Rabbi Binyamin Yuhanan - Parashat Toldot

[Music] good morning today we are continuing learning the partial of the week today the parashat is parashat told told means the the offspring of its heart we read last week that uh yitzhak got married and uh this week the torah tells us on page 125 of the arts that these are the children of yitzhak but before we continue the torah tells us don't forget that avraham gave birth to its heart and and midrash says why does the torah need to tell us that avraham is yitzhak's father and that is because people were spreading rumors people were saying that you know who yitzhak's father is avi what do you mean oh remember sarah was abducted by avi miller probably she became pregnant from him and in order to cancel out these these allegations the torah says avraham gave birth to yitzhak how do we know the midrash says because avraham and his haqq looked like twins its heart looked exactly like avraham so that anyone who saw it when he grew up right away said oh this is avraham's son when yitzchak was a baby people said oh it's avi malek's son but when isa grew up everyone said now we know for sure that this is avraham's son now the torah tells us 20 yitzhak was 40 years old when he took rivkah and as we mentioned last week according to midrash it is three years old at this point uh there are other sources that say that she was older eight years old nine years old 12 years old different opinions so take whichever one you like but we're gonna work with the the common opinion that she was three years old now because she was three years old they waited for 10 years before worrying why she cannot have children in fact it says in a talmud that it is not recommended for a woman to start having children before she is 13 years old even though she might be physically mature at 12 but talmud says she should wait ideally until she's 13 at least before having children so from age 3 until age 13 they patiently waited when the rivka became 13 years old and then they started trying to have a child and they continue trying for 10 more years why because we have a law that if a couple lives in the land of israel which is a blessed land and they're trying to have children for 10 years and they cannot then the husband since he has obligation to have children must do something about it either he needs to get married to a second wife like we see avraham did or he needs to divorce his first wife and remarry why does he need to divorce her because sometimes it is it happens that this husband with this wife cannot have children but if if this wife will marry another man maybe she will be able to have children it may just happen that the combination of this husband this wife does not produce children but this husband can have children with another wife and this wife can have children with another husband so therefore if the wife wants he she can request to be divorced and she can marry someone else but if she doesn't want to get divorced since the mitzvah to have children is not for the woman it's an obligation for the man therefore if she wants to stay with the original husband she is allowed to so after 10 years passed and they still couldn't have children now yitzhak was very concerned and he and rifka were praying in fact it says that if you take gematria off its hak it is 208 and the gematria of rifka is 307. you combine them together you get 515 which is gematria of testilan of prayer just like moshe rabbin who prayed for 515 times for hashem to let him into the land so to yitzhak and rivka prayed 515 times the commantry of their name combined in the dignity of to have a baby now the question arises hashem answered there to fila and they had two babies whereas hashem did not answer the prayer of moshe even though he also prayed 500 515 times and the reason is because it's hack and rifka prayed for each other they both that's what it says uh youth he treated hashem opposite his wife which can also be translated as is prayed to hashem for his wife he was saying hashem i'm not asking for myself i'm asking for my wife she is suffering she is crying i i can't see her uh crying hashem please help her and she was praying in the same similar way for him whenever you pray for someone else hashem answers your prayer first as opposed to moshe was only praying for himself because ahron already passed away and moshe was praying praying and praying for himself and therefore it was not as powerful of course there are other reasons why didn't allow moshe to come in but this is one of them so as we mentioned when we spoke about sarah being bearing we're gonna say uh the same here rifka is barren sorrow was barren rahel was barren and leia was also bearing why is it that our all four of our four mothers were not able to have children the torah says that the only reason why hashem gave children to leia was because he saw that she was suffering because she saw that rachel was more loved than she was so in order not to cause her so much pain because she was already suffering hashem gave her children which means if she wasn't suffering hashem wouldn't give her children she would be as barren as rafael who had to wait for six years before she became pregnant while leia in that time had already seven children so um why is it that the that jewish women had such hard time giving birth and the answer is that we gave last time was that hashem wanted us to know that the jewish nation is miraculous they're not normal they're not supposed to exist if we would be under normal laws of nature we would not exist not only in our beginning all our foremothers were bearing but throughout ages the only reason why we exist is because of miracles because hashem wants us to exist because hashem protects us otherwise we would disappear like so many other nations who were greater than we are who were more numerous than we are and that's what we have to keep in mind that no matter what threat we encounter we should not be afraid because we're supposed to be dead by now the fact that we're not dead shows that we're gonna stay alive forever if thousands of years of persecution did not kill us means nothing will kill us and the that's not because of our wisdom of our strength of our army but rather because hashem protects us that's what we have to keep in mind in face of any adversity in face of any trouble we cannot give up because we will survive against all odds okay now some questions that came in let me address them when praying for your spouse aren't you also praying for yourself for example if you want to have children that's true and that's what i mentioned that it's hard specifically said hashem it bothers me to see my wife suffering if i would be alone i would accept your decree with love you don't want me to have children if that's what your will is i'm okay with it but it hurts me to see my wife suffering it's true i'll be happy to have children as well but the main reason why i'm praying is because of her so um now somebody's asking a good question fine let them be barren but let it continue only for a year or two why did they have to suffer so much which means avraham and sarah waited for could be 17 years maybe 80 years depending when they got married for 80 or 70 years they were waiting for a child why so long okay you want to show the sare is barren so let her wait two years three years five years let her go to the doctor doctor will say you don't have a womb you don't have uterus you don't have ovaries cannot have children and then they're gonna have children that would be a miracle enough why did they have to wait for so long or is here rifka why did she have to wait for 20 years let her wait until she's 13 wait one more year go to the doctor the doctor will say you cannot have children you you don't have a period and that's it have uh have a child what's the reason it takes so long and same for raphael why did she have to wait for six years to become pregnant we see that leia suffered a little bit hashem gave her the baby right away maybe it's enough for her to suffer a few months a year two years that's it why suffer for so long that's a very good answer uh question and the answer is that every challenge we have is an opportunity for us to develop relationship with hashem we pray to hashem with much more conviction with much more emotion when we are suffering when we need something so really having a need is a blessing why because if you have a need you will connect to hashem better so as as they say i heard this from rabbi shimon champion because this mashal says imagine you you get sick and you go to the doctor and the doctor has to work with you for many weeks and months you have to visit him every every week to spend a lot of time in his office and he's working on you he's giving you injections and painful treatments and after a few months of of this the doctor announces okay you're all healthy but in those few months you became friendly with a doctor and you had a lot of deep conversations and you became best friends so now you say doctor i'm very happy that i became healthy again but i'm even more happy that i became your friend so same thing here hashem says i'm giving you suffering but the reward that you get for that suffering is so much greater it's so worth it to suffer if you know that the reward will be you will become a friend of god so the the ham expressed it that hashem loves the prayers of the righteous what does mean he loves he loves to cause them suffering and and he listens how they scream no he loves prayers of righteousness because they're so sincere so emotional and they connect to god so much better than from having a good life unfortunately that is the nature of people when we go through suffering we take life more seriously we become better people we treat others so much better so that is the reason why they had to wait for so long every day they waited they grew and they became closer to hashem and they improved their middot and another question is being asked why didn't they just patiently wait and that's a question you can ask about any time we pray why pray at all why do we pray for livelihood for health why do we pray for the fleshly just sitting there and waiting is not good enough because if we just sit and wait and then we get better what are we gonna say we're gonna say oh you know why i got better because this disease usually takes three days for the body to fight and i i just became better naturally if we don't ask hashem to heal us and we get better we're gonna attribute it to natural causes but if we ask hashem hashem please help me i can't do anything anymore i have no options anymore and we get better immediately we'll say oh i know i got i got better because right before i pray if i say hashem i'm doing a project and it's not working i'm spending so much time and effort and i can't accomplish anything please help and the right way it works and i'll say thank you hashem but if i don't pray i just sit around and try on my own and i succeed i'm not gonna know was it hashem who helped me or i just figured it out myself that is why even though hashem knows what we need but he's not going to help until we ask just like that anecdote that a person was laid for a an important meeting and he couldn't find parking he says hashem please help me to find parking if you do i'm gonna go to shahada every morning and right away uh a hummer pulled out from a parking spot in front of him and he said oh god thank you i don't need your help anymore i found it myself so that's the nature if if we this guy even he asked he didn't recognize god's involvement and imagine if you don't ask then you'll forget about god so they brought both prayed and his wife rifka conceived but the children agitated within her and she said if so if it's so painful why mothers why did i want to get pregnant maybe i will die shalom from this pregnancy why did i want to get pregnant in the first place or perhaps shalom i will have miscarriage and the children will die so why did i pray for so long and i was anxious to have children faster maybe god knew that it's gonna end up like this that i'll have miscarriage and he waited wanted me to wait a little bit longer and then it would be good so she started questioning maybe i shouldn't have been praying so much and she went to inquire of hashem she went to a prophet shem the son of noah and hashem said to her through the prophet two nations are in your womb the reason why it's more painful than usual is because you have twins two babies and not only that these are not simple twins they are progenitors of two great nations two regimes from your insides shall be separated means that they have two opposing world views and they already fight right now they're so different physically and spiritually that even while being in the mother's womb without yet understanding they have they have a natural resentment enmity against each other i don't know why but i hate him and our sages say we know why because yaakov represents the good in the world and estab represents the bad in the world and good and bad cannot stand each other they are uh opposites and they fight one another wherever you have good and bad there's always a fight as we see currently in our country and all over the world there are fights and usually it's a fight between good and evil and the jewish people are the concentration of good and more specifically amalek is concentration of evil in the world so even within the wall while they were still embryos they already kicking each other but the prophet told her two more um ideas the might shall pass from one regime to the other they will not be great at the same time either one will win or the other because they're opposites they cannot grow together one will try to overpower the other and what if one is weaker the other one will be stronger if this one is weaker than this one is stronger and as yitzhak gave blessing to yaakov and he said their voice is the voice of yaakov and their hands are the hands of asap and our sages said if the voice of the jewish people is the proper voice of yaakov then the hands of asa will be weak however if the voice of yaakov will be weak and the hint to it is that the word voiced in torah call is spelled without the verb and you can read it as khal which means weak if the voice of yakov is weak then the hands of asav are going to be strong and the elder shall serve the younger the the greater one the more numerous one will serve the smaller nation here rivka received the prophecy that the one that is born second yaakov will be the true heir of avraham and it's hack and the older one will just be a servant of the younger one which means the whole world is functioning for the jewish people and the nations in the world serve as support system for the jewish people they provide the world with whatever it needs to function so that the jewish people can accomplish in it they may have other intents they building bridges and roads and uh automobiles and airplanes for themselves for business but who is benefiting the jewish people okay now we turn to page 127 and now we're going to go faster when her term to bear grew fool which means they were born full term nine months behold there were twins in her womb the first one emerged red full of hair so they named him asap which is the same as the word asuy which means complete ready-made he came out from her looking like a miniature man with hair fully grown and reddish uh appearance not like a baby who often comes out from the womb pale after that his brother emerged with his hand grasping onto the heel of asav so he called his name yaakov and doesn't say who called his name by isab it says they named him which means everyone who saw him said wow this is a baby he looks like a real man whereas by yakov only he assuming that was his father or some say hashem himself called him yaakov yakov comes from the word because he was holding to the heel of asav but the word akiv also means the end signifying that yakov's time will come at the end asa was coming out first he is the mighty one the stronger one and the first one in the world he is the more numerous one he is the the one that uh runs the world what about yaakov as they say in russia the true laughter is going to come at the end so within the name of yaakov we see that their destiny that is going to rule the world until the end of times when yaakov will take over and that is why later yaakov's name was changed to israel to signify that at the end of times yaakov will have a different purpose throughout history yaakov is the persecuted one but lately he's going to become israel from the word sar means the minister the leader the one in charge first he is yakov he's lowly humble at the end of times he's going to become israel he is the minister of god sar of ken now and somebody is mentioning that just like kind and heaven had this similar fight so too yaakov and that is true and again this is the struggle that continues uh until now and will continue until mashiach comes so again the word israel comes from the word sar which means either minister officer the one in charge or the victor and l means god he is um he has godly power he is appointed as a minister by god i appreciate all your questions the questions uh make make us learn better okay this is an excellent question and we're going to address it later the question is if yaakov used trickery and deceit to get the blessing from his father why is it that we praise him and we're gonna see why okay now verse 27 asap became a hunter the man of the field which can also mean a farmer asa was a hunter and a farmer if you remember kain was a farmer also but yaakov was a wholesome man abiding in tents and midrash says tense means the tense of thor he was sitting and learning and meditating connecting to hashem but the word tense can also refer to the tense of shepherds because shepherds did not build houses they built tents because they had to move constantly to new pasture so this is exactly like the story of kine and heaven kind was tiller of earth he was a farmer and heather was a shepherd so too esaf is a farmer and yaakov is a shepherd and the yitzhak surprisingly loved a son why because he was bribed by asap the animals that asav haunted yitzhak ate but rifka knowing the truth loved yaakov which means asap was able to trick his father our sages say that he did it through great respect that he gave to his father and his father made a mistake some say that his father understood he saw through asap's trickery but he said to himself you know what if asap is so bad i have to give him more attention maybe if i give him more love he will change and that is why he loved ace of more than yaakov because he saw that asaf needs it more but we see it didn't help anyway so yaakov cooked a stew we see that yaakov was a family man he dwelt in tents he knew how to cook he was like a wife between two of them asa was the one going out into the field and yaakov was sitting at home cooking ace of king came in from the field and he was exhausted now the midrash says why was yakov cooking and midrash says yakov and asap or 15 years old at this point that means that their father was 75 years old because they were born when yitzhak was 60 and it means that avraham was 175 years old because israel was born when avraham was a hundred and we know that avraham lived 175 years old that means that avraham passed away at this point and yitzhak was cooking lentil soup as a as a meal of consolation for yitzhak yitzhak is sinning shiva now he is mourning for the death of his father avraham and yaakov is cooking for him now isab comes home he doesn't care that his father is stealing shiva he is running around the field and say what does it mean he was exhausted this same word exhausted is used elsewhere in tanakh to indicate idol worship murder and forbidden relations and they say what was ace of exhausted from from doing all three and aesop said to yaakov pour into me now some of that very red stuff because i'm exhausted he's truly exhausted and he needs a recharge some some more energy and because he called this red lentils to red stuff without thinking without specifying only working on his emotion i want it and i want it now without using his brain they called him red therefore he is called edom a dome from the word ado means red red also represents passion emotion as opposed to intellect and yakov used this opportunity to bargain with asap must be that they had this conversation in the past and yakov knew that asap doesn't care about it and yaakov many times said if you don't care about it why don't you sell it to me the right to be the firstborn sell as this day your birthright to me yato said to asa and they have said look the way i am now i'm going to die soon why do i need this birth right i like to do trouble i don't like to be a goody goody boy so yaakov said fine swear to me that you're not going to change your mind later and asap swore to him and he sold his birthright to yaakov now the question is being asked isn't it not nice what jacob just did he used the weakness of asaf to take advantage of him he tried to push a hungry man to make decision quickly and say no look at the next possum yaakov gave asaf bread and lentils too which means aesop said give me this too fast and yato said calm down will you sell me your birthright for the the lentil soup jesus said yeah i don't care about it yaakov said okay before you make the decision eat some bread after ace of ate some bread yakov said are you still ready to sell me your birthright for the soup or you just it's enough just bread and asap said yes i don't care about it i'm not hungry anymore but i don't care about the birthright give it to me for the soup and only then he gave him the soup therefore when he stole the birthright he was in full control of his uh mind he was not hungry anymore and that is why later in prophets asap is rebuked for it look at this man who sold his birthright for a part of beings not because he was saving his life if that was that's what happened we wouldn't blame asa of course life is more important than than birthright but here he sold it only for pot of beans not in order to save his life and that is why the torah says asap spurned he the birthright he be behave with lack of respect towards birthright now what does the birthright mean the torah says that if a man has two children two boys the one that is first born receives a double portion in everything that the father has at the time of death which means instead of dividing his inheritance his uh uh possessions in half and each son getting half you divide it in three the older son gets two portions and the younger son gets one portion so the older son gets two-thirds of inheritance the younger son gets one-third of inheritance if they have three boys they divide the inheritance into four parts the older boy gets two quarters a half and the other two boys get only a quarter each and so on for larger number but in addition to just getting more money the older boy the the firstborn also becomes the leader of the family after the father passes away the older boy becomes like the father of the family and he leads the family he guides the family the way he sees fit and therefore they were not only fighting about about um financials but rather they were also fighting who is going to be the leader of the world who is going to be the spiritual descendant of yitzhak now how do we know that yaakov wasn't interested in money because our sages say that his hug became poor at this time and that is why he relied on a soft to feed him that is why isaf needed to be a hunter and that is why yitzhak loved asap because asap provided him with livelihood which means yaakov said to asap what do you care our father has no money anyway no possessions you're not getting anything [Music] you're right i'm not getting anything from the birthright when our father dies he's not going to leave over anything i don't care about it okay now we're going to page 129 chapter 26 there was a famine in the land and that's another reason ishaq became poor aside from the first famine that was in the days of avraham and israel was forced to go to avi melech the king of pristine because there was no food and hashem said to yitzhak don't go down to egypt dwell in the land that i shall indicate to you yes was on a higher plane unlike avraham and yankov who had two wives yitzhak only had one wife or yaakov had four wives yitzhak was only allowed to marry one wife that is another reason why he prayed so much for rifka because he was not allowed to divorce her and marry someone else or marry a second wife rather why was that because he was offered as a corban as a sacrifice to god by the akida he became like an offering to god his whole life is now dedicated to god and therefore he has to do everything perfectly he cannot marry two wives and he cannot leave the land of israel he has to stay in the land of israel from the moment he was born until the moment he died he stayed in the land of israel his whole life and hashem says to hashem said to yitzhak don't worry i will increase your offspring like the stars of the heaven and whatever i promised abraham i'm going to give to you and i will give you the all these lands because avraham obeyed my voice and observed my safeguards my commandments my decrees and my torahs so ish listen to hashem and he settled in girard and when the man of the country asked him about his wife again as it happened with sarah people are impressed with jewish girls and he said she is my sister for he was afraid to say my wife not to be killed and when azim allah one time saw that yitzhak are not behaving like a brother and sister rather he's treating her with much more intimacy much much more gentleness than us brother would treat his sister with and she summoned issac and said look she's your wife why did you say she's my sister and yes upset because i said i might be killed because of her and as melek said you put us in a very dangerous position one of the people who was about to have relations with your wife he meant him he himself avi melek then warned all the people saying whoever molested this man or his wife shall be surely put to death now finally verse 12 says ishak planted in that land and in that year he reaped a hundred fold thus had hashem blessed him only now yitzhak received the financial blessing until now he's poor the man became great and kept becoming greater until he was very great he had acquired flocks and herds and many enterprises and the philistines the palestinians and vietnam exact story that we witness again and again the jewish people become greater than the local population and the local population and with them and all the wells that his father's servants had dug in the days of abraham his father the palestinians stepped up and filled them with earth this is the same as when the jewish people gave land to palestinians filled with orchards greenhouses wells what did the palestinians do they destroyed the greenhouses they stopped up the wells they destroyed everything why take it and use it in good health no we don't care it reminds us of jewish success and we hate it so to their own detriment they destroyed all the businesses the jewish people opened and avimelech came to itzhak and said go away from us for you have become much mightier than we and in hebrew it can be translated as you became mighty because of us you took it from us do you know where all your wealth is coming from from our pockets you the jews [Music] stole our money even though they forget they were poor before and they stayed poor the jewish people became rich they didn't take it from anyone everyone around them remained in their original positions and more often than not fared better when the jews were around than when the jews were not there but still the same refrain we see we hear again and again the rich are getting richer because of the poor so it had departed from there and encamped some distance away in gerar and his her dug new wells and again they found water and in verse 19 they dug again and verse 20 the herdsmen of gerard quarrelled with yet saying what is ours whatever we accomplish the non-jews claim the credit for themselves 21 then they dug another well and they quarreled over it as well 22 he relocated and dug another well and they did not quarrel over it so he called its name which means vast expanse which means easier time for now hashem has granted us ample space and we can be fruitful in the land now finally israel was relieved and the city of richovod still stands until today a question is being asked how can his hack say that it is his sister what if they take her so again just like with sarah it was precaution because if somebody knows that they're married in the in in secretly they will kill the husband and kidnap the wife but if they know that it is her brother then there is no need to kill you can be more civil you can approach the brother and say i'll give you money for the hand of your sister and then yitzhak would know that somebody is interested and then they can run away so it gives them advantage they did not expect that avimelech or paro will act in an uncivilized manner and will kidnap sarah or rifka even from the brother so whatever they did was proper they did proper effort in trying to protect themselves to give themselves a warning if trouble is coming but we see that it didn't help from here we learned that a jew has to do what he has to do but the salvation is going to come from elsewhere you're still not free from just sitting idly being lazy you still have to put an effort but relying on god that god will save you in a way that is unexpected now we continue then he went to berchev and hashem came to him and again promised him fear not for i am with you i will bless you and increase your offspring because of avraham my servant then avi malek saw that israel is successful and he came to make a peace treaty just like he did with avraham and he said let us make a covenant with you now you are blessed of hashem [Music] verse 31 they awoke early in the morning and swore to one another and the servants of yitzchak came to him and said we have found water they dug another well and this was the seventh well they dug and they found water again and he named the name the name of the well shiva which means seven and the name of the city is bear chef until this day so we have now two reasons why the city of berchev is called the sher either it means like avraham called it seven because avraham uh separated seven sheep when he made the covenant peace treaty with avimalis he separated seven sheep as a sign of the covenant he gave this ship to avimer and that's why he called the name of the city beer sheva the well of the seven sheep here yitzhak is calling the play the name of the place also beer sheva because of the seventh wealth or because of the the word which means oath swear because they swore to each other so there are three reasons why the city is called beersheba now first e asap was 40 years old and he gets married to whom to yehudi from the tribe of hittite and basmat also from the tribe of kitai however they were idol worshipers and they were source of spiritual rebellion to israel and now we come to chapter 27 the famous chapter 27 where yitzchak blesses was 123 years old which means yakov is now 63 years and he called a7 said i want to bless you and rifka prophetically found out about it and she right away called yaakov and said verse nine go now to the flock and fetch two choice young kids of the goats and i will make them delicacies for your father bring it to your father so that he may bless you before his death rivka said i know that you're going to be greater your father doesn't know i didn't tell him because god didn't allow me to reveal the secret so your father is mistaken and he wants to bless esau and yaakov tells rivka you're right my dear mother asap doesn't deserve it because i bought the the right of the first born and risk said all the more so i received the prophecy and you prepared the ground by buying the the right of the firstborn you deserve it but we're not allowed to reveal it to your father i'm not allowed to because god did not allow me to reveal that prophecy and you're not allowed to because that would be speaking about asav we have to take the math into our hands go and get the blessing but jakob says i'm afraid my brother is a hairy man and i'm smooth-skinned man perhaps my father will feel me and he will curse me instead of a blessing shalom and his mother said don't worry your curse will be upon me which means it's not gonna happen i know prophetically that you will be the greater one must be your father will bless you so she prepared the food and she put a skin of a goat on his neck and then on his arms and he came to his father and he said to his son in verse 20 how is it that you were so quick he tests him come close if you please so i can feel you so jacob came and he felt him and said the voice is yaakov's voice but the hands are asap's hands he did not recognize him and he said you are indeed my son a son and he said come close to me i want to kiss you he came yaakov came and he kissed him and he said the fragrance of my son is like the fragrance of a field which hashem had blessed which means it smells like gan eden he felt the kidusha the the holiness of yaakov and he blessed him the blessing the great blessing of ithaca may god give you of the dew of the heavens and of the fatness of the earth and the abundant grain and wine nations will serve you and regimes will prostrate themselves to you be a lord to your brothers and your mother's sons will prostrate themselves to you curse be they who curse you and blessed be they who bless you as soon as he finished the blessing asap knocked and yankov had to run away and asap came from his hunt he is said to him who are you and he said i'm your firstborn a son yitzhak trembled a very in very great perplexity wow he was shocked what had just happened and now the ace of just came and all of a sudden he realized i must have made a mistake all my life i lived with my children that i thought were righteous and now i see i'm in trouble what just happened and he realized must be this god's desire whatever we try to do and things work out differently we have to say it's me from god let it be like that i accept indeed he shall remain blessed whoever just came previously when asaph heard these words he cried out and exceedingly great and bitter cry that is the cry of the evil ones on their deathbed before they leave the world they all of a sudden see that they wasted their life and they give out a great cry they want another chance they don't want to go to gehena but it's too late and he said bless me too father when asa where but but it said your brother came with cleverness and took your blessing and asap said this is the second time he outwitted me he took away my birthright and that's a lie because he didn't take it away he bought it and now he took away my blessing which is also a lie because it's not his blessing anymore it's for the firstborn and since yaakov bought the firstborn right the blessings are now yaakovs so if asaf is denying two basic facts and he's blaming yaakov and we see again and again that evil is blaming the good and it's calling good bad and he asks his father have you not reserved the blessing for me bless me too father and he raised his voice and wept and yeshua said okay i'll give you a blessing of the fatness of the earth shall be your dwelling and of the dew of the heavens from above by your sword you shall leave but your brother you shall serve verse 41 now asap harbored hatred toward yaakov and he said when my father dies i will kill yaakov and rifka deceived prophecy that asap wants to kill yaakov and she called yaakov and she said to him your brother wants to kill you run away to my brother lavan to haram why should i lose both of you on the same day and arifka came to yitzhak and she said to him explaining why yaakov needs to run away i'm disgusted with my life on account of the daughters of het which means wives of your dear son asa if yaakov also takes the wife from the daughters of hat like these what is life to me i don't want such daughters-in-law so yitzhak agreed and he called yaakov and said do not take a wife from the canaanite women like your dear brother go to padangaram and take a wife from the daughters of lavan and may god bless you make you fruitful and make you numerous and make you be a congregation of people may he grant you the blessing of you and to your offspring with you that you may possess the land of your sojourns which god gave to avraham so yitzhak again blesses yaakov this time knowingly to show him that the blessing he received truly belongs to him yaakov went toward padanaram and then in the next torah portion we will learn what happened on the way um verse eight when is asav perceived that the daughters of canaan were evil in the eyes of ishak he went and she took mahlot the daughter of ishmael in addition to his wives as a wife for himself so here we see the duality of asap he sees what his father doesn't like but he doesn't correct it he just goes and covers it up puts a band-aid over it you don't like those i'm not going to divorce them i'm just going to take a third wife for pretend and our sages say he took another evil woman on top of these two evil women and with this we finished parashat now just one question evil is blaming good but yaakov didn't earn the blessing that's the truth of the matter this is not so yakov did earn the blessing he paid for it he bought the blessing he lied about it right no the truth of the matter is this is wrong um he did not lie about it he said the truth i am the firstborn because i brought the right isn't that kind uh kind of evil and the truth of the matter is this is not evil this is the true the truth um surprisingly the truth is not what we have heard mistakenly from from society that yaakov is a trickster no yaakov is telling the truth is just that since yaakov is limited he is not allowed to reveal secrets to his father just like rifka is not allowed to reveal secrets to her husband that would be the best she would come to him and say it you are mistaken um god gave me a prophecy that we should bless yaakov and yaakov would come to israel and say my dear father i bought the firstborn right from asap so it doesn't want doesn't want it here's the document everything would be smooth but they were not allowed to so they were taking something that belongs to them and in such a case it is permitted um so even though they had to do it in a in a way where they could not reveal the truth but they still had to do what needed to be done and one last question why was it so important to get the blessing and from here we see how important it is the blessing of the father the blessing of sadiq it was not just a superficial blessing but it was the transfer of the mission to be the leader of the world the spiritual leader of the whole world so um as they say that sadik says and god fulfills um and they knew it acev knew that is why he's crying bitterly and and yaakov knows it thank you very much for listening next week bizat hashem we're gonna move our class to uh evening time 9 pm [Music] you