Tisha B'Av & The Shidduch Crisis

this Tower class is brought to you by torahanytime.com welcome to the Khalil agar de Perka this is our last year before Tish above habalinaiva [Applause] um if anybody would like to get the safer the darkness and the dawn on the three weeks the nine days Holocaust Memorial tishabab it's available in farm stores you could get it at Art school.com I want to share with you an idea and subject that is not only relevant to Tish above but really relevant to the Jewish people at Large at this juncture in our history and it's something that everybody should think about and take responsibility for one of the great architects of Torah in our times in the last era of Jewish history was a builder of Tyra was a dreamer and really one of the great architects of Torah in the 20th century and then in the 20th century as the Nazis were primed to invade Palestine in 1942 there's there they were primed to sweep through the country in a matter of days and the Arabs you should know were awaiting the arrival of the Germans very anxiously the Arabs already broadcasting on the radio Jews were going to Slit your throats we're going to slaughter your children we're going to abuse your women was laying the foundations of the panavat Yeshiva and they said Rabbi You're Building Yeshiva now it's Financial it's institutional suicide but the panavita believed in the Eternal endurance of The Tyree said no now is the time now is now he was a builder he was a dreamer by the way when the Panama visited America in 1947 he said there were Jews in Palestine who were determined to drive the British out of the country and were now imprisoned but he said with great conviction like as if with prophecy that these few Jews will undoubtedly succeed but the punavicharov added that if he had a Cadre of Jews who were equally determined to build a Torah state in the land of Israel that would also come about this is the way the pun of a turab thought this is how he saw things Rabbi wein says the story that when punavicharov came to Miami in one of his fundraising stints and of course the part of its Rob was one of the uh was a consummate fundraiser he traveled the World At Large to fundraise in fact the line goes how do you know there's no life on Mars no life on Mars because if there was a panovich rub would have fundraised there well I can't hear everyone laughing on Zoom but I hear behind the zoom I hear the laughter even though you're all muted okay so Rabbi wein said that rofcon once asked him to make a meeting of young couples because he wanted to address them you know he didn't think the meeting would be successful because young couples don't have a lot of money to donate they don't usually give a lot and rabbit or The Punisher of smiles he said now you don't understand what I want just do what I tell you so Rabbi weiner gathers about 20 couples he hosts them and uh the Punjab got up and he spoke very powerfully this is the gist of what he said he said they're one and a half million Jewish children were killed in the Holocaust the punavicharov said The Souls of these children are floating above they're searching for a body please give them bodies Rabbi wein said he was astounded by uh the request and how the Panama articulated it and he said but the next year a bumper crop of baby was born in history that was a great man the pun of acharov he saw that with 20 couples you could rebuild the Jewish people so let's expand on this concept just a little bit let's take it to the next level let's assume a boy and a girl marry maybe they have oh let's assume a small family of two children and let's assume each of their descendants also has a small family of two children so in each generation the subsequent number of descendants double so mathematics it's known as geometric progression so the couple has two children four grandchildren eight great-grandchildren 16 great great grandchildren with each generation the number numbers double after 10 Generations the couple has 1024 descendants after 20 Generations there are one million 48 576 descendants after 24 Generations a mere 600 years There are 16 million excuse me 16 million 216-7s descendants that's basically the current world Jewish population which means in 25 Generations from one shidoch that is made The Descendants will surpass and then double the current Jewish population you hear this to make one in 25 Generations there'll be more Jewish descendants than the current Jewish world population so do we Now understand what desire teaches us and voracious that making one zevog is literally like creating the entirety of the world that's what I want to speak about today and I want to speak about in the context of one of the great Personalities in Jewish history is born in 960 and Mets he passed away in Mainz in 1040. he's one of the first of the ashkenas and in his Torah Academy he attracted tamidim from many countries including Provence Spain one of the most prestigious yeshivas eclipsing even the ancient academies of Babel of Surah and pumpedisa he's the rebbe of rashi's rebi Rabino Yakov benyakar ravenu Gershwin corrected the gemara from reliable manuscripts he clarified many passages that were obscure Rashi had access to the Shahs written in the handwriting of rabinu gershine Rabino Gershon author the famous slikha that we say foreign achieved the title that no leader and Jewish people ever achieved called some are even given the title rebi The Reba the rebber of johannesan ibischitz the river of shmulk of nicholsburg is given a unique title he's called he illuminated the eyes of the Exile or toys to this unique title simple reason is as we mentioned that he's the leader he's the founder of he shifted the location of the Torah centers from but there's certainly more to this unusual title you see Rabino Gershon made many takanas there are many enactments of rabeno garshine and they were backed by Robin garsheim's personal Hiram his excommunication in fact there are over 90 decrees that are backed by what is known asheim one is uh one Hiram is based on a very tragic family situation that was personal to Robinson one of Rabino gershom's two sons some say his only son by the way raveena gershram's wife died tragically when he moved from Maine from Mets to Mains in the year 10 to 12. what happened was one of the Catholic priests in Maine converted to Judaism was burnt at the stake and as a repercussion the Church of Mets demanded the forcible conversion of the Jewish Community most Jews fled many were trapped in the city and they were compelled to convert including Robin's son who died having converted to Christianity without an opportunity to do chuva Loyola look in the Mordecai in Mayer Katan love ly is Haim sat Shiva twice for his son one week for the loss of his son's life and one week for the loss of his nashama by the way was not obligated to do this he only did it as an expression of his immense pain because the sun did not have the opportunity to do chuva now this gives us a little bit of a better understanding of the times arabinu gershime lived in and erson that it was forbidden to shame those who do not denounce Judaism under duress and once they returned to the fold it was a common Christian tactic to forcibly convert Jews by threatening them with death or explosion and entire communities Germany and France gave up their lives some individuals were not able to overcome by the way historically there was always a rift between the laymen and the robot him the Layman said that uh they didn't want accountants the returnees who left the fold they felt betrayed and they felt look we remain loyal and we suffered for our loyalty now we're going to accept you back but their abundant felt there was no alternative we have to welcome these the Jews back with open arms so the Takara abeno gershim is not to humiliate the returnees to Judaism another takana enforced by no Gershwin was he forbid the reading of letters and messages of other people documents were sealed with the letters dalid rage gimmo what stood which stood for Gershen because the survival of the network of Jewish Merchants required confidential communication by the way today it's a federal crime to read someone else's mail but the non-jewish world would have to wait many many hundreds of years until they understood and established the rights of privacy by the way of all the technology and the best known of his takanos and his haramim was not to marry two wives says who marries another wife and then he made that one cannot divorce their wife against their will by the way it's interesting you know there are mod discusses whether women do hesiba the night of the say there so he brings uh an opinion that only hush of women do haseba and then the Ramos says nowadays all of our women are considered Hashem sovsky once asked when in history did all women become khushif y says made a takana that you can't marry two wives women were upgraded to the status that nowadays all women are considered hash of and therefore all women do haseba now what was the reason for these takanasem not to marry two wives so there was a practical level there was social significance to the juncture of these decrees the church had a very negative view of marriage celibacy was an objective in Christianity monogamous marriage was deemed a concession to the devil and polygamy was considered outright immorality so the decrease of integration was suggested so that we don't appear less moral than the Gentiles now once polygamy was outlawed divorce was expected to rise because he could only marry one wife now until then one did not require consent to get divorced the need to get consent would serve as a deterrent and prevent unnecessary divorce these are the practical reasons for however there's also deep spiritual and mystical reason s and fasten your seat belts this approach is offered by the ice Drive sir stripes who is a brilliant who lived from 1852 to 1928 he spent the last 40 Years of his life batanes only eating a small meal in the nighttime by the way I want to take a make a small commercial break everyone is invited to our shul on Tish above morning nine o'clock at chakras followed by Kenneth with explanation elucidation we have a lot of very exhilarating and Powerful information based on some of the recent visits to Spain and Portugal um I think you'd find it very interesting everyone's cordially invited 5 30 Peninsula so we're trying to explain the rationale the spiritual rationale foreign let's introduce this with a very basic question you know the most anticipated and celebrated in the history of the world was yaakovino and Rachael yaakov meets Rocco for the very first time in the posix says Rahel and he cries why does he cry es because he sees with the Holy Spirit that he's not going to be buried with her I mean talk about getting ahead of yourself that's what Jacob was crying about you know first let them get married and let them celebrate their first anniversary before they're worried about being buried together that's the first thing that yakovino worries about that he's crying he's not even married to the lady and he's worried he's scared he's afraid he's not gonna be buried with her so here's the idea in the Holy megillah the song of songs depicts the profound and passionate love between foreign and he depicts it in the allegory of the love of we cloudy so we're the bride and our Colors Bar who is the groom by the way every Shabbos we consummate this Union Friday night is the condition so we say Shabbos morning we say yes that's why by Shall shoot us we don't make Kiddush Friday night is connected kadushan there's a case of aerosene so therefore we make kid there's Friday night there's a case of nasuan therefore we make but there's no kais in the room therefore there's no killer specialist but our relationship with that color sparkle is a here's the bombshell not only is our relationship with Hashem depicted with the allegory of a husband and a wife but the relationship between a husband and a wife will reflect and affect the relationship between our colors vertical and Kinesis Israel so it's not just the relationship we have with Hashem is depicted as relationship of husband and wife but the relationship we have with our spouse reflects and affects the relationship of a cholesterol with Kinesis is wrong when there is between husband and wife when there's peace and Harmony in the home then the relationship between that color is strong but when there's Discord and bickering and fighting then the relationship between our College Brooklyn is tenuous by the way there's an amazing thing an amazing offered by Robert a tugamara that appears in Shas is not haphazard every agada tagamara is found in its precisely most appropriate place are fundamentally connected to the masecta that they're found in so in which masecta do we have the agarita it's not just because the Quran base amigdash is like a get literally a divorce causes a certain horben in our relationship with and therefore the message that we find getting in the message that's the bond between the bond of husband and wife literally connects Claus is the ice Drive sir that as the golus is progressing there's a danger that our actions might cause Hashem to reject us to send us away to divorce us so to speak against our will if we're gonna be permitted to divorce a wife against her will then God might send the Jewish people away against their will therefore abeno Gershon comes along and he shined great light into the darkness of Claudius and he ensured Hashem would never send us away so he instituted that a Jewish man can never send away his wife against her will so that God never sends us away against Iowa they say shoe thank goodness now God has stuck with us now that we can't divorce our wife against her will now God has stuck with us now we're still not out of the woods because although God can send us away against our will but maybe he'll take another wife maybe he'll take another chosen people maybe God will say you know Jews and the North Koreans or then or the Iranians so again comes Rubino Garrison and he says not only could a man not divorce his wife against his will but a man cannot take a second wife so now not only is God stuck with us he's stuck only with us Rabino Gershon ensured the Revenge them will never send us away and never take another Nation he gives us light in the golus now listen to this I was just in uh Toledo in Toledo we don't have any more the gravestone of the rush ER originally was from Germany but he had to run away to Toledo but on the on his gravestone we do know what it said it said on his and his wife's gravestone that when a husband and wife live together in peace in a happy and successful marriage and then they're buried together that reflects the Eternal immutable relationship between knesses but if they will not be buried together then that sort of reflects that God's relationship with that cut with cloudy soul is somewhat is not immutable and so when yaakov sees Rahel and he knows that their relationship will reflect the relationship between that because Brooklyn causes Israel and then he foresees that he won't be buried next to Rahel that means one day the relationship between High colors broken cloudy soul will be shaken to the core they'll be Corbin based hamiktash when yaakov sees he won't be buried with Rahel he sees that there will be a lack of Eternity in the relationship between that colors that's why he cried now watch this I want to share with you an enigmatic um says each of the others names they give it a different name avraham calls it har sh calls it Sada by the way my friends of mine mishbachas Fuchs once shared with me that if the base of English is called the Sada then God is required to give pea and the Paya Ephraim is behind you look in ephraim's picture it's the question that can never be destroyed the reason why the kaiso can never be destroyed the sifri Kabbalah say is because since this actually I think comes from rehearsal of Liska that Hashem always leaves for us now by the way I'm going to digress for a moment if yes you know we live in an age of school ice we find throughout school is for many different things for parnassa for a food for kapara Savoy noise for bonim what about a school of there's actually one segula that we can identify for that to be found in the Hamish and safer voracious the gemara says in bracesha a person should always be careful in the minha prayer Elio was answered only in minha the gumar is telling us there's a special potency in the Thriller by the way the kriyako explains he says avraham was musaki in chakras what was avram chakras for when when did he enact chakras when he died for the city of Sudan but we don't really find that Adam avina was answered it doesn't even seem like he was answered in the affirmative let alone answered at all when Jacob David to be saved from Ace of and love and which he was but we don't find an immediate response says elieza had been dispatched to find the foreign so in all probability to be successful in his mission to find him he's diving to find the and just as he finishes he finishes davening and all of a sudden the camels are coming so during his feelings eyes were down he completes the Fila he lifts his eyes and behold do you bunch of answers Fila the camels were bringing his wife so we see in the Hamish the special efficacy of of mincha so therefore of old Felice the most effective says yeah we see the efficacy of minha but we specifically see its potency regarding finding a shidah so if somebody needs a zivag it's worthwhile to place extra emphasis on having cavan from and then and we finish this and the camels are coming already with the zivag by the way once we're on the topic one of the great Italian the ramami Pano there's a particular chapter to recite that is effective in finding aleph aloys someone is looking for an azer connectai you say esri you should say it at the end of every before you take your three steps back um and it's a school of so again avraham calls it har yes calls it Sada calls it bias so what is the meaning that avraham calls it har yes one more question incessantly to be able to enter Earth Israel 515 feelings why 515 it seems like such a random number where did moishi get the number 515 from and then the Renaissance says to Moshe Moshe ravlock don't say one more Tila if you say one more Twila that will be the Tipping Point I'm gonna have to listen to you so don't say one word Fila what would it be about the 516th Fila that that would be the Tipping Point so I want to share with you an electrifying conversation that took place I've said this over a number of times over the years between two Israel from two different walks of life and this great disciples excuse me the great disciples and the other great God that was with Aaron of bells the bells of rabba and they're discussing the base hamiktas and they're discussing Allah and the the Belzer ever shared the following kabbalistic Source who built the Besame built the first wall avraham built the second wall Yitzhak built the third wall yaakov built the fourth wall and who built the roof moisha built the roof and the belzareba explained God built the first wall with his gamachia 103. avraham then had to come and build the second wall and attach it to the First wall so avraham needed 206. so he called it her Harris 205 in my culo 206 so the first world was makhana 103 God second wall is avraham hire 205 in my Colo 206. yitzrook needs to attach three walls he builds the third wall attaches it to the first two he calls it Sada makhan at times three 309 suggest 309 yaakov needs to build the fourth wall so that's going to be 412 bias 412. he has a hard job he has to build the roof and attach five structures so 412 plus 103 is going to be 5 15. that is why moisturabino davins now we know the significance of ushanan by the way this answers a very difficult question foreign that we learn out from here that whenever someone is in a time of Sarah you should Daven now this is a source Tara I tell you friends this is the seems to be the worst possible source that someone based Sarah we're going to learn that from us Israel The Man David and David and Hashem told them no this my friends seems to be the very worst Source you could possibly conjure up that from which we should learn how is Sarah learn from anyone else but not from was told no no no no no no not only no I don't want to hear another word but in light of what we learned was indeed answered maishadav in 515th Felice to lock together the four walls of the base of the Machina the heart the Sada the bias and then he locks it together with the roof so my shabino built the roof of the base the srile pinchas teaches and not only that if he would have offered one more tevila he would have been that today would have descended and fit into the basement like a soul fits into a body was told not to say the 400 The 516th Villa we have the audacity to say the The 516th Villa what is the 516th Fila yes 516. now we don't say it outright we say it in Russia tables we say it in Aramaic and we say ribanisham may your great and glorious name be magnified that is the Fila for the rebuilding of the Besame rabba we don't have the audacity to ask for it explicitly we don't have the Kutz but we allude to the Tula 516. we'll Hashem and his makhana built the first wall avraham harbels II while the third world spills the fourth well Maisha avenu builds the roof and I heard this this great revelation of the belzareba and I felt we're still missing one part because don't you need a floor I mean would your wife let you get away with beautiful walls and a nice ceiling and a dirt floor I don't think so who builds the floor of the basement but let's do the math if one wall is 103 and two are 206 and 3r309 and 4 is 412 and the roof is 5 15. the roof must on the floor must be 6 18. what's 6 18 ish and Isha r618 Emma koyla issues 311. Isha is 306. in my culo 6 18. the husband and wife the shalim the harmony between husband and wife build the floor of the Bayside mcdosh what does it say in Shira shiram the floor is love this is the final ingredient to build the basement Isha should do him is there any Wonder that in response to Tish above which is the national day of mourning for the temple immediately after that we have tuba of which is a day designated to make I mean talk about incongruous activity we're just sitting on the floor wallowing languishing mourning a temple and then we then we have boys watching uh girls dancing to pick out a what does that got to do with rebuilding the base hamiktas the answer is the response to Corbin basamikdash is we need to rebuild the base of mcdash and what we're missing is we're missing the ritspa and the Ritz was and therefore you know who are we to understand the secrets of the universe but if there's a quote-unquote crisis today you bet there's a crisis there's a very severe sugar crisis and that is the most important in the world is the between the almighty and Kinesis Israel and that is strained and it needs ashadhan and need someone to consummate it needs someone to bring us together again and if the relationship between husband and wife reflects the relationship between our course Israel and so then what can we do to somehow consummate the between the almighty and Claud Israel that we're waiting 3 300 years to to seal the deal we need someone to be a light onto the exile because if our relationships reflect affect the relationship between our clothes Brooklyn so if somebody is involved in makingham and being isek and bringing to fruition it's in a way I can't imagine a more direct way of bringing the ultimate fruition the union of akadas with knesses Israel that is why khazal says anyone who causes joy to Hasan and kala it's like he built one of the ruins of yushalayim so anything somebody could do to bring together one Hassan vikala as we mentioned after 10 Generations a thousand descendants after 24 Generations after 20 Generations a million descendants after 24 Generations they will be equal to the number of Jews in the world today and after 25 Generations if all the couple has is two children and they double and double in each generation in 25 Generations it will be more Jews in the world double than that the current Jewish population today so these are all uh timely themes and ideas that we should think about heading into Tish above that Yakov avinu sees Racha for the first time and he sees they would not be together in Misa that represents Corbin de samekdash Binion is the harmony between husband and wife and to be mizave which is a tick on that we Endeavor on tubaov who give us all this that we should all be zoja to see and this Indian for all of Kal Israel and we should be to the ultimate shadakh of Mahira Hashem is and that will be when Sion is thanks everybody for joining again I want to invite everybody to Tish above morning 5 30 Peninsula Boulevard chakras it's nine o'clock we start Kenneth about 9 45. have an easy fast everyone called thank you welcome back thank you very much thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you you've just experienced another Torah class brought to you by torahanytime.com