Rabbi Binyamin Yuhanan - Parashat Vayeshev

[Music] good evening happy hanukkah today we are learning and it's a it's a difficult partial to understand a lot of things that are happening in this week's partial need explanation number one at the very beginning it says that uh we're by the way on page 199 in the art scroll humash yaakov settled in the land of his father's sojournings in the land of canaan finally yakov came home after not being home for 22 years and he settled these are the chronicles of yaakov chronicles means either history or it can mean the descendants and as the number one descendant the totalist yosef at the age of 17 years was a shepherd with his brothers by the flock and he was a friendly youth with the sons of bill and sons of zilpah his father's wives so number one question that we have is um why does it say these are the chronicles or the children of yaakov and it says joseph joseph was the 11th son of yaakov why is he listed first so the commentators explain that really he was supposed to be the first because yaakov wanted to marry rashel if he would have married only rachel yosef would have been first number the answer number two is that joseph looked very much like yaakov they were like twins so if you would look at yourself you'll say oh that's the son of yaku so who are the children of yaakov the one that is the the that resembles him the most is yosef the third answer is yaakov because he loved rahil and therefore he loved his uh son joseph the most he told him the entire torah everything he knew all the whole tradition that he received from abraham and yitzhak and from the yeshiva of shem the ever he transferred to yourself so yourself became his spiritual heir he is the one that carries the the whole family as the is the leader now the second difficulty we encounter in this week's parsha is in the middle of verse 2 though we didn't read yet and yourself would bring evil reports about them about the brothers to their father very difficult to understand joseph is bringing evil reports he's speaking he's trying to blame the brothers he's trying to paint brothers in in the in the [Music] bad light in front of his father what is this is joseph the first the the first uh what we call mosser the one that over jewish people to the authorities shalom what is trying to do yosef who is the youngest active son because binyamin even though he was younger but he is too young binyamin is a baby joseph is the youngest son out of these 11 brothers that are active and as the youngest son sometimes he tries to get things and his brothers are interfering the brothers are not letting the older brothers so the youngest child goes to parents to for protection and he tries to blame the brothers for bad behavior so that the parent punishes them removes them from his life and then the youngest can get whatever he wants is that what joseph is trying to do he is number 11 he is trying to become number one why is joseph bringing evil reports about his brothers to the father and on top of that verse 3 says now israel loved yourself more than all his sons since he was a child of his old age and not only he loved him in his heart and he made him a fine woolen tunic he made him a very beautiful garment why is yakov doing such a thing why is he giving a beautiful gift to his son yourself and not to any other son this is not the behavior that we would recommend uh parents right now we tell parents don't treat some of your children better than you do with others it will cause sibling rivalry it will cause low self-esteem by other brothers and it will cause that the the children who are less loved they will feel that their parents not only love them less they will feel that their parents hate them just like we see that it says that leia was hated leia wasn't hated just yakov loved rahel more slightly more than leia but to leia it felt like she was hated so it's very surprising why is yaakov doing it and that's exactly what happened the brothers saw that it was he whom their father loved most of all his brothers so they hated him and they could not speak to him peacefully so the brothers now see that the father loves joseph and they also think they know the reason why they know that joseph is speaking badly about them joseph is saying so they think it's all joseph's fault they're not even blaming yaakov they're saying do you know why our father is treating joseph better than us it's because joseph blames us for sins that we didn't do he's trying to damage our image in yakov's eyes so they view yourself as what's called a rhodef rodev means a pursuer somebody who is pursuing you to either damage you or to hustle to kill you so either the rule is that you are allowed to rise up against such a pursuer and you're allowed to defend yourself and even to kill him someone comes to kill you you should get up and kill him first so the brothers are blaming joseph for everything and what is really happening what's really happening is we said that it's coming both ways yaakov is loving joseph not because joseph is painting bad picture of the brothers no jacob loves the brothers as well but he loves joseph more as we explained because he for seven years worked for rachel for all those seven years he was dreaming how he will marry her and how he will have the twelve tribes from rachel he was tricked it didn't work according to his plan finally after seven years after almost seven years being married to rachel he had uh uh joseph born so he waited for yosef for almost 14 years and and therefore yaakov understandably had great love for he felt that he really was supposed to be his first son he was supposed to be the beginning of the 12 sons that are going to come from his beloved wife and on top of that his beloved wife rachel passed away and now he sees in yosef both his first son and a reminder about his wife every time he looks at joseph he is reminded of all the years he worked for he is reminded of the difficult life that rachel lived he's reminded of the trickery that he had to suffer under lavan and all that is concentrated in yourself so many feelings it's so emotional every time he looks at joseph so he treats joseph better not because of the evil report he treats joseph because so much of his life is connected to him and what about joseph why is he bringing evil reports about the brothers so joseph was really fulfilling his life mission he was supposed to be the leader of the jewish people he was supposed to be the firstborn and even though he's young he by nature is a manager by nature he's overseer just like late in life he will become the manager of the entire egypt and he will do a good job he will see which farmer is doing good job which farmer is trying to hide his wheat and which foreigners are coming to buy everything is under his eye so he's supposed to be like the masjid and uh he's looking at his brothers and he's saying i see they're not perfect i have to improve them i have to but they're not going to listen to me i'm just a kid so i have to tell my father to rebuke them to set them on the right path for their benefit joseph is not thinking that i want to rule my brothers he loves his brothers as we're going to see later when he had the power to punish the brothers for what they have done he didn't because his uh mission is not to seek revenge not to punish anybody but to improve them as even his name suggests yourself yourself means to increase to improve to make better to make addition that's his mission and the brothers didn't understand it but at the same time joseph made mistakes he as an inexperienced masjid manager he looked at his brothers and he saw certain behavior that he thought was inappropriate and instead of as the rules of lashon dictate instead of asking his brothers approaching them and saying i noticed that you're doing such and such can you please explain to me what happened can you confirm that what i saw was correct is there a reason why you're doing it am i understanding it correctly you have to first approach the object of your of of your potential uh and you have to give them a chance to explain themselves that's what is required of us in order to make sure that we understand the situation correctly instead of right away judging a person and going and spreading the information to others first give him a chance i saw him doing something let me go and tell others no first approach him and say i noticed some inappropriate behavior i'm giving you a chance to explain it that maybe i'm not seeing right or to apologize and to correct your behavior maybe you will acknowledge your mistake accept upon yourself not to do it anymore and then that's it okay case closed i don't have to say to anyone else or maybe you will explain to me what really happened maybe this background maybe your intention was different maybe it happened by accident or maybe i'm not seeing the whole picture but joseph didn't do that joseph thought that he knows for sure that they're doing something wrong it looked so bad and so real that in there was no doubt in his mind so he immediately went to his father and complained now what did he see says that he saw three things and uh one of which was that he saw their eating a limb of a living animal and this was forbidden even for non-jews before the torah was given they had a prohibition of eating a limb of a of uh an animal that did not die yet and here he sees they're taking an animal cutting it up to pieces and eating it without shrita without ritual slaughter and without waiting for the animal to expire says there can be no explanation for this here i see they're taking this calf they're cutting it up and they're eating it no excuse there cannot be any explanation and it's forbidden not only that it's forbidden with death penalty for a non-jew to do such a thing for a jew it's forbidden with lashes for non-jew it's forbidden with death penalty so joseph sees this and he says i have to stop them i have to inform my father that that his children are doing something that is punishable by death and really what happened really what happened was that the the brothers they wanted to eat meat and for some reason instead of um shackling one of their own animals they decided and this is a [Music] kabbalistic idea i'm not familiar with it they decided to create a calf and they had ability they had the knowledge of the spiritual workings of the world they knew how to manipulate spiritual reality to affect physical reality and they created and the first artificial meat artificial animal it looked like an animal it behaved like an animal but it was not an animal and therefore when they shifted it or they didn't have to shift it when they cut it up they were just cutting up a mass of meat he was not alive they did not give it a soul like the the fable or the story of golem of prague where it says that the maharal of prague whether it's true or not is disputed but the story goes that maharal of prague created a golem in order to have someone to defend the jewish people against the pogroms of the of the of the going and so he created a using kabbalah he created some creature that looked like a human being but it did not possess a soul was like a robot and it would um go and the story goes that they would do defend the jews so they created the brothers created this golem this uh artificial meat that was not alive but it behaved as if it was a lie it did not have a soul and therefore they were allowed to eat it without shrita because it was not considered alive the prohibition is don't eat a living animal this was not a living animal joseph didn't know this he sees that they are taking a calf seemingly from their flock and just cutting it up and eating it but that's the problem even when you observe someone doing something so wrong and you're so sure that you think there's no chance that that that uh there's any explanation for this still stop and ask them approach them they will appreciate they will say oh thank you for asking or they will say oh yeah i'm sorry i i couldn't control myself yeah i'm sorry i'm not to do this anymore we should learn from joseph and not repeat this mistake and other other misinterpretations like this he saw them doing something and he thought that they're doing something wrong when in fact what they were doing it was kosher their mistake was that they did not put a some kind of um a reminder or a sign that what they're doing is okay just like in our times if i'm eating meat and i want to drink together with it coconut milk or rice milk i should not pour it in my cup and drink it with meat meal because it looks like i'm drinking milk with meat what i'm supposed to do is keep the container of coconut milk or rice milk next to me so that if anybody sees oh it's milk he'll look next to it and say oh no it's rice milk it's coconut milk we're supposed to consider that perhaps someone will see us even if we're alone and in case of brothers they were alone they were in the desert no one around them so they thought they're safe they didn't think that their own brother will do such a thing yes their brother might visit but he'll ask them what's going on i'm curious and they'll explain but you cannot rely on this even if you're alone but you're doing something that if somebody would see you they would think that you're doing something wrong you're not allowed to do this this is called married ha-ey vision of the eye which means you have to avoid the vision of the eye or the way it's going to look and they didn't they should have maybe put a sign this animal is not a real animal you're entering experimental zone we're conducting experiments on artificial meat over here and they didn't take such precaution now because of this both were punished in fact all three were punished it says that if somebody speaks on there are three casualties the one that speaks the one who is who is spoken about and the listener so here joseph was punished that he was sold into slavery the brothers were punished that later they had to undergo so much stress and embarrassment facing joseph and yato was punished for listening to this that his son went missing for so many years now we continue on page 201. we stopped that brothers heard that he's speaking badly about them and they saw that his father is treating yourself better than them he's giving him gifts a beautiful tunic jummah and they hate joseph on top of that joseph makes the matters even worse verse five joseph dreamt a dream which he told to his father to his brothers and they hated him even more for his dream what was the dream such a terrible dream that they hated him verse 7 explains we were binding sheaves in the middle of the field he and his brothers when behold my sheaf arose and remain standing and your sheaves gathered around and bowed down to my sheath the 11 bundles of the other brothers bowed down to joseph's bundle that was standing the brothers assumed that since he's dreaming about ruling over them during the day that is why he has such dreams at night and they said to him would you reign over us would you dominate us and they hated him even more and to make matters worse he dreamt another dream and being a young child he didn't realize that uh he should just be quiet the dream was given to him as a prophecy of what is going to happen not supposed to tell this to his brothers maybe maybe the father and he makes another mistake and he relates the dream to his brothers and he said look i dreamt another dream the sun the moon and 11 stars were bowing down to me now he's including his father and his stepmother in the dream that they're also going to bow down to me and now brothers can't handle it anymore not only you have such good spa that you're telling us that all your older brothers are gonna bow down to you now you're saying that even your father this sounds like a rebellion and unfortunately we we have seen it numerous times that the children of great personalities they try to overthrow their own parents like like david children adonia his own children wanted to take the power away from their father and now you yourself you want to make yaakov subservant to you and he related it to his father and to his brothers his father rebuked him and said to him what is this dream that you have dread are we to come i and your mother and your brothers to bow down to you to the ground so his brothers continued being jealous of him but his father kept the matter in mind the father understood that this is a prophecy it could be that the father did not know that joseph said this to the brothers otherwise he would have stopped him and told him don't talk about this not appropriate keep it to yourself this is a prophecy that god gave you keep it to yourself but it's possible that he said it separated to the father and separate to the brothers so the brothers were very jealous and upset in him and the father didn't know he rebuked him a little bit that that joseph is suggesting that his father and mother will come to bow down but he didn't stop him from um saying these dreams to the to brothers now we're on page 203 sometime later his brothers went to pasture their father's flock in shechem and um the commentators say that shechem is a place where trouble happens to the jewish people dina was kidnapped in shechem and now the brothers are in shechem and joseph is going to meet them and on on his way to meet them he is going to be sold into slavery and israel yakov said to joseph come i will send you to them go now look into the welfare of your brothers and the welfare of the flock and bring me backward verse 15 a man discovered him jose was walking around looking for his brothers a man saw him and behold he was blundering in the field he didn't know where to go he couldn't find his brothers the man asked him saying what do you seek and he said my brothers do i seek tell me please where they are pestering and what was happening was hashem was protecting him hashem caused that the brothers should leave before yosef comes so that when joseph comes the brothers are not there to protect yosef from the brothers but the man discovered who was this man this man was angel malach gavrien the the angel strict justice he came and he directed joseph you want to do trouble you want to get your brothers into trouble you want to fight your brothers you're saying that you will rule over them when a person is haughty when a person thinks too much of himself hashem will have to test him hashem will have to send malach gabriel and that's what's happening over here hashem and his mercy is trying to protect but the the strict justice comes and says he has to taste his own medicine he is inciting the brothers against him we have to we have to let him continue and so malach gabriel tells him i'll tell you where they are i'll direct you they traveled to dutan and yosef went to dutan and when the brothers saw yosef from far away they conspired against him to kill him and they said look the dreamer is coming let us kill him and throw him into one of the pits and we will say a wild beast devoured him then we shall see what will be with his dreams reuven heard and he rescued him from their hand ruben said let's not kill him and reuben said shed no blood throw him into this pit in the wilderness but lay no hand on on him he intended to rescue joseph from their hand to return him to his father and this is surprising why is reuven out of all brothers standing up for joseph reuven had the most to lose reuven is the firstborn he is the official leader of the family the oldest and joseph is saying that he will take over so reuven naturally should be upset he should stand up for his own honor and position and try to get rid of joseph but we see reuven is a great man that's why leia called rouven rouven why rule then look at my son look he is so strong and so great his brother his youngest brother is trying to overthrow him and he not only doesn't resist he protects the brother reuven told them don't lay hand on him if god wants to punish him let's leave it up to god let's take joseph throw him into a pit and that's it now we're leaving it in the hands of god if god decides that joseph needs to die he will not save him he will send snakes on scorpions and they will kill him but if god decides that that joseph needs to live he will find a way to take him out and brothers agreed they said yes you're right let's not shed his blood since really we're not sure we think he is real deaf he we think he is coming to get us and therefore we want to stop him but we don't know hundred percent what his intention is so let us not kill him let us give over his life into god's hands and so it was when joseph came to his brothers they stripped joseph of his tunic the joma that his father gave him and they took him and cast him into the pit and the pit was empty there was no water in it which means he couldn't survive there for long there was no water he wouldn't be able to drink anything and our sages say not only there was no water but there were dangerous creatures in there snakes and scorpions now verse 25 on page 205 they said to eat food they raised their eyes and they saw a caravan of ishmaelites was coming from gilad the camels bearing spices balsam and lotus on their way to bring them down to egypt and yose and yehuda said to his brothers what gain will there be if we kill our brother and cover up his blood let us sell him to the ishmaelites if we just allow him to die in the pit even if god decides that he deserves death and kills him but what are we gaining yeah we get rid of our our enemy but if we can earn some money in the process let us do that let's send him to a country from which no slave ever escaped let us turn him into a slave a lowly slave who has no chance of ever being a ruler the law in egypt states that a slave cannot rule sounds good his brothers agreed and they drew joseph up and lifted him out of the pit and sold joseph to the ishmaelites for 20 pieces of silver now this what's happening in this in this parsha is very similar it's very similar to what's happening in the world right now what's happening in our our life is that we're following a very exciting election election that's that's instead of one day is already lasting over 35 days and uh there is no end in sight yet in the election they're trying to choose to decide who is for and who is against the counting the states the state is for the state is against this state against that state now here the same thing is happening you have 12 brothers you also being one of them and we hear that joseph's brothers sold him into slavery joseph's brothers wanted to kill him and if we analyze if we do election who is against yourself and who is for yosef number one we'll see that binyamin does not participate he is young he is with yaakov so now there are 10 brothers against one but at the beginning of the partial we saw that he was a friendly youth with the sons of bill and the sons of zilpah that means that joseph is friendly with the two sons of bill and two sons of zilpah that means already four brothers are on your side plus binyamin that means that you have five brothers plus yourself that's six against the other six who are the other six the sons of leia leia had six sons so the children of children of children of zilpah are all on your side so it's six against six now we just saw that reuven really was friendly towards joseph he wanted to save him from death so now that makes it seven against five and now we just see that yehuda also wants to protect yosef he doesn't want to see him die later when the brothers will tell yehuda why did you tell us to sell him why didn't you just tell us to bring him back to his father just to threaten him to warn him and return to the father we would listen to you you would have said i didn't know i really wanted him to go back to the father but i thought that i will be overpowered i outnumbered so really yehuda was on your subside as well that makes it eight against four so far only four brothers were against yosef and midrash says that really the i'm sorry yeah the the sorry the the last two brothers of the last two children uh of leia is since they were the youngest children of leia they would listen to yehuda and reuven they wouldn't go against them so what comes out that really ten brothers were on joseph's side including joseph himself in reality only two brothers were against joseph only a shaman and levi the second and the third children of leia but why did this happen because there was no communication they did not count the votes correctly if they would count all the votes they would give equal opportunity to every brother to express his feelings towards joseph they would see that 10 out of 12 or against hurting joseph and joseph would not be harmed the reason why joseph was sold to egypt was because brothers were afraid to voice their opinion they thought that they are gonna lose this teaches us a great lesson never give up fight for truth just like avraham he was not afraid to fight even against god to argue against god again and again and again and again and here we see this death threat to joseph and the brothers are quiet and they're finding excuses reuben says oh let us throw him to the pit and he wants to trick the brothers come back late at night and take yourself out why does ruben say openly and you would also later he will say i really wanted to save him but i thought you're not gonna listen why isn't yehuda open why is this sakura in the world why aren't god nathalie um and uh and ocean why eight brothers are quiet okay binyamin is not in the picture okay uh joseph himself has no voice but eight against two because they're afraid they're quiet now let's continue we are on page 205 verse 29. reuben returned to the pit after they sold him reuben was not involved in a sale and behold joseph was not in the pit wow so he read his garments reuven thought joseph died returning to his brothers now on page 207 he said the boy is gone and i where can i go what am i gonna say to my father now his true intentions became revealed now reuven tells the brothers why he wanted to save joseph because he would be too embarrassed to face his father as the firstborn he would have responsibility to be the the one in charge the protector he is responsible for all his younger brothers yaakov is going to say reuven where were you did you see yourself yes i saw him what happened to him i don't know we left him in the pit and we came back he wasn't there what we're gonna do so the brothers informed rooven what happened they calmed him down don't worry we didn't kill him we just sold him reuben feels bad he missed he missed his chance to save joseph what can they do now they have to find the an excuse why they're coming home without joseph jacob's gonna ask them i sent joseph to you what happened to him so they took joseph's jama tunic slaughtered the goat a young goat and dipped the tunic in the blood and they sent with a messenger with one of the slaves the fine woolen tunic and they brought it to their father and said we found this we found this piece of clothing we're not sure looks familiar if you please identify is it your son's tunic or not jacob looked at it and recognized it and he said my son's tunic a savage beast devoured him joseph has surely been torn to bits imagine a father saying this about his own son how hard it is how heartbreaking it is to see the blood of your own son shalom yaakov rent his garments and place cyclops on his loins and he mourned for his son many days and he said i will go down to the grave mourning for my son i will never forget him and his father cried for him and all his sons and his daughters and grandsons and granddaughters and his daughters-in-law tried to comfort him but he refused to comfort himself [Music] verse 36 the meta knights sold joseph to egypt to potiphar the minister of paro the chamberlain of butchers now on page 209 the torah now switches to what to the story of yehuda what happened to the to yehudah now that joseph is out of the picture reuven feels bad that he feels that he is uh the cause of joseph's suffering and uh and yakov's suffering he steps away from the leadership of the family and you would also the brothers turn to him and say why did you tell us we regret what we did you could have stopped us and you didn't and it was at that time that you would have went down from his brothers yehuda also descends from the leadership temporarily and turned away towards a doulamite man whose name was then he saw a daughter of a prominent merchant and he married her verse three she conceived and bore a son and then another son on and then a third son shallah verse six yehuda took a wife for air her name was tamar but heir was evil and eyes of hashem and hashem caused him to die then you would have said to his second son on take your brother's wife and enter into the leverage marriage with her levier in english means brother-in-law when the brother-in-law takes the wife of his brother deceased brother that's called leverage marriage this is a a torah commandment that if a brother dies childless his brother should take his wife and they should have a child and the child will have a soul of the deceased brother and establish offspring for your brother but o not knew that the seed wouldn't be his it would be called on his brother's name the first born that's born from this union goes to the name of his brother and inherits his brother's estate so he didn't want to have a child that's not going to be his so whenever he would consort with his brother's wife he would let it go the seed go to waste on the ground so as not to provide offspring for his brother and what he did was evil in the eyes of hashem and he caused him to die also now yehudah was afraid two of his sons died and he said maybe they died because of this woman tamar maybe she's dangerous so he said to her remain a widow until my son shalla grows up but he said i don't want him to marry her because he might die like his brothers many days passed and yehuda's wife died and after some time you was traveling and uh we're on page 211 tamar was told that your father-in-law is coming and she grabbed the opportunity she removed her widow's guard and covered herself with a veil and she sat by the crossroads verse 15 yehuda saw her and thought her to be a harlot so he said to her let me consort with you and verse 17 she's she said provide provided you leave a pledge until you send payment and she said your ring with which you signed letters your rap which the sages say was his it but simply it means his belt and your staff like a noble man he carried a staff and he gave them to her and she conceived from yehuda now really she didn't do anything wrong because before the torah was given the elaborate marriage was possible to be done by any close relative so you would be her uh father-in-law the father of the the boy the two boys that died he was allowed to marry her but she knew that he will be afraid to do that so she had to trick him and then you would have sent her the the the goat as a payment but she was no longer there because she came temporarily just to seduce him now on page 213 three months later yehuda was told your daughter-in-law tamar has committed harlotry he she conceived by harlotry and you would have said take her out and let her let her be burned there's a question why if she is not married she's just awaiting marriage why is there death penalty on her and there are various explanations not going into them but um there is is what to discuss over there now as she was taken out to be burnt she sent word to her father-in-law saying by the man to whom these belong i conceived and she said identifies you please whose are these the ring the rap and the staff and you don't recognize that he said she is right it is from me because i did not give her my son shellah as a husband god caused it to happen and when time came to give birth there were twins in her womb and they called the first one perez and the second one eventually um from her descendants will come david now we're in chapter 39 we're coming back to the story of yourself yosef had been brought down to egypt but potiphar purchased him from the ishmaelites now on page 215. verse 2 hashem was with joseph and he became successful verse 3 his master perceived that hashem was with him and whatever he did hashem may succeed in his end so he appointed him over his entire household verse 5 hashem bless the egyptians house on joseph's account now the challenges start joseph is successful he's beautiful young at verse seven his master's wife cast her eyes upon joseph and she said lie with me but he added adamantly refused and she tried all the tricks in the book to seduce him but he would not budge now on page 217 one time when no man were in the house joseph came in and she caught hold of him by his garment saying lie with me but he left his garment in her hand and he fled and went outside so she was very disappointed and she started hating joseph and she decided to take revenge verse 14 she called out to the man of her household and said look my husband brought us a hebrew man to sport with us he came to lie with me but i called out with a loud scream and i raised my voice and he left the garment next to me and fled and went outside so she changed the story as if joseph came to rape her and when verse 19 when his master heard his wife's words his anger flared up and he threw joseph into a dungeon into prison but hashem was with joseph and the end of the chapter says whatever he did hashem made successful now we are in chapter 40. 10 years later joseph is in prison verse 2 paro was enraged at his two ministers the chamberlain of cabers and chamberlain of bakers and he placed them in the prison where joseph was and they remained in prison for one year so joseph was in prison already for nine years after being in the house of pratifah for one year and now he's in prison for an additional year already joseph is in prison for 10 years plus one year in potiphar's house he was sold when he was 17. now joseph is 28. verse 5. the two of them dreamt a dream and uh they couldn't explain it and they were worried joseph came to them in the morning and told them why are you worried they said whoever jimmy cannot explain it so yes yourself don't worry tell me the dream maybe god will help and the first dream was the chamberlain of the cup bears there was a grape vine in front of me and on the grapevine were three tendrils and it butted and blossomed and bloomed and its clusters ripened into grapes and i was holding paro's cup in my hand and i took the grapes pressed them into the cup and place the cup on paro's palm so joseph said this is the interpretation in another three days paro will lift up your head and will restore your you to your post and you will continue serving paro please when you go back mention me to paro now this was a mistake yourself should not have relied on human flesh and blood you should rely on hashem and because of that he had to remain in prison for another two years now go to page 221 the chamberlain of baker's dream three baskets were on my head and in the top basket were all kinds of food bakers handiwork and birds were eating them from the basket above my head joseph said this is its interpretation in three days paro will lift your head from you and hang you on the tree birds will eat your flesh from you and so it was in three days was paro's birthday and he decided to restore the chamberlain of the cup bears but he hanged the chamberlain over the bakers just as joseph had interpreted and the last verse 23 yet the chamberlain of the cup bears did not remember joseph but he forgot him now a good question is being asked on the chat why is it wrong of yosef to advocate for himself isn't person supposed to do his best in any situation besides having a muna why was it a mistake that joseph asked others to help get out of prison now these are both very good questions on one hand yes a person is supposed to do his part on the other hand we see that yosef's request did not bear fruit the chamberlain of the cup bearers the butler forgot that means that god did not allow joseph's request to produce anything that means god did not approve if you do something and it's it works so you can say probably this is what i was supposed to do but if you do something and it doesn't work okay i put in effort maybe that's what god wanted but if you see that not only that it actually caused the delay that means that my effort was detrimental that if somebody is being pushed by time which means he wants something to happen now and it's not happening he's impatient he should not push because if he pushes the time will push against him even further which means sometimes you have to be patient and sometimes the the situation will improve quickly soon if you show hashem i'm relying on you i don't see a way out i want it to happen now it's not happening hashem will say you trust me it's gonna change right away but if i start pushing and pushing no i want i speak to this guy i'm gonna sue you i'm gonna do this i'm gonna complain i'm gonna request i'm gonna fight hashem says you think you're in charge you're not even asking for help i'm gonna show you that you're not in charge so number one we see from the result of what happened that joseph's request was not successful not only that it caused the delay of two years we see that he wasn't supposed to do it but also on joseph's level we say that yes you have to do hishta loot you have to pre you have to put in effort how much whatever is missing from your emunah whatever is missing from your trust in hashem you have to add with your action the more trust you have the less you have to do if you trust fully you don't have to do anything on yourself's level we see that hashem was with him everywhere yourself when hashem was with him even in prison so joseph knew hashem is with him why is he turning away from hashem and and pursuing people so on his great level someone what even he was sold into slavery and thrown into prison he's still with hashem this is a great level such a person should not turn to uh people for help that's that's the the brief answer why why it was wrong of yourself to ask uh for help now another question in the last parsha arifka acted herself and made sure that yaakov rather than asap got the blessing she was acting rather than taking a step back that's true um that's a good question why did rifka take the mata into her own hand and there also you see the same thing it could be she made a mistake we see that even though she forced the issue she told yaakov to go in didn't help yaakov it only made his life difficult he had to be away from his father for 22 years running for his life from asap being afraid to come back and for the the rest of history asap hates yakov and asap tries to eliminate yaakov and he had problems with lavan if rivka didn't do that hashem would find another way of transferring the blessing of informing yitzhak so we see that when you take matters into your own hands it's not good no one is better than hashem as uh just yesterday i heard uh in the name of arabi hasidis he said if i was god do you know what i would do he said if i was god i would do the same thing that god is doing now because what you think i can do better than god the idea is that god is perfect his plan is perfect we cannot dream of doing anything better than god himself so once you realize that god is in charge and he loves you and he helps you you notice that he is involved in your life then become don't worry leave all the difficult things in his hands all you have to do is enjoy observe what's happening hashem will take care you have to make choices decisions that are coming to you don't try to force the issue to pursue to for to push to fight no one can hurt us no one can help us and we see from yosef that no one can help you unless hashem allows them to help you and hashem didn't allow the battle to help that's why the partial finishes the chamberlain of the cup bears did not remember yosef not only he didn't remember he forgot god caused him to forget hashem may we learn from this and be strong may we always have hashem on our lips and on our minds may hashem always be with us maybe we may we be successful and uh hashem may we see the the peace between all the brothers all the tribes of the all the jewish people should come back and stop fighting and bazat hashem should come quickly thank you for listening shabbat shalom [Music]