How To Predict The Future (Ep. 281)

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This is I I'm I'm truly blessed that I get a lot of emails from people who appreciate the show. I these two just you know came in recently and I wanted to share them. Congratulations on almost the 500 le lessons on Torah Anytime. Um the the term lessons might seem a little strange to those of us who are more American, but you'll see why they're using this term. I am a big fan of the Raviolski show. Can you please give me a shout out on the show? Thank you very much. May Hashem bless you with health and a lot more. Shiorum Ezrael Sha a big fan from Anverp Belgium. So apparently we have a following in Belgium and uh Yashakayak. Well that's why he uses the term lessons. We Americans would know that there's no lessons in anything I do. But 500 episodes on to any time gad zuks that's a lot. Anyway, uh so galdic um so uh kavode to those of you uh my European audience uh I don't know if I should include England in that or not. I know I have a nice following in England uh etc. So uh you know Yashikayak and um Azriel that's your that's your shout out. This one I thought was interesting because the last one uh uh that came out was talking about Torah is cool. Actually, two episodes ago. I'm a 12th grader and a base Yakov school. I really find your episodes inspiring and add meaning to my days. I finally find someone who understands me. I am a very sharp, smart, deep girl. Well, obviously that's me, right? you know, I mean, not a girl, but you know, I do identify. As I've said many times, I'm one of six boys, so there were no girls in my family. So, I was the token girl. I did the cooking and the cleaning and the shopping. And yeah, uh throughout my years of school, I would ask questions and teachers would get upset at me, calling me uh nitty-gritty and trying to get them. You know, my kids have a similar experience. And there are teachers who either love my kids or hate my kids. The ones who love my kids are the brighter teachers because they love to be able to show how much they know. The average and below average teachers do not care for my kids. We will talk about that when we get to questions and answers. Um, I just need everything to make sense in my head. Go figure. There are people like us out there who like to understand what's going on. Um, your podcast has made me feel good that I think and that it's okay to ask questions. Yeah. You know, we have this thing called the Pesak Seda and at the beginning we do a whole bunch of things. Why says the Gammorra? So the children should ask inspire questions in interesting the day after your Torah is cool podcast we were learning something in school that was fascinating and a girl said whoa that's so cool to which my teacher replied Torah is not cool maybe she should listen to your podcast absolutely she should Torah is cool and enjoyable to learn. So if the way for Torah to be pleasant is if it's cool, then so be it. Thanks again for the podcast and please keep it going. So uh um I I I tell you the these kind of thoughts really uh give me the to keep going because um you know I'm doing this for years and you know I'm flying without a flight plan. You know what I mean? I every time I sit down and think, okay, what should I talk about? Now, the truth is um that uh we we pre-recorded the last episodes. Uh this one I'm doing now after Pesak. Everything else was really filmed before Pesak. Full disclosure, I hate to to uh show the uh the man behind the curtain, as they say in Wizard of Oz, but um um so a lot of the pre-recorded. This is the first one I'm really making after Pesak and I got a lot of stuff built up. So, uh I I want to share some thoughts with you before we we get down to some business. First of all, I want to uh mention a safer. I had this when I went uh actually on Israel because I was away for Pesak and uh I went uh I was up north which I want to talk about in a minute. But um uh I uh we went we went at least to to uh to mim going to the kaisel. We went on Israel me and my wife and uh I bumped into Kenny Pinsau. Now I have to say Kenny Pinsour Esquire who I haven't seen in a lot of years. He was involved in NCSY oh 1980 I'm thinking 81 something like that. I haven't seen him in a while. I'm always shocked when I see people who I knew as kids and now are like grown-ups, you know, and um and I myself have never changed because number one, I've never matured. And second of all, I aged very early. So this way I look exactly the same. Sort of like Gandalf, you know what I mean? From the time he came to Middle Earth, he was already old even though he was a mayer. Okay, I'm getting off track. But um so when he was there he mentioned that he had written this book in od nil vadi which basically brings different mccuros on the idea of hashka protus and and ideas to it very very thorough and uh you know I want to have give a shout out to this safer if you would like to contact Kenny and ask him about it we'll put up his uh his email on uh on the screen, but it's capital K and then small I N C Z O W. So KE I guess is Kenny and then the P goes for the pinsour at thegmail.com. So it's a beautiful safer. I just wanted to give it a shout out, you know, and uh mention that. Okay. So, um this is my essay, how I spent my [Laughter] pesak. Um I mentioned on the podcast twice, just as a sort of throwaway line that I'm checking out, uh this hotel up north that had just um basically turned Mahajan. And um I was going to see what it was. It was called the Nokiner. It used to be the Bali. I knew people used to go when I was in Bali. They're in the process of refurbishing it. Um the manager is a fellow Mark who's Dutch and um he used to be the manager in the Kenar Resort and then he took over this place and uh uh the uh travel agent of a castle. My kids my kids decided that I'm too old to make Pesak. I said, "I'm fine." And they said, "No, no, no. You're too old. You and Ema are too old. And um we will all go with you to a hotel." I said, "No, no, I'm really fine." They said, "No, no, you're really too old. Trust me." My cleaning lady Raji who is from Sri Lanka said m Mister as long as I'm still uh here then you can make bes and I I happened to agree with her but my children were convinced so they called up uh Castles which is a travel agent here uh in cell and they priced the usual Mahadran hotels that people go to and they're just outside of my price range. Um, the sponsorships really just cover the the cost of uh of production over here. It doesn't really uh make make me a living as they say. Um, so uh so they mentioned, but there's this hotel that's refurbishing and is going to, you know, be open for Pesak and have a good hash. So, you know, it'll be lower price because they're just coming on the market. So I took a few of my kids and my wife and a few of my kids. We went up to see it and it was a at the time there were displaced people who were living there and they were refurbishing and he was starting to build an auditorium so there would be a place to dav in and uh and to have entertainment. You know it this was we went up just before Purum. They just had the outline of it. I said there's no way they're going to have this ready for for Pesak. Yeah. and um and they were refurbishing the rooms. The rooms that we saw that were refurbished were very nice and they put out, you know, uh, lunch again for these were these were the refugees from the north who they were hosting and I thought it was a lovely spread and um, and they told us it would be, you know, it would be uh, very nice and um, and so we took a chance and uh, we went there and I mentioned on my podcast that I'm going up there. I'm not making a program, but anybody who wants to come, you know, we'll hang out together. At least 10 rooms uh came because of me. It might be more, but I counted 10 rooms. And they said, "When are the Shiorum?" And I said, "No, no, no. I told you it's not a program. I'm just I'm just going to be up here." And then they said, "When are the shiim?" And so I made some shior and I wrote them out with my with a pen on a little piece of paper and hung it on the message board down in the lobby and uh anywhere between 20 and 25 people showed up uh English speakers and uh there were others who said we couldn't make this one or we couldn't make that etc. And that was just from a quick little mention. Anyway, uh this place has tremendous potential. We had we had a very nice Pesak. Uh my kids who went all out, first of all, they put gift bags for everybody in the family in in their rooms and uh they made up their own little benches and they made one of these giant signs which was by our table the entire time that says uh Arloski Pesak 2025, we are the party. And my family is a party. There's no question about it. They are the party. And um and the kid they pro they put together a video beforehand and the and the um they had a um the kids all they wrote a song. The kids all sang this song and did this dance and it was uh it was it was a a lot of fun. And um and we had our own room for a seda. We made our own seda and some of the people who came to the hotel asked to join us. So, we had some some guests, sort of our communal seder, and um it was uh it was a lot of fun. It's uh a three-star hotel. Uh I'm saying if you go to the Waldorf, you go to the Plaza, you go to even the Raada, those are five stars. Yeah. Uh the Kenar Lvie, those are four stars. This is a solid three stars. There's no indoor pool. There is a sort of a sauna little like sort of small pool on the inside. Um they don't have a lot of facilities. Um they didn't offer a lot of in the way of entertainment in Shir. They had some, you know, uh so it's modest. The food is fine. It's not like a wow. It's good food, fine food. Um my son uh Schlommo from uh Schlime's uh smoked meats uh business. Those who are in Earth Shaw want to order from Schlimes. You can find him uh online. Schlimes meets. So he was making observations and he says they have a lot of potential here. They should do this. I said make notes. Make notes. Anyway, so um we went through the we we went through the whole uh the whole uh experience and I sat down after Pesak with Mark and uh it was interesting. I I drove over to the Kinara to see my good friend Schlommo Skolnik. Um he uh he does a program in in the Kar. Um I borrowed his one of his programs. I I took I took one of his programs to to look it over and see how it goes. He's travel deal organization. He says, "Look, I can't represent a hotel like this. It's only three stars. You know, my people really want five stars. They beoshi will go to the kar, you know. Um but I give him a whole program." We discussed it and he said to me, "I'll tell you right now, I haven't seen the hotel, but the best part about it is Mark. He he was the best thing in the Kina. He'll definitely be the best thing over there, you know." So I went to market after Pesak and I said look there's 170 rooms here um between your staff and my staff and family etc. probably need about 20 rooms which means we have 150 rooms. I'm sure I could fill up 150 rooms. Yeah. And uh I said because there are some people who take two rooms, there are some people who take eight rooms. Let's say on average three rooms. That's only 50 families. I've already got 20 families who said they want to come. So anyway, I'm getting ahead of myself. I made them this offer. I have not heard back from him. But if it does, then uh I think I will finally actually make a PES program and I have has been you know I I told Mark I said I'm like a spring that has been wound up for like 10 years and I'm ready now. I've been planning this over in my head for such a long time. Anyway, it could be nothing whatsoever will come of this and this was a complete waste of time, but I just wanted to share it with you anyway because I'm an oversharer or my entire family is. We we don't know how to play our cards cro close to our chest. We say everything and and um like I say, we're we're oversharers. So, I uh I'm very excited about the possibility. So, that uh that's wanted to bring you in. I've been talking now for a couple of months about answering basic questions and making a new course on that. And people keep asking me when is it going to start. Uh full disclosure, all of my online sherim were set up by uh by producer Mel who you know has has left the show and I can't get a hold of him and I don't know how to set up one of these online. So the ones that we have he set up. So M if you're still watching the podcast uh reach out to me please because I've shimak as we say here in in Israel. So I would like very much to be able to uh to offer that. So in the meantime I'm kind of stuck. So um just a little shout out over there. Okay. Um that's uh that's more or less our bits of business I think um that uh that we need uh to take care of. Um I have a uh a good friend personally and of the show who uh we we've met basically through the podcast and uh when he's at show he comes for for to be in the audience to be in the uh part of the live audience. Uh every now and then you'll hear like somebody clapping that that's the live audience anyway. So um um so he called up you know to wish me a good Pesak and he asked me a very interesting question a question that I had never thought about before and he said to me what's your favorite part of the hagoda that's that's the sort of question my grandson Ben usually asks me Ben loves to ask those kind of questions what's your favorite this what's this but how does that go you know I don't know if you remember I had a por uh episode during uh co and uh and uh my son Yakov and my son Schlommo um basically were interviewing me and ask me what's your favorite this what's your favorite that you know kind of things like that they're not always easy to answer you know um and uh it's it's an interest kind of question what's your favorite part of the hagoda uh that's a hard question for me to answer. Somebody in fact wrote me and said, "You really should put out a Hagada." Um, I'm going to have a little problem doing that because there's a Rabbi wine hagoda that was sponsored by my nephew and it's called the Orlavski Hagoda. So, I remember when I was first making my website, uh, I wanted to, um, call it Orlowski.com and someone already had the name. He was selling CDs. I don't know who he was. It wasn't Jewish, you know, so it was already taken up. So, there already is an Olafski Haga. I guess I'll have to rebrand it as a Rabbi Olavski Hagada, but it is an idea because I just love the Hagada. I love every part of it. So, what's your favorite part? It's a little tricky. So, you know, when you answer these kind of questions off the cuff, it doesn't you don't really spend a lot of time thinking about it. Um, I said maybe the dal bunnim because you can assign roles, you know what I mean? Russia, am I saying it this year? I said, I said, who wants to be the So, one of my grandchildren said, "Me." He says, Oh, he reads the question. I said, "Who wants to be the Russia?" So, another one of my grandchildren said, "Me." And his mother says, "No." He says, "Yes, mom." So, that was fun. But, uh, but I gave a little more thought. I said, "Probably the pukim and the second half of the Hagada because most people don't really go into them." And um it's uh it was interesting when I was giving my moti shavishurum on a regular basis. So um there was one year that I went to America for Pesak probably to be with my mother after my father was nifa and I said over a vert that I saw I don't remember now where I saw it but I just remember it. So it says you know it brings a to support everything except the very first thing it says honest against his will didn't want to they had no choice it doesn't bring a pik what do say because there is no other reason to leave Unless you're unspic to prove that why else would you leave you know I mention that because when I see these people Israelis who go to spend Pesak in Europe you know one of these places Switzerland you're leaving on Pesak maybe the most ironic the people who spend Pesak in Egypt like you have this backwards. We wanted to leave there, not go there. Yeah. So um so it is it is you know interesting idea but I I like all those drawers you know I really I really enjoy it and um uh so I said because when someone asks a question usually they've given more thought to it than I have since I'm getting question first part. So I said what's your favorite part and he said to me that works out the time of redemption. And I said, "What is it that you like about that part?" He goes, "I find it very reassuring." Now, um, again, I saw this vert a long time ago. Libe, it was in the Jeep Hagod from maybe 40 years ago. I I think I think this is why I saw this little vert and it said so how hard is it to figure out the kates right we we all do those rashies you know it's in a number of places says to you your children will be strangers in a land not theirs and they will will be slaves and they will be oppressed and the nation that oppresses them I will judge and then they will go out with great wealth. So Rashi says over there it doesn't say they'll be oppressed they'll be strangers one and they'll be slaves two and they'll be oppressed. There's there's a process here. So obviously the clock doesn't start ticking till you have z and only will be called zare and not. So it starts from the birth of and from the birth of yitzk till he has uh yakov is 60 years. From the time yakov is born till he goes down to Egypt is 130 years. That's 190. And then we were down in Egypt for 210 years. Gimatria redu they went down. So that's 400 years. That's really easy to calculate. Well, you see the Bafry made a mistake in that they left 30 years earlier because they counted the 400 years from the Brisbane of Assarim when Moshe when Abraham was told about it and he was 70th time. So they went out 30 years earlier. They made that mistake. So uh when it comes to these calculations, you know the gumar and migillah the whole 70y year we were told we're going to go into gullis for 70 years and everybody was had a problem with this. Bhatza had a problem with this. Akash had a problem with this. No one was able to calculate these 70 years. That was 70 years 400 years. So Kates is 190 in Gamatria. So it says he figured out how to knock off 190 years by counting from the birth of Yitk instead of from when we were actually in Egypt. The Jewish people didn't know this. And that's why every time things looked bad, they said to Moshe, "This is why we said we didn't want to leave Egypt." Or, "This is why let's set up a leader and go back to Egypt and finish up those 190 years." Because you obviously made a mistake, Moshe, just like the Bane did. These calculations are really tricky. Those of you who have done dafomi, you recently did the gumar in Sanhedrin where it makes all the different calculations of when msiah is supposed to come and uh there's all kinds of different calculations and the says all these dates have basically passed it didn't happen just means these were times that were mugal for it. The actual time we don't know we don't know but what do we do with all the calculations? Don't worry, he's very good with numbers. He'll work out all of the navas and all of the calculations and everything so that it makes sense. And even though there are times when the little arrows on the top of the Tylenol uh bottle line up, so it's easier to pop it open. There are certain times that are more misugal more uh um set a better time more apicious time for Msiah to come but keeps turning and kaku can open at any time and that's why we say in the second part of the which I say is the part you know like I say one of the things that I enjoy take a Look how um Lavan uh was worse than Pyro because Pyro only wanted to kill the boys. He wanted to kill everybody. Why are we bringing Lavan into here? because we could have had Gullis Mitraim in um by Lavan because it doesn't mention where the exile will be and the entire experience of Lavan and Yakov is a um is a microcosm of everything that happened. He went down as one person. Yeah. and he turned into a whole nation and he came out. Yeah. Had had um the khazal say 1.2 million sheep that he took out with him from Leavan and came out with great wealth and just like he leaves and travels for six days. So the people who saw him leave run three days to Lavven and now Lavven is six days away and he does the entire journey in one day just like Pyro did by Cus Yamsu and uh and he confronts him and everything is right there. You have all the makings of Mim and the only reason we didn't fulfill it from there was because it would have been too hard. He was he would have been the whole Mitzayam experience with Pyro and the Egyptians wasn't as bad as what it would have been like if we stuck it out with Lavan. But there's a simpler question. Yeah. If you if you're going to count that as the as the it doesn't work out with the 400 years. He can work out the calculations. He's very good with those numbers. Everything will work out. And that's why where the starting point is, how you make these calculations, all of these things can work out. You don't have to worry about it. Yeah. And that's why when you see people who spend so much time on the various calculations, there was one time when there was a messianic fervor that was gripping uh Eastern Europe and the who used to keep a suitcase packed with a new suit for when Mashiah would come. He said, "I promise you he's not coming this year. Don't worry about it." Why? Because messianic fever doesn't get you anywhere. I wait for him every single day. Can come at any time. And as the Gmorrah says, he'll come. When you're not looking for him, the when you set a date and say he's going to come now, by definition, it's not going to work. Um, Douglas Adams, La Havdiel, you'll forgive me because I do tend to go off in in obscure directions. There was this fellow Douglas Adams who wrote a book called The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy. Uh, after he wrote the third book, he's it started to be called the Hitchhiker uh trilogy. When he put out the fourth book, he called it the fourth in the inappropriately named Hitchhiker Trilogy. trilogy is three books. When he put out the fifth book, he said the fifth in the increasingly inappropriately named trilogy. But in one of them, Ford Prefect who's this alien who rescues um this uh this earthling just before Earth blows up, you know, and they're traveling through the through the galaxy. So, at one point he's looking at something and he says he says, "What are you looking at?" And he says, "I think I see an SE field." And he keeps like moving his head and moving this way, trying to be able to see something. Arthur Arthur Dent, he's the he's the Earthling. And he says, "What's an SEP field?" It's called someone else's problem. He says if you put up an SCP field and someone senses that it's someone else's problem, they don't see it at all. He said he said if you um um Kenya put on SCP field on a mountain, people will walk over it, through it, and they won't see it at all because it's someone else's problem. You know, it's absolutely brilliant. you know, you see it out of the out of the corner of your eyes, you know, and the only way to see it is kadas. You can only find it if you're not looking for it. So, you have to like try to move your head, jerk it suddenly to be able to see it. Ends up it's a spaceship and rescues them and find. But the point is like you you're going to be expecting Mashiach to come. Mashia is not going to come. It has to be with an SCP field. It has to be that you weren't looking for Mashiach and it and it came from the side. How does that going to work out with all the he works out everything? Don't worry about it. He can make all of the calculations necessary so that everything makes sense. Um, somebody brought the Marshall ones. If you have a jigsaw puzzle with uh a couple of pieces missing. Yeah. Like the song Leroy Brown. It looked like a jigsaw puzzle with a couple of pieces gone. Yeah. So if you have one of those gigantic um puzzles, I used to buy these for my kids, especially Hanukkah time. We would splan working on one of these giant jigsaw puzzles. Um, by the way, I'll give you give you a nakas report, you know. Um, I had a bish ends up that the my kids in Beameish all got together to make their own little Kaneka party. So, I come in and, you know, they baked all kinds of exciting Khan foods and they had um I guess it was the Miami Khan tape playing and they were all sitting around the table doing a jigsaw puzzle. I said, 'What's this?' He goes, 'Aba, this is Kaneka. So, you have one of those big, you know, puzzles. The problem is, what are you doing with them afterwards? You know, my son once did one of these 5,000 piece puzzles. It was a gigantic puzzle, you know, and I had to get it framed. It's still still hanging in what used to be his room. Yeah. So, um uh you put that much effort in it. There's a special kind of glue that you put on that uh holds it together and then you can mount it and and hang it up. But anyway, um so uh uh so if you're missing a couple of pieces, which unfortunately happens every now and then, you make a jigsaw puzzle, there's a few pieces missing just to give you that sense of lack of schlamus. Yeah. So um uh you can tell what the picture is. It's just something else that's missing, you know. Um, a very interesting thing. I came in to my my brother Jason who was a tremendous machnim and his wife Shel. So, uh um after Jason passed away. So, used to stay at Shelly when I'd come to America. and she was doing this crossword pu this jigsaw puzzle and she said Jason loved jigsaw puzzles and I saw this jigsaw puzzle which is all like clocks and my brother Jason used to collect clocks he has on the wall over there you know a whole different types of clocks all kinds of different theme clocks etc and uh I used to give my uh shior from the house when I was there my online shar and I had to be careful to start it a few minutes after to the hour because otherwise you have these 20 clocks all going off. It's extremely disturbing. But anyway, so um uh so it was a jigsaw puzzle with clocks. He says, you know, I I know Jason like jigsaw puzzles and I saw this one with clocks, so I figured he was sending me a message. He wanted me to do it, you know, and you're sitting there making the jigsaw puzzle, but sometimes you suddenly notice a couple pieces missing. You could still tell what the picture is. Whereas with a kadesh bar, you do the whole jigsaw puzzle and you add the last piece and it's something completely different. Completely different. And um uh that's a uh that's an amazing thing. It's an amazing thing that everything you think is suddenly turned around. Uh you think you anticipate it. You think you see it coming. And that's why the is described in the terms of laughter what then our mouths will be filled with laughter. Why? Because um if your mouths are filled with pino that means that you've been drinking too much. But uh why? Because a joke is based on the fact that you set everything up and you know exactly what's going to happen and then boom, right? It turns around and it's completely what you didn't expect at the last moment. And that's the gula. Everything you think, look at the PUM story. You think you know everything that's going to happen, then all of a sudden boom, it turns around and you have a completely different reality than the one you were going to have. So uh since Mitzim is the mother of all golus we know there are Arab gullis but mitzim is the source of all golus it's where it starts from the mother of golus and everything else comes out of that so as we're coming out of gullis going into the gula uh of we're in the process of it because That's what when when tells Mosher Benu originally he says I'm taking them out of to bring them to Hari and give them the Tory. It's a process that's why the Ramban says in his introduction to Sephos Sephmos which is of redemption. How come the second half of it deals with the Mishkan? I mean, I understand we get to to Israel and Mishbatim, which is the story of Matyra. So, that's it. We're done. So, uh he says because the Mishkan is a traveling hari. It goes with them and the Mishkan is supposed to be a source for us uh to access that Tory um and uh keep it with us all the time. and we give it a keep that hari experience alive. So uh so the gula um of mitim to a certain extent uh concludes with mham hari that's why as the ramban says is like one longoid it's all one yontiff till we get to harina and we get to which is the the tells this to moshen andos already part this is I'm taking them out of Mits to bring them to Hari to be able to give them the Tyra. So as we go to finish this gulahem, we will lay the foundation for um the future gula. And remember, expect it when you least expect it. Yeah. To try to catch it out of the corner of your eye. It's an SCP field protecting where Messiah is going to come. And when you don't expect it, that's when it's going to take place. Okay. And that brings us to the question and answer portion of our program. I'm going to do two uh questions together because they're just variations on the same one. By anonymous, what should one do if he sees his rebby doing something that he thinks is wrong? That's the first one. Here's the second one. There's no name on this one. It's not even anonymous. How do I respect my mah even when they are not treating me in a positive way and are making my school life unenjoyable? So this both of these are more or less the same question. So let's uh let's start with a technical answer and then a practical answer. Technical answer is So is like this. If the person is at and you see them do something wrong, you're to be you have to assume that they had good intention. The Gmorra tells a story of a uh worker who is going home for Yantiff and he says to the boss I want to get my uh my salary says I don't have any money. Says okay give me matal and give me movable property. I don't have any. So give me food. Says I don't have any. So give me a piece of land. I don't have any. Okay. So the person goes home has nothing for y and then he comes with dunkey loads of food and gifts and all kinds of wonderful things for him. He said when I told you I didn't have any money what did you think? He says I I thought that you know I I don't remember I'm paraphrasing here. I thought it was all tied up you know in investments. So when I told you have any li I thought you were mockish all of your land when I said I didn't have any t I thought you gave that to the bas I thought this I he says I I swear to you everything you said is exactly what happened unlikely. Yeah as they say in Yiddish bislah far-fetched. Yeah. Farfetched. Yeah. Yiddish word farfetched. Yeah. But he he he was ding the cuffs. And it turns out he was right. And that's why sometimes you look at situations and you say this can't possibly make any sense. And it turns out that you know uh pes tells a story about somebody who saw this of a person on the plane and u the whole flight he's not learning he's reading he's reading like secular science book or something like that you know and he says but this guy is the r of of his community he's a hush of a guy you know he's not learning then they made a minion he didn't go he says he doesn't do Davin doesn't learn. He goes, "Wow, when I get back to America, I'm going to tell everybody." And as they get off the plane, he sees this guy standing there and they bring out the Aron. He was an ovel, I should say, actually he was an onain. He's not allowed to learn. He's not allowed to din. He's not allowed to do anything. But this guy looks at him and he sees a story and you think you understand what's going on. And you don't know. There are things you don't understand here. you know, um the mushel that the kazal give when bad things happen is that you could see a doctor um someone broke their arm and it's set wrong. They have to rebreak the arm and set it again and you see this guy breaking the guy's arm and you're sure this guy is the crulest person ever. But you understand now that there's something else. Okay. If a person is a Russia, you should always um judge him with the worst intentions. You just assume it's bad intentions. If a person's a bayan, an average person, it's to judge them favorably. You don't have to. So if your rebi is a good person and and uh you could think of him as a sadic and you see him doing something wrong. So then you have to um uh you have to be data makovskos. Well that's not really the question as I'm understanding it. The question is when we're talking about in terms of education now I feel like I told this story recently but I have a shaw in my and my room opens out onto it. There's a a little door there. My wife sits there. That's where she davins. That's where Ezra Nim right mamish next door to the and I sit at the front table. So we're right across from each other. They were making the form and my wife opens the curtain a bit and says mention so and so. I said what's the name? Tells me the name. And I got up from my seat and I walked literally three steps to the Gabby. And then I walked back three steps and said, "What's the name?" So my memory shot. So it could be I just did this. You know, there was one time when I I did this whole routine and uh the mot which I thought was pretty funny and my wife said, you know, yeah, it was very good. It was just as funny last year when you said it over the same exact thing. So, it could be I've said this recently and I, you know, I don't remember. I was at a uh a panel um answering questions. It was a shabas dedicated to and on the panel was Rabbi Le and Rabbi Foyer Rabaya Greenwald, Rabbi Briezac and me. The way I described it is two uh two Adam two great people, two experts and me. that that was how I I saw the panel and we were getting different questions and everybody was giving answers and one person uh the um the MC who was Ravgav who's been on the show so he says what do you do if you see your son's rebi made a mistake now because everybody in the panel are good people except for me. They all understood the question as he said shot and the t is wrong. Yeah, that's what they assume. It means that your son's rebi made a mistake, you know. And right down the line, everybody gave basically the same answer. You don't want to undermine the rebi, you know. It could be you're saying the Yeshua and he's saying the maharam. It could be he sort of like this that everybody said the same thing until it came to me being neither an Adam nor expert and I said well it depends if the rebi smashes your kid's head against the wall don't defend the rebi if the moa embarrasses your daughter in front of the entire class don't defend the moa children have a keen sense of uh of justice And my parents were old school and it didn't matter what terrible thing my teachers did, they said, "You probably deserved it." They always took the teacher side and of course this reinforced in me the sense of injustice that exists in the world and uh I was very hurt and very upset about it. But um you know that's that's uh that that that school of thought. But when my kids come home or as one parent told me my daughter kept raising her hand that she had to go to the bathroom and the moa wouldn't let her go until she wet herself at her seat. And when she called up the teacher to complain, the teacher said, "Well, she should have gone before class." when when uh uh a teacher decides to humiliate a student in front of the entire class, not for educational purposes, but just because it seems to tickle their fancy, you know, um or they feel threatened by the kid, you know. Um there was this one older woman teacher who would pick on all of the pretty girls in class. I don't know why, but if if you were pretty, they would she'd give you extra punishments, extra assignments, insult you. I don't know why. If you were plain Jane, you were fine. You know, she was very nice to you. You know, different kind of things. And if you have a kid, you know, who tends to be a little louder, a little this, etc., instead of knowing how to develop them, you know, they're going to break them. I heard this from a fifth grade teacher once. I I broke him. I I broke that kid. You know, it's like, wow. takes a lot to break a fifth grader. You should be very proud of yourself, you know. So, um, am I going to defend that? No. I'm going to tell my children what your teacher did was wrong. Not only was it wrong, it was evil. Do not emulate them. It's a terrible thing they did. Well, everybody went again on the panel and said, "Well, of course, Ravilowski is right. It depends on the situation." They couldn't even anticipate such a thing. But I had a rebby who smacked one of my kids heads against the wall. I've had teachers who who insulted my children publicly and made fun of them and attacked them and all kinds of terrible terrible behavior. So, am I going to defend those teachers? No. I'm going to defend my children. I may not be able to change the situation because sometimes you can't. Especially if you live in a in a town where there's like one school and one teacher and one class and there is no other place to go or certain schools have a policy. We don't switch classes. You know, even though your kid is being destroyed by this teacher, we have a policy. I'm always amazed when they have when they have policies policies. That's our shittita, you know. um when I was getting married. So my parents didn't really care what we did, but my in-laws, we had taken a fancy hall and uh they did not want to have a separate seating. They wanted their friends to be able to sit together. So I was in yeshiva at the time and the mashia says to me, "David, you have to fight to the death to to get separate scene." This is Harvay. I know the Rashita on this. You could ask him, he'll tell you. So I told to my call. My caller said it's going to be a big fight. My in-laws were very upset all like this. So I finally decide I'll ask the he says no don't make a fight about it. But but they told me this is a shittita you know because uh if you're smart then you know you know how to work with it. But this this this teacher is destroying your kid. They won't move the kid to another class. So we have a shittita shittita. One of the worst things in clients people have shittas. I have a shittita gdi tora know how to how to how to work with that. That's why some when I have a shila people said to me, well decide what you want. If you go to this one, he'll tell you this. If you go to this one, he'll tell you that. You know, and in my experience, that never happened. Everybody would look at it from the you know the point of view of the facts of the case and they would often surprise people with their so uh you know when people say to me I already know the shittita yeah you don't have shittas. So if you have a a teacher who's a bad teacher and you can't do anything about it you're stuck. So, um I think it was before book four or book five of Harry Potter, those of you who may have read the series. Um and there's this character there, Snape, Professor Snape, and he's very very mean in general to all the children, particularly to Harry Potter. You don't know why until the end of the book, and you didn't, you know, etc. So the question was that they asked her, why does Dumbledore keep Snape there if he's so mean and such a bad teacher? No, she didn't want to give away the ending. It was a different answer, but she gave an answer in the interim and she said because he is a master educator and part of education is knowing you're going to have bad teachers. And that is the message I've given my children. I said this is a bad teacher. There are a lot of teachers who are average and there are some teachers who are below average and there are some who are sociopaths. You know, like I said, if you're going in there, I'm going to break this kid or I'm going to smack someone's head against the wall or something like that, you don't belong in education. There's something seriously wrong with you. you know that that you'd want to do that to a kid, you know. So, um, so I would tell my kids, keep your head down, get through the year as best as you can, and that's it. Try not to engage, try to stay out of their way, and they're a bad teacher, and I'll help you with whatever I can do. I will I will uh supplement it, etc. I will not tell them they're a good teacher, and uh I'm sure you must be wrong like my parents did. No, they're bad teachers and they're bad people and and neb that you're encountering this because in life we all encounter bad people. So if it's a good person and you see they're doing something and you're not really sure how you can answer it up, okay? If they're an average teacher and they do something if they're bad people then then you for yourself have to know. I'm not crazy. This person is a bad person and I am not going to emulate them. And if you're a parent, tell your children, do not act the way this person acts. They're bad people. What they're doing is bad. And don't try to don't try to defend it. And so for ourselves, we have to know that um the majority of the population is average. There are exceptional people, but not all of them go into education. And so if you have an exceptional teacher, thank God, every single day. And if you have an average teacher, okay, don't push them. I told the story about my daughter more than once, you know, who's very smart. And this teacher thought that she's the rashka bahag and she knows everything and she's you know and my daughter who's very smart would ask these very deep complicated questions and she couldn't answer them. It made her look bad. So at parent teachers she told my wife to tell my daughter not to ask questions she doesn't know the answer to. Of course there's no way of knowing that. So she didn't say anything. And another week later, she called up my wife and said, "She's not participating." So my daughter said, "I had to sit there and try to think of a question that was easier enough that she could answer." That's sick. That's sick. But okay, you know, like I say, so that would be more or less my approach to it. And that's it for this episode. If you want to find out more about the show, you can go to my website, rabulowski.com. You can sign up for one of our online shurum. can sponsor an episode sponsor question answer sponsor para and five and uh you could download the um theme song and listen to it after spira. Yeah. And uh that's it for now. Until next time, I am David Olowski and this has been the Rabbi Olowski show. It's the Rabbi Orloski Show. Torah and Sima, ready to go. The Rabbi Olavski Show. Knowledge and wisdom will help you grow. Lots of fun in every episode. And we don't have to rhyme, no. It's the Rabbi Orlovski show on rabbi.com. Torah anytime you two and more. It's the Rabbi Orvski show. Torah and Sim ready to go. It's the Rabbi orski show. 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