning summer 7 2013 Kalahari there were your last in this year fire alarm now we need to say what's going on over here everyone wants to feel meeting a purpose in fact the problems we could mistake with the concert around people's meetings all together we think that it's money money money money we got caught up at the idea that's what it is he's worth 150 billion dollars that's his value that's what he's worth he's worth that I don't know something we get so caught up in the person goes why don't be respected because we're getting something out of what about a regular person respect them all so every person wife about him it's a little keeping you as a service to watch it that's them and he told you Photoshop told us we said if you tell him to kill me or Godley do you make it like that every year this godly and we understand the concept and putting our efforts we have to help them respect them treat them well stand up and open the door for them actually give them a certain feeling are you going to take something by accident sadly killed sadly killed sadly I can't go to the bottom of Sonic did we go to me look at all the neighbors and all of Christ owns such a way that we could carry them to the except that we gonna start there instead of wheels they are worthy of recovered because they're in a shot much of crime can he have skis in a shop every one of us it was Shawn that I and ok man he goes and he did a little bit more and he worked on him find it suits in the role it's a time into the rough but be able to go realize the value but I'm in the rough is still pretty valuable and be able to give the respect to the only true thing behind me to tell me the my are paying higher pay higher being over and over and over and build them and build them and build them and build them and build them and make them feel important let me tell you stick with target no just build them make them feel like a crush of immense if they feel like there's something and that they're gonna grab me towards you and they're gonna come Karl Rove they're gonna come closer to you you'll be make hiring for them and when your Mac I remember them Kirov's then they're gonna want to get even more but think think think just a thought process itself or the similar circles just think about a powerful well I hate Lori I mean Opie's I can I believe in me so now we don't believe or do we go and Rory says that we go to we believe in them I believe in your son you're great these things may be the bad things but you are not bad you were incredible you're amazing you're fantastic you can get over the sinner he gives a brisk meal to his own son there's a beautiful Yiddish your family unbelievable pricing what it can happen a person just someone who believes in them and then maybe get really they can believe in themselves did we recognize that weird sound look him we are godly we are created a tell mother Kim and if we were to go and take that concept to recognize that and realize that everyone else is awesome maybe we could help them get to a higher level than they ever were him I am punim upon him can leave our them love them is just a few more days Stockholm topic what else emergency it's the family babies tells you the idea what does that mean over there don't name it's not gonna connect is you're gonna hate them because reason maybe if you're over left to even making them hate you I was gonna happen a second ago some of those and that it was going to happen we're just see the fact that you hate them an issue come on Gail a van I have to be in the room have a signal of the person love you understand the concept from mayor mayor Solomon Sampson and I let's give you anyone's name right so I guess how I'm going open these things and if we were to do such a thing people recognize who we are build ourselves up won't be same mode that I nila Faneca realize that we are godly and recognize these ideas and think about them and put them are two perspectives what about my brothers and my sisters what about the rest of cloudy sell and go out there when we see them or might copy them not fake real don't try to be mature of them be micariff them build them up and I'll end with this last story you know when the rabbi means when he says I'll end with this last story it's not my fault that you misunderstood me because you don't know my accent I didn't say a nd I said a and D and I will end with one more end I'd like to share with you of the following listen to the story two story which I told the number of years ago yes a very valuable watch I told the story very on this very podium it was a project inspired weekend one of the ones I slept in and I gave a five minute pitch and I said the following story the story is told about a guy by the name of you know the story you'll know it his name is Julio Diaz the story happened about four twelve years ago if I believe I saw this in the Washington Times not my article and what happens is is a guy named Julio Diaz Julio Diaz was on the a train it doesn't matter which state or country whenever you're in a train you better watch your back he's on the a train it's after midnight then he comes to the stop and when he gets to the stop he's walking there it's totally empty and as he's walking they're totally empty what ends up happening he sees a guy come at him a little of this kid with looks like 17 years old this guy Julio was 31 years old at the time the guy comes out and he pulls out a knife and he goes money or your life he's like okay I choose money takes that his wallet throws it to him I would show it to you I don't have a wallet I'm Israeli she goes second he throws in wallet my took that sold to see though so he goes ahead he throws him to wallet the guy picks up the lot starts walking away is this one second kid turns out with a knife one he goes listen it's cold outside if you're gonna be mugging people you probably need a coat would you like my coat the guy says coat of your life I choose coat good choice takes off his coat throw it to him I would give you one show you it is I have a coat so goes head he throws her to him and he's walking away and I said hold on a second because what he goes if you're mugging people and it's cold that side you must be hungry would you like to come with me I'm going out to get something to eat he says what it's like I'm going out to eat which I like to come is it ok since walking with him knife and hand don't get too close they sit down at the booth opposite each other and as they sit down everyone comes over to this Julio guy the the bartender comes over and the The busboy comes over and the dishwasher bounces out and goes back in and everybody comes to say hello to this guy like you own this place he's like no he goes the wise it was saying hello to you he's like why haven't you ever heard to be nice to someone it's like I heard of it I just never seen that and they go and they have their meal and when they finished a meal Julio the estart so the boy says listen to me I would love to pay for you there's only one problem you have my wallet what do you see you pass over the wallet and I'll pay for both of us and he says okay passes over the wallet he goes in how about how about the knife ah so he passes over the knife and he helps the boy to rehabilitate himself the more of the story of project inspire if someone comes to mug you invite them for Shabbos so understand this friends is the following idea we walk out we got to believe in ourselves we have to believe in them and when we talk about the concept of the thought that counts it couldn't be more real than to being Makai rave bringing people close I want to thank everybody here for coming and all the staff again that's la araña wasn't that crazy