#8: Behind the Bima - Special Guest: MODI

you can't tell Modi jokes one of the moody people here is it someone said what else do you do so he's like only Jews would ask that kind of question was actually one of my questions I was gonna ask him oh I'm curious does he tell jokes all day all right guys everyone relax because we are on Facebook are we we are alive we are live we are live ladies and gentlemen welcome back to another episode of behind the Bema behind the Bema episode 8 my name is rabbi from Goldberg honor to host you and I am accompanied by our incredible panelists rabbi Phillip Moskowitz rabbi Josh Brodie it's Wednesday night 9 o'clock that can only mean one thing and that is we are going we're gentleman behind ready ba that's right we're going behind the beam oh we got an incredible night planned for you tonight breaking news this might be the biggest night ever we got breaking news we've got special guests we've got fascinating task force updates we've got raffle we've got surprise guests who may join us tonight it's an incredible lineup but let's begin by making a Lahaie hymn to life we're here we're healthy we're happy and things seem like they're getting better even though we're not yet there by a long stretch everyone has to continue to be careful and so to everyone to our listeners and to my dear colleagues and friends we say look I'm behind Goldbergs had some big news today that I want to make a look I am about we did what happened here Mazel Tov rabbi Ephraim in yo Kevin Goldberg on the engagement of their daughter a Tara behind Lahaina daughter Tara I love my atala she's a sweetheart and colleague Minsky my new son is just he's golden he's outstanding it's incredible his parents who are now my new brother and sister Bruce and Jill thank you for giving car life to us into the world what a special boy and super exciting the only thing I could say is I wish it for everyone we should have simcoe's we'll get into later we don't have a lot of time now maybe the complications are trying to have a Simcoe during Corona and those are only compounded when you're a community leader and the eyes are upon you and you paint a target on your chest you have to figure out how do you enroll it how do you announce it not only how you can do everything right for yourself your safety if your well-being how you could be an example it's not easy not easy whatever few hairs were left on my head are now gone but again I take that problem any day of the week at such a bracha and for that we're so grateful to the Almighty thank you l'chaim l'chaim to everybody I am that's number one once I get what is it true that when you met the future mullet on him that they said one second your rabbi Goldberg from behind the Bema I'm not gonna say whether they yes for an autograph or not about behind the Bema I can't say that here on the air but I will say it was it was more exciting than any sheer I give or and the article I've written is when they heard that that we are in fact the team that is behind the Bema so it sounds a little bit about him what's Kali like tell us I haven't met him look our color was a great guy let's come back to him later because we got a lot to cover tonight not that I would want to dismiss him or diminish him he is he's everything today is his day it's a Tyra's day we're gonna come back to that it's super super exciting but we got a lot to cover so we're gonna come back to it and maybe we'll even have color on the air and when I was in till the world there's time find out a little bit about him so as I said there's a lot there's a lot to talk about but I want to thank our sponsor for tonight our good friend the BRS community member mark Ben Infeld marks a great guy a smart guy and he has worked for BLS financial he is part of being infallible VLS financial and amazing group and organization taking care of all of your insurance needs and you know it's a depressing topic talking about disability insurance life insurance and all those kinds of long term care 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care of you so we're very grateful to to mark for his sponsorship tonight we are gonna be joined in just a few minutes by one of the premier Jewish comedians of our time I mean we know I'm already for a while I think his breakout probably his breakout performance was what the Boca Raton synagogue dinner a few years ago for sure well and was that what year was that I'm not sure if our friend Matthew is listening maybe Matthew can share with us sir where's our fact checker what your own five years ago I'm gone five years ago we are not going to bring up any any of the other comedy performances actual dinners but but Modi was an Rohit he wasn't the one that didn't work right no he wasn't the one who walked off stage after five minutes for everyone listening that's not him yeah no Modi was a home run and he's always a home run and you know the whole idea in the essence of behind the be moat we're gonna try to do tonight we try to do every week is not you know Modi's not invited on to do a comedy set he's invited on for us to go behind the Bema with him to find out a little more about his life what makes him tick and I'm sure even in the casual conversation he ends up being funny so we're excited we're looking forward to bringing to bringing Modi on so that's gonna be really that's gonna be really fantastic update on the on the task force what's happening we spent what like four or five hours yesterday alone in meetings debates deliberations with masks walking the campus security team custodial team what would it look like to be able to to come back now we've been encouraged to say not reopening because reopening suggests that you're coming back to the way it was which we're not so it's not reopening it's sort of reconvening it's I don't know the raise one phase one things that were closed it's facing BRS was never closed but the campus was closed so um that's been tough I mean my Master's gonna share what what's some of the debate we've had debate with each other who we've listened as we we've listened as we've debated ourselves in front of one another but it's really complicated sometimes it's easier to be out there the armchair quarterback and kind of tell the leadership this is what you should be doing and here's the easy decision but when you're behind that desk or when you have to make that decision it's a lot harder and I see I see our dear friend on the givers watching or big givers worked with us closely with all our other colleagues and we should Fitz this out it's really really tough figuring it out so a mascot share with everybody what are some of the things that we're trying to decide our way what makes it softer I'll take people behind the beam a little bit I think in art we've been working together ten years now I think we may have had our most vigorous debates over the last few days that we've had in ten years I mean you and I were in a very healthy respectful obviously way but we were really going back and forth and and part of the struggle is you know you're balancing medicine you're balancing religion and you're balancing logistics we're a very large show we have about 900 families and when you open up from in Yanam even in a modified fashion you got to figure out a way to get that many people into minion off campus socially distanced security blocking people from who aren't supposed to be there and there's an enormous amount to go into it so whether you open up with shock Horseman Kumar of whether you just do min Kumar of whether you go into shabu is whether you don't go into shabu is total reading not a total going to total eating there are a myriad literally a myriad of issues both Liberty Law religious oh look who is here he's about to hang on don't oh it's connecting to audios first I got to do the top button unbuttoned I think I'm going that what what Modi can you hear us want you to know it was great having you Modi yeah that was great see here having some technical uh you by the way let's pretend the reason so like maybe he was testing you everybody was testing who's teasing us it's coming back cameo quick cameo so yeah big debate so you know do you do do you do the the space distance minion in the parking lot and people can only stand outside their car every on the spot empty do you find a designated empty areas on the campus who polices and monitors who's gonna be the bad guy who chases them off do you do 13 to 65 year olds oh only people saying Kaddish you know I'll tell you I was I was really moved very early on I was on a conference call that header of David Cone the googly eye bats shalita a great post sake associated with the karate world and when someone said well we'll close off the women's section so we could fit more men this was at the very beginning of that when we were still meeting inside I just saw Jeffrey Kimmel joined on Facebook I thought it was Jimmy Kimmel I got really excited what he was on from Jeffery I'm excited for you also but but I thought you know Modi was bringing on the the big guns too so so riff David Cohn shalita said the women's felis what's to say the National said coming is that their heartfelt prayers are not holier and more effective than than the men and he said at the outset god forbid that we would ever deny or deprive the women now obviously it's different it's different situation right now so it's complicated we're still figuring it out this is moving in real time I will tell you this just as a little bit of teaser that at the end of our deliberations yesterday we had a plan and we started executing it and then we're tracking the numbers today and it could be a little bit spike in our County in Palm Beach County so this is a game-time decision we're waiting till Friday maybe Sunday to analyze the data with the experts and figure out whether we are coming back Monday is two weeks from phase one of Palm Beach which what the oh you are see a guideline was technically it meets that guideline we'll see now there are other shows in South Florida that have announced that they're opening right that was a rabbi Brody you just sent us an email harbors about to open up for your Chevy's right yes so there are we'll see we'll see that Governor New York made a big announcement say you guys see that announcement shells can open in New York said ten people religious activity New York is not nearer we are with the numbers so you know the problem is and and and just to give some people some behind the Bema look at at these kinds of questions is our in fact our fact checkers lately just missed mode already already mrs. Li fact fact checker what year was Modi at the BR s shul dinner his breakout performance that really launched his career to the next level he'll find that out for us in the meantime so so yeah one of the big deliberations is do you rely on the government not that we distrust the government but meaning is the Jewish community standard the same as what of the Health Department is do we say you know we rely on and we follow the Health Department or know we have peacock nephesh and we have different standards and we are following different levels of importance in terms of in terms of protecting life and therefore we're not gonna simply do what they do and then there's all what will the marketplace tolerate so in Palm Beach County Boca ratone right today Monday what's today Wednesday today you could have you could have played golf and tennis gone to the mall got your mani-pedi Brody would rumored to have mani-pedi every week and and then met someone for lunch restaurants can now 50% seating capacity indoors you could do all that and then but what you can't stand on a street eight feet apart from nine other people to be able to say Kaddish if you're a mourner so you know will the market bear that if it doesn't seem consistent or congruous to every other day of their life what do you guys think are you getting a lot of questions by the way are people telling you you need to open congregants I get two emails I get two types of texts and emails and I get many of them every day some say you rabbis are the worst you're not protecting us you're not doing everything you were saying you're not really doing a good job keeping the people who shouldn't be here out and that was before my daughter got engaged was the email I say right so there's that there's that whole demographic who says you know your rabbis the worst you claim to be protecting us you're not really extreme you're not taking care of it you're not extreme enough everyone's talking less and how about you those are the one type of text or email I get and then the other one is and including from doctors by the way who are like what's going on I've gone so much the rest of my life I want a diamond with a minyan ready with a mask distance nobody's saying put us back in shul sitting around on top of each other but nobody's in the middle that says hey this is a tough decision I just want you to know I'm thinking about you good luck oh he's back here he is he's back what do we have tough decisions I think he button the button since we last saw him motor you back remote it's great to see you man welcome back I'm rabbi Ephraim Goldberg join with Rabbi Philip Moscow to her by Josh Brodie and that's been a few years we had you at our Boca ratone synagogue shul dinner a bunch of years ago and we said I want you to know we thought Matt might be your breakout performance that's really when when the Jewish world discovered you and that launched your career and it really launched our synagogue we were like 10 families but after you performed a dad dinner the truth is we are up to close to 900 families that was mutually beneficial that that even at now we should actually pay for the job wait that check cleared it was no you guys were cool now we're big show and check we're a big show to make sure so thank you for being with us we know you're busy these days and we're all following you online and I got to tell you you know as the rabbi's and the Talmud said there's a special place in heaven for the people who keep us laughing in hard times and and you're one of those people so this has been a tough time and we know we could turn to you and Yoli and you both keep us laugh and we thank you for that what Kotel yeshiva are you sitting it's a fake wall of books I actually print out a poster of books is Ben Gurion on this chat also I'm just covering up the big TV SBB that's good stuff I'm actually moti my my congregants think we're clowns because we have this show on Wednesday night so I figured I put all these religious books behind me and they'll know that I'm actually a great budding scholar and working on that too so you know mo di I know your comedy I follow it and I love it but I'll be honest I googled you because I do my homework for tonight and my first question is do people confuse you often with the current prime minister of India I'm social media people thinking I'm him sending me like rants and raves about how poor they are and it's absolutely horrendous have you tried have you tried to purchase his Twitter handle or you know Modi was taken by him by a rock company oh yeah Morty's like a Schwartz in India people watching this we got we got oh I want you to know song got we got a big crowd right now and zoom we got a big crowd watching in Facebook the show goes on YouTube and by tomorrow it's put up on Apple podcast stitcher whatever people listen to podcasts on it's published as a podcast so well this is actually our eighth episode and it's probably most popular thing that we've done it's we got sponsors lined up for four weeks and months ahead people really excited definitely more than any dress we've ever given yes but motor wear it works we're excited and you know you've been lending your expertise in your comedy everywhere we don't want you want to perform we want you to go behind the Bema to get to know you a little bit because you know you see someone who's a performer and you get curious you don't really know about them so my first question for you is how did you come to yaeli we're to join the come from I know way back when you did the going to Hollywood Hollywood and in fact one of our great members the great Jonathan Rahman has a cameo I think he did the casting for that video Jonathan Rahman is the Sodom ashkum of the bookert own synagogue community these are real expertise and real a pillar of our community and he makes a big cameo on that yeah he plays the cab driver rights Ryan he was a part of he helped we were in New York and he came to - we came to LA he helped us court a whole bunch of things and it was a one-day shoot it was very simple and very fun and we we had a great time with him and he's wonderful yeah he's a good man so how did how did you come to Yoli is it in your background do you have family or hostage you ready for this when the quarantine began I'm home and you know and watch well you know I don't really watch the news I don't put that I haven't put the TV on yet and I'm being completely honest with you so from Anna Fox I catch a headline once in a while on the Internet and just maybe follow up with it but I will never I don't put the TV on so I don't listen to what's happening out there but I saw all the really bad press that the Hasidic community got and they're like there's two sides of the story I really felt bad for them and this is like was playing around with what your Lea would say and then the things happen with the keys and the things happened with like you can't touch your face but you can for closel your pay is and so all those types of stuff I just started doing videos about him right what's he going through with the quarantine and very neutral and fun and not hurting to any Hasidic community that was the goal of your league and but the the reason you early works it's so compelling and the reason it's hilarious is because it's so real you sound so hamish so what what's your background that you're able to really channel that is that as an actor you learned it is a part of your own background your family members well how does it come across so naturally for you having grown a Baptist I I've been around performing them you know I performed in your shul right it's like you have some from people there and you if I remember right and you have like the older people who like there's like to be a part of a shul right they haven't been bothered the fact that show's been closed for a few months right find parking and then what was I saying it the dinner we had a big mix we got this far on the ashkenaz and although the younger Lily yeah but what brought me to that because I was asking your familiarity their accent the stick the only get the inish performing New York she liked performing very very Orthodox settings as well and with very Orthodox people sometimes I'll do a show literally where it's like Russia Shiva this and wish Kia for that and the ahead of you she bought this and had the gun gutted a door and Modi literally that would be the ad you know so I'm in these circles a lot I pick up the nuances Yiddish I know from the house and my grandparents even though it's a completely different Yiddish it is a completely different units from what they speak and I just focus on learning the character and you you build the character in your head and you go with it and that was what your Lee was so let me ask you a personal question then I'll let my friends ask but and you can feel free not to answer but did you grow up I see the Jeff cuts in your background I know I miss you my parents were Israeli group very traditional I'm just able to absorb all these things they're great job till about to see the story you know the Yiddish from Cephas and that kind of stuff and but we didn't grow up like you Lee I gotcha I gotcha do you get nervous before you perform when when you see your name after Russia Shivam Askia Russia Sheva Gaga talador Modi you get out there and you see all the Russia she was behind you I just did I don't know if you guys saw this last week for Lag Ba'Omer is they did the telethon and when I was so it was set up in this hall in Brooklyn where like weddings happen and they had the band and they had the choir and they had a stage for the performers the singers and they had a host stage back there it's like they weren't from us to them us to them and so all the rabbi's in the heads you Sheba's and there was some from--from rabbis one of them said no more hashtag because there's um he's seeing women sending pictures and it was like that it was like that so yeah every time I grab the mic and talk to it next you know and I had some great lines where I said um I said you know we were raising money from Lakewood and Williamsburg and uh and Borough Park and Crown Heights ago I said everybody these communities that so religious chief doesn't be paying more because they get to see a show and it's not separate see [Laughter] no I don't get nervous I know the limits I know the borders I know my audience you have to know your audience enough nothing makes me nervous oh yes this lighting what you get nervous when you do a roast when you're ripping the president or you're ripping I've seen some roasts that you've done and some really edgy stuff when you do the edgy stuff are you worried about backlash or politics or no I did Joe Lieberman roasts and ben shapiro roasts and again i know that room it's like a very specific room it's like a Comedy Central audience it's very rich Jewish New Yorkers who lean towards the right and they know I know what the joke they have and what with what what their boundaries are and how much in the organization Jaime has to kiss the toughest of the people that are on it and so it is a fine line but you're doing sorry now you're doing a lot of preparation and before you go into an audience you've doing a lot of preparation who's there what types of jokes are gonna fly well for a roast yes for a show like in the Boca I look at the audience I see what we have and I work with it I know you know right when I'm asking this when you when you roast ben shapiro is it because you you believe those jokes image like do you disdain ben shapiro are you this is politics drive you crazy or now maybe even Ben Shapiro is compelling for you but you're roasting him so you got to go after the jugular you got to go for the year the soft spot you gotta go for the joke you got to go for the lap that's your job as a comedian I to be honest with me is the things he said I really didn't know who he was that much I did my research and I was like wow and then is like yucky and then what's worse is that the guy is yucky when you see his videos in his opinion but then when you meet him he's so sweet and so nice and Ted Cruz is like hi how are you I thought you were great I'm like oh really you know it's like I don't know if your audience is super any which way but I'm like you know it's that's what it is it's it's a part of the the show tomorrow that we have to to be careful because we may have been Shapiro on at some point just not because of politics we want to go behind the Bema with you know he grew up religious EULA went to Yulia sheave education la and I'll tell you I have a question for him that I have for you too is that you know for him in his case you know he's wearing a kippah and he's sort of representing the Jewish people so much of your humor is built on the Jewish community and yeah and of course it's again it's realistic you're touching Jackie Mason we laugh our head off Jerry Seinfeld when he makes jokes connected to our community it relates it resonates for us so do you feel any responsibility or does it weigh on you how you're projecting the Jewish community to a secular or non-jewish audience their impression of the Jewish community is through your jokes and now you're trying to make people laugh and whatever it takes I think kiddush Hashem that went out the door a while ago I think we could all move on from that now well we still we got some adversaries in the world we're still trying to make a good impression of course I mean but Shapiro a yarmulke it's just a part of his history he's a genius the way he gets his point across and nails it and can't be rebooted you can't you can't fight him on it it's gene the fact that he's saying that the games don't have a ride and this doesn't have a ride okay but you're watching a show you're watching a show you know this comedians they talk about all kinds of filthy stuff but if it's funny and done well you're impressed by it yes he's dirty yes he's talking about something schmutzie but he's doing it well it's not just curses for the sake of curses don't look at me the three of you like you watch well no I'm Jerry so do I have so many questions now hold on what's the no no what what's the key then to a good joke right you get up there what's the key to nailing a good joke is it timing is it the voice modulation you're delivering the joke to it's a whole bunch of things but you know but it's you know one of my friends is Jim Norton and Dave Attell these guys are very dirty topics but they deliver it in such a beautiful way Ben Shapiro is talking this nourish kite but he delivers it in such a great way just for the record the behind the Bema doesn't either endorse or reject endorsement or rejection of ben shapiro [Laughter] it's fair enough it's okay let's go back rub rody what do you get no so first of all how excited are you right now for this corona that I mean there must be so much material you walk into a Jew and I can shoot right now it's gonna happen when everything we hope it's video and I doubled my fan base on and on social media just connecting with people writing and talking to them it's been amazing this about this the hot Salah thing was mind-blowing it was absolutely mind-blowing do you understand that we had 48 different hot Salah organizations viewers I'm not sure if they know what hot Salah is it's the Jewish ambulance corps I really don't know I'm seeing three rabbis I don't know who else is watching this so it might just be the three of us South Florida book is a question but Australia Zurich Geneva New York LA and they all came together for the first time they never do each had Salah is its own organization but this thing came together with a safer tour they read they inaugurate a safer Torah because the baal shem tov said you know it one of the cures for a a plague is to write a safer tourist so they did one it went so well i did a second and combined it with this thing and it was unbelievable and let me show you and i was a rabbi today too they asked me to do a video like a serious video to wrap up a week later after the hood solid thing and they asked me something what happened what do you think and I came up now believe me I could have been around by I would have been amazing and the building would be under my name I promise you I don't know how you guys are working but the building would be under my name no one's laughing by the way still can be by the way it still can be I had at six million dollars I said it was the unity it's called the unity project of all these HUD cells and all these Jews coming together and I said how important is for unity and you know our enemies teach us the most you know our enemy said you should know I'm HOD Mahfouz out or my Fuad been our meme right Google there's a nation that there's a nation is one nation but were separated all over the place and all of a sudden we came together to fight this it was really to fight the disease that that ravaged the Jewish communities you know hear the phone first in the New York area but so did you ever believe they would raise what how much how much more there is the end of those that no that's amazing that's amazing what was your cut so we held on someone Modi you said you could be a rabbi her here's my question cuz because you're talking to three rabbis here and in my biggest fear in the rabbinate literally is starting off a sermon with a joke because of that joke flops you're like finished I mean you're like playing catch-up the rest of the time do you ever have that when you tell a joke you're you're nervous about the delivery what if it flops how do you recover from it what advice would you have to three unfunny rabbi is trying to tell jokes to start off sermons and you guys have this advantage they are not looking for a joke from you they're not looking for the jump you so you're there already all their guards are down I'll ladies and gentleman you see them on HBO comedian Modi now they're like make us laugh you're just like you woke up there you carry you drop you your books you this and now you think for a minute to adjust your yarmulke and then you can you hit him with a joke if it hits it hits it's now you just go right into the kamala state to zone and then you go right into it and you go right in and they don't even know you tried to do a joke it's such a you it's a it's a win-win for you either way way I like the recovery just move on yeah oh yeah we're gonna acknowledge it when you sit there for an hour and a half my wife liked it when she was preparing the children all right Modi we said we said we weren't going to take too much of your time anything you want what do you want the Jewish world to know about you that they don't know that they don't appreciate you wish they'd really appreciated more about your they don't get about you is there something you wish they knew now being touched just really being touched at Modi underscore live I've been really getting to social media I doubled my father I wasn't I never focused on that stuff but I'm sitting at home I'm talking to them to tell me their stories I had amazing amazing communications with people I've been telling these jokes every day if it's not a clip or a video a regular joke why people hear the joke they've heard it a million times they're reminded of the joke they tell it to their friend he remembers a joke and tells it back to them now they're they're busy with the day sharing jokes instead of that the foccacia said you can't touch the surface so you understand it's like a difference it's just it's as good so if anything if you're any of you audience has any questions visit me at at Modi underscore live on Instagram and we'll be in touch and we appreciate it we appreciate a lot your coming on and I want to just say one of the things I admire about your comedy although we have different perspectives on kiddush Hashem but one of the things I admire about your comedy is that you can't you can make us left keeping it clean so you talked about this fire demand you make fun of that Salah you talk about things that are real to us you call us out on our stuff and you keep us laughing the Yalie is hilarious because it's real and that takes I think you know sometimes it's easier when you can use the profanity you can use the curse you can use the whatever when you keep it clean and you could still make people f I think it takes an even greater level of intelligence and insight and I admire that about you so thanks for keeping us all laughing during this time and all the times we keep we can't wait to bring you back to Boca stay safe stay happy all the best guys thank you very much emo D all right thanks for joining us tonight I appreciate it I'm telling my voice you should see whit was great but BRS reopens and Pete they're gonna be with this ruler how far away do you have to stand from one another what you can't do what you can't do he's gonna have a whole routine he is he is listen he's a good guy you know obviously we don't see the same things he's not he's not a perfect I don't think he's observed in his own life and and even though he sounds like and I think people hold him accountable like this you know he sounds like he graduated Bob of when he does his the only character you know you were division but the truth is went to public school he grew up in Woodmere went to public school at his really parents traditional but secular and and so you know you shouldn't expect him to be in the same page you know we didn't have Modi on because we want him to say I shared a story we had a mod to make us laugh and give us some insights behind the Bema what it's like to be a comedian and I'm I'm so grateful I know you guys are that he did because his time is valuable he gets paid for his time and he joined us tonight just to make us laugh oh yeah he's good he's 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chat is wide open the chats open on unzoom people are commenting all over Facebook we love to go back and forth and communicate with you so let us know what you're thinking go ahead um based on what I see yeah you know I'm you know me I'm out walking running a lot I see a lot of people not socially distancing a lot of families where the children are playing with each other or within six feet apart when I'm running off the circle again this is not a bokor tone synagogue issue but I'm running off the circle you know one of my pet peeves that there has to be an etiquette for how you're walking down a sidewalk right now is if I'm walking one way and you're coming the other way who moves first so my theory is if I have a stroller and you're walking you have to move if I'm running in you're walking you have to move right if you're riding a bike and I'm walking I have to move there has to be an etiquette to that but what I see out there is that people are not moving if I'm coming at someone they won't move sometimes you know I'll try to move but they're completely irreverent to the rules of social distancing and they simply don't care I think there's a lot of coronavirus fatigue right now I heard yeah my mother who goes walking with some of the older your mother makes her way on every episode I love Ali Brody's the best but she makes her way to every episode you know she she says that they her friends they do socially distance they keep six feet apart but they can't hear each other when they're talking to each other probably better that your mom didn't make an appearance here so I'll tell you this and then and then we'll move on because we actually have a surprise special guest coming up next but I would say this is that I think people are compliant I agree with you in terms of people are walking too close to each other people may have even stood in a driveway or a backyard too close to each other but I am blown away with the exception of one of our colleagues in an area right near us who had to send out a very harsh letter about a rogue minion I haven't heard about rogue or breakaway minion him I found people to be and I agree with my aunt and respectful so on the individual basis I agree I do think that there's some blurring of the line but it's hard I think people start six feet apart and then they naturally just gravitate towards each other but on in terms of the organized sense of of rogue and organized Manyana I think people have been extraordinary compliant and I want to thank the community for that I'm impressed I'm proud and I think they've been good we had a hundred percent but yeah I'm an individual level when your kids get involved and kids start hanging out with each other it's a lot it's a lot more difficult to police yeah it is all right I've got I've got people telling us enough at the corona nobody wants to talk about that so we're gonna move on from the sad to the happy things a little bit and let's see if they listen to me in one moment whether they're going down I'm like well if they're coming on I got to make another look kind to them that's fair well we'll see what's happening we're having some technical challenges here I don't see them yet let's see in the meantime rabbi Brody what piano guitar you've uploaded every CD that you ever had what's next for Evy DS I got everything up I found a great DVD of Patara and avi gaya when there were two years old there they are Jack a towering Khalif welcome behind the Bema you so date mark beam and fell BLS financial a towering college first of all Khalif as if the day couldn't get any better for you guys I am I am yes I am their towers too young to drink but Carla [ __ ] I'm I'm guys you know some debate color when you need to get life insurance when you get married once you have your first child at what point is it irresponsible to go on without knowing that you can protect the people that you love so now colleagues that you're engaged now that it's official now that's formal and colored you can maybe share with the audience what it was like having to ask for permission to marry a tower I didn't bring it up in that meeting but I'll bring it up now in front of our whole audience and and Mikey if you're listening life insurance it's important it's important but anyway Mazel Tov not for tonight that's not that's not the topic for tonight guys for advice well did you ask Mikey for advice I'm told it's a good experience Oh Mikey Mikey I put my key I put through the ringer and and when it came to college you know you know at your first year you're all geared up you excited you prepped I thought about it I made phone calls and I am a total traditionalist so I'm a believer you got to come to the Father you got to ask permission before you're gonna you're gonna propose and opposite I am still I've yet to ask my father-in-law for permission to marry Ari oh wow that's a Boston thing you guys have no respect up there so anyway listen so Mikey Mikey came to my office maybe an hour I call it how long was our conversation it was a good five minutes good five minutes it was a good five minutes all the way we have we have it we have somebody in the chat asking whether I asked permission absolutely I asked permission from my esteemed father-in-law the great dr. Robert Brooks Dean dermatologist in the five towns and he gave me permission you may regret it now but he gave me permission so absolutely 100% you know what are you asking permission for it's a traditional thing it's it's it's what's right it's the correct thing to do but you know like in the firm world you knew they were gonna get married right so what was it him permission for air ecology one doesn't just like build it up like oh my gosh like you can't marry her until we have the intense conversation you know hi it's nothing no there was there was there was an exchange of some different aura that talked about responsibility there were questions how do you plan on taking care of supporting you know that my daughter is the most precious thing in the world to me I would literally die to take care of her and if you're not gonna take care of her or if I ever feel disrespected and I think I was with Mikey I think Kelly would call a fight already proven to himself that he was gonna take good care of her so no not that Mikey hadn't but because of the circumstance is more awkward behind my back I don't know which is more awkward this or the ben shapiro modi conversation right did you use the allen burger line on him no I'll tell the truth mike is the best cuz Mike he was helping Carly Mike it was also helping me you know we both love we're both close so here's you know we don't wanna spend take too much of your time big day for you engagement day but tell our audience what it was like what was it like dating you know you obviously were dating and you were very serious even before this pandemic ever hit car leaf had flown down to meet us even before Purim but what was it like dating over-over zoom beginning I think the hardest part was gonna go on so in your head it's like I could probably FaceTime B for like a week you know two weeks mass then you kind of like run out of things to do because it's a lot of talking so you got a you got to make use of your time on FaceTime in China that's registered trademark and you gotta come up with activities you gotta be like think outside the box we did on something stuff you paint it together played some board games with the help of a lot of people a lot of people give us different ideas that's great what would you tell what would you tell young people who are dating do you think that you can start dating or resume or it only worked because you were already very deep into the relationship can you have a first date over zoom no way absolutely not maybe at first but you can't I don't think you continue you don't know the person looks like you don't know how to interact with other people it's like impersonating right interesting wait Kali hold on you tell us a little bit about yourself the Goldbergs know you rabbi Goldberg knows you ATAR knows you rabbi Brody and I in the hundred forty people watching on Facebook in the 133 unzoom do not know you at all tell us a little bit about yourself you see him very common confident considering your marrying into such a prestigious family and you're on such a prestigious show so I want to know what's behind what's behind Col Eve would be good friends with he's a future by the way future guests Bruce Minsky future guests look him up on YouTube amazing music featured guest on behind the Bema um so I am currently learning interrogation I'm from Muncie I went to reshape I went on tour County burn County in Teaneck and yeah now I'm kind of just did you did you play any sports in high school all great question thank you for that I actually was if we time in hockey storm right the storm organ I was the captain of a hockey team I was I played soccer captain soccer team wait some tennis and track he's a good boy he's a good boy but we don't take too much of your time gonna make this too much about us so and I'm getting a lot of text I may need somewhere to sleep tonight some socially distance cash somewhere I'm a big trouble so let me just close by clarifying a few things things I love Mikey pearl he's the greatest and the truth is no Kelly Mikey is amazing friends with khaliv and Mikey Andrew Kelly while they don't deserve all the credit they deserve a lot of the credit behind the [ __ ] off and it's an amazing thing when your oldest two daughters can can marry two good friends and you're building up a whole base meddra SH and I've ever within your home it's it's a great brother we don't take lightly we're deeply grateful to coaches so thank you and thank you guys for coming on and you have a message for young people out let's make this educational informative a message for for friends colleagues young people about dating everybody should think of making shidduchim think of other people what's your message I think it's important for everyone to always have in mind oh and don't try to stay too like self-centered in dating because a lot of people the more people that talk about it more people that know each other can make a lot of [ __ ] up very important beautiful that's a beautiful message office father-in-law just let us know we can help yet yeah we got your back thank you guys thank you guys so much for coming on and if you don't mind the next 15 minutes or so just putting a good word for me for when this is over love you guys Mazel Tov Mazel Tov all right what's it like what's it like you both have married daughters robably goldberg your daughter's got engaged what's what does that feel like it makes you old quickly but it's um it's a beautiful thing it makes you feel very blessed very blessed and I think of the parents out there who are desperate for their children and that we Dalvin for them we hope everybody can find their other half those who are looking we want people to find their bashar and we want parents to know the experience of marrying off their children and and I think that for femini we take that that that's very much on our minds all the time is that while we feel blessed we want to be sensitive to the people who are hopeful to be in that situation soon and so we think of them endowment for them and and I think that we shouldn't freeze she Duke him you know part of this symfon I don't if you want to go there now but you know there are people I knew that we were being in the public and the public light that there were people who would be critical or question or why couldn't they wait to get engaged and you're the one who said that New York Christian come to Florida remember I did somebody started to throw a brick through the window for saying that so what do you Hippolyta day already Texan the person actually wrote on Twitter but don't worry I reported them that I'm a hypocrite I tell everybody they can't come from New York and then clearly they were dating so there's nuance to it and we did everything in consultation with some of the experts today we're so grateful to rabbi dr. gladden and dr. Stuart Dietrich and a local a head of a covert ICU and we didn't make a move without them the first question I asked all of them when the relationship was progressing and cut and colored was still up north was is there a way to do this safely because if we can't we'll wait six months or six years or whatever would take we would never compromise their health our health or the community self by doing it and they were very adamant and rabbi willing feels very strongly that if relationships ready to and there's a healthy way to do it life has to go on people need simcha - and that's not fair cause it could damage and harm that's that's not fair so obviously the key thing is there has to be a proper and healthy and a way to do it within guidelines but you're gonna need to get into the details that they they all they all support it and they all oversaw and they all endorsed and that's how it was all done and it's just a crazy thing if you would have asked me when my daughter got engaged what I need to in the mazelTov message include a summary of how we did it and essentially a defense of our family I would have told you you're insane but that's part of the crazy upside-down world we're living in but even be that there's still people that are gonna be critical and I just don't understand why they do that I'm saying it's like your greatest day you're so happy it's your daughter gets engaged there's some people out there that are just like the kid yeah I'll tell you why they say because maybe their kids are in New York and they're desperate to see them and they have a grandchild who's staying far away you're and you know what I empathize it's not easy and maybe they look this is well why was it good enough for you so the answer to that by the way may be that there are other extenuating circumstances in which you can follow guidelines that include quarantining and testing and there are healthy ways if you do it within the rules to do it so you know what we remain and we stay strong is that people this is not a time to vacation in Florida if you're coming down stop to vacation this is not the time if you're coming down together what are you coming down because there's a pool you coming down cuz you know someone who has a house this is not the time but if you're coming down not just us I've actually counseled other people about this if there are extenuating circumstances and really timely circumstances then there are ways to do it and and that's the nuance that we need the public and we need to live with is that you can't look at everything in one big lump way there's there's some nuance in it and they're responsible ways to do it it's hard so someone just posted the question that I was gonna ask you I modified a little bit you are obviously a very public personality and sometimes your private life plays out in public and there's a tension between the two of them and you and I have discussed that at nausea over the last week what happens when there's a tension between those two you want to give people a little bit of an insight into what it's like to live in a glass bowl to raise a family in a grasp glass bowl to be in a situation where your private decisions have public communal impacts and you have to weigh all of those fat there's back and forth with each other you know it's it's it's hard now I want to make this about me I really last week we talked about our anniversary in this week but um we have this simpler I want to talk about you and really talk about our public but I'm so let's talking the abstract not a particular simple but yeah it's it's it's definitely tough and I as your Kevin and I have had sleepless nights for the last couple weeks trying to figure this out even before the last couple weeks whether it was even possible and we're the thing that we're asking ourselves is is it fair to punish our family because of our public role so if if he can't come because nobody can come and there's no safe way to do it then that's a reality everybody would have to contend with but if I wasn't the rabbi and York I was in the Rebbetzin and they weren't the rabbi's kids and there was a safe way to do it would we not hesitate then is it fair to hesitate to them now and I know you asked that of yourself all the time also with your children is is there's amazing benefits they're incredible benefits to being rabbis children they get opportunities and they did get exposed to people and and they're amazing benefits and I wouldn't trade it in and I believe that my children when traded him for anything in the world but while there are benefits there are also challenges to it and it's it's something which is hard how do you feel about it IRA Brodie you want to take this one listen you know I like to think that I just do what I believe is best for my family but you do have to wait what others are gonna think but at the end of the day you do what's best and that's it don't look back I don't read those comments when someone makes a comment delete them delete the email delete the comment delete the friend I don't need you on a comment you know like III I noticed that when I let's say I'm coming down from the Bema with my child and someone comes over to my child and says you you sat so nicely or weren't you so cute up there when you were jumping up and down on a chair so I know that there's a little piece of my child that says come on does every every Tom Dick and Harry and the show need to comment about my behavior so it is challenging for for children to live their lives play it out in the public sphere but I agree with you you know for me one of the things that I had tried to is always communicate that to my children right knows I always make it clear that the lines of communications are open they can share with me what frustrates them I'll try to explain it to them as much as I can and one of things I've learned from you is explain it to my children that their enormous benefits and their challenges that come along with it and that's like everything in life exact but I think that's why it's our job and I know all three of us try to do it we have the opportunities to do it is whatever benefit and and and I would ask the people listening to appreciate and understand that sometimes you see rabbis get certain opportunities other people don't have so let's say we have members who have a boat invite us to use their boat maybe even have a private plane and give us a ride on their plane somewhere we have members who who give our children their their sports tickets their season tickets to a sporting event that they're not using and people will say oh it's good to be the rabbi it's good to be the rabbi's children look what you get you know you got a free bottle of wine or somebody sent your books or you got to go to the sporting if it happens life you know you got the Shabbos light you know and you know you get you get a consult on a million dollar life insurance policy with mark being father of BLS financial calm you you get opportunities and you know what the answer to them is you're a million percent right there are those great opportunities but do you know the price for those opportunities it costs a lot more than what that season ticket would cost for our children right they've lost their parents a lot of time with us they've lost privacy and certain boundaries you and I both know they're people who show up the other night um I was actually up and with my kid 1 a.m. my phone rang dealing with something you your children they share you and they have to share parts of themselves and they have to live with a lot of eyes on them I've had periods where my kids didn't want to come to shul because they said you know everyone else gets to go to shul indras davon when I come to shul I feel a lot of eyeballs on me so or or rushes you know we think that when we reference something from the family it resonates it makes us accessible to people but you know I've come home and had had problems after that so so are we yeah they pay a big price for those privileges that they have and and the people who only see the kids the rabbi's kids having privileges but they don't see the price they pay they're only saying half the story and this was a real example of that for us was trying to look in the mirror be honest with ourselves and Rabbi Brody like you said live with ourselves in our decision figure out what's right and what's the right way to do it and it's not it's not always easy I hope people would just sympathize that it's not always easy so part of this was what do you do with your children and then part of it is how do you live with and I said a couple people made snide comments today even on the day of our sim phone they have to get that text in and had to just give that zinger on the side and I know they wrote to you guys even more offline from me and I'll tell you in this way in this way my skin's gotten thicker over the years but here's the tragedy of that and then I'll turn it back to you and we got to start heading towards the close the tragedy of our skin getting thicker is that it's a disservice to our members because what makes us good rabbis or what makes a rabbi a good rabbi is it's feeling it's being genuine is is is crying is is taking it personally and seriously so the more you can have it both ways right you know as if we have thicker skin in order to be able to not take to heart some of those comments then it's just gonna make us a little bit more callous and cold in order to connect with you when you need us so you don't want us to be that way and if you don't want us to be that way then also honor and respect that then maybe what you think is just a casual a little comment you little zinger it can hurt so it's that balance of trying to figure out whether to grow thick skin even though that will have unintended consequences or try to keep your skin thin I don't know how far this metaphor goes and it'll make a better rabbi it'll make you a better rabbi I look for it makes you vulnerable to getting black and blue all right anyway what do you guys think Rabi we were talking about this today right about going back to shul how it's so nice that our kids get to be with us a lot more and going back yeah they're going to yeah we were talking you know for my children I have younger children than the two of you I mean you have young children but I don't have older children yet but predominantly their their relationship with me and Scholl is me running out of the house right I'm running out of the house in the morning for shoppers I'm running out of the house from in kamar of a night which always comes either during dinner bed time or bath time inevitably so that's their relationship today in coronavirus has been a real eye-opening experience for them of what happens when daddy's not always running out to meetings and even when we have meetings on zoom' it's very different you don't have to you don't have to get there five minutes early you're not getting in the car it's a very different experience just pop into your other room and to be able to talk from there yeah you're covered over here's our debates and she is she's dreading she misses the show like crazy and I actually wrote my article for this week is a love letter to the shul not the peoplethe but the building itself but what I miss about it and and I'm desperately missed the shul you do we do she does so on the one hand she's desperate for us to be back but she's also like I know that when it opens it's basically zeig isn't it was and there's a it's been amazing this part of it so it's it's it's complicated let me close by saying this we're not having this conversation so that anybody has sympathy for us we know you love us we love you don't feel like you need to comfort us or sympathize with us we appreciate it we're having it to give a little insight behind the Bema in some of the decisions and some of the thinking that that goes on again don't feel bad for us we have the greatest most blessed lives best we are the dear rabbi Brit up in Moscow tonight three of us are among the closest friends we have a great time we've the greatest lives we love our job we love everything about it so don't feel bad for us we wouldn't trade it for anything in the entire world we got about a minute to go closing thoughts rabbis I'm still going with the Omer first time I think I actually might make it I don't think I've ever made it to shavoo us with all 49 that's transparent thank you for that honesty we appreciate that very excited appreciate that honesty yeah but Moscow it's closing thought I'm still going as well I've never not gone though away so I'm excited to make it there this time as well I'm yeah you know I'm looking forward to shell opening again I'm looking forward to seeing people and tomini on him and I'm looking forward to taking parts of what I learned over this experience alongside with me and that's your great article about mascots we talked about last week has become a prolific author he wrote him a great article this week check out his latest great article online you don't want to miss it it's really it's really fantastic and it's worth it's worth checking it out and and thinking about all this I'll tell you this Robbie Moskowitz have you missed having to make that bracha and remember what night of the Omer it is every year you want to go behind the Bema let me tell let me tell I'll listen or something if you're a rabbi it's not the Russia Sean of Russia it's not the Yom Kippur Russia it's not so kiss you know getting her cuff us right the most stressful part of the rabbinate is getting the night of Spheeris Omer correct when you have to make the broth in front of the entire show hands down yeah the few times I've had to do it and I go to like someone like shimmy and then I know there's a good chance whoever I ask say what was last night what was last night there's a good chance that whoever I'm asking is gonna totally play a joke on me no and then hold on and then I know people are thinking they said look at your phone right just looking so the problem is you look at your phone you wonder is that yesterday like has it switched yet have we reached skia yet people don't know which trauma trauma panic gastrointestinal challenge it's you're looking at that phone the whole shows quiet they're waiting for you and you're kind of like I Amish lotion and then when you don't yell that you're like I have not missed that at all at all that part of it but yeah the sphere has been fine let's close again thank mark being fed mark you're the best thanks BLS financial all your financial needs there's no time like the present make sure that you taking care of your family life insurance policy disability policy long-term care policy whatever you need mark and take care of you really this is the time crazy enjoy the show if you enjoy our show help us out because I'll tell you 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