The three weeks!! Time for action or.... - Rabbi Alon Anava

[Music] I know it sounds like a broken record and probably some people think that's how he starts his lectures, but it's going to be a very powerful lecture [Applause] >> because we're 45 minutes late. I told Jacob on the way here, you have to be with me to believe it. The that's why I record everything. Even in my car, I put a camera on the dashboard. Even when I travel. >> Really? >> Yeah. It's part of my gear. The second I go into a car, camera on the dashboard. First of all, the psychopaths how they drive. >> Uh in case shalom something happens. But I like and try to document everything that I can. But really, you have to be there to believe it. It wasn't normal. I left New Jersey I think at 3:00 in the afternoon. It's not normal. And as I say always, I pray on highways. I uh I go to the bathroom on highways. It's and even here every step of the way. So I guess it is going to be a very important and powerful lecture. And uh and we know that because when uh the when there's going to be some type of awakening, if a person will wake up and do chuva, then the sim is very unhappy with it. And sometimes it's one person. It doesn't have to be a whole town. Sometimes it's one person that has to do chuva. Sorry, I just I can't see tissues in my face. Uh sometimes one person needs to do chuva and that's what it takes. And literally the other day in the lecture that I had a few days ago in Brooklyn, some person came to me at the end of the lecture and he waited very patiently till the line was over and then he told me I have to tell you that I sent and I also talked about that in the lecture but he told me I sent to some guy who was very far away from the Torah one of your videos and because of that video he did chuva and now he's a rabbi. of a community and he does what you're doing. And he showed me the picture and uh and of course I dropped all charges off and I told him don't tell me it's because of me. First of all, if it's because of somebody, it's because of you. You gave him the video. You're the one who told him take turn right instead of turning left. Don't blame me for everything. And uh besides, anyone chooses for himself what to do. You can be the messenger and uh you can't take credit for somebody doing something good. Uh you can try but it doesn't work like that. But nevertheless, why am I saying that? Because you see what's the power of one person doing cha you know that going back I think minimum 15 years if I remember correct a certain individual mo actually much more than 15 years. uh it was around when my uh fir when my third son was born. So that's almost 17 years. It's around 17 years ago that a certain individual invited me to a lecture and as I came to the lecture he was standing outside on the street and he was had an expression of very unhappy person and when I told him what's the problem he told me listen I didn't know and there's some game tonight and nobody came there's nobody here. So I said but you're here. Okay, that's already one. And then I told him, "Anybody else? The dog, maybe a cat, something maybe we can do chuva and give a lecture to the dog." He said, "My wife is here." Says, "Okay, so that's already two people and my wife's sister and my best friend." I said, "Okay, that's four souls." And if you listen to me for quite some time, you know that I always give the example in the in the how your time is valuable by telling you a certain story that happened to me that I gave a lecture and I finished the lecture at 3:00 in the morning and then the GPS showed it was exactly an hour to go home and I started playing music and after a few few moments that I was playing music I was thinking you know if I play now music for a whole hour then uh what's going to be the result? Ah, neck, right? And then I was like, okay, I can not listen to music for a whole hour and I can listen to a lecture a whole hour. And what do I get here? And what do I get here? When you listen to music, you get a neck. And when you listen to Torah a whole hour, you get wise, you get humble, you get motivated, you get inspired, and by the way, you also get a a reward for eternity. So needless to say, I switched the music to a class. You all, nobody of you looks like you remember that story. I think I said that in all my lectures, maybe 50 times. >> I never heard, >> but nevertheless. So So the example is why waste your time on nonsense? I mean you can I understand you you want to listen to music that's something wrong with listening to music I was just giving an example how to utilize your time right but since why am I mentioning this uh example because I did mention this example and used it as a very good way to explain how not to waste your time many many times so the lecture that I'm about to tell you about that's that lecture I started the lecture lecture it was me and four people sitting in their living room drinking tea and having cookies and for 7 hours from 8 in the evening till 3:00 in the morning I shared with them my personal story and uh I can't even start emphasizing what came out from that from those four people forget about that each and one of them the the wife of the person who invited me took they made the kitchen kosher and and she started covering her hair and the sister started keeping family purity. But most important is that guest that was there. There was four people there. The guest that was there invited me to his home a few weeks later to speak. And from that event which was already much bigger than four people not only that were born much more events a class in that area started and uh maybe four or five years every Wednesday was a class in that area in that neighborhood and the beginning of the beginning of my classes online is from those classes and then you now just you remember I'm sure many of you saw the old old lectures that I had a series of lectures about it's maybe 15 16 years ago that's the classes so needless to say how many Torah was viewed how much Torah was learned and but why am I saying that because that's the power of one person and going back to what I was saying before sometimes one person needs to do one little shift in their mind and you know when you do a shift in your mind eventually it goes very far away one person And sometimes one person needs to hear the message and that's what it is for. I see myself how I sound many times go to a an event or in a lecture. A lot of people one person needed to hear it. That's it. and one mitzvah, one little shift. Because how I see it, if you take now train tracks from New York to Los Angeles, there's not even one place that the tracks move from how they're parallel. Because if it would move at one point a thousandth of a millimeter, eventually it will split. Even if it's like a you barely see I'm talking about a thousand of a millimeter one track moved which is coming to tell you how amazing how did they build that 3 400 years ago without machines and without now everything with laser points you see exactly but what I'm saying is for the example one one track moves one millimeter after two three four 500 kilometers they'll they'll split that's how much one act that you do makes a in your life. You can sit here tonight, take something, do one act that you change in your life and takes you to a completely different place. And when that happens, of course, I'm talking about a positive place and we don't have the intention of pushing you somewhere else. But that's why I say sometimes it's one person that needs to do one thought, one change and then of course the is not happy about it because that person will birth a lot of mitzvot and will become a very dangerous person for the so now that we started and it's actually very appropriate to the topic that I want to talk about the three weeks that we are in it's very appropriate that things are you know don't go so smooth another another part how the yet is not happy with things that you do but I want to talk about one very important point about this period of the three weeks which I don't think many know or many teach I mean you all know that the three weeks bad things happen and we just uh you know we're refrain from doing a bunch of stuff bad three weeks okay we know a little bit of laws a little bit of traditions and that's it. But other than that, what's so significant about the three weeks? Why why are we changing our entire behavior for three weeks and why is it so bad and etc. So first of all, very important just to clarify the three weeks start in the month of Tamuz and they go into the month of Av which makes a big significance why it's on two months and I'll address that very soon. Tamuz is the fourth month of the year. That's why it's not found anywhere in the Torah that you'll find the word tamuz. It's talking about the fourth month. That's how we know exactly what needs to be done, when, how, and where. In the book of Zakaria, there's a prophecy talking about the four fasts that we have to do every year. And these four fasts, you know, it's talking about the fast that we do. We have one fast is on the 10th of then we have the other fast on and then we have the fast of tisha. So this is considered the fourth fast but it's not called the fourth fast because it's fourth in line it's because it's on the fourth months. So when it's talking about the ninth fast, it's talking about not ninth in line. It's talking about the ninth the the the fast on we know that on on the five bad things happened. Many bad things happened but five specific things happened and I went through it very briefly a few days ago on betamuz. Hopefully you saw that lecture. If you didn't see it, the live broadcast that I recommend to see the the it's on YouTube. It's very it's not only on your design. It's the entire three weeks. Besides that, everything that we learn, it's not seasonable. You learn something, you can apply it in any other time of the year. It's a mistake when a lot of people think, oh, I'm going to learn about this because it's good for this. Torah is good for everything. But I explained in this class that these five things that happened on bet is some disaster that happens in our life all the time and repeats itself and I will explain now a little bit more thoroughly what are these things and what's the rectification and how you have to address it. Then we'll go to the three weeks and explain what you can take out of it and much more. So the five things that happened on betamuz is that the tablets were broken. The qurban the sacrifice that is called tamid stopped. After that, the Torah was burnt by Aposttomos and there was a uh uh an idol placed in the beta mikdash and not in the order that it says in the Mishna but the walls of were broken. Okay, these are the five things that happened on and since then it turned to negative days. uh even though Zakaria is talking about the fourth uh fast before it happened and then other bad things happen. If you listen to the class that I gave on Sunday, you will find out and be educated that is not such a bad day. After all, bad things happen. But when bad things happen in the same level has to be also good. King Solomon says translation everything is created with a polarity. Everything has something the same level in every aspect of creation. And uh to give you an example, you know, we have a Mosher Rabenu. Mosher Rabenu is our teacher, our our prophet gave us the Torah. Has to be a mirror to Mosher Rabenu. has to be an individual that is in the same level of Mosher Rabenu on the other side of Kadusha. And I think you all know I mean we just read about him two weeks ago, not even last week. Bam. Bilam is the of Mosher Rabeno which means that Bam has the powers of Mosher. Exactly. But Mosha is good and Bam is bad. Actually our sages say that if Bam would go on a good path, he would be greater than than Moshe. So who created everything with with a polarity even us and everything in every aspect in the spiritual aspects even when it comes to emotions even when it comes to your character traits we're learning for the last 10 years the the refinement of character for every bad character trait you have there's going to be the polarity that will be the since everything was created in that way. So the same thing we have to understand in everything that the created the good and there's bad and if there's bad must be that it's good. Same way the question is what is revealed? The question is what's dominating to that time. So if we know that the 17th of the is a bad day must be something good and I explained it very very thoroughly in the last class where I just explained that converted on that day by the Sanhedrin not a local rabbi in Manhattan the Sanhedrin converted her obviously the all the members of the Sanhedrin the Sanhedrin is the great assembly. All the members of the Sanhedrin hadesh no question it's not a maybe all of them have aesh how they theim was written by the great assembly or how we pray all the the the and many other things every member of the Sanhedrin had a high level of which means everything they taught and said is inesh and obviously they were able to they knew to convert root On that day, that night she married Boaz, conceived their first child, their only child of who is the father of Ishai, who is the father of David. The next day, Boaz dies. He was a pretty young guy. He was only 400 years old. The Talmud says the night he married, he was 400 years. The next day he died. So, you see on one hand very terrible things in our history. But this is the birth of our redeemer. Ruth is the mother of the great great grandmother of Mashiach. So I want to very briefly explain the five things that happened in betamuz. Pay attention because as I told you since we don't have beta mikdash it means that these problems were never healed. It's almost like you take a child that has a trauma and somehow this trauma is pushed to the bottom of his soul and 40 years later it's coming out. Same idea. We did certain things, certain things happened. There wasn't a rectification. There wasn't a healing for that. So it's stuck. And that means that it's stuck in each and every one of me. And of course, what that's why I want to learn to know what to do. After all, I'm here to know what to do before Mashia comes before it becomes real crazy. So, let's go by the order. The first one was that the tablets were broken. And the tablets were broken. Even though later on Mosher Rabenu got another set, it never had what the first tablets had. >> It wasn't in the same level. wasn't in the same uh depth. It was replacements to a point that the ruins of the tablets of the first one are still with the the new ones. In my life, the breaking of the tablets is before the tablets. Sorry. In my life, tablets represents my marriage life. Breaking of the tablets is the breaking of my marriage life. Very few people can really say really that they have a good marriage. And even that good marriage is with many many challenges. And the marriage is good only because the two participants are in a very high spiritual and emotional level that they know how not to engage in any friction in any type of a way. And it doesn't mean that they have a uh they never fight or never they don't fight because they don't get to there but it doesn't mean there's no disagreements. They have a regular relationship but it's on a completely different level. So I would call it almost close to an amazing relationship. Very few people can say that. I know many like that by the way. Don't think that it's a rare product. There are many good marriages. First of all, you can see how many bad marriages there are because there's 80% divorce. So the 20% that remained, 19% of that they don't get divorced because it's not convenient. It's not good financially. Starts splitting the now the properties and I know a man like that. He doesn't get along with his wife. She doesn't get along with him. They don't like each other. He tells me no, no, no, it's too much with all the properties and the money and she'll take the money. He tells me it's not it's not econom e economic wise not a good decision not a good decision okay not a good decision shouldn't suffer I don't suffer she lives over there I live over here great communication once a month you live there and leave me alone so they have a very good marriage because they just good communication you stay on that side of the street I stay here we're still married for whatever illegal reason but that's not a marriage So very few people can actually say you know what I'm in the in the group that the marriage is good and above. And these people a deserve a lot of applause. That means the person has worked on themselves tremendously to a point that the individual both the man and the woman are humble. They know when to back up. They know when to back down. They know when to shut their mouth. They know they're very aware of the needs of another person. That's what I'm saying. It takes a lot of work. And I'm still emphasizing the fact that, and I'm saying it in parenthesis, it doesn't mean that the marriage is everything is just hearts and kissing in the sunset every day. It just means that the marriage is normal and there's not you don't want to choke each other and you don't feel choked and and in some bad relationship, which I I see. I deal with hundreds if not thousands of of of couples. I see by the first three seconds in a meeting if there's a point to do the the schlumbite or not and if there's something to work with then okay I'll I'll try most of the couples that come there's nothing there's no common denominator why'd you get married to start with almost almost impossible to repair here but we're not talking about marriages right now that we're going to talk on August 10th we're going to have a beautiful event for tav uh the Jewish Valentine so it's not only for the singles it's also for the ones who want their marriage to be good. It's going to be a very very very inspiring, positive, powerful event. And you might be lucky and maybe my wife will be attending the event and speaking too. Maybe uh she is coming to give some lectures here in New York but not of Torah but nevertheless for her for what she does. So going back to what I'm saying, the breaking of the tablets is a representation or I will say it also a manifestation to the breaking of my marriage life. And how do you uh fix it is that you work on your schlomite. How do I fix the aspect of the broken tablets in my life is I have to work on my schlumbite in any price or whatever cost it is. And to understand that if you want to have good relationship with your wife, you're never right. That's rule number one. Honey, you are always right. I will do best next time. That's rule number one. She's always right. Now you sleep quietly. That's it. So it says a happy wife is a happy life. So a smart husband is a happy wife that knows how to know, you know, that's takes a lot because a man usually has a very strong ego and he doesn't know when to shut up. That's it. That's what our sages say. If you guard your mouth and your tongue, you're not going to have any issues. That's my translation because the translation is if you guard your mouth and your tongue, you are guarding yourself from any evil coming to you and more from all the problems that come to your neph to your soul. Meaning so you know how to zip it. In Hebrew, we say, not that I'm inventing it, shavas means silence or not saying anything is gold. It's worth gold. I will add on that. It's worth much more than gold to know when to close your mouth. If any if I would be able to give over some type of a way to teach people how to control their mouth, I would reach to my top achievement in this world because I have learned I had the biggest mouth in the world. I my mouth never had any breaks. You see it in my lectures. I I don't if I don't filter it. Can you imagine me not observant? Oh, my mouth was deadly at the worst times. So, I mastered and I'm not saying it to show off. I'm saying it so you listen to my my tricks. And I'm not talking about it tonight. You're not invited to a lecture tonight. How to shut up. You know, that's a very good topic, by the way. Yakov, write it down. Next lecture, how to shut up. The poster is a mouth closed. That's it. Here's your next lecture. That's a series. That's another lecture. That's a series of lecture and a very good rabbi that knows how to rebuke you three times a day. Shut up. That's it. Two words. And I am happy and humbled to say that's I didn't invent the method. It's my rabbi who explained to me very simple how the whole thing works. I went to two rabbis to prepare for my for my katuna for my marriage because the rabbi and the yeshiva told me you have to go to a rabbi that prepares you for marriage. So I went to the traditional one who taught me all the you know the very traditional like probably what the yeshiva bakers get which is a big mistake. They need the other type. And after I finished with the traditional one who taught me the laws and taught me the customs and taught me the nice way, then I went to the grinder and the rabbi who my rabbi who told me really how you do it. So there was no books and there was no quotes from Kazal. It was a lot of smacking involved and my rabbi used to smack me, shut up. Learn how to shut up because I don't know how to shut up. So even not too long ago I was in a court and in a serious matter but somehow I was involved. I don't know how to shut up. I got start screaming at the judge and the judge is like no luckily it's not America. In Israel you can scream at the judge. In America you'll spend probably a night in jail. In Israel you start screaming at the judge. It's normal. >> So well not that normal. But nevertheless, my great rabbi taught me when and how to shut up because there are times that you're not allowed to shut up. There are times that you need to be like pinas. You need to know when to open your mouth and what to say, how to control your mouth when it comes to words. If you know how to do it, this is like eight degree black belt in whatever you want to know how to know when to know when to open, when to close, when to open, when to close. And when you know when to close, you you get you you you save yourself from disasters. Just imagine just how many times you you you you hear something, you get so angry and you so want to prove your your point and you were so like your level was degraded. You want to give two words of a comeback and if you know then to close your mouth and accept the embarrassment and the humility and the fact that you were lowered a little bit. say 70 years of horrible sins are forgi for forgiven from your from your hard drive of sins. If you says the the top the main part of is means shut your mouth stand silent. That's how says the main part of chuva is that you get to a point that you know how to close your mouth and not to say anything. And you know why it says do means freeze because you can also do this. You saw me at the end what I did. You don't have to say some sometimes you can destroy somebody's life with rolling your eyes or be like that's it. I didn't say any but you did some hand movement. Then we know exactly what's going on. So don't pretend. It says in the holy books that the breaking of the tablets is signified. It first of all it means that's what our sages say. A certain a separation between couples came down to the world. I'll read you later what the Talmud says about all the things that stopped when the beta mikdash was destroyed. But let's first talk about Yuzan betus. So the the tikun the rectification for the breaking of the tablets even though it happened 3,000 plus years ago at the time of the desert. I wasn't there. We were all there by the way but I wasn't. What do you want from me? But it happened in a way that affected the entire world. Obviously there's some type of an impression in each and every one of our lives which means that I have to fix these aspects in my life. First one breaking of the tablets marriage life I'm not going to continue from here you figure it out and or come August 10th or log online is going to be a very very powerful le lecture because to have a good marriage it's you have to uh master it and very few know how to not only apply it also to give it over in a way that is very practical I'll tell you the problem here is that there's always the other side one of the spouses is not participating one tries the other one doesn't but nevertheless now it's not so important the first thing is breaking of the tablets corresponding to the whole point part of marriage the second thing the the sacrifice that is called got cancelled and because the walls of were closed it was a siege they couldn't do the offering they ran out of animals and this specific sacrifice you do twice a day. What we read in it's the sacrifice that you offer in the morning to atone for all the bad thoughts and sins that I did throughout the night. And just imagine the high the coen that is doing the priest that is doing the service. His work is so powerful that every person that sinned it doesn't have to stand next to him. It's affected like uh ma I don't know I don't I want to say magic I was about to say it's it's spread like radiation but this is positive radiation actually no that's that's the example that's what the kohhen does he spreads such radiation positive radiation with his act that any person that throughout the night sinned wakes up with with thoughts of chuva and then from the morning till the evening in the evening they do another sacrifice like that. And again, whoever sinned from the morning till the evening, the the work of the cohen of the priest is so powerful that any person that sinned like beams of spiritual light hits him and he wakes up. Can you imagine what a system what we had when we had beta mdash? It's unbelievable. This sacrifice, this offering was cancelled. Why? Ran out of sheep. There's the cities under siege. So what did they do? They find the Jews have uh as they say yakop they had a lot of money. Every day they took sacks of gold, lowered it down like with a rope behind the wall uh to there's always somebody who wants to make money and of course somebody of course not a individual from the nation of Israel wants to make money and they would drop off the gold and they would tie two sheep and pull pull the rope like this and the sheep comes over the over the wall and every day two sheep few months down the behind the the regime figured it out and one day they lower down the goat, they pull up. What did they pull up? Two pigs and by that stopped the the kina. That's it. No more kbantamid. That was what would would atone for our sins. Can you imagine that? You have a system that every time you sin, you go to beta mikdash and get atonement. And not only that, the holy work of the Quranim every day in betamesh would affect you. And now we don't have it. And needless to say, how is it affecting me in my life that I'm just going down and down and down? You do chuva, then you do a sin, you goes two steps back, then you do a sin, two steps back. How many steps you know how many times you have it takes you to come back? This is easy for each and every one of you to do chuva. I don't know about you, very hard for me. It's not an easy thing. It shouldn't be like this. Serving Hashem should be fun, not a burden and not a struggle and not some internal war in my mind. When Mashia is going to be here, you'll see we're going to run to pray. You'll be the first one. Everything will be done. That's why our sages tell you tell us switch your attitude to do everything in a positive attitude. That's it. That's all you need. So it's not so easy to repent and do chuva. What is the correction for this specific thing of the nullification? The cancellation of this sacrifice is fil prayer. There's no other way to explain it. As our sages say, we don't have bulls talk. So that means that each and every person has to work on their on their prayer to Hashem. There's a very good and strong group that is dedicated to the prayers and then the rest don't. I'm talking about in the Jewish faith. I'm not talking right now on the secular Jews. I'm talking about the observant Jews. Half if not more of the observant Jews don't really pray. and they go to Shabbat here and there. They say they pray at home or at work, but they don't really pray. Oh, they just shakar is too much. Or the other way around. Don't do just let's let's put the cards on the table. Who are you kidding? You think you're kidding somebody? You're kidding yourself and Hashem. And not to talk about women, by the way. Women also have to pray. I don't know many women that pray. I don't know my children. No, a lot of women. Women have to pray. I'm talking about not thank you and the only difference between men and women that we are bound to time and you're not. You can pray whenever you want. You're not limited to time and many other laws but women have to pray women once a day. Ashkenazi women twice a day. This is not me inventing or trying to make you your life harder. That's the law. The same way that I have to run. Women know very very well to criticize their husband when he doesn't go to pray while they themselves don't pray and women have to pray. That's the tikun. The more you fix that aspect in your life, it's easier for you to repent for things that you did. Thank you. And not only that, you reach to levels of atonement. Atonement and and andap and forgiveness. The third, the walls of yushim eventually broke, but in the beginning were under siege. There was more walls to stop from coming in or out. What was the result for that? Starvation. Soon we're gonna have we're all going to learn the the the was starvation. People died from starvation. What's the tikun for that? How do I rectify this aspect in my life? Then I have to feed poor people. However it comes, whether you give money, whether you cook for them, whether you invite them to your home, whether I don't care what you do to them, you just feed the poor people, whatever you can, as much as you can, to the best of your ability. When I became observant, I went to a rabbi, great rabbi, and I came with a list this long of what do I need to do? I did this, I did this, I did this, I did this. So, he gave me a whole rundown what I need to do. And then when I came to all the parts of stealing money, embezzling money, cheating people out of money, gel, gel, if anyone really knows how to do chuva for gazel, thank you. Another class I promised you many times. In the meantime, open and learn it yourself. So I came to the rabbi, how do I do that? And after all his advice and instructions, the last thing was feed poor people on Shabbat. That's really how you're going to fix that department. And when I told him for how long, he told me I didn't tell you a time frame. I just told you to feed people for Shabbat. That means till the last day of your life. So some of you have experienced those Shabbat meals that we have back at home. Uh and even before that, you know that for many years, even before I moved to Israel, there were three shuls, three synagogues where I lived that nobody knew it was me. I would buy most of the food for the Shabbat kadush and nobody knew it's me and I and the point here and that's what the rabbi told me don't give a check wow you buy it yourself or cook it yourself and I would I remember I lived in New York I remember one the winter that I started snow I would fall in the snow go with the boxes with all the herring and everything and fall and get that's the you're coming to do something good he he comes at you to to make you not want to do this mitzvah anymore. Every time, every Friday when I would come to deliver the food, it never went smooth. Always I would get tickets. New York, there's nowhere to park. You have to leave the car and run. Half the time I would fall with the food. I mean, the made it very hard for me to do this mitzvah that normally one would say the hell with this. I don't want to do this. So for many years that was part of my massot. I would buy buy the stuff good coats, good alcohol, good fish, put it next to the next to the entrance and even in the in the synagogue where I prayed, I used to buy just sit like this. Very yummy. I know it's me. Save your save your but that's what the the rabbi told me. Feed people on Shabbat. I don't see anybody writing. So I'm I know that you are so focused on what I'm saying that it's it's just being engraved now in your brain. >> You I know you you sit in the front. You're like first class students. I'm I know I'm I'm not looking at you. I'm looking there and it looks like I'm looking at you. >> More leg room too. >> Yeah. No, no. We have your first class students travel miles and miles to learn Torah. So I I was looking to that direction but not at you. Feed poor people as much as you can. I remember one lady once called me many years ago with a horrible sin that she did horrible and I told her the same thing. Feed poor people on Shabbat. And she told me listen I'm barely feeding myself. I said, 'You don't have to have money. You need to go to a a family or a organization or a synagogue that feeds people on Shabbat and start peeling potatoes. Start peeling potatoes. When we do meals for Shabbat, I'm talking about 150 people. You know how many potatoes you need to peel? And you know any girls are standing next to my wife, we're peeling potatoes. So come and peel potatoes. Now you're involved in the meal. You don't want to peel potatoes. Take take the garbage out after the meal. wipe the table, whatever it is, be involved in the Suda, Shabbat, feed poor people. Okay? That's what you need to put as a very high priority. And you'll see that when you put that in your front line, you'll see that the is going to come and start scrambling with your desire to feed poor people. >> Only Jewish. >> No, I said poor people. >> That's what I thought. >> Yeah. Yeah. No, no, no, no, no, no. Don't distinguish poor. Jew, non-Jew. Why? a Jew when he's angry, he's more hungry than the the Gentile. No, no. Poor people. The the the the advice of our sages is first feed the ones who are close to you. You know, a family member that needs money. He's first priority. Your neighbor, somebody around you. Don't go now to donate to some hungry kid in Africa. You have enough kids hungry here. Why are you sending your money to Africa that it never arrives Africa? Somehow there's no wiring of money to Africa. The Red Cross puts it in it in its pocket and that's it. >> No questions here. I was involved in the disaster of Hayiti. If you remember, it was like 12 years ago. >> It was advertised that the Red Cross raised $4 billion. Any of you have been in Hayiti lately? It looks exactly how it looked 12 years ago. Not even one tree was planted. Where's the four billion dollars? Nothing changed. So don't send your money to Africa. Feed your neighbor. Jew, non-Jew, it doesn't matter. You need to when you you you need to do the act. I my approach is when you feed a non-Jew, you also put on it another mitzvah of sanctifying the name of Hashem. Here the Jew is the one who fed the poor person. That's it. I remember in the beginning of my my my my path, I was worked in I used to work in Manhattan. I and I traveled on the train and I there was it wasn't like today that there's kosher restaurants every every step. I would have food with me and I remember it's so good. It was 20 years ago. A beggar went on the train. I didn't have really money. I had a sandwich and in my mind I was like, "Okay, I'm going to be hungry, but I'm going to show the entire train that the Jew is the one who got up and gave the hungry person the sandwich." And you know, like they do now in social media, all these videos, same thing. You know what kadushmia just did. Next, the apostoic aposto burned the Torah. The tikun is I don't even have to say. You will say it out loud. What do you need to do? >> Learn Torah. Very simple. The Torah was burnt. Learn Torah. Class I gave on Monday. I told people that you are obligated to set times to learn Torah. It's called Torah. Do you have it? No. So do it and learn Torah. Fourth was that there was a idol in the beta mikdash in the that's really what's if you if you kind of want to explain what it is it's to hem >> there is a disagreement in the in the Talmud who put that statue of an idol. Uh the first opinion is that Apostomos, the one who burnt the Torah, also put that er idol there. But uh the other opinion is that the king Mina did that. Evil Jewish king did that and put the the idol in the main of the beta mikdash. That's kind of like you're coming to annoy Hashem. So the way to rectify it is that you find any aspect in your life that you listen to Hashem and not to something else that tells you what to do. And that's not so easy because a lot of people don't really know what Hashem wants from them. But you have to put Hashem number one. You the tikun for that is that you listening. I'll give you one example out of many. You have the option of doing a mitzvah and the in this point is convincing you not to. So in that case the is compared to this to this idol that is convincing you don't listen to the real word of god listen to this nonsense and you can take it to wherever you to whatever level you need to understand in that most people they they fail in idolatry not because they bow down to an idol or they believe in a diety it's because they do a certain act obviously they don't learn Torah they do a certain act that is almost equivalent to idolatry And then of course it comes in in micro that you worship something in your life and you don't bow down to it but it's a certain type of worship. It can be money. That's a lot of people. My money is everything before anything else. It's my money. My money I need to make more money and the more I have is better. You worship your money and you can do that with almost anything in your life. And one needs to nullify that. And the way to do it is that when a certain attack like this comes, you you reverse it by saying, "I'm listening to the word of the real god, not for the word of the fake god." Okay. Now, I summarized for you, hopefully it wasn't too long, the five things that happened on betamuzz started on Sunday. Now, we're going into three weeks of three weeks between the the straits where it's pressured. It says in the that all the ones who acquired or went after or pursued after her caught up at that period of time. Therefore, we know it's not such a good time. That's why we call it. That's the says Bename. I'll explain later a little bit more is when you're stuck between two things. In the more imaginary world, it's almost like you throw a ball between two walls and tick tick tick tick tick like ping pong. And that's where most people are because they don't know how to make good decisions. Situations in their life that they don't know how to put it down and finish is driving them nuts, >> right? >> Can be business, can be divorce, can be so many different things. That's you don't know where you are. You don't know what you're doing by you say it's bad days. Why is it considered bad days? Not because bad things happen. Rather because there's a certain demon that is controlling in these days. It's called maybe you heard the name. It's a demon that it does bad things to a point that it says in the zoh that who's a great sadik saw a man holding a staff from wood and he was about to hit another person. his friend Babau had very high level of wares and he saw next to that man a demon standing with the same staff just this time it was from iron and he understood that if the person moves the hand and hits his friend with a wooden staff the demon will do the exact same thing with his metal staff and kill the person and Rabbu calls out to the man Don't don't don't swing the bat to your friend. And the the person tells him, "It's wood. It's not going to do nothing." He says, "Yeah, that's what you see. I see a demon standing who's going to use your motion that you think is harmless, get dressed in you, and fulfill that motion, and suddenly you hit your friend with a mood stick and you killed him." saying in other words it's a time where this demon can get dressed into your action do the action and then live to you very special demon not special in a good way special in a not good way but nevertheless even just from that quote from the zora we understand already the theme of the three weeks don't don't raise your hand on another person. You know, you don't have to go to dangerous places. You don't allow to do dangerous things in this three weeks. Many take it to the next level. Don't do nothing. But you're allowed to do most of the things just in order to put yourself in danger. And that means anything, not only physical danger. The three weeks you are supposed to cry for the destruction of the temple. Now, you're not going to crown on something that you don't miss because you don't you don't miss beta mikdash. How can you miss the holy temple? You never saw it. And you know when I'm saying you, I'm in the group of you. I'm not saying you cuz I think that I'm above you. I'm saying you cuz what am I going to say? You and me. Neither one of us misses the beta mdash because we don't know what we had. How can you miss something that you didn't experience? You know what level you need to be to miss something that you never experienced. So we don't really miss beta mikdash. Therefore we need to take that destruction and understand that it represents the destruction in me not the physical destruction. Right now there is a destruction in me. I am not a whole person. I'm not fully observant. I'm not close to I still sin. I still have a yet and probably a whole long list of things to repent for. We have to understand that the Alakas says that even in a place of what is permitted, you have to be very cautious. You can go now to a pool, just don't go to the deep water. You can go to the beach, don't just don't go to the deep water and so forth. You got the point. The idea behind it is that you don't want to be involved now with this demon because he's now waiting. He's waiting to get dressed. This is very matrix by the way. You know the demon gets dressed in you but you need to do something negative. Do you understand how it works? If the demon is standing next to me and I will go with emotion and I will slap a person, then the demon can go into my emotion and finish it with a very hard slap. But if I go like this to kill a fly, it's not going to be the same thing you have to do. When you do something bad, that's when this demon uses you. He uses you as a uh >> h >> a conduit. >> You can say a conduit. I was about to say he's using you as the tool, the physical tool, >> which is kind of similar. What were you saying? >> A vessel. Yeah, you you understand the point. It can be done also in a positive way. Ana can come into you. It's called impregnation. And sadic can get impregnant in you. We learned that in gulim the gate of incarnations. at sadi a soul of sadi can get impregnant in you and make you do mitzvot so that demon is waiting for you to say something bad and then he continues he gets dressed in you the word that I wanted to use is a chariot that's what the teachings of kabala calls it our fathers and then the fourth one is Davidid king David were the chariot to hashem what does it mean a chariot I'm driving now a big truck of 18-wheeler and And I'm carrying behind me a chariot, a trailer. I'm the tractor. I'm the I'm pull. I go to the lift. The wagon goes with me. I stop. The wagon stops. I go forward. The wagon goes forward. Completely unullified to the driver. It's called Maybe you heard the term to the So you become a chariot to the this demon. Be very careful with your curses. I'm not talking about curses that you open books of black magic. I'm talking about the A word, the B word, the C word, the D word. All the words, all the words somehow is a letter. Why don't you just say the word the B word? He said the B word. Well, I'm not so good in English. What's the B? There's boy. There's I don't know. >> Bugatti. I don't know what else. Bring it to me. The B word. Which B? The next three weeks are weeks that we are uh taking on ourselves customs of uh mourning. We don't do certain things. Some people don't listen. And again, I'm talking about customs and laws. I'm not that's not what we're addressing tonight. You go by what your customs are are. Each person has different customs. Ashkanazi this you'll follow your no and but the general idea is that we're acting in in a way of mourning so we reduce happiness don't do weddings don't listen to music and so forth if you want to see the actual you know that you can actually get married on tishab too there's no that you can't marry get married on tishab it's just it's not a good time to marry I have a a relative that contacted me recently he wants me to marry them and he he wanted to know if I'm free on certain dates and and the dates that he gave I said listen it's not about free or not they're bad dates bad dates energy he's not observing that man I told so I had to talk to him and told it's bad energy it's not a date that you want to do unity it's days that causes separation choose a good day with good unity good mazal so there are a lot of things that you're allowed to do the three weeks just that are a lot of customs don't do it So therefore I don't want to teach it right now. Everybody has their customs. Some eat meat, don't eat meat, the wine. Yes, the wine. Wash the clothes. Don't wash the clothes. You do take a shower. Different customs. But the general idea is that we act in a form of mourning. Now, and I'm sure that each and every one of you would guess that we do that because we're mourning for the destruction of the temple. >> Wrong. >> You're mourning for your destruction. >> You're mourning for where you are. I'm in such a bad place. That's what you mourn for. So we have three weeks that we uh mourn and I'll elaborate on that very very soon. And after that we come to Tishab. Tishab will be in two and a half weeks. And on another five bad things happened that will be added now to the list of what we're already working on. Five bad things that happened on the first one is the generation of the desert. If you remember the story, we read it last week. They came back from Israel said about Israel, which I'm telling you always, don't talk bad about Israel, even if you have a lot more to say about it. Don't ever talk about Israel. If you want to talk bad about something that has to do with Israel, talk about the government that you can talk bad about them as much as you want. Don't talk about the land. Don't talk about anything else. Then the the the spies came back, slandered Israel. Everybody agreed. And not only that, there they they actually applied on themselves a death wish that all died in the desert. Worse than that, they were punished that neither one of them will go into the land of Israel to a point that Mosherenu had to be buried in the desert. So when there's going to be he can bring those bodies and soul to come into Israel because they're not allowed to come into Israel. That's the first thing that happened on Tisha behav. You're not allowed to come to Israel. And here we're talking about the physical. There's also the spiritual Israel of the place of your perfection. The place of your highest level of spirituality, the place that you fulfilled all your purposes, all your chuva. Second thing that happened of course you know destruction of the first temple. Second thing the destruction of the third second temple which the second temple cannot be compared to the first. what we had in the second we didn't even the whole four 120 years of the second temple we didn't even have a king we're running the beta mikdash without a king and and the kadusha everything it's not the same beta mikdash which in itself big and since I said nothing was healed nothing was corrected that's why we're in the same place fourth thing that happened horrible on tishav the city of betar was captured and betar was the I don't want to say to compare now to America because everybody was will get upset I was about to say betar is the lakewood of of Israel but I was like no no no I should say moni no bora park uh which community is the like has the most yeshivot the most the most rabbis the most the most the most the most that's all the rabbis were from betar All the Torah was bet to a point that everybody was murdered. There wasn't any Torah. It's not something you can replace. It's a big disaster that everything there wasn't any Torah. Just imagine all the Rebies, all the rabbis, all the everything destroyed. And the fifth thing as was plowed. That means that it was flattened. The significant of this idea, why do our sages say it was plowed? You know when you want to flatten the land, you you plow it. But what's the significance? that what we had in never was the same. Energy, the presence of God, the it's never the same since it happened. What we see is not how it was. That's really the the idea of we don't have the real I know you all go there and you go to the hotel and you put your note there and you feel the strong energy. I'm not making a joke at all. I also cry when I go there. The the didn't move from the Kab there's no question here that you feel but it's not the beta mikdash. You go 50 meters back, you see some toilet stuck on the mountain on the Habite and people think it's okay. There's golden toilets on Temple Mount playing football there. All sorts of kids. And by the way, many other bad things happened on Tishab. One of them was the Spanish Inquisition started on Tishab. Also World War I started on Tishab and many many bad things happened on Tishab. More things >> the turned on. >> Yeah. Yeah. And Awitz were turned down on many bad things. I'm talking about things that up until now what I talked about it's things that can be reflected to my my inner me. All the rest is just horrible things. So we're starting now, by the way, three weeks to be more precise. We're going to go through three Shabbat. We're going to go through three Shabbat. It's called the three Shabbat Shab of chaos, of bad things. Why? Because we're reading the three that is talking about a lot of rebuke and bad things. Then after that we're going to have seven Shabbat that it's called the weeks of of concealing not concealing. Um hon >> yeah consiliation that you >> comfort now we have to understand really what's going on with this time of the year. So the says that when Asav when Jacob fought with the angel of Asav first of all that also happened on Tishab and later on the angel of Asav that was fighting with Jacob the fight was a a a long fight it wasn't only in the morning what we read in the Torah and Asav was the one who fighting with the angel not with the angel with alongside side with the angel. And after all, when the fight was over, it says that Asav took two months. And later on, it says that this is all that Jacob grabbed two months. Jacob grabbed the month of Nissan. But Zor says that Asav grabbed the month of Tvet and the month of Shvwat. And then uh somehow we grabbed half of Shvat back from Tishvat. So he has only a month and a half. And then the Z continues by saying and when you mean grabs it means there was some type of how do you call it a settlement. So took another two months of tamuz and a and not the whole month. So the first part the second part of tuz and the first part of a that's the part that is got as inheritance when it came to the biblical months. Therefore the energy of these three weeks because of and the same thing with by the way that's why we have and everything the from till is also something similar to what we have now just a little bit less. So Asav took the that part of the month. Therefore the energy comes from this angel of which is the and therefore we experiencing things that are negative. Since we know that we experiencing these days we know that we didn't heal from the problem. That's our problem. Now the goes into a whole list of what stopped when beta mikdash was destroyed. When we read that you start understanding what we're missing and that comes to the conclusion of what you what you need to do. It says in the in every day that beta mikdash is not built that day is cursed. So every day we finish the day no beta midash cursed day. It says in tract that the rains became like how do you call the grapes when they dry? Uh >> raisins. Sorry. The rain became like raisins. Raisins is something that kind of like shrink. The rain became like raisins. Once there was very good rain. Now it's it's a disaster. I was the other day. you you also probably there was rain the other day was like no normal rain. It was a >> Monday >> and and and this is like the the most rainy day we get in Israel. What was Monday what I experienced here in Queens? That's not normal. You know that at the time of beta mikdash I'm going to tell you something that probably most didn't know. Unbelievable. I find it unbelievable. You know that when we had beta mikdash rain had a schedule only Wednesdays and Saturdays at night the days that nobody goes out of the house. You knew when rain is and it came down so nice and soft. Not like now like that. You're like, you know, you can almost die from the rain. How it comes out now. When I was here in the winter, I was driving, you know, somebody came in front of me. So much water came on my windshield. It's 7 seconds that you don't see nothing. I mean, you that's not normal rain. And then when the rain comes as a hurricane, that's rain. That's what you need. So the z says there in beta mdash rain came down Wednesday night Saturday night two nights nice good rain at night when you sleep that's it and it was such a good rain gave enough nourishment to everything now we don't have that continues the saying is poverty which means that you can be a millionaire but you'll still experience poverty in many different ways you have $10 million ion dollar sitting in equity. You need it right now for something. No. No. We can't help you right now. It's my money. No, sir. No. I had that once with my bank. I needed money. It's closed in some something similar to a CD account. Something that obviously they didn't want to open. It's my money. What do you mean you can't give it to me? Also happened to me that I went into the bank. I needed cash. No. No. We can't give you that amount of cash. You have to call. You have to make an appointment. You have to it's my money and I want it now. So you can be very rich and many times your money is held or whatever happens. That's if you're very rich. Most people struggle to get money. Parasa comes very hard. They think it's because of their sins. And I'm telling you, well the zor is telling you it's because when the when the beta mdash was destroyed, poverty came onto doesn't leave the nation of Israel. We're always going to experience that. Continue. It says we we don't see the anymore. What we see is pollution, but we worse than the pollution. I'm sure some of you visited inat and noticed that everything is painted in blue. The reason for that is it's a long explanation, but the color of the firmament is that blue. That's it. And the explanation goes much more. Why? But nevertheless, the the blue comes from the color of the firmament. We don't see that blue color. And once in a blue moon, you see this gorgeous gorgeous sky. The Talmud says, "No, that's not gorgeous. You haven't seen the ra. You haven't seen the firmament. Blue to you. You can't stop looking. more than that is a white glass. Now, a lot of people that read the can will imagine like a stained glass. This white glass that it's talking about, I I see it's kind of like a diamond. Diamond is a certain glass. When you're looking at a diamond, you can take now glass and make it look like a diamond. So this glass, this white glass that it's talking about, it's a very very precious stone that we don't have. And obviously the stone that you know like people love now gold and diamonds, rubies, that's obviously some stone that has some spiritual powers that the owner or the one who has it or wearing it is gives you I don't know what. But it's not a regular glass. So, I know a lot of people zoom through the oh glass. No, no, no, no. We're talking about a very precious stone and obviously it has some powers that we don't understand. More more that happened. But the taste of meat also got cancelled. What you're eating now is junk. That's not real meat. Not too long ago, actually, we got I told you when we want to buy meat, we you many do it in Israel. You go and buy the cow or the sheep or whatever and you take it to the shet to the the person who slaughters it and it's all in front of you, chick, very fresh. No refrigeration, no nothing. And of course, you buy the animal from a good normal place. I know a lot of people saying free range and all that. Not it's not only about the free range, it's also what is not injected to the animal and many what's in the food. I know also a a farm that is free range, but what they feed the chickens that's not free at all. So the chickens get it from the junk from the food and they can put on their thing pictures and it's free range. So the time the the taste of meat was destroyed means that what we eat is junk and we think we're enjoying the meat. We're not enjoying the meat. It's disgusting. what I started saying before recently I we had a good experience with some good lamb that we ate and I'm telling you you that I I felt 1% of what they how it tastes and I'm sure you also experienced once in your life real good meat and I apologize to the vegetarians healing is not found anymore you can be sick doctors sick doctors sick doctors no there's no end to the problems of sicknesses. Once the the communication between us and Hashem was like iron, now there's a a separation. Hashem doesn't always hear our prayers. Hashem can do whatever he wants, but there's some type of a separation between us and Hashem. Was removed from the from our nation. the the feminine aspect of the design of the divine theina was removed many many things and the Tamil goes on and on what we lost when the beta mikdash was destroyed so it's hard for you and for me to cry over the beta mikdash destruction I wasn't there I don't know I I I I don't have this in the my memory we were all there probably at some point in an incarnation but we don't remember anything I need to understand that if I need to find some sorrow in the destruction of the temple is to understand how this whole thing is in me in our generation goes all the way back to the destruction of mikdash. I'm saying our generation because that's what we relate with. There's a very thick hanim a concealment of hashem's presence to us. Panim in Hebrew is face. When I play hideand seek with my son I hide my face. When I play a hide and seek with a one-year-old, I don't need to hide. I just go like that. I don't need to hide the whole body. It's just this. The baby doesn't see a whole body. He sees the face. Panim is the concealment of the face. And we don't see Hashem like a little kid playing cuckoo. But panim also comes from the word pim. My inner part. There's a h inside. I don't see inside of me the problem and the solution. Do you understand the difference from Hashem that we all have? We don't see Hashem. And that's why we have hard challenges, difficulties. You don't see Hashem in it. When you're in a high level, the biggest disasters that happen to you, you see Hashem in it. Oh, okay. Now you have a disaster, you don't see Hashem. You have a difficulty, challenges, you don't see Hashem there. That'sanim, the concealment of the face of Hashem. But I take it to the next level and tell you that is that you when you look inside, I don't see anything. I'm good. You're bad. I'm fine. There's nothing wrong here. So, you don't see your own hate. You don't see your own language, how you talk. You don't see your own sins in your mind. It's not I'm warning him and him and him and him and her and her and her and her and everybody I need to warn from what I don't know what. So the this concept is in me. When you understand that the concealment this is in me then I then I start understanding what I need to do. And that's when the Talmu comes and tell me now you have another problem. The gates of prayers are locked also. That's locked too. Yeah. Continues very important things. No more people with real amun basically mocking us. You don't have any amuna. At the time of the beta mikdash, a person didn't go to work in the morning. He would put fill in. He would pray to learn to come to the work at 4:00 in the afternoon 100% hem. I don't need to do much. I just have to show up do AB and C. The rest is Hashem. The zor says that before mashia comes there's going to be people with amuna like a handful and I know you all think you have ama when push comes to shave the amuna means believe in god then the the goes out very fast all you need is a strong struggle and that's it and I'm reminding you again for the ones with the short-term memory I when I say you it's me I'm not telling you the simple people. It's everybody. Everybody I'm including me in everything. I'm not declaring I have a I'm working on it. I do whatever I need to do to build it. I'm sure it's much better than others. But I say I'm trembling when I'm saying the morning prayers. Don't bring me to I told you on my Monday most people don't say the morning prayers and if they do they say it so fast you don't even know what you're saying sit for 5 minutes read it in slow motion and you'll see what you're asking for before you check your phone before you answer your email the morning prayers takes a few minutes and you're asking Hashem don't bring me to a place of of of a test of a challenge what do you think these the words are for nothing say the words you're not going to have such bad challenges. You have challenges in your life and tests. Then read the morning prayer with a right intention actually focusing on the words and when you come to the point of don't bring it to a place of a of a test or a challenge then have it in your mind. The Talmud says there's very few people who really really believe in Hashem. So that's a big thing we need to question ourselves. How far does my amuna go? And the way to do it to know and to apply and to find the solution is that the spiritual needs are always first. And when you find that you're putting your spir the physical needs first, that's it. You have a problem. You have a problem with the muna. Write it down. Because I know most people will go, they'll see a two-hour lecture, they'll be like, "No, no, they don't. Write this one down. When you see that your physical needs came before your spiritual needs, know that you have a serious problem with amuna, with believing in God. Right now, I need to finish this business meeting instead of praying in right now. I need to whatever take care of this business before it's going to go into Shabbat. It's okay. I need to take ref first of this. And this is one example out of many. How many prayers you missed? How many times you didn't say biron? You already went one step forward and you did the washing of the hands with a hand on your heart. You don't have to tell me that. How many times you washed and didn't say birkaton. You had the intention. You wanted to say and I see how you're all looking at me that you're all guilty in that you wash your hands. Then somehow you forgot. But you know you didn't forget. You got that important phone call from your customer and suddenly that was pushed instead of your birkazone. You have another three minutes. No, you think you're getting that deal cuz you attended that customer or whatever it is and you're pushing your spiritual needs aside to take care of your physical needs. You got the point? Use use it now in your life. I gave you one example, two examples. But the rule is that whenever you put your physical needs before your spiritual needs, you have a problem in amuna. How is that connected? Because your inner thoughts are saying to you, this is more important. Last week, and I'm not saying it to show off, by the way. Last week, I sat wherever I stayed, doesn't matter. a wealthy neighborhood. I sat with there was in the room a few men put them all together probably all worth four or five billion dollars in the middle of the meeting. Thank you guys. I I'm sorry. I got to go and pray. And not that I'm some big pious person and I'm sure you heard a million other one stories that somebody did that. But it's not about to prove that I'm good or bad. That's the that was for me the reality. Guys, I'm sorry I was with you for an hour and a half. now I have to be attending another meeting. Now, most people, it doesn't matter what the meeting was for, most people, they would even dare to tell these few men, I'm I'm sorry. Bye. So, when I told that to somebody, he says, well, you're Rabbi, you can afford getting up and leaving. You're like above them. I said, no, I'm not above anyone. I'm not above anyone. It's a human being. But, so I'm just giving you one example and many spiritual needs is highest priority from anything. And I'll give you one more example so we can continue and and conclude very soon. Many of the times you compromise on Shabbat for your physical need knowing that you're not allowed to do that on Shabbat. But you don't say I know. You say I think I'm not too sure. I think I heard that it's okay. Deep down inside you know you're not allowed to do that. But you are not comfortable physically whether the air conditioning is not now off. Suddenly you I'll tell the neighbor's kid to do it. He's he's not really Shabbat observant. You're not allowed to do that. Ah I'll tell it to my neighbor who's a who's a non-Jew. You're not allowed to do that either. The only way that a non-Jew will open your air condition is if he know if he does it by himself. You're not allowed to tell a gentile to do something for you on Shabbat. If you gave an order to a gentile or does you you you did it by the way. You cannot come and call your neighbor who's a non-Jew and tell him turn on the light, turn the the air conditioning on. >> Shabas, >> Shabasgo, you need to teach him the law before Shabbat. >> And I will go, let's say, uh, the air conditioning went off. I'm allowed to go to his house and be like, I just need a little bit of air conditioning in the sh. It's so hot the air conditioning turned off. That's it. That allowed to do. And he's a shab is He got it. He knows to come and to turn on. And even if you have a gentile working for you on Shabbat, cleaning the house, you know, not to tell her mop the floor, vacuum the carpet, you have to tell that person all the instructions prior to Shabbat. Shabbat you're not to give any instructions whatsoever to any living being. So why am I telling you that? Because I know many people it's not so convenient. It's hot, it's cold, this the food I didn't put it on the hot plate. Suddenly you find all the loopholes. So just remember the rule. >> How can you tell an animal to do something? Well, when you find the animal that can do things that you tell them to do, I would like to have one of those. I mean, uh I mean, the only thing I can think of is you tell your dog, "Go get your the newspaper or something." But anyways, you're not allowed to read on Shabbat, so that's going to be an issue anyways. Now, to tell your dog to bring you a talit, I don't know if you want your dog to touch the talit. I mean, but nevertheless, with all jokes aside, no, no, it's you. I don't think you can give a an animal an order to do something here. Besides that, we're not allowed to deal with animals on Shabbat. Only to feed them. That's it. If you have animals, you have cattle, you have dogs, cats, I don't know what you you're not allowed to touch them and deal with them. You're only allowed to feed them. But with but to focus on what we're saying, I'm going to repeat it because that's really what you need to know. If you find yourself putting your spiritual needs after your physical needs, you have an issue with amuna, which means it needs to be addressed. Amuna is believing in God. And I know a lot of people say, "But I believe in God." Yeah, you believe in God till problem starts. What you need to cry in the next three weeks because you're not going to be in the level of crying for the destruction of the temple. When a loved one dies, that's when you really cry. cry. I remember once I was in attending in a a funeral, not a funeral really the Shiva after that and uh you know a lot of crying, a lot of sadness and uh and somebody asked there was a lot of I mean I was there to talk some words of comforting but somebody asked why do you cry? You cry for the suffering of that person or you cry for that you miss that person. So really we came to the conclusion that when you cry when somebody dies you cry for your own pain. You don't cry for that person's pain. You are now sad. You now miss that person. You now have a void in your life. So what are you crying for? You're crying on yourself. I'm not saying it in a negative way. I'm just making a point. And the reason why I'm making that point is because we have to cry now these three weeks. That's what our sages say. You have to cry. But you know that once, and I'm not talking about 5,000 years ago, go going back 50 and even 100 years ago, not more than that. You know that most people will fast every day would fast on the entire three weeks. Open and you'll see what it says. Once people used to fast the whole three weeks of course without Shabbat but every day of the three weeks. How do you learn that? You see says that if you cannot do that then you should take 10 minutes a day minimum to sit on the floor and and read and cry for the destruction of the temple. Once people used to actually really mourn the destruction of the temple. We don't really do it because we we don't really miss it. We we don't know what it is. I just read you what we lost and it's a it's no it's not has nothing to do with us which is sad. But look what we missed. Our entire life is chaos because we don't have beta mikdash. So what do we need to cry for for the next three weeks is when I look inside of me and I find that my physical needs are more important than the spiritual needs. That's what you need to cry for. If you found 10 times that you catered your physical needs over the spiritual needs and you have to cry two minutes. If you find that you did a 100 times, cry the whole day. You did all the time, cry three weeks. You have to measure. That's where you're holding. And I know and be fair with yourself. Don't don't don't fool yourself. That's really what our sages are telling us. We know that you can't cry for beta mikdash. You never been there. You don't know what it is. So cry for the way you are. All the destruction that I told you is in you. Cry for that. Cry that you are willing to put your physical needs before your spiritual needs and before the commandments and before what God tells you that you need to cry for. And when you see how many times one was first priority or the next, then that's that's how you know how bad your situation is. That's it. Just think how many times in the last week my spiritual needs came first. That's it. And then then if then you'll see if you need to cry or not. And then on top of that, besides everything that I just told you, look at all the corruption in the world. Even in the world of the Torah, so much corruption, so much distortion of the Torah. This is all exile. You suffering from that, by the way. Everybody's suffering from that. Even in the corruption in the Torah, you're suffering. You're listening to many rabbis online. I can already tell you half of them are not worth anything. St. Nonsense. This invent all sorts of things. I'm not talking about the key rabbis that you can find online. But now every Tom, Dick, and Harriet has a channel on YouTube and some of them get many views. The other day somebody sent me a question. I said, "I don't know where you heard that concept. It doesn't sound Jewish at all. Rabbi so and so read it from the Zohar." Oh, the Zar that I like. Send me the video. He sends me the video. He tells me that point where the rabbi is talking about something. He quotes the Zar. The rabbi quotes the zar. I go to the zor. Look at the page. Nothing in the direction even. Not even connected in any way. Okay. Maybe confused. I go 10 pages back, 10 pages forward. Nothing. Maybe he was very confused. I go 20 pages back, 20 pages forward. Nothing. Said maybe he was extremely confused. Whatever he said, I never heard in my life. and definitely not in the zone that he quotes. So what he messed it up that bad now thousand and the video had like 6 7 8,000 views. So now and the comments are locked. You can't put a comment. I wanted to write. Can you explain to me which version you're reading from? Maybe you got confused. No, no, no. Maybe you got confused with the with the page the pages in the letters. Maybe you wrote it in a number and you got confused. You thought the me is is is 60 and really it's 40 nothing communication with the individual and not that I am holding myself as some professor in the I read it enough to remember that I never heard of such a thing. So I call a friend. Never heard of such a thing. And then you have a rabbi, black suit, black beard, black hat, Jewish name, everything, talking about some concept that doesn't exist. And he quotes the zor. Now any one of the 8,000 viewers went to the zor to quote it to to check it. I just told you the zor says ab, and z. You question me. You're asking me, give me the zor. You're saying, "Okay, now I trust him. Now this is I'm telling you you you can't invent that and then you have thousands of people listening to him and probably also doing what he said and Rabbi so and so said that and you know many people say they quote others that are real it says in the yeah where I love the most says yeah where does he say that show Hey, we are in a horrible exile. And since we're in a horrible exile and nobody does anything to get out of their own exile, then mean shamim from the heavens. They wake you up with challenges and problems and issues. So really the three weeks that we are now going through, it's less to commemorate the destruction of the temple. And I'm saying less cuz you still have to. But we don't really relate with it. I like taking it to the next level and saying the destruction that I'm mourning is the destruction in me. Whether it's like I told you corresponding to the marriage, maybe the values of marriage are wrong in me. Maybe there's a destruction there. Maybe question yourself. Maybe there's a question with my I don't know if you write or you memorize, but remember the first five I told you the the the first problem. Remember anyone? >> What's the first problem? >> The the tablets. >> Okay. Anybody else? >> No, I'm I'm not I'm trying to make sure that everybody's actually you you're focused. The first one was the tablets. I told you that's corresponding to marriage. Look in yourself. Maybe that part in your life is broken. that your morals, your the how you see things, maybe they're distorted. Be be humble. Be accepting criticism. Maybe you're not that great. >> Same thing with that. I know many people they tell me, "What are you talking about? 20 years I never missed one minan." >> You're right. It's it's amazing. And he also never missed in one of the minan talking during the minan >> and talking with the fine on your head >> and bothering everybody else. So what do you want me to tell you? you're coming to the minan and then you're talking so he doesn't see it he doesn't see how he behaves many husbands maybe wives they don't see how they behave to their wives therefore I'm telling you you have to be humble and you have to understand everything is me everything is in me everything that I just told you I'm not going to repeat you're going to watch the video again if you really want to do the correction now why are the three weeks are so powerful Now pay attention. I read on Monday that it says in the oh in this case okay let me quote there's a ones who are seeking it and I explained in the class on Monday that when you're taking the word and you're cutting the word you can read it as yudhe the ones who are seeking for Hemud represents hemud and then a v and a yud the ones who are seeking hem will find it when you want to find hem now is the three weeks now you do it what does it mean to find hashem is that you find in you your faults you find in you what you need to correct you understand what you need to to to fix and then you put it first priority before your parasa before everything that's your first priority you need to figure out in the next three weeks what what do I need to do where am I failing you need to look at yourself with eyes of I'm going to criticize myself very people very few people know how to criticize themselves you have to be very critic and you have to be very honest and you have to be very accurate. And the advantage that we have in the three weeks in a month and a half is going to be wonderful month. Everything changes. And you heard not once and not twice and probably heard it 50 million times and learned about it and the king is in the field, right? Everybody's excited. The king is in the field. Now, let me ask you a question. What did you do the last time when the king was in the field? Did you do anything? No. onesh you were very inspired and then on the 27th day of you remembered that it's sh and I didn't read myim and I didn't go to this and I didn't do this and I didn't do that and oh my gosh and and right that's 90% of people they don't utilize the fact that the king is in the field what did you do so he was in the field wow what did you do so take advantage of these three weeks because these three weeks the king is not in the field. The king is in exile because there's no beta mikdash. And what it means that the king is in exile, it means that he's not in his home in Elul. He's in the field. She have to go to the field. Now the king is just wandering around. He's not at home. He doesn't have a home right now. He's on the roads. Which means that everywhere you can look for him and everywhere you will find him because he's not bothered now with other godly things. When the king is on his throne, can you talk to him? No. So we learn from the BMT and many others. So he's in the in the field. But in the field, it's a different type of energy. It's like when the president before he's president's the they go to the cities and the president shakes everybody's hands. How do you call it? Part of the campaign. How do you call it? >> The campaigning. Okay. I thought it has a different name. But the president goes shakes everybody hands. He promises if everybody the world he kisses everybody's dus everything just to get the just to get the votes. The next day that he's elected, let's see you going and they getting a selfie with him and shaking his hand and then he'll tell you straight to the face how much you you he he he doesn't like you or whatever it is. Same thing here without the attitude of a president. The king is in the field. It's very general. You see him in the field, you can approach to him, which is, don't get me wrong, it's amazing and great. >> But these three weeks, it's not even you can do much more than approaching. You'll find him anywhere. Not only in the field. There's a deep cabalistic explanation to the concept. Why field? Why the king is in the field? Why he's not in the orchard? No, seriously. Ask yourself, why is he in the field? He could be in the orchard. He could be in the farm. He could be in the chicken coupe. >> Maybe the king is on the beach. Oh, if I would be the king, I would go to the vineyard. Our king chose to go to the field. >> Don't just brush off the field. There's a very deep cabalistic concept. What's the field? Why the field? the common people. >> No, no, no. Come to the lecture of Roshesh Elul. You might not be able to come. It's going to be in Miami September 25, I think, but you'll see it live on YouTube or whatever other platform we we're going to try to get it out to, but yeah. Yeah. Make sure that you're tuning in live to the Roal lecture. It's going to be I think it's 25th of of September of August. I don't remember, but just follow the announcements. Then I'll then I talk in a much more deeper way. What's the field? And then for that you need to apply that. But now he's not in the field. He's in exile. The king is in exile with you. I'm going to give you an example that literally just came up to my mind. It's it's a very good example. I shared with with the world whether you heard it or not. I shared with the world a few times what I went through 20 plus years ago. And after being a pretty uh crooked individual uh involved in many illegal activities, I found myself behind bars. Okay. So in the two years that I was in jail, one year it was I was in Oklahoma, I was in Atlanta. I didn't have friends. I didn't talk to anyone. I did chuva and I literally didn't talk to anyone. Who would talk to me? Everybody has their own gang. But when I came to New York finally, for the ones who know the story, if not, tune in. I'm going to talk about it in this tour many times. Then uh finally I had a friend some Russian guy an old guy and I also had another friend who was my cell myelli my roommate in the cell and that individual was the number two person in the Gambino family. So I was in sitting in very good hands >> and I sat with doesn't matter the name right now but at the time biduk was the period with John Goti was the head of the New York mafia and this guy that's sitting with me is number two in the Gambino family in the cell we're like buddies we became such good friends now I know he promised me that whenever I need him I'll come and find him he'll help me but I guarantee to you that if I will sit with him in public. It's not going to be in the same energy how we sat together in the cell. Because when you're in such a situation, you hold on to what you have and suddenly a mouse can be your best friend. A mosquito becomes your best friend. You talk to flies. So, so much more. So, you talk to an individual that most likely in the real world, you won't talk to him. He won't talk to you. And if you do, it's not going to be in the same way because you're in a certain settings. Nobody's there. Your guard is down, you're not embarrassed, you talk freely. You know what philosophical conversations we had about religion? It was unbelievable. I was doing chuva. I was coming with the Jewish point of view. He came from the Catholic point of view, which by the way, the mobsters kill every day, but they they was very they're big believers in the name of God. Why am I saying this example? That's Hashem. 100% Hashem. I didn't even think of this exam. It just literally came into my mind because that's the reality. So when you're with Hashem in a closed setting in on your turf because Hashem is here right on your turf in the field. It's not your turf. Do you live in the field? Do you do anything in a field? Do you live there? Is your business? Are you a farmer? No. So it's not your turf. You are going to Hashem to the field. Listen in. You understand? But now we're in in in Hashem is not in the field. He's in exile with you. He's everywhere with you. That's the time when you can find Hashem in you. I translate that. Do you know what your faults are? You're humble enough to understand that's a fault. >> The reason why I think, feel, believe, and know that I have a good marriage because I actually listen to my wife. And when she tells me something that bothers her, I don't brush it off. I actually take it as a very serious recommendation for my behavior and I apply it right away and I monitor that I don't mess it up because we're humans after all. But for that you need to be in a place that you're able to criticize yourself. You have to be in a place that in one way you're so humble that you're able to hear it and simultaneously you're so high to be able to actually accept it and apply a change. That's finding Hashem in the three weeks. You humble yourself to a point that you understand your faults and you don't your ego doesn't take control over you. That's where you do the real chuva and that's where you utilize the three weeks for real chuva. It's three weeks of chuva. You know that the three weeks now correspond to the three weeks from till weeks parallel to each other. Now we're doing the chuva. Now you start the chuva not in alul. Aul is a different type of chuva. So what you need to take from this entire thing and I'm shortening details and repetitions and I'm not going to explain more. Go and watch the video again tonight. Tonight he's going to go on YouTube so you can memorize unless you wrote things down. I didn't see any pens flying around here besides that lady over there. But maybe some of you are ticking. Oh, sorry. Sorry ma. You're far away. I can't see. Some people do it on the phone. But uh you know what I used to do when I used to be a student? I'm still a student, but once I used to go to classes, I would record the class with the permission of the rabbi. Because if you're not asking permission, you stole his Torah. You're going to bring on yourself disasters. Don't ever do that with the permission of the rabbi. You're not allowed to record a person without their permission. That's why AT&T tells you this call is going to be monitored for quality services. Obviously, maybe there's a jewel on the top that says, "No, no, no. I'm not recording anybody without their permission." I think also in the court of law in America, you're not allowed to. It's considered illegal that you're you can't come with it as evidence. I recorded them. I don't know. I'm not a lawyer. >> It's illegal. It's illegal. >> It's illegal. I'm right. So, I'm right. >> So, when it comes to Torah, even more. And one time my admin for YouTube turned into some other play channels and told him this video removed this video you can't you ask permission you didn't ask permission why you taking my video putting it on your channel but it's Torah it doesn't matter you need permission call ask permission you get the permission do it then that's with everything by the way you can't do anything that violates another person's permission even if it's something that is nothing. Every image that is on my any design that you ever see, flyers, thumbnails, whatever it is, I buy the images. I don't steal them from Google. You're not allowed to. You pay I pay a subscription subscription to whatever the platform they are that you get pictures. I don't owe anybody money. There's no guzzle on my flyers. There's no gazel on my thumbnails. Somebody will come and tell me you used my picture. I'm to give you now the promo of a gazel class. Now is your best chance to come close to Hashem. And in now in this period, it's easy because Hashem is in your level. He's also in exile cuz his house was destroyed. No beta mikdash. Hashem doesn't have a place, doesn't have a home. He's wandering around like us. So now's the time. Look what the prophet is telling us. Now is the time that you can come close to Hashem. And when you know how to look at your faults, you know how to fix them. And very few people know how to look at themselves and to do something. For that you need to humble yourself. you need to humiliate yourself. You need to bring yourself down and know that that's how you become a much better individual. So really when you want to conclude all this information and I really am recommending to you watch it again, watch it again that you didn't miss anything because you're already minus three days. You have three weeks minus three days. I don't know what you did in the last three days. The chuva that you need to do is not the the on the surface actions. It's very very very deep into your nishah where you need to look into and really what you need to do practically besides everything that I just told you cuz I told you work on your marriage work on your feed poor people remember everything that's why I'm telling you watch it again because I don't think you remember things no offense by the way I started telling you know how I used to do when I was a student I would record the class with the permission of the rabbi and listen like this. I don't want any distractions. And after the class, I went to listen to the recording when I'm reading it from the book. That was the first line. Read it from read it from the book yourself and listen to the rabbi. And then the third line was read it yourself without the without the lecture. That's what you should do. But I'm not reading out of a book. So you can read the transcription, I think. But nevertheless, listen again so you know what to do. Get stronger in your prayers. You don't pray that great this three weeks. Three prayers a day. You don't pray at all. Start praying. Work on your marriage. You're single, work on that, too. Everything. Feed poor people. Everything that I told you. Add the Torah. That's why I don't want to repeat because that's how the lectures become long because I repeat myself. So, I'm not going to repeat myself. Go watch the video. You work hard a little bit. learn. But just know that you have an opportunity, an unbelievable opportunity to find in yourself faults that you can fix. And you know who gains from that? Only you. Not anybody. Well, of course, the ones around you will gain because you'll be a much nicer person. You'll be more polite. You'll be more patient. You'll be more caring. But the ultimate desire I want to find the faults in me to do chuva and gain closeness to Hashem. You can't gain closeness to Hashem. I explained that thoroughly in the class two days ago that is online for I can't gain closeness to Hashem because of sins and because of all sorts of aot and things that were stuck between me and Hashem. So who suffers at the end? Me because I don't have closeness to Hashem. And the result will be maybe physical issues, mental issues, financial issues, issues, all day long issues. So you have a lot a lot of advice, you have a lot of instructions. What you need to understand and take from that is what do I do good or bad and then what I can do. That's it. If you set the three weeks yourself for yourself the right way obviously it should take you for you don't stop after the three weeks but that's a very good starting point and then from then you take it and I'm telling you that when you run to reach to higher levels it's only by humility I promise and I will come through that's going to be a big surprise coming in ul I'm sure you remember in previous passage that we had the lul chuva boot camp we had theul chuva boot camp and then the 40-day journey and the we had many different so stay tuned something's good is happening on but stay tuned and you don't want to miss anything but now it starts because really the only one who gains from my own good actions is myself I'm happy I'm calm I'm not confused I'm not in a state of anger I'm not in a state of frustration I live a life of 15 how how I handle my life. Somebody told me the other day, "Oh, you're a man of many hats." I didn't understand first what he's saying. I said, "No, I don't wear a hat at all." He's like, "No, you wear many hats." So my day really, one man can handle 24 hours a day. So if I'm doing the work of 15, then I need 140 hours a day, which I don't have. So everything is but the only reason that I see success in what I do is because what I told you before spiritual needs come before physical needs. Hashem needs come before my needs. The needs of the world of the Torah is more important than my needs. That's the attitude. And the only one who gains from that is myself. I don't lack anything. I don't suffer from anything. I have my challenges. Don't don't think that I'm all day long uh on some bench in the beach. My father says licking honey. In English doesn't work well. In Hebrew you say when you're sitting relax you have a lot of money and you like that's it. You reach to you lick honey all day long like you eat the honey with your hands. That's my father's term. The only one that you will gain from that is you. You'll reach a place of happiness, true happiness with your challenges. You'll have a smile. You'll have strong health. You'll have a strong clear mind for Torah. Parasa will be easier. Doesn't mean tomorrow you're going to be rich. It just means your parnas will come easy. You don't have to work so hard. You don't have to be stressed over it. And your money will go to the right places. You'll have enough of everything. You can make a lot of money. It's not enough of what you do. And that some person on the other side of town makes a third of you and it's enough. Why? That's what Hashem wants where the money goes. So do yourself a favor. Take advantage of these three weeks. Go and watch the video again and again. Share the video so many other people to do and then apply it. Apply. And the concept is what do I do? It falls under the title of what comes first spiritual or physical. Once you figure out what do I do is then you can you come to the conclusion what do I need to do to fix it that's it and only you know what you need to do to fix I don't know what you need to fix you know where you're failing if you're coming to the prayers you're not coming to the prayers you learn to you givea take advantage of these powerful three weeks do what you need to do make organization and sed in your life find Hashem within the chaos and the ups and downs in your life and you'll thank me and Hashem and yourself much much later that you see how your life is be better because of just a few adjustments. That's what it takes. So I'm going to wish you all great success in everything that you decide to take on yourself for this new journey. Take on yourself good decisions. Increase in your prayer. Increase in your charity. increase in your avat and most important increase in the how you look at other people. Remember the story I told you in the beginning with that the man wanted to hit another person with a wooden stick and he saw the demon standing behind doing the same thing. You have to be cautious all year round but the three weeks even more. Don't bring yourself to a place of danger. And that's not only talking about going to the beach. a place of danger that if I come and meet a certain individual and that individual I know there's going to be an argument. Don't meet that person. Don't bring yourself to a place of danger and that you need to incorporate the rest of your life. But do something. I can't stress how much it's important. I can't stress how much you will benefit from it. So may Hashem bless you that whatever you decide to take should be successful. that you should see fruit of your hard labor and you'll find blessing in your life in any aspect that you need. Whether it's your livelihood, whether it's health, whether it's educating your kids, whether it's your marriage, it doesn't matter what it is. Hashem will bless you with everything that you need to fulfill your needs and to do whatever you need to do to serve him in the best way possible. And just remember the key that I told you before. If the physical needs come before the spiritual needs, that's where you know there's a problem. And you want to make sure that I see what I do and I reverse it. And may Hashem make you very, very successful on your new journey. Amen. [Music]