Turn Friday into Erev Shabbos #163 - An Asara B'Teves Erev Shabbos

good AR of chabas even though today is a it is a fast day it is still Arab chabas it is not an ordinary Friday so we find this combination is balance the fast Chua repentance but also excitement anticipation for Arab chabas I want to thank our turn Friday shab sponsors RAB Jonathan the key is not to be afraid at all no matter what's going the world around us we hope shab that shabas should bring with it shabas should bring with it strength shabas should bring with it healing shabas should bring with it Redemption sh should bring we should have good news and happy news there is no such thing as an ordinary Friday there's no such thing as an ordinary era shabas each one is unique and distinct and different each one is pregnant with possibility but this week in particular it is the 10th of the month of T which we know is one of the minor fast days it is the the day that the siege was first laid around Yim this was the beginning of the end and in fact it's the only fast that when it falls on Friday we fast all the way through it's unusual usually we've discussed that length on turn Friday into AR shabas the idea of to we taste from the food and we already extend and expand shabas into Arab shabas we taste and we smell but this is a fast day is the only one that falls on a of shabas and we fast all the way until tonight after after shabas after Mar until KES we fast all the way until we can make KES after Nightfall tonight and why is so strict so strong that it falls even on a Friday we fast because it was the beginning of the end but there was still time we could have learned the lesson we could have transformed and changed we could have responded and we didn't we failed and so it is the strongest the truth is thek tells uses and the there says just like y when it falls on CH as you fast because can't be shifted earlier or later simil is the only other fast even if it were to fall onas that even if fell on chabas we'd fast on chabas just like Yumer it can't it doesn't it falls on a Friday we even fast on a Friday but somehow it seems connected even to even to shabas it's somehow connected to to shabas how is it connected to shabas I want to share with you a teaching to inspire and enrich and Elevate our a of shabas to turn Friday into a of shabas but also to appreciate and to lean a little bit further into what today is all about and it comes fromita please God will be a guest of ours in Bon in just a few weeks tells us do you know why the B was destroyed why were we exiled why did we experience destruction and Devastation because we violated chabas we failed to fully appreciate and experience and Elevate the chabas and it brings a from chapter 22 from shab they covered their eyes they covered their eyes and therefore you see that what brought about theban what brings about destruction Devastation a failure to properly observe shabas and we see that we see that in our times sadly and tragically greater than the rise of anti-Semitism around the world greater than the threats that are so significant and painful in Israel today assimilation when we abandon chabas when we fail to observe chabas when we assimilate and lose shabas when we close our eyes to chabas theban that ensues a greater than 70% intermarriage rate The Disappearance of the Jewish people but what happened the gamar says I thought that the B mikdash was destroyed because we violated The Big Three don't murder elicit relationships and idolatry so far explain what is the core and the root of those big three when is it that we end up finding ourselves worshiping Idols not valuing the value of another life not Val not not valuing the boundaries of appropriate relationships shabas is at the core of all of them shabas is part of the definition more than the Jews have kept shabas shabas has kept the Jew shabas is so core and so Central to who we are and what we are about but what is that language May shabo side the the brings from my shab they closed and they covered their eyes and how could that Inspire us on this to turn this Friday from a Friday that we're looking at the clock is the fast almost over is it almost over can we break the fast from a Friday which we're just waiting to be over to a Friday that's an air of shabas that's getting us ready that is preparing for the Holiness and the sanctity of chabas sayar perhaps the word we covered or we closed our eyes comes from the language tells us when it comes to a lost object that one is forbidden from closing your eyes you can't pretend you didn't see it you're walking down the street and there's a lost object and it's inconvenient to bend down to pick it up to try to find the rightful owner to post it it's easier to look away and pretend you never saw it to begin with but the PK says you can't do that you're not allowed to you're not allowed to close your eyes you can't lift your eyes you can't look the other way you have to see what is there and you have to react to it you can't pretend you didn't see says I'm sure maybe that's what it means when it com maybe our failure what brought about the was we saw but we failed to see the sanctity the Holiness to close our eyes to pretend I don't see I don't understand I don't value I don't cherish every one of us are exposed to we can see we can lean lean into we can work harder for shabas the beauty of shabas the excitement of chabas the freedom of chabas the enrichment of chabas the time with ourselves with others and with hasem to elevate ourselves but instead we close our eyes we just want to eat and and read that's that's so we know that hm interacts with us measure for measure mid conned mid so if we see the opportunity to connect with him but we look the other way we don't want to sometimes people look at their phone you see who's calling ignore ignore I don't feel like connecting I'm looking the other way I'm closing my eyes ignore so every shabas comes and there's an opportunity to connect Hashem to learn his Torah to sing his songs to spend more time unrushed in our daving every shabas comes as a time to spend with our family with our loved ones the people around us there's time to look into the best version of our shelves to have that Nish that is yes our soul be expanded and broader and more on fire but we press ignore Hashem says ignore yeah ignore you're ignoring me you ignore me no problem I'll ignore you you know what happens when Hashem ignores us then there's destruction and Devastation the b m is destroyed he looks away when he looks away then we are vulnerable and susceptible or fragile then we are exposed to our enemies and the elements of the world that's what it means that's what it means that we closed our eyes if we press ignore on hem he presses ignore on us and the result isban and when is the biggest time that he invites us spend time get close be connected see me don't press ignore it's shabas shabas shabas you could be moved shabas is a Tish there's an on shabas is shab there learning slots and learning opportunities shabas shabas we're with our family we're with ourselves shabas there's a chance and an opportunity and notice it says shab it doesn't say shabas tooru observe shabas sh can mean shab sh my shabas on those words sh says we're talking about a higher level of chabas where we see hasem too many people they think about chabas and you know what chabas represents as soon as they think about chabas they think you know what shabas represents shabas I sleep as much sleep as I can get I'm gonna go to sleep so early Friday night and sleep go to the latest me chabas morning and still take the longest afternoon chabas afternoon and chabas I'm going to sleep through and sleep and sleep and sleep and I'm going to catch up and I'm going to sleep nothing wrong sh shabus oh sleep on chabas is delicious but that's not what chabas is for and really all about don't squander it don't lose it don't forfeit it people think I'm gonna eat I'm G to Fresh o my wine my single mold Scotch my shakuri boards my Kish what I got going on the friends the KRA the club that I belong to wonderful beautiful let it enhance your shabas but shab soem says shab don't ignore me don't forget about me don't forget that I'm in the middle of that too that's why the word sh with the is becauseas creates shabas is we testify literally tonight we testify has created the Heaven and Earth but we also testify and we affirm and we demonstrate we want a relationship we want a closeness we want a connection with Hashem that's so this Friday we're turning it into this we're turning into sayses remember that connection we're gonna offset we're gonna turn that around by connecting and valuing you in shabas sh sh we're gonna see you we're not pressing nor we're pressing take the call we're pressing connect we're pressing zoom we're pressing we want to be together we're not going to close our eyes we're not going to look away we're not going to pretend we didn't see you but we're going to have the kind of shabas that leaves us changed forever and by doing that by having that kind of chabas it's the opposite ofan it's ban no longer will we count down towards the other fast days and a Tish that we long for the B mikdash but we're going to see it rebuilt because the mikdash is in space what shabas is in time and if we can embrace the opportunity to be with you in time the mikdash of time called chabas then please God we should be rewarded with the G and the mikdash in space called the b [Music] mikash a meaningful fast easy fast uplifting fast a beautiful and a holy [Music] shab