What to do when God says "WAIT"

I can't tell you how often people come with their problems and when things work out or the good news, they forget to tell you. >> They left you off with we're getting our family's falling apart. We can't stand each other. This is probably a divorce and end of our marriage. Don't get in Hashem's way. He has a plan. And lean into that process and savor the journey, not only the destination. Because as we go through what we learn, if only we had the crystal ball, if only we could fast forward, if only we could see the letter that we're one day going to write at the end, we'd have so much more strength to be able to get through that journey. Someone had emailed me, let's see the timeline, June 2024, a year ago. You always, and this I'm going to reread part of an email from a year ago. You always say amuna emails that do not have a happy ending are your favorite ones. And that inspired me to write today. I don't have an inspirational story to share. I have some very raw emotions coming from a girl who feels hurt but knows that Hashem is orchestrating everything hopefully. I've been in shukim for a number of years. Everything gets harder and more painful. It's torture to be in society that labels negative stereotypes older girls. It's a long email and it's all about the misery and the pain and the loneliness and sense of abandonment and where is Hashem and I don't know why he's putting me through this. I try to smile, hold my head high. I know that Hashem is doing this for my good. uh as you said in the year today, Hashem is going to heal all of us spiritually and so on. I hope to write one day that Hashem is doing this well for me and I see him in my life. That was a year ago, last week. Dear Rabbi Goldberg, I want to share that Barak Hashem I got engaged last night. >> Wow. >> And I became a kala. I am so so so three so I am so so so happy and grateful to Hashem that my is more incredible than I ever could have imagined or dreamed. Hashem really is awesome and he had a master plan all along. I've gained and grown a lot through my single years and so much of my growth is thanks to living with amuna sharim. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. May I bench you to continue have the strength to give the amunes in the beautiful way you do. Thank you, Rabbi Goldberg. There must have been dust in the email because it's very dusty in here. But >> yeah, >> what a I love that she wrote this email not as a new email, but it was a reply to our previous correspondence that included that email from a year ago because so badly I want to tell people or publish this or remind everyone that that we could write that email that I'm alone and where is he and what's the plan and why is he doing this to he's amazing. Hashem is awesome and I learned so much and I grew so much and I see why I needed to go through it and it was well worth it when I look back on the payoff of where I am today. And not all of us can and not all of us do. And sometimes it's one year later. Sometimes it's a decade later. Sometimes it's a lifetime later. And sometimes there are questions or thinks or hopes or wishes or wants that we don't ever get to write the second email that Barakashem now it came through. But don't get in Hashem's way. He has a plan. and lean into that process and savor the journey not only the destination because as we go through what we learn we shared you know we put out these daily reels of little clips from our shirim and there was a little clip and a micro from one of our mun where I talked about failing forward the Thomas Edison the light bulb that it's not many ways that we fail but see it as all steps in the journey towards success and that all those dates and all that waiting and all that longing and all that initiative and all that world of shuk are not wasted time and energy and emotion and makeup or money, but they're all a journey to learning about oneself and getting one step closer to where one wants to be. And if only, if only we had the crystal ball, if only we could fast forward, if only we could see the letter that we're one day going to write at the end, we'd have so much more strength to be able to get through that journey. So sometimes we need to write that letter even though it hasn't happened yet. We have to write the followup to remind us and give us strength and help us get through where we need to go. But a big mazle to the author of that email. I'm so grateful and happy she followed up. I tell you, as a rabbi in general, forget living with amuna. Just as a rabbi in general, I can't tell you how often people come with their problems. And when things work out or the good news, they forget to tell you. >> They left you off with we're getting divor's falling apart. We can't stand each other. This is probably a divorce and end of our marriage. We have fertility struggles. We can't get pregnant. Yeah. I have no money. I can't pay my bill. That's where they leave you off and the name is in your sitter and your tummik and they forget the PS. By the way, I won the lottery. By the way, we have the happiest marriage ever. By the way, I had quintuplets. By the way, they forget that. So those emails I really mean they mean a lot to me and I'm grateful for