Project Inspire Tisha B'av Talk Show 2017

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Sarto [Music] there we are another tension brother it's amazing how quickly the year goes by just a minute ago we were sitting here again talking about what was what we thought the last Tish above and and now we are here another one and welcome to the show this is a show that we're going to be streaming with you live until the end of tissue but hopefully the end of the last dish above ever in our history the goal of this show the topic of the show the theme of the show is the missing link and the whole show that you can expect we have an incredible guest list for you incredible individuals are coming in we've got audio files of those that couldn't be here emails that you have so graciously sent to us asking and answering the question that we've been asking you which is what is the missing link what's missing we'll practice for so long how much longer can we do this how many more ways can we slice this Apple how many more times can we try to approach the whole fish above Gullah sting what are we missing what's missing that we're going to continue that we have a chance and even a hope a prayer that something that we can turn on this year is different than what has been going on every year since that fateful day tisha Bob when we lost the bass humming dish and we're going to hear from a lot of people and was Oh in a minute to hear from an incredible individual and I want to just explain to you why we asked you this question it wasn't because we were asking just for some help in content we ask you this question for very specific reason because when you think about Khali's well when you think about what we're what we're missing gullies rarely do you find the one answer it's not like there's a smoking gun that we've missed that vowel and all the today command all the gonna man all the Roshi of Shiva everybody has to sort of mist along the way they're most likely isn't one link they're most likely is many links they're most likely are many different bricks that need to be filled into the larger building of the base some English and for those that took this exercise seriously what you're going to hear for the next two ow furs are various different opinions of what we think is missing and for those that took this seriously or even has the chance now as if you were busy until now but tissue bothers you got two hours left and these last two hours of maybe the one of the most pregnant spiritual days of the year if you just take a moment and ask yourself what what you'll find is not what's missing in general you'll find is what's missing in specific you'll find what's missing internally you'll find a piece of yourself that has something to add to the world because the answer for what you think is missing could be why you're here right now why the a burster has you in the generation of gula why right now at the end of time coral put your soul in maybe what you think is missing is what you need to add to Claudia's role what I hope you'll see in the show throughout the entire two hours of different people's opinions people that we respect people that we love and that we admire people that have emailed us and hopefully over these next two hours you'll find either a piece of which you this you agree with or you'll be able to come up with your own answer so that hopefully throughout the year you'll put your missing link into the larger chain then hopefully next year we'll be able to have this show streaming live from higher bias may it come soon in our days we're gonna start the show with an incredible neutral you know we are being hosted right now with a great an incredible shul in Brooklyn the shul is called a terrace slum oh and then we have this shoe has been such an incredible host that right now not only does our fifth show here between tisha buff tissue-paper tissue-paper Yom Kippur we had a show if you remember this show is going through renovations and they have maneuvered and worked it out just so that we have the skills to be able to broadcast live here where's where's oka to be joined with the mower to Asura that you'll have more to kite or skis here the harnessed opal of an individual who is a beacon of hope a beacon of knowledge and inspiration to both the Brooklyn community - sure but the call you sir all at large and is my supposed to have the rough on the show thank you so much for being a part of it and again thank you for incredible hospitality this is our greatest pleasure a whole year we look forward to be able to have to have to be able to be part of colleagues well thank you thank you and it's a sorceress and as you know for the theme of this year's show is the missing link we're trying to ask individuals what do they think is missing something that people can hold on to because sometimes you know you go to a tissue book I can tell you had this feeling and I go and I'm I'm overwhelmed by all the things I've done wrong overwhelmed by just it's not even like a new kippur way it could be better right this is like the base how make this it becomes so big so quick so what does the rough think is a link that's missing that we can hold on to this tissue buff it's fascinating because I thought this broth always puts pieces of turin tear into into our minds and to our presence that we would not have seen it yet plugs right in exactly at the moment that we need I have here a parish on we gotta set up from appendix Levine contemporary comic Hoffman he wrote his his parish what he focuses on is toggle he first did a parish on all of Targaryen Istanbul 0 throughout commish published it and went on to McGill Isaiah and went on to all of these going through Tanakh all the Thai government giving collections of all devices on each piece of cannot each targum and he has long ago second actually gave the name the title to his entire series based upon the plaza in a host Rossy buddy knows that this is a shemin's the master among all the nations so I want to share this little piece of Terror with you because I think it just hit the right tone he says on the ball on the prosecute the second post government of a home bajo to Kabul I look this is one of the great passionate expressions of umura Navi and which is reason one reason why we say McGill take only tonight because both a typical allowed to go out and cry in the night but you must I left you on their tears upon her cheek ain't no mannaka McCullough Vale there's nobody to comfort among all of those who lover who have loved her she brings a piece of toy from his Rebbe the MER actually the Barbarossa friend of aha our great uncle and he asks a farmer a phenomenal question brought down in Ghazala on the pisaq until impetus came up with marshal ish that double Melchizedek a Shem has paid attention to three tiers and the measure says though three tiers were the three tiers that Asaph the race of cried when Yaakov took the buckets from him so so I cooked earlier mara mara admired right he cried three tiers because of those three tiers ASA would always have Ashley that will always have an impact upon Claudia so she asked the question says okay we understand that the ace of our Russia was very powerful in his disappointment of having lost the brothers was so great three tiers look at the river of tears that ASA was brought through Colliers room it should have been bottled by Elif tens of thousands write those three tears how important she those three tears be that the collie shows tears over these two thousand years or more since then didn't wash it away so he says he says what was a soft crying about he lost two brothers royal Amazo right here yourself was healing them all the brothers that could have given that the gave T actor could have given him a tallish a moment that he didn't call Metallica my reverse as he was crying because he lost it on the Mazda he wasn't interesting Olam haba he was crying because of Australia Mazda says when we cry Tish above what are we crying Oh crying because we're in pain because we're in go loose because there's the illnesses because there's poverty because this service and call yourself what are we crying for we're crying for the pain of all of the jet of all of the killers that have been destroyed in Christ so we're crying about autumn Houser it as long as we're crying about olim Haza it's mean demeanor it's the collages that when you have something that's being mixed with its own with its own kind it never becomes bottle this is so our tears are tears for them Haase says our tears should be for the varnish for the Selena that's missing if we're not - crying philosophically by some then our tears will live with them that is race it will never be bottle if there are tears of oil on top of our tears Rothko - well cool for the pain of the screener that is not the presence is not in my world then our tears will be move on full of the tears well of Asaph that's the essence of his piece of tarry here and it struck me deeply because there's another thought it says column small box Ave with chocolate / banana people person down for somebody else if he needs it his tools would be answered first has to be answered first was answered second to say columns Roberts a very foods are places / philosopher naina because it's a selfless feeling since I thought about in this context when we Davin and we're in pain so we considered a painter yes sir brother slum I know I can't dive in because I'm in pain I can't learn tire because I'm in pain but when I dumb for somebody else's pain I don't know something I'm done because somebody else's connection touch them it's not good it's a bunch loan look how much viewer you're missing because this you is in pain because this Kalin call you so this private implies role is disconnected from you and that wouldn't make a difference which part of course what we're talking about wherever there's a disconnect between a shaman Collier strong are we crying for it we see a non-religious you when makalah jobs are we crying I was saying a bunch of look what's what's happening in the world for so much paintings will because your screen is not x presidents will succumb bowel about kaveri booth chocolates or i could see the vice when I see somebody else's pain I understand somebody else's brain the varnish am I understand your pain please bring your Cena back to the world there will be no more pain when it's cooler than the answer and answers there so if we've tried because we sometimes hard for us to imagine the varnish on the screen is in pain but if we take a look at somebody else we can see how disconnected they are it's very obvious that our sunscreen is missing in that person's life fresh lime please bring your cleaner back this world he'll somebody else then I then I tears those tears when that we bought around the only bustle before only thinking about herself amazing so I felt that this was yo the right piece of turf or the missing link because it sure that asset is something that we have and we need we've enclosed showed us a tremendous amount has said we needed your assets crashing 70s access it well and if we can give a sham that comfort to know that we are experiencing the pain of his missing being in our world then a sews tears will become a little amazing thank you very really appreciate that opening remark I honestly believe that well if we can get to that level we can be able to think about the coders burrow hole the whole games begin to change we appreciate you being here we appreciate you being a part of this and thank you again for opening up our show with such a tremendous inspiration because as well should give you the class to be able to inspire all of Colliers well and the burnished one will be happy to remain thank you thank you so much and we continue with the show that incredible incredible opening remarks from the rubber I got to tell you this is we can shut the show down now I mean that was an incredible way to open up to think about not just thinking about what works for us the olim Haza and godless being a relief of pain but being the brokenness of the chelina to think about the kurdish borough that way amazing and I want to now continue the show but really begin to pull it back a drop and introduce what this show really is about where it's from its project inspire for those who know projects by our project inspires my most dynamic organizations around today that has been working tirelessly on inspiring the Jewish people to become close to them and I am joined with my faithful partner I mean how many years of this been with us yeah see Freedman of project inspire yes II is the managing director of project inspire is at the right title it's correct I know because you do everything there you're involved in an incredible team we've got behind the scenes we've got Jakob beginnig are here working tirelessly DK's in the house and the entire project inspire team has been around this but yes II I got to say that like like I mentioned to the rub it's you know you never really want to come back tisha buff but every time I I come back through my see you again I it's a little bit of like that you know like it's like the booby prize you know saying I feel like no matter which weekend they go to which commission I go to and Charlie's not here I know for sure I'll get to see him finish line I'll get to see each other exactly and remember last time for those that didn't check this out last time we did a pre-owned kipper one do you remember sure and you were streaming live from your lion right remember that step so we're here in Brooklyn which is okay and a lot of people that think that it's close to you're alive it's great it's wonderful we love Brooklyn but it's not nowhere near where you were and my brother's that next time maybe we should do a double in your Shalom that would be amazing now sure so talk to us a little bit about project inspired before we continue I know that we've been doing over the past few weeks is reaching out to everybody and asking them the question what is the missing links we've got pages of emails we've got emails streaming through on our computers right now we've got audio clips coming in is a lot happening when we give you everybody's opinion not just ours before I do that just talk to me a little bit about your thoughts about the missing link what you've seen out there as you're collecting this data what what are your two cents as to what's missing you know for me personally tissue bow doesn't get easier it doesn't get easier for many ways but it's been it's been a long time since I was in camp you know and had somebody like speak to you about the Kinison what it's a little bad and I'm still fine you know trying to find the perfect the perfect second since camp but you know you hear different vets and obviously we had many people email in their thoughts their comment and I find that I've been able to pick up a lot from people from the Hawaiian um because when you go down like you know down to the masses down to the regular people and not necessarily messages of Rob uh no more the knish you get to feel like what people are feeling if you could take that message with you know I was in spannabis I heard them from having Neuberger who's the Robin knew Hampstead now and uh in Muncie but my brother he spoke about Cinna screen um my what rena means and he spoke about how you know we ate the like Claudia so complained that we ate the all the vegetables everything between I'm more seen I mean means with that responsibility was just you know we don't have to do anything for it and he brought out that that was sent us in was that you know it sound that we hate the other guy but like we don't really it's too much for us to get in involved in his business and it's like that responsibility like his life is his life and my life is mine and I don't really have to be responsible if it I don't hate him I don't you know I wouldn't you know ignore him if he approached me but to approach him and to really be involved in what he's going through you know that that's enum that's a synonym and it made that made an impression on me like I I actually reached out to somebody that I'm friendly with but I know he's going on something and I reached out to me I said I'm not going to be a Hinnom guy this year you know I was like my my missing a link aspect I have a tremendous point that you're making now a lot I think a lot of people feel like hey I don't really hate people for no reason so I'm good I passed that test I'm clear and I think what you're saying is I think there's a little bit more of a higher responsibility of even if you have people that are in problems in trouble I think that to be it for us to be able to go above and beyond that I think that's really what it's all about yeah I mean it was really I think this was a you know and you make this point every year so I'll be the first this year is to thank our wives actually on the way here I just call my wife saying I was going to make that point first just to the restaurateurs we make sure to close it because we know I mean somebody in the house asked today when's Mincy and I said is that 10 minutes before bedtime right now not marble I ought to give it to the Father that's right so to be here to be able to spend this time together yeah there's no question it's all the wives shattered right so let's continue on I knew we've got a we've got a few clips we're going to play for you out there we asked the opinion of different people I know that you've got a great clip from our observe Davidowitz correct minal in the middle school of South Shore it sent that amongst others that we'll play later on he sent he sends in a clip of just answering this question what he thought the the missing link was to bring cool of course and and this is something that you brought out you know and your opening is that there is no missing link it's where people in their surroundings can see as a missing link yeah and like that's what people were able to share to share with us so that we have that clip sort of the audio that for you because I'll teach us that it was the Avera of Geneva be another Mojave row which I'll that led to the Corbin a colossal ozone akhirin amana how could it be viewers shall I in the faithful City has now turned to be as onna the Malden explains it came from a slow drip of a virus of guinea voles taking the silver and adding a little bit of metal in and taking the drink and adding a little bit of water in it if we are to be able to turn to a Shem and say it's time to bring us back time to bring mushiya time to be mkhaya of the gula we have to be able to look at ourselves our communities our homes our businesses our interpersonal relationships and our friends and make sure that the inaudible cavero is free of any gay neighbor even the smallest thing we have to turn to a chemin sightseein be mich potty Padova shava bits taka we're ready to act with mish but we're ready to act with justice then we could turn to a sham and say bring us home but I mean I think he's exactly correct and I think and I think that it's something that we should all be taking taking full advantage of and thank you for that incredible in those incredible words we're going to turn right now to some of the emails we as a bunch of people to bring emails in and to send us emails and we've got a whole bunch and we can't get to all them so we apologize but if you're if you're right now if you're right now watching what's the email address for this radio project inspired radio ed project inspire comm right so if you're watching right now and you want to send us what you think of the missing link is we will be able to get to emailed later in the show radio at project inspire dot-com I want to read one that I was really taken by and I'm going to try to the person who sent us and didn't want her name three mentions I'm gonna try to figure out how to do it this way but I want you to hear this because as soon as I read it it like blew me away she wrote hello my cousin just graduated from the United States Marine Academy and their motto is ACTA non verba deed not words it could be this could be the missing link let me give you an example I got sick last year I've been home for a year boolean Hara someone from my son's class asked me we were one order to help us meals or visits I suggested visits because my husband does the shopping my mother said okay she came once that's it once it's okay but she was the only one most are local the whole year the whole community they asked what she wanted she said I want visits because my takes care the shopping the whole community the whole year one person one visit these not words you can't come you send the mail even though I said no to that it would make my husband's load a little easier deeds not words make a kiddush Hashem deeds not word no one from the school came through even though I invited them to visit deeds not words no time take five minutes before after school kiddush Hashem deeds not words let make the let's make the gula come let's take the motto out of we don't think amount of the Marines but unfortunately she's getting in from deeds not words what do you think of that I hate English got that just that just struck me that God can I didn't happen in all throughout the America no no one's doing this on a fault like no one's like oh we don't want to no one's like well we're trying to avoid it's just it's busy life is busy and it's someone else's problem the beginning they probably jumped ahead and she was okay this was this was the point that that hit left me is that from that speech yeah because it's it there's no sin estate we're not even tell me what we don't hate them no right I'm sure if you ask somebody wherever this community seems to go here no she's a wonderful prayer it's great now we love her and this person sitting at home and they go right and be or and no one is doing this on purpose and I think this is what it means to be a nation right I think people would order a package on Amazon for example yeah you know but to go and take you know out of your time and go and do it yeah because I think this is what it means to be a nation meaning I think if we say that we're a Clow then we have to act like a claw and it doesn't mean that you have to go crazy and you have to get rid of your family and step all over the time with your kids it would quit your job it means that when you're a part of a Clow then you feel the pain of somebody else that if someone struggling and you can go and help and that's part of what it means and this could be a huge piece of it the difference between us being sort of on the same religion in us being a nation that's very different that could be one important aspect about life and maybe this year if everybody just did like one more deed what that would be if hundreds of thousands people did that right again at that point is what hit home most with me yeah because I I hate that many people's a short list that's what you do how many do I go out of my way for you know Laura phonetic and at that point really that's exactly right I think it's exactly right so I know that I want to transition a little bit I know that you every year you do such an inspiring video for those who haven't seen the project inspired video you don't get to watch it only on tissue but clearly you should definitely go in know tell us in a second how to get there but I know for years on end you've done inspiring video after inspiring video give us a little bit about the one you did this year and what that was all about right so this year you know in the past we've tried the show which is actually the the message of projects by which is that regular from people know none from people and they can have a tremendous impact right this year I just a shadow - ya cogan ago is here with us now who are really full producer who's here so it was a shot a camera on him for one minute is that possible no okay they said no it's okay yeah when you're out there you know y'all go greener right and and he actually came up with the idea and and it was a little bit inspired by the fact that you know Charlie with these James Barr jwp trips we deal with so many women that are getting other women to go to Israel and there's so many from women you know in here we were sitting in Brooklyn means and you know Muncie wherever in Alan Ryan log on that are that are bringing non from women and changing their life and this year you know in the in the past year or a little more than a year we lost three legendary women you know people who were visionaries and now's you know pearl banish Robertson animales and Roberta nasty young guys and I just felt it was the right time to put out a film for women that have role models that can see that people like this some of them more regular some in less regular people were able to just you know trail blazed a path in Jewish history yeah and so we put together this film which to me was a tremendous inspiration to get to meet the families of you know mrs. Pro banished and any malice as well as Overton young guys just to meet their families and to see the legacy that they were and and many of them their children are really caring your care legacy and we we hope to meet somebody you know shortly who's been doing just that but what just to just to pull up a short clip from this film which if you if those who still didn't watch you can see it at project inspire comm you can go to your Shiva world as well we're featured there on the top two women film and like I said women to have these role models of these visionary women that recently passed away one of the thing that struck me in the film is you know any muscles you'll know the Makos has anybody learned in achieving our tutorial knows the Michael's family had hundreds of guests and everyone at the speak and from all you know without that you know going on and on here which you can go on and on they were to book about it which is tremendous but her son-in-law of Avram Willig actually is a revenue shutaura he told the story which it sounds like it's from a different generation it's hard to believe actually when you watch this clip that this woman lived now like this is out there of Nevada Alta from Kelm story you know from yesteryear and to watch the to watch the family speak about her like this was just was this tremendous so and play a clip for you remember this telling the story of a Friday afternoon at the maquas home I remember when it was Friday a new success of chicken shortage I think in Jerusalem I don't remember exactly a long time ago and the road chickens are people coming for Shabbos this is this happen all the times in different ways not necessarily chicken but and even with just totally you know indifferent nonchalant like no worries you know whatever will make do whatever we have you know that others will see some other things you know I said I'll take care of it fine anyhow anybody was saying it's gonna work outside it's gonna work out fine I don't see how it later someone shows up I don't remember the details it just someone shows up like a case a couple of cases of chicken it was like oh okay hear the chickens look let's put them in the oven you know is to get them into the oven yeah and I was like shocked like what did he's come from that has it happened it didn't make any sense no one had chicken i had a she had you like but that's not what happened be like oh my gosh I will take care of it there's someone together and I remember thinking one of the things that was the motivated about amazing part of that story is that it didn't save you money you deliver that chef she was like totally just she said I shot her together it wasn't like wow he's like believe me you know if I asked you for a glass of water you know or if I see a pass me you know pass me a fork i can assume you're blessed passes community as god i said to class the chicken with he'll help at it it's like well of course it was gonna happen so uh that's the way shoot is very real so for me there you know to sit with her children and to and to hear this type of Emunah that's unbelievable is really like you ask em for the chicken I'll pass and no serious is like that's how she thought yeah I got to cut so quickly like this is a theme that I get from so many people that the level of your betta hone equals the level of the Kurdish brokers presence and someone has I go speak to like a big macabre or Rob and I have all these questions he's like oh people haven't I'm gonna give it to I'm like no I don't Mir I'm here where it's like it's like stop here right this when you have such belief that color he'll take care of you he just brings it into the world you know tell the story better of who said in other words there was a drought so the the Rabelais the community of the shtetl says you know guys tomorrow's were going to make a fast day everyone's going to go out into the field we're all going to dive in together and you know they set up these chairs and huge field and the rough finally gets up the next day and he says feliz canceled we're not going to do this everyone's beside themselves like you brought us all out here to dive in for rain he said correct I brought you here damn for rain did anyone here bring an umbrella exactly right did you feel it did you really say like nice did you really believe it's a big deal that you has a moon oh it's a big deal right so in in doing this film we were able to once we meet the families and like I mentioned before to see that people are continuing the legacy of you know of in in that case rev Demopoulos and and we're joined now by Ravi stroll young rice who is a son of Roberta Nestor young race who I believe the yard said is coming Wednesday nights well coming up now so it should be a sorcerer in the champagne while all the inspiration that was gone from the timbre of a younger if you two are continuing in the in the footsteps and continuing to inspire people right so basically I'm saying tonight if he's the hood for my mother s the BA survivor Rama levy her legacy in life is basically nothing it was not not to judge people and she would hug people in fact my son recently told me we have many single events at the organization and one night it was just for older girls and and they were all wait on line so I say before there was online dating people actually waiting online to see my mother but she did not stop until she saw everyone and the girls are lining up and these a lot of pain on their faces so as they're lining up she gives him a hug give him the kiss and then she would say what's their name because she'd not judge anyone and they all walked away with physic and she was a real combination of Brooklyn tequila everywhere we went you would just give people brought us and she had a gift and that's something we learned from her and she learned from her father not to judge people and to always greet people who save economy of us you know Ariana's one of the things that that I was just amaze body in this process of this film that we that we did was everyone we interviewed would say the same thing that they felt when they sat in the class didn't matter how many people were there that they felt that she was speaking to them and that she had this uncanny ability you know people would say like they would they would turn around to see if there are other people in the room you know that's how direct they felt that they was being what was it about you know your mother's messaging and Tora messaging that she wanted people to walk away with when they left her classes well she she would always say she learned everything from her father my she called the heilige days of the taka and my grandfather would always say when you give a dress show you give a speech you have to make sure the mentioned item walk away with something in their pockets and no matter what would always say if she felt where there was the parsha or anything she would speak about people felt that she was supposed to talking to them do we walk in there and direct there was always a message and that and I think that's a very important lesson when we when we do Kira to give people a message and I was thinking what to answer regarding this this wonderful question I think it's that concept of not to judge people I think not the judge our neighbour is not the judge personally know what's going on in their situation you know I find it when I've met I've met your mother a few times and mostly just watching Jamal so just sitting there and being frankly in awe because she was an incredible presenter she would have an entire it was amazing just to see she was standing in the middle and you'd have hundreds of people just totally without a microphone on yontiff just totally spellbound and I wonder and I'm asking I wonder if it's when you're so on a mission in life that you're so immersed in mission you're so immersed in Hashem you're so immersed in purpose that you don't have time to get petty you know I remember once someone told me like small people have small problems big people have big problems I'm asking I wonder if one of the things that made her so unique was that she it felt to me that she just had a mission it wasn't the pettiness of the little things like oh you don't look like me oh you don't try what you're not from our neighborhood it's like she was almost above it it was almost like she was she was looking past it and she's looking for crashes we'll call you sir oh she she saw someone on the court it was he said something that is that do you find that to be true and if so it doesn't me she developed there's a minute she always had it she has it she always said it was a nasara' from the Zetas that she always to look at for Clyde she loved her people in fact we put them on sale of a few weeks ago and the first one at the mat saver reads that she loved Claro who was a-burning level in her in her heart that was the first long-term on saving and she lifted up those who are heartbroken and broken and she gave him physic this was service what's her situation I remember the ways that Connie went on one of our trips there is this row we went to Ben Yehuda Mott up as she wanted she's looking for Natomas we walked into a pizza store and there was a girl there younger like 16 17 years old and her whole face was full of earrings and nose rings and it was just a bit was uncomfortable to look at her my mother says to her like if he brought she said and translation is like my zis kite always with no Z sky what do you need is for your beautiful what's your name and she says my name is Malka Malka you're a queen you don't need this and my mother gave work and she was crying on my mother's shoulder a lot of these girls they know when to cry too and they know shoulder to cry on just you this was the real expertise you know the stories you know that I've experienced that I've heard from the different people here just enough for many books but one thing that also struck me is that you know you we get a sense that Rebbetzin younger I saw Shawn was like like you like you mentioned the Bubbe that like you know would come in and hug you and love you not judge you but in speaking to people when she really believed something she would tell you the way it is also like she didn't hesitate we interviewed a fellow who she called the middle of the night to tell him that she should get engaged is good because that was the right thing she didn't mince any words like she believed in it and she told him and he appreciated that she that's very true if she believed in something she would tell to you but she knew how to speak and especially my own children and the grandchildren she knew how to speak to the most one on their level each child was very very special and she knew how to connect to them she knew she was a real people person and this is a big circus that we had all those who knew her were there oh say the bear is very very lucky she was really larger-than-life well it was a was my school to be involved in this production overall and to meet different people that he named E and to see the great work that not only she did that you're you know following her footsteps with you and your sisters and there was a great person it should be a Lea Ferran Shama thank you thank you for joining me thank you for your wonderful work Charlie with you again if you do this should I make a little like on me I'm a fast guy thank you and now we're going to go to a brief sponsorship video and we'll be right back [Music] because we have before hey wrong with choice for coffee because hi doggies ha ha [Music] and welcome back it's an honor to be back here with you we just came out of what I thought was a great interview with an incredible individual II so rung run/race I mean just to talk about is you know rabbits and young rust that way and I think what I'm hoping you're getting in this show what I'm taking from the show are bits and pieces along the way of what the missing links are that's the goal and we opened with the rub and the rough spoke about the idea of living for Hashem and we heard the different clips about taking our eyes and read the emails about really being a person that thinks of somebody else that goes a little bit beyond what each person is saying and I think what what we just heard from our young race was this idea of looking past the pettiness taking people for who they are stop judging and just take people for just don't think past what's in front of you yeah I mean in again in this production being able to meet his old family and understand better what River two young boys lived for that was it I mean you were her child her grandchild didn't matter you know what you look like what your background was and and that was my people really you know connected with her because you know quite frankly she was unique in that way yeah yeah absolutely and when we talk about pushing people for more we talk about bringing people closer to Hashem it's hard to have that conversation here in Brooklyn without really talking about one of the most exciting organizations here in Brooklyn and that is rage rage is an organization that just a few miles up is doing incredible incredible things in many ways filling in those links to what Google is and we're joined right now with two incredible individual by Goldstein and William garlic I say that correctly welcome to the show thanks so much for joining us and we want to talk to you a little bit about just a little bit about what you how you see the world we're talking today about ich above and that the theme of today's show is what's missing what's missing the Jewish people what's missing around that isn't for me isn't making us as awesome as we could be that's the goal of the show and as is as a person as people that are involved in such an exciting part of the Jewish people a little bit about what rage is doing and maybe share us an insight what you think is a missing link to why we're not the nation that we can be well I guess I'll answer in the order that you asked what rage is trying to do is we're trying to bring to our particular target audience young Russian students and professionals who have been estranged from their background coming from the former's of Union either themselves or they were born here and their parents came they were robbed you know to borrow a phrase from a Rizzo her we were ravaged of our heritage I myself am an immigrant from the Soviet Union and I came I was a complete atheist growing up until 20 years old not because I thought it through because that was just the way it was it was obvious so right now just let me slow this down for those who have no idea where you're talking about because I don't because I was born here in Brooklyn not here but close enough when you mean robbed you mean that in the Soviet Union there is no religion that means when you go through the schools it's nowhere what does that mean like give no context for it sure I mean when I say robbed I mean it quite literally the it was the government official sanctioned policy to destroy you described well right if you tried to circumcise your son you were sent to Siberia if you try to learn Torah you were sent to Siberia right you hear stories of people that had underground he didn't they taught Aleph base people from America American Jews that would smuggle in sperm at great risk to themselves and to the people it was and there was it was an incredible drive and passion to learn but it was unbelievably doing well and that's really that feeling still around today in the Soviet Union I'm asking um not so much nothing more it's it's it's gone now inverse of Union is gone now in Russia Ukraine their synagogues about how good if and rad lies the whole world has changed until now and yeah I'm even Putin's got rabbis as good friends true that before if we got Konica Minolta it exactly do it yeah they don't get together with the whole body knows where his bread is but no question he's a smart man so talk us a little bit about what rage is doing right up the block here and what you think is missing in terms of Google so what we're doing is we're trying to give an incredibly positive experience in context of Jewish experience for Russian Russian Jews have never had such an experience before right so we try to give them the whole should we give them tour learning social experience Shabazz and an Israel trip right this is a second-level trip for people who have done birth right even if they haven't and try to give them something that they walk we're going wow I'm proud to be a Jew and I love being involved in Jewish stuff and hopefully our ultimate goal is to then hand them off to people who will take them further you know send them to you Sheva send them to Jewish communities you know we feel like we're kind of the gateway drug to to a deeper Jewish connection a good one and who's is wonderful man sitting next to so this is what young William is one of our students arms he's a good friend of ours and he was happy to come down so William tell us a bit about your experience what was it like when you got involved in rage what got you excited about this I was excited I was interested in learning more about Judaism I'm not my backgrounds not so much different from rather gaussians here and that I wasn't I wasn't born in Soviet I was born here in America 91 but I'd have I went to public school I didn't have I mean I I was fortunate enough to have stepfather who was very pro-israel and got me in touch with different rabbis here and there but but basically I didn't have that much so I was I went to the synagogue itself because it's the rage headquarters actually in a synagogue oh so I was going there at first and then I ended up going to rage birthday and rage and I've been going there for many many years already now seven I believe but it's I found it very hot none there's a big community there there's amazing rabbis one of them is sitting right here and it's just it helped me a lot and I've gone on a trip now and very recently and ragers has a way of bringing about things which birthright for example isn't so good at there it's more just fun here it's actually Jewish learning if you can take any bit of your Jewish learning and identify one moment that was the most inspiring like what was the insight that you think if you look back and you say that was something that was a key moment for me what was the insight for you that really sort of made that difference to get you more active and more involved not to put you on the spot I'm kind of tough one thing I'm really impressed with I find Reb on the families of rabbis when I go on Friday nights one thing that really attracted to me but not even raised as though there's a survivor Ratajkowski who actually has spoken every age also I would go there and he'd have his family of five kids and wife's and they're all and my other rabbi who's living in Lake when a man just seeing that and because a lot of Russian Jews their families kind of broken maybe more so than American regular Americans but Andrews but um so when I saw that like cohesiveness and the love basically in the family I'm that what's what tracked me and in general at this point or more recently all the lectures that the rabbi's have pretty frequently they center around personal development and and growth and it's a big thing it's important it's yeah something is part-time yeah as I'm hearing you speak I'm hearing you speak about the family life and the love of family life and what that you know what you seeing that is really what inspires you to see oh well you know Judaism is a family-oriented thing that healthy and it's maybe something I didn't have and like that's it and yet I'm thinking that there are thousands of those families that you're describing living within a mile radius of this show we're sitting in right now that sometimes don't appreciate what we have you know what would you what would you want to tell those people to appreciate what they grew up with what they have and how much you has quote that outsider you know appreciate what they have I'd say just to take what they have and delve into some some organizations the rage isn't the only one I think even though I think it's really good and sick like listen to things um pursue different avenues and get involved exactly that available use what they have where they grew up with a day sometimes we sometimes take for granted and get involved and you know you have many people are probably watching this and even in this room that don't know that rage and queue of organizations exist on the bar in Brooklyn they like Kyra's felt like Alabama right I'm not really yeah absolutely rabbi if you can you can share with us what you think in terms of your perspective as to what's missing today what would it be you know I I have to quote my Russian Shiva or of North Weinberg and something that I heard him say on more than one occasion that really it was the back lesson was the reason I got involved in this this Avenue he said you know it god forbid your child was sick right you would become the expert in that illness there because it matters to you know no one would could tell you well you just don't have the ability you don't have the skills you don't have the time it doesn't matter you prioritize it you will develop the skills you'll develop the expertise and you will try to do it absolutely best to fix this problem and he said you guys you think you don't have the skills you can't speak you don't have the tour knowledge you don't have the ability to convince people to come to a Shabbos table maybe to go learn some little bit of the yeshiva he says but if you thought it was your son or your daughter or your brother or your father you would become an expert and you would make it happen yeah rious yeah excellent what a credible incredible message thank you so much for joining us it's an honor that hasn't played from your show resulted maybe next year to do this in your salon I mean thank you what an incredible incredible group I mean unbelievable to have this incredible opportunity where we're sitting here with such incredible people here to talk about what they're doing and the same theme continues to come up here arise a crisis a crisis and I I think this is really one of the key themes it seems to be what the missing link is right and you know it's it's a cries and some hell that arise is translating into going a little bit beyond what we used to go out of the comfort zone a little bit a little bit out yeah we actually have a clip on that right but we have you know we we have a clip from Yaniv and it mayor up from from Kazak yeah you know he shared with us it was literally moments yeah we had to get him in there because Doc's incredible organization shout out to them I had the opportunity last night I was there less than it sounds like I got to tell you I was there the place was I he asked me to come by I'm like I'm happy to come but it's 10 o'clock and I done layout right that means you could be sleeping right during the day I get it you know saying like what are you doing you staring at the side but at night usually Abdi come betina's and I picture 50 people he packs the house all day quino's incredible individual doing great stuff talk about people I think of rise and he was one of them amazing he just said this literally as we walk into the show today I will share that clip let's head to the clip for minute what is getting out of our comfort zone what do I mean obviously everything that we've ever done up until now is not enough obviously it's very good it's great but machine is in here the basin Victor's is not rebuilt we have to get out of our comfort zone if to get out of our seats you have to get out of our beds we have to get out of our sitting back and relaxing mode and I believe in my humble opinion going full force and making a difference and changing the world that will make this goal come spilling in our day and I believe with our positivity and community leaders and rabbis we will be able to do this we have to get everyone on board men and women young and old party Minaj clubs and believers occasi that's what's gonna bring a musician's drink I think what he's talking about right coming out of your comfort zones that's all about stepping em I want to be one more email this came in from a man named Isaiah if you're Isaiah if you're out there we're reading your email I think this is I think this was so so incredible hear it here's how it goes I want to preface I want to first preface with this how he writes it I'm a BT and I'm not the most learned person first of all I disagree that whole thing you're incredible and the doctor about true VII is even better and the fact that you're writing this amazing we love you and you are totally totally as learned as as you need to be and you always learn more obviously but it's wonderful who you are first major problem it can summed up in the next I had I had yesterday affirmed you was asked a question and responded it's the nine days readiness I will tell you after tissue don't you love that it's the nine days I can't SS hundred nine days after Yom Kippur that's when the fun begins again right because that specific all night that's this rubbish about we're off until L oh right until solutions comes in Tel Aviv Amman Kano comes which we'll talk about in a sec because we have the head of you know volcano here with us say but not gonna give that away yet the quote that quote is why we will not see Kula I can understand Jews who are not yet from but when it is someone who grew up religious saying I will tell you if the Tish above it only shows that we're willing to watch it we speak for three weeks but once that's over we'll go back to our old ways we will never marriage this even gula if we do not take the three weeks a nine days and bring that into the rest of our lives isn't that great Isaiah if you're listening you're watching this this is amazing second this I'm not sure since I am not so learned once I heard a Marshall for a fifth this son would say to me which says our Father will not start the meal into all the children are presents yes your sadoc screws will follow all of these laws but until we bring our brothers and sisters together our father and Heba will not start the meal unfortunately if we wait long enough for those brothers sisters will not longer be Jewish and we will not only be left we will we will only be left with the orthodoxy president them you know what do you think of that incredible right two points be real be have integrity I think think for about other people so the you know the eyes have you know they say when you know much over becomes you know from enough as when he starts talking in shul and here you know you get to see us you know it became so became so normal like speak me after the nine days it's JavaScript will tell you have a card rings job yeah you know and and this guy is viewing it from his anger which is a point to think about absolutely speaking about inspiration speaking about being real and having integrity speaking about an individual who has lived his life trying to bring all the children to the table we're joined today right now with our frequent guests we make sure that every show we begin our show anchoring around this one this guest here however it's a higher while since in the Romans you know what he's been doing for the people both in this neighborhood and across the world is really really it's in many ways it's it's it's in ways that we never will know because most of what you even see you don't know and I've had the opportunity to travel he invites me on the Avena volcano tour so I get to just see every community that goes on what's happening a little bit and that's only a little bit of it and remember whilst and thank you so much for joining us and being a bordo show my pleasure next year and the flood surf relation exists I hope I know and you're very excited because you're going is you're going to have some I don't know I'll talk to you again we're owners are about to be shows already for real protects your when I'm very busy to get a visa and there's a big line right FASS Charlie I'll get you around the back don't worry yeah appreciate that I guess my second question is will it be an or novel patient program if it's in your show line that's a different question sure not I just want to hang in debate something that I just chill it us so you're an individual I you I've seen you every hour I think you're somewhere this tissue buff but but more importantly what you're feeling with the whole year is really hard one that's what you're doing I think that you're building every day of the year you're putting a brick in the wall and trying to save another neshama what do you think is the missing link what's what's missing today what what what is we're doing so well on so many fronts Clyde shows reddit we were poised and ready for greatness what do you think is still missing I think we're very disconnected from God and I think that's the most important thing I mean I've been speaking a whole tition above about the question of why you know is a big change by sub-sites today at 102 and everyone gets up they sit on a chair we put on tefillin we don't say taskinen so it's clear late it's called a holy young this doesn't make any sense if anything the destruction basis of McNish was because of sin of cinnamon the three cardinal sins today is a day to state a sermon to do to Vaughn what they did that caused the destruction basically - no no toxin on Noah vegan okay no it scientist and I really changed my tissue buff speech from all the years that I've spoken I've gone down a totally different wine this dish above and I just listen to your your text message I don't agree with Isaiah at all I think that we should celebrate that the guy said after the nine days because slaves from abolishment maybe if he keeps us for nine days then afternoon that he won't say so I would I would from my standpoint you got a grab ev-everything positive like our famous you know yo safe in the spice train that you got to grab everything positive that you can so if someone tells you i'll talk to you about it in the next and nine days at least we have that at least we have he's going to keep the nine days there are other people that were told blushes are right there and then so we're here in the in the in the business that I'm in not it's not business but seeing so much pain and seeing so much atheism every little bit that you could get we celebrate and the reason we celebrate on on Tish above that's a yontiff is because we whole morning and this really a very unbelievable message from my Reverend kahlil which you'll appreciate this year which also totally flipped me that that we're morning in the morning we're talking about everything that happened to us a six million Jews and Crusades and everything that we've gone through destruction basically does and then comes that's ice you look around the room and you like we went through a lot but we're all still here the youngest of Tish above they're all still here being able to appreciate in your darkness that you're still here if you're still here your potential if you have potential you have life so we're sort of celebrating Clyro you know the word tisha we we speak on Pesach about the word tisha tisha Mia there too she asked Elena so the number nine represents verse so the nine days and tisha bow of the ninth day is when my chef is born what does that mean by chef is born I don't know literally you know one's looking for a man awesome that's born on that day but my ship is born because out of the despair that we're going through we're still here I was telling them today it's like a car faster zone there's four guys in a car and they go off the road and they flip five six times and end up going down and ravine down a cliff and the car smashed to smithereens and the four of them in the car and they're all looking at each other my she okay I'm okay are you bleeding no crime how you doing I'm okay they're all okay they're all the seatbelts they're all okay so it's a little hot to get out of a car that's upside down out of the car what are they busy talking about the car the car gets towed maybe we'll take some pictures and then online day what you see the closet they walked out of what they're talking about I'm alive I need to get a scratch man it's unbelievable we got a bench very male we got to make a suit this radar what are they talking about they're talking about the crash and the car how many times did it flip who cares we made it that's a fish above the bat we talk about the car going down the ravine and everything that Christ was going through personal pain every person has their titian above every person has their a salon and we're talking about all this all this pain but then all of a sudden we're on our head so to say and we look around we like but I'm here we're here these guys were talking about the Romans agree to the Babylonian you're gone that's that's the untruth that's the yontiff of tissue bone and I just have taste something which I think you'll find very interesting I two days ago I was talking to a girl who was very badly abused and is in the middle of therapy and one of the therapies she's doing is art therapy so they sort of draw and from their drawing you can see their pain or their hope or whatever did everything she draws is black she brought me her whole folder black birds in a black the sky is black everything's black no other color I said no other color she's rabbi I live in despair I live in darkness I don't know how to draw anything but darkness I said you think darkness is despair she said yes am i I want to tell you something about the next 24 hours last night last night was dark right the whole day yesterday I'm depressed I might I have to go speak I don't know how I'm going too fast it's a very scary day and we're all like looking at a watch I have another hour to drink water another half an hour someone tell me I should eat grapes because they stay in your stomach and then they explode during the fast not doesn't work a lot of other ideas right so you're very scared of last night it's the beginning of Tish above within 24 hours we're sitting here right now at 7:30 and we can't wait till tonight because the minute it's night we can eat and we could drink and the whole world changes so I'm like I said to look at 24 hours darkness could be disappear and and fear tisha boats coming and darkness can be wow it so aversion yeah same darkness so this tisha bub instead of talking a map choose of the darris kids Oh Dean people dying cancer crisis of I said I'm not going that way at all I am talking about the darkness that we're looking forward to I am talking about the beauty and the my aid of kish above and that's what I talked about the whole time but I want to tell you because you love my red be very much so I call them up I say rabbi Gamaliel what's the message what's what should I what's my qivana that's what I asked he said the following he said number one you need to know that all the kenneth's and everything you say has nothing to do with you we're not saying that kenneth for us not about our pain and the six million Jews who died he said it's about the six million children Jews that were God's children that died he said the whole tisha Bob and the whole penis and all the murder energy swirling the girl that jumped off the boat and the Asura he will game office it's not about us we're reading all about this that now we understand how sham how much you lost it's nothing to do with us and it's the pain of this Tina and that's what tisha Bob in desire it says if you want mushy off because you want someone who died you want to see them or you know you're someone who's sick you need a full amma so the the rand mom calls you unhappy cares so you have to want it for the sheena to come out of the goalless and this is I'm going to end with this this is low line and he says to me when you when when you dive in my room tonight let's say Tish above where you going after that like a strange question like why what am i what is ready asking I don't know where you going fishel I said I'm going home he said all the people in your shoe were they going after my toes tonight I said they're going home he said all the people in America foots Laura's we're they going after Myers tonight anything where he's going I'm right there going home well there's someone who's not going home tonight and that's gone Wow and therefore you have to cry we're all going home tisha bugs over for him Tish was never over if children are in goalless his house is burned down he has no home so don't forget that much additional you may be going home but he has no home house nobody pulls away that's that's revving wail at me whoo so that's the focus so it's a very different focuses hope to survive on and that's why it happens to you got that email and last year I would rip this guy nine days what does that mean nine day right like I would be like that no more if you to bring the Shafter gentler it's no it's the it's the deeper look good right right it's a Deepak I'm not I'll tell you why I got soft decoders are those that are going to the mountains then why home is the way to the right let's even better than a second home right there's one doesn't have a first time I would even tell them that I get resolved on I'm not telling a man well I absolutely love what you said you know in fact when I opened up then I went to or nava today I opened with what I find is the greatest evil shaman I'll give it to you the SEMA show basically says this idea which is that the whole purpose of three weeks is to find a KU statistic used to the life force this is the beginning of the darkness is also the beginning of the light so it's an incredible message and/or whilst means you continue to inspire us and as always we appreciate your being on the show we appreciate what you do for for all of us and all the Kleiser all year long when we're all dry we try be much less energy avoid because it is not a day off for you I put you down here and there where it's listen it's the day that the Cohanim really of everyone that lost something I you know you know how proud I am to be a client s of everyone that was something today my little tribe was the most we have been unemployed now for over 2,000 years and I go to the clay so a lot you to your client yeah Wow surrounded I'm surrounded I got a lot of protection here the lake no party it's okay we all have a subject that's you faucet basically this early oh yeah there you go there you go okay anyway so we should have this next year to be to be back to be back in that Basin is where we're we're the one that are waiting on the unemployment lines yeah I want to be there first the minute the door opens mid-session okay anyway thank you thank you very amazing waiting to send two nd and the whole organization they do they just you know a whole year that plug it away you know they're bringing people into the fold they're bringing Hashem children back to him and see his shoes work you should you should have lots of lots of lots of physics I'm a man thank you Thank You rabbi those are whilst in joining us right now as always an inspiring figure I mean I think he has been in a dozen places since tissue of began I can tell you personally I've had this supposed to be with him on the road and it just doesn't end for him people are coming to 24/7 it is he is of the most sincere individuals in college opening I think yes adjusted just to review a second before we go to the next piece and I think we have another clip right we have another clip that we can play before we go to the next clip I just want to review what I took away from what the rabbi said which i think is what torski opened with which seems to be another theme so I'm seeing two themes in the social so far we didn't put any of this together but just for those who are listening I'm getting two themes theme one is a little bit more cries step out of your comfort zone and theme two is start thinking of Hashem it's a big deal because we usually see him on the other side of the table like we've got the tough life and he could just sort of sprinkle magic dust and over he wants but to actually turn around and go no actually he created a system and when we're actually not doing the right job he can't do that and to feel bad for that it's an amazing concept though yeah and I think I think what he pointed over Arobin average of ilium is that you know we all have a top 10 list of why we want Michelle to come and why we want there to be another tissue above and what he was saying is do we realize that a Shem is not going home right and like that was that the whole my I will say by the way that to CEO of a wall esteemed you know on the positive note of things you know means that barakah Shem we're doing better as a community right I would say but that that I think it was this point is there yeah to to note to know that he's not going home tonight yeah absolutely I think that the what he's rotting does for the community and how much he sees to be able to really to play that that role and to say those things is very very powerful as an individual who's constantly inspiring people it's really amazing I know you've got a clip so please what what's our next clip yeah I mean it's just note that things have been flying in you know yes I'm getting them also so those are emailing us thinking we're going to try to get them all fact maybe we'll post them somewhere wherever but right we're getting a ton and we thank you for something a member yeah and people send him in radio at project inspired calm we've been getting non-stop emails we have another audio clip that was sent in my renewal sent in a clip with his message what he believed was the missing again we're speaking about a missing link one of the missing link yeah to gula with a clip that I renew earth sent in shrug and show that was a shows a let's go to that clip a young man once approached the coffin I am he asked him Rebbe what is delaying the arrival of Messiah The Hobbit Ryan responded we don't know why mushiya has not arrived we cannot understand the thoughts and calculations of Hashem however we can Dobbin whereupon the Hobbit sky and prayed and says Hashem the longer it takes from mashiac to arrive the more distant we become from you please bring mashiac speedily in our times so that was a re new earth huisman Alan darica Tara high school who sent that in as well as have a time we're just rolling right along yeah keep getting these emails coming in I'm sorry too right now I want to read two that just came in one from a girl named tequila I believe that people have a misconception that helping or caring about a friend is for when it works for you very similar very good I feel it's time for everyone to start to go a little out of the way to help people and when you show em that it's that that's sure to bring gula thank you so much excellent and this one comes in from Cheryl I've learned that when we were slaves mature I'm only one-fifth redeemed 80% of them didn't maritally retracements rhymin subsequently experienced Montella or why why didn't they want to leave and our times I wonder if we me included could just leave everything our comfortable homes while paying jobs good standing in our communities religious freedoms abundance extravagant lifestyles would we also say gula in theory sounds fine this is really I think really really good like we're all big talkers here we want Kula like we want Kula we want googling around we want a Google after this summer because we're in the country you know a good time for gula right for Yom Kippur that would be letter-perfect all the time right and only if I can get a house the same size and it's not so hot and they don't speak Hebrew that's the deal for gorilla but I'm so used to the lot my lifestyle here who knows what what's waiting for me there I think it's a great point the question is really do we want Google enough that there will be no doubt I believe it's missing link is the rut zone to really truly want it to be able to leave all behind and follows from fully with confidence in him and ourselves that we hash em deserved the glue like I tell you I'm Way over here listen to a clip and the person I was listening to at set a great point he said if you don't live in Israel it's ok but shouldn't you ask somebody first like ESCA Shila I wonder if that's a good exercise for us like for those out of America right I'm you know proud to say that and I wonder if all of us just take half an hour whatever we have left the fast is over in an hour and 20 minutes so I wonder the next hour and 20 minutes if we just take two minutes and ask ourselves like would I move no yes am I really serious about gula and if the answer is no what can I do to really up my game to be more serious about it that's just I don't know I don't know what you think are you living is also there so that we have it we're moving on to our great guests here do you want to introduce our guests I will few guys okay and he needs no introduction you know he's the one who orchestrated this whole show no it's for schedule that's right do we break our fast every every right website rubber yo knees a cute in skis with us is with us so that with a man named Aaron Jankovic they say that correct Erik that's why I said Aaron he said ridiculous Erik I said that I'm reading I'm reading off the sheet here but yes it has been with us and we know each other because those who heard any other earlier classes that I had the opportunity to speak about my trips to Israel with the guys who I loved so much Erik is one of them and Rabbi thank you so much for joining us and bringing Erik with you we're talking today about the missing link what we think is missing in gula give us your thoughts as to what you think is really missing today in the community okay so let's go back to one of the trips that we weren't done which I want to say that did being with you Charlie we're coming again on another trip but this is the Jay inspired trips that project inspire and James fire partner up with the JW RP and we do their women's trips that go and there's men trips men strips that go so the criteria for the men's trips is that they have to have a family and they have to it primarily that their wives had going on the trips already so we spend a week together so there was if we talk about revving I'm leo revenue so I was to tell a brief story and I will be capsulized and capitalize the essence of what these chips are about we went to him on a motor shop as I think it was and he we were with a group of pepra the men who went in the men you know we're not predominantly observant and probably real cam Leo picked took out a bag and I was a translator he pulls out a bag puts on the table because gentlemen you see what this is so they went and they said no we don't know if this is a guys I have people's names that my responsibility is to go to all the far more the graves and I go and pray on behalf of all these people who pray for them the condition of being having your name put into this bag is that you have to do something you have to take upon yourself Cabala taking upon yourself something to do so we're sitting there and he says well would you be interested in having your name here of course they said yes we told them what a holy person is etc a saintly person so they took upon themselves to get to filling this is twenty guys get tooling and put them on regularly I have to say that throughout the trips people have changed their lives people have whether it be cautious whether it be mikvah whether it be to fill in whether it be Shabbos different avenues that people who have grown these gypsies are non-religious gentlemen men and women who have made tremendous strides in their lives and it's done through and I have to say through people in the community who get involved with them from people who get involved with them we have something called the black box breakfast that we get together they put under spillin and we have cabooses and they get involved with it on a regular basis so what you'd say is what's lacking in the community we need more people to get involved more firm people to get about to be partners that learn with people I tell you see twice and that's why I guess he's a smiling ear-to-ear before this fella William was saying that that's what he appreciated most from people let me ask you Eric thank you very much for coming on here and joining us you went on a trip to Israel with project inspired with the Jay inspire how is that trip you know give me the people that are viewing this an idea what the trips about and how impactful it is and ambassador was in your life absolutely um I mean I really didn't know what to expect and you know you go on one of these trips and you heard before that people who have gone people come back and say I don't know if I can explain it but you have to go on this trip you know and it's one of the things that resonates so much for us you know the commodity that you build but you know guys who are from guys who are not and you know especially for somebody like me who comes from a background that wasn't really always there on a on you know how much I would follow from the point of view of in disguise it really opened up I think a lot more comfort in that regard and you know one of the other things that for me frankly meeting Charlie I mean I've gone back since then and listen to probably pretty much all the podcast yeah you know it's just you know for me these this true specifically it's not just about you know start wearing fill and start keeping Shabbos to do anything else it's more than that it teaches you and you know it's you know that's when when Charlie comes across so so you know powerful in his in his talks about how do you just be a better husband a better father a better human you know how do you maximize your potential and what you have inside you and when you you know when you know a little bit of when you hear a little bit of how you connected to maybe you disguise it comes together a lot a lot more and that's you know kind of goes back to making more sense one second it's not just about things like you know putting on filling and going to the oven maybe do it when it has no relationship but when you put it all together and you realize perhaps that you know this is something bigger here and it ultimately translates into just a better more productive life I appreciate your Congress and you're absolutely right the goal I believe of Judaism the goal of what we're trying to accomplish really is a better life being better making sure that I think that's what ish was really all about it's this incredible gift that God gives us that says I know that you're not enough as opposed to me forgetting about you and moving on to the next nation I'm going to make sure that you don't forget that and torture you in a way physically that you remember to be more and that's what you can have a radio show or the whole show is about being better and I appreciate you saying that because it's exactly right to capture that way if you can like take a message that you think that you've heard or or message about Judaism what what resonates with you what what message do you think out of everything that you've read heard from the rabbi's people you've seen what resonates with you as something that is so unique about us so that something too excited you that was an insight that you think is so important for us to hear well from the church specifically if that's what you mean I the connection there was how much people willing to sacrifice you know to live in in our land and and how clear is it's our land and no matter what happens there will never change so just to see the dedication of people to that commitment that this is what we belong this is who we are as people and as Jews you know people have changed their lives and drop stuff by making a yeah I mean some some of the people who came across and you see the sacrifices they've made you said to their you ask yourself you know can I ever fathom going through that yeah you know even though my parents what they did for us when they took us out from from you know the former Soviet Union and they had well there but they saw that the future was not there for them I can't imagine even being able to go and travel and check out the you know in advance and then taking a family and moving by appearances that with their eyes closed so I can relate in that regard and saying that wow people did this and they're pulling this off yeah so the you know that message that it just it brings me closer to you know kind of solidifying that this is the real thing it's the real McCoy yeah it sacrificed it's such a great idea you can't really get things in life if you don't sacrifice for them and lots of times like we want things we don't want them bad enough I think that's exactly right I think the State of Israel is a place where people just sacrifice and otherwise if it was if it was if it was too hard we would have closed up shop a long time ago rabbi what are you seeing out there today as to the next sort of stage that people need to go through in the firm community to really get more active involved with what's happening with Eric with other people with you what what's blocking people why wouldn't everybody want this I mean I was on a trip with you guys it's awesome we have the best time you know you go to shop is people like care visit like carrying a bag of bricks up a hill you know say it's meeting amazing people it's talking about the greatness of the religion that you already committed to and practiced it's all it's like people are saying like oh my gosh like it's so great it's not so great it's so much fun like it's such it's like the greatest secret that here was the best stuff so what's the block why aren't people more saying yeah of course I absolutely definitely want to get involved so first of all Charlie I'll tell you that I really have felt I haven't found too many people who say they don't want to get involved however you know we have family life we have our businesses we have our partner so we have responsibilities and you know maybe set in the forefront of their lives however I'll say as follows and I'll say this to everybody who's out there in the audience I'll say to everybody if we can touch somebody and it's about caring about somebody kirov isn't about necessarily making them religious can you have is about the Octus of Claudia's relic Your Honor II am Roderick connecting whether it be learning with somebody and if you don't know the answer is you know the it will help you find out the answers number two is it's about setting somebody a birthday card it's about you know - calling somebody up and if they're not feeling well and visiting them and visiting them in vicar home it's about it's about inviting them for Shabbos there's so many different out going out for a cup of coffee there's so many different avenues of key roof that a person can get themselves involved and you know where to find us you know where it could be and I'll just answer as follows as we live and I'll defend with this we live in a time that Charlie you know you your children are good you're good and you got yourselves woken up to my great grandchildren my great great grandchildren my great great great Challenger is girl Jen we might never meet how do we know that they're going to be all right so cuz I'm so for said as follows is when you take care of how shams children he'll take care of your children so I give the charge to everybody who is listening to this radio station that get involved go past your comfort zone care about Clio Siraj attention bless you this should be the last goal is that every minutes of golus we should all meet in usual I'm Erica Lisbon hey I want to point out Charlie that in front of really only Zagat Sinskey that there's no better person to be able to give that message over because you and I know that Rio nian is wife.she Lamas who for those who still didn't see the film can watch it our project inspired calm are exactly that as we walk down the street Chavez they're working with people that they've brought closer that they cure bad as friends these are not projects these are people that these are Jewish people that they care about and give it a life so thank you and Eve everything you've enjoyed I thank you so much thank you Eric we're going to a child we're going to put in that for a sponsorship right a break over here and we're going to come back we have more guests we have more emails we have some symbol olive oil we'll have 40 minutes to lift it till we're done with the labradorite where to go stay with us hi doggie ha ha ha we're sorry for talking because me [Music] ha ha ha [Music] and welcome back we just heard from yoni for zakat in ski from Eric I gotta tell you I I get so inspired by individuals like Eric he is such an inspiration and I had the opportunity on these trips to meet so many people like this the Jewish people are incredible and you see individuals like he had mentioned it didn't have been in the background that other people had and when you put them in a situation where they can learn and grow we had someone earlier here for me it just shows just how lucky we are we take it for granted a little bit and just how much we can give other people and if you notice the message was very similar it was a price right there's a Christ responsibility get out of your comfort zone it's a small stock it's diving for the ball it's not the big we got big issues right the community we're they're just closing the gaps and some of the small things that hold us back so amazing thing about meeting Eric and William we had before is that these people they're not anti Jewish it sounds right that interested in this deficit you know both them are from the so performance of Unionville you only was born here Eric they're they they just didn't know yeah and like they had an opportunity to join to project inspire to jwp to come on this trip to meet charlie or army and get on his podcast and and really to be connected me see how inspired a guy like him is you know in knowing oh yeah and it's not what this film was really about wasn't it film really about this idea of going outside you come first you know you know was and a we showed a clip from the maquas part of the film we spoke about young rice what's missing here is the probe anus you know maybe the least famous of the three but probe anus was at Almeida of sarrish near Wow and and I'll get to that in a second but you know it one of the cooks that we had in the film that I actually it was one of those moments you know when you're doing a film and her daughter mrs. Eisenberg had got up already and she mentions this story to me and I said no no no guys you gonna you know go sit down again you got to tell the story she was a 209 from people and the way he was described as they were they didn't look anything Jewish we'll call it and here they were in the steps of a big shoe Lombardo Prague and she after speaking them wanted a group picture with them so she stands up group picture is 200 turns around that she wants to be in the middle and Ashley's here to casitas ladies walk by and they say to her Nitish petka she says these are your grandchildren and without flinching she says they're yes these are my grandchildren that's how she felt that every that every Jewish person I mean you know was her with her grandson a granddaughter story but she was a Tommy that's Irish near her daughter says that she was to walk around the corner and she is her she needed to see her from the window at least she's asked her can you ask your mother if she lets you come collecting with me and they used to go door to door collecting and what's amazing about the this hearing of from a Talmud uh really a neighbor of search near is that you know rabbi Goldstein before mentioned with Noah Weinberg he from the little that I got to see her nose while he was still alive he would always mention he would always mentioned Hirsch near and Rebecca and Samson who in a moment we'll get him on we'll get him on the area tells over the story so I'm telling over the story because when you understand where this idea was you could understand what a Talmud ah of serving it was and that was that was never banished that was what was so inspirational so we have the opportunity to have our Haim Sampson the managing director of project inspire on the line proclaimer do we have you on the line thanks charlie thanks Jesse yes it's true that Ragnar Weinberg that cell used to tell us frequently about Sarah shanira in fact used to tell us the story of classical sana who the receiver have run who famously got up at a bris Miller where all the children and the grandchildren of the rebels and the receivers of former years the the grandchildren of the hobbits hyomin the bells are revered the gara read that ultra nevada ultra slow balcony all there and he got up and he said i'm going to tell you who was the greatest person in the last hundred years and it was none of your parents or grandparents and they said let's go sit down you know you know don't cause problems and he continued and he said not only that but this person didn't even learn a blunt Gemara I think we're in they were up in arms sit down or classical but he continued and he said not only that when I tell you the name of the person you're all going to agree with me the cut hover he told them the name and they all agreed and who was it it was suresh nearer the founder or the bass Jakob movement and Rev Noah went on to explain to us what was the secret of her success so she explained in her Diaries that she was a seamstress and as a seamstress all the daughters of the religious families used to come to her and she was able to see up front how far they had strayed from the ways of Torah and she cried and she said to herself I as a seamstress can clothe their bodies but where are their mitzvahs to clothe their souls and she cried and with that tear of care she undertook to do something and I quoted Bora who gave us the otter - Maya and ROS knowledge used to look at us and say we can do the same all it takes for us is to have that same depth of care and perhaps this is the message that we can take with us as we go from tissue birth to the forthcoming year and if we can shed it here like Sarah shanira and if we can set a chit shedded here for a painting a URL from the depth of care where are their mitzvahs and that we can undertake to do something about it there's no session we should get Seattle - Maya from the routeburn echelon them that we should be able to see all of a Kurdish mother whose children coming back to him with Torah emitters with a machine to Canaan being Hara the Amane of Bakura mama SH thank you so much thank you so much for Sampson for that I had thought the tongue where Sampson is the international director of project inspire sharing that story from Rome know about search newness that was the inspiration that I had a meeting Pro vanish and seeing that was what she instilled in her calmly don't yeah I think the the idea of search near I think it really fits same theme of an individual who just took such a fries for other people and that's sort of it's almost it's almost a theme that people I find a lot of time people feel like well there are those leaders and then there's me and then there's great people they feel like almost like disconnected from the people that are in charge and it's hard to appreciate that the you'll that are in charge they just take on more Christ like no one like Pat them on the back and goes you're in charge I like you know you get like oh wow I am been akka been from Devon M Ellis so apparently I'm going to be sitting in the right chair it's like Roy Wallace Dean just took advice right in everything young rice just to the highest and Saoirse near like being in charge having responsibilities being a leader in Colliers rel doesn't have the resume today I think we've been a little Reza made out right it's just individuals that step up realize what's going on and go a little bit further right I think that's true I mean that was exactly the point there were never to bring an insertion ear that she was a seamstress no one had to come to her and say hey it's time you know it's time to set up that big psychosis right she saw the need and she got up and did and then she got there was she got the ability after she took response was a big reveal concept as well right you first take responsibility and the coach bro who gives you a bit right every when I was his that was anything you read up or hear of ever know that it was in it was ingrained yeah yeah absolutely let's go to one more email this came in from a man named Israel bravado safe said he saw in a dream mushiya whose legs were stuck to it was revived you're safe this is coming this is this is big stuff so for the survivor listening to this listen even closer mashiac whose legs were stuck in the floor outside the gates Irish Lion so he saw mushiya and a dream and he asked him urbane ooh when are you coming he answered how can I come when there are a million children narrative who do not know show my role survive Joseph was saying that we have to go out and be moussaka as haraam what do you think of that fairly powerful thanks along these lines you know it's interesting because Provine is going to go back to her daughter said that she believed Michele was going to come every day people say you know it so long like those are going to come today he just has short legs he's coming he just has short legs you know for them they saw it coming and they lived with it every soul sponsor was was rumored to say that when he passed away that he never would have gotten through life had he known that Michelle would not have come in his days like he never anticipated going the entire distances at him the past being real that's what it is it's being real got a great one from from Jenaya Jenaya mails me and says what's it about it's about going out of your element and not being afraid to take risks truly being real with yourself and others inviting others and just giving people the time so you can bring them closer just loving others it's what it is be really a little bit more that's really what the point of all this is really it's not anything beyond us it's not something that we haven't been before it's taking where we are right now and pushing a little bit more if you had some more stories you can just email us now at Project inspirati at project inspire radio at project inspired comm we are joined with an incredible guest here we get to have another kid that just came in Oh from schwag Eagles man I believe it yeah he said he sent it your way triangles were sent in a message again these are last minute as people you know yeah I've been sending it for a few weeks but like I know he sent he sent it in today just a message also answering like what a missing link is or what the missing link is to gula what is the missing link charlie that's a great question but quite frankly it's one that I think that I'm far from qualified to address in a public forum instead let me share with you a brief thought that I think might help bring us all just a little bit closer to the Google a-- two words thank you now I know what you're thinking you probably figured that I'm about to give a little mini lecture about how we all don't show how correct I told often enough but that's not true you see I think that common decency along with the good upbringing most of us enjoyed combine to mean that we actually do say thank you when someone does something for us but that's what you might call reactive car toys I'm thinking about something that you might call proactive Picasso toys how many times have we all had somebody do something for us say a member of Hatzolah shows up in the dead of night to help out for ourselves for a relative or maybe you're in a hospital and you're hungry and tired and you head to the beat the hilum room and you see that someone prepared a pastry or a hot drink for you and maybe you even take an envelope from the box in the wall and after the fact you write a check and you say you know what Wow these beaker : people these are fella people we would be be without them let me express my a card so type to them now what about if instead of being reactive we were proactive what about if we supported them in advance so they could do this great work for the rest of Claudia's role without having to worry about a budget what's more what about if we each carved out a niche where we could do something unique after all we all have our strengths and we can generate a thank-you from someone else to us if we were all proactive in that way I think we could truly bring ourselves that much closer to the gula I got to tell you this one part that I draw against what is incredible he's striking such an incredible guy and he's so involved and good in so many different things a lawyer abala bus really a real beacon in the community someone who I respect tremendously but I think he's made it and I think he made a great point reactive versus proactive right people are great reactively they really are and you see this time and again someone calls can you step up they step up it's just a pro activity that usually is lacking by all of us myself included how's the message really we've been talking about is like stepping a little out of your comfort zone I think proactive versus reactive is a step yeah two big sin so we're joined here with a great individual ari Jacobs is in the house a individual who has incredible experiences somebody with a lot of insight and someone that can really share some perspective I've had the opportunity to spend some time with Ari on the phone and we had a really deep conversation that about what is missing so our tell us a little bit about yourself and your perspective as to what do you think is missing tonight sure first of all thank you so much I appreciate your kind words and running this whole program line and tisha bluff can't be easy and I already feel it on my side and out of the head you know I just want to say that gum like struggie and I don't feel like I'm qualified in such a public forum but I can only give my experience strength and hope that I've had myself I usually like to say that I am the you know ultimate you know mother or Father's you know worst nightmare I've come for me wonderful family I went to mainstreaming Shiva's I had a wonderful fantastical upbringing from everybody no abuse no trauma and yet absolutely no connection theaters fact I tell I grew up with such wonderful people and you know I can say that now in advance I would say at a young age I really I did a lot of motion sometimes you know I never had person than ever just you know you tell me to do something sure no bomb I was good an academic I was like technically fine you know like I I really had everything else going for me I just didn't know why I was doing anything and you know unfortunately when you have questions and you have these types of lack of understanding you know by 12 13 remember I put on a hat I think it was off maybe 10 days later you know I do it you know but I needed a stick the pictures you know no problem so it came to a point at a very young age 12 and 13 where I just didn't feel it and you know when it came to a point of just I don't want to do it you know and at the same time so when I was in your Shiva whatever this is the rules he's a little sure I'll do it but there was nothing there there's no heart there's nothing and so that means when I wasn't around any person says a B and C so I didn't do it be antsy you know and I never felt it as anyone at a young age it snowballs you know and over time and unfortunately I spent a lot of my younger years completely off your sight you know and I really had no interest I had no you know it came to a point where I reached an age where I decided I can tell everybody you're not like I'm done you know it's good it's good you know you keep up someone's when we have a wedding and all this you know of course no problem but was it for me you know I moved out of my house and induces all my teenagers and I wanted to experience the world you know go out and find you know meaning yes through the meaning search you know yeah now I always used to say you know I never was an atheist per se you know I knew there was a god up there but you're up there I'm down here you know let's carry on both good we're both good exactly you know like you know you do your things I'll do my things and you know I remember actually so I actually I filed this for awhile and this is why was until I was brought to a fantastic yeshiva iñárritu Strela called kasher um I was 20 years old I really spent a long time I was twenty sold and and that's where I was able you know 20 cashiers tagline is the reconnection the connection to reconnect you know which is the essence and I guess we'll go through and exactly what connections I'm looking for here but that's where I finally started to find meaning and purpose and life and you know Bertram you know just even do a flash-forward before we go back and I'm married for 10 years three children three amazing children on the way like I couldn't be more grateful enough to show me spark and to my family to everything that I have and you know and because that maybe that does give me a little bit of a unique experience to see the be in between back and forth let me ask you this because I'm fascinated by this whole thing and I think I think what you went through is is first of all I give you a lot of credit for being able to come back and talk about laughing people go through these things I all of a sudden there's a Lost Decade somewhere right I catch whitewashed out of the resume somehow yeah I know I was really we were just I was doing like cabanas in the corner somewhere nobody knows ask a lot of formations right lots of permission then like the kids will get married in 20 years they've usually there's a lot of that but so your bravery is I'm sure appreciated by the audience and more importantly mentioned rewarded by their own Shalom mainland do you find this is a common epidemic people that are raised in fine great homes great pant everything is fine but yiddish kite becomes sort of a game of motions and at some point they go yeah I get it I'm not scared I am sure is not going to zap me I'm just I'm not mad just just keep it I'm good you find out to be like a common theme you know I've had a lot of conversations a lot of people you know you know even when I was often well then on you know the Shabbos tables understand I do I do find this type of topic you know it invigorates because you know I like to see both sides unfortunately yes you know I find quite often you have the people that just you know when you even say what do you think your purpose is here and they'll just say I don't want to find out you know why should I say I don't want to learn what the extra stuff is I'll just do the XYZ and don't don't get it I don't to get involved in the nitty-gritty because then I have to do more I have to do this and others sometimes we have such a lack of connection that we don't even want to connect you know edges which is a missing and I find you know my Rebbe or massage or the cashier she shared with me a story of you know obviously has tons of these calls all the time how a father you know called them up into drama and understand you know my son's doesn't want to plan to fill in and you know I keep telling him you know it's it's a minute put on take it off what's you know what's the problem so my Rebbe took it back to him and said maybe he doesn't want to do something doesn't have any meaning to it you know maybe if you don't have a meaning you don't assemblance you know if we are not giving over a connection if we can't if I tell my kid put it on take it off that's all you got to do of course he's not going to do that how can you connect to that tonight you know I'm not giving him something to connect to yeah um sorry we you know as a community sometimes we take for granted you know we we assume that everybody is connected and you know you go you like you said you go through the system like what do you mean you know how can you how could you even not be connected when you went to this issue even that yeshiva there are many parents that are that are struggling with their kids in that in that system like but how do you make it more meaningful as a parent meaning in retrospect you know nothing you know from your parents because she was all your shoes really Shiva how do you make it meaningful to a kid 13 years old who besides for his you know baseball you know Gameboy I mean I'm dating myself here means whatever boy you go what I'm saying here you can get right you clearly live in America that's for sure um I gotta say it's a wonderful question and obviously it's something that I've gone on a little bit I actually just want to share a guest had to put it into the perfect words from again another review my Nova prime stabber who is for surviving cash then he actually moved on to something as something called pitocin bootcamp you know which is basically a painless way how to reconnect you know he does a six-week amp for the toxin and he really takes these concepts basically what he says and I believe in this wholeheartedly is that it ordered to build a relationship the connection you need positive experiences right positive experiences create trust but when you ever want them when you look at a relationship the more trust you have the strong relationship the less trust the less relationship you have and the way to build trust is through a positive experience what we would what I would you know it's funny you mentioned the parents and maybe even achieve this and it's something that actually is a little bit on my head and if you don't mind I would like to say you know it's something that also I was looking to be Gluck a mood them says this a lot also and here as a kid as a kid as somebody who as a kid myself a lot of times children have a lot of questions we have a lot of thoughts and you know what a lot of times they seem not to fall in line with what we would call you know straightforward mainstream yulish kind I would beg sinneth and the parents to always create an open line of communication to say you can always speak to me about anything yeah there is no taboo there maybe it's not the right time sure let's talk about a different time maybe don't use those words but you know your sensibilities there is no taboo subject it doesn't matter what it is because if a child has a question and if he feels like if I go to my yeshiva they'll throw me out I go to my parents they'll tell me what am I talking about imaginable from he'll find an answer or she'll find an answer and you don't want to know where they're going to find those answer now and they will fathers in it absolute I mean I think your points are so well taken which is if you really believe at the end of the day that we are the luckiest nation in a clergy oval in relation to him is the ultimate to have fear and to have the whole things are bad going to happen to you to have the whole you only ask these things to start cutting everybody off in every single angle it's not consistent with we've got a bag of gold it's not consistent with we're sitting on a treasure like this because time is short and we appreciate you being here what was the moment that you you said to yourself from coming back what was the insight what happened so you know Bertram I had a lot of you know it this question I figured to come up with a lot of questions and so I actually I have a beginning who didn't give you the inside the interview no we shared the question I actually did you know is a moment that I think would delve into actually the parent relationship it's funny this I wasn't yet there to jump onto your script but this is what suddenly changed my perspective overall it's funny so deeply personal story and I had to ask my mother so ninja time yeah there's only one or two people it's just awesome uh there's nobody here so don't worry about the cameras there close my eyes I just I just realized that we're about a half hour left to the sand and people have tons of things yeah I was very busy right now Erica she's not eating a Christmas um I was about I think 18 or 19 at the time and you know I already spent a few years off and I was with a bunch of friends and actually mentors they weren't even religious at one or two religious mentors mostly were non-religious just in life where I was going as I said I wanted experience life anyway without the Yiddish kite and we were celebrating a momentous moment in my life and you know we all got together and we were sitting around the way that you celebrate is really you get around you just talk about life when you talk about people and you talk about people Hofstra you talk about you know like the you know what has happened and so I remember the celebration for my mentors you know they asked me she went by your parents yes or no and I said at that time we still weren't actually I say from my side weren't very close I said no no thank you this is me you know this is my moment um okay okay of course no good people as they are they invited them anyway and I remember sitting around rolling a circle in my pants okay now it's just a little you know it's my party don't worry about it you know it's okay brush it off my shoulder and so you know my parents are down and so we go around and we're all talking we're sharing and we're you know sharing experiences and and finally at the end you know my mother who wonderful person I loved very much and she was you know very emotional and I can understand you know this moment and Here I am I've reached a moment in my life where I become more of a mensch for lack of a better word and she forgets because I want to speak again I'm a little bit you know I agree but you know so everybody speak speak speak so I'm not supposed to while she goes round the room she says thank you you know like a good of course societies to everybody that's there and she speaks a little bit about that and then she turns to me and she goes she goes re I want to share with you you know something has been going on for the past five years every single night when I go to bed I go to bed and I don't wash her and I say Asha I beg of you protect I take care of my I don't care if he never wants to see me again I don't care if he'll never love me say never to see me if he doesn't want to be around me Shawn I beg of you take care of him let him grow up to be a good Jewish person I was sitting there this is the person I didn't want to be around this is the person anyone near me right now I couldn't fathom how much you know love and again a child unfortunately is born without the understanding what a parent does for them I had what you would call an America that glass shattering moment where I looked at my mother and I saw a whole new person and I had that connects all of a sudden there was an intense I I felt the experiences all of my resentments that I built up on my not being able to perceive what parents true were got literally washed away at them Wow and you know that was the beginning of the able to build a relation well and the whole point I believe is once you build a relationship with people you can believe build a relationship with emotional banish line Wow you can imagine Wow story we're nearing the end of tissue enough to imagine as a parent what the burnisher a mistake now my day yeah all right thank you so much for being here thank you for parents for raising you we appreciate them putting other than value through my screen really that was really powerful and your mother is sounds like an incredible show as well I mean there's incredible people re look at me your name re with what your name and your closest are I'm sure you put them through more than a big show but you know I tell you good I've my parents do the worst also okay so just letting you know so be well fitted exactly which all of you the best my kids you give us more of an easy time that we put I'm named okay she's good what an incredible story would an incredible person and I think what a way to sort of begin with the the end of the show here we've got about 10 minutes left so stick with us to the end if you want you're welcome to as we start to come to the end of tisha button we can wrap up a little bit of all the ideas that we've heard right yeah you know one thing one thing that struck me that a bet re first of all how honest yeah honestly yeah but also I feel that on some level you know parents that are watching in the audience and even people our age when he you know 12 13 you know first of all to know that like there's a connection to be had and it's not out there in the world eventually end up in realizing that the connection to comes birth was in our communities and his entire missus but also but also to know that you know that that to relate it to how because were who looks at his children yeah yeah you know and to know that if he was sitting around this room which he is and he would say to us in out between our eyes protect him you know meaning I can't I can't go to bed at night not knowing that your pajamas yeah there's no question I completely agree what really struck with what he said I think is something that all of us have to really take very seriously which is it feels sometimes that when we raise kids whether you're in cynical your parents we're so worried but they're not going to do everything that we only focus on what they do and we stop thinking about how they feel and when you look at a kid that does more you're like wow the kids doing great and he cannot feel one thing about it he can literally be doing everything and feeling nothing and he's the better kid and you take another kid who's not going to do anything without asking and we go well come on and you can sort of size people up by how they look by how they're dressed by what they do and what you do is a manifestation of what you think sometimes and sometimes what you do is not a manifestation what you think it's a manifestation of that one idea in trouble and we we sometimes are so busy that we don't look deeper into each kid and go wait a second that kids doing stuff but he doesn't do what he's doing so yeah it's great he's in eighth grade but what if he's second year at a high school what if he's 28 do you think my couple morning go what am I doing this for and we got him it's 15 you gotta be 12 and as opposed to sort of chalking up another win we sold down and go it's not enough if we've got the truth if we've got the best stuff in the world it's not enough to settle on this is the motion that someone does right you know we had a just you reminding me now we had we had a boy I was teaching in these Shiva nerds Israel he came boy came from America literally from beginning of the year till Pesach you did not see this kid I mean whatever we tried to get him at it you know I get him at a bit get him to come to a seder nothing worked nothing I mean it was the one guy that you like we're not really doing anything with this kid and he went over pay stuff and his mother called us and she said I want to thank you for the boy you've made me look good for the person you've made my son and we're thinking like right right number yeah like you got the wrong number and we're like you know how do you see then said you know he comes out of bathroom he says I'll show you outside he makes a brothel before eating weird thing it does is here we are we're judging this boy by how many Saddam he comes to and help with what time he gets out of bed and here's a mother seeing on his return that he makes a brothel you know that he's connecting and saluting the connection yeah it was it was a wake-up call yeah and I think that's what this is about right I think what we're really about here I think what the show is about I think what we've tried to uncover here is to get more real to be more real that maybe is the link I think maybe the link is we're doing great we really are which is very proud of ourselves we are two generations out of the Holocaust and in those two generations individuals greater than me greater than you have stepped up and have done incredible things and it's a lot to be proud for and now it's sort of time when we have all the infrastructure sort of built for us to now get to be real but to be like real and to really think about Hashem and to really think about the neighbor and to really think about our Judaism and to really think about the person down the block that doesn't have what we all have and I think if we can just be a little bit more real this year I think we'll be able to really bring something something big out I think that's that maybe what's missing is it is and it's what I'm seeing from this and the people that we met is that there's something about nonjudging also that has come out numerous times and then being one and you know again going back to the film that I had these close really to put together together with Danielle hasu I'm sure is listening in a shout out some of the tremendous job as well this is Connie d'Urberville who's who hosted that film is that these these people every Jew was the brother and sister and I can't tell you what a physic it was for me you know we all know for example the ma close house you know yeah I mean these are people that if we saw them coming down the street we'd cross over to the other side and she would have them sleep in her house because it was Jewish and they needed a place I mean to the level of you know I was sitting around but my daughter could not put down the book the revenue novels book and at a neighbor that came up and he said you know I'm reading this book I'm trying to save myself like I will never be mrs. knuckle I can't do it I can have people sleep in my car you know just let you know the people that couldn't sleep in her house because they were all they would sleep in the car you know sometimes for weeks and months at a time right so I'm never I'm never gonna be that you know and even on the film you know mrs. d'Urberville asked one of the sons like what you know people say I will never be mrs. ma close right and he said she would tell you you don't need to be me you need to be you know you don't in your level you got to go out of that yeah you know judging mode of like just the perfect person is able to come into my house everyone else they could find a queue of home you know yeah and out that to me it was a tremendous message throughout let me end with the following because I think we're wrapping up the show right now and let me sort of so to end with it and be able to sort of sort of wrap this up you know a lot of I think what you're saying I see and I think what we're hearing here is this idea of being you right being being the real you I think that's what the show is about I think that what projects inspires about I think that's what tisha Bob is about there's a great part that I heard from a fisherman Schwab who said that a claw is has the same letters as a Yaka Yaka is first used when a Shem was looking for other Maori shown his valley crush em elokim Eldon bio Merlot a Yakka where are you and the way we see this is the Kurdish broker who was looking for him but guess what he's got he's got x-ray vision he can see through the trees so why does he see I echo so so every Sherman Schwab says he says not I can't see you he says I don't recognize you a minute ago was me and you and you thought like me and you were renew were one and now the next day you're thinking like the Nakashima read out the words for you right here it's so powerful it says we perish Ayaka a full on top where are you give a Yahoo Local Milo ami makeer make Eureka should a nut ah ah so ha Adam shiver a Sevilla tarde the Kurdish grovel examined goes I see you I just don't recognize you and in many ways the way I shouldn't built us was so big so powerful like other Murray shown the whole world at our fingertips the capacity to give like what would you see was saying to be like some of these heroes the capacity to reach out to people to worry about people to think about people to go beyond ourselves we have this inside us this is us but life gets busy and we get taken by what the society in the community thinks is important and we get stuck in our own ways and that's part of life and Tish above is that time where we get to come back and recognize ourselves because when you recognize yourself to true you the real you that can be in crow the you that lives an awesome life to you that steps out of your comfort zone because you know that greatness is uncomfortable the you that's not going to go at 122 deathbed and says you know I really could have pushed a little harder that you is the real you and sometimes it takes three weeks and nine days in a fast and a lack of coffee for 25 hours to bring that out but that's what this link is I think the missing link is the real me and the real you because if it's just us here and the codis borough who says you can bring gula then what it really is that each and every one of us at our true incredible cells the cells the Kurdish borough who created that he would recognize if we just filled our own link ourselves we hold hands and become the chains to the end let me end with the following this is from Sadiq I'll read the tune here and translate and this is a line that I keep next to me because of the line that is I think the core of why Rebbetzin young rice thought this certain way about people and a core about how we should see about ourselves the MSE says in truth go X let minstrel every person in is orange every Jew who mcdougal with over a hoody has something special there's something unique about you I'll call you SOPA de vars that and this thing who between us MELAS I'll you sir all you are royalty because you have something unique that nobody else has but called equity a sload of our acyl we all have one thing that makes us unique the link shahbazi who next our professor the case era I'll call you sir all and my brother to us this dish above I brought it to you that each and every one of us become the people that were meant to be we become the people that I Shem recognizes we become the link in the chain that leads us back to our Father in heaven to our nation in Israel and maybe just maybe this will be the last time that you see and I have to sit here in Brooklyn we get to be able to sit you shall I'm Mira kodesh for next issue of the Caribbean manual Thank You charlie hi doggie hands before [Music] we start talking because be [Music] hi lovey ha ha ha ha [Music]