Bereshis - Why finding your bashert is hard

Hi, this is Dowski and welcome to the third year of the para in five wherein in five minutes we tried to give you a little insight into the para that hopefully will help to enhance your shabas. This is already the third year and I know that there are people who enjoy it and say over these vlo and they always know they have something to say at the shabas table and helps to keep them focused. What a wonderful wonderful opportunity this is and uh special opportunity for me to you know normally we don't thank the sponsor the par for five uh because we don't always have enough time but uh we have the sponsor the sponsor of the par five I don't know if he's sponsoring this year but we're certainly Maida for last year that he sponsored the entire year and You know, there are certainly sponsorship opportunities. Don't think he'd mind if somebody else wants to get in on the action. Okay. It's interesting that when we make the braos or we say that the should have the a special special, right? Why? I said this over once at what is the special in Geden and someone said there were no in-laws. All right, that's that's cynical. You know, here on the Rabbi Alowski show, we never say anything cynical. Or as I once said to someone, oh yeah, right. I'm sarcastic. So, I don't want to be cynical, but uh but here's the thing. You know when there's only one guy and there's only one girl and in fact they were attached and they separated you know for sure it's your there's not a lot of thought that goes into this like or you know what I mean who's who am I supposed to go out with if not this person yeah gives you that sense of clarity that this person is meant for me this is mish And uh and I know that the two of us are going to build the world. That's the brah we give to every and who get married because every person is an every person is a world unto himself and when you get married you have to have that be and if you go back to my uh to my series but I know there are people who just watched the par five so um they may not have ever seen the series but uh where we talk about this but you need to have that sent me the right person because I don't know. You don't come with a sticker. There's no barcode. Otherwise, life would be so easy. Everybody would have a little barcode. You just put them together and say, "Oh, I bet." And if it doesn't ring, you say, "Oh, sorry. Look how many evenings in the hotel drinking Diet Cokes I saved." You know, I can I have to correct that. I I once said that joke, you know, sitting there drinking Diet Cokes and and the girls corrected me and said, "No, no, Diet Sprites." I Why is that? is cuz you have your teeth whitened before you start going out. So you don't want to stay zero, you know, fine, you know, but you know for sure. You don't know for sure. So why is that? Why don't we know for sure like what was the what was the the how come we don't get to go through that? So the yada in kaducian gives an unbelievable marshall. He says there was a rough of a town and he was very smart. There was a large town and he was on top of everything and he realized he was getting old and he couldn't do the job properly and so he decided he was going to leave and take a small skelea. This is unbelievable. Most people do not leave a position until you drag them out kicking and screaming. Most people don't know when it's time to go. It's exceptional. There was a Yankee ball player, La Havdell, Joe Deaggio, and he retired at the height of his career. He still had a few more good years, but he retired. Everyone said, "Joe, why?" He says, "Because when a kid pays to come to a Yankee game, he deserves to see Joe Deaggio, and I can't give that to him anymore." Yeah. And people don't always realize it. There was a kazin. He was starting to lose his voice, you know. So they said to him, listen, this is the last year, you know. So he would sit for three minutes and cry, don't throw us away when we're old. But people have to have a sense to know, you know, when uh when you can't do it anymore. In the words of Dirty Harry, a man's got to know his limitations. You understand? So this guy, this RV was very smart. He knew it was time for him to go. So he asked Rashus and they said fine. So he sent out his resume to smaller communities who were thrilled to be able to have a ROV of this caliber to be there, become their RV. And so he took the position that he thought would be best for him. And then he set a date and they were going to set a wagon to come and pick him up. So he was all packed up. He was waiting and the wagon comes to town and the wagon driver says, "Uh, where's the RV live?" They said, "Why?" He says, "Cuz I'm coming to take him to Luc." says, "What? You're going to steal our RV? Get him." And they all rush the wagon and he turns it around and he runs away. So the RV's sitting there, doesn't know what happens. And eventually he gets a message that I tried to come and and they tried to kill me. So he calls in the the the elders of the city. He says, "I thought you said it was okay for me to go." He says, "Yeah." He says, "But they attacked the the wagon." Goes, "I don't know what happened." Of course not. Okay. So he comes back a second time and he's coming through town and again the guy he's back get him and they rush the way he runs out. The rub's waiting. So he calls back in the says, "Okay, what's going on here?" He goes, "Nothing. Nothing is okay. Listen, I want you to promise me. Promise me that you're going to let the wagon come in undisturbed." "Well, I can't." I said, "Promise me." Okay. So the wagon driver comes in. He's pretty nervous and he's driving down the road and by the each side of the street they're screaming at him. Thieves, murderers, you're taking out rub you're going to get you. They pull up to the house. Okay, Rub, let's do this fast cuz these people are crazy. Let's get out of here. So, they pack everything up and he goes to say goodbye to the elders of the town and he says, "Why'd you do this?" Said, "Rub, this was a parting gift." What do you mean a parting gift? He says, "When you show up in that next town, listen, right now they're excited to have you, but you're pusing against somebody. A didn't tell go wrong. Something's going to be a problem." And suddenly they say, "This old guy, the other town just wanted to get rid of him and we got stuck with him." Let them remember they had to work hard to get you. Says to yada, "We don't have a little temple because they had das. They could see from one side of the world to the other. They understood everything with perfect clarity. But us when things start getting tough, we say to ourselves, eh, you know, maybe this isn't really my basher. You know, if this was arranged for you, like they do in some positions. Ah, my parents didn't know what they were doing. This wasn't real. I was tricked. I was this lied to me. You know, it's like remember that you had to work hard to find your bash. and put us in a world because he wants everyone to get married and to build a worldm everyone should be to be able to build that chabas.