Rabbi Binyamin Yuhanan - Parashat Vayetze

[Music] good evening welcome everyone today we are beginning our evening classes today is our first class we are learning humash and we are in parsha valley in the last few weeks we learned in the morning and we covered a lot of breadth and depth of our amazing torah and today we're gonna continue i understand that because of the switch in times there might be different people that couldn't make it in the morning and now they're gonna make it in the evening and you may have missed those um classes if you're interested i can send you links to them um and uh i hope you enjoy okay we are using art scroll homage and if you can please get it if you have it open it so that you can look inside i'm going to be reading the english side so you can follow along you can take notes so we're on page 145 of the art school homash and the parsha starts with yaakov traveling from the er to haran now if you think about it why did yaakov have to travel from beer sheva until haran the the reason that we learn in the last week's torah portion is that he is running for his life asap is um hoping when time will come that he'll be able to kill yaakov this is the desire of many non-jews unfortunately um this is just the way hashem created the world that there should be struggle between the good and bad and therefore wherever you have good you will have bad fighting against it we see it in our personal life whenever we want to do good right away the yes the forces of evil attack us um the the the trick how you can use the sarah for your benefit is for example when you're sitting in a doctor's office and you're waiting for your turn or anytime you're waiting online and it's taking too long the ara loves when we waste time so it makes the weight extra long however the way to trick the the evil inclination is to open a humash open a book a safer open any jewish topic or lecture and start learning as soon as you start learning there will be opposition from the the evil side and what choice does it have it made you sit in the doctor's office doing nothing so you're using your time well and learning torah so it will have to find a way to stop you what's the best way to stop you from learning to make the doctor call you right away to make the line move fast so that you abandon your safer and you go for your appointment so it's been tried and proven whenever we go to the doctor my children know it and they tell me quickly open your human start learning so that they take us quickly and it works every time as soon as i open i don't even have time to read one or two pursuing that the doctor comes out and calls us and we save many hours this way why is that because there's eternal struggle between the good and evil and whenever good and evil are next to each other they fight one way to avoid it is to run away as they say if yes comes to attack you what do you do so one of the ways is you have to jump or run to a different location it works physically that if you're just sitting and aboard and wasting your time once you start actively doing something like like running jumping your mind will will become more um excited and it will start thinking of good ideas and spiritually as well when there is evil inclination evil energy present next to you when there is desire to do something bad when there is depression or any other evil manifestation of yet changing your location will help you to get rid of it as it says somebody who changes his location changes his masala means the spiritual flow of energy so that's what yaakov is doing he knows that staying next to aesthetic is dangerous for his well-being physically and spiritually based of his evil we know that avraham avino passed away five years earlier because because of asap so as uh as uh as they say the best way to win an argument is to avoid it so that's what jakob is doing instead of finding asap instead of involving his father to try to uh be the the mediator between them he says you know what i'm just gonna leave my brother better to be far away safe than to be close and fighting so yaakov is running away from beersheba however his father doesn't know why he's running away really because nobody told his father yaakov knows that isa wants to kill him rifki his mother knows that asa wants to kill him aesthet himself knows that he wants to kill yaakov yitzhak his father is the only person in this story that does not know what's going on what does he think he thinks that yaakov is going to get married and he gave him his blessing that he should establish a good family with many children and continue the legacy of abraham avinu but jakub is not going to get married and we see that that's not his plan because on the way to haram he stops by a yeshiva for 14 years his father is thinking that my son went to get married and in the meantime for next 14 years yayakov is learning yeshiva why because on one hand he didn't really go to get married he went to get away from his self but now that he's away from his saf until now he was next to his father from whom he learned the torah now he left the presence of his holy father he needs another source of spiritual growth so he goes to the yeshiva of shem and ever shem the son of noah was still alive at that time and for a few more years after yaakov came in and then he passed away as in his descendant yaakov's great great grandfather was the next head of the yeshiva and yaakov learned under him for the remaining years and when yaakov felt that he is ready to face the real world he is ready to face lavan his future father-in-law the in another evil personality in his life and he is ready to get married then yakov continues on his way so we read yakov departed from beersheva and went toward haran and he stopped by a place and he went to sleep there and hashem arranged it so that it should be the place where his father his hug was bound on the mizbeh on the altar this was the place of the beta mcduch the place of the altar of the temple and he went to sleep right there and of course if you go to sleep in a holy place with holy thoughts you will have holy holy dreams and in verse 12 it says and he dreamt and behold a ladder was said earthward and its top reached heavenward and angels of god were ascending and descending on it he has a vision of angels going to heaven and coming back down now this ladder has many mystical and deep secrets what does it mean on a simple level this was a sign for him that a person never stops growing he may start on earth but he has to know that the ladder is not six foot not eight foot and not even 12 foot it's a ladder that goes all the way to heaven and the person cannot stop he has to continue until he himself is in heaven when he doesn't have any more his body as long as you are alive you have to continue climbing higher and higher that's one lesson of the ladder another lesson of the letter is very important one why specifically a ladder and not a mountain and not a ramp because with just like because a ladder means you have to make specific steps you cannot jump more than one wrong at the same time you cannot walk too slow which means sometimes people you know they they put their foot in the water just to test the what and then they draw away if you make a half a step on the ladder what's gonna be you remain on the same wrong in order to go higher you have to make a specific commitment you have to say i'm taking upon myself keeping this mitzvah and then you are on the higher level if not if you're wishy-washy you're not going it has to be commitment at the same time very important to remember that uh you cannot jump more than one wrong if you do you might fall a lad is designed to make one step at a time and that's what we have to do in in our growth in our spiritual advancement we cannot take too much upon ourselves we cannot say i want to become a sadiq overnight as they say i i want to learn the entire talmud and get a good night's sleep as well so uh in one night so you have to uh make small steps progress continual progress for the rest of your life and don't expect a quick growth it takes time it takes effort and the le the ladder has to be standing on their earth the ladder is not flying high up the ladder is standing on the earth which means that's the third lesson of the ladder that a person cannot expect uh continual and permanent growth until unless he is based on the ground until he has a good foundation without a good foundation the whole thing is going to crumble and unfortunately we have many many cases of people well-meaning people who became observant and they ran too fast they jumped too high they took too much upon themselves and they crashed and they crashed so much that they could not get up again unfortunately so a person has to be based on the ground you have to have a very strong foundation and the top has to be directed towards the heaven now rashi tells us what were these angels going up and down on a simple level these were angels of the land of israel going up to heaven and the angels of outside of the land of israel coming to escort him to his destination because we have different angels inside the land and outside the land now he has a conversation with god in verse 13 behold hashem was standing over him and he said i am hashem god of abraham father your father and god of israel the ground upon which you are lying to you will i give it and to your descendants your offspring shall be as the dust of the earth and you shall spread out powerfully westward eastward northward and southward and all the families of the earth shall bless themselves by you and by your offspring so asha now comes and confirms the blessing that his father gave him and he continues behold i am with you and i will guard you wherever you go and i will return you to this soil for i will not forsake you until i will have done what i have spoken about you a very nice prophecy he gives him a blessing and he promises him that he will protect him and return him safely yaakov wakes up from his sleep we're on page 147 and yaakov replies to hashem surely hashem is present in this place and he said how awesome is this place this is none other than the abode of god and this is the gate of the heavens and he set up a monument like a like an altar he brought an offering of of oil and in verse 20 yaakov took a vow if god will be with me and will guard me on this way and give me bread and water and clothes to wear and return in peace to my father's house and he will will be a god me briefly then now yaakov says what he promises to do for god this stone which i have set up as a pillar shall become a house of god and as we said that place was the future side of the temple of beit mikdash and that's what happened yaakov fulfilled his promise through his children eventually the jewish people built uh attend the temple on that side and one more promise yaakov gives whatever you will give me i shall repeatedly tithe it to you tithe means separate ten percent that means that yaakov took upon himself and upon his descendants a promise to separate marseille 10 of all our income we know that avraham separated we know that yes separate massa they did voluntarily for themselves yaakov not only did it voluntarily for himself he also took it upon his children forever and we as well separate 10 of our income as a thank you to hashem for giving us the hundred percent god gives us a hundred percent we give back ten percent and we share with those that are less fortunate than us now chapter 29 yaakov comes to a well near haran is the city where lavan who comes from the family of between who comes from the family of haram uh lives this city has the same name hara as lavan's grandfather because uh could be it was uh renamed in the in honor of such a such a great personality as as haram now yaakov went toward the land of the easterners the land of haran the city of haran was north east of the land of israel he looked and behold there was a well in the field and there were flocks of sheep lay there beside it and now we turn to page 149 verse 4 yaakov said to them my brothers where are you from and they said we are from and he asked them do you know lavan and they said yes sure and here's his daughter rahel coming with the flock and now yaakov sees that it's still daytime and he asks them it's not yet time to bring the livestock in back home water the flock quickly and go on grazing why are you sitting here waiting for something and they said we have a policy in a city we don't trust each other so we put a large stone on the well so that you need many people to pick it up and so until all the shepherds come we cannot lift the stone in order that no one should steal water and in the meantime rachel arrived with her father's flock and when yaakov saw her he recognized his wife in her and all of a sudden he was inspired he wanted to do something for her and he came forward and rolled the stone off the mouth of the well single-handedly and what are the sheep of lavan his uncle now in verse 11 yeah by the way we see from this that everyone from the descendants of um avraham are great warriors mighty people we know abraham with just a few soldiers conquered four kingdoms we see yaakov over here single-handedly he picks up a stone that a whole village uh of men had to come to to to do what he did and we see later his bro his children the 12 tribes they were so strong that they were not even afraid to fight whole countries whole cities by themselves and they destroyed the whole city of shechem and they were willing to fight the entire egypt so it's not surprising that yaakov is so powerful to to pick up the stone part of the reason why is that in all the times there was a direct correlation between your spiritual uh stature and your physical body the more strong tall beautiful a person was that means the greater soul he had that is why our um mothers four mothers are described as beautiful sarah was so beautiful that the kings constantly tried to kidnap her rifka was so beautiful that again kings tried to kidnap her rahul was very beautiful leia was very beautiful and the reason is not because we put much emphasis on beauty but rather because that showed that they were great women spiritually um spiritual giants and uh we see the same thing about our kings for example king shaw saul saul the torah tells us that he was the tallest man among the jewish people why what's so important that he was told there is the fact that he was tall showed us that he was on a very high spiritual level however after the destruction of both temples there is no longer such a correlation we know in our times that does not exist uh you can have a beautiful human being which does not qualify as a good human being being beautiful handsome tall muscular does not mean that you are good in all the times it meant so now it doesn't you can have an ugly person not handsome short fat and he will be the greatest human being alive he may get the greatest gun eden possible so we have to keep that in mind when we see people we should not judge them according to their look or height or skin color or hair color or length rather we should understand that our eyes now deceive us what may seem beautiful on the outside might not be so on the inside but at that time it was and and again that is the only reason why the torah describes our mothers as beautiful to show that they were perfect in their soul now verse 11 says very interesting uh thing yakov kissed rachel and uh in our modern world this would be inappropriate why should a man kiss a woman she is not his wife first time he's seeing her but what jakob is doing next will show that his intentions were pure and he raised his voice and wept yaakov is crying why is jacob crying he is crying because he sees that she is going to be his wife but at the same time he sees that she is going to die young he sees that she will suffer a lot she will not be able to have many children he sees that she is not destined to be buried with him in maratha magpie and he cries another reason he cries is because he came empty-handed he cannot give her any gifts because on the way he was robbed and so he cries that unlike his father when he got married he had riches from avraham now yaakov wants to get married he has nothing no servants no camels no treasures no document that states that everything that his father has he gets he really came empty-handed now from his action we see that his kiss to rachel was not because of desire was not because of lust it was rather like a grandfather who is kissing his granddaughter and in fact at this point jaakov was 77 years old and rahel was a young girl maybe eight maybe 10 years old maybe 12 the different opinions so a 77 year old man kissing a young girl that gives us a different perspective he's not looking for beauty he looks deeper into her soul and he sees that she is his wife now we continue when lavan this is in for verse 13 when lavan heard the news of yaakov he ran toward him embraced him and kissed him and i'll say just say why did he do that because he thought that yaakov is also coming rich lavan remembered how yaakov's father came when lovan was young and lava and yakov's father not even he his servant came with ten camels loaded with riches and lavan said wow if the servant came so with so much stuff imagine how much the master himself is coming with and he saw that he doesn't have camels no servants simple clothing so he embraced him he said maybe he's hiding jewelry under his clothing he hugged him and hugged him and he saw he's a skinny guy no jewelry hiding under his clothing so then he kissed him and as he kissed him he searched inside his mouth to see maybe he's hiding precious jewels inside his mouth but he came empty tongue from there as well so nothing else to do so he took him to his house now we turn to page 151 11 tells him nevertheless even though you are poor you are my flesh and blood and he stayed with him a month's time after a whole month love tells him yaakov why should you work for me for free now we see that yaku didn't just stay there as a guest he stayed there as a laborer as a worker and even lavan the evil lavan was surprised what's going on yakov i didn't expect that from you i was hoping you're gonna work for me but not so much maybe i should pay you what are your wages verse 16 11 had two daughters leia and younger one both were beautiful the torah specifies that leah's eyes were beautiful and the rachel was beautiful form and beautiful appearance now by saying that her eyes were beautiful or in in english they translate as tender commentators point out that must be her eyes was special why were they special because she cried so much why did she cry so much because she also had a prophecy that just like lavan has two daughters yitzhak has two sons and lavan's two daughters will marry into yitzhak's family so she assumed that she's gonna marry asap and she was crying she didn't want to marry asap so it was visible on her eyes so much she cried so yaakov loved rachel he saw in her his soul and he said i will work for you for seven years for rachel your younger daughter no money in the world i don't need any money just allow me to marry your daughter loving would be happy that jakob should marry his daughter for free but jakob knew that whatever you work hard for will be good and yaakov said in order to build a jewish family you have to work hard i'm willing to work hard for it in fact i'm going to work for seven years and only then i'm gonna get married and lovan said sure i would like to give her to you even for free then to give her to another man stay for seven years now before we continue i just want to say a few words about who lavan was the name lavan means white we know that a saab had another name edom which means red a sav was less of a bad guy than lava esa was bad and his name signified it he was a bloodthirsty murderer and thief and his name was red bloody red at least he was honest asap did not lie he hated yaakov and he expressed it he didn't like someone he went and he fought lavan was different lavan was good on the outside and evil inside his name was lavan white pure good to trick everyone really on the inside he was the worst this is very similar to the way we perceive evil in our days very often it is the the evil people who are talking the most they are praising themselves the most they're blaming everyone else and uh the media promotes them and it seems to uh unaided eye that really these are the greatest people of the whole country and those that are uneducated might really get confused they give themselves good names they they speak in an educated way they claim that they love poor people and want to help them but in reality they are just like lavan they are white on the outside they seem democratic loving peaceful kind but in reality they are the epitome of evil exactly like lavan how are you supposed to deal with them so our sages say whenever you are faced with such with such a challenge when you have to face evil people you should learn this torah portion the torah portion of in which yaakov has to deal with lavan the worst the worst even worse than asap that is why our haggadah the haggadah of pesach starts with words wanted to destroy our father lavan was even worse than pharaoh and paro of egypt that the haggadah tells us that paro only wanted to destroy the boys lavon wanted to destroy everyone including his own daughters his own grandchildren when lavand recognized that yaakov represents good he wanted to destroy him and his wife and his children even though he would be destroying his own children and grandchildren that's how evil levan was so when we learn about him he may look like a a nice grandpa nice guy a little goofy but in reality he is the the top evil master of the world so lavon tells him yes please stay with me i'm gonna love you and pay you and you will have my daughter's wife so yaakov worked for seven years for rashem and they seemed to him a few days because of his love for her then seven years passed yaakov said to lavan give me my wife my term is fulfilled so lavan gathered everyone and made the feast but in the evening he took leia and brought her to yaakov and he gave zilpah as a maid servant to leia and it was only in the morning that jacob recognized that it was leia now by the way many questions are being asked about this how is it that rashel didn't come didn't protest she comes to her own wedding and she is not allowed to go to her bridegroom to her husband why is she not protesting why is she going to sleep quietly in her own tent not with her bridegroom another question why is leia not saying anything she didn't come to her own wedding why is she being led to someone else's husband why is she not informing yakov that she is not the one he wanted very powerful questions how is it and our sages tell us that leia did not know what's going on because levant told leia that she is the chosen one lavan told leia that yaku wants to marry her so all along leia thought that she is the real wife in the meantime rahel did not say anything she knew that the the trick might be might happen and so she and yaakov made up signs secret code she was hoping that she will be the wife but when she saw that her father is planning to give leia to yakov she didn't say anything why not why didn't she protect yaakov and herself against her father and here i would say just say that for her the highest priority was not to hurt her sister if she would protest if she would reveal the plot lei would get embarrassed she would get hurt if she would not tell leia the secret code lei would go there jaka would ask her and recognize that she doesn't know the code and therefore she's not the right one leia would get hurt very much so rachel said i have to give up my husband i have to give up my future in this world and in the next world because if i cannot marry my soul mate what's going to be with me i'll have to marry asap but it's worth it in order to protect my sister once they asked hazon ish what's the highest level human being can reach and hazon ish answered the highest level for the human being to achieve is to go through your entire life and not to hurt even one person and that's what our mothers were rahel was willing to give up everything not to hurt her sister now yaakov came to lavon and said why have you deceived me now turn to page 153 lavon said that's not our custom to marry off younger daughter before the older complete the wee with the week of chevrolet with this bride and i'll give you another wife to you but you'll have to work for another seven years imagine such a trickster not only he tricked him now he tells him you have to pay twice and yaakov does not complain he agrees to it okay lavan i'll work for another seven years so now after seven days of sheila brahat yaakov marries rahel as well but because he feels bad he has nothing against leia but he feels bad that he had to marry two wives he wanted to be like his father yitzhak who only had one wife that's the ideal because of this trick and leia was part of it unknowingly yaakov now has to have two wives not a perfect scenario and he loves rachel more than leia and lei is very hurt jakob loves leia as well but leia feels that someone is loved more than she so she suffers and hashem saw that leia was unloved so hashem opened her womb while rahul remained barren from this sentence we learned that leia was also supposed to be buried and the only reason why she was given children right away was because she was suffering hashem only gives the person what he deserves what was predicted for for him what was predestined certain amount of suffering was predestined for leia and she already received it now hashem has to cancel all other suffering therefore we learn from this that suffering is precious any kind of suffering the person gets he should grab it with both hands with love why because that suffering guarantees that the remainder of his law life will be successful and happy if you try to push away your troubles your suffering and you complain about it especially what you're doing is you're delaying and increasing the suffering for the future shalom but if you say hashem whatever tests you want to give me i'll accept with love i'm not asking for tests but whatever you're going to give me i will try to do my best and whatever suffering comes upon a person has shalom he should accept it with love for example even if you go to a dentist and you feel some pain when they uh give you a shot of anesthesia consider that that pain is as taking away from your suffering that was predestined and when they drill and the anesthesia doesn't work so well yet and you feel the pain keep in mind that that pain takes away so much suffering from me and my family pizza hashem so leia started to give birth to the 12 tribes who are they first rouven then shimon then levi and then yudhan each one she names hoping that this will bring her closer to her husband rooven hashem means see my son hashem should see my humiliation and make me more beloved shimon to listen hashem should listen my humiliation make me more beloved lazy means connection may hashem make it that my husband should connect to me yehuda i thank hashem yehuda comes from the wood to thank i thank hashem for giving me four children and then she stopped giving birth temporarily now in chapter 30 rafale saw that she did not give birth to any children so she became and jealous of her sister she felt bad i also won it was my husband leia took away my husband not took away but she was given my husband and now she's being given my children i was supposed to give birth to 12 tribes where are my children they already gave birth to four and we turned to page 155 she said to yaakov give me children otherwise i'm dead that's how important children are to a woman and yaakov said am i instead of god i i didn't cause you to not to have children it's not the problem with me you see i'm having children you have to pray and what rahul meant was you have to pray for me your father prayed for his wife for your mother otherwise you wouldn't be born so pray for me and she said you know what i'm gonna do what your grandmother did sorry here is my maid bilhah please let her be your other wife and when she will give birth she'll give birth on my knees this was a sigula that when a woman is present when another woman is giving birth and especially when she's giving birth between her knees so it looks as if the baby is coming from the other woman that changes the spiritual reality and now she turns her masala and she's able to have children that's what sarah did by giving hagat and that's what rashford is doing and bill had gave birth and rachel called the son done that god should judge god judged me and he heard my voice and then she gave birth to a second son naftali and then leia saw that temporarily she's not giving birth and she loves children she wants to give birth to more children so she also followed rachel's example and she gave her maidservant zil patuyako now yaakov has forced four wives and zilpah gives birth to god god means good luck in hebrew and zilpah gives another gives birth to another son asher means fortunate les says i'm fortunate now reuven grew up and he went to the field and he found dudaim some interesting plant that was known to help women to give birth to have children and when rachel when rachel sees that leia has dudaine she asks please can i have some duday i'm trying to have children and duday might help me and leia is a little bit upset not only our husband loves you more than me but now you also want to take dudaim and you want to have more children than me so rahul says you know what okay you can you can have the husband tonight in return for today so they made this exchange now this was not a good thing for rahul because rahul now put her trust instead of hashem she put her trust in dudain it's not the plant it's not the medicine that heals it's hashem who said so and what happens instead of rachel becoming pregnant leia gets pregnant and not only that hashem says because you put trust in dudaim and not god and because you gave up the opportunity this was the rachel's turn to be with yaakov and she gave up the opportunity to be with sadiq you lost your chance to be with him in death you will not be buried with him so leia became pregnant again and she gave birth to a fifth son and she said yes means like yes there is reward why because she gave dude she gave away what she thought will help her to have children she was willing to give it to rachel and she had children first when you help others to have children you will have children first and she then gave birth to the sixth child and she named him zivulum again hoping that yaakov will make his permanent dwelling with her she still felt that she is a secondary wife and then she gave birth to the seventh child this time a girl dinah now finally hashem remembered and she conceived and gave birth to yourself yourself means a prayer may god give me another son when joseph was born yaakov decided to leave lavan and he he spoke to lava and said that's it i'm leaving lavan begged him and said please don't i recognize that god blessed me because of you when push came to shove lafan admitted lavan said i know that the source of all my success is yakov yakov please stay a little longer specify your wage to me and i will give it to you so jacob knew who he was dealing with so he said i don't want anything from you let's make a deal whatever unusual sheep and goats are born they are mine whatever usual goats and sheep are born are yours and lavan of course happily agreed because majority of goats are normal and yakov knew he does not rely on the birth rate of sheep he does not rely on lavan's honesty he has no one to rely on except for god and god can provide him with parnassa from an unexpected place so he chose the most unexpected payment give me all unusual sheep but beforehand remove all unusual parents from the flock give me just all plain colored sheep he made the the test even um harder and and lavon happily did he removed all normal colored sheep now yaakov had to take care of all the normal sheep and what happened yaakov made a special trick to influence the sheep he took branches of tree peeled at intervals and when the sheep looked at it they gave birth again miraculously to sheep that were also unusually colored and yaakov became rich and lavan and his children started to be jealous of yaakov and they accused yaakov of theft and yakov heard it now when chapter 31 page 161 he heard love and son saying yaakov has taken all that belong to our father and at that moment hashem appeared to yaakov and he said return to the land of your fathers so yaakov asked his wives for advice imagine this hashem comes to him and says go back to your father's home. and instead of saying yes and telling his wives pack your bags no jakob calls his wives and says i have advice to ask you and he reveals to them what's happening that lavan is uh not treating him well and that hashem came to him and told him to go he said what do you think should we go and on page 163 verse 14 rachel and leia replied of course whatever god has said to you do so verse 17 yaakov runs away from love and this time he doesn't tell allah because he knows that lavon will try to stop him and this time maybe to kill him yaakov arose and lifted his children and his wives onto the camels he led away all his livestock and all the wealth which he had amassed his purchase property which he had amassed in padangaram to go to his father yitzhak to the land of canaan and rachel stole the idols of her father the terracin now we turn to page 165. it was told to love verse 22 on the third day that yaakov had fled so he pursued him a distance of seven days for three days the messenger the the spy was going with yaakov for three days he ran back he told lavan and in one day lavan went what it took yakov seven days to go and he caught up with him but since it was late he ran from the morning till night and he covered the distance of seven days he went to sleep hoping to kill jacob the next day however hashem appeared to lavan and he said to him beware lest you speak with yaakov either good or bad which means hashem warned lavan that god is watching and he is not allowing to lavan to hurt yaakov so lavan in verse 25 over to kyakov and into verse 26 lavan said to yaakov what have you done that you have deceived me and led my daughters away like captives captives of the sword and cheated me and you you acted foolishly i can kill you and all your family your whole family but i can't do it because your god came in and told me not to but i'm asking you why did you steal my idols so yaakov said i thought you will kidnap your daughters from me that's why i had to run away stealthily if you think that i stole your idols i welcome you to search all my belongings so in verse 33 lavan came into yakov stand and did to leia stand and into bill zilpa's tent and found nothing then he went to rahul stand on page 167. he rubbished through the whole tent and found nothing in the meantime rachel's hid them in a pillow and she sat on the pillow and she said to him let my lord not find it annoying that i cannot rise up before him because i have a period and i cannot so he did not ask her to rise he did not find anything then yaakov became angered and he took up his grievance with love and he complained to him he told him you tricked me so many times and if not for god protecting me i would have left in the best case empty-handed and now you're accusing me of stealing your idols for 20 years i worked for you tirelessly by day and by night now verse 43 now lavan speaks up and reveals his true identity the daughters are my daughters and the children are my children and the flock is my flock and all you see is mine that's lavan he sees that belongs to other people he wants to grab and that's as i told you at the beginning that's the nature of evil evil always what's the definition of evil as opposed to good evil always takes good always gives now have nothing to do lavan says okay let's make a peace treaty so they took stones and made a monument and amount now we're on page 169 lavan said this mount is a witness between me and you and what what's the the covenant this is in verse 52 this mount shall be a witness and the monument shall be witnessed that i may not cross over to you past this mound nor may you cross over to me past this mound and this monument for evil which means we can visit each other for peacefully but we take upon ourselves not to attack each other may god be a judge between us and yaakov swore by the god of his father yitzhak now ver chapter 2 32 and they arose early love and kissed his sons and daughters and blessed them and returned to his place and verse two yeah went on his way and angels of god encountered him now alive when he was going to lava he saw angels in a dream now he sees angels during daytime jakob said when he saw them this is a godly camp so he called the name of that place which means camps camps of um angels so we see that after having passed difficult test tests for 20 years and after having been married to four wives yaakov has reached such a level that angels appear to him during the day and the next uh torah portion we will see that not only that but yaakov actually has control over them now yaakov can send them on a mission to fulfill his will that's the the great level one can achieve when they pass tests and when they are married thank you for listening may we all have um successful life and good in-laws not like lava may we pass all our tests and shabbat [Music] shalom