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Rabbi Daniel Kalish Shiurim

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Okay, good afternoon. Good afternoon, Gabriel. Good afternoon. The first thing The first thing I want to say good afternoon to Rabbi Ezzi, of course. But what I want [applause] to I want to welcome home. It's an honor. It's exciting. Day after day, Hashem's sending gifts. It's a time we're all anticipating the great gift of Torah, and it seems to be like gifts have been coming along the way. And it's tremendously appreciated. Reuven Yonah is here. One of the stars of the Yeshiva. JUST REALLY WANT TO EXPRESS WANT TO WANT TO express how much I appreciate really appreciate a close close friend, brilliant and sweet and talented. Just an honor to have you back home. SO, THANK >> [applause] >> I THINK I THINK GETTING I THINK A LOT OF ERETZ Yisrael dikkers coming here. Maybe that convinced Reuven Yonah like we're shiyach Eretz Yisrael. We want to be shiyach Eretz Yisrael. Something that that a sugya that that specifically I'm focused on. It's It's It's funny the way Hashem the way you see Yad Hashem. It's a sugya I want to talk more about Yeshiva of Ahavas Eretz Yisrael. A love of Eretz Yisrael. It's our land, Eretz Yisrael. Eretz chemdah tovah u'rechavah. It's the beautiful land that Hashem gave our people, Eretz Yisrael. And Paul and this man when when it's something I want to talk more about. I'm trying personally to learn more about it. And then Eretz Yisrael, beautiful yidden from Eretz Yisrael have come here. We're all shiyach Eretz Yisrael. We're all shiyach. We're shiyach Eretz Yisrael. I'm amazed. I'm amazed time and time again. You have guys going to Eretz Yisrael looking to be inspired. And that when a guy is inspired and he was looking to be inspired, okay, you figure that would happen. There are guys who are going not planning on falling in love with the land, and they go there to Israel and they go, like, I love it. It's just like, I wasn't planning, wasn't thinking about that. It's funny when guys plan to go there to Israel and tell what are you going to get there. The first thing you say is that you go to Israel and what are you going to get in there in Israel? That's our land. But yet it was like designed for Israel or Israel for the land. You don't need to come up with reasons. Why should I go? Well, the issue Look at there in Israel. A Jew doesn't need like an excuse to go there in Israel, to live in Israel, to learn there in Israel. It's a place that works for a Jew. A Jew feels at home there cuz it is ours. It's ours. It was designed like that. But I'm just an honor to have Reuven Yona back here, and I thank you for for being here. >> [applause] >> I want to I want I do want to express that we have I have appreciation. There are homes that have become like what are very homes, Durham homes. There are certain homes all around that guys have been comfortable. And what we we speak I spoke in the past the Feldmans, what they've done for the Yeshiva, crazy. This home in Staten Island, hundreds hundreds of people counting each guy who's been there, each time they're there. Our guys have been there hundreds of time for Shabbos, for Yom Tov, for a weekday night. Their open home has been like a lifesaver for our Yeshiva. And we have like these homes, Mrs. Amend, there are homes that have just been open. Mordy Yudin's family, they've hosted many many many many guys have gone there. The Mullers in Monsey. I want to express that we have home in Eretz Yisrael that many many people have gone to have been comfortable. It's very very appreciated. Also, the numbers are staggering. My own children and many many others have here have been comfortable and welcome and [music] wanted Rubin Yona's house. It's not taken Even with the dogs, but it's not taken really not taken for granted. It's like [clears throat] tremendously tremendously appreciated. I tend to think Naftali, what you'll see one day your beautiful children Naftali you are going to go learn in Eretz Yisrael, you will have an immense appreciation to the people that host them, immense. You got my sons have gone to Eretz Yisrael when Rabbi Fischer has like taken them in like children, your gratitude is crazy. My wife My wife and I feel to Rabbi Geisler who took in my kids, it's crazy. We owe we owe we owe everything. We owe tremendous amounts. I tend to think in those terms. Hashem, when we're kind to other Yidden, that's what he feels about us. That's my mission My mission true. It's a Mitzvah Sharam. Ein Hakadosh Baruchu ohev Mitzvah Yisrael. Somebody who's good to his children is like nuts. The gratitude to a person who who takes care of his children is is Meshugas. It's immense. It's just how it is. It's Poshet like that. That's how you could feel this energy. Guys go off. There's like a home that takes in our guys. We owe the world. If they would call Rubin Yona's parents would call up ask him not for anything. We owe them. We owe them Chayev. Chayev Chayev. We owe and I feel that tremendous debt of gratitude. Their home is open, but it's it's tremendously appreciated. Another space and a place where here they're welcome. It's not it's not taken for granted. It's not [clears throat] a simple thing. It's like something that's literally necessary, literally important and and valued a lot. So I thank you [clears throat] and I thank your Mishpacha for for giving us that. Thank you RUBIN YONA. >> [applause] >> YEAH. >> [applause] >> WHAT I'D LIKE TO DO WHAT I WANT TO DO THIS afternoon we've been learning of ice we learned a whole bunch of Mishnayos and I want to bless Hashem it could be we even go in more in order today. I do want to skip a to to speak about a few Kinyanei HaTorah. The Mishna in the sixth perek of Avos that quote and quote extra perek in Avos so it describes HaTorah Nikneses B'Arba Umos V'Shmonim D'varim. The Torah is acquired with 48 ways. Now b'emes I want to ask the guys I have no agenda. I'm a little confused. Didn't Hashem give us the Torah? Hashem gave us the Torah on Har Sinai given the Torah. So what's this new line the Torah is Nikneses with 48 He didn't give it to us. I thought we had Ma'amad Har Sinai and Hashem gave us the Torah. Towers. Then all of a sudden I read a Mishna the Torah is Nikneses with 48 Nikneses we we didn't every single day we thank Hashem. Every single morning we speak about Hashem is the Nosein HaTorah. Not the one who past tense gave Torah the giver of Torah Nosein HaTorah. We describe Hashem Melamed Torah L'Yisrael who teaches Torah. Again he gives it to us he gave it to us it's ours. It's Monach B'Kerem Z'man Kol Mishbarim we have a right to Torah. We have a right to it. Torah is ours we're Shayach to Torah. We're Shayach to it mamish. We're Shayach to Torah. So I could sit down and learn and be impacted by Torah. What's this all of a sudden I'm told this is like a big caveat. Well if you have these 48 things I'm confused. I thought I should give us time. The now conditions that now let's take What's happening? I thought this was given. I can have time he gave it to me. Learn time and it's yours. How do we understand these men this mission that says the time is Nickness by Mush my environment it's acquired with 48 things. How do I understand what's my approach? I could learn time. And and and connect the time is given to us. What are these 48 time that we're told about in others 48 time 48 ways to acquire I can't just learn time and open up all all your children all of all of us sat down and you should be and we learn time. Should we have been told I don't come to class. You have a few things before you can learn while I'm learning do I work on these things? What is this what are these 48 I'm not trying to make it uncomfortable. I want to know the truth. 48 time Is it now not so simple just learn and you have it? That's what I'm asking this mission that like is not like a small caveat. I didn't know about the world. I thought you just so should we have in your Shiva nobody could start learning let's if there's things in order to learn so then then should we shouldn't start learning till should we have first a few years? What? I'm holding the 48 time. So Josh says that the first one is Talmud which Josh is translating the mood he's translating some of the shine and translate the first one is learn. So gives you a right. The first one says learn already. So I said 48 Kinyanei Torah one says learn. But the problem is that it's part of a group of 48. And the other 47 don't say learn. So yeah, learning's one of them. Learning's one of them, but there are 47 others. So what happens? It wasn't just given there's a little like there's a little asterisk and a star. Yeah, you could learn, but I'm but it's dependent. I'm asking Josh the 47 more that don't say learn. I'm not I'm not trying to get it I'm not being aggressive. Whatever. I really want to learn a Mishnah. I want to try to understand the Mishnah Mem Khes Kinyanei Torah. What's being said here, Khevra? 48 Kinyanei Torah. What's being said here? Why are you saying you can't learn without them? What a kin What does it mean Kinyanei Torah? Won't I won't have Torah without these. Have you ever driven a Tesla? Did I ever drive a Tesla? No, I don't think so. No. >> give you a Tesla Here it is. Here you are. So I gave it to You don't have to drive it. So it's mine, but I still have ways how do I gain from it? How do I benefit from it? So these are things they're mine. I have absolute right to it. And I'm shiyach to it. That's l'chora it means it was given to me. I'm shiyach to it, but somehow I still need things. Am I shiyach to these things automatically? L'chora otherwise it wouldn't have been given to me. So means I'm shiyach to the Torah shiyach to these things. And when you activate these things you can connect to Torah. That has to be I'm shiyach to the otherwise you didn't give it to me. So it has to be I'm shiyach to these 48 things. And in order for the Torah to impact me in the way it needs to I need these 48 things. >> [clears throat] >> What was like the take on the question? I just want to know was Torah given to us at Sinai? Like I could just learn or I need other things also. So for you need other things. 48 Kinyanei HaTorah says to connect to Torah there are other things necessary. Could somebody learn Torah and and not be Could somebody know Shas and not be kind of Torah? Clearly yes. Clearly yes cuz the that it that you're connected to in this deep way. The 48 Kinyanei HaTorah. So very clearly somebody could learn Torah and not be connected to Torah. Cuz the 48 Kinyanei HaTorah. So if I learn and I don't have these I'm not saying not to learn first. And Joshie said the first one is Limud. So doesn't say not to start but it says there's a whole list of things necessary to be kind of Torah to connect to Torah, to carry the Torah, perhaps to be called a Ben Torah. The 48. So it's definitely a list that's Kidai to study in the season that we're talking about Kabbalas HaTorah. They're Kinyanei HaTorah. I think it's just very Kidai to let's study some Let's get busy. Let's study the 48. It's a list. There's a list of of things, a lot of middos, and other things that are necessary for Kinyanei HaTorah. So I thought this week would make a lot of sense. Whatever Pshat I'm not looking I wasn't I'm not looking to force a Pshat on anybody but the the Mishna says the 48 Kinyanei HaTorah. I thought it's Kidai on the week we're setting our sights. We're getting close to 40. We've started Baruch Hashem the last week of Sefiras HaOmer. We counted last night 42. We've completed six weeks. We're at the last week. 42. 42. 42nd day. The Omer. We finished six weeks. We're beginning the seventh. The last and final week of the Omer. 67. So people like today it's day six, seven, like we finished six and into seven week. Just true. So So we're setting our sights and getting closer to the day of Kabbalah Sefirah. I thought it would be really good to take a little bit of a dive into Kinyanei Torah. There are 48 things that Chazal say are necessary to acquire Torah. Let's go. The first one is Talmud. I'd like to express as follows something something I've been talking about this year and I wanted to specifically say it in this Yeshiva. The Yeshiva is founded on a lot of principles of Musar. And knowing oneself is very Daas Atzmo was a very important principle of Musar, knowing oneself. I'm not here to give I'm not equipped. I'm not equipped in Musar or Chassidus to give a contrast. I'm expressing one person's relationship to the two things, not the two things themselves. And I want to express if Musar spoke about knowing yourself, Chassidus gave room not to know yourself. And I want to explain it and demand it from the guys and say that I understand this as the first Kinyan of Torah of Talmud, be willing not to know yourself. What do I mean by that? What do I mean by that? Certainly self-awareness is huge. Something that's like put in the Yeshiva where type Yeshiva I don't I don't care per se. The enneagram is not Torah. It's a system of self-awareness. I don't care if somebody uses that system, but the Yeshiva which is also rooted in the world of Musar demands a person of self-awareness. A person who has no self-awareness is not a safe person. It's not safe. They don't know their own nature. They don't have an understanding of self. I think that's very not safe. And so self-awareness exists in the issue. The world of Hasidus, the way I understand it, demands to not know yourself. And what I'd like to explain is that I have a neshama. If you you think you found your neshama, you know you are, like mamesh, you get your light, please. I'm 51. I've no my neshama, no idea. Your neshama, your light that you have I want to say something that I want everybody to hear. and I experienced we've been I don't know we're grappling with this for 2 years. I would say for 2 years we traveled I I we've been spending maybe all 3 years, but 2 years I I recall more recently. There's some days and I want everybody to hear this. and I have gone around to many to many places. So, some days it was mamesh you go there and you're on fire. You're singing, you're sharing divrei Torah, and you're mamesh plugged in to Torah Tashim, and the fire people like, "Whoa, that was amazing." I have seen times where you feel not connected. I couldn't connect. I mamesh I come to share divrei Torah, I'm out to lunch. I can't be present for whatever reason. I don't know what happened. And and you're there and has described times you sing where you didn't feel you couldn't be present. You do the job, you try. And I have seen times like that where the listener, the one who was at the thing says, "That was the best day of my life. You changed my You feel you don't know what just happened. You changed my life." You're like, "Uh You know, so part of you you have you have you have regression. You feel like the guy you're you're clueless. You're clueless. You say to that person, you think You hear this sneaky Akiva, hear this? We'll perform somewhere, we'll sing, we'll share divrei Torah, and we feel like we completely weren't present. I'm not even sure what I said. mamesh don't know what I was like disconnected. And the guy comes, he says your changed my life. It's different. Everything's different. I'm a new person. So you have a in your mind you're like you're clueless. When I'm here, when I'm present You know what I discovered? You don't own your life. You showed up. You think you think That person got their life changed from you weren't in touch with your they weren't. The the light of a person is a real thing. It's not like it's not it's not it's not this is real things. He felt something and saw something and experienced. You weren't present to that. By the way when you your felt it. The has a shin you He saw. You could see something you don't see. You you I was out to lunch. You might not have been. You might have been very present. Very. Probably. I don't want to say was. Leave room that it might not. I don't know. Leave room that your is a space that's true that you're trying we're trying to connect trying to be present to it. I don't know. And leave room to not know yourself, to not be in touch, to know there's a part that's big, that's large, that's that I could touch and feel different times. Don't be so stuck that you know that you're like don't be stuck like that. There's a whole part of us, a whole we literally have a you have a piece of God. You're like no I know that. You know your you're sure? To me the introduction to is a world that you don't know. And allow for that, allow for like this big place in me is Well, don't know. Now, I could connect the parts. I Like dogmatic? It's not dog- it's not I don't say dogmatic because I say any person feels it and I feel like this the same way I have no cuz I have seen Sadiq and I saw him brim and just know I don't know him. I have felt my neshama it's like I don't know. Wow. I you could experience it a place and a bigness that is just big. I don't know. Wow. It has oneness and desire. This goes it goes deep places. I don't need to have it's not dogmatic to see him brim something that's bigger than me, bigger than I can like wrap I don't need it's not dogmatic. It's something I experience. You can experience somebody who's crazy large. You just know this is big. This is very big. Wow. That's the experience with one's own soul soul is a big space. The first canyon at Torah is Talmud is the willingness not to know. Talmud means to be a student. I've not Let me learn I don't know what I don't know what it will connect to, what it will bring out. There's a lot I don't know. I'm not all figured out and I know everything and I'm coming with this and this is what we're I don't know. That's how a Talmud comes. He's fresh. He's ever expanding, ever willing to connect to new things. I'm so from our rabbi from the rabbi my kids rabbi, the rabbi we're going to be with in the summer. I hear when he learns, he's willing to learn things I don't know he's understand his Torah, but I see he learns things that he doesn't understand. I'm not I like being comfortable like I learn things that I could explain and everything. Okay. Maybe I could Maybe I could see something and like slowly Maybe I have parts of me that can connect bigger and deeper and more. Neshama is very great. Don't be quick. That's not me. Oh, that's not me guy knows himself. I know me. I I know what I like. Now, good you have a tava. That's good. That's good you have a tava. Maybe maybe you'll expand a little. Maybe you could hear. Don't don't lock in. A talmud is somebody who goes to the rebbe who's willing to be large and bigger. Willing to have parts I haven't discovered. Willing to hear new, understand more. If you think you know yourself, that's that's not my idea. I I I don't understand those things. So, you just have your neshama, your momisha. You momisha I don't know. The parts of your neshama you touched till now will stay there. Maybe I think part of talmud is the world where you don't know. Willing not to know. Willing to explore. Willing to be courageous. The deepest place of talmud to me is willing to say I don't know my whole self. I I don't know anything. Then you learn Torah with an openness. A willingness to be impacted. You face events of your life with the willingness to say, "I'm not like locked in who I am." I know me. That's not I I spoke on dating when a guy says, "It's not my type." He's like, "So locked in." You're like so small. Like you know yourself. She She's not my type. Chill out a bit. Chill out. See the experience. When the rebbe asked us not just to date once. Said date a second. I know she's not for me. I know. You momisha. Know yourself. Maybe this experience maybe you went on a date. Means you can have a new experience. Now, I admit you say what point can I stop? I admit you're human. And if it doesn't feel right, you have to go that way. Be a talmud for all of life. Be this way. How many people on experiences of life they do the same thing they do on a piece of Torah? Whoa, it's not for me. I don't get those things. Maybe Hashem sent it to my life and gave me this journey so that maybe I can learn new things experience and things like that. What do you say to this Yehuda? I want emes. It's very important I think people we all I do it to me. I lock I really I'm really a big fan of this. It's it's helped my life. I'm not saying a theoretical thing. This has helped my life. The willingness to know there's a lot of parts of me like it's there's a silliness there's a smallness thing 51 I don't know. I don't know me. Please. Please. In the world of Hashem I like cat I know it I have it like No I'm I'm please. And you're willing you're willing to you're willing to expand explore here connect relate and then new things happen. I'm not going to force it and even with everything I don't relate to this at all. Okay I'm not against that but I'm not against also seeing that that I might yes that I might and and attempting and seeing and exploring and coming out of to place because I know there is more. It's then engaging events that so many will say I'm not that. No. I'm not that who that And if Hashem sent me this person and this situation how many people on children you know how many people on their own kids that's not me. That's the stupidest thing in the world. It's a real thing people do. They have a child that's not me that that I that kid Somebody there's a jokes people make you should adopt my kid. I manage don't understand that. You know how stupid that you know you know how tragic that is? I'm calling it stupid. It's you and me. You know how tragic that is? That's the opposite of Talmud. When a person has a child this one I manage don't relate. This is this is some you could you adopt my child I don't understand. Maybe you have this child you could understand. By the way, your whole generation, my whole generation, looks at a generation that's feeling What did I I don't know. I'm not from So, maybe I could find places in me that could understand. Maybe I could have Maybe I could expand. Maybe I can grow. Maybe I Maybe I have things in me that I never imagined. It's all part of Talmud, the first kinyan atorah, the willingness to not have. A student means you have lack, and but you're shaya'ch to more. There're two parts to Talmud. See, if I just have lack, but I'm not shaya'ch, I'm not a student either. You can't have more. This you are who you are. Talmud is a beautiful space of being aware of what I don't know, and I'm shaya'ch to bigger things. I don't know There's a lot more of me. A lot more of sugia I'm shaya'ch to. A lot more finding of insight I'm shaya'ch to. A lot more I can connect to. That's the first kinyan atorah, you're coming to Hashem's Torah. A person like knows himself There are people remain People learn Torah, they take all the ideas they are and have, and just stop it. There are people whose way of learning Torah is all to show who they are and what they have is true. There's no expansion. There's no sense of like of seeing, of applying to things. I open s'farim. I'll open When I was younger, I opened Sedarim like this, "Whoa, whoa." I just close it like "Whoa, whoa." No, not for me. Nothing. I don't I don't know. Maybe you are shaya'ch to new worlds. Maybe Maybe you have space in yourself you're clueless about. That's what a Talmud does and is. It opens it up. It's very scary. It's much easier to be safe and say I'm not comfortable there. I don't Expand and see and explore. You'll need this for every facet of Torah, of connecting to Torah, being a ben Torah. This expansion that's to me is the first tenayaf, the The kinyan atorah, Talmud, that I want to study today on this the final week of hanukkah kabbalah satura, this first condition I think it's so encouraging that we're shaya to Torah. It's cool to me that the first kinyan of Torah was something that we're shaya to it if I you give me Torah and you have an instruction so not only did I learn I'm shaya to Torah, I learned I'm shaya kinyani at Torah. If I wasn't shaya to these then it doesn't help me what you gave me. Giving it to me says I'm shaya to it then you had a way to get it so I'm shaya to those also. If I'm not shaya to these, I'm not shaya so it means that oh wow that's in me Talmud. So let's let's talk a via Talmud but let's any place you're willing to not know to people run up to a rebbe there are a lot of example people run up after a sheer. Am I okay like like I don't do that but it's okay. Maybe you don't do it I don't know. So that's what a Talmud is you're not up to this so Don't worry don't worry so don't be there that's part of that's part of Talmud is the want for that which is more the want for things I don't understand the want for that I'm capable of progressing and finding and and and getting places that's all part of the extent no true we could feel the magnitude of a grace in the shama to say that we've captured our neshama our whole spiritual essence impossible no way no way not a doc we touch We have a sense that we that we walk around with some a big light. So I wanted to say before when you when you speak somewhere you sing and you're like I didn't do and and everybody else is like sitting there and thrilled they they could see a neshama more than you it's not a kodesh. All the time go to the dorms you might be a neshama from a guy's neshama you're like you're like drooling and he doesn't know his neshama so is that a bomb kasha? You can go somewhere and sing and the place is like all from her. You say I don't know what what they see. They saw you. They saw you saw you were in touch. Okay. You didn't come with it doesn't mean they didn't feel it and experience it. That's not Now you could be I admit to be from the place where you touch it. There's a tremendous mile and no doubt. I have seen in many ways when you show up like this it's it's bigger it's a big thing it's a big art it's a big There's less arrogance. The Rebbe spoke the middle Rebbe was big on this not owning your art not like controlling your art. It's like an art show up with it. I don't let it flow let it slide let it go. You know, you were in touch with it. You weren't it's a big light. It really is a light and you got to bring it somewhere and you brought your light and somebody's light in the studio and you say I wasn't even present. Who said if you would have been present you might have also gained from your light. Okay, so only the other 100 people did. Next time you're present 101 people will gain from your light. I'm saying it what what like an experience This experience like it's it's funny when it had like funny it's almost fresh room when it happens. It's like confusing. You walk out you like we we've had it together. We walk out it's tough and somebody goes oh that was life changing. You're looking at them and like I'm so happy. Like okay. I'm glad you saw my soul like I do that to you. It's probably safe there's a safety. I also do that. When I see feel safe cuz it's uncertain like it's very scary. So I also go okay I got it. I know it like I even [clears throat] try to like box it into it. I know I do that also. Yeah. It feels safer like when I learn I try to like like make it all safer. I like I see in our Rebbe like he says things over. He goes to worlds like it's so scared like not to know and then you're like trying to like you'll read certain swarim you're like trying to expand and extend. It's scary. It's like Yeah, and the goal is to really see could I find more things and deeper things. Can I Can I expand Talmud? That's That's what it means to be a Talmud. Naftali, should we go on to another kinyan atorah or should we stick on this one for the week maybe? What do you hold, Naftali? Go on. Expand. >> What What does Naftali hold? What? No, we want to know >> What was the shevet Naftali? What was Naftali? What's the essence of Naftali Naftali? What's in that yellowish look? What is that? Naftulei Naftali Mayor, what were you saying? I was saying no one really knows the Yeah, that's not right. It's not our realm. I agree with that. It's not our realm. You're a gift, Naftali. You're a gift for us. You're a gift from my chevre here who's elevated the whole yeshiva. You're a You're a classy individual who's elevated I'm thankful I We're at the end of the year. I'm appreciative the gifts. One of the gifts to the base mash Naftali an honest seeker OF INTELLIGENT [applause] THOUGHT. APPRECIATE IT. APPRECIATE IT. LOVE YOU, DUDE. >> [applause] >> LET'S GO ON, LET'S TALK A COUPLE MORE. Let's do a couple maybe one or two more Kinyanei Torah. But it's not the first one town with this this what this this more to work on that. Wow, yeah. I want to talk about the second I want to talk about the second one. What? I want to talk about the second one he says what? I want to talk about the second Kinyanei Torah. I'm not sure how this one get I'm curious. I want to ask the how one gets there. What's the answer for this the second Kinyanei Torah? These are ways that if we have these attributes we can connect to Torah. Kinyanei Torah we can connect to Torah. Sounds that way. It sounds like you need these 48 things. That's what it sounds like. They're called Kinyanei Torah. They sound like an order to connect to Torah. Yeah, that's what it sounds like. The second You could learn but will Torah impact you will be one with you will be will you and your Torah be will be be one that you need these 48 things. That's what it sounds like. The second one Akiva is Shmi'as Ozen to listen with your ears. Now the words are very interesting because just say to listen. Be a good listener. What's an ear listener? Do you know any feet listener? Do you know any nose listeners? What Shmi'as Ozen an ear listener the only instrument I know of hearing is crazy. Hearing is is is wild that we can communicate together. We're so used to it you can you can lose it's crazy. It's crazy that I could decide I want to share something with Ari. I like push out of my vocal cords these like sounds that I like construct in some way to sound different. The noises come out. They They fly through the air. Ari's ear could like hear the waves that come out of me and they come out like the way I articulate them. Hearing is >> you know how to Hearing is crazy. Hearing is is insane. The The The fact of hearing is like the craziest thing and we're able to hear each other. And God gave us two ears, mamesh. Two ears to listen, one mouth and two ears. But what's this shmia and hearing with the ears? I mean, it's the instrument of hearing. Listen, shmia to be a shmaya to listen. We speak about shmia and ear listener. I want to express What do we mean when we say somebody's a good listener? The two big listeners that I've seen the many in Yeshiva is Yado is he's He listens. Morty Zuckerman's known as a listener. >> [applause] >> What do you say What do you say when you describe somebody as a listener? >> [applause] >> They're quiet. Everybody listens. I'm listening. What is a listener that we talk about, the listener? I want to say they're people who When we describe a good listener, does it mean that they're not talking or listening? No, certainly you're not talking or listening. It means you're impacted by the words. I have watched guys in the basement of share things with Morty. You could see on his face what he's hearing. He's absorbing. A guy tells him something, he's ready to cry. It's like hitting. There's an openness that what you're hearing, you're like absorbing. I have times I want to say something. You ever You ever sat around and a group of people are talking and you're like want to say Okay, then you like hold it in. Okay, I'll be nice. You bite your even you're talking to somebody else. >> [laughter] >> Even you're talking to somebody else and you want to give your khakhma, this has happened to this guy a lot. I'm talking to a bakhor. I have to listen to him, too. So, I bite my tongue. Daniel, shut up and listen, I pardon my English, but just listen to the guy. Daniel, listen to the guy. That's not shmi'as That's That's not shmi'as ozin. You're not listening with your ears. You're listening with your mouth. Your listening's only You're only listening to hear when you can When is it safe to talk? >> [laughter] >> You're listening in an if and when I can jump in to say. It's not shmi'as ozin. It's not shmi'as ozin if your listening is only in a way that you were just waiting for that to end so you could say. Shmi'as ozin ear listening is not listening to see when it's safe to speak. That's mouth listening. L'khayer ear listening is I'm listening to listen and to hear and absorb. Shmi'as ozin a good listening of a listening that I want that that that that I want it to penetrate who I am. I want it I want to absorb what you're saying. I really want to hear what you're saying. I want to get what you're saying. I want to get I really want to get what you're saying. It's a shmi'as ozin. All the time I've watched people like Rabbi Ross, they really want to understand what you're saying. If anybody knows teenagers talk, what they say and what they mean is not always the same. A bakhor could say something to you. Shmi'as ozin is literally like a deep I want to be impressed. I want to feel you. I want to understand you. I want to get where you're where you're going with this. I want to get the implication of what you're saying. You see people who listen like that with a deep way of understanding are not just hearing words. This is shmias oizen. This is perceptive. This This hearing to hear, not to speak, not to respond, but I want to absorb what you say. I want to feel what you're feeling. They'll ask the right questions. I've seen this in my friend who's made a tremendous impact in my life. I see like an an a shmias oizen, an ear listening. I want to understand. You'll ask the right question and it will bring it. Even his speaking is invited to hear more. You see people whose very speaking is only to hear more. It's to ask another question. The well-asked question is the shmias oizen people ask like good questions to understand more. Explain that. I Where do you come from? That even what they ask is I really want to feel what you're saying. That's a shmias oizen. That's the second kinyan ataira is the shmias oizen. For somebody to practice absorbing impacted and understanding. What are you trying to tell me? Deeper than your words. You You finish? You said already? I got it. That's a shmias oizen. It's a deep penetrating listening. I want to understand you. I want to know where you're coming from. I want to know really what you're saying is a shmias oizen. It's a very a very tentative, sensitive way of listening. That's a kinyan ataira. Hashem saying things If anybody learns Tair in the proper way, Hashem says, "I got the words. I got it." What's he trying to tell me, Hashem? What's What's being communicated? What's What's the neshama of what's hap- What's the pnimius of what's being said? What's What did I learn? What was impacted on me? It's not a shmias oizen to hear the words and jump and say and you listen. You didn't You didn't absorb. It wasn't an absorption of what was learned. I hear that. Why is that called shmias oizen? My according to me it's the opposite like shmi'as peh, was hearing to hear. Hearing to listen, like shmi'as oizen, a hearing to hear, a hearing to understand, like a a hearing to bring it in. It's like what? Because the when Hashem says things if you just hear his words and you don't absorb it's well I my what what did I learn? If you a lot of pnimiyus, a lot of I don't care to label chassidish I don't a lot of learning in this space mash if you watch a movie you'll learn. What did you tell me? What did I hear? What was what was said to me? Not just if you just hear the words but he said Hashem said in front of the blind man don't put a rock. What are you saying? What are you what idea? What did I learn? What are you telling me? What are you trying to tell What do I walk away knowing? What did I Shmi'as oizen the way I understand it. I feel badly. you speak about shmi'as oizen like nobody wants to jump in and say something. Rebbe Ezzy jumped in and No Rebbe Ezzy's a listener listener. Yeah. Oh yeah? Who do you want Binyamin? Ask him. Binyamin wants to ask you something. can you? Ruben Yaina is here not to give a little keyboard with the weird. Gabe, do you know Ruben Yaina? Mayor, what song should you and do for Ruben Yaina? What's your new English song >> Oh, Everyone was singing in the dump last night. NAME IT. [applause] >> [applause] >> GABRIEL, WE'RE GETTING NEAR SHAVUOS. We're in the We're a week to Shavuos. I of We have been to have a lot of Who in the room are going to have hands hands? In army of I think they're about 10 at least this year. I think. I should all be on the same page. I don't know the first day though. No, no, no, no. Establishing right now. No. Fine, so decide tell him. First day there's one day. What are you We're going to We're going to have a maskana but it will be No, no, no, no, no, no. Is it the last day? What did we do last year? Yeah, we didn't do the first day. What did I miss? >> [singing] [music] >> Oh my gosh. >> [music] [singing] [music] [singing] [music and singing] >> I'm trying like some chance of it not happening. >> [music] >> The elevation will come. [music] Thank you for the big elevation. We're going to have to play it. >> [music] >> Well. The old Oh. >> [music] [singing] [music] [singing] [music and singing] >> I see the old >> [music] [singing] >> Oh, I see the old >> [music] [singing] [music] >> The old >> [music] [singing] >> Shalom. >> [music] [singing] [music] >> Atah shalom. >> [singing] [music] >> Shalom shimcha. Yehi ratzon. >> [singing] [music] >> Shalom. >> [singing] [music] [singing] [music] [singing] [music] [singing] [music and singing] >> WOW. >> [applause] >> DAVID, DAVID, YOU KNOW THAT DAVID RUSSIA? NO. That beautiful I love it. Yeah, you did. Really good. How was that night? Oh, yeah, you ran to the city. Cuz you did it. Yeah, exactly. I'll see you. It was the Russian guy. Yeah, yeah. The Russian guy was there. The Russian sheet. The Russian sheet. Which one? Everybody should sing together. I brought you a CD. Yeah, I tell you what's going on. Everybody go together with me. I love you. >> [music] >> I love you. I love I love you. >> [music and singing] >> I love you. >> [music] [singing] [music] >> I love you. I love you. >> [singing and music] >> I love you. >> [singing] >> and hallowed, >> [music] >> O God, our King, [singing] in the world which you have created >> [music] >> according to your will. >> [singing] >> May your kingdom be established and your dominion >> [music] >> revealed >> [singing] >> in our lifetime and in the days of our lives and in the >> [music] >> lifetime of all the house of Israel, speedily and in the near future. And say Amen. >> [music and singing] >> May his great name be blessed forever and ever. May his name be blessed and [singing] glorified, exalted and honored, magnified and praised, above all the blessings and hymns, praises and consolations, which are uttered in the world. [music] And say Amen. May the prayers and supplications of all Israel be accepted by our Father in heaven. [singing] And say Amen. May there be abundant peace from heaven, and life, upon us and upon all Israel. And say Amen. May he who makes peace in his high heavens, make peace upon us and upon all Israel. And say Amen. May his great name be blessed forever [music] and ever. May his name be blessed and glorified, exalted and honored, magnified and praised, above [singing] all the blessings and hymns, praises and consolations, which are uttered in the world. And say Amen. May the prayers and supplications [music] of all Israel be accepted by our Father in heaven. And say Amen. May there be abundant peace from heaven, and life, upon us and upon all Israel. And say Amen. May he who [singing] makes peace in his high heavens, make peace upon [music] us and upon all Israel. And say Amen. May his great name be blessed forever and ever. May his name be blessed and glorified, exalted [music and singing] and honored, magnified and praised, above all the blessings and hymns, praises and consolations, which are uttered in the world. And say Amen. May the prayers and supplications of all Israel be accepted by our [music] Father in heaven. And say Amen. May there be abundant [singing] peace from heaven, and life, upon us and upon all Israel. And say Amen. May he who makes peace in his [singing] high heavens, [music] make peace upon us and upon all Israel. And say Amen. May his great name be blessed forever and ever. May his name be blessed and glorified, exalted and honored, magnified [music] and praised, above all the blessings and hymns, praises [singing] and consolations, which are uttered in the world. And say Amen. May the prayers and supplications of all Israel be accepted [music and singing] by our Father in heaven. And say Amen. May there be abundant peace from heaven, and life, upon us and upon all Israel. And say Amen. May he who makes peace in his [singing] high heavens, make peace upon us and upon all Israel. [music] And say Amen. May his great name be blessed forever and ever. >> [singing] [music] [singing] [music] [singing] [music] [applause] >> Where's Iron? Iron, where's the Yeah, get the drums, Iron. Let's go, Iron. Where's the drums? What's your It's on the attic. You know, you never did forgive, I don't think. No, no, don't [laughter] do that. No, don't hurt. Don't hurt. I think he's seen it all. Which one? The one with the colors. It's really nice. What's a good drum song for Oh, very good. Yeah, do that. I'll see. I'll see. You who do you do? I'm [applause] from you have to come for this. Come on, man. Come on, man. Who do you know I'm with? This song No, no, no. Show me exactly what you I tell him. I need all done. Oh, what are you doing? What is the Benjamin one? Why do you say? Benjamin one is the Benjamin one. Oh, it's just like you and the No, that's not Yeah, if you play it >> [music] [music] [singing] [music] [singing] [music] >> Sometimes it may seem hard [singing] but you don't know [music] >> [singing] >> how close you are. In [music] your arms and in your heart >> [singing] >> tell me >> [music] >> who you really are. >> [music and singing] [music and singing] [singing] [music] >> You don't know good. You don't [singing] know how good it is what you have bought me. >> [music] >> You don't know good. >> [singing] >> You don't know how good it >> [music] >> what you have bought me. >> [music] >> Why don't you give us a lucky day? Give us >> [singing] [music] >> a lucky day many times. Why don't you give us a lucky day? Give us a lucky [music and singing] day. time. >> [music] [singing] [music] [singing] [music] >> You don't know how good it is >> [singing] >> for you and for me. >> [music] >> You don't know how good it is for you and for me. >> [singing] [music] [singing] [music] [singing] [music] [singing] [music] >> If only we would know how good it is. If only we would know how good it is. >> [singing] >> If only we would know how good it is. If only we would know how good it is. >> [music] >> If only we would know how good it is. If only we would know how good it is. If [music] only we would know how good it is. If only we would know how good it is. >> [music] >> If only we would know how good it is. Oh my god. >> [singing] [music] [singing] [music] [singing] >> Oh. >> [music] [singing] [music] >> Oh. >> [singing] [music and singing] >> You don't know how good You don't [singing] know how good it is for you [music] and for me. You don't know how good You don't know [music and singing] how good it is for you and for me. >> [applause] [applause] [music] >> Hey, dope. What? All right, then. See you. I said good call to you. You know, you know What? I have to show you something. >> What? I have to show you a couple more. Second day? You don't even know how good it is. I don't know. It's struggling. I love that song. It's just It's just like You know we can all together. But I couldn't do it. I would do it. You want me to do it? Which one? You like the video, no? We're doing one more song and give it up. Yeah, yeah. I think that's like the right idea. What? Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's great. >> [music] >> Too much. >> [music] [music] >> You moved out to college away from town. >> [music] >> We always >> [singing] [music] >> didn't grow up in the same house. We're brothers, >> [music] >> so I want to tell you about that [singing] I found >> [music] >> It might [singing] be useless. I might sound stupid [music and singing] cuz I can't prove it. But I need to tell [music] you that there's a god who knows knows your [music and singing] name and he knows your heart and he feels your pain. Oh, I wish [music] that he was [singing] something I could explain. I can't but I need [music] to say there's a God knows your name and he knows your heart and he feels your pain. Oh, you might not believe [singing] >> [music] >> me but either way I promise heavy knows. >> [music] >> Oh, do you ever feel that [music and singing] spark that is burning within your heart that guides you when you're in the >> [music] >> dark? >> [singing] [music] >> Oh, do you wonder if this mortal life is an answer >> [music] >> to the great big [singing] why? I believe that there is truth to find. [music] It might be useless. >> [music] >> I might sound [singing] stupid cuz I can't [music] prove [singing] it but I need to tell you >> [music] >> that there's a God knows [singing] your name and he knows your heart and he >> [music] >> feels your pain. Oh, I wish that he was something I could explain. [music] I can't but I need to say >> [singing] >> there's a God knows your name and he >> [music] >> knows your heart and feels your pain. You [singing] might not believe me but [music] either way I promise heaven knows your name. >> [music] >> I hope you hear this song and one [music and singing] day you'll sing along. And together we'll sing. >> [clears throat] [music] >> There's a god knows my name and he knows my [music] heart and feels my pain and it's not something [music and singing] I need to explain. Oh, I just want to say there's a [music] god and knows [singing] my name and he knows my heart and >> [music] >> feels my pain. Oh, I waited all my life to [music and singing] say heaven knows my name. [music] Heaven knows [singing] my name. Heaven knows my [singing] name. >> [music] >> I waited all my life to say heaven knows my name. There's a god and knows my name and he knows my heart and feels my pain and it's [music] not >> [singing] >> something I need to explain. Oh, I just want to say >> [music and singing] >> there's a god and knows my name and he knows my heart [singing] and feels my pain. Oh, I waited [music] all my life to say heaven knows my name. >> [applause] [applause] >> Deborah Harris Oh. Deborah remembers the hands from Menudo Will there be a Menudo member here in the room now? tonight Deborah Satriano at what time Slow Mo else she she Slow Mo with Yayo Yayo what time? 11:45 guys? Okay. Stay here. Let's see what time 11:45 11:45 11 11:11 Let's dance.