The Rabbi Orlofsky Show Mission Statement - 6th Anniversary! (Ep. 256)

hi this is De Alami and welcome to the seventh year of the rabber Alami show this is our anniversary show of which we have had five this is the sixth we just finished six years of the rowski show and from time to time I meet somebody I just met somebody a few weeks ago who said to me we discovered the show and we sat there and listened to all six years it was not six years yet at the time but right up till the current episode we just sat there and binge watched or actually binge listened it was going on in the background of my house the entire time six years is a long time that's a lot of episodes and uh it's hundreds of hours of uh of almost Torah content and uh tremendous shout out to uh you the listeners and Watchers because um I know many people who uh would love to be able to do this and uh some of them have actually tried and they just couldn't get anybody to watch or to listen so uh that uh that really you know takes it down a notch the fact that we have such a loyal group of people who named themselves the RAB olowski crazies and you know who you are we love you all uh to join us now starting our seventh year together Gad zukes who could have believed that one bad idea could have gone on this long but it is our anniversary show so I do have to do something special I was a kid oh I don't remember how how old less than 12 for sure it was my parents anniversary January 2nd they're not around anymore and uh I remember we made them an anniversary party and my brother played for them Al Jon's Anniversary song now you probably have never heard of Al jelen Al Jos was the son of an orthodox kazin whose dream was to become a uh singer and so he would go after Shore to The Ville theater and sing and he became known as the world's greatest entertainer a name that he gave himself as it happens but apparently Superman named himself Superman and that's stock so anyway but he call himself the world's and his one of his by lines was you ain't seen nothing yet you know and uh he became a famous entertainer they actually made a movie about his life called The Jazz Singer which was the first Tori movie ever made first movie with sound they used to call him Tois and it was remade by Neil Diamond in a uh more modern version of it but uh anyway so he had the Anniversary song I'm not going to sing the whole thing but you'll indulge me it's my anniversary I I when I said oh it's the anniversary show I just I thought of my parents anniversary and my brother playing this song for my parents oh how we danced on the night we were w we found our true love though a word wasn't said the world was In Bloom there were stars in the skies except for the few that there were in your eyes you get the idea anyway so uh a little bit of nostalgia was we saying Hebrew Nostalgia and as somebody once pointed out Nostalgia is not what it used to be so uh um so here we are together and I feel like it's important to establish the rowski show mission statement uh I know I've said this many times and uh you know you reach a certain age where you start to repeat yourself and I know I've said this many times you reach a certain age where you start to repeat yourself but the um the fact is that uh you always have to have a mission statement um Steven kovi and The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People he says every uh every business has to have a mission statement so that they know whether what they're doing is consistent with what it is they're trying to um to uh accomplish so uh one of the major order makers found that there was a floor in their car and they know that a certain number of them were going to result in death so they had a choice they could make either a major recall and fix the problem or they could just pay off the settlements to the people who got killed and they figured out that that was cheaper so clearly their mission statement was make as much money as you can even if it results in the death of individual customers that was the ambition statement but Stephen kovi says that he was speaking at a hall in a particular hotel and uh and he needed markers for the Whiteboard and uh there was a guy up on a ladder that was cleaning and uh he said do you know where I could get markers for the white board just tell me where to go the guy says no problem and he climbs all the way down and he walks into the office and he gets the markers and he gives it to him and he thought that was unusual and there were two or three other instances like this and uh at some point he sits down with the manager of the hotel and says listen I've been in a lot of hotels I've never seen this before how do you explain it he said we had a meeting of the entire staff when I said the entire staff I mean housekeeping uh the bellboys uh catering the office staff the managers everybody together and we said we want to be success and we want to keep this hotel going and the more successful it is the more chance you have of keeping your job and of getting raises so let's decide what our mission statement is and he says we decided that the most important thing is customer service and we all decided together that whatever you're doing you stop if a customer needs help and we're all going to see ourselves as customer service personnel and that's what resulted in a culture in the company of everybody knowing exactly what they were supposed to do but if you don't have clear what your mission statement is then when you reach a point of having to make decisions you're not going to be able to know for sure how to be able to make that decision because you don't have your mission statement and then he says something which I used to say but now I can quote step kovi because he's more famous than I am uh he said every individual needs a mission statement in your life so that when you have to make decisions you have to know what your mission statement is and he says your mission statement is your eulogy write the eulogy that they want you want them to say at your funeral what is the life you wanted to have led what is the life you want to look back on that is your mission statement and sit down and figure out because once you have that clear then you'll be able to make other decisions but if you don't have that clear lail this is what theil says in perim when he talks about in zirus how to do zirus and he says zirus means basically you have to make decisions and he says you going to have to make decisions BAS shalas I said and he explains what that means he says the first thing is you need definitions that's why his his way of saying a mission statement what is good what is true good and what is true bad and people who do not have their values defined find it very hard to have to make decisions I'm pretty sure I told this story already but I remember when my father was in the hospital was close to the end already he had Y and they came to my mother and they asked to sign a DNR do not resuscitate and she signed it now Hospital staff is trained how to get you to sign a DNR there is a fascinating book and I urge everybody to read it it's called The Undead it was written by a fellow who is a professed atheist he is a science um science journalist he writes stories about science and uh he wrote an entire book on brain death and he said there's no point there's no definition of brain death it never existed in history a person was considered dead either when they stopped breathing or when their heart stopped functioning but brain death and uh and he says the reason brain death was added as a definition is because they want to take your heart and you can't take the heart once the person is dead so they had to come up with a definition where the person is dead when he's not really dead so they can take this heart and then the whole book goes on to document um stories of people who were not really dead and the doctors ping they were dead to be able to take their um uh to be able to take their heart um there's something called locked in syndrome where the person appears to be brain dead and he's really not um there story after story where a machine showed no no brain activity and the person came back to life so it's like it's a scary thing but he says one of the things they do is train uh the nurses in how to get you to sign a DNR do not resuscitate and uh so I read this book and I I was familiar with the methods so I knew that it's wrong and I knew what they were going to do it gave me a leg up so I had a uh I was having gallbladder attacks for a while I didn't know there were gallbladder attacks um and uh incredibly painful incredibly painful so I was in America I was in the middle of a speaking tour and I get one of these attacks lasted for six to eight hours I was lying on on the floor I I can't describe the pain um I I did everything I could I was taking this so when it was finally early enough I called one of my sister-in-laws and asked if she could maybe get me you know some kind of uh and asked or something because I was having such terrible pain and she called another one of my sister-in-laws and she says how long has he been having this pain he says 68 hours he goes okay an aunt ass it is not going to help they called hat Sola and uh they uh took me to the hospital and they did a uh ultrasound and the guy said your gallbladder is double its size we're going to have to take it out now the uh gastro was a from guy who knew my brother and uh the surgeon was not a Jewish fellow I said look I can't do this operation now I'm in the middle of speaking to I'll come back when I'm done so he says no you don't understand this is a very serious situation you have to have the operation now I said can't you just give me something to like you know tied me over so the surgeon looks at me like I'm out of my mind but the gastro who knew who I was already knew that I was out of my mind he says I could but if you suddenly get an attack you're just going to lie in the the floor in the airport for like8 hours and you're not going to be able to get move I'm there's nothing I can do about it I said okay well let's do the operation then you know um you know give me a day and then I'll I'll go back out my tour he goes sure he told my brother there's not a chance he's he's finishing this store but while I was in the hospital the nurse came around and said do you want to sign a DNR and I said no now she's train to get you to sign the DNR because they want your heart I think if he knew what kind of shape my heart was in they would have just left me alone but and I said no he says well you know if you don't sign it then they can do uh you know some very invasive procedures I said be as invasive as you can I'm not going so they said uh you know you might end up you know being in a vegetative state I said I look forward to being a burden to my children she just gave up at that point because they're not trained to deal with somebody who is informed and knows what to say but people who aren't ready they don't have their values clear and they have to make a decision or as someone once said to me the time to decide whether or not you trust a particular hash is not while you're sitting in the restaurant that's the wrong time to figure out whether I do this or not you have to get your definitions as clear as possible that's obviously an ongoing process because uh you don't know you don't know every possibility when you defining it so as new situations arise you're going to have to Define them as you go along you could have the general idea but what do I do in this situation yeah so the the greater my definitions are the easier it's going to be for me then to be able to make a decision when I find myself in that situation but you have to really spend time thinking about it it was a story about this guy who got his foot caught in between the subway and the um platform and he couldn't get out out and and the train was going to take off and nobody knew what to do so the guy from the magazine stand ran over and told everybody on the platform push the train and everybody pushed the train and it moved just enough that he was able to remove his leg and just then the train took off well he was interviewed later and they said that was a brilliant idea how did you think of it and he says all day I sit down here in the train station I just watch trains coming and going and I think to myself what would happen if somebody fell on the track how would I get them up so I went out and bought myself a rope and knotted it up and I keep it in the back of the little booth here so in case someone ever falls on the track I can run over and throw him the rope and pull him back up I thought what happens if someone gets his leg stuck and I thought through every possibility I could to try to come up with a solution so the once you have your definitions making decisions are much easier but of course you have to be able to make a decision where uh you're you're uh in a situation sometimes you can ask somebody somebody you can't some you just have to make a decision based on the information that's available to you and uh sometimes those decisions are life and death sometimes they're not you and uh and the the more that you you know put yourself into situations of definitions the BET can go uh I used to teach in a seminary and every now and then they would get a message that uh there might be a terrorist loose and they would declare a lockdown day okay so Safety First so I'm going to stay in and then I had a call from somebody from America your relative is undergoing an operation they asked if you could please go to the coil and Diving for them so now I've got a conflict which of these are more important go and dive in the Cil or to listen to my school for the lockdown day I'm not going to answer that question but you understand that the the the decision is going to be based on your mission statement what are your values what's the most important would thing a girl asked me uh the following question she said uh I um I have had problems with my eating I don't know if she had an eating disorder I don't know what this is how she put it same problems with my eating and and I spent a lot of time getting my eating under control so that I have control of my eating now I'm being offered two summer jobs one uh is not so interesting doesn't pay so much money but you get a lunch hour so I'll be able to control my eating what I keep a bettered away the second job is much more interesting pays more money and um and uh uh the problem is you have to eat at your desk and I'm afraid that if I take that that job I will lose the progress that I've made in controlling my eating there been many times I've presented this particular scenario to people and they say what does she have to eat for there's somebody who's just bursting with sensitivity you know this is this is the situation you ask you have to answer the the question based on the situation that you have right um there was this girl who was in seminary and she decided to come back for another half a year and she did it she says because I need that second half a year and in the middle of my second half a year in Israel my uh my sister was getting married so okay so I plan to fly in get there a day or two before the wedding be there for the wedding stay through sh brast and then come back my mother said to me oh no I can't make this wedding without you I'm not organized enough I need your help to make the wedding she says but I really need this year time in seminary because so you won't have it now what comes first a head of a seminary told me that this mother wanted her daughter to come home for her sister's wedding a few weeks early and the middle of the Year Seminary says why cuz cuz she has to have dress Dr fittings say listen when she comes back from Seminary she's going to start dating people are going to see her at the wedding it's important that she looks good isn't that more important than having some more classes in seminary what do you do how do you make a decision the way you make those decisions are going to be totally on your value system in order to be able to make a good decision so you have to have what your mission statement is clear what is it that I believe in and then I told the story not that long ago how uh I was offered a job to write for television and the agent told me he's going to give me a standup help me develop a stand-up routine and then i' have my own show and everything like this and I sat down and I said okay if he's right I'll have Fame and Fortune but because gave me these to be able to help instead so because I knew what my values were it was easy for me to make that decision other people have a harder time making that decision because they don't know for sure what they really want what's really important to them so as you go down the line and you have to make decisions and that's really what life is all about the first thing you need are your definitions that's your mission statement continues then you have to make a decision and there's two levels of that decision it's sh right now I have to make a decision some people are getting in a cab and uh they're going to the Cil and these are not the type of people you normally hang around with but you haven't been to the CLE in a while and you really want to go and they say quick we have one spot left do you want to come with us or not you have to decide do I do this or not you're about to leave for class or you're about to leave for work or you're about to leave for your Kusa and all of a sudden you get a phone call the person really wants to talk to you do I talk to this person or do I do what I'm supposed to do I have to make a decision right now and then the second level is called which is what I review the sum total of my actions and I decide at the end of the day was that a good decision or not and it could be even if that one decision was good I decided to take the phone call I decided to help the person you know move I decided to cook that and I never accomplished what I was supposed to accomplish so then the sum total of all my decisions obviously took me to a different place than what my mission statement told me I'm trying to accomplish you get it okay so what's our mission statement here um I I've mentioned this I feel like I've I've talked about this recently but uh you know you'll indulge you'll indulge an old man I hope um and that is I have been asked a number of times if I wanted to start a seminary and I'd say why and the main answer was because they'll make money and I said I don't believe the road to riches runs through the Seminary world I think that's the way to to to become rich yeah I could be wrong on that by the way the real the real money and Bar Mitzvah lesin but um you know I said that's not enough of a reason for me to dedicate my life to to make money I said if you can show me that there's a niche or a niche depending how you want to pronounce it that's not being filled that I could do I would consider it but just to make another Seminary why because there's so many people and they all need seminaries and then you know if I'm going to do something it's got to be because I'm doing something else I I've spoken about this before you know my son uh went from Yeshiva to Yeshiva and all the yeshivas are basically the same basically the same a little different this way a little different that way he finally came on a place called uh which is one Poes who's Zim's grandson and I said he didn't make another Yeshiva he made a different Yeshiva it's different than every place else they they have different sheas they have a different way of working with guys they have a different approach you know and uh and they enjoy a certain level of success because they changed the the you know uh the the methodology that had been used every place else so when the idea came to start a podcast I said to myself why so to get up and do uh torer plenty of those plenty of those yeah a question is asked on GAR ined why is it that okay I I don't mean to that has an essential purpose but I understand so so I'll give another share all right well people argue you have something to offer that's a unique p uh perspective that is true I've told this story before that when I used to give my par share in or half of the room were beginners from or and the other half were guys learning in Mir and brisk because they felt what I was saying was and they wanted to hear what I had to say so okay that that's probably true but I have a lot of sarum that I'm planning on writing they're all they're all in my head the distance between the mind to the pen is very long distance but one of them is a collection of my insights into which I wanted to call here's another one you get you have you have Parish on the Torah here's another Parish on the [Laughter] Torah is it is it essential I don't know I don't know if it's essential or not you know they're definitely they're definitely different thoughts than anybody said I remember at one point I was getting beaten up on the internet it happens from time to time and it's just interesting to see the comments but this one guy writing says I was in his he didn't say anything you couldn't find in the art scroll and I thought to myself what are you picking on the art scroll the art scoll would never say these things you know but uh okay I have my own insights I've been giving otu shabish year in harno for close to 30 years and I've heard this comment more than once says I come to this she because it's the only place that I come out feeling good that I'm airmed Jew I feel like everybody beats up on you and this place you work out with a good feeling makes you feel positive and that was my main motivation for making this why I started this podcast was to be able to give people uh a sense that you can watch this and feel good feel happy if I can use that term a positive Jewish experience a positive Torah experience um I will share Torah thoughts I will share recipes I will share jokes I'll do Old El jelson songs it doesn't really make a difference my point is that I want people to be able to walk away from this I I my first year I got a I got an email from somebody in Gates head that I found so particularly poignant and he said I was burnt by the system I don't learn Torah anymore I don't go to any shum then I found your podcast this is the only Torah I have in my week and I was I was moved by that because I not necessarily that I'm smarter than everybody else although an argument could be made for that but because it's I try to be positive and when you can present to this is the most important thing and I'll never forget when I was giving this Mo shabash at one point I was very busy before I I uh lost all my jobs through my wit and personality but um uh I I was very very busy and I had to cut out something I was going to cut out this m because takes a lot of time to prepare one of these and um and uh every nle took me to Rea Shapiro to rat on me Anda said I understand you are very busy you'll have to cut out something else so I stopped talking to my wife but uh you know he says and this is what he said to me and these words stuck with me if you can do anything today that give people to do it cuz we're a DA that needs and that's really what we try to do here yeah and there's there's uh there's a a Trope if I can use that word you know that people say you know I give mus I'm speaking to myself and uh there was a story about this one Mash who used a special shender whenever he would give mus he kept it locked up in his office you know one time somebody saw it it had a mirror on it so that when he would give the Musa he would he he would focus on himself and the fact of the matter is I need to get through the day life is tough life is tough and we live in tough times and um we all need to be uplifted and uh that's what I really try to do I try to lift myself up and bring other people along with me that's what we do here so uh I can't make everybody happy uh in the first season I had a uh a Shear I had a a episode called it's a show not a shear and that's why I called the rowski show and then somebody said once gave me mus say it's not a show you say over Torah ideas I said yeah I also say over other stuff because uh you know I mean we had I had an episode with my son we just talked to about barbecuing not necessarily Torah content although when the Bas of mdash comes we kohanim need to know all that sort of stuff for the aod but um uh I want to enhance people's people's lives I want people to walk away and feel better and and be able to share it with their children and be able to share it with their parents and every now and then I get an email from uh you know grade school uh student says could you give me a shout out I watch all your shows I get uh from senior citizens I get from non-jews I get you know uh people who are nominally religious I get froma you know people whose first language is Yiddish and they watch this show and uh it's said that that is my mission and I hope I stick to it I really do like I say six years is a very long time and I don't plan out except when I have an interview and then I don't prepare for it I know there are people I interview and they say do you want to talk through the talking points I said no I'm just going to talk to you and we'll see where the conversation goes I'm not I'm not sitting here with talking points um it was very interesting uh the last anniversary show was the one with niss black that was turned out to be the anniversary show and um uh he said a number of times during the interview I've never said this before I've never told this to anybody before and I commented I feel like that's because I'm not interviewing you I'm talking to you I didn't prepare a list of questions and what happened on that I was sharing the experiences that I was having and meeting this person because I find people fascinating and uh to be able to share that with them and you know when I go to the project Inspire convention you know they uh most of the meals are Buffet so I I lose wait because I walk to go to the buffet and someone stops me and the next person stops me and the next person stops me and the next person stops me and people have stories to share and you know it's just absolutely amazing and uh they're either amazing stories or they're horrifying stories or they're you know um in you know stories that are inspiring and I just find people fascinating and that's what I really try to bring across so um I always try to come up with different IDE of things that I think will enhance the lives of my listeners and the people who are participating and who are watching and I've said it before and I'll say it again I'll sit on this nest till the end of the no that's not it uh I've said it before and I'll say it again and that is I do not have the words to express the Gratitude to the people who are willing to take out time from their day to listen to anything that I might have to say and if you find it worthwhile and you find that it adds to you and to your life I cannot begin to tell you what a that is for me that I have anything to say that anybody cares about and that can make any difference to people and soak we should all start out together and we should all be strong and we should all be a good year and we should all move forward and uh every now and then I get suggestions for guests and people and some of them I can do and some of them I can't and uh you know well we'll see how it goes but uh all I can tell you is if you've enjoyed what we've done the past six years I'm going to try to maintain the same level of mediocrity for this coming year and so welcome aboard and if you if you're this the first show that you're seeing and you're just starting with the Rabel olowski show experience well uh I hope you enjoy uh this journey and if you've been with me from the beginning um all I can say is like two old friends seven six years a long time to be together we will walk down these roads as long as I've got feet to carry me and uh and we'll go hand in hand down that road yeah don't walk behind me don't walk in front of me I may not follow don't walk behind me I may not lead don't walk beside me cuz I don't like you just kidding just walk beside me and be my friend and together we will walk in the ways of Hashem I think that's my mission statement for what the rabi olowski show is all about okay so congratulations to all of you who've made it through along with me and now we come to the question and answer portion of our program by Anonymous I hope this does not sound like f why does the Yeshiva system constantly bash baltim when the majority of B's parents are baltim isn't it counterproductive to tell kids that their parents are bad we have Schoen that they are terrible peoplea are the ideal also the concept of a babaes terit is saying they're second rate Jews who can't think isn't this showing the major majority of cell is not up to par what is a guy supposed to think when he goes to work that then he has failed at life I cannot tell you how many times girls have said to me I just want to marry a guy like my dad he my dad gets up in the morning he learns he goes to work he's an honest guy you know he comes home he spends time with his family he doens three times a day with a minion he gives stucka you know he's involved in the community he has a Seder at night I'm just looking for a guy like that I said it's your fault because you have bought into this idea of putting down balaba you know a balos has always been the main stay of CLA Isel when people say baltim they're using the terms often synonymous with amitz but that's ridiculous anit is an Amit and I'm sorry to say there are guys learning in in Yeshiva who umos you know you may have heard the term AOS that's what I'm describing from balos a beautiful thing it's the Bedrock of clel not everybody is cut out to learn full-time and the fact that we have created a system where the only option is to sit and learn fulltime is I believe a problem and the reason it happened is because when we came to America Torah was dead and they had to create a uh uh Society of people were sitting and learning and so that was the EMP empasis but when you put all the emphasis on that then you end up doing it at the uh expense of other things you know a good is Israel was originally a coalition it was a good Israel and po a good Isel you know there were M that were a people who sat they were farmers and they worked when I came to learn 1975 people who were what we would call to who was sitting and learning was a minority the majority were were working they had jobs oh they had no choice you're going to support your family and then at some point we became victims of our own success and it became not an option but the only option now there's two types of people who should be learning full-time uh people who really really want to and people who have the gifts to be successful I I they're not the same thing there are certain people who are on the fast track to become a god Ador and that's a great thing there are other people who are not on the fast track to become a godor but they have the rut Zone they want it more than anything they just want to sit and learn hinis of whom it says in peros that if you took all the and put them on one side and of all h on the other side K so in the P tells the story that he was in when we say an Amar means he didn't know how to read didn't know how to DAV didn't know how to bench and he finally runs away from home and he goes toak raki teaches him how to bench and teaches him how to DAV teaches him how to say kishma says now go back and he says no no no I want to keep learning he says no you're too old for this to start now you know that's what his father told him you're too old already you know get married have a kid send them off to learn yeah but he wanted it and he wanted it so much yeah they want to make a k El Ben and the K says don't do it you don't know where Torah is goingon to come from not going to be necessarily from the best and the brightest and come from the people who want it who want it the most that's what I believe and so people I I learn R would occasionally tell somebody and say listen you're a very nice guy but you don't have what it takes now you sat and you learned for a few years go go and get a good job and and you know and get married and have a family and uh be a from balos he would encourage people to do it now H felt like he was given a mission from his father lez who gave his life for and was sent to America by the to save American jewelry and he felt this impetus to be Mar but if you haven't got it you haven't got it doesn't make you a bad person if salant he would understand the of a person he said you should become rash you should become mas and he sent to somebody you should be a BOS yeah make money and help support Tyra so why do they do it between me and you in my opinion sense of insecurity because people who are secure don't have to put down anybody else and you put down baltim it's only because deep down you feel inadequate because if you felt secure you wouldn't have to do it sh you saw sat and learned all the time but there were other there were 11 other they weren't sitting and learning all the time they had other things to do I mean they learned for sure they had other things that they did and Zan comes before because Zan supports so that's my insight into that by Anonymous thear in says that it was it wasn't for the necessity of rain we would do that it should be removed what does this mean and why are we allowed to mix into hashem's ways well we obviously aren't mixing tm's ways because we're not doing that the rain not come but it says before the mble when the world was as it was supposed to be it rained once in 40 years when it lists the brus it says it'll what's Friday night when everybody's home so the rain won't bother people but rain can be damaging makes it hard to travel it makes the roads muddy ER you know causes accidents there are problems to it so you need rain the point we're making is that rain is a necessity for the world but not something that we want to be as an inconvenience therefore it should only rain be in the good time yeah but not when it's uh going to be inconvenient that we have to say don't listen to the of the who say Hashem make it stop raining because this is hard for us so therefore we say we understand the world needs rain but not because rain is of itself something like flowers and trees it's something that's necessary for the functioning of the world but you know not something that I need to be exposed to if it could be get the benefits without getting the um the downside from the downpour okay I don't mean to downplay by Anonymous is the problem with that we are telling children that they are not worth much or is it because we are confusing could it be like says is that mid need because they are being they are being but lack of for self-destructive Behavior which is a lack of self-respect and needs not mus which knocks them down but rather to be built up this behavior is below you you were too good to act this way so R hudna said this already in the 1960s and this is one of the problems of not recognizing Changing Times rudna says in Europe you had a problem with GAA but in America we have a problem with uh they didn't have a fancy word like self-esteem he says self-worth people in America don't have to deal with GAA we don't have GAA yeah in Europe yeah the problem with G because there was something to be GIC about but today we're so weak and we're so small so the shooing that were given about GAA in Europe all all it does today is knock people down so when you talk about uh a type of mus that builds them up that was traditionally mus which was known as Godless Adam the concept of Godless Adam is look at how great you are and based on how great you are that's what you have to try to achieve and that's the message the problem is that uh the Torah world is reactionary and therefore um it takes a long time for us to change so um because this is the way that mus was given for a long time people have never adjusted I for a while I was speaking as Shiva and I would go through the top Schoen that I believe destroy bam I I don't think when they were given I understand why they were given but today all they do is GM to people and uh I remember I was speaking once and my regular way as you know and I try to be as positive that's my mission statement and R Bulman was Bulman looks at me and says you're not fooling me you're just an old slik I remember the originals they gave Schmo in the same way they would tell jokes they gave all these positive messages you know and it was just straight you're just doing the same thing you're just copying I said Reby that's probably the nicest thing anyone ever said to me should to do it the way the old people did but you know people say things like you know why aren't M you know why don't they have a sense of humor why aren't they positive why aren't they there was a time when they were when they were uplifting so okay so people are very very strong you know so you have to you have to try to to to break that GAA but today people need to be built up and uh you know the the fact that we can take a tet and make him feel like a million bucks and I've told this to teachers you know I said you broke this fourth grader you must be so proud of yourself you know you took that kid and you smashed them but you feel good now huh a real powerful person you know destroyed this you know this person made you feel good that's sick you know my son said to me once I youed see these rebies you know they just slap a kid in the face what kind of a human being does something like that you know slap a kid in the face a little kid you know how could you how could you behave that way so this is this is the idea that the system is broken you know where instead of um making people feel good about themselves and being proud of themselves and helping them develop so that they have the strength to be able to change unfortunately more often than that we put people down and like I say people put people down I think it says more about them than it does about the kids that they're attacking from Jay I buy Lotto on my birthday and I feel I did something amazing that would give me Aus of winning so maybe like five lot tickets a year total I figure it's the easiest the most practical way of me coming across the money if Hashem wants me to be Z to airus but I could be wrong I could be wasting five lot tickets worth of money every year maybe I would do better just to put it in Staker or to buy a few cans of Arizona Iced Tea what should my hashkafa be on the lotto I think the bigger question is what should your Hasa be on Arizona canned IC I find the concept of candy St to be is difficult for me to wrap my head around not that I I not that I like to judge not I'm a judgmental person but I am always right but anyway but but I digress um when I go to America I uh I either buy a mega millions or a um a power bow whichever one is higher for exactly that reason and my son told me that his re poach told him that uh you buy one ticket buying two tickets by the way your odds don't don't increase that much really in absolute terms or 10 tickets yeah it's not gonna it's not going to make that much of a difference but um the uh uh you buy one ticket for exactly us that if a wants you to become rich you made it that you could do it because you bought a ticket to to win a half a billion dollars without buying a lottery ticket becomes much harder have to be much more creative for that you know what I mean you have to stumble on DB Cooper's uh hidden uh money that he buried someplace in Seattle when he jumped out of the plane but um uh but the idea is of course that the um the more that you uh just do your HISD lless and it's not much of a HISD lless right I think a one of those tickets is $2 you know I don't expect to win I don't know what I would do if I did win I would be I would be so shocked I'd probably just you know just die on the spot then I wouldn't get my money but um uh but the idea behind it is uh those who do do it like I say my son told me that's what his Reby told him to do and the idea behind it is that this way you give give the opportunity to be able to win if you were supposed to get it so I did my and if not I'm out two bucks yeah uh if you're in a position where those two bucks are going to make a difference to your life then by all means don't buy the ticket but for most people you know $2 uh today I don't know if you can buy a candy bar for $2 I don't know I don't know what things what what you can do with two bucks but uh you know the the um uh you go to the dollar store and buy one of those little paddles I think with the little rubber ball and the and the elastic string you know you know get one of those little parachute guys you know the little solders the parachute you know plastic bag TOS it up so uh so is your position legitimate I have heard from people that yes it is uh if you want to argue that if a Coach wants him become rich I'm sure he'll come up with a method without me having to waste $2 and instead I will buy myself canned iced tea okay if that whatever floats your boat if that's going to work for you and uh that's it for anniversary show we looking forward to another wonderful year and I hope all us uh have a wonderful time uh if you want to find out more about the show you can go to my website Ravi ali.com and you can ask a question you can send an email you can sponsor an episode please we need sponsors you can sponsor Paran five we're about to start a new year uh 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