Rabbi Gavriel Friedman - True Meaning of Happiness

[Applause] okay good evening all wasn't sure to say good evening or what it is to you guys by me now thank the good lord we are just uh we are hanging out after midnight here in the holy land i'm coming live this is live at hobbled up a newspaper to to prove it to you but i don't have any so i can't prove it to you um but uh just to to see if everybody's with me who those are gonna be joining i will i would like i know that it's hard to do this when you have so many people already 70 people and close to i think like they haven't said i see on facebook live close to a million people so far unbelievable that are watching now on facebook at least they're watching something i don't know if they're watching this but there's a lot more than a million people but anyway on the bottom of your screen you should have a thing called chat by now if you're not familiar how to use zoom i don't know what you've been doing right so you are welcome to go ahead and to use the chat and uh and and to throw in any questions you can either do them specifically to me in which case i will keep it private uh if you do in public then you just made yourself public all right so just so i could see who actually knows how this works if you do know how to use your chat could you write in the chat just write seven write the number seven so i can make sure that we got what's going on seven aurora yeah holy moly you guys are fast all right so we got at least four people someone wrote six very good very proud of you all right so here we go let's let's uh let's get cracking so we're gonna jump we're gonna jump right in here and now we're gonna start from the beginning the topic the topic i don't know if you guys saw the topic or not but uh this topic is um quite elusive if you ask me it's a it's an unfortunate idea that pretty much i find that every single person in the world i don't care who you are or what you are in this day and age it really doesn't make a difference everybody is looking for exactly the same thing man woman child uh jew nanju jumanji everybody is looking for exactly the same thing and la pregunta es que que what do we want what's that one thing we're looking for you got the chat hit it what are we looking for please do not say anything illegal please all right so we got oh nice good i like it yeah excellent um [Music] okay yeah interesting wow thank you very much just a shout out to shannon over there for that answer thank you for that so there are a lot of answers that were said we got the top ones i'll just i mean you guys can see yourselves but we have happiness pleasure peace of mind love success happiness health happiness uh happiness and or chocolate this is someone who's heard me speak before uh success and this is my favorite so far that was from shannon felicidad that would be happiness for those who failed ninth grade spanish all right serenity peace wealth meaning meaning health clarity always shalom by it you must be married okay so um i did see the personal message someone wrote to me i'll just say that everyone should be and we'll just i'll say right now before i forget make sure that we just uh a quick shout out that the lord should take care of the world that's essentially what you asked if you want to put that in public what you specifically asked you're welcome to and i'm just i'm not gay i'm not getting political i'm even younger okay so here's here's the deal here's the deal the entire world the entire world is looking for and all these are really good answers and i'm going to say the one that i'm going to focus on here is yes we want clarity yes you want me and yes you know and stuff but all that stuff leads to one thing is we just want to be happy that's all we just won't be happy everybody just wants to be happy and what's crazy is that everything you do in your life everything you do is heading towards that goal that's the goal your goal is to go ahead and to become happy everybody's looking for that goal that's the ultimate concept i just want to again remind everyone for those who want to be in the raffle i guess there's only seven of you or ten of you now it's amazing because you guys are very good odds so let me say it differently whoever's camera is off keep it off in order to up the odds for the people's cameras are on all right so here we go so so we have this is that is that everybody wants this everybody wants to be happy but unfortunately and it's funny to say it's funny to say that you have like yes we want to be healthy it's true we want to be healthy but why do you want to be out who cares so don't be healthy because it makes you happy every step you take and every move you make not everyone gets that but the rabbi does everything that we're doing in our life we're doing is heading towards being happy now you know those people out there that are miserable you know you have people out there that are miserable like their whole life is about being miserable guess what that's their joy they love being miserable this happened to one of my kids recently they were upset at me i said do you want to be upset like you like i see you upset do you want to be they go yeah i said well you know what i am so happy for you that you want to be upset you know what and you're getting this opportunity good for you everybody looking for this idea just to be happy now people try to disprove it oh yeah yeah anything you're doing you're heading towards that goal you're trying to get away from something which is going to cause you pain and get towards something that's going to make you happy the unfortunate reality though is that people end up making a very very big mistake now very big mistake now i do i do want to i do want to point out something because a bunch of people keep seeing the idea of health and health and health and health and health and and i'm not against the idea of health health is a great thing but i think it's overrated what are you crazy the answer is maybe yes but it's not for tonight's discussion what i'm pointing at is that what i mean by it's overrated is it becomes so much of a focus it becomes so much of a focus of you know they say in hebrew a lot of times people say the most important thing is that we have health my friends that's not true that's not the most important thing that's not the most important thing if you have a choice between health and happiness if you have to pick one i want both all right and i got you okay very good but if you have to choose one i don't want to choose once and not you but if you had to choose one which would you choose you'll be healthy but miserable or not healthy but happy i'm gonna answer it for you you're gonna answer whatever you're gonna answer you'll think about it and we'll come to the same answer you want happiness above health above it it's it's a greater it's a greater goal we want that so much more it's the craziest thing the problem is that we end up we end up unfortunately confusing ideas about how to get there everybody wants to be happy but sometimes we confuse how to get to that state of happiness the crazy thing in life is that we kind of go backwards we go backwards who generally are the happiest people in the world who are the happiest people in the world once again make sure to leave your cameras on we'll be doing a 50 amazon gift card at the end of you to lose your cameras on brought to you by emmett okay so now understand my friends who here you think you stop and think who are the happiest people yes that's correct the happiest people in the world are kids kids are the happiest now there's always someone in the crowd that goes i was the miserable child like okay i'm so sorry for you forgive me but i charge extra for therapy i'm just pointing out that the happiest people in this world are kids kids are so happy kids are so happy and we'll just i will just point out before i forget i have to make sure that this is this year this this lecture this talk is dedicated to the merit of of rafael bensura okay so now understand this concept that when we kids they're just they're just happy they're just happy to enjoy themselves and and you know what they have nothing they have nothing yet they have everything what i thought you said nothing the answer is we get so caught up when we're trying to get this concept called happiness that we start focusing and we start to think money it's all bad at cash you understand my friends i think it was quoted a lot of times on the radio it's not about the money money money it's not what it is you understand everyone could look to the left you could all look to the right and that's not what it is you understand there's so much so much more than just that all right so here's the deal i'm going to make an assumption here and um you know i'll throw it out there who here does not want to be happy please write in the comments in the chat say me if you do not want to be happy i can almost guarantee you we're going to have an answer and it's going to be from a guy because all the girls would never say that in public it's always a guy who's trying to be funny okay nobody alright so all of you want to be happy right every single person here wants to be happy that's that's amazing all right so then my question for you is as follows can anyone here please um define for me what does it mean what's happiness go and make it private make it private make it private make it private okay tatiana you're off the hook because i said you were too quick but you can't use another word what's happening joy come on come on okay i got one answer so far too all right good oh nice nice ah these are great answers oh my goodness you know what the best thing about these type of classes are as a speaker i don't really have to be prepared at all i can ask a question say message me privately and then give those answers and say and this is what i wanted to share with you that's the best part but of course i wouldn't do that okay so let's see what we got over here oh yeah noise noise yes oh shannon you were out of control okay this is this is this is very good all right so let's listen up peeps here here's the crazy thing i'm gonna give one answer if um i don't know if if you allow me to say your name because you did do it privately but um what up d d gave an answer which is very interesting i i heard from a great great rabbi he said that most people are searching for this country called happiness and little do they know that it's a state of mind most people are looking for this country called happiness it's not a country it's a state of mind you understand everything in our life by the way it's not just happiness but everything the way that we function is up in here up in here sometimes we're gonna lose our mind but it's all up over here it's the way in which we go and what we're focusing on that ultimately's idea of happiness now a bunch of people pulled a move a lot of them pulled a move and you guys tried to try to pull a move on me by whipping out that you know you whipped out a mishna and then some of you even named it but you whipped that this mishna in perce there's a mishna in perky officers but that didn't answer my question i didn't ask who is a sheer with an i am being rich which is a fascinating uh discussion to be had of here you can't say who is happy someone who's happy you understand that doesn't it doesn't mean it doesn't make any sense again so when i ask define happiness then what is it what's happiness what's happiness so we got a lot of different answers here i'm going to share with you some of the answers so one of them is being content with what you have okay that's the mishna we are focusing on what you have and not what you don't have sounds like the mishnah uh fulfilling you're okay good that one is actually too close to comfort because i'm going to say that someone hold off on that happy with what you have that's the mishna um yeah satisfaction with your life oh yeah that's the mishna uh okay that one's good that's now you get another someone else tapped in over here oh yeah some of you getting this big time over the eyes so listen up listen carefully happiness is a feeling how's that good happiness is a feeling so what's happened is happiness is a feeling oh thank you so much that was great it's a feeling yeah but it's more than that so is anger right so who's jealousy what kind of feeling is it what's happiness happiness is a feeling and i'm gonna i'm gonna give you i really there's a for those who don't have this book i recommend getting it i don't make any money off this yet there's a book written by rabbi dr akiva tatz called the thinking jewish teenagers guide to life i know what you're thinking that's an oxymoron a jewish thinking teenager so they change it to life but anyway the point is he writes in a chapter called you guessed it happiness a great line a great line and as long as his followers he's defining it now i actually pinned him and cornered him in the area and asked him you know what did he mean by happiness you know because in hebrew there's a lot of words gila arena invention to a wedding you know right so it's like but all right fine he when i asked him what he meant he said happiness and he walked away i was like that was so deep anyway he said the following idea what is happiness happiness is a feeling it's an emotion that one gets when they're doing what they're supposed to be doing i want you to think about this for a second think about the moments and times in your life when you've really been happy now some people and i say this i'm not going to be this is not uh i'm not being facetious now i don't know people's personal lives over here there are some people that that have a hard time being able to think at a time when they were happy but uh that requires a lot more time to sit down specifically with you and worked it out but don't confuse happiness and pleasure please don't confuse happiness and pleasure these are two separate things a person can be having pleasure without being happy right we call that a guilty pleasure a guilty pleasure right i'm having pleasure there's a there's a physical reaction of enjoyment but i'm not happy i can actually be miserable and be feeling pleasure at the same time i can can anyone here give an example can you give an example of a guilt of something where it feels good you can have pleasure but you're miserable you can do a public or private just keep it kosher please that's all i ask please keep it kosher no no i said keep it closure okay good right so somebody gave an interesting answer um oh wow interesting so i'll tell you something yeah i was actually thinking like like early just said like eating your fifth slice of chocolate cake uh and that's that's where basically you know there may be a physical feeling but you know what i don't know that's true actually i actually feel gross after i have that i don't know if there's physical pleasure anymore it's kind of like a psychological thing where you just keep going with it even though you don't enjoy it i like that tatiana said vodka because your name sounds russian i don't know if you are i'm just gonna point out that you sound russian and you just have vodka anyway um did you mean water is that the same thing by you guys anyway um so here's see here's here's the deal i was gonna say a person who's i once asked this to a class i said give me an example of a guilty pleasure so some guy goes he raises his hand i go yeah he goes uh cocaine i was like whoa that went yo bro i was thinking about ice cream when you're on a diet right that's what i was thinking but but cool do your thing do your thing the answer is that it tastes good the ice cream feels good tastes good smells good yeah however there's no happiness involved every time every lick and every and every like twirl is like i i it feels good but every time you're like i don't want to do this i don't want to do this oh yes right that's that my friend that's called the guilty pleasure so don't confuse pleasure and happiness happiness is when things are in sync when things are in sync and you're doing what you're meant to be doing and you're on par that's amazing stop and think about it right you have a person who goes there they graduate college they graduate high school a lot of people are happy why because they for some reason have given meaning to the idea of high school or college they gave meaning to it they feel like it's meaningful and therefore they going and finishing it that feels good now i'm going to put it in two words it's what we call ma what you're talking about happiness you've got to get my happiness m a meaningful accomplishment you see you can accomplish something but there are many accomplishments that are simply not meaningful and therefore will not bring you happiness or joy example you can finish a four piece puzzle you have just accomplished however you don't feel happy because it's not meaningful what happens if that four piece puzzle wins you the lottery now you feel happy because you've now given meaning to that accomplishment but that's because you consider money to be meaningful accomplishment what if you don't find money to be meaningful accomplishment then you can get it but you're going to be miserable as everybody knows does money by happiness the answer is absolutely who says it doesn't those who don't have it just kidding there's money by happiness absolutely not money actually at not at all now i don't mean that people that have money can't be happy and it can take away a lot of things that make you unhappy but it will not buy you happiness this is a super important thing to understand money can take away things that make you unhappy but they could never it can never make you happy the question is what do you do with that money okay so you donate it guess what you could do that right now you can do it right now proportionate to what you have and you giving you could you could donate money you could donate your time what's amazing is that well i don't understand if money doesn't buy happiness then why is everybody chasing after it the answer is very simple because 95 of the money of the world is found in 5 of the hands very few people ever actually reach a goal of becoming rich whatever that means so since the very few people ever get there they don't understand at the end of the day that they actually that they're actually not going to be happy by it those who get there they then get there and then they go huh how come i'm not happy the answer is because they made a mistake they didn't realize that happiness is not a country you go to or you get to you find it's a state of mind which means you can be happy anywhere anytime assuming you understand the greater picture of what's happening and you are living in sync in a way that you're supposed to be living your life now i don't know your ages i don't know how old you are i could judge but i actually have no idea i have no clue how what the average is i don't know how people are i don't know what's going down here but i could tell you one thing i could tell you that what's pretty sad is that unfortunately many many many of us are not even close to living up to what we're meant to be doing now because we're so busy with school and with work and with running and with all the stuff we have we don't have time to stop and realize that we're miserable but those who do realize they're miserable they end up realizing because they're not actually accomplishing what they find meaningful and generally it's because they didn't really invest enough time to find out what is meaning what are we trying to accomplish over here what's the goal what's the end game where are we headed towards can i give a huge shout out to e m you know who you are i don't wanna i can't i wanna say you but you know who you are em there i s yes a huge shanna anyway so we don't know what it is what our goals are if you don't understand that of course we're not going to feel accomplished but we're not going to notice because we're so busy and we're going to be working and working and working until one day something is going to stop us and when something's going to stop us all of a sudden all of a sudden understand that we're so busy but did you stop from when we thought about it wow we realized you're miserable now here's the deal so how does one figure out what they're supposed to be doing in their life in order to accomplish this this elusive goal called happiness the answer is there are two different there are two different types of happiness there's two goals of what we're trying to do whoa shannon are you what you said private are you from costa rica you just pulled uh that was a costa rican reference you just pulled out there you know that's a coaster we can reference all right yeah you know that awesome anyway every everybody there's there's two different goals there's a there's a national mission and a national goal that we're all trying to accomplish and then every one of us has an individual goal an individual mission what we're trying to accomplish jasmine you understand what i mean this is the real deal dina you with me yoni iphone you understand this is this ain't no games we got ourselves a general and we got ourselves a specific the general mission is what's known as ultimate truth somebody who lives with truth when you live with truth happiness is the feeling that one gets when they are tapped in when they're plugged in meaningful accomplishments we got to figure out what's called meaning what is truth and then one starts attaching to it life starts becoming incredible life really starts becoming incredible so let's start with the let's start with the first one the first one is a little easier it's more general it's more vague we have something called the holy babel that is truth or some would even call it ahmet what that's crazy it's truth to be able to find and attach to the concept of truth of the torah itself now there's a lot of people out there that say you know what i follow the torah and i don't feel so happy doing it you know i've done mitzvos and i don't get so much joy out of doing it so i thought you said if i'm attaching myself i'm doing i'm doing truth how come i'm not how come i'm not feeling an immense joy when i'm doing it all right people you got the chat why why is it you could have a person that's keeping the torah that's doing it that's living with it but they're not feeling happy according to what i said you tap into reality do you're supposed to be doing you go fearfully see that hang on let's see what we got disconnected good i'm saying because you said it to everyone we got the kind of disconnected emotionally you do it without even letting yourself feel it um somebody said in a relationship with hashem good someone says they don't know why they're doing it we have someone says they don't value it feels like an obligation they don't see the meaning in it don't believe it is real or meaningful just doing the otions doing the otions motions motions i got it i got it i got it i was like trying to figure out like i know it's a word one word two it's a movie that is going through the motions now i'm gonna go with that one as a private message somebody wrote but i think that that's one of the deepest ones it's true we're doing we're not thinking about it we don't have kavanaugh we're not whatever i think also sometimes it's like do we really truly deeply madly honestly tap into the fact that this is truth and are we connecting with the fact that this is truth if someone would stop and actually connect with the fact you this is you know it's true and you'd be paying attention to that concept you'd be feeling a whole different way than you feel right now you know there was a uh this question actually came a couple years back a young lady was in one of my classes this is before caron and or is it el carona i don't know i don't know i don't know you got to help me out with them i don't know it's okay so anyway this is antes before before the corona because now it's got on a time but before corona there was a young lady came to my class and she said to me you know when my parents asked me to do the dishes when my parents ask me to do the dishes i don't feel so happy i don't feel happy but i'm doing keep it available and if i'm doing keeping up the aim and it's a mitzvah so how come i'm not feeling happy if i'm doing the mitzvah i've what's the answer think about it just imagine for a moment the lord pray be your name like the reborn of shalom came down and asked you to do something god came and spoke with you and you know it's true and i said you got it you know it's true nora you know what i mean if god actually came to you now it's like what like he knows i'm here yeah god knows you're here and god came to and asked you to do something would you would you be nervous excited interested pro con pro con pro con nora what do you got the lord the lord asks you would you feel honored that the lord's coming to you god's coming to you what do you say honored not honored you're on decided okay you feel honored right dina would also feel honored that's amazing you feel very honored what an honor and a privilege that god's asking me so what if you then thought for a second god says to you i'd like you to please wash the dishes you're like you know is that really god i'm not really are you sure right okay maybe that would get through that little thing but if you really understood that god's asking you to do something you'd be thrilled to do it for him you'd be thrilled to do it for him the problem is that we're not attaching these things and putting these things together we're not attaching and putting these things together right you'd be a little nervous because of the pressure but at the same time and honoring the privilege i'm gonna go and try to do what i can do understand my friends tori and mitzos is god asking us to do certain things what an honor that we have the ability of doing it what an honor that we're chosen out of how many people in the world to be able to go ahead and carry on such a positive and amazing thing that's pretty that's pretty amazing that's pretty amazing okay good so number one is the torah itself if somebody follows the torah which is truth and you think about it it's amazing i was learning i was learning today the mishna brewer mr brewer is the i don't know everybody's background over here mr is the a commentary in the book of jewish law and and the prophet wrote to mr bhurani and he basically talks about the different prayers that we have in the morning and certain people say akidas yitzchak and some people say um the the aseris the dibros and the different carbonos okay if you're spidey you know what i'm talking about if you're astronauts you're like say the who the what anyway the point is that we have certain prayers that we had and it says why what's the point and he goes and he explains each one it's it's for us to be able to think about harsinai and to remember that we were about mount sinai and how god gave us the torah and to connect with that that's huge every day is an opportunity to be able to refocus and understand what we're what we're doing here ultimately that's the national mission and that's every individual but then then we have an individual goal number one is a national mission then an individual goal if we attach ourselves to the national mission we're going to feel an incredible incredible joy a sense of happiness of serenity of contentment of fulfillment if we're paying attention to what we're doing number one we know that it's true and number two we do it number three we pay attention while we're doing it okay that that for those who are familiar with other classes i've get is in a nutshell i didn't even notice i did that but that's car for those who know what i just said right it's you know what's going on you're acting upon that which you know and you're paying attention to it car car is knowledge action awareness kaa you know you're acting and you're paying attention for those who get the acting is mean you're an actor acting means you're acting upon that which you know is true you're living with it okay that's number one what about individual every individual is a mission is called a mission if you choose to accept it and if not you come back as a frog anyway the point is that every one of us has the individual mission of what it is that we've got to accomplish so how does it figure it out how am i supposed to know what my mission is how am i supposed to know and the answer is unfortunately we're all at a time okay i'll tell you the answer of how we're supposed to know what we are supposed to be accomplishing and what we're supposed to be doing individually and this my friends is where the work comes in this is where the work comes in that's something which to quote one of my tell me them who absolutely hates when speakers do this i'm gonna do it but then i'm gonna i'm gonna retract and actually help you you know when the speaker goes listen to know what you're supposed to do i can't tell you everyone has to figure that out for themselves you know when you walk out of a talk like that you're like thank you for nothing like you just didn't you didn't help me at all all you did is said the most general concept of like you have to work that out for yourself hashem loves you and i go with childhood what did you say what was the point of the talk so the answer of how do you supposed to know the answer really still is true you have to figure it out but i'm going to tell you how you can figure it out let me tell you how you can figure it out you see understand the fact that every one of us we have an ashama we have a soul i mean some people out there have no soul but okay we got souls right we got souls i mean some people behave in wages are totally inappropriate and they you think like they don't have a soul it's like imagine you're playing tennis somewhere and someone comes on the tennis court and just takes it from you that's like just not right you know what i mean it's like they have no soul let ym know about that story there anyway the point is is that is that just to take a step back and understand that we all have a soul let me tap into our mission how can we tap in and get down and know what's going on caroline how how is it possible busted how is it possible how does one try to figure out like what is the ultimate i want to try to do but she'll be in the raffle don't worry how does one i'll put in a good word for you how does one know help her win how does one know what they're supposed to do the answer is your soul is connected to particular ideas yeah yeah me too okay here's tell him i'll call him later your soul is connected to it you get drawn towards things there are things you get drawn towards some people like music some people like art some people like sports some people like people some people don't like people you've got to figure out and it's not something which is like i have to go searching far and wide to figure out what it is you want to hear the most amazing idea it's not the most amazing but it's an amazing one you know people say that the most amazing idea then they give a the next week saying that also well which one is it answer is depends what day it is listen to the most amazing idea of the day you know avraham avinu in this week's torah portion don't fall asleep it's interesting in this week's torah portion avraham avinu abraham finally meets the lord god appears to him 75 years old he's 75 years old after 75 years of trying to find god god appears to offer him and he speaks to him and what's the first thing he says to him anybody put in the chat what's the first thing he says to him someone just wrote hola good good the answer is and many of you got it the answer is he says you know what means you know what it means after 75 years of trying to find god god goes and turns to him and says now go find yourself whoa that's the first thing he says to him is go go to you what are you trying to find me by looking externally go to you you got to find yourself which means we've got to dig look into yourself and try to understand now this isn't a muscle which i've used in many a time and i don't remember again forgive me i i'm going to say in the name of rabbi tats because i think i heard it from him it's possible i didn't and if i didn't then i'll take full credit let's move on so he gave the following example okay try to imagine that i would have dropped you off at a work site i dropped you off at a work site and uh i mean let's say you're from ukraine you know what i mean some of you know what i'm talking about let's say you find yourself on on some ukrainian work site and someone says i'm going to pick you up in five hours you've never done construction in your vita never in your life you've never done construction you don't even know where to start and they go they leave you by a building that's like semi-finished in all different areas there's a lot to do there's plumbing there's electricity there's landscaping there's mason work there's there's uh more plumbing i don't know there's stuff to do can you stand there's a lot you've got to do so what do you do they drop you off and they say i'll be back in a bunch of hours what do you do so the answer is google correct let's say you don't have google let's say you don't have google what do you do what do you do what do you work on bing okay that that's yeah bing who in the world knows what bing is that is very impressive yeah that's a good answer someone just said ask someone with experience but say there's no one there what do you do so i'm gonna help you out now tell you let me let me say good nothing is probably the correct answer you just look at it don't even know or just trying to figure it out just go and try right just try a bunch of stuff but what happened if i told you now i'm going to drop you off in this worksite and i'm not leaving you with nothing i leave you with a toolbox i leave you with the toolbox and i said i'll be back in a bunch of hours and i drive away what is the very first thing you should do very good first thing oh nice okay it was written privately but the first thing someone said is davin very good excellent excellent other people said like yonah navi go to sleep pray still nothing to do how to do construction the answer is the first thing you do is you open up the toolbox look inside see what's in there what tools do you have in the toolbox that's right see what you do is you got to see what tools do you have take a look inside what do you have in the toolbox if you see that there are tools that are guiding you towards electricity then it's probably saying you're not supposed to be a plumber i know that's confusing but you look inside and see what do you have what are you drawn towards what do you feel the most complete i have you know a cousin who worked somewhere and got paid a significant amount of money ended up leaving that place for some place that paid half the amount but was so much happier because it tapped into their neshama it was what they always wanted to do it was what they had skills for and what they were headed towards and what they really were all about so my friends now we take a look understand the concept ultimately of what's happiness happens is a feeling that one gets it's an outcome it's a totsa it's an outgrowth of meaningful accomplishment the question is what's called meaningful accomplishment we have a mass national and an individual the mass nationals the concept like we said and that is every everyone is following something on the tour itself and then we have the individuals the individuals which is what they have over here now somebody just pointed out something very important and they said it to everyone so i'll say it and here we go that's assuming you can clearly identify what the tool is to be used for i might like a few different things but i don't know what i'm meant to use them for so now there are two comments that were made within that number one is what's a tool used for another one of these ideas that i feel drawn towards so the answer was we have twofold number one is you're right and that's where we have to make sure that we are finding the right people to get good advice from like the mishnah says like the messiest asharam says find the great sages that have been through the maze called life and ask advice ask for help that's the goal is to guide and to lead to be able to help us go to people that have had experience speak things out to get clarity on these type of ideas and there could be multiple concepts that can merge into one that my friends is the idea of ultimately what we're talking about over here okay so listen carefully i don't want to keep people too long i know we gotta get some sort of game show coming up or something like that so what i'm gonna do right now is a quick recap of everything we did end off opening it up if it's okay with the rabbit any questions comments stories jokes attacks for a minute or two and then we'll open up i guess to some raffle or game show or something like that here we go let's rip it so in the beginning we started off in the beginning in the beginning what is it every single person was looking for to make a better name woman child both 2020 everyone's looking for the same concept that's called felicidad everybody wants to have happiness how come we have so many people happy because everyone's looking for that country called abbas i don't know it's a state of mind it's all me here i'll be here every step you to every move you make the ultimate ideas what noise would be able to get this concept happens relatively it's going towards so i'm going to say when it comes to the understanding of a person's life what are we talking about how's the person get these kind of in the first place what is all about so we said so what is it how do you define it define your terms what's happening is happiness is a feeling that one gets when they're tapping in and they're connecting what to what meaningful accomplishment so understand what's about money it's not about the money money money most people don't get it therefore they chase after those that get it run away from it those who don't whatever money can get will help do what they can get a person in the state or it could take away a lot of things that make them unhappy but it will never actually make them happy themselves it's what you could do with the money in which case if you could do something with the money do something with your life and give yourself give of your time give of your energy give up your money also if you can if that's what you want to be doing proportionate to what you're able to do but at the same time go ahead and get your opportunity this is the thing david a little insulted that he said two times i think it's about four times anyways a little bit before that he comes in and said whether he's gonna get a national mission individual it's called the torah well i do keep out of him i don't feel anything it's just because you don't believe it or you're paying attention and instead of kind of over here's idea of what knowledge action awareness i'm not reading the chat i'm only watching things that are popping up that's why i'm seeing what's going on over here i'm not looking at the back of the mail over here because it's going to confuse me too much i'm going to see what's coming up no i'm not sorry okay so we got a little further coming in this is what happens the person can go with national missions to tutorials it's definitely going to figure the choice of that and then i'm not going to tell you what it is you have to find out for yourself i'm not going to do that no i'm not every individual person there's something you have supposed to be doing how do i know what it is you've got to check everybody's got a toolbox crack open that toolbox start looking inside see what you're connected to see what's going on over there rifka tell them i'll call back after start to see what it is that a person is trying to go ahead what is it that you're drawn towards and what is it you're trying to get where's the key you ask listen you know where the key is up in here up in here says the lord you found me in alexa go to yourself which means you've got to sit down and actually work it you gotta work it you gotta work it and you know what you may have ups and downs at the end of the day sometimes it can be multiple things and it's hard to know what's going down therefore ask advice you got great great people is here to help you grow he's there as an aide as a guide you have an organization emit that's there to teach you truth to show you a way this is unbelievable how many people are found on a random six o'clock on a thursday like it's unbelievable here you are going to grow and going to learn take advantage of these opportunities to be able to open up that box and hopefully with the help of the lord to win a 50 gift card any questions comments stories jokes attacks please write them down we got one question that just came in hold on one second here we go i can't ask that question because it's going to confuse people i'm just going to l l i'm gonna answer your question personally the answer is that is a national mission but it might be your particular that i can't answer however make sure that you also have time for yourself that you're able to connect with something which you feel connected with now what that means is ultimately is that if you feel that that's enough for you and that's good for you then fantastic but if you're feeling lacking then maybe there's anything else going on okay that's number one that's number one uh zero to a hundred real quick shout out i'm gonna give a shout out to drake i guess he's jewish all right good um what else any other questions that we have um how does okay so so i'm going to read the question and hopefully understand it how does this realistically manifest in a business simply feeling simply feeling of happy simple your simple feeling simply feeling happiness hi listen don't confuse business with your mission in life they might come together they don't have to come together they might come together they don't have to sometimes a person is stuck in a way that they need to be involved in some sort of business in order to be able to sustain themselves in order to live you get it example we have to eat food we have to use the bathroom we have to sleep these are all tools which help us live our lives business can be one of those tools as well in order to go ahead absolutely we'll send regards because the business is is is is a concept that that can be used as a tool but don't think that it has to be your whole purpose that's what the the world has messed us up to think that life is about business and success call was knowledge action awareness look it up online have a class gavriel friedman kaa you'll see the whole you'll see the whole class um it's very worthwhile very worth while and for everyone who watches that i make money that's not true at all because i think only like 12 people it would be like millions maybe but anyway so back to things like this the ideal thing is to try to find a business that taps into the idea of what you are and who you are but if you're not able to do that then okay it's a means to an end that you have to do it's a means to have to that that a person has to do so that's the answer that and person goes ahead and then finds what they really want to be involved with in life that's going to start opening up okay what's call i said how does it help understand happiness again knowledge action awareness because someone has knowledge about what they're supposed to be doing they act upon that which is supposed to be doing and they're paying attention while they're doing that that unlocks the key which system to a great great point uh someone give a shout out to my wife sure you got it um call the same question i know money doesn't buy happiness because otherwise we wouldn't find so many miserable rich people what about the people who can't afford things that help bring happiness like having money to buy a comfortable pillow or ferrari that was the best contrast ever okay so um there's a very good point that you make um i'm glad you brought to my attention because i also suffer in that same issue i'm not having a ferrari hi you see the answer is at the end of the day if it's a state of mind if really if it's a state of mind then it doesn't matter what is thrown at us in life and we have the opportunity to really tap into the state and by the way just a little shout out to myself robgov.com you can check out our whole course on that on mind over matter of how to tap into that concept it does cost money i'm throwing that out there right now uh but that but that's that um then we got some said awesome um yeah okay good i'm gonna answer in a second uh what if you like a lot of things how do you know what you're actually meant to do a lot of times you could find a way to put them together i'll give you like my own personal idea i love to teach i love music i enjoy having a good time i like concepts what do i do i put it all together just like throw it in there you know what i'm saying i also like sports in case i'm not so good stop making fun of me but at the same time you know it doesn't mean i'm gonna do is my business because i can't although i'd love to but at the end of the day come to realize the fact that hey i might enjoy certain things as an outlet as to what may be at the same thing but be able to connect these things to you i'm going to tell you my friends just to take one thing one thing that's very funny yes that's very funny very funny i did not say that but maybe i did i'm not saying i did but maybe i did all right so here's here's the uh one idea one idea that i'd like to to share with all y'all is to stop and think for a moment before we get into specifics since who am i what's my life understand happiness is meaningful accomplishment maybe it's worthwhile to sit down and try to think through what you feel is meaningful in this world try to get down to see what is meaningful in this world and then ask yourself are you heading in the direction of at least what you think is meaningful i think that can make a tremendous change in our lives and then with that my friends i'm going to turn it over to my co-host the one that makes this thing happen the one and only and the only reason i know you're a co-host is because it says co-host next to you you know what there's a bunch of you so it's not the one and only the multiple aviva esther and esther and sarah but if i can give a shout out to large emmett zoom i don't know i'm not making a fat joke i'm that's what it says in your name large emmett zoom or whoever wants to take it they're on both of them because now in the balls in your court i want to thank everybody for coming and it was a a tremendous pleasure and thank you for having me and uh don't go anywhere because things are about to get things are about to get better just just wait right there but wait there's more so just just stay seated and we're gonna hit a bunch of stuff and actually this is a good time because my computer just said low battery can i plug it in i could am i going to maybe you're welcome you're welcome you're welcome you're welcome thank you so much rabbi welcome i'm just giving them responding to the comments here we're on fire oh thank you so much this rabbi is on fire unbelievable [Music] on facebook by the way is enjoying it so much that we apparently reached to the other side of our cousins in israel on the other side of israel seems like this lecture got so famous that i'm getting the other side of israel joining in on our lecture on facebook good stuff are you serious got lots of interesting comments on my uh facebook live i'd like to make a shout out please to jamal and joachim and khaman and we'll see thank you because i kind of think i might have blocked them but thank you for that there goes that for all of you that are still on please make sure to stay on because with the raffle with the game the game is going to be awesome rabbi amazed like literally amazed can we have you again we'd love to have you blina we have to work on the hour but yeah yeah what time is it there right now uh it's early you know relative it's 1 107. i have to go learn now i got to do beacon and then learn zohar i have to go to the mikvah and ready to say for torah i have a lot to do you know why you're so busy yeah i'm a holy guy okay thank you so much rabbi kiggle are you here yeah just a shout out to eddie also just do that you know let me actually make rabbi kiggle an admin so he could okay wow that was so amazing and uh you know i i i'm really gonna be happier now that i've heard you speak so thank you so much we really hope to be uh graced with your presence sometime in the near future we really want to see you live in israel if you could ask the government to let us in it would be wonderful i have a call with bibi later so yeah all right amazing and uh yeah so thank you so much have the best shabbos ever we're all uh decided to take on shabbos 10 minutes early no for no political reasons but just in case we're going to speak on travis 10 minutes early this week and uh with hashem's help all right very good okay should be blessed i'm bouncing thank you bye