Afraid to walk in your own front door

I was once working with a couple and I I said to I said to the guy, "If you came home after work one day and instead of sitting on your driveway afraid to come into your house because you're intimidated by your spouse because you feel like a disappointment, instead of you sitting there scrolling through Instagram in your driveway, you actually walk through the door. And the version of you that's walking through the door is this version of you we've been describing in the session that you're most proud of. And as you walk through the door, your wife is watching you, but you didn't know she was watching you. She's standing off on the side. She's watching you through a camera lens, whatever it is. And she catches you. She catches this version of you that you're most proud of. What do you think the first thing she's going to notice is? What is she going to see walk Who is she going to see walk through the door? What is the first thing you're going to be doing when you walk through that door? And he starts answering his own things like, "Well, I probably wouldn't have my phone in my face." I said, "Where would it be?" "Probably in my pocket." I didn't even know that was an issue. And if I had have brought that up, that would have There would have been, you know, defensiveness.