It's ok to feel sorry for yourself

Hi, this is David Olowski. You know, we're coming out of tishab and this period of time is a little bit of a strange period of time. You know, there are three times in the yeshivas when they have what's called bazim sort of a vacation. There's after yam kipper until kodesh those um call it 3 weeks there's the entire month of Nissan and there's the time from tisha of now there's a difference between this bay man and the other bay man and the this vacation time and that is during nissan and during the time after yam kipra we don't say it's a this we still say taken we still say the takna which is a sort of sader because it's a slightly melancholy time if I can from shivas to yam kipra was 3 weeks where we went down and down and down and down till destruction and now we spend three weeks sitting on the ground until obviously we're not physically sitting on the out. We're walking around. We might be going swimming, might be doing things, but it's not the full yet until when we blow chauffeur and we say, "Okay, you know, spent three weeks making bad decisions that led to destruction and now you're spending 3 weeks making a time to feel sorry for yourself." And now we say, "That's enough. 3 weeks is enough time. Pick yourself up, brush yourself off and start all over again. And the chauffeur says, "Wake up. Wake up and start living life and take responsibility and don't feel sorry for yourself anymore." And then we go into a period of time where we work on focusing on the fact that loves us. That's all of Elo. And then we go into and is we go from the days of tragedy to the time of happiness. This is the transition that we need. So now, okay, sit on the floor and feel sorry for yourself. Sometimes that happens. Sometimes you trip and you fall. You don't get up right away. You sit there and you feel sorry for yourself. Did you see I fell down? Darn it. Look at where I am. Ah, this is so hard. so difficult. Okay, you had enough time to feel sorry for yourself. Now you have to wake up, put yourself back together. And that's what happens often in life. We make bad decisions and those bad decisions result in consequences and then we face those consequences. And at some point, you have no choice. The party's over. It's time to clean up the house, put everything back. Yeah. all your bad decisions. It's time to clean ourselves up. Pour pure water on us and purify us. We've gotten dirty. We become tummy. We become impure. We It happens. Now we have to purify ourselves. But right now, it's okay. Indulge yourself a little bit. But remember that it's temporary and I have to wake up and take back control of my