Yom Kippur - Be Like King David (Ep. 255)

hi this is De rowski and welcome to the special yum Kipper episode of the rowski show put on my yum Kipper tie uh special for the occasion and uh H don't forget to like share subscribe and comment and whether you're watching with our friends over at T time wherever you watch or listen to your podcast as always we are excited to be able to have you along for the experience and we have our last sponsor we're out of sponsorships so uh I guess that's appropriate as we come to the end of the sixth year of the rowski show I hope we have sponsors so we can have a seventh year but that's really up to you I'm reaching out to my listening audience once again as uh we are down to the crunch time so we really need your help in order to be able to keep this going I know there are I know there are a lot of people who gain tremendously from this and I know everybody is waiting for somebody else to step up to the bat but now it is your turn so we're looking forward to seeing you just go to the website rowski dcom and go to sponsor an episode and uh you can do it in honor you can do it in memory you can do it anything that you want you can do it in anonymously you can list a bunch of names you can push your business whatever it is that you want but uh we need your help but uh a special sponsor for this week hi rowski I wanted to help sponsor as I love having your podcast as a light-hearted easy way of listening to Torah content as a supplement to my learning in Yeshiva listen that's what we're doing here you know we're providing Torah in an entertaining interesting and exciting way so please everybody I'm glad this this person is inspired and he should be able to inspire more sponsored for the of my Shalom as well as me finding the right place to continue my learning next month uhhuh very important I'm a 28-year-old balua from Westchester New York and I've been learning at H for the past six plus years barem I progressed very much in my learning however along the lines of what you have always spoke out in ways the Yeshiva system can improve that's so nice that you put it that way as opposed to since you're always trashing everybody and everything this is the Yum Kipper episode we certainly don't want to make it sound like I'm a negative person because I hate people who are negative yeah I'm looking for a slower place to be able to stimulate my own learning of the gorra and rishonim rather than constantly feeling like trying to keep up with how the rabbi is teaching his sheer I need help in navigating this as well as trying to find a more balanced approach in my learning I would love to hear more has andish in my learning but keep being pushed to go deeper and deeper and Ean in order to really taste the sweetness of learning would love to hear what you have to say thanks for all that that you do so uh you're making a very important point and uh theil sh in his introduction when he talks about uh Schamus Schamus means completion and [Music] he and um and points out that there are five areas of a vus Hashem to become a shalim there a there's there's kav there's to emulate God's MOS and the and he says everybody puts their emphasis on the last one but that's only one of the five areas of Hashem and he says it is kada to sacrifice one for the other that was the argument between the musim movement and Brisa where the musim movement felt you have to take time out of your learning to work on your mus and mid to improve yourself as a person and Brisa felt you can find everything in toyra and uh it's not necessary to um to make special time for it but uh the fact matter is that most of us are not on that level well we can just be able to sit down and Lear a Tois and get from that all of our moral development so um uh we need a more balanced approach and as I have pointed out on more than one occasion uh the model that the yeshivas used were developed in Europe um more or less and uh that was the system that was set up times have changed and uh and when times change the methods used have to be changed the gmar says that um parents always educated their own children that was the normal way you learned Torah at home and when uh the situation changed they couldn't do that anymore they started an educational system they had to because people weren't either parents didn't have the ability of the time to be able to teach their children properly and so they set up a school system because not because the Torah changed but because times changed and uh girls of course stayed at home with their mothers and whom mother teach to mend and tend and fix preparing us to marry whoever a father picks the daughters so daughters stayed home and they help their mothers when the situation changed and girls started going off to school they only had secular schools a lot of girls were being lost they were going off the D so a seamstress in Caro by the name of sarne saw this was a problem and started girls education not because the Torah changed but because the situation changed so um uh has anyone actually sat down to really examine whether or not the educational system we have today is the best one now the idea of learning be Ian to be able to get fulfillment is of course true right it's the it's the genius of Torah the intellectual challenge of Torah it sharpens your mind it helps you understand things on a greater level but uh of course especially a person who's coming in from the outside who didn't maybe grow up with toyra as the lingo franka of the Jewish people Yeah by which I mean Jews grew up using terms of of tah to communicate so if you're a regular American assuming that you you know have any sense of American tradition in you when you want to talk about somebody very big you talk about Paul bunan Paul bunan was this giant in American mythology with his blue ox babe and all the different legends that were that you would say w he's he's he's as big as Paul bunan you know or some other giant that you might bring in but if you you know grew up you know in a from Torah environment you talk about you know uh as uh the tape when Zade was young say the guy came in he looked like OG melan's younger brother that everyone knew what he meant because those are those are the terms you know when you want to say spell it out in black and white and I'll give all the details in English in Jewish talk it's which Rashi explains was how Yakov tried to explain everything so these are things that you know so again you get with experience you pick up but uh it it's good to have more of a breath of knowledge there's an old joke about a guy who um he uh this is how old this joke goes I don't know if the these things still apply he quoted a PK in n and someone says oh you know a he says well no it's a you know it's a gor in so goes oh learned s he says no T in the brings it down he goes oh you saw the T he goes no the mentions it which is like a cheat book it sums everything up so uh so the fact that people don't know foundations of tanak yeah there are schools today that follow what they call the maharal method which is based on the mishna that says and there are schools that do that from 5 to 10 they teach the kids all of tanak and the kids learn tanak then from 10 to 15 they uh they only learn mishas and then they start Kamar at 15 and they have a foundation of all of mishas and all of T behind their belt so they go in much more successful others maintain you don't have to you learn gamar everything's in gamar um so that might be true but if you're going to go very slowly and go very in depth you're not going to see most of and um people who may not normally have anyi that's one of the advantages of DFI is that it at least means that you'll have seen Shas whether you understand it or not is another problem but at least you'll have seen it you have gone through all of Shas and there's definitely an advantage to that I started uh doing Dai three Cycles ago um because they asked me to speak at a dfom mum and I said I don't feel comfortable because I don't learn daoming they said nobody who speaks you know does daoming right friend said it best when he said when your friend's having aim so you come and participate but to me it would seem hypocritical to go in there and make a whole speech about how wonderful DFI is if I don't learn it so I I set UPA I said I'm going start loading da yomi and the da more people joined our little Kus sha eventually turned into a shear and myusu was giving the the sheir and then he got an actual job something that I don't have anymore more and so I M took over the shear and so I I still have a Sher and dafi and then I started doing one online and um I'm now in my third cycle so I'm I'm getting a better idea of it but unless you're exposed to Shas you don't you don't see all of these Concepts and all these different ideas so um so you're 100% right that there are certain Rim who give sheer for themselves not for the guys right a famous story about this education consultant who met was meeting with the teachers in a school and says say your name and what you teach said my name is so and so I teach history my name is so and so I teach uh geometry my name is so and so I teach biology my name is so and so you know I teach English when he finished I said he says I gotta say nobody gave the right answer the answer is I teach children I teach students I'm not teaching a subject I'm teaching the person and that makes all the difference in the world when I was in uh Discovery you mentioned aor when I was teaching in aor so aric Khan uh I was on the question and answer panel um and aric Khan said to me don't answer the question answer the questioner see who the person who is asking the question and figure out out where they're coming from and why they're asking this question and what they want to know you know and uh that of course makes a big difference if you can if you can understand the question and where it's coming from so it's important to understand where the person's coming from and how to be able to answer the question so if you have a rebi who's giving a sheer and I know there are re like that um a friend of mine is uh his son was in eighth grade and eighth grade is very important because now going to determine which high school or here in Israel Yeshiva katani you get into and um and uh he said to him uh you know the kids couldn't understand what the Reby was saying he was way over everybody's head and the reie says I'm not here for the kids I'm here to say over my re's Torah and those who understand that understand it those who don't though uh terrible approach terrible approach you teach the student who's in front of you righta had a student he had to repeat everything 400 times till the guy hopped it you know so you didn't just say well I'm saying it over if you get it you get it you don't you don't but uh so yeah you got to make sure that you have a rebi who is concerned about making sure that everybody understands what they're saying um as opposed to just teaching the information just speaking otherwise who needs it you know uh I've I've often felt that about certain reim who they're just saying over there Shear they're not concerned about the talim and uh I said so I don't even know why you're giving she just write a safer put it out let anybody read it I don't know what you're gaining when I was in it was very Dynamic wanted people to ask questions and to argue and participate which they did and when uh when Rashia got to be too large he had to have hard and even days everybody was assigned the number and you could only ask questions on OD or even days because it was just becoming such a Bagan and that's the the the process was very Dynamic asking questions and getting answers so um uh so where you are and uh what you should be looking for I guess a lot of that depends uh I'm not sure where you're located geographically but uh hopefully we can connect and I can give you my two cents I'm not up on what's going on understand I haven't been in teaching in Yeshiva in years but uh at least based on what I know I can try to share some insights okay yum Kipper yum Kipper y you know there's a historical underpinning to Yum Kipper and um and that is of course that mosenu went up on shu to get the luos came down on shamas found that we had built a golden calf and smash those luas and he goes back up to try to get for forgiveness for the Jewish people whether was the 18 or 19 rash ran but he goes back up for 40 days and 40 nights again and agrees to forgive the Jewish people but I will no longer dwell among them that is that boat has sailed I'm not going to do that anymore so uh the people say we cannot live with that distance we want things back the way they were soes goes up for another 40 days and comes down with the new luos onum Kipper and that's when the Jewish people are in fact realize they have been forgiven and they've gotten back what they are and this becomes a day of and M for all time so it would seem as if this is a historical uh day of the problem is and I've mentioned this in the past um theah who says if it hadn't been for the AEL then the months of the agle would have had y toim just like every other month but T of an ELO which were the mons of the agel all those Yim were pushed in to Tish so explained what that means that rashash would have come out in tamuz yam would have come out in a sukus would have come out in El and only sheras would have been in uh in Tish and it would have been Aeris just like shu is called Aeris from sukus to sheras he would have counted seven weeks till he came to sheras and then it would have been an s the same way now of course everything is more Compact and so every day of sukus is a week of SP that we have to pack everything into in a much more intense uh situation but what does that mean rashash Shana would come out in tamas SAU who says the world was created ones who says the world was created what does that mean that the world would have been created in tamuz how could rash have been in tamuz and the answer is if we would have gotten those first lcos it would have been a different world and if it's a different world then you understand it's a a whole different situation it's a new beginning it's a new world yeah you'd start it start over again and then the way Risha put it is like this and and trying to say it over as best as I can I I always try to to be careful Raa was not the one who coined it but he did say it I don't mind if you say over what I say in your name just don't say over what you say in my name so um he uh I'm trying to trying to say it correctly um the uh the the nature of people are that they're always going to do things wrong and therefore we always need a y whether we built the agle or not there would had to have been a Yumi built into the year and so whether it came out in a or whether it came out historically in Tish wouldn't have made a difference there had to have been a y and that's what I want to try to talk about today because you know one of the central aspects of yipper are the Y gidos you say them over and over again and of course when you reach after every and Nila is B basically the best of SOS you know all the SOS that you said during the week of SOS you're um you're picking out the the the key ones and then you're doing K afterwards followed by the Y giml MOS that's the um uh that's the normal way of doing it uh by the way apparently um somebody wrote in and said that when I did my podcast on about SOS I mentioned saying SAS at night when he says I always try to say it in the morning because of Bo correct I do too so if I I said you say it at night I clearly misspoke you can say it at night but it's better to say it Asar he is correct anyway SOS which is setting us up for yamer bringing us to yamer again the highlight of it is the yimid and that is of course yamer over and over again when I was growing growing up we used to sing the right and when you reach forget about it there's is not enough time to sing that over and over again there's barely enough time to say it over and over again particularly here in because at the end of you have to have and since is a VOD you have to do it before and um uh so it's uh you have to rush you have to M rush to be able to get it in but um and then you left with this big period of time at the end so they tend to do every ainu malanu uh responsively the whole thing and slowly to try to drag it out but um the uh uh the yid is the Highlight interestingly enough rash we do not say because um is the not a day of and kapar soas were asking forgiveness were asking for forgiveness rash were being judged now is not the time to to doas on R so people will point out I when they open the own they said he would gimos so explained that's not the if you look at the it says was with a Talis wrapped himself in a Talis like and he said um the yid and the are and then you do Theos but you can't you can't do the uh just saying the Y by themselves is not the Sader you have to say the Seder of the yumos and that's what uh yam Kipper is filled with saying the Yos over and over again so um uh it has a certain highlight to it it's unusual in that you repeat hashem's name twice and mucho said you will not find a KES saying a with hashem's name twice so people pulled out a few and he says you see that there's a break in between it's like you know it's like there's a comma I'm not talking about that we actually say Hashem Hashem we just say hashem's name twice yeah so y gidos it says if you say the Y gidos you will be forgiven of course it's not that easy yid means that not that you say it but that you become it and that's what I mentioned one of the five areas of means so when you say you have to encapsulate the those mid and you have to learn how to emulate them the way a k does and to do that and to have that mercy and all the other attributes that are being described over here in the Yos but we start right away with Hashem Hashem what's the repetition there so the M explain Hashem Hashem Hashem before you've ever done anything wrong and Hashem after you've done a that's an amazing concept I have to ask for hashem's help when I haven't done anything wrong yet for for his forgiveness there an important point to to realize um the very fact that that you are a physical being means by definition you areer you are incomplete and there's no way for you to serve a completely you just can't you have to sleep you have to eat to go to the bathroom you know you have to there there are things that you need to take care of and besides that just your physical limitations you're you're weak can't do everything and uh I remember this woman told me goes I don't know what to do about my husband you know he went to a sheer about how you're supposed to be M and he's training not to sleep and he just keeps passing out you know and uh I'm afraid he's going to be driving and just you know pass out and crash you know he's he he can't go without sleep the vayan only slept two hours a night four half hour intervals was a Shai and there were people who tried to copy him one of was tell me them tried to copy him and he said to him I can do this because I'm strong you're not certain people normal people need sleep laav Thomas Edison also slept very little didn't e it parents are often uh uh styed when they have a kid who just doesn't sleep doesn't need so much sleep and so uh you know gets up at 4:00 in the morning he's up for the day he had a few hours of sleeping that was enough for him you know they have to figure out ways to to try to keep himself busy you know um without waking up everybody else in the house but some people don't need allow but other people do the ra says you need eight hours of sleep says six hours of sleep um rans tells the story how his son's Bar Mitzvah he took him to the stier to get a br that he should be a he says fine I give you a br but how you going to become a what's your plan kid didn't know what to answer oh I don't understand he says there are 24 hours in a day you need to sleep for eight hours or seven hours and take a nap during the day for an hour and you need three hours to dve and you need three hours for eating and and bathing going to the bathroom and that you know so uh uh fine that's uh 6 8 is 14 that leaves you with 10 hours a day says you learn Stark for 10 hours a day wait I'm I may be make a mistake maybe it's two hours to doin and two hours for the meals Etc that's right you left with 12 hours a day says you learn 12 is a day starkk from now until you get married and I guarantee you'll be you you don't need a I guarantee it'll work but the thing that he said to that was interesting is you got to sleep for eight hours a night or seven hours and an hour nap but a person doesn't get enough sleep is not going to be able to function yeah um my continuing Health Saga uh it turns out that one of the things I was having is that I was constantly exhausted um I still am but but maybe less so I always exhausted and the cardiologist said it's probably sleep apnea so uh I got a sleep apnea test of course you know that makes sound much simil simpler than it actually is my wife had to make a lot of phone calls and you know wait on wait for a very long time till they give you this little thing to try it out and uh I met afterwards with a p pulmonologist to discuss the results and he said well you're uh you only stop breathing seven times an hour that's not a lot apparently people would sleep half the you know stop breathing a lot but when you stop breathing you stop breathing for 30 seconds at a time and your oxygen saturation drops to 60% now so that you appreciate this when I had covid they send you a little monitor to check your um oxygen level if it goes below 90% then you have to go to the hospital so your saturation drops to 60% when I later met with the doctor who gives out the machines she said to me you know as far as shabas goes you know you can ask your shilot just make sure and tell them that for you it's saon neous if you don't have this so now I sleep with a CPAP machine you know you have a mask on andow oxygen I feel like Bane from The Dark Night right really weird but uh you know person needs to sleep and without sleep you're you're not going to be able to function but because I need sleep and I need to eat and I need to go to the bathroom and I have all these other physical obligations you understand that that's going to limit me that limits me in my hasem so before I've done anything wrong I already have to um askes for forgiveness simply by nature of my inherent humanity and so uh I've I've mentioned this in the past it is Kai to go over it again and that is the hardest part of chuva is recognizing that I've done things wrong and you have to recognize that you have to know that you have to integrate that so a person says you know I I I've told the story I don't remember how long ago I told the story but the story of where he sees his b and he says so uh you know it's Ellie doing Chu he says yeah yeah of course doing TR H says for what he says you know for my Aus he says like what says well you know uh whatever AAR I have he says well let's go down the line says no oh that's good you kill anybody no oh okay yeah no no oh very good and he keeps going down the line and finally he comes to lar and he says well I've spoken L but it was always for Tois was for useful purpose it wasn't ah okay okay well yeah but it was always with it was like you know and after a while the kid realized he was getting caught and he says okay uh you know BK says there's nobody who doesn't sin you know everybody sins everybody does things wrong Isaac looks at him and says you're never going to do chuva because you've never done anything wrong have excuses for everything you know you never killed anybody will you m somebody would Rob him that's called embarrass someone in public that's called Murder gilas you never looked at a girl yeah sh says that's Gil you spoke and the only reason you didn't Ser is because it canel out the desire otherwise you would have been serving a v too but in your mind you've never done anything wrong Hashem Hashem when we start at the beginning we're saying to ourselves that before I've done anything wrong I already know that my imperfections and my MIM and all of my uh uh limitations guarantee that I'm doing things wrong when I say doing things wrong it means I'm not serving the way I'm supposed to so okay it's not my fault that's that's the answer that's what this boy was trying to say it's not my fault we had a whole podcast we talked about it's my fault and the fact of the matter is that as long as you have excuses you're never going to be able to do chuba SCH comes to sha and says hello Sho I did everything Hashem said says you know it's funny you say that cuz Hashem came to me last night should I tell you what he said he says sure he says uh I regret the fact that I made because he doesn't listen to me because I told him to wipe out aik and he didn't okay you're sure at this point schi says God just told me last night that you didn't do what I asked you to do what should you respond at this point this is is what you don't respond I don't understand what you're talking about I did everything Hashem said and that's what scha says and at that point scha can't do Chu anymore that's it you lost the malus he says okay okay okay I'm sorry no no no if I'm telling you as a that said that you didn't do and that you messed up and that that's not enough of a cue for you to say uhoh what did I do SCH says Hashem says didn't I tell you to wipe out all the animals he says I did okay the people took some of the better ones because they want to bring with cabanos but otherwise it did everything else you kept a gag alive unbeknownst to you AAG managed to be with a woman that night and keep the seed of amolik alive from that came H who almost wiped out the Jewish people from that came according to S the Nazis almost wiped out all the Jewish people I didn't do anything wrong so that's it there's nothing I I can't help you I can't help you comes to and says can I tell you to judge a case as the king says sure says there was this uh poor man he just had this little sheps this little sheep loved the Sheep would would sit on his lap he would feed it from his table he would take care of it do all these wonderful things for it and this rich man he had lots of sheep and even though he was making a su he didn't want to waste his sheep so he stole the poor man's sheep and he Sheed it and ate it and D said what a rotten guy for that that level of evil he deserves deserves to be killed but he is going to you know pay back five times cuz uh four times pay back four times because when you steal a sheep from someone in you that you have to pay back for a sheep Andi in the court of D mik not in private swings around and points his finger and says jause that man is you D you're the one you took Beva and you you know married her and you took her away and you know it's a what you did now knew the chabas that says anyone who says that right anyone who says that David did a sin and uh he could have said what are you talking about first of all they were only married M second of all wased yeah third of all before you go away to battle have everybody give their wife a get what are you what are you accusing me of over here that's not what D says he saysi and then there's aiek in the middle of the Pik the PK sort of stops kski quoted the gr I couldn't find this gr I asked him once and he says he didn't remember where it was but he says cuz D knew he should have Saidi of vti but he couldn't he was in so much pain he couldn't get past Ki the navi told me I did something wrong what doesn't make what you think at that point is telling me I did something wrong says this is a day of you think you've never done anything wrong trust me just by being part of The Human Experience your inherent lackings your inherent limitations mean that you've done things wrong and when a person recognizes that there's an old story about this guy who's driving to his reformed Temple and he gets danum Kipper and he says to his friend he goes you know on my way over here I passed the orthod actual he says they must be the worst people in the world world they're crying they're banging their chest you know they must have done terrible things I didn't do anything wrong what about you no I didn't do anything [Laughter] wrong yeah Noah Weinberg from Torah he would say you know he would do this thing where a new person comes in and they're trying to decide if they should stay and take classes you know so he likes to challenge them so he says are you a good person or a bad person and the person always says I'm a good person and he says who's more likely to say they're a good person a good person or a bad person of course a bad person a bad person has never done anything wrong uh and how to win friends and influence people in the introduction it tells a story about some criminal Mad Dog somebody who had just you know shot a cop and he was hiding out there with his girlfriend and the police were closing on him in on him and he said to her I can honestly say I've never done anything wrong in my entire life I don't know why they're coming after me he was incapable of of of being honest with himself of what he had done uh years ago when I used to fly and um uh they used to have inflight magazines I don't know if they still do but uh there was an article there by this uh psychologist who said I was at my kids's Little League game and this kid struck out he was so angry he threw the bat you know his parents ran over to him to make him feel better and I said why did you do that and they said because we didn't want to hurt his self-esteem he says instead of worrying about his self-esteem you should be worrying about his underlying morality why didn't you say why'd you throw the bat like that you could have hurt somebody and people are worried about people's self-esteem and it comes you know at the expense of basic morality and he said they did studies of people on death row who had created who had committed such heinous crimes that they were going to be killed and he said they didn't suffer from low self-esteem they all have very high self-esteem they suffer from a lack of morality and so when we go into yam Kipper Hashem Hashem before we've done anything wrong we understand we have done things wrong onus means it wasn't even my fault I'm clapping Al on onus why because it means that I have done something to be able to limit in this world whether I meant to or not whether that was my intention I've created limitations in this world by my actions the Mitzvah of Yumer is two things things one are the inim and the other one is V to admit our Aus that is our VOD of the day and so a person who's not fasting very well and he has to rest at least say V say say right what are we gonna say we're not so brazen and so stubborn to say yeah we've sinned take the approach instead of the approach and you'll be able to continue to be a m you'll continue to be able to do great things in this world and for is everybody and uh hopefully we will get some more sponsors and be able to continue and start our seventh year together looking forward and that brings us to the question answer portion of our program by MK do you think that it isn't proper to make your Suka look very fancy and in style because the Suka is supposed to be a holy place and not a place to do interior design no I think it should be as fancy as possible and a place to do interior design because it's a Mitzvah not only that it's supposed to be your draa you're supposed to go and live in the Suka and therefore you're supposed to treat the Suka like your home and therefore there are people who actually move furniture out into the Suka you know as much as possible to make it as fancy and nice as as can be in fact I remember somebody telling me he says I don't put those paper chains up in my Suka would you put them up in your home yeah so the decorations in the sua should be the type of decorations that you would want to put up in your own home so by all means um you should beautify the Mitzvah of the Suka as much as possible uh um the uh the gar says they used to decorate it with flowers and fruits and bottles of wine you know and put everything into it I'm sure I told the story in the past but you'll indulge me um my father was a florist he was not shabas uh he went to sh sh Kipper uh and uh we had a PES but you know most of the other things did not weren't really there but Suka he always built a Suka I don't know why he remembers the Suka more than anything else his father had a Suka and he would make a so my father was a florist and so he used to build a wooden frame and then nail on trellises you know you ever see like in the garden these like you know uh the sort of like grids I don't know how to describe them I don't know what a trus is and then he would bring fresh Ceda greens and he would wire it on on the inside the outside those were the walls and then he would put down slats and he would put down Cedar greens for the it was beautiful it smelled beautiful and it was like something that was alive and he only allowed real decorations he put in Autumn Leaves and Indian corn and gourds and uh straw flowers and uh he would bring from the store pted uh mum plants put them around on the outside and it was the whole thing was a living thing that's how he made it you know and he and he said I don't understand these people who get these canvas suckers and get these bamboo and put on the top I said it's a MIT for to beautify it so uh so that's how I grew up that's my standard of a sucker okay by Anonymous why is M Suka since when is that an excuse oh because the Suka has to be your deer and if your house reached the point where it was insufferable you wouldn't live there you would move out and so if your house was suddenly um infested with a swarm of yellow Jacks you would get out if it suddenly got so hot or it was so cold that you you you you couldn't stay there or assuming your Leaf roof was leaking and raining in on you you'd leave the uh you'd leave your house and since the Suka is supposed to be your house if you cannot live there the way you would live in a house then you put it from there because you have to live in it like a like a house by Anonymous does the rub do anything to keep your Lula fresh sukus for example wet paper towels Etc I never had a problem with my Su with my Lula never had a problem with my Lula truth be told I never had a problem with my um hadassim either both of those made it through suus uh without any problem my srig I never had a problem with as long as I never let anybody else touch it because they invariably broke it you know or did something to posle it yeah so those things weren't my problem my problem of my Aros I've tried different things over the years I've put tried putting my Aros into the refrigerator I have tried wrapping them in a wet paper towel what happens is they get um uh they get moldy when I try to do that you know I I have not come up with a good method and I finally um came up with what I think is the most successful method um and it's based on a joke I remember from The Carter Administration for those of you who are not familiar with ancient history then you know uh before Biden was Trump before Trump was Obama before Obama was George W bush before George W Bush was Clinton before Clinton was uh George Bush Senior before him was Reagan before him was Carter okay so it takes it back and Carter got man Bean to sign the uh the Camp David deal with Egypt him and Sadat and he broke it the deal and The Story Goes that uan was a little nervous especially after the war in 1956 when we pulled out of Si and then when NASA decided to move the Egyptian troops back in he told the UN peacekeeping Force to leave and they said okay so he was a little nervous and CA said to him look you're a Biblical Jew I'm a Biblical Christian it says that the lion will lie down with the lamb and he takes him to a little pen and there's a lion and and there's a lamb and they're both lying together so Bean says oh that's truly miraculous I guess if the lion can lie down with the lamb we can make peace and after he leaves one of the AIDS says to Jimmy Carter how did you manage to do that he says it's not hard you have to just keep changing the [Laughter] Sheep so so the uh that's the secret I found to keeping fresh Aros my son-in-law who goes out and buys my uh my D medum for me um uh buys me three packages of Ros which I keep in the refrigerator and every two to three days I just take out my dead Ros and stick in brand new ones and they look great that's how I keep my arus fresh just keep replacing the Sheep do you have any suggestions on how to manage the difficult Balancing Act of holding the Lula of estr and S during her shinness well there's you can use the method of the person who's usually behind me because I'm some what short I'm not tiny but I am short you know um I think there was a time when I was 5'8 but now I'm 5'7 maybe I'm shrinking down to 5'6 you get older you start to shrink and invariably there's always somebody behind me uh who's much taller than me and invariably he has the Arts called sukus ma which is 850 Pages or 1,850 Pages which one they do a whole separate one it's it's enormously thick and he just rests it on my head as we're going around so he doesn't have a problem I however have trouble finding people shorter than me I could try to find a kid but they move fast so uh one year um one of my tell me do sent me this unbelievable patent my problem is I almost can never find it before Cirus I find it during the year and then it disappears again and I always try to find forus the entire hos are on this card and the card is held together by velcro mama if you're relatively you know handy you could probably make this yourself you snap it onto your hand and then you only have to carry your lul and ESG and you read the hus on your arm as you're walking around this is a brilliant patent I have seen people who've come up with just hosana cards which are you know serve the same Purpose By the way when you come to rabi you turn it inside out and snap it the other way and now you you got all of the H Raba things and take that along with you but I will admit that balancing A lul and Es and a sitter is problematic at least to get yourself a hush's card that is my advice and that is it for this episode until uh if you want to find out more about the show go to my website ri.com please please sponsor an episode we need your help I know it sounds a little n to have to keep doing this but uh we 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