How did Yosef forgive his brothers? (Where can we get that strength?)

Joseph has every right to be angry at his brothers and as we soon see in this para he forgives his brothers where does he muster up the courage to forgive them after taking his brothers for a run for his money ysep finally reveals his true identity he can't contain himself and he says it's me it's your brother ysep and the Torah uses the expression G no Eli come and approach me come close and the commentaries unpack exactly what the reason is for yose telling his brothers to approach him to come close says just simply I don't want everybody to know they think my name is they don't know the whole backstory they don't know the beef that we had I don't want to make that public come close or the way the kak says I'm I I maintained my yay I'm still not going to speak lur Come Close we're going to settle this quietly we're going to settle this privately Rashi quotes from the midash that the reason why he tells them to come close is because he wanted to show them that he's circumcised that he has a bris now why is that important why is it necessary to show them that he has a bris so the way I always understood this Rashi growing up is that it was just his way of proving that he's Jewish I have a bris I'm circumcised Rashi doesn't say that though that was more of an assumption and that is the route that certain mfar take the B rejects that the B says first of all you have a lot of Arabs in the area and Arabs get brises right the get brises because is had a bris at 13 follow that that tradition in fact the ra writes that b have an obligation to get a bris so you can have other people who have a bris maybe he's just another Arab how is showing them a bris proof of anything that's number one number two ysep himself had commanded the entire region to get a bris and to get food why he did that is a different discussion for another time but the point is he commanded everybody to have a brist everybody in Egypt had a Bru at this point how is that proof so some of say that well the brothers didn't know that but in any case the batur rejects the interpretation that yse telling his brothers approach me come close is to show them the bris because that wouldn't have been proof of anything however the kakar does like rashi's interpretation that he was showing them the bris and the reason why he's showing them the bris is because what he's actually showing them is that I've maintained my values I've maintained my Purity ptif Fire's wife tried seducing Yosef and it was a very difficult test and the Torah says he had held back and it uses the canellation note the Trap of a shalis which is a very drawn out canellation note canellation mark because it was very difficult it was a very drawn out long process for him to be able to must up the courage and strength to be Fram to say no but he wanted to show them I've maintained my values I have a bris if he were hanging around the wrong people in ways that were uh promiscuous he may have been compelled to be what's called a to be the type of person who would to put himself in a situation where it doesn't look like he has a bris anymore we call this somebody who extends their eress somebody who essentially effectively at least on a visual level undoes their bris by creating some sort of oila because they're ashamed of their bris and yph says no I'm not ashamed of my bris I have my values and because he has his values straight he has his Jewish values straight he wants to share that with his brothers why does he want to share this with his brothers why is it to share with his brothers look I have a bris I've maintained my Jewish values perhaps showing the brothers that he has a bris is his way of saying I'm going to be able to forgive you I'm going to be able to let go of this Grudge you guys hurt me you guys sold me you guys tried to kill me you've stole me from my father you've lied to my father you put me into slavery and into prison and I've gone through a lot ysep has every right to be angry at his brothers and as we soon see in this para he forgives his brothers where does he muster up the courage to forgive them the answer perhaps is the fact that he has a bris and the fact that he had internalized the message of what a bris truly is explains theah he explains the spiritual Dynamic of what bris really means he Compares or really contrasts an idolator to a believer what is the fundamental mistake that an idolator makes he analyzes the history or evolution of idolatry based on the rambam where the rambam says at some point everybody believed in God God created Adam andava adava certainly believed in God Adam anda's children believed in God because their parents believed in God so where did idolatry started started with the generation the Next Generation with Enos because Enos believed in God and appreciated God but he appreciated more what he had received from God the sustenance from God whether it be the sun whether it be the sunlight whether it be rain whether it be what the rain and sunlight had produced so he started praying to those things the Next Generation forgot about God altogether and this is where idolatry started idolatry is essentially the sentiment that I'm going to believe and pray and appreciate what I get and neglect where it comes from which is essentially saying I'm going to prioritize what I see what I experience rather than the truth I'm going to thank the axe rather than the wood Chopper I'm going to appreciate the body more than I am the soul I'm going to appreciate what is readily uh and easily experiential and sensory rather than the trer depth the truth that is hidden behind the body which is the soul I'm going to experience the what and worship it rather than the why this is essentially what idolatry is this is where idolatry comes from but that wasn't ysep ysep was able to maintain sensitivity he was able to become sensitive to the soul he was able to maintain his sensitivity toward the truth and not just believe what his eyes sees what his eyes saw Brothers being mean brothers that were acting in very evil ways brothers that wanted to kill him and wanted to sell him that's what his eyes saw on the outside but ysep believed there was a deeper truth on the inside he believed that this happened for a purpose there wasn't just a what what he sees in front of him but there was a why there was a purpose God sent me here so I could feed you so I could feed the world I could save the world there was a deep meaningful purpose and yoseph was able to appreciate that he was able to not get seduced by the body like in the casee of ptif and appreciate that there's meaning and purpose even in prison he realized there was meaning and purpose he was deeply connected to the soul and this is the Deep significance the spiritual significance of a bris a bris is the removal of the OA the removal of the foreskin realizing that even this organ which could be used for promiscuous reasons actually has deep meaning and deep significance and if we remove the oila the foreskin we could remove that cover we can experience the truth it represents the removal of kipa the removal of the wall over our eyes and ysep was able to maintain that sensitivity he wanted to show his brothers I'm still a Jew I still have deep sensitivity and deep connection Soul connection and because of that I'm going to forgive you because of that I'm going to appreciate who you are not just what your intentions were because what you did in practice was good and I'm going to see that I'm going to choose to see that that takes incredible Soul sensitivity ysep did was he was able to appreciate who his brothers really were and not get seduced by just their what seemed like their intentions not get distracted by that um for us regular folks that though sometimes we have to work the other way around sometimes we have to intentionally try to appreciate who people are deep down inside and see the beauty within them so we can bring that out within ourselves and this is how ysep got the courage to forgive this is how we can get the courage to forgive that's my story and I'm sticking to it